Sorry for the throwaway. I'm not sure if this will even be allowed, but I had to purge my main account from subreddits like this due to harassment.

I'm just tired. This is partially a vent, and partially me asking for help.

Online gaming has been great for me ever since I started college a few years ago. My old friend group from high school broke apart, some people turned out to be really awful human beings, and besides making friends irl being tough, draining and even unsafe at times, I also just lack the energy and time to do so.

I'd say it's great for my mental health if not for the issues of harassment and misogyny. What overloaded me to this point was today I found out that a guy in my guild deliberately picks fights with me over even the smallest of things because... you guessed it, I'm a woman. In his own words, "Women don't know what they're doing most of the time". When someone told me what he said, I just kind of put my head down and rubbed my forehead for a bit.

I really don't know at this point. Am I supposed to just stop talking on voice, change all my in game names to more ambiguous names and hide? I just want to be treated like a regular human being. I don't want to hide in some all girls group either. I just want to be treated like the rest of the people online. Is that too much to ask for?

I'm thinking of taking a break from it all but I feel so disheartened. Online games and really anything online is amazing because you can reach out, you can meet other people, but this is just the experience at this point.

Like i want to play stellaris, cyberpunk, baldur's gate 3 and hades 2. And even beyond that i dont know what kind of build i should make fkr cyberpunk, stellaris and baldur's gate! Any tips on getting out of this paralysis?

Edit: lets add ac odyssey to that list.

I'm a console player but I really want to be able to mod games like baldurs gate 3 and fallout 4 and just use my ps5 for everything else. I do have a build in mind but id like to stay under $1k and I want to be 100% confident before I start purchasing parts. I don't want to have to worry about replacing anything for a long time and I want my games to look and run great.

This is what I have at the moment and would appreciate feedback because idk what im doing lmao
https://pcpartpicker.com/user/Mouse007/saved/6MLKhM

I know there aren't many players here who play warframe and I'm afraid of asking in the warframe Reddit community, because ofcourse its m_le dominated and they make fun of you, I'm not asking for friends so please do not remove my post, idk why most of the time m_les get away with saying the most awful things about you, your mother etc when they get offended.

Legit saw this Indian m_le asking if everyone in the squad was a m_le and he left once he found out there was a woman, I don't get why m_le players get so sensitive over women gaming and throw a fit over it, this needs to be discussed more and I think it's best women play online games with each other (with no m_le in the squad or team) because m_les make gaming so unfun and uncomfortable for women all the time.

I played only for an hour but damn. I really love it. I have exams coming up but god damn this is so good. I love the environment and dialogues so much. Accents are funny though and since I am not a native I don't know what accent that is xD

I would LOVE to hear your opinion about this game, maybe who you romance etc.

Omg I love this game so much. I don’t know if you guys have heard of this game called animal well but I really wanna recommend it. I’m not really a fan of games like this but the visuals of this game absolutely drew me in. This game didn’t get much ads and just kinda dropped randomly but omg it’s so freaking good. It’s feels so cozy I need yall to check out this game. This deserves to win best art direction or something.

The last game I played was Tomb Raider 1…when it was first released in the early 90s. I haven’t touched a game since then, and now I’m 47 and have a sudden hankering to play.

I don’t know where to start. I like the look of Disco Elysium. I don’t think games that revolve around shooting shit up would interest me but am not adamantly opposed to some gun action. The idea of escaping into another world appeals.

I only have a MacBook Pro and I’m not tech-inclined. Playing on something handheld also interests me but I don’t know the first thing about them.

Advice and guidance welcome.

Hi!!

I'm playing Baldur's Gate 3 and I love it so much, I want to watch other people play it and see what they choose differently from me, but I can't find let's plays by female youtubers/streamers that are interesting to me.

I don't mean to offend anyone, but I don't really like videos where people scream too much or pay more attention to their chats than to the game (I don't mind reading them chat messages, but to some extent). I would also like a let's play where the focus is in the game and there isn't any integrated chat in the video or annoying sub sounds. I don't mind vods, I just don't like seeing the chat in screen or when 60% of the video is the streamer thanking donations.

I know it might sound too picky or specific, but I really just wanna see someone enjoy the game and nothing else. Do you know any female youtuber/streamer with those vibes? Thanks!!!

I’m so bad at games where you have to fight bosses like it takes me forever but I still like playing games even though I’m usually stuck on one boss for a long time, I started playing Elden Ring last month and luckily my friend carried me throughout most of the bosses, I just have bad hand eye coordination and slow response times to dodge and parry at the right times.

I’ve seen the “You Died” screen so many times but I keep trying again, never giving up. I’m playing Stellar Blade right now on “Story” difficulty and the bosses are still so hard, a 20-30 hour games has taken me nearly 50 hours. Just gotta keep swinging that sword.

Hi everyone!

Not sure if this is the BEST place to ask but i figured if anything this is where id find the best answers to my question.

I'm looking for reccomendations for games that are chill and create more of a space to hang out and talk rather than ones that require 100% brain power and concentration.

Before I've really enjoyed stardew valley or even fall guys (new update sucks) because they are fun games but like in, for example, stardew theres a TON to do and u can sweat it out if u like but u can also just play with brain turned off. I guess minecraft could be added to this list too.

Me and my bf are long distance rn so playing games is one of the only activites we can enjoy together but we like for it to be a time when we can talk and just catch up on our days.

We have played valorant for a long time tried cs, apex + other shooters too but honestly those games just tend to be too competetive for me and as much as i would like to enjoy them and just sort of YEAAAAAAAAAAH PEW PEW FUN GAME i get bored or overstimulated OR i just dont want to spend my time grinding it and having to learn so many abilites to actually enjoy the experience

I was hoping maybe some of u would get what feeling i mean and perhaps understand what type of vibe im looking for instead, id be super grateful for any ideas :) !!!!!

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I'm stepping back into multiplayer games more often, and I was wondering how more feminine gamer girls deal with harassment? I've never been that outwardly feminine on multiplayer games, (mainly for my own safety) And haven't experienced much harassment, but what is it like for super fem gamer girls? And any advice on getting out of situations like that?

This happened a couple months ago but I wanted to share now since I never really talked about it with someone who could really know what it was like. Most people in my life that have experienced online interactions in games are men. I know that women (and fem presenting people) are not the only people who have frustrating experiences over voice chat, but I just want to vent it to a community who knows exactly what I'm feeling.

TW for homophopic slurs

I had been wanting to try out First Class Trouble for a while and I finally got around to it. The first lobby I entered I greeted everyone, and one guy immediately groaned, "Oh my god, is that a woman?" and I replied "Yeah. What about it?" "I HATE women." "Okay?" "I hate women so much I'm GAY." "Oh okay. Well, I'm gay too." "Whoa, you're a dke? I'm afraid of dkes." "Boo."

He did scream after I said "boo" so I will admit THAT was really funny. But it was so annoying for this to be my first player interaction in the game. It set the tone for the rest of my session and it didn't really improve from there.

What makes it really suck is that I never really "notice" I'm a woman or even really distinctly different from anyone else by gender (because really, it shouldn't matter but here we are!!!) until someone points it out in this manner. It's like this type of misogynistic behavior makes me feel more self-conscious and uncomfortably self-aware. It hurts that this behavior makes me feel this way, that my "womanness" is like a zit on my forehead that I can't cover up. I should be proud. But this is how I'm made to feel in online games and I'm sick of it.

I just saw this game is on sale and I'm thinking about getting it because it looks like my kind of game (used to play a lot of Sims back in the 2000s). I like how satisfying the game looks, but I'm also wondering if there's enough content variety in the game to keep it fresh for 10+ hours.

I’ve been dealing with anxiety recently and comfy video games seem to help. What is your favorite comfy video game?

i'm tired of being afraid to play multiplayer games bcuz of men. every time i even want to think about playing games like overwatch or fortnite, i know that some man will likely end up bothering me or judging me or whatever the fck. like, i want to play fps games and battle royale (if i had the storage) but now i don't want to try and make storage for the games bcuz i know i'll get screamed at for being a girl, a teenage girl at that, the second i try to speak and absolutely flamed for being a beginner. and like i don't want to hide the fact that i'm a girl because i shouldn't have to do that! why do i have to literally conceal my identity just to get a SPECK of respect and decency? why am i not allowed to speak in lobbies bcuz god forbid a girl utter a single word and now all hell breaks loose. i'm just tired of dealing with men like i've tried to be nice and understanding and give them the benefit of the doubt so we can cooperate but my patience can only go so far and i'm TIREEED.

Hello I'm a nerd who took a few video game analysis classes plus have a BS in media studies so I love to overthink things. I don't know whether this game is meant to have any type of story or not, but this is what came to me. There's a few set pieces and props that show up a lot throughout the game:

• Green wallpaper

• Toilets

• Phone booths

• Checkerboards

• Masks/mannequins and the way they're staged

• Rubber ducks/pool tubes/slides

• Houses

• Paintings

• Chairs

• Speakers/music

• The pools and space itself

Theory 1. The person who is trapped in this liminal space is in some type of limbo to pay penance for the abuse and possible death of someone close to them, maybe a partner. They drowned their partner in a pool whether on purpose or accident. Probably in a hotel pool or something. The reason they were abusive is because of something traumatic from their childhood (like they were also abused?) which the creators of this space mock them for. The house that appears tons at the end has to be either where the murder happened or where their own abuse happened.

Theory 2. Alternatively, there never was a murder and the whole thing is some cruel reminder of their own trauma and abuse. Mostly likely >!CSA!< based on a lot of the themes.

Specifically the sheep lying on the couch is interesting imagery — an innocent creature somewhere that should be safe but stuck and surrounded by water. And there's some other moments that imply a larger person stealing the innocence of someone smaller.

I wonder what the significance of the water actually is. Uncertainty, fear, emotion?

hello,

I am completely new to gaming (and to reddit). In the way of computers, I have an macbook air that I am almost positive will not be sufficient enough to support any actual gaming (right...?). so I have no idea where or how to find the right information on what I should get, how to understand any of the computer lingo and dense amount of information out there. like I literally don't know at all where to start. I don't know what I would need at all, still sometimes get confused over a computer and a monitor. I have no idea where to look or what to be looking for just to play a fun little game :). also obviously looking for essentially the cheapest options possible, things that would work well and fine and not interfere with capability, but really cost as little as it can. I also have no idea the expected price range for any the things I will need, so i am feeling a little intimidated by the not knowing anything at all.

As far as what game I am looking to play, I love worldbuilding and fantasy and stuff like that. I love being able to create my own character, choose what I look like and what I wear, and go on an adventure where I get to go through different stories that i get to participate in. I also love having powers and cool mythological connects. I hate talking about it like this bc it feels so silly to me to love all these things bc I don't know anyone else who does. no one talks about it. anyway, would love a game like this. I also like ones where you get to be a character in a story already made, but I don't really like the ones where you just have to complete certain things that are already set out for you. I can only think of the nancy drew game and ones like it but I know there are more lol. i get stressed out and like to do my own thing. loveeeee open world things. and getting to have and set up a little house or base or something like that.

I also don't really want to have to talk to people, like a chat or messaging would be fine but I don't want to have to speak or make noise.

Hey😁 what are some of you guys MUST PLAY games on game pass ?

I recently started using vkb gladiators and am generally happy with them. I did change to the lighter springs and adjust the dampeners to make them require less force to move than they would require out of the box

A guy friend who also uses sticks was explaining to me how he does a particular in game task using just his index finger and thumb on his flight stick to make very small position adjustments. I was like WTF because my sticks just don't move that easily, even as I've adjusted them.

So I'm wondering... Is there a different stick setup that would be better for my smaller and admittedly weaker girl hands? I'm not a wimp btw .. I do farmers carries and dumbbell stuff so it's not like I have no forearm or grip strength. I'm at a loss here.

So I was a girl among the boys. Growing up I believed the lie girls that love to play games don't fit in girl groups und due to my passion and internalised misogyny, I got along much better with boys.

They made all the common jokes: female only groups can't exist because they harass each other, talk about each others backs, make fun of others girls' appearance, and so on. Only mens only groups works... Bla. All of you probably heard of all this stuff.

Fast forward to adulthood, I'm finally allowing myself to enjoy casual 'girly games' aswell (Life Makeover, I love it!) without feeling less of a gamer for it, like men told me.

And MY GOD the community is amazing. I've never seen a less toxic world chat. Girls inviting each other to eat at their houses, share food, share advice, ask for help and there's no snarky answers or slurs. They comment on each others outfits how beautiful they look, how cute their avatar is or how nice their house is.

There's just one exception: a guy who's playing the game to harass girls (sigh). When he went to someone's house to harass her, multiple girls came to her home to tell him to fk off and leave her alone. I just love women, I love you all 😭❤️

Hope this is ok to post. I’m just so happy right now. Lol

Girl gamers!! soo I am obsessed with all the zelda games and get very emotional playing them. Really want to start a zelda stream on youtube and twitch and was wondering if it would still attract audiences streaming older zelda games and also totk even though it's been out for a year already??

Is it also okay to stream games when you've already played them once? Will people like that?

Alright so Basically I used to be in a gaming club at my school and they mostly played smash bros and of course i suck at the game at the time a lot and was a punching bag cause i wasn’t good at the game cause i barely knew the controls.

I stopped doing it cause I was busy with work and school and one of the boys decided to sit next to me and whispered something to him and he says that i’m bad.

I got better at the game over time because I got a switch myself and I am actually quite decent at the game it just took me a lot of training cause I was mostly a PC gamer for a good chunk of my life.

No wonder why I quitted the group.

So I generally avoid mmos and other multiplayer games because 1. I just prefer to play alone, not very fond of strangers and 2. Online spaces has a tendency to be awful for women. Both of these reasons make me very stressed when I obviously would like to just have fun and relax. It is like I am always on edge.

But I was kind of bored (and sick) so I thought, hey, let's try out Palia. Palia is a cosy non-violent game with no pvp, maybe it will be fine!

NOT EVEN 10 MINUTES IN, some fucking dude starts shooting arrows at me, and following me around! Standing super close to me when I tried to talk to villagers. I even just stood still in one place for one minute, hoping he would get bored, but no. He followed me all around the map until I just gave up. Like? I just want to relax and play this stupid game, but now I have to put up with stalking?? Ugh. This just makes me not want to play the game.

I really, really, really, wish online games would include some sort of option to not see other players. I get that the whole point of MMOs and such games is to play with others, but there are several games I would LOVE to play if I just didn't have to deal with harassment, stalking and other shit (looking at you RDO).

And maybe you think, "why does it matter, just ignore them", but like, games, especially cosy games, are my safe haven. I don't want to be in the same mindset gaming as I am when I am out clubbing. It just makes me sad.