My girlfriend became the top student of school. But she didnt mention me in her speech

(English is not my first language, sorry for mistakes.)

In my country, top three students assigned by grades made speeches in graduation day. In these speeches, they mention their friends whom they care about. The second and thirth students did it like that and we clapped them all along. But my girlfriend insisted that she doesnt want to talk about me.

Because of she is bad at writing, I have created the structure of her speech. I even prepared some sentences for her to use and she used them. We were together in her writing process so she said she wants to mention a friend of ours who has left school one year ago. I helped her to find after what sentence she should mention her. Then I said my girlfriend I want her to write about me as well and she said no. When I asked why, she said "I already talk about our class, and you are in our class too. But our friend has left school and she is not in our class. So I should add her name in my speech."

I said nothing and today she made her speech. After her speech, a guy in our class who knows about us said me he expect her to mention me in her speech with shocked eyes. I try not to mind about it but that moment broke my heart.

My mother was also here (she thinks we are best friends) and she also said that her not mentioning me is so sad.

I cant say anything about it. When I asked why she doesn't want to talk about me again, she said: "If I mention you, I become obligited to mention the others too. I dont have time for that.."

I am so unhappy. I dont know what to think. The other students have mentioned all of their loved ones. I wish my girlfirend did it too.

Posting from a secret account bc some of my friends know that one and I'm barely out to anyone.

This will be one HELL of a long and detailed story because I want you to have a full picture of what's going on.

There's this girl (17 yo) in my class that I (17 yo) have had a crush on for about 2 years, so since the beginning of high school. For the entirety of 10th grade we barely talked as she was hanging out with a big group of friends that I wasn't interested in joining, but things became different by the start of 11th grade. About a month into the school year I found the courage to text her and tell her I think she's really cool and stuff and I would like to be friends with her. She actually reacted in an unexpected way and seemed really excited typing and sending a message of random letters, something like a "jahudjebfiwkwkkc" but in our local language and was clearly happy that I asked.

I didn't get my hopes up honestly, because even though she clearly had been at least an LGBTQ ally in 10th grade, she asked if I was "still an ally" and turns out she apparently wasn't anymore because she figured it would get her to hell or something (our country is very religious and hostile towards anything LGBTQ including all our other classmates, but her being against LGBTQ now made no sense for reasons I'll mention in this story). She also mentioned she liked me and had wanted to hang out with me ever since I mentioned that I played Minecraft back in 10th grade (I honestly don't even remember when I said that but she does apparently lol). We started sitting in the same desk in school and sending each other funny reels and made a little trio with another girl. Things started to look up and I wasn't lonely and depressed all the time anymore. She started showing more affection like leaning her head on my shoulder randomly in classes and once took my hand to warm it up after I ran to school being late one morning. We're also always super encouraging towards each other's hobbies and I like to explain to her everything I can about my hobby (coding and computer stuff) as much as she likes to share stuff about her violin classes and send me videos of her playing (she's so good at it, I find it really beautiful!). As ecstatic as I was and as much as I hoped she was feeling the same way towards me, she still seemed keen on the religious stuff and I convinced myself she was just like that with her friends, but I returned her affection as much as my awkward ass would allow. Then there was a time where she started sitting with another group of friends around the middle of the year and sometimes completely ignoring us. I assumed the worst, that she didn't want to be friends with me or us anymore, and that kept going for a few weeks. I really thought this was it, but then she stopped all of a sudden and we got back to old habits like nothing happened. I don't know what happened tbh.

During that time it felt like I was on a rollercoaster every day in school and I really tried to shut down my hurt and not care about this whole situation anymore, but it doesn't work that way I guess. She sometimes sent stuff like "I love you" as her way of saying thanks (she elaborated that one time maybe because I reacted too eagerly?) and kept saying things like how much more strongly she feels towards girls than boys to a point where she said her own mother made a joke about it (which was just so confusing because, SHE SOMETIMES STILL SAID IT'S WRONG TO BE LGBTQ WHEN IT CAME UP BY OTHER CLASSMATES EVEN WHEN SHE HAD NOTHING TO DO WITH THE CONVERSATION). And I might be delusional, but she also sometimes plays with my hoodie's drawstrings in a way that feels affectionate, and I haven't seen her be like this with anyone else. Basically I've been getting all kinds of signals for months and I got tired of this situation, so I decided to test the waters for real and started sending her queer stuff, but not stuff that's too obvious.

Naturally instagram started showing more queer reels to me and things started to become more confusing, because, GUESS WHAT, istg for some reason she follows like half of the lesbian/wlw accounts on planet earth, enough that I got convinced she was either closeted or in denial, and I started to get a lot of wlw content that she liked and accounts she followed. Then she sent me a reel that I'd seen and liked about a bi girl's sapphic leaning, saying that she caught me liking it. I noticed she had liked the same reel that she sent to me but I didn't say anything about it, instead joking that every single time I thought I found a new queer account she would already be a follower, and she agreed to that and sent a message replying to the reel she sent me, "I liked this too btw" with a laugh emoji. That was 10 days ago and I'm 100% sure that was her coming out to me and we're still sending each other increasingly more direct stuff and idk what to do now, especially since I don't know if she really wants to start something with me (because of the mixed signals and our very conservative environment) and I really don't want to scare her off.

Also I didn't mentioned that we did go out and hang out once. It was supposed to be with our third friend, but the third friend wasn't allowed to go by her parents and we went out alone. We had some fun and bought food and played on a park's swings and fed some ducks and talked to the old park keeper and he said something along the lines of he sees great potential in each of us and that he can picture us living together or something like that loll (she was really happy after that conversation), but I didn't go out alone often as I live in a secluded area so I didn't know places to go in the main city and was a little awkward, so that definitely wasn't the best of my days lol.

And now what made me decide to make this post and ask for advice is that I got a reel she had liked saying "Have you ever met someone who leads you on, but not? Has a crush on you, but not? Shows you affection, but not?" or something similar and now I'm doubting myself, because honestly I've been doing some self reflection the past few weeks and I'm really bad at showing my emotions and I can sometimes come off as a bit cold or not caring simply because I'm too awkward and socially dumb to know how to respond to anything. Now I'm scared that I'm overthinking this whole thing and she's receiving as many mixed signals as I am and I should just be direct about what I feel, but also a big part of me is scared that this whole thing is in my head and ughh.

Fellow teen girls who like girls, what do I do?

okay posting this here in my last few months as a teen, but I've been seeing the term 'comphet' on my tiktok lately and I think its something I'm experiencing and it's leaving me so confused

I feel like deep down I know I'm a lesbian but there's still something in me that feels the need to be with a man..but imagining a future with one just gives me the ick (haha)..don't get me wrong I still find guys who are very attractive but when I think about a relationship with one it just doesn't seem right, but when I imagine a relationship with a girl I like the idea of it, it seems peaceful and fulfilling

the only 'crush' I've had on a guy was when I was in elementary school and all my friends would pester me into saying who I liked so I just chose some random boy and stated he was my crush so I could fit in, but my very first crush crush was (believe it or not) a girl and I've never felt anything as strong as that before..like I literally couldn't form a sentence when she was near me (LOL) so I think that really had me questioning then..it really doesn't help that I've had absolutely ZERO romantic experiences so I feel like I can't confirm anything..

if you made it this far thanks for reading! but does anyone have any advice for me?

so, I kind of intentionally went through a hallway where she was getting water and, I walked through by her, just to pass by her huhu for fun.

and she ACTUALLY called out to me, asking for my hair tie (I don't know how she saw the hair tie, it was pretty thin on my wrist eee)

and much later, I saw a red hair tie on her wrist, (not sure if it was there when she called out to me but-)
and there could be a possibility that she wanted specifically mine AGHH

at the end of the day, I was too cowardly to ask for it back 😩😩 she can keep it HAHAKJ

just as usual i overthink a lot when it comes to her :) just wanted to share this and get it out of my chest cuz I was on cloud 9 bruv

So first, my family is kinda homophobic (they think that homosexuality in general is only caused by trauma, its not hate but yk it just sounds and is stupid, I wont go deep on why, I obvs like a normal person don't wanna at all to be seen like that because I dont want my sexuality or anything to be related to horrible things that happened to me) and there's this slang "torta", it means lesbian, translated it literally means cake.

I was watching tv with my mom and lil bro, in that program the participant had to find cakes and place them somewhere, then the conductor said that she only had to find the last cake or smth and le my smartn't ahh without thinking at all was at NOTHING to say "haha they wont find me" but it fucking luckily just didn't came out of my mouth, I thought for a sec about what I was going to say and now im dying lol

I drink. A LAWT. Every weekend I’ll get super drunk nd party!!!! I vaguely remember a lot of times I experience VERY mild attraction to men that vanishes when I sober up…could this mean I’m bi???? Or is that normal?????

my gf texted me around a month ago i think, saying her brother got really hurt… she hasnt replied to me since then. dont get me wrong, i really do hope he’s okay, and im worried about his welfare, but its been a month. no replies. no reactions. no nothing. im feeling a little bit deserted… please help! :(

i’ve known i was a lesbian since i was 14 and i told my closest friend at the time but as i didn’t know how my other friends and family would take it i pretended to be straight until this year, during this time the girl i first came out to came out to me as bi and we have been getting super close since then. she’s honestly one of my closest friends, and she keeps tagging me in very flirty tiktoks saying that it’s ’so us’ but idk if she’s joking or not and idk if i like her that way. so girls of gay reddit, could yous help a fellow girlie out? how do ik i like girls ?

Like it's very common for girls to gush over guys LIKE SO HARDDD. I'm not really that hard into gushing but ykyk but it jsut doesn't make sense in a way to me? How do you obsess over one singular guy... for like 6 months even after he dumped you!? ....It could jsut be an autistic queer thing but.... is it just me

my mom has been talking to me about starting to go to this lgbt+ support group thing (i’m transbian btw) and… i’m already thinking about the possibility of getting a girlfriend. it’s ridiculous and i know that, i know i’m just hopeless and desperate, but i can’t help it. i want a girlfriend so bad. it’s just on my mind because i’ll be surrounded by queer people, with everyone knowing that everyone there is queer including me, so… idk??? i just feel like an awful person for going into this already thinking about that, cuz that’s not why it’s there or why i’m going. ughhhh i hate feelings

I finally got a girlfriend I'm pretty sure and she's like so awesome and I'm not go into full details as I like to keep stuff private cuz I'm like that but I just thought I share that I finally got one....

i’m a highschool girl, and i have a crush on this girl. and i literally think about her to the point where it’s debilitating, and I think she likes me too? when i speak to her, she pulls me in by my waist, my friend says she looks at my lips when i speak. she picks me up all of time, calls me pretty, says i smell good, and that’s just the tip of the iceberg. there’s a whole list of things that makes me question our feelings for each other.

one of my friends told me to just admit how i feel. i told another one of my friends about her, and she said my crush was obvious, but she went on to say that a different person asked her out a while ago, and she rejected him saying that she wasn’t ready for commitment. i don’t blame her, i don’t think i am either, but it makes me more confused on how she feels about me.

i want to talk to her about it, i want to tell her how i feel, and i want to know how she feels about me, but she’s my friend as well. i don’t wanna ruin a friendship, and even so, a large part of me doesn’t want the flirting to stop or deteriorate in any way, so i don’t wanna say anything. is that normal? i just really like her, and i wanna see, if she really does like me back, where it goes from there, even if we don’t start a relationship.

how should i go about this? say nothing? if i do confront, i don’t want it to sound cliche or anything. or too formal. just silly? or natural. what should i do? do you think she likes me by the sound of it?

ok SO A COUPLE DAYS AGO I WAS LIKE ASKING FOR HELP ON HERE AND LIKE WHAT THE FUCK I JUST CONFESSED TO MY BESTIE WHO IVE HAD A CRUSH ON FOR LIKE 7 MONTHS SHE SAID YES

I'm like so upset I just need some advice how to find a gf

I recently came out as a lesbian to all of my close friends, first another friend who I knew was a lesbian and then my other close friends. It's been going well.

Now, I've started to notice something. We both started this thing where we both share pick-up lines and flirt with each other, and she's starting to subtly that she has a crush on me. She says her crush is in the same String Orchestra as her (I am in it with her), she frequently mentions a conversation she had with her crush (that matches the one we had), she says that her crush recently came out as a lesbian (surprise surprise), and she consistently mentions how her and her crush are constantly flirting. I am a perfect fit for this description and honestly I don't know how to feel.

It's just that I'm still struggling with my identity, and I'm struggling with a lot of internalised homophobia. I don't know if I am love with her or not, but I just know that I really like her. I don't feel like I would be ready for a relationship, but I don't want to break her heart. I just don't feel confident enough in my identity and my mind is in a haze of figuring things out.

She says that her 'crush' recently came out as a lesbian, and that meant that she was interested in her. I know she is interested in me, and to be honest I was interested in her as well once we started getting closer before I pushed out my feelings (still unsure about feelings). Is this normal? To fall in love with someone once they come out as gay and are an option? Or is that forcing attraction?

She's planning to ask out her "secret" crush in 2 weeks at the end of a camp, and I don't know what to do. I don't know if I am being a horrible person or not for knowing she's in love with me but still figuring out my feelings and not seeing her signals. I feel like a romcom protagonist please give me some advice and tell me if I am being a horrible person. Till then, I shall write a romance novel titled "Falling in Love in 2 Weeks."

hii! I'm 16 years old and I feel very out of place in my group of friends.

We are a group of 7 girls and I'm the only one attracted to women, they are totally understanding and supportive, but I'm always seeing them going out with their boyfriends and talking about boys and I'm here with no one and without ever having kissed on the mouth lol

I only had one relationship, when I was 14, but due to OCD (I won't go into details) I couldn't continue with her, I felt extremely uncomfortable and tried to explain my situation to her. She continued doing things that made me uncomfortable and forced me to touch her (sometimes touching me without my permission), she told me to kill myself and said I wouldn't live without her. It really made me lose my mind.

Anyway, this group of friends of mine knows this story and actually witnessed it all, but sometimes I'm surrounded by jokes about not having had my first kiss yet or not being in a relationship yet.

Sometimes I get disgusting looks from some super straight girls in class and that makes me prejudice myself. this will pass? Is it normal for a lesbian girl to not have any teenage romance and not know any other lesbians?

(english is not my first language btw)

It's actually so sad I jus want a gf, I'm 17 and I live in a highly religious area with very few other LGBT/ lesbian people.

(I will delete if against rules)

I’m female and I’ve always considered myself straight, and always had boyfriends, I have one now (important for later). I went on one date with a girl in my freshman year of high-school, and had a bad experience so I never did it again. But I’ve just recently become friends with this girl who messaged me on instagram out of the blue, and we started texting a lot. I’ve seen her in person a few times, and tonight I went to see the Musical Theater show she was in. I bought her flowers and she ran up to hug me, and she hugged me when she left. I felt oddly nervous, and starting thinking what it would be like if she was my girlfriend, and wondering if she likes guys or girls. And I can’t seem to get her out of my mind, I adore her, but I adore all of my friends. I keep thinking of explanations - “I used to have terrible OCD, it’s intrusive thoughts.. I only idolize her..” ect. I can’t tell if I truly have romantic feelings for another girl, or if it’s because I’m so dissatisfied in my relationship rn. And I can’t tell if I’ve always been this way and just repressed it because of my families beliefs and the bad experience I had freshman year. I’m struggling with my self identity now, because this has never happened before, so any advice would be appreciated.

TLDR; I have a bf but I think I like a girl, but can’t tell if I truly do or not.

hello! so some of you may remember, but i gave a really pretty girl my number, she texted me, and asked me out on a date! we went on that date, then our second date was at her house where we watched dead poets society in her bed and cuddled all day (bliss). it was then that i asked what we are and we decided that we are girlfriends (eeee!). she came over to my house yesterday but only for a couple hours, and for some reason i was really awkward around her. anyway a bit of context for what i’m about to say: my friends and i will eat our lunch/recess then come to where her friend group sits so i can hang out with her and get a hug etc. i feel pretty awkward around her friends, like i’m not really supposed to be there. so yesterday i asked her “are you sure it’s definitely okay that [friends] and i keep coming over to say hi and hang out at lunchtimes?” and she said “ok i’m going to be brutally honest…”. so essentially: no. because apparently her friend group is quite strained. she kept stressing that she really didn’t want to make me upset or anything (i told her i wasn‘t but i am a bit hurt, who wouldn’t be). later when i asked for some clarification over text she said that i can “keep hanging out” but she doesn’t want to make me feel excluded which she feels like is happening. so….i’m confused. and hurt. i’ve been talking to my friends about this, and they agree it‘s weird — i’m also hung up on the fact that she hasn’t really said she does want to see me, you know? sorry for the long post gays but what do i do?? is there a way i should communicate that this does hurt me, and i’d like to see her at school? just freaking out right now because i thought this relationship would be fun and nice and it’s notttttt.

Yes I know you can't be turned queer but I just think it just sounds funnier than saying I saw princess leia and realised I like women lol

I have these two friends who are also gay. How do I come out to them with out just flat out saying it. I've never came out to anyone before, so I'm a little scared. My family is homophobic, so I've always been lenient about telling anyone. Thanks for your help guys!

How are yall doing? Make sure to drunk water! Eat some food! Take a screen break if you havent in the last hour :)

she asked a mutual friend to tell me. she said she didn't think of me that way. I'm pretending to not be sad but my friends says she can see it in my eyes. ah well, this is the 4th failed attempt in 3 years, I give up, I'll accept the fact that no one really likes me. I'll go study and work on improving myself now. I'll go ask her if we could still be friends but I don't think things will be the same again. thanks for all the great advice, I'll probably be back here with more problems in a few months lol.

hey! so i (cis, 17) have known i like girls since i was around 12 or 13. but i've always known i'm attracted to boys. and i still am. but i've dated them on and off since my freshman year of high school, and it always ended up badly for me. i still get feelings for them, but i really DO NOT want to date them ever again. I'm in a relationship with a genderfluid AFAB right now and it's flippin spectacular (our one year is in four days!!) and i 1) never want to date anyone else but if i do ever date anyone else 2) i really don't wanna date a (cis) boy.

since i don't wanna date dudes, and i DEFINITELY wanna date girls, is it ok for me to call myself a lesbian even though i technically still get feelings for guys?

EDIT: wow, lots of mixed messages here. i think i’ll go with exclusively sapphic. thanks for all the advice!

So i have an opinion on yuri anime and manga or just books in general and i get called sexist for it and i hate it but the opinion of mine is, men shouldnt read or watch yuri anime or manga or books because its disgusting for men to even be interested in it bc its for lesbians or bi women i also think the same way for gay books and anime its meant for gay men or bi men not women.

I am not sexist either, and i want people to respond respectfully.

how do i stop liking someone?? im crushing on my best friend (she knows :3) but she lives on a different continent and i dont rly wanna date right now anywayyy how to not like someone tutorial now plz

Not anything to do with the girl i'm crushing on!!

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so like a month or two a agoo.. i sent a text to a groupchat i'm in about my crush today someone asked about... THAT WAS AKWARD AND IT WAS AT LUNCH SO IF I MENTIONED HER (A few tables down) I WOULD BE SO NERVOUS AGGHHHH