i overheard my mom and sister talking about how they found my secret tiktok account. it has wlw content and lesbian in the bio. now i feel like they hate me. yes my fam is homophobic. i haven’t talked to them ever since(like 2 hours). and my mom told me to change my phone password so that she can access it anytime.

Probably a silly post. I live in a place where no one has come out and most of my friends have homophobic tendencies. For me, being online is all I have for coming out at this point. Is anyone in the same boat as me?

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Hi everyone, For the last few years I have been experiencing a dilemma to whether I should come out as a lesbian to my friends, this feeling has significantly resurfaced recently. I am in my last year of high school/Secondary School. And for the last 4 years I have come to terms that l'm a lesbian. I came out to my parents last year, I only did this because I was severely intoxicated and the girl who I was "talking" to had got into a relationship, my parents accepted me and my sexuality very graciously. Yet, I still felt detached from my identity, I realised this was because I hadn't told my friends. Unfortunately, my school is quite "old fashioned", so casual homophobia and lesbian joke are rampant. My problem is- I feel like im missing out on meaningful lesbian relationships, as l'm afraid to come out to my friends, HOWEVER, if I were to tell my friends I would be left friendless and alone for the last few months of my last high school year. So my ultimate question is: Do I come out and have the chance to pursue wiw relationships and certainly lose all my friends, or just repress who l am for a couple of months until I go to University? Even though my friends are homophobic, I have to point out that they are good people and I enjoy the time l spend with them, so losing them would in turn be a massive loss for me. Any advice would be appreciated, thank you for your time.

Hi, so this is my first post so apologies if I'm not doing this "correctly" per se, just a heads up. ( I just finished typing it all out and it's super long and I'm so sorryyy) So I'm in love with my best friend of about a year and a half and I'm not too sure what to do about it. (we're both 16 btw if that helps??) We've both been in relationships with other guys during our friendship together, but there's always been an underlying tension between us.

We consistently send each other cute romantic TikTok's and hold each other's hands and such, and we spend the night at each other's houses and cuddle, (yk your basic teenager lovey-dovey shit) Also last school year one of our very close mutual friends told me that my best friend (let's just call her Allison) had literally confessed to them about having feelings for me during the time that she was still with her last ex-boyfriend, so there's that for extra confirmation.

Im not too sure about her current state (I'll get more into that in a sec) but it's no secret that she's had feelings for me before and it's DEFINATELY not a secret that I'm still very much in love with her. We've both been established as queer so that's not really the issue here; although we've both never have had girlfriends before but again, i know her and that's not really relavent.

Basically, during the time that she had just broken up with her last ex-boyfriend, obviously of course I'm being considerate and I'm giving her the time and space that she needs to like heal from that last relationship because I wanna respect her and she's my best friend and I love her, but also I was really feeling like since we finally were both single at the same time that something would finally happen between us.

But then her childhood pet died and her grandmother died and her parents are kind of separating sort of and so basically she just has a lot going on at home right now. I've done absolutely everything I can to support her and she's kind of grown a little distant with me, but in the more recent weeks, she's been warming up back to her old self again and our relationship is more or less as it previously was.

I really do see a future with her and I care about her deeply. I've been extremely patient with her throughout our entire friendship, we've both had relationships and love interests while being friends and while having our current unspoken relationship with each other. That being said, I am slowly reaching my limit. I don't want to continue our current relationship as it is because I don't want to spend my entire friendship with her pining over her, when she could potentially have lost her feelings for me and I'm just stuck on her for forever.

So the point of me writing this post out is, I'm wondering if I should have a sit-down discussion with her and talk about my and her feelings, our friendship, etc. The reason I'm having concerns is that -

1.), she's my very best friend and if this goes wrong and she tells me that she doesn't want me anymore, than I don't think that I could continue to be friends with her. I know myself and I'm not the type to be able to move on from someone while still continuing to have a close relationship with that person.

And 2.) if I stop being friends with her, then it would consequently remove me from our current shared friend group. Not that our friends would kick me out because they wouldn't do that to me, but because I would need to distance myself from her for my own mental health, and because we share a friend group, then it would stop me from seeing my other friends because they would always be with her. And I also don't have any other friends then our main friend group so I'm kind of SOL if this goes south.

I'm just really confused and I don't know what to do. I would much prefer not to lose anybody, but I can't quite imagine a scenario where I wouldn't have to cut someone off if this doesn't go as planned. And I'm a little apprehensive about asking my friend group because what am I gonna tell them, "Hey so I have an idea, but it might result in my friendships with everyone ending."?? I just don't want any bias in their answers.

So here I am, asking strangers on reddit to help me out (am I at an all time low or what lmao)

TLDR: do I ask my best friend to be in a relationship with me or like nah

Apologies for the long post, thank you so much if you've actually read this far. Any words of wisdom would be greatly appreciated

Thanks again <3

guys I wish she was in here 😭😭😭 I really really just want some confirmation that she’s lgbtq so I can figure out if I should keep liking her 😭😭😭 to be fair I don’t know that she’s not in here, but the odds are SO low 😭😭

Hey so theres this girl I really really like she's my best friend and iv had a crush on her for about a year. And I decided I'm going to ask her out on Halloween because it's our favourite holiday and I'm going over to hers she lives about 20 mins away from me so it'll be in first time going over.

Enyway I just don't know how to do it I don't even know if she likes me I don't even know if she likes girls we don't really talk about it she knows I'm a lesbian and she's cool with it soooooo yeah please help and soon iv got like what now 3 day's idk HELP

Okay like I wanna ask her out butttttttt I dunno if she's queer. And like I feel like it'd be awkward if I asked her out and it turned out she was straight lmaoooo

Guysss help me plesseee. I have a crush on this girl. The thing is we don’t talk like at all we don’t have any classes together and the only time we have talked was once on Snapchat and like 1 time in person while we had a session together. But I really like her like a LOT home coming is in 3 weeks and I wanna ask her to go with me but I feel like it will be weird if I just ask just like that I was gonna make a sign and everything and I am still planning on doing that I just think maybe I should ask her on a date first? Or like to hangout first? Idk what to do or how to approach this without being weird or creepy 😭 helppp tell me what to do guys ☹️ Also I want to ask her to home coming a solid 1-2 weeks in advance because I feel like it will be too late if I’m any later than that 😭 but like I said idk how or what to do within this timeline

i identify as male now, i use he/him//it/its pronouns. i just want to thank you all for being so supportive and i'm so happy i joined this Community. now its time for me to leave it. have a good day everyone!

So, my fantasies and stuff are like 98% abt boys, and I‘ve never had a crush on anyone before, but I do label myself as bi-curious. How to know if I‘m actually into girls? Do I just know the moment I fall in love with one?

So this whole week my crush, let’s call her S, has said hi to me in the hallway a bunch, and has complimented my outfit every single day this week. Even the day I woke up 5 minutes before my bus came, and was just in a baggy sweatshirt and skinny jeans. Before that we’ve only ever had one conversation, which was last year. After she complimented my terrible outfit, I assumed she might like me. Yesterday, I was on the phone with one of my best friends, A, who is also friends with S. A has no idea I like S at the time. I asked after a few minutes if S was single. A told me that S is dating another girl, W. We started talking about something else, but then after a while, A said to me “don’t tell S I told you this, but she likes you.” I respond “but didn’t you say she was dating W?” A says “She is. I forget what it’s called, I’m like this too, but she has this thing where she likes multiple people at once.” At this point, I tell A that I like S. I really like her, and I don’t know what I should do.

Quick and very lazy summary of what’s been happening; My mother found out I’m lesbian, made me cut contact with a bunch of friends, including my gf (she somehow didn’t realize that we’re dating tho).

I was able to talk to her through Reddit for a bit. Then I found some sneaky ways to be able to talk to her how we used to and that’s what we’re doing now. It’s been hard, but it’s definitely worth it. I mostly use my school Chromebook, which she doesn’t check. We text every day. (And I got a few of my friend’s phone numbers back too.) Things are definitely getting better. She’s in denial about me being lesbian and for now I’m letting her “grieve”. I talked to my school counselor and she said that I should bring up how I truly feel, but I’m not ready to do so. I think that at the end of the day she’ll be back convincing herself that her little angel could never actually have thoughts of kissing another girl. Once I can actually be 100% sure that I’ll be safe or I can have somewhere safe to go to in case things so south, I’ll talk to her. I’ve also talked to my dad about getting me some sort of counselor or something because I really need to handle certain stuff better (trauma that’s been affecting me recently). Of course everything is well with my gf. She brightens up my day and I don’t think she realizes how much hope she gives me every day. I know I can count on her for a laugh and to tell her how I feel. Both the good and the bad. I wake up and check her messages, text throughout the day, and go to sleep thinking of her. I think I’m deep into the honeymoon phase lol

I'm looking for people who play minecraft, stardew, BO6, and other likewise games. I'm 17 so I would prefer if there's nobody under 16 who replies 🙃. I'm in PDT. I'm on pretty frequently on and off throughout the week, but school and family gets busy at times. I'm kind of quiet at first so heads up 🧍‍♀️.

(If I should repost this somewhere else let me know 😨)

So for context, I've had a crush on this girl since the first day of freshman orientation. I got to know her and asked her out last February a few days before Valentine's, it was in tge rain and super romantic. She initially said yes but then changed her answer to no. I was really crushed after this and I've sorta been avoiding her since. But now its halfway through our sophomore year and I was invited to get pizza with her friend group, because we have a lot of mutual friends. It was also right before a school event that started late enough after school for us to have to kill some time before it started. Anyways we started talking about crushes at the pizza place, and my crush on her, from last year, came up. Then she said that she did like me back, back then, but had a panic attack when I asked her out and said no because she got scared. 😭. And that she was to scared to tell me after.

So anyways I said we should hang out at the school event because we get along well. She agreed, and we stayed together the whole time, just the two of us. We went through a haunted house together at the school and she said that we should go to some other haunted houses together and basically invited me to hang out with her outside of school. She also told me to practice getting into her arms so she can carry me princess style. She's been texting me all weekend but idk if she like, likes me or just wants to be friends.

Please help I can't ask my sapphic friends about this because they are also her friends. And I'm panicking because I sorta still have a crush on her but I also don't want to lose her as a friend is she doesn't like me back.

I’ve liked this girl for months now and we have a lot of history considering we’re childhood best friends. I’m pretty sure she actually liked me first before i fell harder for her lol. So we were just mutually pining for a bit and then another girl steps into the picture and started flirting with her and I think there may have been something experimental going on between them for a week or two (causing me a lot of distress lol) but it fell apart after the other girl abandoned my crush at hoco after asking her out (i stayed with my crush the whole time). Now the other girl has a new guy she’s talking to and my crush seems a lot less stressed out and she’s started texting me first a lot more about the most random things (coming up with excuses to talk to me maybeeee????) and’s even sent me “❤️❤️” and “🥰” texts LIKEEEE?? EEKKKK

I was talking to my Bsf on the phone the other day (we live 2,000kms apart) and she was talking about how she doesn’t have anybody else to hang with so I said “ what about ___ (her other friend) and her gf then u’ll have 2 ppl” and

she said “No u and ur future gf are the only couple I ever want to be a third wheel too” and I love that soo much 🥰 that made my week

so i'm a fan of Red Velvet and i know kpop well let's talk

Personally I play a little of everything, from games like minecraft and stardew to Halo/COD and doom to horror and fighting games, anything that's fun honestly.

So basically during lunch today me and my best friend (who I like) have a little "joke" thing where I just stare at her until she notices me and then she looks at me and laughs and ask why I'm staring at her but anyways I was staring at her and she laughed and said "stop staring at me, your making me blush!" And her face was like reddish so then I was shocked and said "Me looking at you makes you blush!?" And I don't remember what she said after that

Now I have to know do y'all think this means something lol also I've made multiple post about this girl that y'all can read if you want but you obviously don't have to :)

IM IN NEED FOR A FEM GF GUYS, NEED ME A GIRL TO SPOIL, TO LOVE, A GIRL TO BE OBSESSED OVER 🙏🏽

is it still here or what

hi so i really have been thinking about this recently, im 15 and i identified as lesbian from the ages of 10-13. I always knew I was gay, but around the time i met my ex gf i realized i like boys too. this was in 2023. since then, ive hooked up with a few guys and i havent necessarily minded it, i like when they touch me and act like they want me but i always get icked out when they show me love. maybe its just the misandry in me lol. but i know guys consider me attractive, ive been in constant talking stages with multiple men at once and always end up ghosting them, and have never really appreciated when they think im hot, it just kinda boosts my ego. the only men ive ever actually liked are ones that have little interest in me or just use me for my body, and im not sure if its a personal issue or just my sexuality as ive never felt like that with girls ive been with. im not even sure if this is the right subreddit to be asking, i just am so confused and never do this lol. i feel like i view women as these beautiful ethereal beings and men are just men, and im able to find them physically attractive, but i always get grossed out by them in one way or another. ive been telling myself i just havent met the right guy yet, but its not fair for me to keep hurting guys like this if i never will. idk lol. just confused and scared.

Nothing else I have to ads really I just really love her and thought this would be fun

Edit I meant up vote not update

OK so I last year I was in 8th grade and i had this huge crush in this girl lets call her pookie. So me and pookie wernt that close but she was so fine.I tried talking to her but she seemed annoyed my presence. Now I'm in highschool, we don't have any classes together but I see her all the time in the hall and I still love her. I would ask her put but I doubt she knows who I am anymore. Any advice?

Hii im Berry and I'm INTP 15f sudanese. I love listening to music. My current fav artists are Mitski, NASTYONA, Solya, Baby bugs, jazmin Bean and Sir Chloe. I also love LOVE drawing. it's the only thing keeping me alive (besides my very awesome sause sisters) and my fav youtubers are Nikki Carreon, Not Even Emily, Shanespear, Anamaria Forcino, FunkyFrogBait, Drew Gooden and Rhett&Link. If u have any sapphic show/movie/book recs please tell me. 🙏

need some cheering up

So basically I like my best friend and I'm curious if she likes me back. All of my friends think she does but I'm not sure about that. I think there's a chance she does but also a chance she doesn't.

Here are some things that made my friends think she likes me:

•She once told me my voice is really cute which is an unpopular opinion

•She once made me an entire slideshow to help me understand a topic in school

•She constantly helps me with school work if she knows I'm struggling and need help

•I made her a bracelet using her fav colors and added a heart bead a few weeks ago and she wears it everyday and told me she doesn't take it off

•Me and her constantly have random silly little debates (Jokingly)

There's some other stuff as well but it's all stuff that could just be her being friendly because we are best friends. A lot of my friends think she likes me though

What do y'all think?