Does anyone want to talk and get to know each other? F22, and bored. We can talk about the election(maybe not if your avoiding that atm), or your favorite book, or movies, I don’t really care. <3

plss someone give me a recommendation of where I can relax

I just don't want to be in the house 24/7

it'd be better if it was in doors and opens till evening

PLS GIVE ME RECOMMENDATION 🧍🏽‍♀️😭😭

I've (19F) had a few discussions with my older siblings (23F and 21F, cishet for context) about the election and my political stance. While I acknowledged that Kamala Harris is not a perfect candidate, I was far more concerned about potential policies and bans that could strip away so many rights from minority groups by the Trump administration. I felt, especially as a queer woman of color, that voting in this election was crucial. Apparently my sisters did not feel the same. They believed that their vote "didnt matter" and they didnt like Kamala enough to vote for her. Their attitude was generally very indifferent if they even talked about the election, which was rare. I cant for the life of me understand their nonchalant attitudes despite what's at stake for millions of people.

At first I tried to just drop it and respect their decisions but after the results came out I felt devastated and furious. Seeing folks reposting suicide hotlines, reporting hate crimes and fearing their reproductive rights has me in absolute grief. We havent had a discussion about the results, really we havent talked at all in the past week, and I have no idea how to approach it. I feel like their choice to not vote was a disservice to themselves as black women and turning a blind eye to issues that may not effect them but would affect someone like me and the other people I love.

I live with right wingers. Like trans hating, anti gay, "the prices of food will go down" types who love trump. People who fell down the rabbit while during COVID and after my dad had a stroke. I miss my old dad so sometimes, now he believes that we live in a simulation. And it just pisses me off. Why did I have to be so young that I'm laughed at when I bring up things that concern me? How come I have to get brushed off? Why does no one take me seriously when I bring up my concerns for my future? With everything that's going on it's as if I'm just invisible and that they don't care about how I feel or hearing me out but just solidifying their views because I'm the only one in the house against it. I love them, they're not bad people but... In some aspects I don't think they love me the way that they should. I'm never comfortable to cry to them because I'm scared that I'll get told off and told to stop being ridiculous because my mom has said that before. And they then wonder why their daughter who "gets everything" is sad.

And seeking planned fun dates soon too.

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Hey.

I am a single 32 year old black, gay, masculine presenting woman. Also on the neurodivergent spectrum and like to be up front about that. It's all good.

Have resided alone in Atlanta, GA for the past 6 years and originally from the California Bay Area.

Truck driver for work and home every night...so it's never not a reason for me to drive or fly somewhere including potential long distance dating. The wanderlust is real.

I am pretty low-key and introverted but always know how to have a really good time when outside. I do not drink or smoke but it's cool if you do responsibly.

Also heavily love to binge read books; films; sports; most nerdy material, listening to various music genres like underground Hip Hop; Dub Reggae; Indie Rock, mixing House; Techno tracks on my DJ console, hopping different restaurants in town on the weekend, volunteering, supporting local theater; comedy; art house events, and enjoy running in the morning; working out at home.

Just a quick sum up about me and would much rather preferably talk to another single woman age 28-45 in person or by phone so to learn more about her. Totally sure there is so much more to say than in this post.

Please DM to reach out if you're interested.

Peace and blessed tides ~

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i am not stone, but i'm just curious. i know that finding a partner in this community is difficult, and even moreso for stone lesbians bc you're rare.

Hi all, currently wrestling with a lil something (as many of us are). I met a few people at an event a few weeks ago and hit it off, instas were exchanged, etc. I made a group chat to ask if they all wanted to go to the next event and 2/3 were down. The 3rd (I'll call them D), whom I thought I meshed with the most, didn't respond which I was like ok 🤷🏾‍♀️ I don't think they check their messages often anyway.

Fast forward to the election and they're vehemently a non-voter 😩 specifically bc both major candidates were pro Israel and Palestinians have asked us not to vote for either. Which like sure, I get that, but there are maaannyy other issues for us Americans to be concerned with too. So I unfollowed D cuz their anti-voting stories were pissing me off.

BUT today they unexpectedly responded to the invite and are going 🙃 and now I feel awkward and I'm wondering if I'm overreacting to their non-voting stance. So thoughts?

(Also adding that they are ofc white and normally I wouldn't care about unfollowing but their support for Palestine being the reason is giving me pause.)

I’m talking about sexual roles, not presentation.

Just curious if anyone identifies as such. In my observations, the lighter-skinned party usually expects to receive, so wondering if any black or brown women here can speak to their experience dating as high or low femme.

Hi!!! I’m 24f pansexual and from a pretty traditional family so you can imagine the challenges that arises with that LOL but that’s besides the point. I’m having alot of trouble finding gay women. I live in nyc so I’ve been to the gay bars around, even in college and med school I had a hard time finding LGBTQ+ groups. I just want to have a pretty girl that I can cuddle and care for. I never really ever thought of myself as bad looking but now Im starting to think the problem is me. Anyway, enough sob story, any tips on where or how I can be better at finding connections?

Hi everyone! I'm new to reddit after deleting my twitter account and making the move to Threads, which is owned by MAGA loving Zuckerberg so looking to build community here and on bsky.social. My wife and I live in Oceanside, both semi-retired after moving from LA with our fur baby, Bella. I run The L-Project, which produces Women's Freedom Festival and the Dyke March for WeHo Pride. If anyone is interested in joining our all volunteer board, hit me up! We're currently looking for a tech director and at-large members. We're also scouting for emerging 2SLGBTQI talent to book for the pride so drop me links to your favorite Queer performers! Check us out on IG @lprojectla and our website is https://thelproject.org

I'm also politically active with the Stonewall Democratic Club and the NAACP, but my new day job is finance. My firm just opened an office in Beverly Hills, if anyone is looking for a career change, we are hiring! We are focused on helping individuals and small business owners improve their financial positions. You will need to pass FBI background check, and get insurance license. I'm happy to coach folks through the process. It's extremely important now more than ever that we work to build generational wealth in our community and understanding the power of finance will get us there.

With all that's going on right now, I might have to change my degree that I want (psych) to something more general even though I just want to get into like hr or admin. So, what is it that you do for a living or what are you studying? I want to see where my fellow ladies are at.

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Hi it's so nice to be here! I identify as Genderfluid but I'm ABAF and excited to see a place for other POC.

Wanna say hi and ask a question to you guys.

How do you feel about masc4masc Stud4stud.

I've seen a lot of hate in the black community( lgbtq community as well)related to this in my area and when I tell others I'm seaking out other masculine woman/people (butches/studs/masc) They look at me funny. I've been told multiple times I should tell people that. What do you guys think? Is it really that bad for black studs to date each other.

I (22F) live with my parents, and I want to know if other people have run into this problem. My parents are Mexican immigrants who went through the naturalization process and are now US citizens. My mom voted for Kamala Harris, and my dad voted for De La Cruz. None of us are happy that Trump won. However, my parents don’t really see the gravity of the situation. I haven’t talked to my dad yet (because honestly I don’t think I can be around men right now) and the conversation with my mom was pretty disheartening. I knew I wasn’t going to receive emotional support from her, but I wish I could have been able to grieve with her over this.

I spent the night at my gf’s place on election day, woke up, saw the results, and came home that morning to get ready for work. As soon as I walked into the door, I knew my mom wasn’t taking the results of the election seriously. She was making jokes out of it, and I wasn’t laughing. Then she told me, that I shouldn’t stress out over it anymore because what’s done is done. She also said that Kamala wasn’t going to be a good president anyway and that it would have been the same outcome for us in the end. She talked about how Kamala’s immigration policy was going to be just as bad for us as with Trump. I didn’t have the energy to talk, so I didn’t really fight back like I normally do. I’ve been in a dissociative state since I saw the results. I just wish my family could understand how serious this actually is, especially since we’re blood and have experienced so many things together as a unit. It just feels really invalidating. I feel like they think I’m overreacting, but I’m so scared. I’m glad I have a support system outside of them at least.

I’m just wondering if other people have had similar conversations with family.

Side note: In the past, my dad’s accused Kamala Harris of being a socialist and I’m pretty sure that’s why he didn’t vote for her, which is pretty funny because he unknowingly voted for the most socialist party on the ballot.

Alright, so this is my first Reddit post, so bear with me. I’m a 22-year-old woman, and I’ve been with my girlfriend for over a year now. We’re both very liberal, but unfortunately, we live in a super conservative state — Tennessee. Growing up, I was always surrounded by people who didn’t really get it, but now that I’m older, I realize I don’t have to just sit back quietly. I can use my voice.

Yesterday, I was going through my social media, unfollowing anyone who openly supports Trump. There’s this girl — more of an acquaintance/temporary roommate for the past few months — who posted celebrating Trump’s “victory.” I slid up on her post and just said, “Oh wow,” because it honestly shocked me. She’s someone who has a Black niece and a mom who’s a recovering addict, which, to me, are all reasons she’d be more compassionate and vote blue.

Right after I sent that, I unfollowed her, but then she texted me, saying, “Hey, I know we’re both busy, but I was wondering if you and your girlfriend would want to get together Sunday morning for breakfast, coffee, or smoothies. I’d like to take you both out.” My girlfriend’s response? A hard “hell no,” and honestly, I’m right there with her.

Like, I get that she’s trying to be nice, but no. She didn’t seem to care about us or our rights when she cast her vote, so I don’t see the point of playing nice now. This isn’t one of those “agree to disagree” situations. She voted for someone who actively goes against the rights of me, my family, and my loved ones, and I just can’t look past that.

The thing is, I’m a hospitality major, so being kind and open is just in me — it’s basically what I’m trained to do. Normally, I’d be all about hearing someone out, but this election feels different. 2020 was one thing, but now, after we’ve seen the real damage done to people’s lives, it just hits differently. This isn’t just a disagreement over politics; it’s about our rights and safety.

So, I’m kind of stuck. Part of me wants to be polite and take the high road, but I also feel like accepting this invitation would be letting her off the hook. How do I even go about handling this? Any advice?

This whole rhetoric from republicans that she’s either Black or Indian is not only enraging but also just so stupid. Like it is truly idiotic to me. Why on earth would one cancel out the other. Why would she not be able to be both at the same time. Do u not understand how sexual reproduction works. Do u not understand that a Black man and Indian woman having a child together would result in a Black and Indian baby. What about being mixed do you not understand. Why would acknowledging her Black heritage take away her Indian heritage or vice versa? She is both. Mixed people exist.

Obviously it is just another racist attack on her - they’re framing it like she’s flip flopping her identities to pander to certain people - when in reality she has always been open about being both. It just truly makes them sound so stupid

I (23NB) am currently on temporary medical leave from my job in the US, and I'm staying home with my parents in Canada and taking courses online to finish my bachelor's degree. I was planning on going back to my job in the US once my leave is over, but with the recent election news I'm not too sure and I'm weighing my options. While I do know I have to play it smart, I've been kinda trying to do that for a while now and all I've gotten is worsened mental health as a result of having to suppress my identity at home (my parents are quite anti-lgbt). My job in the US is also very well-paying with a good career path, and I will be settling in a big city in a blue state when I do get back. I'm quite privileged and I'm probably overreacting right now, but I just don't know what to do.

I went up to Palm Springs for Pride last weekend and ended up at a house party thrown by a friend of a friend. The friends I was with are older than me, and their friends are even older. If you're not familiar with Palm Springs demographics, it's mostly made up of older white men.

Anyway, we started talking about relationships, and one of the guys mentioned he was going through a rough breakup. In my head, I was like, "What?! He’s in his 70s and still dealing with stuff like this." It made me wonder, what does that mean for me, herringbone_?

Then he turned to me and said, "I can't imagine how [dating] must be for you as a Black woman." I didn’t get a chance to respond because someone else came in and interrupted us. I couldn’t help but wonder—what did he mean by that? Maybe I’m reading into it, but I interpreted it as him implying that dating is harder for me as a Black woman because society sees us as less desirable. Dating sucks for obvious reasons, but at this moment it's actually going pretty well for me.

Maybe I'm overthinking it and thinking negatively for no reason.

I seem to fall in love with people who cannot keep up with my travel schedule/ needs.

Context: I work from home and have been since pre pandemia. My dream life involves me, my wife and kids traveling around the globe.

In my last couple of relationships I have made this well known during the “let me get to know you” phase and always got the “yea omg I love to travel too” response. Spoiler: they did not have the availability and or finances to keep traveling. I understand that work and money is a limitation but I’m also an advocate for a random weekend trip to Utah I’m not picky on destination, I just want to see and visit all corners of the world.

Yes I have tried solo tripping! No it’s not for me.

Anyway, enter conundrum: I am currently with someone and I have just realized that they will not be able to keep up with my travel schedule. I love them in every way but I have learnt my lesson about giving up the things that make me happy for love. I’m afraid “travel the world” may be not strong enough of a deal breaker and I’m afraid of what that looks like for my future with her.

I'm sick of feeling scared. I'm mad that I had any hope that a black woman could be president of this deeply racist and homophobic country. I am not ready for the specific brand of misogynoir that is going to arise from the worst of our population being emboldened. I don't know what else to say but I love you all. I hope you can find peace and solace in some small moments tonight. Even if it's very fleeting. We all deserve so much more than that. Be kind to your minds and bodies and hearts right now. You are deserving of a peaceful future where our ambitions can be heard and realized. You deserve empathy and a soft life and joy. Don't forget that in the midst of this chaos and turmoil. You're loved. Be safe everyone. ❤️

I can't help itt

I know it's doesn't sound right but I just want an older woman to comfort me while stocking me, playfully feed me like just taking care of me

WAITTT NOT LIKE IN A FETISH TYPE WAY OMG😭😭

that's what missing in my lifee😭😭

like year I'll still date ppl my age but deep down I just want someone way older

they're so mature and full of experiences

[I never got affection from my mother]

I won't lie, I am having a hard time. As a Canadian, this sets up a terrible precedent for our elections next year. We have so many Trump bootlickers over here, it's insane.

Waking up this morning and hearing my nigerian mother say Trump winning was in line with God's plan to make things better made me want to go right back to sleep. How can a pedophilic, rapist felon have anything to do with the kingdom of God? It makes me feel ill.

It almost feels riduclous to be so affected by other country's elections, but the suffering of my american peers and the impact of american politics on the rest of the world breaks my heart.

Non-americans with pro-Trump family members and friends, please tell me I'm not the only one feeling like they're caught up in the midst of mass psychosis.

And a gentle reminder to everyone take care of themsleves. We must continue living, no matter what.

How are we, fam? Literally haven't moved from this bed. I still can't believe it and I'm kinda mad at myself for still having hope.

This is a copy & paste, but whatever. I want to be heard by people like me, I’m so tired.

One girl said she wanted Trump to win, before this she said she was worried she was gonna get cancelled for saying this.

I said, “you know Trump is a rapist right?” & she said, word for word, “But Kamala supports abortions!” I was in shock, she said that since she was Christian she was biased for Trump. She then said, “If you had a head tumor & the surgeon was a rapist but was the best & only option wouldn’t you want them to still do it?” She & another girl said that Trump helped the economy, when I explained that he inherited the economy from Obama & it crashed after COVID they both said, “Oh so you agree it’s not his fault?” I’m Asian. An Asian girl explaining to a white girl & a white passing girl why Trump screwed us over during COVID.

Another guy joined in & started yelling over me & another person explaining that Trump isn’t guilty of incitement because he was legally declared innocent. There was something about how we can’t blame bias while disagreeing or something? One of the girls then proceeded to say Kamala had no plan, that she faked accents (? Idk what that means either like why does it matter) & how life was better under Trump.

I said, “Trump only admitted to having CONCEPTS of a plan.” To which one of the girls said, “So what’s Kamala’s.” I responded, “Still shit probably, but it beats Trump.” Because let’s face it…It’s fucking Trump. I don’t even like Kamala, but she is the better choice at the end of the day. The other girl also said that Kamala would make us a communist socialist country & would send us to war. Girl…We are in America. We dick ride for Israel, we are the colonial side we are already winning the “war”. She also stated that her first four years of adulthood would be affected & so she would vote for Trump. Another classmate of mine is pro life, she said that “babies” born alive after an abortion aren’t entitled to treatment. She showed me an article saying this only for me to scroll down & see it was a debunked claim. This is it: https://www.aljazeera.com/amp/features/2024/9/21/fact-check-are-born-alive-babies-really-unprotected-in-some-us-states

We are 17. One more year then these people can vote.

Should I laugh? Or should I cry?

Where to even start. Part of me was hopeful that people would have common sense not to vote for that no brain orange cheeto. Now I just don’t know. Part of me wants to flee and part of me wants to brave through this because well how much worse can it get. Atleast this will be the last term DT can serve as president although we know he’s only gonna serve himself and his billionaire friend’s interests. Anything more than this term and I think I will rethink spending the rest of my life in this country.

Hey y’all, this post is mainly for black women. I’m truly at a loss for words but Im also ashamed I tried to fight the good fight for this country when I knew what is was and will always be.

Don’t be hard on yourself today. Take a deep breath and preserve your energy for yourself. Nobody else is going to do it for us. If you need an exit plan I’ve shared some options for safe travel. Much love.

https://travelnoire.com/safest-countries-for-black-lgbtqia-travelers