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Any babes 30+ in Kenya ? Please hmu I'd like to make friends as well as dive back into the dating scene

Why is it when looking for friends in the lgbtq+ community we are judge with our looks and still not befriended? You would think that being just friends, looks wouldn’t matter right? How can one make friends genuinely without being judged and just accepted just for their loving soul and heart? Why must it be complex?

Hi, this is a super duper trivial question: Does anybody remember when it was GLBT? I think it started to change to LGBT and then LGBTQ in the 90s, but I don't know why. Love to hear your comments.

Hi, I’m 42 from Texas and I’m in search of friendly companionship. I don’t have many friends and I would like to make more in the community. I like to play video games, I’m old school and a hopeless romantic. Lol, yes I know, cheesy. I’m okay being friends online as well, so you don’t necessarily have to be local.

I just turned 40 and I’m learning that I’m very much set in my ways when it comes to dating and getting to know new people.

I’m not into the societal norms that are popular like consumerism, content creation, living like a celebrity and etc. I’m very much into my mental health, minimalism, my kink journey, hyperfemininity, tiny living and just figuring out what I TRULY want in life. I’ve lived a lot of lives so I didn’t desire the hustle life or mentality… I’m in a space of wanting to live and love correctly…..

But in 2024 it’s hard to find women with the same mindset. With all the facades, labels and situational standards, it’s easy to put my desire for love to side and continue to focus on myself.

I (34f) have been dating a 36f for 9 years. I have been talking to a therapist recently because of some past trauma I felt I needed to work through. Well my therapist has recently told me that I am with a manipulative partner, and it is almost borderline abusive according to her. Some examples are:

• I have been under a lot of financial pressure and been feeling overwhelmed since I am also in a somewhat caretaking role for my partner. I pay the bills and also help her get to her appointments for her health issues. I recently told her I need maybe 1 day a week completely to myself. She seemed cool and understanding at first, but later makes comments like “is this 1 day a week thing going to be permanent because if so, let’s just break up”

• She has insane anger issues and will belittle me in public, I’ve had strangers come up to her and tell her to stop talking to me that way. But then she will justify it by saying I am making a big deal out of it, and that I am making myself seem like the victim so people think I am being bullied by her.

• She has a switch and if she gets angry, she will yell really loudly, even if I am just sitting there just listening to her. I will ask her to stop yelling and it’s almost like she can’t control herself.

• If I am upset, or if she is upset, no matter what it is always my fault. I usually end up apologizing and learnt to just bite the bullet and apologize just to get her to stop.

• She is constantly bossing me around. If she is talking to me and upset, she makes me sit next to her and reminds me to keep making eye contact with her, constantly repeats to me not to interupt her. Once I had to sit for 2 hours listening to her talk about how amazing she is and how horrible I have been.

• she used to be much more awful, but has stopped doing certain things. For example, once she got mad that I wasn’t reacting enthusiastically enough to her cooking and pushed me off a high top stool and I fell on my back. She would yell and argue with me in front of her mom, which would make her mom take her side making them both gang up on me. We went to couples therapy and she hasn’t done those things again.

The thing is that when she is not angry (which is about 70% of the time) she is so great. We have amazing chemistry and have so much in common it is crazy. It seems like we are always on the same page, and I can see myself growing old with the “good” side of her. When she is angry, it is truly hurtful and has eroded my trust in her promises she will change.

I am at the end of my rope and let her know I cant put up with it anymore, and she is begging me to stay. Tells me I am making the worst mistake of my life. Tells me I am throwing her away.

I am so torn because I love the good side of her so much but I feel like there is only a piece of me left. I can’t give anymore of my trust. It is painful to think about leaving the “good” side of this person.

Edit; thanks everyone, i really needed to hear it

I’m 35 semi femme, looking for friends. I’m recently single (about ~4 months now) and moved back to my home state of California. I’m a bit of an introvert so being in crowded places alone is tough to meet new people. Anyway! Looking for anyone who just wants to talk about video games, horror movies, random thoughts, life, dogs, etc.

Me and my pals built together three mostly Safe For Work, mixed and inclusive subreddit communities for everything centered on adult women and gender variant people after our totally private and inclusive group chat room grew so big that we had to build a subreddit community.

We currently have more than 1600 member users and more than 195 posts with image descriptions accessible for visually impaired people added to the large collection of diverse content growing with new additions almost daily in our subreddit community called r/GalsAndPals that we built because of popular demand.

r/GalsAndPals is as a mostly Safe For Work and inclusive safe space built for everything centered on adult people who at least partly somehow identify with unconventional womanhood, including top, verse, dominant, switchy, gentlewomanly, girlboss, punky, tomboyish, futchy, butchy, ursine, crossdressing, androgynous, intersex, altersex, transy, transbianish, genderfluid, and genderqueer woman-ish people, but anyone is welcome to post here as long as they are respectful pals to the gals and request mod permission.

We currently also have more than 220 member users and more than 35 posts with image descriptions accessible for visually impaired people added to the large collection of diverse content growing with new additions almost daily in our subreddit community called r/DollsAndPals that we also built because of popular demand.

r/DollsAndPals is as a mostly Safe For Work and inclusive safe space built for everything centered on adult people who at least partly somehow identify with conventional womanhood, including bottom, verse, subby, switchy, housewifey, ladylike, femme, futchy, androgynous, intersex, altersex, transy, transbianish, genderfluid, and genderqueer woman-ish people, but anyone is welcome to post here as long as they are respectful pals to the dolls and request mod permission.

We also currently have more than 360 member users and more than 160 posts with image descriptions accessible for visually impaired people added to the large collection of diverse content growing with new additions almost daily in our subreddit community called r/GuysAndPals that we also built because of popular demand.

r/GuysAndPals is a mostly Safe For Work and inclusive safe space built for everything centered on adult people who at least partly somehow identify with unconventional manhood, including bottom, verse, subby, switchy, malewifey, househusband, twinkish, softboyish, femboyish, ladylike, crossdressing, androgynous, intersex, altersex, transy, transbianish, genderfluid, and genderqueer man-ish people, but anyone is welcome to post here as long as they are respectful pals to the guys and request mod permission.

We do have some basic respect safety expectations as guidelines written in the rules page section of our subreddit communities to help sustain the health of our groups as welcoming, accessible, inclusive, diverse, mixed and shared safer spaces free of judgement and harm that you should read.

We are inclusive of transy, transbianish, transfeminine, transandrogynous, transmasculine, detrans, retrans, genderfluid, and genderqueer people in all three of our subreddit communities.

Anyone is welcome to be in our community subreddits and contribute posting, but ONLY AS LONG AS they are RESPECTFUL WITH EVERYONE AND HAVE already had a sent MOD PERMISSION REQUEST APPROVED, because our subreddits have changed status from being totally private communities to being a somewhat restricted communities.

Our subreddits are only currently temporarily somewhat restricted for being in an experimental early development stage until becoming more accessible, public and welcoming after a time when we are more prepared enough to deal with more diverse types of visitors having access to our place.

If you may be feeling interested in joining, just drop a comment here below or send a moderator mail message to get permission granted to be able to post in one or all of our subreddits or if you want support to create another group.

Also make sure to check out our long, creative, diverse and inclusive lists of silly and cute user flairs and post sections, especially the "Transcribed" and "User Introductions" post sections, to familiarize yourself with examples of how and what content is posted in our communities.

Sharing is caring, because sharing new content like posts and comments in and out of our subreddits is the bare minimum enough to support our spaces living and thriving, so feel free to share our content out there to invite your adult lovers, friends, partners and acquaintances to join our subreddit communities.

The moderation is always open to answering questions and clearing doubts.

No need to be shy as we do not bite.

It's clear my wife and I are getting near the end of our marriage. We’ve tried, done better, do bad again, tried again, to the point where there isn't much hope left. Therapy has been only marginally effective. It's more a waiting game at this point.

Devastation and heartbreak aside, how do I do this, systematically speaking? We’ve been together for 12 years so divorce will be….help!

There's the mortgage we’re both on, there's everything in the house, pets, who lives where, boundaries for living together until someone can move out, not to mention all the things I haven't thought of.

Finishing up and starting over advice much needed and appreciated. I don't need or want ‘save the marriage' advice, it's not happening.

I am dating again after several years.
Here’s my question: what is the standard for 50+ women in the personal hygiene area.
Specifically, hair or no hair downstairs.

I follow Them (lgbtq magazine) on Instagram. I see a post every once in a while about Ellen and it's usually not good. I don't understand how we can bite the hand that fed us. I don't think a lot of people know or remember what she did for the LGBTQ community when she came out on her show. I remember. It was huge. Her daytime talk show put a lesbian in the dens and living rooms of cis hetero women aged 35-50 every day. That's a big deal because before her you would have never seen an out queer host a day time talk show, even Rosie O'Donnell's show was a result of Ellen. I don't even what to get into what this must of have done for the win for same sex marriage. I don't know all the ins and outs of what happened on Ellen's show. I know there were some staff that claimed that it was a hostile work environment that included berating staff and racist remarks. Has the LGBTQ community shun one of it's biggest heroes? Would we have done this to Harvey Milk had he lived on and become, dare I say it, another Boomer? Sorry for the long post. I'm just not sure if cancel culture is helpful towards progression.

Here's my update addition to my post because I'm feeling the hate:

How was it when you came out? or have you come out yet? I came out in 1987. A lot harder to do than in 2007 only because of the visibility that came from celebrities coming out. Now I'm seeing alot of queers in their upper 30s and lower 40s (which doesn't make you older by the way) saying that they could give a shit what anyone did for them after stonewall. Harvey Milk (do you even know who he is) is rolling in his grave.

Update to this last update I re-read my edit. It does sound condescending. I could delete it but I'll keep it there with my apologies, I kind of come off like a jerk. I'm really reading everyone's comments with a more open mind. I appreciate the discussion and would like to learn what I can from this. Thanks again

at 18 i graduated high school and got my first full time job working at a warehouse. within a month i got switched to another side of the building where i met her, she was my manager. it wasn’t like love at first sight but more like a slow burn.. after flirting for a few months she revealed to me that she was poly & married with a girlfriend who also lived with her at the time! that honestly didn’t make me feel any different about our situation because i didn’t think i’d actually fall for her. in between us flirting & texting on snap chat every other day, talking about us wanting to be together she starts dating a lady who drove trucks for our warehouse. i also forgot to say she got a divorce & broke with her gf while talking to me & starting a new relationship with the driver. at this point im annoyed because why would you tell me all this then go jump into another relationship? i was hurt but brushed it off & let it go. at this point im still talking to her and having sex occasionally while trying to date other people 🤦🏽‍♀️

three years later i feel stuck.. we’re not in a relationship still doing what we was doing three years ago & trust me i’ve tried dating people but NOBODY seems to top her. anytime i’m with another person all i think about is her, haven’t been sexually with anybody but HER.. for some reason i feel i’ll never be enough for her.. SOMEBODY PLEASE HELP ME 🥺🥺🥺🥺🤦🏽‍♀️🤦🏽‍♀️

Hope everyone had a good weekend! I’m 42, from Australia and looking for some new friends to chat to. I work from home and sometimes feel a bit isolated. I’m an animal lover, love the beach, outdoors and happy to discuss anything and everything. If this interests you, feel free to send me a message 😊

I usually don't mind being alone. I have good friends who are taking me to lunch. I'm really not lonely, but its times like this when I wish I had a partner. I'm in my early 60s and find myself thinking about trying a relationship again. It's been 15 years and I have done a lot of work on my inner self. I've learned to communicate with a level of honesty I have found scarce in our community (or any, really). That said, there's got to be one older lesbian out there who has also been on a journey of self discovery. I didn't think I would get to the point of wanting a relationship again and have realized I have another relationship in me, just not another breakup. I know there are no guarantees, but there are things one can do to raise the percentage of success. Like being friends first and establishing common interests and a foundation on which to build. This means going very slow.
I'm settled where I am, but would be open to relocation after marriage. What do u all think? Anyone else out there with these same thoughts? Sounds like a good place to start. This is the only social media I'm on and I don't care for dating sites. This is the first time I've posted also, don't know how well I'm doing? I'm femme of center, and like androgynous to butchy women. I'm independent in spirit, and very loyal. I'm told I'm pretty. I'm articulate and gravitate toward intellectuals. That narrows the field a lot. Anyone out there fit this? Thank u all for listening.

I very rarely drink, and don’t smoke. I like sports! Some concerts. Early 40s. Where do you all (35-55) hang out?!

Someone posted something pretty innocuous awhile back on this sub. They were younger and I was upset with them posting a possible thirst bit here. We’re not a kink, we’re women who have had to live a lot of our lives having no socials or support for being queer. I went in with my teeth bared.

After a series of interactions, I realized I was talking to a human woman. Younger to be true, but a rounded person that I was underestimating completely.

Somehow, this insane introduction, slowly turned into love. Not one I looked for or expected. But fully realized. She’s since deleted her reddit account because her post caused an uproar of thirsty women (I’ve seen some of the exchanges).

But I wanted to share because I’m grateful I found love in an unexpected place ♥️

Edit: thank you for all the support and shared stories. I posted this to share some happiness and give some hope to anyone who needed to hear that anything is possible 🥰

Hi, So I’m talking not only about sex, but other types of attraction as well. I’ve been with her for 23 years. We met in college and had so much in common. We were both artists and made art together, got our MFA together and then opened a gallery for awhile. We always had our fights, and some doozies at that, but the attraction was still always really strong. Then about 8 years ago she stopped making art. (I am still in the art world. I teach, make work; it’s what makes me happiest and fulfilled.) Art was the foundation of our relationship.

She now has a corporate job, nothing wrong with that, but doesn’t stop talking about it. It’s constant. Most of the time it’s her complaining about her coworkers or other things that are happening.I’ve tried to convince her to find another job; that she can do better, but she is hung up on the vacation time she gets. I feel like this is not the person I fell in love with. I’ve tried to connect with her by expressing interest in her job, but when she talking about it she rants and goes on and on. I can’t get a word in, and she just talks at me at not with me. There’s no exchange. I feel betrayed almost. I just don’t know how someone can be so passionate about something and then give it up completely. To make things worse, she doesn’t help with any of the work around the house. I’m constantly picking up after her. She piles clothes around the house, I put them away and then she does it again a couple days later. I’m picking up literal garbage that she leaves on top of counters and if I don’t vacuum, dust clean the bathrooms etc. it doesn’t get done. It’s like this with the yard work too. Over the years I’ve done a lot of heavy duty work too and now I have knee and back and hip issues. I can’t stand seeing things left undone or living in a dirty house so I just do them. Sometimes I try to talk to her about it but she insists that she cleans too and it turns into a fight. It’s like we are living in different realities! There are a lot of other things too and I know I’m guilty of a lot of other things and am not perfect. Somehow I want to stay in this relationship. I honestly don’t know why. I do love her; but I’m starting to wonder if we’re just not compatible anymore.

I (33) need some help - I’ve had a string of relationships where I wasn’t compatible with the person long term. It’s getting tiring. I want to experience a nice long term relo. How did you work out who is going to be good long term? What did you look for? When did you know it was time to bounce even if you liked them?

Looking for a good audiobook to listen to while cleaning my house today. I'm in the mood for passion and romance, but nothing too cheesy. I'm in my mid 40s so nothing too young either. WLW.

Anyone listen to any good books lately?

Thanks in advance!

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We are an active group of lesbians and would love to have you join us to play games, share what books you’re reading, show us your pets, and just chill.

My wife is 14 years older than my 54 years old and we haven’t had sex since 2021. We still love each other and I still say how sexy she is, admire her back, legs, etc. but most of the intimacy is gone and the sex is long gone. To be very fair I’ve had health and surgery issues since then and she had a year long depression. But we are both feeling better now and started watching fun shows together and talking more. It’s our 15th anniversary and I’d like to have some kind of intimacy and bring more romance into our relationship. But she also lost a lot of weight and doesn’t even want me to see her naked.

I know, it’s a hard situation. What can I do to bring the romance and even a little sexy back? We’ve been together 30 years and hopefully have another good 25 more and I want her to see how much I treasure her for all that time. Any suggestions are welcome! And anything I can do special for our 15th wedding anniversary coming up on Thursday.

So I was having a conversation with a dude at work. He was telling me the older we get the more lethargic intimacy becomes. It is a fight for who will on top. lol as if it is a chore. I was like STFU. He may have been over exaggerating however his point is aggressive animalistic type sex is gone. The Mormon/ Amish love making is the normal. Is that true?

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I’m 41/f I recently wrote an email to myself of my history of knowing I’m bi/pan. I’ve known since kindergarten I had a gf in kindergarten. I don’t remember anyone telling me it was wrong then, but I did go to her church and then I never saw her again. Anyway, after a quite dramatic email that I wrote to myself about all of my crushes over the years etc.

I’m just now trying to date women again and I feel too old to be doing it I went on a date with a woman last week who wants to see me again.

I came out to my mom a few years ago and she seems to remember the Kindergarten girl. My mom is very supportive and always has been no matter who I’ve been interested in I’ve dated outside my race quite a bit in the south.

Anyway, I was interested in some girls in college but mainly we just sort of flirted with each other and they knew, but I had a long-term college boyfriend at the time. After he and I broke off our engagement, I went onto a website that existed at the time for people that were bi or gay. I talked to a few people and I went on a date with a woman back then, but she wanted to move pretty quickly and I was uncomfortable. I know that I do like this woman that I met last week. However, I feel way out of my element as I’m already 41. I kind of feel like I’m grieving part of my life that I missed out on by not dating. I’ve had relationships with, but I do find that I am more attracted to women overall.

Anyway, I don’t know if there’s any advice for someone in my position or kind words or tips I just feel very odd at the moment. I’m on a diversity and inclusion committee at work. And we have two trans folks and other lgbt folks. I recently put a pan pin on my workbook bag. And I put up a tiny pride flag with a tiny flag in my area. part of the reason I chose to do that was so that people knew I was a safe person.

Any advice would be helpful. I am starting to realize that maybe I’m not as attracted to men as I have somewhat forced myself to try to be. I’ve had to talk myself into it over the years. I’m not sure at my age how this is supposed to go. To be noted I am very feminine and hetero passing. And again I live in the south but I’m already out to my family friends and work friends and my workplace, although a corporate place encourages people to be out if they so choose. So I do have a lot of positives going. my parents were always pretty liberal for our area and just in general and so I’ve never been taught by them that would make me feel like I couldn’t be myself but I guess it’s just internalized generally because of my age and how I present.
Thank you so much for reading.

Idk how to edit the above but I meant by not dating women *** I have dated quite a bit of men. I am very feminine, mostly myself and have been interested in a various types of women but the one I just started seeing is also very feminine and was married to a man before. We are the same age.

Me and my pals built together three mostly Safe For Work, mixed and inclusive subreddit communities for everything centered on adult women and gender variant people after our totally private and inclusive group chat room grew so big that we had to build a subreddit community.

We currently have more than 1300 member users and more than 100 posts with image descriptions accessible for visually impaired people in the large collection of diverse content growing with new additions almost daily in our older subreddit community called r/GalsAndPals that we built because of popular demand as a mostly Safe For Work and inclusive safe space built for everything centered on adult people who at least partly somehow identify with unconventional womanhood, including top, verse, dominant, switchy, gentlewomanly, girlboss, tomboyish, futchy, butchy, ursine, crossdressing, androgynous, intersex, altersex, transy, transbianish, genderfluid, and genderqueer woman-ish people, but anyone is welcome to post here as long as they are respectful pals to the gals and request mod permission.

We currently also have more than 140 member users in our younger subreddit community called r/DollsAndPals that we are also building because of popular demand as a mostly Safe For Work and inclusive safe space built for everything centered on adult people who at least partly somehow identify with conventional womanhood, including bottom, verse, subby, switchy, ladylike, femme, futchy, androgynous, intersex, altersex, transy, transbianish, genderfluid, and genderqueer woman-ish people, but anyone is welcome to post here as long as they are respectful pals to the dolls and request mod permission.

We also currently have more than 260 member users and more than 80 posts with image descriptions accessible for visually impaired people in the large collection of diverse content growing with new additions almost daily in our subreddit community called r/GuysAndPals that we are also building because of popular demand as a mostly Safe For Work and inclusive safe space built for everything centered on adult people who at least partly somehow identify with unconventional manhood, including bottom, verse, subby, switchy, malewifey, twinkish, softboyish, femboyish, ladylike, crossdressing, androgynous, intersex, altersex, transy, transbianish, genderfluid, and genderqueer man-ish people, but anyone is welcome to post here as long as they are respectful pals to the guys and request mod permission.

We do have some basic respect safety guideline expectations written in the rules page section of our subreddit communities to help sustain the health of our groups as inclusive safer spaces free of judgement and harm that you should read.

We are inclusive of transy, transbianish, transfeminine, transandrogynous, transmasculine, detrans, retrans, genderfluid, and genderqueer people in all three of our subreddit communities.

Anyone is welcome to be in our community subreddits and contribute posting, but ONLY AS LONG AS they are RESPECTFUL WITH EVERYONE AND HAVE already had a sent MOD PERMISSION REQUEST APPROVED, because our subreddits have changed status from being totally private communities to being a somewhat restricted communities.

Our subreddits are only currently temporarily somewhat restricted for being in an experimental early development stage until becoming more accessible, public and welcoming after a time when we are more prepared enough to deal with more diverse types of visitors having access to our place.

If you may be feeling interested in joining, just drop a comment here below or send a moderator mail message to get permission granted to be able to post in one or all of our subreddits or if you want support to create another group.

Also make sure to check out our long creative, diverse and inclusive lists of silly and cute user flairs and post sections, especially the "Transcribed" and "User Introductions" post sections, to familiarize yourself with examples of how and what content is posted in our communities.

The moderation is always open to answering questions and clearing doubts.

No need to be shy as we do not bite.

I apologize in advance for this post. I got triggered after being ignored all day as an older woman.

Honestly, Im a gay woman who always wanted to be a man. No, I’m not trans. I just want the benefits & entitlements of being male. That is, I’d make more money, won’t have to worry about sexual harassment or violence, could date anyone I wanted & I’d be respected everyday by everyone. I could walk into a Starbucks & everyone would flirt with me. I could wear tailored suits & go to barber shops just to talk to other bros. I’d have every social advantage. I’d get every job I applied for. Seriously, being a guy would be so much easier than being a woman.

But here’s what really triggered me. As men get older, they r ‘distinguished gentlemen’ instead of being unseen…

PS thanks for letting me vent. Just needed to get that off my chest. Whew!