And there wouldn't be any documentation problems

I live in Utah atm, and am working towards moving to a blue state for obvious reasons. I had the Denver area of CO in my mind for some time, as I love the very queer friendly vibe and have friends in the area. However, with the recent EOs, it seems like the state isn't putting up as much of a fight against them (complying with ICE and the trans healthcare ban, in recent memory).

Trans people in CO, do you still feel safe/protected? Should I still be looking in that area, or should I consider looking elsewhere? I was thinking about moving to Salt Lake City to at least be in a more liberal area, but if CO will have even slightly more protections that UT will, I would of course prefer the former. Thank you!

I'm from a blue state, and am happily back, but I spent 3 years in South Dakota, and was so disgusted by what I saw there.

They are so racist and prejudiced. Sitting at a bus stop waiting to go home, and seeing a swastika painted next to the star of David, and seeing that everywhere in the city.

As a transgendered person, going out in makeup and being "different" from others there, I experienced some harrassment from others myself.

Gawd, I am so glad to be back home, in a state that is safe. I can't believe that Kristie Noem got elected to her current position, she didn't do crap about the systemic racism or crime in her own state, it's just disgusting. I'm so glad I'm out of that hell hole.

I've been growing my hair out for 6 months and it's gotten quite long. And just recently, I realized how terrible my breakage is. I'm looking at my hair right now and there are so many straggly hairs and it just looks fucking terrible.

It's annoying because I've waited forever for my hair to grow out and now I feel like I need to start over. I've never had my hair this long before and I'm realizing I don't know how to care for it. I've been reading a lot about hair care and I wish I would've done that 6 months ago.

And then the other issue is I feel so damn ugly with long hair. I thought it would make me look more feminine but I look more masculine except both ugly AND masculine. At least with short hair, I only looked masculine lol

Anyways this is kind of a rant I guess. No matter how much I care for my long hair, the breakage just seems to get worse and worse. I don't know how to style it or tell the hairstylist what to do. Long hair is difficult. I almost want to get it short again, but I've come so far.... It doesn't look good though.

Anyone have experiences with hating their long hair? Any advice for feminine short haircuts? Long haircuts? Any tips to learning how to adjust to long hair if you've never had it before? My hair was finally starting to get long enough to get past the awkward stage and now there's breakage literally everywhere making it look worse than the awkward stage

Edit: is it possible I'm being too critical? Is it normal for people to have SOME breakage? I pay attention to women's hair and it always seems to look good, mine looks terrible

Hey y'all, I recently left this sub (as with all lgbtq+ subs) to filter out the excess politics, but I do want to know if there is a list out there of anti trans bills passed or being passed as well as a list of the anti trans executive orders.

I'm in Texas so obviously I'm hella stressed atm, like I know a lot of you are. Don't feel bad to cut out the politics during this time if you have to, even if it's very important to pay attention to. Take time to self care. Take a shower/bath, remember to sleep and rest, or at least try to. We need to have energy to last this situation, you lose by winding yourself up too tight and collapsing in on yourself. Remember to care for your neighbors, they live under him too now

Me as an trans woman i think bro is gender neutral, but i want to know your opinions.

I haven’t been able to find a ton of information on this, so I’m looking to find out what is and isn’t allowed for issuing a passport as of now.

I already have a passport with my right gender (M), but need to change my legal name. Will I run into any problems changing my passport with my new legal name?? All my documents are up to date but my birth certificate.

I really really want to know what if there's anything I can do to help support any trans people currently in prison. With Trump signing an order to transfer transwomen into male prisons, I really want to know if there's something I can do to help, even if its just donating to an existing activist group. I've been reading that there have been some transwomen who have been able to get lawyers through some advocacy groups but I'm genuinely not sure where and how to start if I want to help.

I really don't just want to sit here while Trump signs a death warrant for the over 2000 trans inmates we have in this country. No one deserves what could potentially await them.

Hey, so recently I got into this Lou Reed rabbit hole and got pleasantly surprised by just how much of his career was influenced by the trans women he met (and dated) throughout his life and just how many of his songs explicitly talk about trans woman (sometimes even referring to them by name). This was of course very surprising for me, even as a trans woman myself, since my experience with music "about" trans people from around this time was generally just early glam rock with subtle references to themes of gender non conformity. So this got me thinking if there are any other songs that reference trans people explicitly made by non trans artists that I may not know about. I did some digging and ended up not finding much and was hoping this community could help. Here is a list of the songs I found:

1. Walk On The Wild Side
2. Candy Says
3. Make Up
4. Coney Island Baby
5. Lola

Of course as I said before I would Like songs that are explicitly about trans people. I know of many songs that could be interpreted as being about trans folks (Get Back by The Beatles is a good example) but really what interests me the most is seeing an actual perspective on trans people in music. Also I'm looking for mostly positive songs, I know Lola is very problematic but its undeniable that the intentions were at the very least good. Hope you guys can help.

Hi. I know this is all new and we really aren't sure yet how its all going to fall out, but I was hoping someone had an idea about this passport thing. My understanding is its only the gender marker that is getting held up. Name changes are still processing?

That being the case: Is there any reason I can't get my pic done with my new name and a dolled up pic? (As in me being all dolled up not an edited pic ;) ) Or would it be better to get a boy passport for now and just travel as a boy?

I'm just wondering if I should start the name change stuff now or wait?

I genuinely have no idea what to do at this point. I'm not cognitively smart enough to grasp everything that's going on with this situation. So I need someone to help me. I'm MTF. They're freezing passport applications and denying any with the X marker. I'm from New York, but I live in Ohio. To MY understanding, NY allows birth certificate changes to female instead of X. If my gender is legally changed to female on all other required legal documents to apply for a passport, can they still deny it and steal my documents even if my "original" birth certificate says female? So much is going on at once and it's all so overwhelming.

I am wondering if our passports are even valid currently for leaving the country. Is anyone aware of a trans person who has successfully used their passport to get out in the last 10 days, and especially the last 48 hours? i am scared we are already trapped and just don’t know it yet.

Anybody that can help me I have a learning disability and severe anxiety and can't figure out if my boyfriend travels here from Austria and it says M on his passport and he's trans if they will let him go home after? I've been driving my boyfriend crazy all night stuck in a OCD loop I just need awnsers

Hello!

I am a Stanford researcher seeking interview participants for a study looking at trans folks' experiences with technology at U.S. universities. It'd help me out a ton for you to sign up if you're currently or have been a grad/undergad student in the past 3 years. Sign up form here: https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLScGcIJtVFuyQNmJ_PtbESymrokX-qtqy7xTWgYkbFQR-2Sd2w/viewform?usp=sf_link

Feel free to DM me here with questions or email me at elliejvela@stanford.edu. You can check out my Stanford Profiles page here to verify my identity: https://profiles.stanford.edu/elliejvela

More info:

I'm seeking interview participants for a study examining queer and trans students’ experiences with computerized administration systems at U.S. universities (think online forms, web portals, etc.) and how well these systems align with people’s experiences of their gender. Volunteers will ideally be graduate or undergraduate students currently enrolled or recently graduated from an institution of higher education. Volunteers will participate in approximately 1 hour interviews, and will ideally take place over online video chat (happy to discuss an in-person interview geography allowing). With participant consent, interviews will be audio and/or video recorded. Participation will be unpaid.

If you’re interested in participating, please fill out this google form to schedule an interview with me. https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLScGcIJtVFuyQNmJ_PtbESymrokX-qtqy7xTWgYkbFQR-2Sd2w/viewform?usp=sf_link.

Additionally, if you know of anyone who might have a valuable perspective to share, please pass this information along.

Thank you!

Ellie Vela (they/she)

Stanford University

I had my first monotherapy weekly e injection (3mg total e) almost a week ago after being on 6mg e and 100mg spiro daily for a yearish.

I'm worried that it's messed up my levels, as I noticed that my libido went up and erections were more frequent; does this mean my t is too high?

my next blood test is scheduled for 3 months from now, which seems like a really long time if my levels are out of wack. should I try to get one sooner?

Hello all, Have any of you received random threatening messages? I just got a reddit message from some random guy basically saying we’re all gr00mers and such and that I should take my own life.

It’s pretty funny that people go out of their way to message and harass random trans people, but also scary.

They mentioned that I would never be a real woman as if I’m not already painfully aware of that. I have pretty much accepted that I’m a freak of nature. Honestly I’m pretty scared to even pick up my meds from the pharmacy now and I’m supposed to get them later today…

I’m not even out yet and I’m already scared. How do you all do it? especially those who are fully socially transitioned??

I have heard many stories recently of transwomen in the US (even in blue states) that had changed their gender markers and birth certificate YEARS ago are now unable to renew their passports and also being told they have to change their gender marker back to male.

This is extremely concerning, as it means that the government is clearly keeping a record of gender markers being changed and/or retaining our old birth certificates. As a result, bad actors will essentially be able to go back and create a trans registry which is completely terrifying.

I'm not American, but many other countries are very influenced by American politics and have conservative politicians echoing the exact same transphobia. I'm completely terrified of this practice spreading, and I am wondering if there is a way for us to request these older records to be deleted/expunged, or knowing if they're kept at all.

Is anyone aware of any legal resources that show which countries retain this information? Or ways to request to get rid of it? I'm Canadian, but I think this is something we ALL should be thinking about, even in countries where you think you're safe right now - like I changed my birth certificate to female over a decade ago, but there's no guarantee a conservative transphobic party won't come to power and attempt the same Trump policy.

I (25, FTM) have been openly transgender for about 5 years now, maybe longer. Unfortunately, I have not started T or had top surgery done yet, as I felt unsafe to do so while living with my family. Recently, prior to the recent election, my living situation had changed - and I was hopeful that this would be the year I would finally be able to start my medical transition... But with the current political climate of the US... Honestly, I'm terrified.

I keep trying so hard to stay optimistic and not let this country stop me from living my life. I live in a blue state (NY), so on one hand, I feel like at the very least I might have "time" to transition before it's too late, or that I'll continue to be safe here, based on state laws. On the other hand, I have no idea what to expect now. I guess my biggest fear is:
What will happen to me if I transition and things just get worse after I do it?
I want to finally start feeling comfortable in my own skin, but at what cost?

I'm so tired of living in this body. I want top surgery above everything else, and this has always been my highest priority since before I even knew I was trans. Starting T is important to me too, but I can't manage the constant dysphoria every time I take off my binder anymore. Sometimes showering is even too much for me. Transitioning medically would mean everything to me, but I know I need to be realistic now more than ever.

I don't know what to do now.
Should I just keep waiting?

Thanks

My boyfriend is coming in three days from Austria he is transgender and it's says male on his passport and I'll his documents they'd have no reason to assume he's not a man but I'm afraid if they were to notice they won't let him go home after said vacation? Will they force him to stay until he changes his passport to female?

I'm a 15MtF, and i realised that i'm really trans, i have discovered some things and now having a label for it is more easier to see the problem, i have a big dysphoria and maybe i'm having a big identity crisis, and i really want a way to deal with my dysphoria until i hit 18 or get out of my parents house, so i'm asking you all for a little help.

Hi friends I'm about to use some of my tax return to have my facial hair removed. I need some suggestions of places in Arkansas that have electrolysis available and won't treat me poorly. Thanks!

Basically, any evidence of me having changed gender feels like a ticking timebomb with the way the USA is going and with it potentially spreading to other countries. I'd like to be able to live somewhere that has no record of my AGAB or of being trans. Is there a way to do this?

For example, is there anywhere I can immigrate to where they would not ask for any documents that mention my AGAB or something like that? Or somewhere I can get my birth certificate changed without a record of the original being kept? I'm in the UK if it's relevant.

Just asking, because I live in Tennessee. Looking to get out of the south entirely, especially this state because of the asinine laws that are passing that are extremely evil. It is actually horrifying,

I looked a bit at the roommates site, which has a searchable 'lgbt friendly' tag but I'm wanting something more specific to trans roommates that's trustworthy and searchable out of my city/state

i’m on estradiol valerate(once a week, injections) i was taking 150 mg of spiro and my test results showed that my t level was at 1. lowering it to 100 brought it up to 3. a nurse called and said my doctor wants me to just go off spiro for three months and “see what happens” and when i asked the nurse if 100 to 0 normally caused a changed like that.

i know mono therapy with injections is possible and in many ways preferable i just wish i was talked through it a bit. I’m very lucky in the sense that my dad and brothers and I where all late bloomers so started HRT at 18 lead to me having very light, fine and thin body and facial hair that is so easy to deal with and i’d hate for that thicken up

is stopping spiro for 3 months at my levels safe or no?

Hey all! One of my niblings recently disclosed to me that they are exploring their gender and may be looking to start using a new name and pronouns. I am a gay special education teacher and have had dozens of trans/gnc students & have many trans & nb friends, so I’m very well versed in supporting young people in a school based setting or adult friends, but this situation is a little more complicated.

My nibling is 19 years old, on the autism spectrum, and currently attending a campus based work readiness program in a conservative area. Not living at home has given them the opportunity to finally establish their own identity outside of their family and their friends at this program have been accepting & affirming.

My sister, however, is a very devout catholic & unsupportive of her child’s gender exploration, so they feel they have to hide things from her. My nibling has had some serious mental health struggles due to their conservative religious upbringing mixed with some symptoms of autism (black and white thinking, feeling like they need to live according to conservative interpretations of religion, etc) and has internalized certain beliefs that have been fed to them including that being trans is a new trend that some people have been lured into (unlike them, who is genuinely trans). They do not have much exposure to the LGBTQ community or healthy ways of navigating their current situation.

My mother and I are their safe people - they share with us pictures of new hairstyles, clothing, and other moments of gender euphoria. We are very happy for them and have been very supportive, but we are both worried that they may not have the skills to navigate the situation with their parents or understand the nuances of disclosure and maintaining safety as a trans person in a conservative area. My mom would basically like to say something like “be careful with how you present yourself and who you do it with because you could be harmed” but I fear that could do some psychological damage at a time when they are just beginning to feel safe to explore their identity. I am very comfortable talking about these subjects, but usually the person I’m speaking to has some sort of base level understanding of LGBTQ history, rights, and the importance of safe spaces & community.

Can anyone recommend some resources that I can direct them to so that they can start to learn more about the trans community and how to explore their gender without risking their safety or further damaging their mental health?

Tl;dr - my Trans/gnc autistic nibling has been brainwashed by conservative upbringing & I would like to connect them to appropriate resources to learn more about the community while maintaining safety.

I'm still giving them a benefit of a doubt. Idk why..

Im a trans guy who passes most of the time. Like I have a beard and what not. When I got hired at my job, my boss asked for my pronouns/identity because of my deadname (let's say it's susan). I tell her my name is Nathan (also fake name for anon purposes on here) and I use he/him pronouns. She tells me she will try to remember. She makes some of my coworkers ask me this too.

At first this made me uncomfortable, but then I tried to reassure myself they must be trying. Boy was i wrong.

Ever since i got hired my boss and assistant manager have been misgendering me, then making passive aggressive comments on how "confusing i am." My other coworkers don't misgender me for the most part. I've corrected all of them a handful of times.

I changed my legal name since I can afford to now, and my boss talked about it on a public forum, misgendering me the whole time. Customers very rarely misgender me.

Im just debating on what to do. I like this job, it's not too hard and I like my customers. Just debating if I should take things to HR. Any advice?

I am very happy with my voice for ordinary spoken interactions. The pitch and resonance sound completely female.

But I have no way of raising my voice / shouting / screaming without sounding like a moid.

This is because normally we raise our pitch when shouting. But my speaking voice is already the top of my range.

I have looked at all the best voice training YouTubers, and they go into an obvious falsetto in situations I’m talking about. It sounds terrible.

Edit: You can hear the falsetto here https://youtu.be/utO8F3qki8g?si=PgINL2zOL5-6uMnJ

Are we completely cooked in this respect?

pre-T trans guy here, second post on here already because I was supposed to start Test this week and its been the same week all of Trumps bans on HRT and trying to infringe on trans peoples existences.

Yesterday after seeing that trump snuck in a ban on bottom surgery for trans men federally, I just became even more depressed than I already was. I feel like a federal ban or federal defunding may not be far away. I live in NC so im not really that sure how protected hrt would be from defunding. It makes me feel like its not logical or a good idea to start T, knowing I would be dependent on it or upset if I lost the effects, if I potentially would not be able to access it anymore after starting for a bit. I know everyone says to look into DiY, but honestly since it is riskier than E and it is a controlled substance, im not really sure thats something id end up doing.

What would be the effects, withdrawal-wise, and permanent, of starting Test for a few months, and then stopping? I am considering leaving the U.S. and moving to another country where I have dual citizenship— which also makes me worried about starting test and not matching my passport picture. Ideally, id like to get some voice drop and bottom growth. Ive also heard though that it is extremely emotionally taxing to start T then stop. I wonder how bad it really is, if anyone has some prior experiences with starting Test then stopping please let me know, and what the permanent effects you got to keep were.

I’m writing an action story starring a trans woman, and I once took a self-defense class from a trans woman who said that taking estrogen made the scars she got in the military much smaller. I haven’t been able to find any clear sources on this however.