Hi! I am so new to this community and such a huge ally but I might make some mistakes so bear with me please!

One of my best friends' husband has just shared with me and her that he is trans. He is still wanting to go by he/him pronouns for the time being, but is slowly making the transition into using she/her pronouns. His wife and I are so happy for him and we are trying to be as supportive as possible. We love him no matter what.

He's expressed interest in getting makeup for Christmas this year, so we've been trying to think of things that we could get him that he would be able to wear on a daily basis without being super noticeable, if that makes sense? He works in a super masculine field and we're worried about the response of his colleagues.

I'm wondering if anyone can give us some advice on some makeup that we could get him, but also other things that would make him feel feminine and supported by us. We love him so much and we really want to show him how much we love him and are proud of him for sharing this piece of himself with us.

Thank you so much!

I normally take .1Ml of estradiol, but today I was really groggy after waking up and accidentally took .4ml. I’ve been reading and reading and don’t think anything bad will happen, I just want a second opinion tbh 😭

Edit: it’s Estradiol enanthate and 40mg/ml

(repost because trying to get the most help in different reddits)

So, I have been on testosterone for around 4-6 months on a half dose. Though I was extremely informed through my doctor and myself which I am very very thankful for, there was also something I was not aware of... I have had a good bit of bottom growth, I mean nothing compared to some but a lot. Still small enough that it's a lil hard to see unless I'm erect. I'd say around 1.5cm..?

So my issue is this: I was never ever told about Dead skin cell debris that can build up down there; smegma - tho I clean very well, I still had this stuff building up and never really knew about it / what it was. Now I have some and I have been trying to get it out the best I can. I have looked at some resources to try to figure out how I can get it without feeling like I'm poking myself with 10 needle heads everytime but I get really shaky when it hurts and then I can't keepy hand steady and it hurts more because I can't be precise. Are... There any tips? And, let me know if I'm not alone in this....

Hii!

Test result Before starting HRT:

Testosterone - 32 nmol/l

Estradiol - 127 pmol/l

Test results after 5 weeks on HRT:

Testosterone - 4.2 nmol/L

Estradiol - 1051 pmol/l

Blood samples were taken 10 hours after the medicine that was taken at the same time three days prior.

My doctor didn't understand why my level was so high so he asked me to take another test.

Test results after 7 weeks on HRT:

Testosterone - 4.3 nmol/L

Estradiol - 1322 pmol/l

Blood samples were taken 6 hours after the medicine, which was taken at the same time seven days prior.

I took yet another blood sample on Wednesday, waiting for the results.

I`m on two pumps of Estrogel daily, (0.75mg/pump), 1.5mg Estradiol total, and 100mg Spiro.

I apply it on the inside of my thighs, one pump on each thigh, a thin layer on the whole inside, the little that's left is dried off on the scrotum, then I repeat the process on the other side.

I take the medicine in the morning, usually I sleep a couple more hours, but I wait for it to dry before I go back to bed.

When I don't have to go to the bathroom I don't bother cleaning my hands, If that can effekt the test results.

But like, what tha fuck, why are my levels so high? The only other drug I'm taking is Dutasteride.

I'm 35, 185cm, 69kg.

I applied for a new job and landed the position. It’s a fantastic opportunity that offers more money, more PTO, WFH, better work/life balance, a great location and awesome team.

There’s only one problem. They want me to submit a form for a criminal background check. I’m not a criminal and I have no record, but it asks for any other names I’ve used and when I had them changed.

I’ve been stealthing for a number of years now. Having to reveal this is devastating. Is there any way around this other than turning down the job?

i’m a queer ally. my friend corrected me on something today … i said that trans people take hormones to align their bodies with their identity, & she replied that being trans is a birth defect and that she doesn’t even have XY chromosomes, and that protein synthesis caused her to produce the wrong hormones and genitalia.

of course that may be true for her, but is it true for all ? i thought at least some trans-fem people are born with XY? … is being trans just a birth defect / in all cases?

im 3 months on it so i cant tell rn

I know its a taboo question, so I would never ask for any trans girls I know IRL. How does it feel to have sex after sexual reassignment surgery? Is it any different? Does the orgasm be similar to cis woman?

Im Sorry if the question sound offensive, its not my intention

Hey there,

I'm a 28 y.o transwoman. My height is around 178cm (5'10"). My E levels are around 80, and my T levels are around 30. For the last 6 months, I've changed my diet and started doing regular cardio exercises and weight training. Yet my body weight is stuck at 96/94 kg (211/207 pounds). It feels like I'm building confidence more than muscle mass. I've been keeping track of my measurements, and my waist size is still the same.

My daily intake and workout:   

• Nutrition: (breakfast with strawberry, blackberry, raspberry + granola, chocolate & lactose-free milk) (x2 healthy snack bars between meals) (dinner with rice or pasta + meat, mushrooms, peppers, and onions with some olive oil) = roughly 45-70 grams of protein, 200-300 grams of carbs, 30-60 grams of sugar + multivitamin supplements + 2-3 liters of water + 0.5-1l of green tea with probiotics + one serving l-carnitine as my pre-workout
• Exercise: 20 minutes with exercise bike, little to no breaks taken with lots of sweat + 5-10 minutes of glute bridges, several types of squats, and deadlifts (I always have soreness after the workouts and keep trying to push my limits)

Last comments: I've experienced and come to accept that many of my body functions have changed since I started HRT.

For example:

• Before I started my transition, I used to lose 15kg (33 pounds) of weight in a couple of weeks with this routine.
• Vitamin D deficiency wasn't a problem before transitioning. But it became a crucial part of my overall physical well-being.

I would love to hear your suggestions. Thank you in advance,

32, 3 Weeks HRT

Why did I even bother trying to transition if I have horrible acne scars... And my face is asymmetrical. And I have keratosis pilaris. These things kept me from transitioning for YEARS, but I overcame them. That is, until I saw how veritably unwholesome I look from a side view... I needed this and I'm not going back, in every other metric my life is better and my mental health has improved dramatically in a very short period of time. But I have no idea what to do about this and it makes me feel like I look like a monster 😭

Note: posted somewhere else and got zero anything. If it's that bad then I'll take note and see myself out.

Hello everyone.

To quickly summarize my questions, does anyone have experience with using a strap-on pre-srs? I don't want to use my "part", and I think I'd feel better using a strap-on on my partner, and I'd like to know if there's anything I should know, especially because I'm pre-srs.

Thank you for reading!

So probably a dumb question but as of late, I’ve really really been stuck on this idea of wanting a vagina. At first I would just think ‘oh ok weird’. Then I started to think about it more and now I find myself thinking about it almost everyday. The thought dies a bit for maybe at most a week but then it comes back. I’m a male btw. My question is does this want ever go away? I find myself getting jealous of the happy post surgery pictures that people have and all that. I didn’t think I was trans but now I’m questioning myself. Are there any ways to calm this thought?

In 2019 I saw an animation of a trans boy that if I remember correctly was titled "dysphoria" and had the Steven Universe escapism song, there are many animations like that but the one I'm talking about I remember that In the animation at the end there was a real photo of the creator with his friends and to give more details on the cover I would say there was a boy looking at himself in the mirror and it was blue.

It's my favorite animation because it helped me a lot when I discovered I was trans but now I can't find it and I don't know if maybe it's because they deleted it but it would be good finding out if its still out there so I need help to find it ir at least find its creator's insta or something

Thanks

I've seen a lot of posts over the years about working out to sculpt a more femme body, to get bigger hips and glutes, etc.

I've heard a lot of talk on this but honestly I've never really seen evidence of this working on someone that didn't already have a big rear, and even then the change from photos I've seen has looked subtle enough that I wouldn't be able to tell the difference.

I remain sceptical that someone with narrow hips could develop a full on hourglass body type by intensively working out, and even if they could, I would guess it's a lot of effort to maintain. Like...yes, I'm not doubting you can add a bit more muscle, but I can't see any evidence that the change would be more than subtle.

Chasing a dream of extensive body modification through exercise feels like a bit of a pipe dream. But maybe I'm wrong?

The title is self explanatory, as we at some time have 2 names, or even change it, which one counts? both? when you legally change your name, does it count from now on?

Just a silly discussion, lets just have fun

Don’t get me wrong, I really thought about transitioning for a really long time, but there’s no handbook that will prepare you for the extreme sadness that comes with transitioning.

I’m only happy when I’m alone.

When I put my makeup on…

When I dress up…

For the first time I’ve learned to love myself… but only at the comforts of home.

Going out and dealing with the world is a totally different experience.

I don’t want to share this precious side of me to the world because I feel like everyone ruins it for me.

I lost my job.

I lost my friends.

I lost my access to opportunities.

I lost my dreams.

I lost everything.

I lost my access to happiness.

When I’m out I lose the love I have for myself.

And for that reason I think I have made the wrong decision….

….Because I can only love myself when I’m alone.

I know Cali, NY, Washington, Illinois and Minnesota are good. I'm looking more NE but maybe not NY

I keep seeing people say things like "Recent studies" "Research has been made" "Date has been gathered" to say the most anti-trans shit like it's obvious and we're all moron for not keeping up to date with the facts. I don't want to ask "What research?", I don't want to give them my time, but I get morbidly curious what the fuck they're talking about. I saw someone blaming our suicide rates on transitioning kids and fucking them up. I don't want to engage, I don't even know what I would say, but leaving it alone makes me feel like I should be doing something to combat it.

Hey, I'm 17 and just came out as trans to some of my friends, but whenever I think of coming out to my parents I get extremely anxious. Even though I know they'll accept me (My Stepmom is Bi, and my dad is Married to her) I still have trouble even thinking of doing it.

If you have any advice at all, it would be greatly appreciated! Thank you so much!

I(20ftm) started HRT 2 months ago. So far it's been going okay, but I can't help but wonder if I had started it earlier in life (14-15) if it would've been easier for me, since I was still undergoing puberty and not fully developed yet. Would I have ended up taller than I currently am(5'5)? Would my bone structure have grown in a different way, a more masculine way? Or would it still end up as feminine as it is now. I always stress over how my life would've been way better if I had just came out earlier. Are my suspicions true, or is this just the dysphoria being a pain in the ass?

ellooo! im a teenager(15), and Im pretty sure I am trans (FTM) as you can probably tell from my trans heart on my little reddit avatar thingie. (quick warning English isnt my first language so apologizes if I spell anything wrong <3)

okay so, for about a year I didnt care for pronouns, gender etc.. so I just used any pronouns and labeled myself as genderfluid...

but for the last few months I've switched to he/him identified as a trans boy and feel completely uncomfortable if someone uses any other pronoun on me or if they use "beautiful", "pretty" or "gorgeous".

but the thing is I have short fluffy hair which has grown in slightly, and I look more feminine again. and the thing is I feel like sometimes I just want to do a more feminine voice or look more feminine, but on the other hand - I just want to be fully masculine and be like "strong" and "powerful".

and im just so confused with myself and feel like im multiple different people in one body... is this normal? - am I just being weird?

- ps. sorry again if this is triggering or if this is dumb, im just confused with myself lmao

Hey so this is coming from a trans masc person (he/they) and me personally I don't mind but I've seen a lot of transmasc (trans people in general) say that people keep calling them they/them and they find it annoying. Yesterday I was talking with a friend about Elliot Page (a trans man) and I just said 'they' because I didn't actually know his (I googled them now) pronouns, my friend said that I was being rude because he was a trans man and I referred to him as 'they'. I didn't even do it because he's trans I usually always do it when I don't know someone's pronouns for certain. Am I in the wrong?

I’ve been on hrt for around 5 years now and it still does but I plan on getting an orchiectomy next year, I’ve heard conflicting things on if that stops erections or not and was wondering if anyone knows for sure. Or if they know of any other ways?

Hey!

A while back, I wrote here, saying basically "looks like I feel dysphoria, but more about the fact that I'm not as cool as my friends than about my gender. Am I trans?". I concluded that I wasn't, since my issues don't seem to have much to do with gender. But, of course, I did read the dysphoria bible, and again I was like "eff, I really am dysphoric, it makes a ton of sense. Still, I'm a dysphoric guy, not a girl, being a girl sounds like a ton of work and probably it won't solve my problem". And when I re-read it, I wasn't even sure about that (and didn't feel the same sense of "oh yeah it clicks" I had the first time): I can relate to a ton of things, but most of these are explained better or equally well by ASD?

How is one supposed to tell apart the two, then?

To be a bit more specific about my experience, if anyone finds it useful:

• Physically, I low-key wanted thinner, more woman-ish hands, as a kid, and generally I'd like being a bit thinner than I am now. Just as most people would kinda like to be able to fly, never as something that was a big deal. And I'm really okay with the rest.

• Biochemically: I do feel a lack of concern with my body, I take long walks as exercise, but never felt like hitting the gym. It often feels like I don't feel allowed to do stuff in the world. I lack agency and initiative. I ruminate a bunch. When asked how I would go about doing a certain thing, I often can't think. I feel like I don't fully belong in my group of incredibly cool overachieving friends because I'm less cool. Definitely some emotional stunting and some excessive emotional responses. Everything else ok

• Socially: I do in fact find it easier to befriend women or autistic people than (non-autistic) men. But it really could be the "autistic people" part that's important. Everything else ok

• Societally: never liked sports. Don't feel comfortable dating. Wouldn't date anyone I haven't first become good friends with. Again, all of that seems to fit either trans or just autistic.

• Sexually: not much to say here, and yet relatively significant: when I still watched smut, preferred what didn't involve penetration and instead involved gender transformation.

Presentationally: actually I dress like a stereotypical mid-20th c. man. Originally because there are very strict (although mostly arbitrary) rules for what is okay or not, in that kind of fashion, something which pleased my autistic ass. Did spend a too-large amount of time reading about 19th c. women's fashion, though. Can't wear men's jeans, never tried women's.

Existentially: strongly feeling this one, but always understood it as "I wish I'd been less autistic as a kid, and done more crafts, more visiting stuff, meeting more people, etc." rather than as anything gender-related.

As you see, all these things seem like they're well enough explained by ASD alone? Or are they?

A large share of trans people are autistic, but being autistic shouldn't mean that one is necessarily trans, right? So, am I just autistic, or am I hiding something from myself?

I'm mtf over a year and my dysphoria has gotten much better. But something that still happens and can still just make me feel acutely horrible is seeing a young woman with a face that looks like mine (I'm basically default white person so this happens a lot) and it just feels horrible. I wonder if I would have looked like her if first puberty didn't androgenize my face. Is there anyone with any advice on this kind of dysphoria? It comes completely from within it has nothing to do with how others treat me.

Hi so I've been confused about my gender since I was in 4th grade and I'm 20 now and I think it's time to get help and decide what I am.

I've been very embarrassed to explain and ask/tell what I am. Im like the stario type of trans people that conservatives say all trans people are like when they say "they change their gender multiple times a day I can't keep up!" and all the trans people and activist in the comments say "that's not at all how it is!" I'm sure you can tell where this is going.

I've identified as gender fluid since I knew what it was but if someone calls me trans I always say no. My dad is a trans woman and she has the pills, she got her name changed, eventually saved up to get boobs, she changed her appearance completely, and got her testicles removed. But because I'm gender fluid I can't... Do anything... So since I don't even cut my hair I don't feel like I should be called trans because I feel i don't deserve it. That's just me though PLEASE don't feel bad if you can't/don't and call yourself trans this is just me.

As foreshadowed earlier, my gender changes often. Like once or more a week. It doesn't always change during the day but sometimes it does. I go by he/him pronouns and Alexander in real life. It's not like a random thought in my head like "ah I feel like a girl again" So it's usually when I'm called by a male pronoun when I'm feeling like a girl and I'll be in my mind like "ew that feels so gross" and I'll get kids upset.

I wear just a shirt and black leggings with my hair up everywhere so I don't feel physical gender dysphoria most times. I have the world's smallest boobs with the world's biggest body so I'm already sooooo insecure about my body and boobs that both as a boy and girl I hate them and very luckily I rarely want to have a penis. Most times I'm totally fine with what I got down there (like visually I hate women problems lol)

But here's where I come clean, my family knows Im gender fluid and we changed my name and pronouns but I just don't know how I could explain how they could accommodate me because how could they?

Im sorry if this is disrespectful to the community it's genuinely how I feel.

I know the title is very self diminishing but it’s starting to take a toll on me. I’m 23 (mtf) and I feel I can’t provide enough for my boyfriend 22 m. It’s silly going to the internet for help but I just feel I can never do anything. I’m going to get tmi so sorry in advanced. I noticed my bf started jerking off while I’m asleep and I get it’s normal but I feel that’s how he can only get off. We try oral but my mouth is too small and since I have broken teeth it’s rough on him and I don’t suggest it cause I don’t wanna hurt him and with penetration we can never make it fit. We tried role playing to help loosen me up but he can’t get hard for it. I noticed he’s always horny when he jerks off but for sex he does when I kiss him but he can’t keep it up and I feel maybe it’s just me. I already discussed that he possibly has erectile dysfunction but it’s hard to keep trying and being so horny to the point he loses it. He has cried to me about not being able to keep it up and i feel for him but i feel I don’t know what else I can do to pleasure him.

I'm nonbinary/trans afab and my 18 year old autistic daughter is also trans (pre E, she is socially transitioning due to just turning 18). We live in West Virginia.

It was already not great living here as a trans person and I know things will only get worse. Leaving the country is not an option for us, so my hope is we will be ok if we can get to a state where trans/lgbt rights are protected.

Our research suggests Minnesota has a lot of rentals in our budget. Pretty sure we could afford to live there on what I make (I'm self employed as an author so can work anywhere, and husband is looking for work.)

I'm overwhelmed by the process of even making that happen. Should we be aiming to get out before Jan 21st? How urgent do you think it is we get out? Can we wait until spring? How does one even pick up and move 1,000 miles away? It's not like I can go see the apartment and browse a few before settling on one. If we have to go before Jan, I don't know how we'll afford it. I'm desperately trying not to panic, but need some outside input and don't really have anywhere else to ask.

Hope this is ok to post as I didn't see anything against the rules against political questions.

I used to be very close to a trans person that was a hardcore Republican. Paced our house with an AR 15 and despised most other trans people. Would go on hours long tirades about minorites. And how with other trans individuals " if you don't pass enough you aren't really trans." Would sip on a Steven Crowder cup and laugh at his antitrans skits while putting makeup on. At first they came across kind and chill but behind closed doors this is what I eventually saw daily as a room mate. I'm not saying all trans Republicans are this way but I just will never understand it. How is this even a thing?

So I started dieting and fasting and I lost almost 7 kg in just a month. MTF

The problem is I started being horny and started getting soft wood too in the morning years after not even feeling it.

I dont know what happened.

Quick google search says it could be the effects of losing body fat to the hormones.

What happened?