Hey everyone,

I’ve been with my girlfriend for almost five years, and I love her deeply. During this time, I’ve never really had close girl friends because she gets jealous when I’m around other women. I respect her feelings and boundaries, so I’ve avoided forming those kinds of friendships.

But lately, I’ve been feeling like I really need more connections with women—just as friends. Sometimes my girlfriend doesn’t have the time or emotional energy to discuss certain things, especially around my gender journey and exploring femininity. I feel like having girl friends could give me a safe and supportive space to talk and share experiences without putting all that pressure on her.

Is it wrong to want this? How do I navigate this without making her feel like I’m replacing or undervaluing her? I don’t want her to feel insecure, but I also feel like I need more emotional support than I’m getting right now.

Thanks for any advice!

Am I trans or not?

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I was afab but I've been kinda confused over my gender and don't know if I'm actually trans or not. I am overweight a bit/w a pretty big chest that kind of make it hard to picture myself as a guy, so idk if i just have body dysphoria or not (I am working on loosing weight tho). But I love wearing guy clothes, not really comfortable wearing womens clothing or "girly girl" clothing, and I also have a short wolfcut. I'm bi, but i think I like women in a straight way and guys in a gay way... if that makes sense. Other then my chest, people usually have a hard time figuring out if I'm female or not, so if a stranger accidentally say he or him towards me, I'm not offended, I'm usually kinda happy about it. Ummm, what I guess I'm really worried about if I am trans, i don't what to go through all the hormones (and bottom surgery because I feel like I would want that)and I end up regreting it and or looking uglier than before. I don't really have a way to try out different pronouns or names, so I'm kinda figuring this out internally. Anyways, idk what I'm trying to say. Sorry for all the spelling mistakes.

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I'm getting my first binder on Monday, and I am super excited! I know it isn't anything super crazy big, but I feel like this is my chance to finally look like me. Anyways, my parents haven't allowed me to get a binder, mostly because my mom is very much the one in charge and she doesn't think I am "trans enough" to need a binder. I don't really know what type it is, all I know is that it should be my size, and I am only able to wear it at school for now. Besides don’t sleep, don't exercise, and don't wear it too long, is there anything else I should know?

I want to be fully recognised as a women. I want to take hormones, but where do I start?

Is it normal to get the feeling that your new name just doesn’t fit anymore. I’m been transitioning since 2021 and used Alexis the entire time but now I feel that name is not me anymore. Anyone else experience this?

So ever since I’ve been a little kid I always hated Manly stuff I always hated body hair anything like that and when I hit puberty it got worse as it does and I hate myself I’m everything I hated facial hair body hair voice dropping and everything thing like that and I gained a lot of weight from medications that made me hold water in I hardly eat anything but it’s like I just keep gaining I even tried fasting and it didn’t work i still gained but here is my question when I turn 18 I am going to attempt to get estrogen if it’s even available due to the future situation in the United States and my question is if I do this what happens if I regret it which I don’t think I would I’ve been like this since I was little but what if it is just a phase but I just want to be feminine or trans at this point but I would be throwing my family away I live in Alabama and my family are extremely against it and that’s why I have to wait because they would go insane if i even asked about jt I just need thoughts on this and I need to say I am losing weight and my parents don’t like I’ve been told that I would probably look weird not big

Ok, this is obviously the most asked question on this sub, I know. But like, I can't help but ask it.

So I, 21 mtf, have been actively on hrt for the last 6 months, accepted, or thought I accepted, my trans identity over a year ago, and have begun to come out to people over the past several months. I am only out to a select group of people because I know that my grandparents at the very least would not be supportive, so as a result I am only really out to my parents, sister, gf and friends.

This has been going great, don't get me wrong. They have all been (mostly) supportive. My friends have even begun to use my "preferred name" and I have been changing my style to better fit who I think I am.

So, great. What's the issue?

Well. I don't know if I have dysphoria. And I know you don't have dysphoria to be trans, but man do I feel like I'm lying to myself. But that's not only it, I feel like I'm not a woman.

Don't get me wrong, I want to be a woman. I REALLY want to be a woman. But deep down, I feel like I'm lying.

Like I'm just vying for attention.

As I mentioned earlier, my friends have begun to use my chosen name, but when I hear it I feel absolutely nothing. Ok, fine. Maybe that's not the right name. But here's the real kicker, I don't (think that I) hate my given name, which feels odd since it's objectively a masculine name. I just feel... nothing when I hear it. It's not some drastic hatred or feeling of disgust. It's just... the thing people call me.

So like, so what? It's just a name, right?

But then there's my body. I don't like my body. My belly is too fat, my torso too rectangular, my face too square. But I read these stories of revulsion. Stories of people who can't stand to look themselves naked in the mirror, and it makes me feel like I'm just faking it. Like, sure, I hate my body. But is it because I'm trans or do I just hate my body? Plenty of cis people hate their bodies.

And then, to top it all off. I've been growing my hair out and wearing more feminine clothing. Nothing crazy, just a cardigan instead of a regular sweatshirt and an actual top instead of a t-shirt. But people have started to notice, started to make comments.

The comments that strike me the most come from my grandfather. He has poor eyesight and dementia. It's gotten to the point that he doesn't even know who I am anymore. And when he see's me, he sees a girl, uses feminine pronouns and asks "Who's the girl you brought?" to my dad. As a transwoman, the logical result of these comments should be euphoria. I should be happy that someone who doesn't know about my transness see's me as a woman.

But when I hear these comments I feel absolutely nothing. Hell, it's worse than that. I feel embarrassed.

This has completely changed the way I feel about my transition. I want to be trans, I want to be a woman, but how can I be if being referred to as a woman makes me embarrassed? How can I be if I feel fine with a masculine name? How can I be if I don't feel repulsed by my body?

These questions feel wrong to ask, but I feel the need to ask them anyway.

I don't know. I'm just struggling and confused. It's probably the brainworms getting to me as per usual. But I thought I should put my thoughts into words and get some advice from the people that might have been in my shoes.

Anyway, any and all advice is appreciated. I just want to know what the fuck is going on.

With all the progress we’ve made being set back now by the wave of anti trans rhetoric and democrats throwing us under the bus do you think moving forward we will ever see anymore support and acceptance or has too much damage been done that we will always be seen as a problem that needs to be dealt with?

I’ve read somewhere that more than half of voters believe support for transgender rights in government and society has gone too far. About 2 in 10 said support has not gone far enough and another 2 in 10 said it's about right.

I been kind of on and off cypro for a year. Usually take sandrena gel 0.1% for estrogen. And I switched to spironolactone 25mg because cyproterone acetate makes me super depressed when I have it. The point I'm trying to make is my housemate says only having a half of spironolactone tablet won't do anything and that my doctor was probably just getting me off their back. Is this true? Would I need a higher dosage for daily effect? Just wanting further advice? Should I see a different doctor?

For context, I'm 19MtF, I was on 50mg Spironolactone twice daily and a 25mcg Estradot patch every 3 - 4 days for around 4 months. A few days ago my endocrinologist switched me to 100mg Spironolactone once daily, and a 50mcg Estradot patch every 3 - 4 days.

Is this a normal dose of estrogen? From my knowledge it is on the lower side for doses, but just wondering if that is enough to see any meaningful changes, because my experience on 25mcg was a whole lot of nothing.

I know im trans, but i dont know what to do. When i was little i HATED girly stuff, i strictly wore boy clothes, played with ‘boy’ toys, etc etc. When i was 9 i became more aware and just felt.. wrong? I would see boys playing and just feel really intense jealousy and i had no idea why. When i was 10 i knew i was a boy and i told my mum. She gave me the same old ‘your too young to know!’ but she wasnt exactly unsupportive? Ever since then ive repressed it but out of nowhere now the feelings ive been trying to hard to repress have been so much harder to ignore and i dont know what to do. Anytime i see a trans person come out i feel sick knowing thatll never be me but i know if i don’t transition ill be miserable my whole life. I just dont know what to do

Im scared that if i come out ill be relentlessly bullied by my classmates and my friends and im just so nervous to tell anyone.

So I'm nearly 20, and I've been on HRT for nearly 5 years. This journey has been..... Difficult to say the least. From begging my parents for their consent to navigating the medical system and care, it's taken a lot of effort and a lot of time.

Recently, I realized that I don't actually care much about being a woman, every time that I think about it, it has been just "oh I want to look pretty", "I wish I were the woman in this relationship" and never truly intrinsically about being the concept of a woman. It's basically all purely vanity and regarding appearances.

I've been thinking about detransitioning recently, but it just feel like I have lost so much. I've lost so much time, my parents would never look or think of me the same way, I lost friends and etc. I really don't want to say to my parents that I'm stopping this. Because they would put that in my face and say "we told you so." I don't want to admit that I was wrong. I was also in the process of scheduling FFS and SRS this year, and it just seems like I did so much for nothing? I feel like I'm experiencing the sunk cost fallacy, and I don't want to give it all up for naught.

Also, every detrans space is transphobic as fuck, especially on tumblr. So that also makes things harder.

😐 anyways, I'm just wondering if anyone else has any similar experiences? How did you get over the feeling that you've wasted your life? What did you do next? Thanks.

Hello everyone,

I'm myopic at around -3 to -4 diopter (the exact diagnosis escapes me, I haven't seen my script in years). Being in my mid forties the rate at which my eyesight changes has slowed over the years. I started wearing glasses at around 13, back then I had to change my prescription every year or so. The last time I had an eye test was ten years ago. I'm not an optician (but I did used to work at an optometrist, lol) but I suspect that once I get on hrt, it will be like a second puberty and this might involve having to change my lenses more often, this can be expensive.

Just asking what other people's experience with changes in eyesight were when starting medical transition. For reference I'm mtf.

Thanks in advance.

How do yall pick sex toys and stuff? Like finding something that feels good but also works genderwise.

Hi everyone. I'm a cis 25-year old male who took Pyrilutamide for 20 days in September. I was just trying it out for my hair thinking if I had side-effects, I would immediately stop and go back to normal.

However what proceeded after I stopped Pyrilutamide on the 20 day mark felt unprecendented. I started getting facial changes where my jaw started moving back, skin thinning all over my body and genitals, erectile dysfunction, and memory issues.

I'm currently under an endocrinologist for all of this. My total T when I went to the endocrinologist was 417 (before was 917) and my estradiol at 24. My DHT was 37ng/dl.

Are my symptoms too abnormal for a hormonal imbalance to cause of all of this and is this reversible with the right treatment? I keep looking at posts regarding PFS and I keep hoping its not that and just a regular hormonal imbalance.

Just wanted to ask folks here who have a bit more experience.

So I need suggestions on clothes I was thinking to go a mix of masc and fem but if that doesn’t work you guys have any suggestions.

The movie was so perfect i was trembling the whole time, but now i am just scared that i might end up like Owen... I wanted to watch it because i saw it mentioned in this sub alot so i did. I did know it was meant to be trans or idk how to call that and i did see it in it, but i am just scared i will endup like owen. Repressing forever till i am not here anymore.

So me and my girlfriend (MTF) have been together for almost a year now, we are in long distance relationship and planning on meeting next year. Lately, since the beginning of October to be precise, i’ve been dealing with this Internal conflict if i’m still attracted towards her or not.

I don’t know how to communicate this with her and how she would perceive it, and if we broke up it would shatter her heart which I don’t wanna see for her :(

To be noted that she has not started estrogen yet because she’s not out to her family. But i don’t really think this is an issue as i always try to be supportive of her and understand this journey.

I feel sick to my stomach there's no way in hell I can say this to her. I think she may actually transition and I'm totally okay with it but she mentioned hrt and now I'm scared. I read it can cause Ed and shrinkage and that just stresses me out. A huge part of me getting off has to do with penetration and I hate dildos. I can't imagine being sexually satisfied without penetration I don't want to break up over smth like this, what do I do I feel so sick. I don't want to get in the way of her transition but I can't just lie? What do I do I had no idea this was a thing when we talked.

I like being called by feminine pronouns and treated in a feminine way, but sometimes i feel disgusted when i look in the mirror and think about using feminine pronouns, even though i like it.

I know this has been asked before but hear me out, the other threads weren't quite as helpful as I'd hoped...

If one speculated about what (biologically) must determine sexuality in the first place (we don't know for sure, I'll be clear), the only thing that makes sense is hormones during developmental periods like puberty cause different brain pathways to form and therefore different physiological sex responses, arousal basically.

My question though, is can taking hormones later in life change your sexuality? Like, you see the sex you were not previously attracted to, and now you feel arousal.

I reckon it wouldn't change in everyone, because brain pathways formed at different periods in your life and at different hormonal are probably sufficiently "entrenched" to not change a lot of the time... But surely people under 25 (and therefore possessing developing brains) could theoretically experience a difference?

Anyway, I haven't been able to find any studies on this that looked terribly compelling or answered my question, though there were a lot of near misses... So now I'm resorting to asking for anecdotal evidence on reddit.

Trans folk of reddit, did you experience a difference in sexuality after or during transition? Were you aroused by things or people that you were not previously?

I figure if enough people say that was part of their experience then it's probably not just 100% reversal of repression due to an change image.

I had this ex friend and I really liked his name and when we were still friends i complemented him on his name. We had a brief convo about how funny/weird it would be if i were to yk make my new name his name. I didnt out of respect and bc it would be akward. Would it be bad for me to change my name now after we stopped being friends? We probably wont see each other after hs, and i wanted to know if it is weird to do that? Or bad? Or straight up wrong to do.

I had this ex friend and I really liked his name and when we were still friends i complemented him on his name. We had a brief convo about how funny/weird it would be if i were to yk make my new name his name. I didnt out of respect and bc it would be akward. Would it be bad for me to change my name now after we stopped being friends? We probably wont see each other after hs, and i wanted to know if it is weird to do that? Or bad? Or straight up wrong to do.

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I’m about to start taking estradiol every week (yay!) and I have a question for anyone that’s taken it intramuscularly before

My pharmacy has given me a bunch (twenty five) 23 gauge needles and I’m not entirely sure thats correct.

Shouldn’t I have been given one size needle to pull the E from the vial and another size needle to inject?

Or am I wrong? Does anyone use the same needle to pull that they use to inject??

i have a slightly medium skirt (is really cute i love it HAHA) but i struggle a lot to sit more femmenine, i would like to sit with my knees closer together but when i do i feel very uncomfortable, can someone give me some tips? :(

Is this a thing? I don't know how to describe it. My gender identity kind of fluctuates. Most of the time I feel girly or at least feminine, sometimes I feel no gender at all I'm just me and on very rare occasions I feel a bit boyish. Help?

Ive recently come out as a trans woman to myself and my partner. We eloped and have been married for 3 years and together 4. She is easily the best thing thats ever happened and the most amazing person Ive ever had the blessing of meeting. She had inclinations from the start of our relationship and without pushing me helped me understand what Ive been feeling and helping me live my truth. Since Ive come out she has done nothing but support me and try to understand and help in whatever way possible, she is selfless to a fault. With all the suppprt shes been giving me shes also told me that while she does love and wants to support me through this its still so much to come to terms with and shes having a hard time with the loss of the old me. I think shes more than valid in feeling that way and I wish I wouldve had this figured out before her to save her from the headache.

I want to have the tools to support her like she does for me, but I feel so caught up on the fact she has a person to grieve for while in my mind its more of actually being me for the first time. How do I reassure without pushing her to accept thats it still me but actually me. How do I validate her without letting my intrusive thoughts spin off of her worries and concerns.

I am 23 nonbinary femme, been to Tampa and Orlando areas a lot to visit family and friends but not familiar with Miami. Florida is generally not a good place for queer people but Last time I was in FL I dressed pretty gender neutrally and never ran into issues at all, not even stares or weird looks. Anyone have suggestions for queer and trans friendly areas in Miami to visit as a nonbinary person? I act and dress very feminine fyi. I’ll be with a friend for better guidance and protection too. Also looking for a good gay bar or queer population center where I could meet other people who are also LGBTQ.

It's been a long time coming, but my hrt consultation at Planned Parenthood is in a few days (finally!)

Is there anything I should know beforehand or be prepared for? I think I roughly know what to expect but this is still gonna be new to me.

I was put on this amount of patches to be roughly equivalent to the dose of pills is what i was told at least.