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Hi everyone. I’m thinking about going to Madrid Pride / Barcelona on a solo trip. I was wondering if anyone has been and how it was for gaysian men?

I’m about 5’9, 31, lean masc presenting as I have facial hair and generally fit.

I have never set foot in Spain, but have had racist experiences with Spaniards abroad. One time in France, a group of Spaniards at a bar made fun of me and pulled their eyes backwards making fun of Asian eyes. I have also heard from many friends that Spaniards can be very racist and xenophobic.

However, I have met locals abroad that although non-gay were very nice.

Just wanted to get an idea before making my mind!

Also open to recommendations, and safety tips :) Thank you!

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Hi everyone,

My name is Johnathan and I host the Queers of Color book club, a virtual book club where we solely read books written by and for queer POCS. I thought it’d be nice to extend an invitation to everyone on here since I’ve seen some posts about people seeking community, especially online communities that are made with us in mind. While we are primarily a book club, we do have a discord server where we get to know each other, share resources, etc. I’ll post the join link to our club below for anyone interested!

Everyone is welcome and respected in this space regardless of gender identity, ethnicity, or sexual orientation.

https://bookclubs.com/clubs/6005190/join/4d2431/

I hope to see you at our next meeting!

• Johnathan 🌈

Just a general ask. I like to think that I am a pretty decent person looks wise and I know I am a great person once you get to know me. My thing is that for as long as I can remember I have always had this androgynous thing to me. Like people struggle to tell if I am a guy or a girl which I like because I am Non-binary, it just makes dating a bit of a challenge. Guys say I am not masc enough and girls say that they do not want to date someone who looks better than them body-wise. Physical attraction is something that fades quickly for me so I don't focus too much on that. My overall question is what do I do and how to I navigate a playing that is stacked against me at all odds?

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2. Any worries on your mind you need to release into the world?

3. How are you participating in self-care today/this week/this month?

Hello, I’m considering a visit to Denver next month with the possibility of relocating, and I’m curious about the LGBTQ+ scene, particularly for black men. I’ve heard concerns about diversity within the community. Could you share your experiences in Colorado in general? I’m eager to learn more about the inclusivity and support available for LGBTQ+ individuals, especially those from diverse backgrounds like mine. 😐

I feel like a disproportionate number of interactions with white and east asian (Chinese, Korean) gays are rarely positive. This is in opposition to my interactions with black, Latinos, and non-american white gays which on the whole seem to be a lot more positive. As another wrinkle, my experiences in straight white spaces are generally more positive than those in gay white ones.

Is this something that other people experience? Am I seeing a pattern that's not there?

Hey! I'm a genderqueer POC mod of a 400+ member support server. It has a community-ran resource list and private channels for verified members for more privacy and safety than is afforded in other servers:

https://discord.com/invite/84zruw6xYp

We're a pretty chill community while shutting down trolls quickly. The litmus test is kindness: whether what someone is saying or doing is intended to help others. Mods here don't do weird "gotchas", go on power trips, or try to enforce a thick rulebook that nobody is gonna memorize, lol. It's common sense, not that deep.

https://np.reddit.com/r/gaybros/comments/1azhyvt/whats_hard_about_being_black_and_gay/

One thing I did was stop following the otters subreddit. I'm attracted to hirsuteness, but it's not a requirement for me. Following that subreddit was showing me guys who are unlikely to be attracted to me and reminding me of a standard I'll never meet. I noticed a boost in my mood after that change.

What strategies do people here have?

p.s.: I learned about what some Asian gays face that I never would have imagined without their contributions. The post is not exclusive, but the same approaches may not work for both groups.

Edit: I also cleaned up my Twitter feed. I'm a very much physically attracted to some of those hairy Latin types, but it's not healthy for me to be continually bombarded with images of people who would only desire me for something that's unobtainable. At this point, I don't remember how into white guys I was because I made the decision to let that go several years back. No regrets.

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I read this term a day or two ago and I thought to myself "how many people are in one-sided relationships they don't know about?"

If you knew you were, what has been your experience been like? Or flip it, if you were in a relationship where you knew they weren't the one, why did you keep them around?

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If anyone has experince making spaces for LGBTQ+ people of color, I'd love to hear any tips and pieces of advice! I mostly want to learn about keeping the space inclusive and safe for people to participate. Some other groups I've looked into in the past have had issues with people sort of making an established group that doesn't really seem approachable to newcomers, and I'd like to avoid that.

I've been looking into this lately because some friends and I would like to make a group like this for students at our university. I also appreciate learning about online groups because there's a lot of overlap. Plus, I wouldn't mind being a part of an online space like this.

Hello folks!

I'm a South Asian male living in a West Coast city for nearly 3 years now. Does anyone on here experience issues with getting dates, despite living in a major, 'liberal' city? I live in a city where almost every gay male is either white or is chasing white gays (I'm a gay male too). I am honestly really exhausted from trying to look for connections. I feel so dehumanized when people disregard me because of my appearance (presumably because of my skin color). I'm not exclusively chasing white guys - but the city's gay population is overwhelmingly white, who don't look at you if you're a dark-skinned person or PoCs chasing white gays. I feel so hopeless when it comes to dating or potentially finding someone that I can have a relationship with. I moved here from my homophobic country thinking that I'd be able to have a healthy dating and social life - but now I think I was foolish to be optimistic. As far as my social life goes, I feel hopeless and sometimes wonder if there's any value to my life since people have always treated me so poorly - in my home country, I faced societal abuse because of my sexuality and feminine mannerisms, and here I face issues because of my race/skin color. Any words of advice or motivation would be appreciated, can really use a boost now.

Hey yall! I live in a small lil town atm with like 0 to none queer people, especially BIPOC queer ppl. With that being said, I would love to make connection with BIPOC queer folk. If anyone knows any discord servers or just digital spaces that are nice and welcoming, I would love to join!

What I find annoying is how some people are becoming casually racist and if you try say anything against them you're automatically considered woke or something.

What I can never understand is how in today era, which is my generation for gay community is wanting acceptance but within the community they can't even accept everyone part of the community. Even main stream media mainly portrays gay community with white men only persona. Where they're deemed highly attractive and seen as top tier prize. Compare to others who are supposedly deemed as not good enough to receive that attraction.

Even on Reddit you see that issue with Ask Gay Bros and other sub reddits. It's worse when they act like none of the things you talk about happens within the community.

If it's not that, we're usually acted upon stereotype within the gay community like we're expected to be a certain way to attract them like we're animals instead of human being who wants to simply live life. To end this rant, wtf is wrong with people these days.

I am determined to find a boyfriend for the new year to wear matching outfits and split my rent (lol).

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Bayard Rustin was a gay black man who was instrumental in the Civil Rights movement. He organized the 1963 March on Washington and got his friend, Martin Luther King, to speak. That’s where King gave his “I have a dream…” speech. So why have most folks never heard of Bayard Rustin? Because he was an unapologetic gay man, he was kept in the shadows. Barack and Michelle Obama have produced an excellent, fast paced movie about him that’s now on Netflix. It’s a must see!!!

As a black gay man who has learned that being black is seem as undesirable to majority msn regardless of race, how do you cope? I want to hear from other black mem, please no asian because as far as I'm concerned , Asians (at least east asian) don't face the kind of undesirabilty that black men do and even asian men by and large don't prefer black men l. You're more likely to find black men open to asian men buy hardly the reverse so please, black guys only.

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Shoot Your Shot is a speed dating platform created by a dating coach, Lamont White.

Would any of you appear on a live social media speed dating show to meet a new boo?

If not, what are the best ways to meet a new boo?

Transplants is a scripted web series centering Black gay stories. It follows 2 friends who enter a business selling 🍑 and weed. It is on YouTube.

The project was written by Alscott Worrell.

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