I was having a conversation with an Irish American friend of my friend, and discovered that she didn't know that If you have an Irish grandparent you are entitled to Irish Citizenship.

Ireland does not have great trans healthcare, but we also don't have a major far right. Our radical right is (well funded but) miniscule by comparison to our European and American friends, and there hasn't been the same crusade against trans people here as in the UK or US. Also as an Irish Citizen you would have the right to live and work anywhere in the EU or UK. You'd also get an Irish passport, meaning US officials can't deny you one (as I've seen reported happening).

This is probably not most people's first port of call. But it is an option, even if you aren't entitled to citizenship.

Stay safe out there friends <3

Hey! Anyone had any experience choosing glasses whilst still sort of in the closet? I've got an eye test appointment later in the month with Specsavers (UK) and I want to get some sightly more feminine glasses (but not overly so), mainly just getting some from the women's selection.

Will they likely be funny with me about it or can I just say I want to look at them?

I dress kind of feminine (skinny jeans mainly) and long hair, I can accidentally pass but my voice is rubbish. I'm just worried about the whole thing that's all

Thank you!!

Now to preface I am an 18 year old trans woman from the UK and this post is just an accumulation of the numerous reasons as to why I completely and utterly give in-

i came out a number of years ago and I had support from my family besides the odd faux pas from my Father and his inability to call me anything but mate but that's not really the meat of this post.

I was trans at an age where support could have been granted to me and was completely necessary but was not- I aged, changed and developed and my worst fears came to pass and still at 18 with no hrt or anything in sight I feel as though I'm rotting meat. I am invisible

the trans people who surrounded me got the help they needed, at first I dismissed it because some were older but when people years My junior got T I thought someone's pulling some mean joke on me and I don't like it ...

I don't think there will come a time where its manageable- I sound like kratos, I'm build like a brick shithouse and I'm looking for some iota of something on this app to help me- without some dismissive wisdom with themes of grandeur and saying I'm young...

Hey,

I'm on HRT for 6 months now, doing laser, slowly socially transitioning and all that stuff. HRT is working great, especially on my body below the neck. However, laser on my beard and neck is going pretty slow as expected, it is getting better, but theres almost no more shadow on my face, most is on my neck. I still have to shave every day though.

But the dysphoria regarding my face and facial hair is becoming worse and worse by the day, and idk what to do right now.

Yesterday, I applied make up to hide the remaining shadow, and just went crazy 20-30 minutes after that for some reason. Started rubbing it off with a dry cloth while crying, leaving my face a red and bloddy mess, obviously. Thinking about how all of this is just 'fake', I'll never pass, people laugh about me, Im a disgrace to my family, a guy living out a fetish fantasy etc.

Any advice on how you girls snap out of phases like that? Ive not eaten for two days aswell, to punish myself? Idk. Its pretty bad right now too, I already fear showering and looking into the mirror to shave...my heart just keeps on beating and hurting because of my self image, my dysphoria wasn't that bad some months ago...

I never changed my gender marker and name before this administration and I was wondering if you gals think its a good idea now? I obviously want too but given everything going on isn’t it likely to just put myself in more danger to have any discrepancies between my id and birth certificate, etc. I don’t know Im just stressed out and curious what other trans fems think about this.

As the title suggests, tomorrow is my first appointment. I'm hoping to pick up my prescription later that day and start right away.

Is there anything you wish you knew or wish you did before starting or while really early into the whole process?

Thanks so much for your input!

I have managed to pick a slightly suboptimal time to start thinking about this stuff, and based purely on the amount of thinking I've done recently, I can probably conclude that I'm not totally 100% cis, but I also don't really know beyond that. But anyway: I've read a fair bit of stuff about potential signs, and one that appears every time is not feeling like you fit in with 'the boys'. I can relate to varying degrees to a not-insignificant amount of the things usually mentioned, but this one, I really do not. Most of my friends are male, and I have always felt awkward to borderline uncomfortable in situations where I am the only male, so I just suppose I am looking for others with a similar experience, because that one is very ubiquitous and I don't really know how to interpret it.

The other thing is: I unintentionally seem to have cultivated a not particularly tolerant friend group, and I don't feel remotely comfortable discussing this kind of thing with them in the slightest. I don't know if they've always been like this and if it took me growing out of being an edgy teenage moron to notice or if they've slowly become more misogynistic/homophobic/transphobic/etc over time (depends on the person, some of them seem equally uncomfortable as me when the others start going down those routes in conversation), but I also don't really want to just cut them out of my life. My family moved a few times when I was a kid, and so I've had to lose all my friends and start over a few times already and I really, REALLY don't want to have to go through all of that again, and, fundamentally, I still like being around them when they aren't saying questionable things? I'm not even sure I know what I'm asking with this, except how to proceed, I guess? Idk.

So im 3 years into my transformation and feel as though something is missing from my life…I want to be a woman but I can’t get a period or have a baby.

Is there a way I can simulate having my first period? It’s an itch I’ve been trying to scratch for some time now. I will never truly feel like the woman I want to be until I’ve experienced the shedding of my uterus.

Basically the title

I love reasing fanfics and i often try to find some with trans female characters since well I am transfem

And theres a bunch of good ones, like i cried and laughed and sobbed and got angry all for the fan written versions of characters

But whenever its t4t (specifically two trans woman) its almost always weirdly fetishising? Its a bit difficult to pinpoint but the way the language is used and the way things are glossed over or disregarded

Like if theres one trans fem character the story normally deals with her problems, sometimes very deeply, including disphoria, family issues and inabbility to transition sometimes

But the second theres two its like the author forgot that both these characters are yknow trans

And not just two woman to throw at each other

I probably have missed a bunch of good t4t fanfics and I know ive read some good ones , weirdly mainly when its st4t, but by now Im just annoyed at fanfics with good premises getting ruined (for me) by this

Idk I might be weird about this

https://www.tiktok.com/t/ZT26vS7tG/

So yeah, I'm not exactly okay, I'm struggling a lot with my adhd, some strong depression, and i had a previous half-assed diagnostic of bipolar disorder, it's not entirely confirmed cause i had to change my healthcare provider and never got fully diagnosed, that was maybe 3 years ago, i got put on antipsychotics for a week and then, as i lost contact with my psychiatrist i just kept taking the quetiapine.

Shit is not going well and a lot of it is because of my body dysphoria, i really fucking hate this shit. The thing is, my psychologist took their sweet time to give my hrt the green light, she asked to talk with my mother and i had to come out to my entire family because she felt like i was not ready to get hrt if i didn't started my social transition, it fuckin sucked, but i think she was just being professional, it was like 5 months of appointments (not a lot of sessions, its just that they are overworked and the wait times are ridiculous).

I want to ask for some psychiatric help, but i fear that if i do it, they would maybe postpone my hrt appointments, my blood work, std tests and ultrasounds are scheduled to July and i receive my hrt on august. One of my biggest anxiety triggers is time, i fucjking hate my life because after decades i have to wait another few months to finally start feeling better with my body and my mind, i just dont know what to do. Maybe asking for help ends up being counterporductive and i end up more depressive if they reschedule my shit another year. If i have psychiatric help it has to be there because I'm not fucking rich and they are the only medical provider that covers the costs of the medical attention and the actual hrt, its a trans clinic, and they have pretty much everything from regular doctors to psychologists, psychiatrists, endos, everything, its a god send, and its also my only option.

Have you had similar experiences?

Hey girls I feel so terrible. I know a lot of you girls are lesbians and are into other girls and I totally respect that and I promise I’m not homophobic. Unfortunately I had a horrible experience with another trans girl who reached out to me for help on getting started on hrt and advice on transitioning. I was very eager and happy to help her. She explained how she had been wanting to and knew since she was 7. I gave her a virtual hug and I congratulated her for wanting to take the next steps. I eventually sent her a selfie because I wanted to show her progress pics. She complimented me and called me beautiful and all the good things. We discussed our sexual orientations and I told her I’m a straight girl and I’m only into men. She told me she is bi since high school. Well she eventually called me attractive to which I was flattered. She then started to flirt with me and tried to get at me. I don’t know how to say it another way lol I’m gen z. She was basically flirting with me and then she asked me for my number and I had to reject her nicely because I don’t like girls in that way. She just kept insisting me and started harrasing me and I started getting mad and she started taunting me saying it’s “hot” that I’m getting mad. I just kept insisting that I’m straight and only like men. To this she said some horrible stuff. Girls I’m so sorry. I feel like maybe it’s my fault. What she said made feel so gross. She said “I’m not technically a girl yet cause I’m not on hrt and I was born a man” and she just kept insisting with that or something along those lines. Thaat made me feel so weird. I told her that as long as she’s trans then she is a real girl no matter what. Then she said “What if I switch and I don’t identify as trans?” She was staring to piss me off. I told her that being trans isn’t a fucking choice and it’s not a fucking game. I don’t know why this happened to me or if I’m overreacting. I’m sorry girls if I’m offending anyone. I’m very sorry. All I want is to spread love and kindness 🥺

Sorry and thank you my beautiful sisters -Rosie 🌹

alright so how often should I change razors?
I shave once every 2 days and I was wondering when I'd need to change razor anyway thanks you all for reading this :3

Before starting I was very depressed, and deep deep into the closet. I started E on 1/27 on the second day I just started coming out to people. I stopped caring about what they thought. Started wearing makeup outside. I don't even care about passing rn. I've had no super negative responses, and most of the people I care about find it cool and interesting. Other than answering 1000 questions lifes never been better. I'm not yet social transitioning. But I refuse to hide in the dark any longer. I'm Trans and for once in my life I love myself.

like i'm absolutely certain if an alien were to come here and see how we're treated just for being different, they would either nope out of this galaxy so fast or purge the entirety of earth before the bigotry and hatred of humanity can spread to their galaxy like the cancer it is

Has anyone ever setup a go fund me for top surgery. If so how did it work out?

Heyy I'm really needing a bit of help, I'm wanting to do better with voice training. Is there any tips, tricks, advice you have on how to craft a beautiful voice?

Basically just what the title is asking. I’ve been on Estradiol/Spiro for just under 18 months but haven’t started progesterone yet, though I want to start. I feel like at the 18 month mark I’m at a good spot to take the next step but wanna make sure. Additionally, what dosage for capsules is a “good” dosage? I’m seeing either 100mg or 200mg, and I don’t know which to go for

Thanks :3

One of my good friends that I’ve been out to for a couple years now who had been pretty okay since coming out. I’d have a hard time calling him an ally. But regardless he’s getting better and tbh i think the state of the US is radicalizing him a little. But he asked me me, “hey I know I say ‘Man’ alot, I use it in a neutral sense, but I understand if you don’t like it, so is there something else I can use” which was a huge step forward, but I don’t have a good alt for him haha, he asked if bud was better and I think its better but still don’t love it. So any thoughts on other alternatives.

I'm about to go to my appointment for updating my gender at an in-person Passport Processing Center tomorrow that allows for same day passports if traveling out of the country in less than two weeks. During my appointment and before I turn in anything, and especially before I sign anything or give them my passport, I'm going to ask the agent questions about everything happening with passports. If anyone has any specific questions they'd like me to ask the actual employees processing passports within the State Department while I have the opportunity, please comment or message me them so hopefully I can get as many answers as possible for the community. Admins and Mods of this subreddit and others I'd greatly like to hear the questions you have to.

Some of the questions I was going to ask were:

•Even if applications for changing gender marker can still be accepted for processing, is their processing suspended or frozen, and the documents/ID sent in with them to be set aside or kept? As due to new instructions from the Secretary of State to implement the new executive order as it pretains to passports?

•Have you already had instances or cases here where applications being processed seeking to change gender marker on passport are now suspended/frozen? And if you have, if legal/proof of citizenship documents like previous passport or birth certificate submitted with the application are now being set aside or held and not immediately returned the applicant?

•Will I be able to apply for an entirely new passport if I don't have my birth certificate or previous passport because it is set aside or being held by the State Department and there is no other information provided to me or you on it by the State Department or any other government agency or department?

•Follow up, and if I am able to still apply for an entirely new one even with my birth certificate or previous passport being set aside and held by the State Department with no information given, would my application even be able to be processed and be able to then be approved to get the new one due the State Department themselves setting aside and holding possession my proof of citizenship documents?

So, I am rapidly approaching my 18th, and I’m incredibly eager to finally start my physical transition. However, there’s an issue. I’m in a primarily red state(Missouri), and it’ll make starting a pain in the ass. So, I wanted to know if anyone knew any online providers they’d recommend, that way it’ll hopefully be easier.

I feel.. literally like I don't want to exist, to the point that I'd rather die and hope to just retry rather than having to live inside my body. I can't cope with the fact that my body doesn't produce E on its own or the fact that I don't have a womb. I can't deal with just these 2 things the only 2 things I know that make me different from anyone AFAB and it makes me seriously consider suicide and praying that I'd get to try again because I don't want to live in this body... Is this Dysphoria? If it is how is it so existential how do you cope?

I don't even want to be trans I want to be AFAB I don't want labels I just want to be socially percieved and biologically 100% woman I hate that I wasn't born this way I hate that I'm alive now and not, I would literally rather die and take the ~50/50 chance of just being born a woman. How do I cope with this? I'm transitioning but does that even help? I feel like I can never get over this.

I had another doctors appointment a few days ago where I was suppose to start hrt... but they decided to push it back another month as a precaution. I'm just so frustrated with all the caution... if it kills me then it kills me.

I just want everything to be in motion and it feels like everyday I am just losing a bit more of myself. Everyday, my future is delayed. I'm so angry that I wasted 8 years of my life to fear.

I just don't want to see that person who's pretending to be me anymore. I just want to see myself for longer then a split second. I want people to see ME.

I've seen several comments accoss trans-cyber-space by people asking if there is a list of the hospitals which are complying in advance and ending gender affirming care for 18 year old adults and minors despite Trump's EOs not having the force of law.

I compiled a list below of the ones I am aware of. If you know of others please post them in the comments and I'll update the list here in the OP. Ideally please also share a link to the source of the information. Thanks!

COLORADO

University of Colorado Health (source)

Denver Health Hospital (source)

NEW YORK

New York University Langone (source)

VIRGINIA

Virginia Commonwealth University (source)

University of Virginia (source)

Virginia Commonwealth University Health (source)

Children’s Hospital of Richmond (source)

WASHINGTON D.C.

Children’s National Hospital (source)

I’m in college and I live in a house with five men, and they’re not super good at cleaning. It’s a li’l annoying for a neat freak like myself, but it’s whatever. They’re cool guys.

Sometimes when I find myself doing housework for them I get this feeling like I’m a mother taking care of my boys, and it’s a brand of euphoria that isn’t like any other. The night after a party or whatever I’ll go downstairs in the morning and see the mess, and just think “oh, honey” and clean up after them.

I know it’s a little reductive and is basically just fulfilling gender roles but it feels right. Maybe cuz I’m becoming more like my mom or something? Either way I felt the need to share lol!

https://youtu.be/ZuV9323DAI4

Why are online support groups chats always so toxic? I always feel so much worse about myself after joining them Does anyone else feel like that? Why is it so hard for people to be supportive without snide comments?

21g needles are larger and easier to draw the viscous liquid out with, but it seems like they might be more likely to core the rubber stopper for the same reason.

Do any of you use 23g needles to draw with, and do you think it helps keep each vial sterile for longer?

Thanks!

Since it is entirely possible that those of us in the U.S. are going to lose access to HRT in the near future, I thought it would be good to just suggest the usage of low dead space syringes for those of us on injections. Using these syringes minimizes how much injection is wasted, ensuring our estradiol vials last as long as possible. I'm using these right now - very little is left in the syringe after each injection, and they inject very smoothly compared to what my pharmacy gives me:

EasyTouch 802010 Luer Lock Tuberculin Syringe Barrels, TB, 1ml, 100/Box - https://www.shopmedvet.com/222919

I always drank a lot of water(screw kidney stones, not dealing with THAT) but after I got a higher dosage implant it feels like I'm dehydrated all the damn time! I go through SO MUCH WATER, I wake up in the middle of the night now with a mouth that feels like I was gargling a salt covered sponge for a week and down like 2L of water in one breath and im still thirsty! WTH?!