Hi! How did you start to wear the prefered clothing and gardens and When? I am soon in my 7th week of hrt. Ive been wearing traditionally women clothing at home years before I started hrt but im thinking of discretely starting to wear some things in public, like women shirts and trousers (trousers is a must really because the position of the waist have changed a bit). Is it a good idea? or is it better to just start straight away with everything (maybe When the body have developed a bit more, beard shadow gone etc)

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Since I started my hormone therapy last year (estradiol and later also progesterone supplementation; testosterone suppression: cyproterone), my sex drive has been almost nonexistent. This has been tough to deal with for me and my partner.

I live in Germany where the choices for E are basically gel or patches. I switched from gel to patches a few months ago (for convenience), but I still had quite a lot of gel left over. Since P (200 mg) hadn't done anything for my libido as I had hoped, I decided to use the leftover gel to raise my E to see if that would do anything.

On just the patches, my E has been at about 150 pg/ml. Before that, applying 5 mg daily in gel form got me up to 190. For this experiment, I added 4 mg of gel daily to the existing patches. I don't know how much that actually raised my E levels, but it may possibly have been around 300 or 310.

All I know is that within a week or two, my sex drive was back, including sustained erections. I told my endo about this discovery, hoping he would be interested in helping me with this. But he was just appalled and said I was using way too much, potentially dangerous amounts due to blood clot risk and who knows what else (I thought only oral E came with that risk?!). He didn't even want to test my levels on this dosage, but ordered me to drop it back down to only the patches and maybe .5 - 1 mg of gel. I followed his orders, and soon enough (within a week) my sex drive was gone again. My questions to the community experts:

1. Is it possible that raising the E up to levels of possibly 300+ could have had the effect I described? Through what mechanism?

2. Would sustaining that level of E be dangerous long term, or is my endo wrong?

3. Could it actually have been increased conversion from P or its metabolites into androgens, somehow facilitated by the higher E?

Thanks in advance for any thoughts on this!

hi girlies,

it’s just been kinda rough recently. i’m tired. everyone is distancing themselves. i feel like the dysphoria just isn’t going away. i haven’t had a flash of euphoria in a while. things aren’t going good for me mentally rn. i think i just need some positivity and affirmation to lighten this mood.

TL;DR: How do you handle greetings, especially farewell with old male friends who knew you before transitioning? Will be less weird after starting HRT?

Long story: Okay I'm not that new, doing social transitioning for a while and hopefully I'm a few months away from HRT. But the point I don't know how to figure this out. I'm reintroduceing myself for male friends from before and while it is (and was always) much easier with women I'm feeling awkward with men. Especially when we say goodbye. While at greating you can wave. But it feels weird at the end. I know they instinctly wanna go with handshake but I deny it. But then they don't wanna kiss on the cheek or hug because... IDK ... I guess masculinity and stuff (even if they accept me, they probably still seeing me as an ex-man despite all their efforts) And then the weird awkwardness just rising... Up to the point where I go here looking for advice because it's getting more and more common as I go back to the living and having social life again.

I go with handshake only for introducing myself. Then kiss on the cheek or hugging with woman (if they're okay with it). Are there any other feminine options with guys? I'm not a fan of fist bump feels like I'm a bro... I did high five ones, funny but weird... And there is waving I guess... And probably it's different between male female friends and colleagues.

I also realized I probably don't know enough about greetings etiquette for women and should do some research. But so interested reading your experiences and advices.

When I was first prescribed my doctor gave me medroxy saying it was the only prescription they could give. I quickly learned it did nothing for me, and it was harmful as well. I shorted to a DIY cream that has worked to some extent but want to try to get on a prescription again. How do I communicate with my doctor to see if I can get bio-identical prescribed now, since it's been some time? What is the name of the actual prescription so I don't get something dangerous. Thanks.

I had the worst date of my life last night, he showed up 20 minutes late, said Im looking to "experiment" 3 or 4 times, said "I'm not gay, but I'm into you" (something every girl wants to hear), what made me leave was him abruptly saying "We better go back to yours because I'm scared of what my flatmates would say".

I've spent way to long hiding who I am, I'm finally proud and happy with who I am. I want a man to celebrate me and be proud to be seen with me. I'm tired of these straight boys who just see me as an object.

I'm never going to date a straight man again, I've had three romantic experiences with straight cis men and every one has left me crying. Never again.

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Yeeeeeeeeeeey!!! They are starting!!! My boobies are starting!!!

I have been booping my tits at work almost hourly the last week or two. The pain is more than I could have ever imagined, like getting kicked in the balls, but it’s nice and affirming. I can’t wait to see what the future brings. HRT SEP 24/24 🩵

TW: Israel

TL;DR: It looks like Israel is the only country I could feasibly immigrate to if I was forced to flee the US. Setting aside the genocide (if you can, I understand if you can’t) - what is their treatment of trans citizens like?

Ok, so I have a dilemma:

Now that Trump’s been elected, I’ve been actively trying to figure out an exit strategy for the worst case scenario coming to pass in the US. (Project 2025 talks about making trans people existing in the vicinity of minors a sex crime, and then unaliving all sex criminals. While I think this is unlikely to come to fruition, it’s still a concern and a possible eventuality I’d rather be prepared for than not)

Currently from what I’ve researched so far, I can temporarily get into Canada relatively easily - I just have to act like I’m going to visit a friend or something to get over the border. Idk how finding a job, apartment, etc. would go tho. This route is also complicated by the fact that I have a Pitbull (her name is Stella), a breed which is currently banned at least in Ontario - the province I live closest to (Toronto’s an awesome city if you ever get the chance to visit). So this option is incredibly risky and imperfect.

So I’ve been trying to figure out if there’s any country I could quickly/easily immigrate to. My dad’s German, but I asked him last week and he said his great grandpa (or his great grandpa’s dad) was the one who came over to the US - which is way too many generations removed for me to have a citizenship claim there. And my mom’s Russian, so that’s a no-go by default.

But today it dawned on me: My mom is also Jewish, which is how I was raised (I don’t really practice anymore tho, but that’s not really relevant right now). Israel has a “Right of Return” law, which means any person on earth of Jewish descent can claim citizenship there. I could start the process tomorrow if I wanted to.

So here’s my question to the group: Does anyone know how trans people are treated in Israel? Stuff like: is it easy to access trans healthcare, is the general population ok with us, etc? I know they have anti-discrimination protections written into law, but are those laws enforced or is it just for show?

I’m only asking because this seems like the single option I would realistically have if the worst case scenario happens here in the US. I’m planning to stay and fight for our rights in 99% of scenarios, but if the US government actively starts trying to kill me just for being trans, I’d like to at least have an escape route prepared.

Please try to set aside the complete atrocity that is the Palestinian genocide that Israel is committing, if you can. That’s not what this post is about. I do not condone the actions of the Israeli government, and I would absolutely join in the anti-genocide protests that happen there if I were to get citizenship. I’m purely inquiring about their treatment of trans citizens within their borders for this discussion. Please keep it civil if you can.

Thanks!

I just summited to get my gender marker changed on my social security, passport, and birth certificate!!! I feel so content.

Please please please if you can’t afford to get a new passport I understand but changing your social security card is free. Fill out a SS-5, make an appointment and bring your ID. It was extremely painless and its only painless because of a biden exec order.

Unfortunately i’m gonna have to do it all over again in a year(ish) when I get my name changed but very unlikely that the name change process will change at all.

So I'm dealing with a bit of an issue and that is explaining to my mom what it means to be a trans woman. She has been not really understanding what it means to be trans and why it's so important to me. I've been socially transitioning since September but i was out to her since may. Luckily my social transition is going well as people have been very supportive Outside of my family. Sadly despite everyone else using my chosen name and pronouns my family refuse no matter how much I plead. At first I was able to deal with it cause at least most people use it. But now it's awful because I can't stand the fact that the only people in my life who don't respect me are my family. I've tried to reason to her bit everytime I ask I get either a no responce or and idk. Neither of which are very satisfying. She is a good mom other than that it's literally my only issue but for me it's a big issue. She isn't stopping me from transitioning but isn't supporting the decision either. She told me I can't for her to use my new name and pronouns and idk how to respond cause I don't want to force them. I want to do it cause they respect me. This decision could affect our future relationship. So any advice on how to go about showing her why it's so important to me. Also how can I explain to her what being trans really is cause she thinks it's purely about external things like clothed make up and looks but that's not it how can I make it make sense to someone who is trans and just doesn't understand how big these issues are.

How do you girls deal with imposter syndrome? I've been dealing with it a fair bit here lately. Especially as a lesbian.

Sooo I was buying a ticket to see my girlfriend this Christmas and the Amtrak website kept blocking my purchase with 2-step authentication that I couldn’t go past. It was literally like “click continue” and there was NO CONTINUE BUTTON!!

So I called my bank to turn off two-step for the next day so I could get the tickets. Seeing as they had my full name and I knew I was gunna be “sir’d” the whole time, i decided it would be fun to “speak like a guy” again. My voice has strangely gotten to the point where even when I’m chatting in what I think is my normal voice, people assume I’m a woman, WHICH IS AWESOME, but that’s being ignored here atm since my deadname is printed right in front of them. :P

So passing the first “hello there MR. Deadname, what can I do for you?” I started casually chatting, did my usual funny bits here and there, and kept clear communication to solve the issue. In a way I felt like I was more trying to “act like my old self.” It was very interesting, and it made me feel like I was doing improv or something. So i kinda like… tried to deepen my voice? Have more of a “bro” way of speaking, and funny enough I didn’t feel super distressed by it. When the call was over, I felt like it was more just a funny conversation than it was a “stressful situation” with constant sir + deadname combo.

Maybe when they don’t SEE me and gender me wrong I care less? Maybe the problem at hand was more important to solve than correcting pronoun usage? I guess i’d say I’m happy that I felt comfy and dealt with it with no issue. 🤷‍♀️🤷‍♀️🤷‍♀️

heres the link to my original post: https://www.reddit.com/r/MtF/comments/1h5t8eb/odd_new_dysphoria_i_need_some_help/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web3x&utm_name=web3xcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button

I've spent the day doing research on r/otherkin and r/Therian (thank you to the gal who commented and pointed me in the right direction) and I feel much better now. I am not sure on anything yet, but some of my confusion has been dispelled and a few of my questions answered. This has definitely been an interesting day for me, and I am excited to do some more research on the topic and learn more about myself. That's about all, just wanted to share an update, take care yall and I hope you have a wonderful day/night :3

Three days ago, my egg shattered. In hindsight, the signs have been there for my entire life.

What the fuck do I do? I’ve literally never had my world shattered like this. Everything makes sense and nothing makes sense at the same time. (Idk if that makes any sense).

I thought I could hide this, but I don’t think I can. It will be impossible to come out in my job and I’m terrified of what my family will think.

At the same time, the genuine euphoria I feel when thinking about being me. Actually me. Is overwhelming.

I made up a reason to paint my nails with my wife and got so genuinely giddy that I couldn’t control my face muscles.

Sorry for the word vomit. I’m just so overwhelmed and scared.

So I’ve been trying to figure out how to get hrt recently (I also ordered my first bras and stuff so yay) I’ve run into a problem of medical privacy things. I know for a fact my doctors won’t tell my parents but the insurance might, because they send the explanation of benefits. I’m just trying to figure out how all this works and if it is even possible for me to get hrt, or am I gonna have to wait for 4 years or till I get to Canada.

Recently I’ve felt that there’s been a lot of trans hate online and it’s seriously affecting my mental health. I don’t know what to do about it. I just wanna cry.

Are you for real now!? That’s some serious girl envy… I’m sorry I have genes that makes big melons, jeez… 🐒🐒

I am considering to get my tongue pierced. But I am worried it will raise some alarm bells with my parents who still think I am a cis straight boy. I don’t live with them, but I am worried this is something they can easily see on a video call.

Should I be careful or am I being paranoid?

I just tried on a bra with false breasts for the first time, and I'm honestly really shocked by how totally normal it feels.

Usually when I try a new femme thing, I get either a huge hit of euphoria or a wave of "ugh I still look like a man, I hate my face/body" style dysphoria... But this time, that's not at all what happened. Even though, I'm just wearing the false breasts under my regular boy mode clothes, it just feels completely totally right, almost as if they were always there and my whole "flat man chest" era was just a bad dream. It's honestly just such a wonderful and wholesome feeling 😊

Is this what full-time transitioning feels like? Because, seriously this is AMAZING!

When I was in 8th grade, I first discovered I was a girl by reading the book Lily and Dunkin. I had never realized what it meant to be Trans until that and everything started to make sense. There were so many signs when I was younger and having a word for the things I felt was scary and exhilarating. I even made it as far as coming out to my friend group (a supportive group of people I’m still very close to even in college). But eventually I thought the label wasn’t as fitting and I fell back into identifying as a man.

But then in the end of my senior year, and into my first year at college, those feelings crept back in. I started thinking of myself as genderqueer or nonbinary. A little over a year ago I came out (again) to my new friends and they were supportive of my nonbinary identity. I started using (they/he/she) pronouns and even still do.

This label has allowed me to explore the femininity I never fully allowed myself to explore behind other closet doors and now I’m starting to realize that 8th Grade me was onto something. I’m starting to label myself (only to myself though) as a woman and something about it feels so right. I’m dressing as a woman in life in front of friends and family (though they still think I’m a gay man) and it’s so euphoric and so intrinsically me. I don’t really know what to do.

Young me would be very proud of who I am and that’s something, but it’s hard to be me in this world. I’m so incredibly happy, but also so scared to let myself be seen!

I guess I’m putting this out into the void to see if anyone else has felt this way? How many people have rediscovered their transness? It’s a weird feeling to be honest!

So I went to the bank today and was waiting behind an older lady patiently. She then had to fill a form out but looks at the teller " Help this young lady behind me while I fill this out" I just stood there with a big stupid smile on my face lol It isn't much but I get such euphoria from these moments

Honestly, I just want to say how goddamn good it feels to be looking for earrings online instead of tie clips. So much more variety and styles! I feel like I'm spoiled with all the choices!

Now if only I could afford to buy all the ones I want!

Idk what to say. I'm 5'9 230lbs. Too big to be held....I feel like such a failure. My partner is the small one and yet I'm the sub. I want to be held, I want to know what it's like to be held and cuddled and to be in someone's arms.....I'll never get that luxury. I feel like everything about me being trans is against me. I feel like the universe just doesn't want me to be happy in my own skin....I'm so tired of crying today and yet I've barely cried at all...

So I have been a closeted Trans woman for years now. I’ve dressed around my friends for nearly 9 years now. Gone out dressed all the time. But with my work situation, family, and my bowling I was always afraid to actually start HRT. Well this year, April 17th to be exact, I actually had my first Appointment and started HRT. While I am so happy with my progress in the 7 months I’ve been on HRT. I’ve never been able to look in the mirror without makeup and one of my wigs on and been able To see the woman I know I’m meant to be.

Well, this morning that changed. While getting out of the shower and passing my mirror in my bathroom I caught a glimpse of myself. To the point I had to go back and take a second, closer look. And for the first time I saw my true self looking back at me. No makeup. No wig. Yes with my receding hair line that I am trying to work on re growing. I saw her. Myself. The strong, proud Trans woman that I am.

So it's pokemon picture month. Should I be subtle since I'm not out yet or go for the kill with Sylveon? I have a few choices: Sylveon, Nidoran♀️, and vivillon.

This is the biggest roadblock in my transition and main cause of my distress currently. Before realizing I was trans I lived as a gay man but I didn’t care I will probably not have biological children with my potential partner .

Since realizing I am trans I have been very distressed by this. Young men my age who are attracted to women will be looking to start families. I can never get pregnant. This makes me feel very defective and what makes me hesitate to transition. Even if I became the prettiest girl in the world after a couple of years on E, the fact that I cannot get pregnant will make me less marriage material and taken less seriously. I can never be a mother.

Hi y’all! I’m brand new to this subreddit as I came and wanted to ask a few questions. My girlfriend has a zoom appointment tomorrow to see if she can receive and start Estrogen through Folx. We’re both super nervous as we’re not sure if the Dr will say yes, but obviously we’re in high hopes that they will! Is there anything we can do to increase her chances of being told yes? Has anyone had experience with Folx before? Thank y’all for any help or advice!!

I've heard of a couple different places for this in the US (Apparently a lot in Chicago for some reason). My biggest interest in this is for the supposed less amount of pain with it, but most places I look don't seem to have people addressing the level of pain from doing these treatments that I see brought up when others are concerned about pain. I'm wondering if there's anyone here that's done any sort of "twilight sedation" that can voice for it being less/not painful, or if it's still awful.

I have a very low pain tolerance but also know laser is far from perfect, so I'm weighing my options to minimize short term and long term suffering.

I feel so unbelievably trapped out of my mind. I have been trying to move out from my parents so I can be authenticly myself for half a decade now. My wick is so short from masking my gender I don't know what to do. I have needed to come out like yesterday. I feel like im going to snap one of these days from the pressure.

I don't have any friends, my family has tried to kick me out multiple times from me opening up about myself, name calling, etc. They have at least met me in the middle so I have started hrt and laser. They try to neutralise pronouns at least but dad always slips up and doesn't correct.

I'm finding I am struggling going to work due to the fact I have to boymode and mask with all the customers and co workers. I haven't been sleeping or eating properly. People at work notice. Right now I have been balling my eyes out by the thought of going in there today and acting like a guy + getting envious of so many people in there. My energy to put up this act is so low. I have support but they are already doing everything they can (acon, maple)

I just feel like im gonna snap soon. I have had suicidal idealations but I really don't want to do that. I'm just so trapped with feeling like no way out

Where can one find some new underwear that doesn’t breaks the bank . I like boy shorts mostly but I need something to help with tucking