preferably woman that isn't jabbadehut or narcissist stalker

Hello fellow Introverts. I would like to seek advice from you guys, recently I got invited to my girlfriend's sister's birthday celebration. Being the introvert that I am, I was hesitant to go of course. Out of respect for her family and because I love her, I went to the celebration. I Greeted everyone and just expected to have a decent evening. Then minutes passed, they said they were gonna drink. I don't drink alcohol for personal reasons and they know that. But still insisted that I have a drink even when I wasn't consenting. Then one of her family relatives berated me for not drinking, he then downplayed me and called me soft and scared just because I didn't want to drink alcohol. This went on and on and I was very clearly uncomfortable. After that they then forced me to dance with them I then yet again said no as I was very uncomfortable. But they kept insisting. At this moment I felt like I was gonna explode and just wanted out of that situation. I am willing to celebrate the birthday and socialize with them. But I also have my own limits. After what happened, I no longer know if I can continue the relationship. As I can't see myself being in a family with them. I've never felt so embarrassed and I've never been berated by so much. What should I do?

This is more of a rant than advice seeking now that I realized that I’m just sick of living with roommates. I’ve only had two amazing superb roommates in my time here so not all hope is lost? But for my current situation, it very much is. I just moved into a new room and like (almost) every room that I’ve been in the people in it tend to be so damn rowdy in the morning which just boggles my mind because how can some be so loud this early? The last roommate I had got ready in silence like me, the other roommate before my last one would get ready whilst blaring their crappy music at 100 percent volume while everyone is asleep. Spoiler alert: it woke me up. They could’ve at least played something else like whale sounds for all I care. They’re just being inconsiderate. Period. There was a time I slept in the damn lobby because how much quieter it was there than being in that room. I just value my sleep a lot honestly. I’ve had my fair share of terrible roommates but in my opinion nothing good comes from fitting 4 girls in a room…like ever and wishing for some silence is like asking for a dog to talk like a human. Never gonna happen. I’m not the type to cause trouble, I keep to myself 100% and I’m respectful, polite, blah blah blah. But I just fucking LOVE being alone. My god. I truly Love love LOVE being alone and the silence that comes with it. I don’t like people and I most certainly do not like the people here 😭they’re so loud, rude and immature as heck. These people are an entirely different…I don’t even know what to call it. It’s nothing I’ve ever seen in my life. I say with this confidence that inmates at a jail, students in middle school and in school combined are way more mature and respectful than the people here. Good lord it’s disgusting how these human beings act. No one has any respect or professionalism. Sorry for the blab but I’ve had a roommate who would always ruin my wake up schedule because no matter what time I would wake up wether that’s at 4-4:30-4:50 or at 5:00-5:15-5:20-5:30-5:40 or whatever time it was they would always wake up right as soon a so woke up. It was milliseconds. They never set a timer for themselves, j was basically the timer and I was the timer for them. So when I wanted to wake up at 4 in the morning to be able to do my morning routine alone in the darkness of the room when it’s quiet that roommate would always wake up right as soon as I laid up in my bed. It was honestly annoying and selfish because the purpose was to avoid encountering my roommates. It got to the point when I woke up at 4 to shower before any of them they woke up at 4 and beat me. They have never ever waken up on their own. I would tip toe and walk on eggshells to avoid them noticing that I was up just to have some damn alone time during my routine and they still got up as I got up. It didn’t matter if I woke up at 5:40 because they were right behind me. There were times I woke up late and my roommate was late because I basically was their timer. It was the weirdest and most annoying shit so I honestly fed up with living wirh other people. Living alone has never ever done me wrong.

So how can I navigate this? I don’t want to wake up at 4 am anymore. Class doesn’t start till 8 so I’d be up doing nothing. Everyone seems to wake up at 5 so i’m thinking about getting ready later? Hopefully by that time everyone is out the room and I have it to myself but I can’t predict the future. I know if I decided to get ready later I won’t be a me to sleep because they’ll wake me up from their loudness so I’ll be sitting in the room covering my ears desperately to blank out the noise. I hate being waken up from my sleep especially when i’m not able to go back to it so I have to basically endure the loudness the entire time and wait till they’re out the room. It’s all hell.

I have customer service and admin experience. Are there any jobs where you make decent money and don't need too much schooling and has work/life balance?

I love helping people, constantly learning and doing a variety of different tasks.

Oh boy, I'm in my first semester of graduate school and yeah...it is kind of a lot. I love my cohort but at that same point I'm at the point of the semester where people are so draining to be around. Or maybe it's just certain people who drain me more than others, at this point I don't know. It's just stressful to go to class now and a little annoying. I have two more weeks left, I do hope maybe a break can help me to recharge but yeah.

Like say I'm just minding my business doing work, reading a book, or just starting at the wall and then some random classmate or teacher comes up and just straight up asks if I talk.

It was always so awkward and annoying. It happens sometimes today still. Wondering if any other intros can relate.

I've accumulated a lot of experience in my field. Before Thanksgiving, my manager asked me to take on a VP role where I would report to him but manage people internationally. However, I'm not great at talking to people and tend to limit myself to a few colleagues. My manager is very supportive—he acknowledged my work and understands my value. He's been asking me to take charge since last year. I'm a bit worried about leading a team, and I'm unsure whether to accept the offer. Last year, I told him I wasn't ready. This year, he might bring someone new to the team if I say no.

By the way, I'm a Senior Developer making $250K, and the new position would offer around $300K.

For reference I'm 18 years old and in my first year of university. Im a very introverted guy, and have never liked going to parties or going to all of these different events that are constantly happening. All of those things are unappealing to me and are just overwhelming in general. I spend essentially all of my time studying for classes or playing some video games / watching movies. These are what make me feel happy and at peace.

I understand that connecting with others is important, and I still put in some effort every now and again. I'll have a couple friends over, go to the odd activity, or do any other "normal" thing a university student would want to do. But these things truly drain me, and I have absolutely no desire to keep forcing myself into situations I know I wont enjoy.

My parents have always imposed the idea that these are the best years of my life because I get to constantly party, hookup with others, and have all the freedom in the world. I have tried to explain that these things don't interest me and that I would rather do the things that actually make me feel happy and content. Yet every time they meet me with "you're wasting away your life by not engaging in these activities, and soon you'll regret not going to them".

I have no idea if I will ever be able to truly reach them, and demonstrate how they are forcing me to be someone who I'm not. It just sucks to know that acting how I want, and being myself will always seem like a "waste of a life" in their eyes.

I don’t know if this is a problem but I think it is .One thing that i don’t like about myself is when Im with people that im comfortable with my speaking voice will be loud enough that at least people around me can hear it especially when im happy but when Im with people that im shy with like older people or teachers my voice automatically become so slow to the point that it obviously looks like I have no confidence to talk to people . Like , I want to be able to talk at normal volume voice at least because it’s so embarrassing that people see me as someone timid , no confidence and it doesn’t make me respectable ? Is there any way to practice speaking confidently with people im not close with ? I can fake it for a while if im in interview or presentation or something but at places like school or outside i automatically become so timid during conversation and i want to change it . Is this an introvert thing or just shyness ? Or is it both ?

Does anyone else work customer service and just want to be completely alone on their days off? How do you let others know that? I'm a huge introvert and by the end of my work week, I'm completely exhausted. My friends and family don't understand this. Like I don't want to spend all day with them after being around people all week. I need to recharge. I can handle an hour or two max on my best days.

Today at work, I had a complete breakdown. I work until 1 AM but my phone started going off at 830 this morning and didn't stop until about half hour ago. I gave it on silent. I made a Facebook post telling people to stop blowing up my phone when I'm at work. I feel like these people don't care about my boundaries at all. I even blocked someone who's just an acquaintance because they called me FIVE TIMES today because I wouldn't answer.

I want to be respectful bit I'm at my end here. I just quit smoking weed last week, work is busier than ever, end of the year paperwork for my volunteer job is completely overwhelming and my step dad just passed away a month ago. I can't even get in to see a therapist anytime soon because I'm broke and on a waitlust for the next several months in the public system. Also, seasonal depression

Anyone have any ideas?

I was in a toxic relationship for 4 years and my partner cut me off from all my friends. We broke up beginning of this year and I have tried to make friends and get back into dating but I am having trouble as an introvert since I get ghosted or they don’t feel a connection. I am lonely and it is really hard seeing everyone I know in relationships. How do yall get back out there and be more extroverted to meet people when getting tired from social interactions?

I know have mainly when my social battery dies out I just walk away from whatever I’m doing or whoever I’m with and just go home. Have ya’ll ever done it ?

So I’ve been working at this company pretty much right after college(had 2 jobs before that didn’t last) for 8 years and after all my struggles I feel like I’m finally settled here. I’m an introvert so I don’t like to socialize with anyone much. 1 or 2 more people lunches is ok but nothing more. I also struggle to comprehend, follow directions and also interpreting what I want to say and most people don’t have the patience for that. But this company is great with me and everyone is understanding. I don’t think I’ll ever find a working environment like that. Benefits are great and the wage is ok. Enough to survive and go out on a few occasions and have vacations few times a year. Great retirement match too.

I’m only 30 now but is it wrong to want to work here until retirement? Or am I just being a loser. Same position, I don’t want to be promoted to a supervisor position as I lack people skills for that and I don’t handle stress well at all. I have anxiety, ocd, and minor depression and the last thing I need it work stress.

For me, I dislike how recording people without their permission has become normalized with only a few people calling it out. One of my biggest fears is me walking in the streets and the next day to find out that a video of me has become popular.

Hi, My boyfriend and I are love distance for 4 months now because of work. This thanks giving he comes home so that he can spend the holidays with his family and so that both of us could catch up. On his way home(Nov. 28th) we had a little argument. But fix it eventually first thing in the morning of 29th, then in the afternoon he comes to visit my house and greeted my family. Everything was fine. We are having a conversation. While talking we are planning our dates on 30th and 31st. While planning him mom called and I over heard that they have plan to eat out on 30th, and he wants us to have a separate date, his family is great and I hesitated to answer for our plans because I want him to catch up and bond with his family, since we still have plans on Sunday(31st). But, I didn't tell him my reasons and just kind of hesitant to make plans at Saturday(30th). During our conversation, after planing and we are just chilling, I told him that when I was in charge of my mom's store 2-3 weeks before can't really recall, a certain person from my past buys, and while he was buying and try to talk to me even tho I firmly said I never want to talk to him, he ask if my bf is with me and I said "he's at work" then proceed to take his order. When he hears that he ask if we could talk I said no, then keeps on pestering me to start a conversation with me (I just handed his order and waiting for payment tgat took a little while that I think intentional and not because he is drunk that can't find a coin, Im not talking and irritated/uncomfortable the whole time, then he ask how's me and my bf, I said "we're great" then he got to his motor and ask "is our goodbye for good", that made me speechless. Im so irritated, and its so disrespectful Im speechless where on earth did he get his nerve. If you cant respect me and my bf at least respect your gf. I said " yes, I don't want any problem"(the whole thing took like 2-3 mins) while I tell that to my bf my bf was listening and tapping and hugging me the whole time, my bf is concerned and relief that the guy did not do anything to hurt me. Our conversation. The next Morning Saturday (30th) the whole day my bf is cold to me at chat, and I ask him why he said nothing, I don't ask any more questions cuz I thought he is sad because our olan cancels and his plan with his family too. But the later that day he became more and more cold and distant, then it's Sunday morning (31st) he cancels our plan and I was like why? Are you still sad or what, then he said he is not on the mood, I ask questions like is it about the thing that I told you, he said no, I ask When I am hesitant to answer during our planning did I hurt you, I said sorry. He said no. He's just not on the mood for no reason he said. Is it because of work he said no, and said no it's nothing I am just really not on the mood. I ask if its about me did I do something wrong and he said, no, and want some space alone.It's now Monday, hes going back to work today and we are not talking since last night after that conversation. I really feel that its about me that he just not ready or he still doesn't know how to tell me. Am I just overthinking or is it really nothing he just needs time alone? I really need an advice. Ps. He never fails to spoil me, show me every love and care, he also puts so much effort in me. That's why I want to help him if there's bothering him.

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Hi! I’m 21F and I’m just looking for some friends or people to talk to. I’m pretty introverted and I normally only have like 4 friends at a time and my small circle became smaller within the last few years. I have one main friend that I barely see bc she’s busy with her own life and then my boyfriend is my second friend. I live with him so it’s not so lonely but most times I find myself trying to fill voids when I just wish I had someone to talk to about dumb stuff or my day. So if you just want to talk or what to be friends you can feel free to message me . Thanks for reading

I enjoy spending time online with a few people. I would enjoy spending time out with some close friends (even tho i have no irl friends lol). But when I go to parties or weddings or birthdays, I come home tired asf and just need some time alone. I also have social anxiety and a stutter which has affected my social life alot causing me to grow more introverted and hate social interactions especially irl. I mostly read, watch anime, listen to songs or play games which I've heard are more related to introverts but idk. What do y'all think? Am I an introvert or not?

Body: "Hey Reddit! I’m a 15-year-old introvert who’s passionate about exploring everything under the sun (and beyond!). Being an introvert, I find it easier to connect over shared interests, so I thought I’d put myself out there and share some of my hobbies.

Here’s a glimpse into what keeps me curious:

Designing and launching model rockets—dreaming of contributing to space exploration someday.

Researching fusion reactors because sustainable energy fascinates me.

Experimenting with a Scanning Tunneling Microscope (STM) to explore the nanoscale world.

Coding and creating small apps, combining creativity with problem-solving.

Exploring 3D modeling in Blender—still learning, but it’s fun!

Reading about space, science, and technology (a huge sci-fi fan too).

I guess you could say I’m a jack of all trades. I love learning about new things, even if I’m not an expert. Being curious makes life exciting!

As an introvert, I’m not great at starting conversations in person, but I’m always up for a chat online—especially about hobbies, projects, or cool science ideas. I’d love to connect with people my age who share similar interests, whether it’s rockets, coding, or just being curious about the world.

So, what’s your favorite hobby or project right now? Any other introverts out there who enjoy exploring everything like I do?"

I'm going to the gynecologist for the first time, and I'm a nervous wreck.

I have anxiety and due to past traumas I don't like to be touched, being in new situations or being in small spaces with men I don't know. For these reasons I never been to a checkup, and now I'm 24, started to have problems with my reproductive health so I need to go. I booked the appointment 8 weeks ago to have time to prepare myself mentally but I failed. My checkup is on Wednesday I'm sweating all the time, I'm nervous and a weak ago I had a very bad panick attack.

What are your experiences? Is it that scary how my friends describe it? What should I do to feel less nervous? Any advice will be much appreciated.

So my job has this position where you have to go around making sure lines have work and you take empty carts. And I absolutely hate this task because I feel like I get in the way when I’m trying to be helpful.

Today, we had 6 of us helping which I think is overkill. But it was annoying because wools were still complaining that they had no help and the managers were asking where we are. This kind of put pressure on me to try and move fast and busy.

But there’s points throughout the day where there’s nothing for me to do but I can’t just stand there so I’m looking for someone to help and everyone doesn’t need it or someone else is waiting to help them.

Or everyone else is running back and forth rushing and I’m trying to find something to be just as busy. It’s just overwhelming sometimes for my brain, all the chaos and keeping up with what to do.

And I want to do a good job for everyone and not be a slacker or slow, but I just get in the way sometimes I feel.

Once I would have said that I’m paranoid and no one is actually looking at me, but today my sibling noticed a guy literally snap his neck to look at me. It’s so annoying. Staring is super rude! I was raised that way. Which is how I’m able to just kinda ignore people because why do I need to stare you down? But lately it’s just been people watching me and when I meet their eyes, they quickly look away. Or some just continue to stare. Genuinely pisses me off.

I am 25, and today I realized that I have no one to talk to about the things that trouble me. I tried to open up to someone when they asked how I was doing, but it turned out it was just a formality. I understand that everyone has their own problems, and I’m not forcing anyone to help me. But damn, it turns out I really need someone who would put a hand on my shoulder and say, “It will pass.”

Hello, fellow Redditors!

I’m a 25-year-old guy, much like a solitary cloud drifting through life, searching for a kindred spirit to share meaningful conversations and perhaps build something deeper over time. As the song "Alone" resonates, "I'm not gonna make it alone."

I’m deeply passionate about literature, culture, history, and philosophy. I love diving into thoughtful discussions, exploring ideas, and exchanging perspectives on art, life, and the world. My interests also extend to politics and sports, and I’m always eager to learn and grow through meaningful connections.

"Friendship is born at that moment when one person says to another: 'What! You too? I thought I was the only one.'" I’m seeking that moment of connection, where shared interests and mutual understanding lead to a lasting bond.

It would be wonderful if you speak Arabic, as it’s a language close to my heart, but that’s not a dealbreaker—I believe understanding and connection go beyond words. I’m hoping to meet someone who values life’s depth and appreciates the joy of discovering new ideas and stories together.

If this resonates with you, let’s talk and see where our conversation takes us. Perhaps our paths have crossed for a reason, and we’re meant to wander together.

If you feel this isn't for you, an upvote would be appreciated to help me find the one I'm searching for.

Looking forward to hearing from you! 🌟

I see myself as an introvert. I'm not very good at communicating. I mostly stay quiet because I don't know what to say or talk about. I think I can come off as awkward or boring because I stay too quiet and give short replies when I'm out with friends or in social gatherings.

However, when I'm drinking I become a completely different person. All my mental blocks are gone and my conversations can just flow. I might say some weird or awkward thing sometimes because I'm not always fully thinking before talking, but it's 100% worth it because I feel like I can truly be myself.

I'm well aware of the effects of alcohol and it's called "liquid courage" for a reason. I'm just so curious about it because there are so many people out there who are like that while sober, so I feel like if they can, why can't I? Can I learn to "reach my drunk self" while sober or will my brain forever be in this garbage state?

I'm 54, almost 55. I never realized until this holiday how much my entire life "functions" around me masking my introversion. A lot of people who know me in a superficial way (clients/ not close friends) would probably be surprised if I talked about being an introvert because I am very chatty and gregarious when comfortable with people. I can be very engaging and (not to sound like a total pompous ahole) charming in conversation and in situations where I need to be "on" like public speaking, leadership opportunities, etc.

However, I am just now realizing how much engaging and even just being present for others can completely unglue me if I have to do too much of it. The funny part is that previously I just thought I couldn't handle being around my husband's family too much because they're more extraverted and want to hang together so much, but this Thanksgiving, we did the holiday with MY family, and I was surprised to figure out that my family triggers me just as much!!! I nearly had 2 meltdowns because I felt compelled to spend every waking minute with the family. Everyone was kind and behaved, but I just cannot handle that much togetherness. And, then when I want to go zone out on my phone, I take heat for disengaging and not being "social". However, my family just cannot grasp how necessary it is for me to be left alone for a while. It's perceived as me being rude or antisocial.

I'm trying to figure out what sort of hard boundaries I need to put in place to help me keep my sanity in these type of obligated social situations and how I could implement them. I am not sure how to communicate my needs effectively to my family/people who care about me. I feel like I can only take 3 concentrated days engaging before I start to lose it, and that might be pushing it. I mean, I love these people, but I just can't handle so much togetherness!

Professionally, I am an esthetician and my whole focus is engaging with people and caring for them. I do it fine, but when I get home from work, I am totally emotionally drained. I have to be a zombie a while before I can engage again. I am in the process of pivoting to doing content creation, so I'm hoping that when I finalize the career change, I can seriously decrease the energy drain of daily person-to-person interactions.

With regard to family, I'm not sure how to advocate for needs without people taking offense. For example, I like going for long walks for the health benefits but also for preserving my emotional well-being. Every time I say that I am going for a walk, people pipe up and say, "Oh, I want to go with you!" I obliged the first day, but then the second day, I tried to discourage them again by saying I was going to go on a long aggressive walk, and still people wanted to come with me.

How do you say to people "No, thanks, I'd rather be alone" or "I'm glad to help with this, but then I need to do somethings just for myself" without alienating people who care about you? I feel like it comes off as rude. I haven't figured out how to protect my emotional well-being when compelled to spend a lot of time with people, and not having dedicated down time is what usually leads to my melting down.

Thoughts/suggestions for establishing healthy boundaries with people who don't get that I'm masking a lot of the time just to be with them? This could even extend to my husband. He gets anxious when I get quiet for too long.

When I'm stressed, I don't like talking to people around me haha or talking in general about those things. How about you, guys? Anyway, I am 22 (F). Still in college. If you'd like to talk about books, movies, coffees, and etc. Feel free to message me or reply here. Thanks!