I am Emma F(28) I have a new group of people I met just two years back and they have been very good friends of mine ever since. My support system since I live away from my family. I recently went to visit my family then came back and now I can't help but feel left out. Firstly I know they have a group chat which everyone I usually hangout with in it except for me. They even talk about it and what's going on there in front of me but not one of them have mentioned adding me in it. That was point of 1 of me feeling left out. Then there was a trip I also wasn't invited to . And the most recent one they all hung out and I feel like such a fool because I called all of them separately to see if they were free for lunch but guess what? ( these all happened in a span of three months btw. I uusually do get invited but sometimes out of the blue I sidelined by the people i spend all my time with? I dont know what to do with themixxed signals). All of them were together and none bothered to give me a call or atext. I knew about the hangout but it was supposed to be with two of my friends and two guys I am not close to. Not the entire gang like it turned out to be. When they figured out I was mad they started calling. I mostly ignored them. I just didn't want to talk then. I feel like whatever reason they would give I won't buy it. Cuz no way ALL of them were there and they can find a viable reason to not even invite only me. But I can't cut them off either. I don't know what do to. They usually include me in all things. It's just that one guy (from the two I am not close with). I have noticed whenever he is in the picture I get sidelined. Which is weird since I barely saw him like two or three times. I just can't help but feel hurt and left out. For now I am just ignoring them. But I don't know how to go on from here. I feel like i am very replaceable and someone who can be easily sidelined in the group now. Advice?

Yeah, introverts achieve things too! Being quiet doesn't mean being dumb.

But then, your achievements can be the little things you're glad about - and want to share with the community.

I, in the other hand set a goal to read 20 books this year, and I have read 16. I happily got a new job that was better than my old one. Lastly, I finished a fiction project I had been working on since last year that was dear to my heart and I managed to publish it this year with my publisher. :)

Some one join the meet https://meet.google.com/ioz-cwcc-erw

Just something I was thinking about. Speaking for myself, I wonder because I rather keep to myself and my niche hobbies and lifestyles, I wonder if I come across as someone who just goes against popular things just for the sake of being different.

I know introverts come across as snobs at times, so I wonder if that’s a whole other can of worms to think about.

So my mom asked me if I want to go with her to the mall. I was supposed to go out today but I don't feel like it and canceled my plans with my friend. Tge plan was actually made 2 weeks ago but something happened and we can't meet on the date we originally picked so it was moved (supposedly) today. I don't usually get long weekends because of my job but yesterday, friday, was a holiday so I guess part of me just wanted to enjoy being lethargic all day and sleeping in. Maybe reading some book or cleaning my room.

But my mom asked me if I wanted to go out with her, she wants to buy something and I declined nicely. She pretended she didn't hear it, twice, and asked me again. I said I don't feel like going out today. And she got mad. And now she's giving me the silent treatment being grumpy.

Now I'm here feeling guilty after my dad scolded me, so I asked her to go. But she just shoved me away. I had plans today...I just don't feel moving. I mean sometimes I want to be left alone. And today I want to be alone in my room. This probably sounds petty and insignificant and that I'm just making excuses.

Now I won't be able to rest the whole day feeling guilty about it and I'd probably hide in my room being hyper aware at their every move— making sure i dont run into them to avoid both of my parents. My brother's out of town and I feel alone and bad. My mom doesn't usually accept apologies and she would probably turn it against me if i try doing something good to make it better. Idk, I'll just lock myself in my room, I guess. It's a good thing I have a small space of my own, I don't know how I would interact with them if I dont.

Is being an introverted person, a pseudo/intentional solitude, triggered due to the feelings of "things which others have and you don't"? And to avoid having to feel this feeling again, the person will go into intentional solitude and will try to avoid those who trigger this feeling.

Is this non-scary fear?

I am a proud and happy introvert!

Spending evenings with my dog, doing art, geneology, walks and indoor 🌵 succulent gardening 😂

Who else likes to go out dancing/clubbing etc? How often?
Solo or with friends?

Every 3-6 months I get the itch and opportunity to go out with a preferred friend/family group.

There's a Halloween rave at my big bro's favorite night club (he loves dancing and raving) w/rooftop a dj/floor! He got my niece, his lady friend, and both of us tix.

I am so excited xo. My niece will pick me up around 11:30, the djz go until 4am...

Hope you are enjoying yourself, wherever you are.

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Hello, I turned 22(F) recently, graduated a few months back and at the moment, taking a gap year before pursuing my Master's program. Well, I am your typical shy, quiet, reserved and extremely introverted nerdy girl. I have very few friends, all girls since I completed my school in an all girls' institute. College was co-ed, but nothing happened there.

I do not have any social medias (fb, ig, x, etc.). My private life has impacted a lot in my social life, though I do not complain about it. I like it very much this way.

I feel like I am falling far behind. I'd appreciate any advice.

(PS: I don't use dating apps, I spend most of my time at home, I'm afraid of joining clubs, and normally roam around at town alone. Never dated as well. I'm already sorry 😅).

Is it possible to not call someone but make it appear on their phone as if you have called them?

Im tired of skipping lunch and being alone at school. A lot of other kids socialize pretty easily, unlike me. I just cant mingle with someone naturally. When did you guys find your friends?

Anyone looking for an online bestie to chat about anything?

Does anyone else keep there facebook friends below 100?

So 1-2 months ago I met a girl at my university through a club and we used to talk 1-2 times a week during the club meetings and later when we had had vacation we started to have chatting on text every day, later when we came back we used to meet talk and even went for an outing on the weekend. Now, I like her but don't how to tell her that I like her.

Last good conversation we had was she was asking If I had girlfriends and she was asking what kind of girl I want to date and this was on the day outing. After the outing we were not able to talk much as we used to talk to talk before and like next week also she was asking again if I found someone whom I was interested in.

If you could create a 'self-care toolkit' for introverts, what three items or activities would you include?

Hi guys

I’ve been in a flight or fight response for the past 3 years or so. I’m generally confident and really good at masking socially but have noticed I’ve started to get nervous around attractive guys. I hate it because they pick up on it, however I believe my nerves come from the fact that I’m so jittery and anxious. This has made me feel less confident because I feel like I’ve just turned a bit awkward and in my experience people typically like to avoid people that are like this.

Not people who prey on and manipulate introverts specifically but people who impulsively butt into other peoples’ business and try to boss them around, regardless if they’re introverts or not. I’m not sure how non-introverts deal with people like this but as an introvert, I feel like it’s trickier since I’m geared up for confrontation when in regular social situations. How do you guys deal with busybodies?

I consider myself an introvert: i hate parties, i hate being around people, i hate have to talk to people everyday, i hate when suddenly i have to meet someone, etc But bro im so fucking talkative with the people I like to talk whats wrong with me 😭 (yeah im VERY talkative 💔

I’ve recently gotten to hang out with a group of friends whom i met through a friend. What puzzles me is that as much as they are such fun and interesting people to hang out with. But somehow among them there are also so much lores and intertwined past… like it’s just so high school… originally I was like oh cool this is nice with a group of ppl to hang out but now second thought… this is kinda messy and brought me back to high school… as much as I’d want a group of friends, what’s going on in that group(girl/boy relationships)makes me just wanna rather spend time alone sooo just wondering how everyone’s thoughts on this 🫠

For me i think its loud people

I'm staying with my friend from elementary school, we're both in college now and she wanted me to come over to go to some parties and my social battery is already drained and I am DREADING the party tonight I don't wanna go at all but I will because I don't want to let my friend down... I feel like I'm upsetting her because I'm not great at meeting new people and it's hard when she knows everyone there and I don't... Just a rant but any suggestions

The thing is, i do have friends, quite a lot in reality, unlike many introverts do (and as i did too), and I'd really love to do something crazy like full of alcohol with my friends and stuff normal people do in their 18th, but... I probably won't because I really don't want my parents to get to know my friends... It's a paranoia I've always had because I'm quite a different person in family and with friends, and mixing up these two social areas would stress me so much (I don't have a good relationship with my mom). So i just won't do anything about it and pass it in complete loneliness.

Is someone in my same situation? 😭

For all unexperienced guys that never had sex, what is your solution or your goal to fix this issue?

Just want to vent and I thought some people here might also relate to this.

I'm a grad student who's obviously introverted and has ADHD, so both of those make friendships challenging already. I also don't drink or smoke because I've never been interested in either of those, and I'm content with my decision. But, it feels next to impossible to find people my age who feel the same way. Going out to drink/having parties is the only way my classmates get together, and I'm just not interested in going to those things when they center around drinking and/or smoking. I know part of it is probably just because I'm in a college environment, but it feels isolating when that's all my classmates want to do every weekend and don't ever try to plan get-togethers that don't totally center around alcohol. I know there are other people out there who are sober, but it feels very hard to find them.