As an ISTP, I give off a cold demeanor and speak in a monotone sarcastic voice. But somehow, when I'm with a good friend, I'm all bouncy, playful, and adventurous.

I blame inferior for my slight pleasure in being a cold apathetic asshole to most people. I mean I'm chill to talk to, just a difficult person to be friends with.

However, once I'm a friend, I'm like a friend, a pal, a best bud for like life.

someone brought up spam relationships in the sub and they would like more projects posts. I agree

Curiosidade genuína

Lack of social skills ? Indifference to someone feelings ?

Personally my friend told me that sometimes I can speak with an aggressive and harsh tone to others without noticing it even if I’m not mad, and when I was younger I used to be very awkward socially and shy, I didn’t know how to behave so I was being seen as weird in school because of that, but then as I got older I started to give no shit about it and just be laid back or indifferent by showing no weaknesses in front of others.

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Managed to snatch one of yall up, they're amazing, love being around them and the little bits of psycho behavior are cherry on top.

What keeps yall interested in someone? (Being ,not, an ENTP i assume but let's live in teletubby land where that doesn't matter)

I have been thinking about applying to school and finally force myself to set up for my future (at the ripe age of 34). I was originally considering embalming, it’s been on my mind for a few years. As of recently, I’m now leaning toward an engineering degree of some kind. Are there any engineers or Embalmers/Undertakers that would be willing to share with me how they feel about their career choice later in life? Is it what you expected? Do you have any regrets? Do you have time for your family and other hobbies?

I fell for this ENFP girl who introduced me to mbti. we met back in Junior year of HS and she came to me first. then we talked, and talked, and talked, and . . . yeah. i met her friend group, her brother, and I was just deeply invested in her without me knowing. now we’re in our sophomore year of uni, and man has time changed. i ruined whatever chance i ever had in love and I just feel stupid. i dated another ENFP in my senior year of HS, but it just didn’t feel right. she couldn’t replace the puzzle piece that was once hers, so we ended it not too amicably. i still am in contact with her (not my ex), but i’m just hurting myself with all these memories of us. she appeared in my life when i wasn’t looking for love, and she became distant when I thought of nothing but love. but enough wailing from me, what about you guys.

MBTI community tend to correlate a lot ISTPs with those words from what I have noticed

So like, I'm a therapist and yes I am definitely an ISTP. Got typed in a session and looked into my cognitive functions and it all fits. But I hear stereotypes that ISTP's are emotionless and stuff.

I feel like I'm actually quite full of emotion and very empathetic, I just tend to be quietly empathetic and tend to approach how I process shit in a rational and reserved way.

When others are freaking out I go into this quiet "fix it" mode where I just focus and get stuff done.

I also see the logic behind emotional processing and have like my own systems set up for doing it.

I think ISTP's often have a trade that they're good with, and my functions actually are something I use in my therapy work. It allows me to empathize but also not burn out cus I'm not overly emotional, and to see the rational sides of people's situations. I think it works out well because then I can help them get to their goals when they're spiraling

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Sub has pretty much turned into r/ISTPrelationships. Even though Rule 4 states that relationship posts here are allowed only on Saturdays, I see them almost everyday. Are mods not aware of this?

Hey there Virtuosos!
I am going through all the MBTI types reddits trying to collect some data concerning the 5 Love Languages concept.
I am wondering; which one(s) do you find to be most prominent, which one(s) do you not and why?
Thank you =)

Ive come to realize I’ve been treating dating like I’m following a recipe book, following a path that has maybe worked before and is sufficient to keep us in contact, but I never feel like I’ve swept her off her feet.

When engaging with a woman that I originally approached, I can’t help but feel like they find me awkward or boring but entertain my advances anyways, I guess because of my looks. It leads to a lot of dead end situationships, where I end up hurt because she doesn’t feel the same way I do.

I’m not necessarily saying that sweeping her off her feet will help me, since opening communication and starting a relationship isn’t really where I struggle, but on some of these dates I just wish I could make some magic happen, make her miss me and want to see me again rather than feel ambivalence towards me.

I also struggle with subconsciously feeling undesirable or encroaching, which translates into being uncomfortable making physical advances when it’s not glaringly obvious that she’d be receptive to them. It’s like I’m too passive and robotic to breach into the more spontaneous, elusive, human aspect of attraction/dating/intimacy.

This has been mostly a vent post, but I’m also seeking advice or words of wisdom from other ISTP about dating. I’m still young so I have a lot to learn.

Long story short:

I overworked myself on the people pleasing part, I supported that one special person with all my heart and unfortunately got fucked over and betrayed and not only does that betrayal of trust eat me up but I also feel like I lost purpose. Like if I can't/don't need to "provide" for them anymore, wtf am I even here for? And this isn't about a romantic partner, it's about a really close family member so I can't really just "forget" them and "move on".

Getting out of the house doesn't work, hanging with friends doesn't work, creative activities don't work.. so what will work? It's been a year since the "break up" and it still stings like hell.

I already booked an appointment to try therapy but I have to wait until January and figured I'd try and help myself out until then, so I was just wondering if any of you guys deal with depression and what helps you through it?

Hi ISTPs, when and why do you try to get others to think with you?

hi! i’m 20 y.o. male, live in Poland and i really don’t know what to do in life. my main interest is video games, specifically RPG and competitive games (cs, valo, etc) i thought about streaming, but the problem is i’m not camera person and struggle to “give” emotions. i studied law for 1 year and then dropped cause i just hate classical studying in uni, i’m way more practical learner. atm i’m thinking about mechanic and even found the service where they can teach me without college. but i still not sure about this choice. any advice from people who maybe was in similar situations?

which child are you?

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I just don't get it, I'm genuinely tweaking how do I have a conversation with someone without feeling fake I'm trying to be as open as I possibly can to make the conversation flow thinking topic after topic that came out of my ass and I still both feel and observe myself being isolated it's like I don't belong to any group, I tried hanging out with boys who gets girls and go to parties I did get myself into one of their parties I got drunk and crazy, almost got myself laid but somehow didn't wanna continue the bs all that but I didn't feel any connection just a fling. I've tried applying everything I've learned in YouTube some were effective but fake as fuck I didn't like it.

I'm turning 18 this December and I still don't have any solid friends im tweaking the fuck out.

Personally, I’m just curious. I haven’t seen ISTP & ENTP friendship or relationship dynamics talked about much, so I think it would be an intriguing discussion. The closest person to me just so happens to be an ISTP, so I was curious about how some of the experiences some of the ISTPs here have had with ENTPs were 🫡

P.S. I showed that person the pinned instruction manual. First reaction was: “I’M NOT A FUCKING ROBOT.” But, that person agreed that it was accurate after reading it LMAO.