Hi!!!

I took a MBTI test a few years ago and got ENFJ but I took one again recently and it said I’m an ESFJ but show qualities of both 🤔 how can I tell which one I truly am? I also took an enneagram test a few years ago around the same time and got type 7w6 but recently I got type 2. I’m not really sure what qualities separate them, but I:

• am highly outgoing (I’ve always been the social child out of my sisters and I)
• I’m a registered nurse
• I find it hard to talk about my feelings, whenever I have to cry I always do it in private and it is often short lived, I tend to be a “glass half full” type of girl who almost always is smiling and happy. When I do cry, I literally sob and feel it deeply lol
• gloomy days really affect me mentally
• I love movies/tv shows/books based on true stories rather than fiction but has to have some type of special meaning (think My Sister’s Keeper, etc.)
• I’m a kinesthetic learner
• I tend to follow my gut/feeling response
• I feel like I need to be making a huge difference in life
• thrives on a schedule, but likes going out to spontaneous events as well!
• personal achievements are nice, I love to celebrate!
• I’ve been told that I am a really great conversationalist and people tend to get excited to see me, been told that I’m very positive and bubbly 🤗
• my fav color is aqua blue/teal/navy
• fav animals would have to be a manatee, dolphin, dogs, and sea turtles
• like to think of myself as a pretty nostalgic human being
• fav emojis: 🥳🥰🥺🤣🤪✨
• I’m a Pisces
• I love going places but like to have a travel buddy, would rather take a pool vacay than a beach one.. I literally almost got swept out to sea on a boogie board when I was younger so I am forever cautious of the ocean
• I have anxiety (probably GAD lol) but I try not to let it stop me from things I want to do
• I love to laugh and give hugs hehehe

I’m working on a personal project. Trying to create fantasy cultures based off of each of the 16 personalities.

For ESFJ, your power is telepathy with all animals (ESP) and your animal counterparts are all canids (wolves, foxes, jackals, etc).

This is not a modern society. What would you guys like a fantasy culture based on ESFJ to look like?

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I got bored. i know the stereotypes say that its the best pairing but what are your guys' experiences with them, relationship wise or just friendship

Hello likable ESFJs I hope you are well. I’m curious on what things could lure in people. Desires, mindsets, and dynamics are a very interesting thing to study and wonder those may react to certain. I get distracted easily so kidnapping me wouldn’t be too hard but I wonder how it is for others I’m doing this with the other subs so I want to know how this is for ESFJs so if someone were to trap you what bait do you know you would very much fall for without a second thought?

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Me and my esfj friend were hanging around and I was joking, we were in the computer room since our tutor from school is a computer science teacher and his class is literally in computing room. My tutor allowed me to sit next to my friend since it was Friday. We were getting along fine and I’ve must’ve did stuff to piss him off. I started making jokes about his country which I thought he had no problem with as a joke of course, and I went to google translate and selected English as the language so it can be translated to his language of what I written in English because i was just curious. Anyways, he said I’m starting to get on his nerve which I thought he meant as a joke, he sometimes pull a serious face it’s kind of hard to tell. Anyways, I was rambling on about his country’s tradition as a joke and he lashed out on me and let go off me and said in an angry voice; he sounded scary “don’t you dare insult me” something like that I forgot. And I just stood there shocked, I’ve of course went too far, he did that to me a couple times so it wasn’t new, but it only happened a few times and I’ve been friends with him for like a year. I mean we became friends again anyways at break, and after we were in the computer room laughing again. I’m still bothered by this. I’ve done shit and willing to take accountability for this. When I replay it in my head on what he had said said I felt uneasy, he genuinely seemed mad. He never did that to anyone but me so I crossed his button many times which I did accidentally as a joke which I thought was acceptable. Was I a bitch to him? How do I forget what happened? Give me some thoughtful advice. Thank you.

PS: Sorry about the grammar I wrote this in record time cause I need to go to sleep in any minute. I’m also an INFP if it has something to do with how I act which I doubt it does but still…

Following up on my previous post about character chats - just launched a separate feature: a searchable MBTI personality database. Filter by type, find notable figures, and chat with them. If you tried the original character chats before, this is different - focused on real personalities rather than fictional ones. Check it out and let me know your thoughts. It's available at stablecharacter dot com slash personality-database

Long story short: What are the differences between an ENTP and an ESFJ?

So Ive been meaning to ask this because I have been told by some ENTP guy who tried to type me that I am for sure an ESFJ because when he asked me an abstract question i brought up the past but his reasoning seemed idiotic to me since he was asking only questions about my past before that so obviously i was fixated on the past during that "typing session"

Since then I am trying to understand your personality type to see if I could actually be an ESFJ or if I am an ENTP like i think.

The problem is I never find enough information on you guys all I got is "relationship/community oriented" and "gossip". Like arent these things almost every person had done or experienced? I dont understand your Fe dom. Do you basically live to maintain a relationship once you made it? And nothing else gets in your way to keep that relationship not even your ego or whatever shitty problem comes up?

I can't imagine just enjoying talking shit about other people without even knowing their circumstances unless they have really done something bad and it's been proven. It just feels so unempathetic and a waste of time. Maybe I'm not ESFJ?

Hello I'm enfp

I was interested in hearing which types you find yourself most similar to (besides isfj), so I'd like to hear your thoughts

Hey guys, I noticed that when I take care of someone, I try to give them the best comfortable experience ... like, for example, if we had a 1 hour break... I will set everything according to the time so that throughout that 1 hour, we enjoyed and that we are comfortable enough to get back into the workspace ... and I consider their comfort first when in the workspace... and I try to make things a little easier for them... is this an ESFJ thing, or might it just be an INTP or just my way of performing from my Inferior FE function?

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Hi guysss!!! I love love love my ESFJ boyfriend so I guess must really like your type 😄 What is your preferred or most natural way of showing your love to your significant other? Do you think there is a link between your personality type and love language? (By the way I’ve noticed my boyfriend is an acts of service kind of guy!)

I can't wait to meet everyone. After reading up on everything alot of things I do make so much more since. Hope everybody has an awesome day!

Hey ESFJs,

wanted to share these AI-generated characters I created with your wonderful Fe-Si way of connecting with others in mind. Designed both male & female versions for stablecharacter[dot]com, aiming to capture that natural warmth and caring spirit ESFJs bring to every conversation.

https://preview.redd.it/c4mbeaplfice1.png?width=2784&format=png&auto=webp&s=1441c1fed337aeea379cd080fd865269386c46b4

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Source: https://vultology.com/database/?type=FeSi&development=

The Fe function seeks to understand the organizational principles of collectives, percieving relationships as a network of transactions and implicit social contracts, constantly being negotiated. It sees humans has having a malleable character, shaped by these interactions for better or worse, and aims to move itself and the collective towards ideal mind-heart states by optimizing interactions. Fe advocates for having strong willpower, believing in the power of the mind over physical limitations, using discipline and resilience to overcome obstacles that restrict people from doing what they were meant to do in life and reaching the destiny and higher purpose they are called to fulfill.

ESFJs (Standard)

• Celeste Headlee*(American journalist)
• Charlie Houpert*(YouTuber: Charisma on Command)
• David Miscavige*(Leader of the Church of Scientology)
• Dave Rubin*(American commentator)
• Emma Watson*(English Actress)
• Frank Turek(American Christian apologist)
• Gregg Braden(American New Age author)
• Heidi Klum*(German-American model and television host)
• Hilary Swank(American actress and film producer)
• Iyanla Vanzant*(American inspirational speaker and lawyer)
• Jeff Cavaliere(American fitness guru)
• Jimmy Corsetti*(American YouTuber: Bright Insight)
• Joel Fuhrman(American doctor)
• Jonathan Haidt(American social psychologist)
• Jonathan Nolan(British-American screenwriter and film producer)
• Dr Josh Axe*(Physician)
• Kyle Kulinski*(American talk radio host)
• LegalEagle*(American YouTuber: Lawyer)
• Dr. Michael Gervais(Psychologist)
• Nick Vujicic(Australian evangelist and motivational speaker)
• N.T. Wright*(English theologian)
• Paul Adefarasin(Nigerian minister and televangelist)
• Rachel McAdams*(Canadian actress)
• Ray Dalio*(Chief investment officer of Bridgewater Associates)
• Rebecca Bailey*(Child psychologist)
• Robert Lawrence Kuhn*(International corporate strategist)
• Simon Sinek*(English-American author and inspirational speaker)
• Tai Lopez* (Motivational speaker)
• Tony Robbins*(American life coach)
• Wim Hof*(Dutch motivational speaker)
• Zubin Damania(American physician and comedian)

ESFJs with developed Si (Diplomats)

• Aaron Eckhart(American actor)
• Bernie Sanders*(United States Senator)
• Brad Pitt*(American actor and film producer)
• Harry Lennix*(American actor)
• Jill Biden*(Joe Biden's wife)
• Paul Washer*(American evangelist)
• Robert F. Kennedy Jr.(American Politician)
• Steven Pinker(Canadian psychologist and psycholinguist)
• Tom Cruise*(American actor and producer)

ESFJs with developed Ne (Inspirers)

• Aaron Doughty(YouTuber: Spirituality)
• Alex Jones*(American radio personality)
• Charles Manson*(American criminal and cult leader)
• Chase Jarvis*(CEO of CreativeLive)
• Christina Perri(American singer-songwriter)
• Dwayne Johnson*(American actor and professional wrestler)
• Eddie Murphy*(American actor and comedian)
• Giancarlo Esposito(American actor)
• Gloria E. White-Hammond(American doctor)
• John Iadarola*(American talk show host)
• Jon Bernthal*(American actor)
• Kate McKinnon(American actress and comedian)
• Kate Siegel(American actress and writer)
• Matt Reeves(American filmmaker)
• Michael Strahan*(American television host and former football player)
• Orlando Bloom*(English actor)
• Sammy Hagar*(American singer-songwriter and guitarist)
• Sarah Shahi(American actress)
• Terry Crews*(American actor and television host)
• Theo James(English actor)
• Vinh Giang(YouTuber: communication coach)

ESFJs with developed Ti (J Polarized)

• Aza Raskin(Co-Founder of Center for Humane Technology)
• Emily Blunt(British actress)
• Gillian Anderson(American actress and writer)
• Leslie Odom Jr.*(American actor and singer)
• Tilda Swinton(British actress)
• Yuval Noah Harari(Israeli medieval historian)

ESFJs with developed Si and Ne (P Heavy)

• Darren Aronofsky(American filmmaker)
• Dave Asprey(American lifestyle guru)
• John Glaser*(Founder of Compass Box)
• Steve Fuller(American philosopher)
• Tom Hiddleston*(English actor)

ESFJs with developed Si and Ti (Scholastics)

• Barack Obama(44th U.S. President)

ESFJs with developed Ne and Ti (Ephemeralists)

• Blake De Pastino(Head of Content for Complexly)
• Catherine O'Hara(Canadian actress and comedian)
• Fanny Ardant(French actress)
• Jessie Inchauspé(French biochemist)
• Kingsley Ben-Adir(British actor)
• Neve Campbell(Canadian actress)
• Nicole Daedone(Former CEO of OneTaste)
• Richard Ayoade(British comedian and actor)
• Rosario Dawson(American actress)

ESFJs with developed Si, Ne, and Ti (Fully Conscious)

• Alain de Botton*(British philosopher)
• Michio Kaku(American physicist)

An ESFJ friend of mine and I were talking, and she said it's really hard for her to trust her friends now because they broke her trust. She wants to give them a second chance, but she can't bring herself to trust them anymore because they abandoned her at one of the darkest points in her life. They've apologized and all that, but she still doesn't believe that they will stay with her if the going gets rough again. She's a super loyal person, and it takes a lot for her to open up and trust other people. So this is super hard for her. What would you do in her situation?

I was just wondering if you guys get jealous of things, even little things. One example of that is because I like to work out, but when I see other people do as good as me or better I tend to get jealous because the feeling of because they're at my level, i'm not good enough. It can tend to be problematic sometimes because I sometimes feel like I need validation so I go to find things so I feel validated. I'm trying to work on it and would like to know your experience with jealousy and any tips you may have to help with it.

Hey ESFJs!

I wanted to share something that I think will resonate with your love of bringing people together - an app where you can have heartfelt conversations with characters representing all 16 MBTI types! I put special care into capturing the ESFJ's warm Fe-Si way of creating comfortable and welcoming interactions.

Each personality type has both male and female versions (32 total), and I really focused on making the ESFJ characters reflect that wonderful gift you have for making everyone feel included and cared for in conversations.

You can experience it here: www[dot]stablecharacter[dot]com

I'd love to hear your caring perspective on how the characters feel, especially the ESFJ ones. Do they capture that natural warmth and ability to create harmony that makes ESFJs such wonderful people connectors?

Hello fellow ESFJS, I am conducting a survey about MBTI compatibility and I would like your input!

https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSeKkfF0gb-1DakmT4s7PJ-kFDS0Tl1cbIjW901F4xMR_vFPlQ/viewform

Or what could be the issues the couple could face?

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