I love you. My Tia is esfp and she's literally the sweetest and she's one of the greatest figures in my life by far. She helps me through the hardest patches in my life and I'm forever grateful for her. From what I've observed, you are compassionate, daring, and adventurous people. You seem very warm and enthusiastic, and you seem to always help people by doing what feels right. I would love to hear what other types enjoy about esfps under this post. If you are esfp what is it like? I hope you all have a good day <3

I had posted this in the Myers Briggs help typing subreddit:

Hi, I am having a hard time figuring out and profiling my true dominant Myers-Briggs type. Whenever I take the Myers Briggs personality test or the Personality Hacker Myers Briggs personality test from Antonia and Joel, Personality Hacker on their website (they also make podcasts talking about all of them if you didn’t know), I always get INTJ, but I feel like that is just maybe how I am viewing myself or maybe “wish to be”. I always test for this type almost every time. How do I know this isn’t just how I am viewing myself during critical times when I am being harder on myself, feeling like I can’t be my true authentic self, such as wanting to improve my world in my outside environment? Whenever I listen to their podcast on typing, I can see how I relate to INTJ but like I said I feel like it mostly is how I view myself or “wish to be”, and not necessarily how I am truly showing or should be showing up as my true self. Since my family dynamics, schooling, and relationship dynamics in the past have expected me and even punished me for acting or not acting a certain way that’s caused me to maybe block myself from being my true authentic self while going through healing and introspective times that have to do with outside typing factors. I also noticed I prefer to ‘mess’ and experiment with the outside world to understand myself and my inner world better, which is more extroverted thinking. I love to experiment and try new things and ways of approaching ideas and systems. When listening to their podcast types, I seem to have a couple I can relate to, and go back to listening to the sensing types, even the extroverted sensing types, one of them being ESFP, especially. Your true personality (dominant) type stays with you since you’re a young kid, and since I’ve gotten older as an adult, it’s much harder for me to be into studies naturally that are outside of topics and studies such as psychology, art, and artistic talents such as music, art, athletics, fashion, etc. (which is more so how I was naturally as a kid just being myself). What are some key factors in knowing if I could be a ESFP Entertainer personality type?

Maybe to the current community...

I see ENFP, INFP, INTJ, ENFJ, ENTP communities being so big, and highly active, which makes me wonder are ESFPS rare or just aren't on the internet? Or most us don't really care for this stuff?? Any theories, at this point ESFJ community is smaller than ours as well.

To make a long story short, my friend developed feelings for a guy she was working with. They were never dating, but they would sometimes go out as friends. She ended up having her first time with him in a car. They saw each other again once after, at a coffee shop. Then, he completely ghosted her.

Now, I never even met the guy before. I can’t tell you what was going on in his head. That being said, I don’t get how someone can pretend to be friends just to have sex. And then ghost that person. Especially if it’s that person’s first time.

I think USA can be one.

or when you are "using" it.

I’m ESFP too. When you guys are stressed, do you tend to distract yourself Se-Te wise or do you fall into Ni grip? Me personally, I first fall into Ni grip for a short time then Se-Te loop for a longer time. What about you?

So practically speaking, a stressful thing would happen and I’d just withdraw and freeze and feel anxious and think of a million ways it could get super bad.

Then I distract myself through sensory activities like running or music or going out. But also I’d sometimes act on the problem and try to solve it too quickly from a place of anxiety, without thinking too much about the intricacies of the problem and how hasty actions can sometimes make it worse.

I’ve gotten better at making sure these reactions aren’t extreme as I’ve grown but I wanna know about you guys.

Or just mad that people are better off when they don't deserve it?

predictions?

Giving a little head start!

(PS...either the South ain't bendin' or breakin' today!....said no one who's an actual fan ever...🥺🥺😋)

Hey there, basically what the title says! I'm a single, almost 30 yo woman and I moved to Rome for my dream job several months ago...

Like many of the single girls/guys my age, I've been finding it difficult to meet new people outside my job, so I've decided to shoot my shot by making a post here! I've always had good vibes with Esfps, so I would love to meet you guys in the wild and have chats about niche hobbies/go on fun little adventures/have a good time :)

I love cats, horror/thriller shows & movies (though I'm a Bridgerton fan, too), and psychology; I work in the field of international relations, so my career involves lots of travelling around🐈 I speak Italian, English, Spanish, and I'm currently learning French, so I'd love to practice languages, too. Please hmu if you're interested!

You all are our chaos twins. Yalls confidence is something I so envy!! Definition of unapologetically yourselves

What i'm listening to...

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=L18tjO2GYnU

Being about esfps...let's get to the facts first! What are you guys up to/want to be doing? As for me...I'm...struggling with apathy/atrophy/I don't know, just understanding how to cope with life, generally. But hey, maybe...we can talk about it?

I keep to myself in class. Everybody else already has their groups, but I don’t really have anyone. One day, the professor would give us a bunch of class time to let us do a project. My crush comes up to me and offered to help me with my schoolwork. I was honestly kind of surprised. I didn’t even think he was talking to me at first. He was.

I don’t know what it means.

Hi ESFPs,

Contact Improvisation is basically improvised dancing, with or without music, but with the active possibility of physically contact with others in various degrees. It also includes dancing alone or just holding space for the dance by watching. And there is no talking or 'tuning out' during the dance.

I am an ENTP, and have tried to get more in contact with Se and Fi (and also Te). It has been really hard, but in the process I decided to join some sessions focused on contact improvisation. To be more in my body, and to feel myself in a much more concrete Fi way.

It is quite weird to find out how choppy my body feel, acts and moves. And being so focused on me, how I feel, has helped me become slightly more aware of my Fi.

People at the Contact Impro sessions seem more naturally in tune with their bodies, and they also rarely talk about more abstract intuitive things with words, but are fine with exploring more abstract/intuitive things whilst we 'paint the canvas (the room) together, and respectfully go in an out of contact, or dance on our own or just sit and hold space of what arises'.

There is something aesthetically pleasing about the ease, flow and lack of chop that people move with, and especially the gentleness and ease when they are in touch with each other. It is definitely something I aspire to cultivate more of, even when I have to be quite gentle and patient with myself, as it is a very steep learning-curve.

And it has made me wonder if Contact Improvisation is something that is common for ESFPs, or if it is just a more personal entry to those functions in myself? Have you tried it, or does it seem like something you'd be interested in doing? Or how do you view it from the perspective of an ESFP?

Thanks for reading, and hope you have a good day.

For example it could be a likely troll or someone probably wanting spoonfed information for nefarious intent. Would you have to fight yourself not to share what you know?

We work at a restaurant, and we have a new assistant manager who we don’t really like. She’s not mean or anything; just a bit incompetent. So my coworkers and I were talking in the break room. I’m a major introvert, and I don’t talk much at all.

I started to say something as soon as my ESFP coworker was beginning to talk. He stopped and asked me what I said. He was watching me talk with a huge smile on his face. It wasn’t just a polite smile. It was like he was genuinely intrigued by what I had to say.

~INFP

My twin sister has a lot of self-hatred. Every compliment I give her feels like a lie to her, no matter how genuine I am. I don’t know what to do, but I really want her to see her own worth and appreciate herself.

Would you guys say you have a good memory? I have an ESFP friend and he remembers things very accurately. Like his ability to remember exactly what happened 2 years ago, along with details is just mindblowing to me cuz I have tertiary Si.

We tend to approach work satisfaction as a binary. Either satisfied or dissatisfied. For the most part, there are so many factors that cause us to be unhappy with our work… and often, we can’t precisely identify why. Psychologist Frederick Herzberg devised the Two-Factor Theory to discuss workplace motivation. He broke it down into:

• Motivators: Markers of job satisfaction
• Hygiene Factors: Markers of job dissatisfaction

Very often, we can never find the motivation needed if our basic work ‘hygiene factors’ are not met. This was extremely interesting for me to learn about and I wanted to break it down for you here - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Le5Wfk4zWd8

Let me know if this helps shift how you approach satisfaction with work going forward. 

Claude tells me I'm ENFP based on my music choices.

I have tried competitive fighting games and i always find it really hard to pick a main because I’m so indecisive for some reason and i find it hard to really practice with a character because it jus seems boring and hard to do when i can’t even pick main so what competitive fighting or esport games should I try? 😂

I have a esfp friend who lies about a lot of things,

for instance she lies about her friendships, she told me she hates her bff, but I found out that wasn’t true. she told me that her father creates labels for a well-known brand and that her father always gets free clothes from them, but I’ve literally never seen her father wear the brand.

she’s also a really good fake crier, she can cry on command!!!! she’s never said this exactly, but you can tell her cries are fake and she just cries so people will give into what she wants.

are esfps like this?? or is this just her? does anyone know why an esfp would lie so much?

I was tasked to find the Manual for your type, but i couldn't find one. I asked Chat GPT to make one to fill the gap. Feel free to claim it or change it or whatever :)

Your ESFP Care and Handling User Guide and Manual

Congratulations! 🎉 You are now the proud caretaker of a unique and irreplaceable ESFP Unit. Whether you willingly sought out this vibrant bundle of energy or they just danced their way into your life unannounced, you’re in for an exhilarating adventure. Brace yourself, because your ESFP is here to light up the world (and possibly burn it down a little).

To ensure you get the most out of your ESFP, this guide will walk you through all the important features, quirks, and maintenance tips for keeping your ESFP happy, healthy, and thriving.

Accessories

Your ESFP Unit comes equipped with the following:

• One (1) party-starting playlist curated for any occasion.
• One (1) signature outfit guaranteed to turn heads.
• One (1) backup outfit for “serious” occasions (good luck getting them to wear it).
• One (1) portable spotlight because every moment is a performance opportunity.
• Three (3) random hobbies they’ll want you to join in on right now.
• Infinite (∞) charm and magnetic energy.
• One (1) secret stash of snacks they insist they “don’t need” but will definitely devour.

Software

Your ESFP comes pre-installed with the following traits:

Se (Primary)

Your ESFP is a sensory thrill-seeker extraordinaire. They thrive on the here and now, often chasing experiences, excitement, and new adventures. Warning: This setting has no “off” button.

Fi (Secondary)

Beneath their glittering exterior lies a core of deeply personal values. This programming fuels their empathy and emotional connection to others, though it can cause the occasional dramatic moment when values conflict.

Te (Tertiary)

Your ESFP is surprisingly competent when it comes to organizing events or taking charge in the heat of the moment. However, this function works best under external pressure and might otherwise remain dormant.

Ni (Inferior)

Your ESFP sometimes gets flashes of deep, existential insight. These moments are rare, fleeting, and may lead to an unexpected bout of introspection… or a sudden need to redecorate the living room at 2 AM.

Getting Started

Your ESFP Unit should arrive fully activated and ready to party. If, for some reason, they seem sluggish or unresponsive, follow these steps:

1. Play music with a solid beat.
2. Invite at least two other units (preferably with snacks).
3. Make a spontaneous plan to go literally anywhere fun.
4. Offer compliments or ask about their latest adventure.

Within moments, your ESFP will be back to their usual sparkling self.

Modes

Life of the Party (default):
In this mode, your ESFP will charm the socks off everyone in the room, radiating energy, joy, and charisma. Warning: They may forget to eat, sleep, or text you back in this mode.

Confetti Cannon:
When overexcited, your ESFP will shower you with random ideas, plans, and feelings all at once. Be prepared to decipher their rapid-fire thoughts and help them pick which one to actually act on.

Empathy Express:
Activated when a friend is in need. Your ESFP will drop everything to comfort, cheer up, or distract the troubled unit. However, this mode might cause emotional burnout if left unchecked.

Boss Mode:
Rare but impressive, this mode activates when your ESFP takes charge of an event or situation. Efficiency and charisma combine to create a short-lived but awe-inspiring display of leadership.

Why Is Everything So Empty Mode:
Triggered when left alone for too long. Symptoms include moping, sudden introspection, and/or texting every contact in their phone. To deactivate, provide social interaction or a new sensory experience.

Relationships With Other Units

• NF Units: Activate Empathy Express mode. They form deep emotional bonds and share existential thoughts… until ESFP wants to go dancing and NF wants to journal about it.
• NT Units: Activate Boss Mode. NTs admire ESFP’s charm and people skills, while ESFP appreciates NT’s strategic brainpower. Warning: May result in the NT overanalyzing ESFP’s impulsiveness.
• SJ Units: Activate Confetti Cannon mode. SJs help ground the ESFP’s scattered energy, while ESFP helps SJs loosen up and enjoy the moment. Expect occasional frustration on both sides.
• SP Units: WARNING: When two SPs unite, chaos ensues. Spontaneous road trips, impulsive purchases, and questionable decisions are almost guaranteed. Proceed with caution.

Feeding

Your ESFP needs regular meals, but they’ll often get distracted by shiny things and forget to eat. They will happily snack on whatever’s available, so stock up on healthy options if you value their nutrition. Pro tip: Make food social, and they’ll never miss a meal.

Grooming

Your ESFP is naturally stylish and will groom themselves meticulously if there’s a chance to make an impression. However, during downtime, they might need reminders about basic self-care. A gentle nudge is all it takes.

Sleeping

Good luck. Your ESFP will fight sleep with every fiber of their being, citing reasons such as “FOMO” and “I’m just not tired.” To get them to rest, create a cozy, distraction-free environment and remind them they’ll have more energy for fun tomorrow.

Frequently Asked Questions

Why does my ESFP always change their mind?
Your ESFP thrives on novelty and variety. Their Se programming compels them to explore every option before settling on one (if they settle at all). Embrace the ride!

Help! My ESFP won’t stop talking!
Simply say, “Wow, that’s fascinating! Tell me more later—I need a quick breather.” Your ESFP will understand and redirect their energy elsewhere… probably to their group chat.

Can I keep my ESFP forever?
Yes, but only if you respect their need for freedom, adventure, and self-expression. Attempting to stifle your ESFP will result in rebellious behavior and a dramatic exit.

Troubleshooting

• Problem: Your ESFP is overwhelmed. Solution: Offer a relaxing sensory experience, like a bubble bath or a walk in nature.
• Problem: Your ESFP is bored. Solution: Plan an outing or suggest a creative project.
• Problem: Your ESFP is sulking. Solution: Compliment them or ask for their opinion on something fun.

Final Thoughts

Congratulations again on your ESFP Unit! Treat them with kindness, let them shine, and enjoy the whirlwind of joy, chaos, and unforgettable moments they’ll bring to your life. Buckle up—it’s going to be a wild ride! 🌟

Do you guys like them and if so what types/what's ya favourite

So I wish to know if ESFPs would end the relationship first and then date out or first secure a second relationship and then initiate the break-up? Or would an ESFP initiate the break up at all? Like would you wait for the guy to break up with you cause you don't wanna face the heart break? Or would you strategically start doing things that will lead to a break up?

Hey y'all so I'm an INTP 24m and my boyfriend 25m is an ESFP. We've had some good times and some questionable times but both love each other. I thought he was an ESTP when we first started dating and never really paid much attention to notion but recently upon reexamination and getting him to do some questioning himself ect instead he realised he's an ESFP and that puts everything into a new context sorta thing.

When he was an ESTP I figured I had a pretty good grasp on the judging functions at least and knew Se but not Ni well and so I'd been offering my perspective to help trying to engage in that Ti Fe but now I realise why that's been futile and why other peoples opinions and his own sense of self weigh him down so much ect. This means that I got absolutely no understanding from other ESFP's if yall could offer some general or specific stuff. Feel free to ask anything. Anything and everything is appreciated

I'm an INFJ father and my oldest son is an ESFP. He's in elementary and struggles with focus and thinking ahead. I know this is due to his stack and even explained to my wife this will happen in school and lo and behold it did. His teacher explained she really has to work with him to focus. I already know he can focus if he is interested or has a goal he finishes it. It's just life is so exciting.

He also loves friends and does everything he can to play with them and if they can't then us. The only issue is I can't satisfy his energy and when I have to go and do things he acts like I haven't played at all and screams and/or dogs me every step to play again.

So I came to this thread to ask for tips and advice. Do any of you have positive experiences with a family raising you to meet and fulfill your Se and Fi needs? What worked for you to learn values? Were boundaries ever an issue? If so, what worked for your needs?

Thanks in advance. Just wanting to do the best for my son.