/r/Introvert_Connection

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Are you an introvert? Are you looking for a friend or partner, or for advice about your friends and partners, but find other subreddits too impure of personality trait? Then this is the sub for you!

Modeled on subreddits like /r/r4r and /r/Relationships, /r/Introvert_Connection is a place for introverts to meet like-minded Redditors and to receive advice on relationshipping while introverted.


Rules

  1. Format your title properly
    Post titles must be formatted properly or they will be deleted. See the "Title formats" section below.
  2. No exchanges for money, goods or services
    No offers for free stuff, lessons, cam performances etc.
  3. No harassment
    No sexism, racism, homophobia/transphobia, general rudeness etc. Posts calling out certain Redditors also fall under this rule. Failure to conform to this rule will get you banned from the sub.
  4. No spam
    No advertisement of any kind other than a personal ad.

Title formats

Use these formats for the title of your post.

Format for personal ads

[Personals] <age> [<R4R>] <location> - <title>

Examples:
[Personals] 24 [F4M] California - Looking for a guy who understands me
[Personals] 32 [M4R] Germany/Anywhere - Introvert looking for friends

M = Male
F = Female
T = Transgender
R = Redditor / All

Format for relationship advice

[Relationships] - <title>

Example:
[Relationships] - My boyfriend shuts down completely around my friends

Format for matters related to the purpose/state of our sub

[META] - <title>

Example:
[META] - Can we add this rule?


Related subreddits:
r/introvert
r/r4r
r/ForeverAloneDating
r/Relationships
r/Relationship_Advice
r/Needafriend
r/penpals
r/socialskills
r/socialanxiety

/r/Introvert_Connection

5,944 Subscribers

16

Look for some one to talk to....

Hi. I am new to reddit. Open to talk to anyone.

34 Comments
2022/04/17
13:51 UTC

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M19 Huge Introvert. Anybody trying to talk to hopefully help me get out of my shy zone?

11 Comments
2022/04/03
09:15 UTC

31

Do you think there is a linkage between introversion and social anxiety?

21 Comments
2022/03/28
14:32 UTC

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19, looking for Friends to chat with !

Im 19 and although im a bit scared of people (I am hard to understand people), I do get lonely and wish i had someone to send memes to on instagram and maybe play video games while voice chatting ! Heres some info :)

  • im a bit shy
  • I love goth music
  • looking for someone who might consider themselves an odd ball ! yall are fun
  • I love learning about new stuff ! tell me about yr favorite interests
  • looking for someone who enjoys video games and voice chat (I only play one game 'IDV' but i am open to learning about more games :)
  • possible screen sharing movie nights ? Ive heard other people do it and it sounds fun
  • im pretty non judgmental, just so long as you dont fall under a taboo category.
  • LBTG friendly !
14 Comments
2022/03/20
23:38 UTC

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41 [M4F] East Texas, I need a woman to love and have a child with

41 [M4F] East Texas, I need a woman to love and have a child with

My ex was pregnant and I was so excited to finally be a father of a little princess. She was so sweet and caring until she changed suddenly. Last December she lost her mind to BPD and completely changed personality and behavior. She got angry at me and now refuses to talk to me. She is delusional and accusing me of stuff I didn't do.

I am devastated. Every day is misery, all I can think about is the fact that I lost a family because of her mental illness and it doesn't bother her at all. She is out having a great time dating and sleeping around like I meant nothing to her. Meanwhile I can't sleep because I toss and turn unable to think about anything else.

Are there any women in east Texas who can help me take my mind off of this suffering. Or any women who are just willing to chat with me. I desperately wanted a daughter, it is a dream of mine and it was coming true until that heartless woman took it away from me. I need a woman who loves me and wants a child. Where is the best place to find a woman when I am not good at talking to strangers?

3 Comments
2022/03/10
01:10 UTC

27

Lonely new girl at work.

Hello, I recently started a new job two months ago. I got the job because one of my friends(someone I worked with) got a job as a lead. I’m only a tech but I feel as if my coworkers do not like me. I say goodmorning to everyone and try to have conversations but I just feel rejected everytime. Most people avoid eye contact or don’t bother to ask me how I am doing. I’m an introvert and have bad anxiety so being new and big groups scare me but I still try. Today I even went in the back where all the other techs were talking and laughing to try and join in the conversation and a couple of people moved away from me or turned their shoulders from me as if they didn’t want me there. I can’t help but to cry everyday after work about this. Just wondering if anyone else had similar issues with being the introverted new girl or any advice to this.

10 Comments
2022/03/09
01:56 UTC

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26[M4F] india/anywhere - I'm probably not what you look for in a boyfriend 😅, but give me a try?

Me :

Tall, average looking, fair, medium built, fit but not skinny

Not settled in career but have enough to support basic living expenses, (would it be ethical to even think of having kids in this situation?)

can relocate/move to your country, or can host you in India

honest, truthful, straightforward,

Mostly introvert but extrovert in some situations with some personalities. INTP or ENTP perhaps.

doesn't drink or smoke

You :

It's alright if you drink, smoke. Are in any profession or unemployed.

If you have mental health issues, depression etc, I will try to be supportive and empathetic.

And you should put effort into communicating to make LDR work since long distance can be tough.

Physical attraction is essential for relationship, so let's exchange pics after we talk for a few days.

5 Comments
2022/03/02
20:24 UTC

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16 yo problem, is it hormones or is this just my persononality

i just don’t feel normal. i’m 16 and i just don’t feel like i can connect with people anymore. i always think that my next interaction in school with a friend will be fun but whenever they say wassup i just don’t feel like talking anymore, even when i’m in a good mood it just doesn’t work and i try and act like i want to talk but then it just makes me look rude and i just end up walking away because i feel bad. i wish i could want to talk to people and whenever one of those occurrences happen i feel depressed afterwards with thoughts like “why am i like this” “why don’t i want to talk to this person i actually like” it even effects family but my mom understands more. i wish i could want to talk to my mom. My mom thinks i’m introverted but how would i know? am i just depressed?

3 Comments
2022/03/01
20:44 UTC

9

Should I approach him?

So there’s this local mobile mechanic, he specializes in things like lockouts and tire changes. As he changed my tire we had small talk & it resulted in him adding me on social media & he let me know if I had any questions to ask him. Recently I had a car issue so I called him he instructed a few things over the phone and that was pretty much it. About 30 minutes later he called back and asked if I had everything figured out I told him that I hadn’t & that my sister was coming from a near by town but wasn’t there yet in the midst of me explaining these things he heard my son and said “ you out there with your son. Where’d you say you where at again? I’m on the way” I told him and he came. He asked me if I had a few things I told him I didn’t but my sister would come take me to get my wallet and I would get it. this man looked at me and said “I was going to stop and grab some but I didn’t want you to think I was taking too long” I just smiled. He then left to get the things he needed and told me he’d be right back. He came back and fixed the car free at charge & let me know what else needed to be done. He told me it was for my child’s sake but that doubt that. Also I find him very attractive. So id like to get to him to know him. I’m sit sure if it’s all in my head or if I actually have a chance.

3 Comments
2022/03/01
16:40 UTC

14

Connecting with new people

Is it just me that feels like there is some sort of barrier that prevents new relationships from forming with others? Like no matter how hard I try to create some sort of connection/relationship with new people I just can't and it's so frustrating. It feels just like rejection, but worse... Anyway, tell me what you think

6 Comments
2022/02/26
20:26 UTC

11

Did you know that introverts use a lot more learning styles than extroverts?

1 Comment
2022/02/16
15:51 UTC

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28 [M4F] Arizona - I'm at the point in my life where I want something super romantic, a relationship where I can show my love in its entirety.

I am really an intense and romantic guy. At first, I am straightforward and to the point. I mean what I say and I say what I mean. If you can't respect that and don't do the same with me, then I'm not going to waste our time.

Anyways, I am more than willing to give anyone that I love the benefit of the doubt. I do get very upset sometimes and very happy and ecstatic at other times. It's very rhythmic and I am accepting if you are like that too.

My main deal breakers are trust, communication and level of commitment. I am willing to listen to anything you have to say and understand you to the fullest. I expect that you do the same for me.

I do have a dog, I care about him very much. I am currently working as a medical assistant and I will be returning to school afterwards to finish my chemistry program.

1 Comment
2022/02/11
05:37 UTC

0 Comments
2022/02/10
02:20 UTC

4

M4F introvert

Looking for a life long partner I’m tired of being miss understood by being me any women wanting a quiet straight to point male please hmu

4 Comments
2022/02/08
00:59 UTC

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As an introvert, I hate people who text me everyday

As the title says, I don't like to chat with a friend everyday and for some reason it happens a lot to me when friends find me understanding and they wanna send long voice messages and talking about their relationships, bf/gf or details of their daily life. I hate it and after a few days I stop answering the messages and phone calls. So they view it as hostility and impoliteness. What would you do, if you were in my shoes?

I know it might not be normal even in the eyes of introverts but this is the way that I am.

15 Comments
2022/01/29
07:32 UTC

9

How do I tell my parents I’m an introvert?

Please let me know how I’m rly not comfortable talking to anyone not even my parents

6 Comments
2022/01/23
15:11 UTC

10

26M and a terrible introvert never had attention from females

I am bad at social skills so naturally never interacted with any female when I was a student or when I go out and to add that now that I have a job I have but I still don't have to go to my workplace.

I feel terrible and frustrated and I have given up but sometimes it is not easy that there is no one to at least talk to.

4 Comments
2022/01/21
21:12 UTC

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26M

Hello, Im looking to make friends to play xbox with , talk about movies, comics, music send funny stuff. Open to chat about whatever I get interested in new subjects as well

5 Comments
2022/01/19
19:29 UTC

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[Personals] 26[M4F] India/Asia/Earth - Why you should date me and why you shouldn't

Hi, i'm Indian but doesn't matter where you are from. I can move for the right person. Or even better if you can come to India. I'm searching for a woman whom I have an understanding with, who accepts me in spite of the things I can't change about myself, who loves me truly.

About you : most things are not a dealbreaker for me. I am accepting of almost everything. I don't have high requirements from a partner, but i have basic expectations in that you put in consistent effort.

My Personality : I am an open book person and will reveal a lot of information about me pretty soon. I see no point in give you a false idea of what i am not or showing myself as someone different to match up with your expectations from a person. But i'm willing to adapt and change myself to become better and more compatible/suitable up to an extent. My empathy is based on either logic or the suffering i've myself gone through. So don't expect me to be the super feeling types but i'm not stone cold as well.

to summate what i am :

My good aspects : Honesty, logic, communication-skills, modesty , diligence , adaptability , fitness and physical health

Average aspects : looks , money, knowledge

My weak aspects : lack of confidence , experience , street-smartness. I am blunt, say hurtful inappropriate things sometimes, my career / education

I am a hopeless romantic. Mix of sapiosexual and demisexual. But not entirely since physical attraction matters too.

So, I'm looking for someone patient yet practical , but still believes in true affection. Not necessarily a fairytale romance, but where we really care about each other. A relationship based on honesty and transparency. Only slight trust is necessary, else logic can make up for the lack of faith, since blindly believing someone is also risky.

I'll write ten assorted facts about me to help you figure out if i'm good match -

  1. I neither believe in god nor disbelieve.
  2. life of course has a purpose , but I wish I was strongly motivated to work on it
  3. I have no pets but I love animals so much that I decided to turn vegetarian
  4. I don't have much of a relationship history. But I have had experiences interacting with many women online.
  5. while i'm parsimonious in general about spending, I never compromise on things of importance like nutrition. I love electronics and technology. I'm a big fan of open source apps, being a programmer.
  6. while i'm pretty frank and straightforward, it comes with the drawback that my words end up being hurtful. Afterall , no one likes to be pointed the truth.
  7. I love hugs and cuddles and giving massage. But my primary love language is acts of service.
  8. while I do have preferences, i'm not rigid. I'm pretty versatile and adjusting to your needs as long as you are the same. I don't really want kids. But I leave it to you mostly where you would like to take our relationship forward, whether you want kids or prefer being childfree, marriage or live-in, etc. We can discuss pros and cons of our decisions and express our individual desires before arriving at a joint decision.
  9. I get into debates a lot. I always have a counter argument. And I appreciate if you get into a logical non heated discussion with me on the ideas we differ in. Like good conversation starters can be - Whether the saying "we need to love ourselves before someone can love us" is true / false. Or should couples be allowed to check each other's phone anytime. Do you think people deserve to know the true reason when they are turned down in dating/ professional settings or is it sometimes more practical to give an excuse or no reason at all.
  10. I have no interest in smoking, drinking, addictive substances, piercings, hair dyeing, superstitions , horoscope, tarot, manga, cars, bikes, watches etc. Used to like some games and anime when I was younger but not anymore. Traveling is only fun with a partner and not without.

My life philosophy -

-Any food that we consume when hungry tastes good. So, anything that we strive to get seems more fulfilling

-It's impossible to avoid hardships and suffering and be permanently happy.

-Enjoying path is more important than doing things just for expectations of happiness from an outcome.

-We shouldn't assume anything unless proven. It's alright to have beliefs but not let them cloud our rationality.

Please message me if you related with anything of the above or even if you are of a different mindset.

0 Comments
2022/01/18
15:23 UTC

5

Need your guys' opinion

So like if you are ever in a public outing like a party or something and surrounded by new people, do you guys ever just stand there and be confused on what to do? Just curious and sorry if I'm confusing.

6 Comments
2022/01/14
04:15 UTC

8

[Personals]37 F4R East Coast USA, stuck here waiting for the cat to get off my lap

Hello, No sexting or dick pics!

Do you love 90s/2000s/indie/punk/rock music ? Do you enjoy cartoons and kids movies? Do you scroll endlessly and still can't decide what to watch? Do you enjoy documentaries, and crime shows? Do you work from home or have a job that is flexible ? Do you like to travel? Do you like photography? Do you hate being ghosted ?

Well I'm the friend for you.

Seeking friends over 30 years old. Don't care if you're married or single. But please do not just talk to me to "pass the time."

Thanks ☺️

21 Comments
2022/01/09
23:59 UTC

8

[personals] 34[M4F] UK looking for something real with someone honest.

Let me introduce myself. As the title says I'm a 34yo guy from the UK. I'm 6'1", ginger, bearded, and tattooed. If you want to see some pictures, view my profile, you'll see I've posted some elsewhere on Reddit. I'm ex-military and am currently working as a teacher.

While I am introverted, I do like to have fun. I can handle very small groups of close friends when they understand me, and am great when with just one person.

I describe my self as honest, trustworthy, caring, open, and ... a little bit mad. I'm very much of the mind that I am who I am and if you don't like me, that's a you problem. I'm not going to change who I am for anyone, and I don't believe anyone should change who they are for me.

I've been single for 7 years now, and in that time I've realised that dating sucks. Well, at least I thought it did. What I actually realised is that the mainstream dating world, now run by tinder et al, is inherently extroverted. Everyone has pictures of them on big nights out, on holidays with big groups of friends, etc. I realised that's not who I am and it's not what I want in a relationship.

I want to find an introvert, like me. Someone who enjoys the company of just one or two close people, someone who doesn't want to party away every Friday and Saturday night in the city bars or go on big group holidays. I want to find someone who can understand me and ho I can understand, someone I can be on the same wavelength

I don't just want to live my life, I want to share it with one special person.

Is that something you would like too? Send me a message. Location is not important, I don't mind if you're in the same town, on the other side of the world, or anywhere in between.

I hope to hear from you soon.

6 Comments
2022/01/08
19:11 UTC

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2nd january is the introvert day enjoye

0 Comments
2022/01/02
12:25 UTC

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25M looking for someone with whom i can connect and share things online. No strings attached relationship

Hey everyone 25M here off late I'm feeling all alone due to this work from home and I need someone to connect with emotionally kind of a online relationship with no strings attached.

0 Comments
2021/12/13
08:50 UTC

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How do you muster up the courage to react to a social situation gone horribly wrong?

Sorry in advance for typos and mistakes. Please understand im not used to my phone yet

Got a question for yall. So i sometimes feel as tough beeing an introvert makes me a little less capable of dealing with akward and possibly dangerous social situations.

Got 2 examples for you;

1: you go to a "party" eithout really knowing anyone because a good friend dragged you there; you get there and people are DRUNK like really Drunk.. some.people try to flirt with the people you came with. You are ALONE in a sea of abnoxious unknown extroverts and BAM! guy walks in with a knife and threatens someone at the party that was sitting next to you.
Happened to me, all i could do was panick and try to eat chips frantically because i read something about eating beeing soothing to people in crisis (nop, dosent work)

2: you meet a neighbour and you want to seem nice so you stay around with other friends but then the neighbour becomes a little uncle gropy and is constantly in your bubble for the remaining of the evening. You are too shy to make a scene and so he keeps on going for months after the event and you are so damn repulsed.by the idea to make a scene you just stay home forever.

How do you muster up the energy to do something in these situations?

6 Comments
2021/12/11
16:43 UTC

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This is me talking about the kind of introvert I am.

0 Comments
2021/11/25
03:12 UTC

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(29M4F) Indian guy looking for cyber FWB. Kik preferred.

I am an introverted guy from Tamil Nadu, India with no wish to meet up in real. I'm looking for a reasonably good-looking female partner of any age to chat, sex-chat/sext, exchange nudes with. Anonymity guaranteed as I value my privacy too. I just wish to cope with my frequent sexual urges with no strings attached.

1 Comment
2021/11/04
04:21 UTC

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36, M4R, Alabama USA - New to group, looking to connect with fellow introverts.

Recently moved from Illinois to Alabama. Looking for some online buddies since it takes a while for me to open up to others IRL. My interests are Jiu-Jitsu and MMA, CrossFit, learning computer programming (python). Have a great Dane and golden retriever as well as a flock of chickens.

0 Comments
2021/10/28
18:10 UTC

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Trying to make friends so I have someone to talk to

Hello 👋 and how r u ,

I am (17m) and i am from india fyi ,

So as I said in the title I am kinda bad at making friends and socializing in general so I am trying to make new friends through the internet cos covid won't let me go out . I think I am a pretty interesting guy to talk to and have many interests like

Chess,drawing and reading books

Watching movies and shows (mystery or thrillers mainly)

Kinda started watching anime and am a fan of good animated series

Big fan of marvel and superheroes in general

Science and basically just talking abt anything and finding out how and why things work in a specific way.

Love listening to people talk abt stuff and learning new things from them

So feel free to hmu as long as ur age is somewhere close to mine like 15-18 . If u r close to my time zone it would be great but if not that's fine just that I may take some time to respond to u.

2 Comments
2021/10/26
13:24 UTC

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I don’t know if this is a introvert thing.

Don’t you hate when you are on a train, listening to music with your AirPods on and someone starts talking to you? You could be listening to your favorite song and all of a sudden, “Aye, young man, how you are doing today.” and they keep the conversation going.

6 Comments
2021/10/24
05:13 UTC

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