I have always been an introvert and currently I'm just self-isolating, loving my peace, happy with my slow life. I recently went on a solo trip, I try mostly to be on my own, go on solo walks, avoid socializing in hostels, sit with my laptop etc, but still ended up attracting some extroverts on the trip. Here are two incidents that happened with me on the month-long trip:

I. I met A. A was a male solo traveller in the hostel I was staying at. I was back from a solo walk, he said hi, we talked for a few minutes, he suggested a place for dinner and I said yes. He wasn't creepy at all but kind of a closeted flirt. Being an introvert, I find it hard to say no, and at the dinner itself (first day), when he got to know my future travel plans, he said he will accompany me to the next destination and booked transport for the rest of his journey then and there. I had already booked my cab for the next day and part of me went along with him considering that we could share the expense and I'd save some bucks. I started hating him then and there but couldn't bring myself to say no. Now anyone not in my headspace wouldn't see any reason to hate him, he was just an overfriendly guy. But you know those people who just keep blabbering on and on, despite you putting up all signs to repulse them? This guy literally tagged along with me for the next 3 days and used to blabber every second of the hour except once when another guy joined us on a ride and he was thankfully silent for that amount of time. I literally have a boring personality and yet I tried my best to put up the most boring part of my self by just murmuring hmmm to all his statements and giving curt, almost rude replies. Bloke poured out his life's sob stories to me, god knows why, and even in the sob stories, he didn't come out as a victim as he was trying to portray himself, he was more of a showoff. One day, he literally started crying at the dinner table over how much his father had done for him. I literally don't understand how people can pour their hearts out to someone you met a couple of days ago, especially someone showing no interest. I was on my phone the whole time and didn't even feel the need to console him (maybe I was being an AH but I was tired of what was happening to me). I could have puked at the amount of cringe that came out of him, and he asked me probably a dozen times everyday how I felt about his company. He started counting down to the hours we had left together on our last day, he insisted on meeting again in each other's cities and made future plans for that, while all I was waiting for was the time I'd be rid of him finally. Poor chap misread his bus timings as he was busy blabbering, and had to leave earlier than planned and I was saved from all the embarassment of the kind of goodbye he was expecting. I was finally free, I moved to my next destination, texted with him a bit till he was done with the expense calculations, I cleared off my dues and ghosted him for my own good.

I kinda know the villain of the story here may be me, the stupid girl who is afraid to say no, but I gave all the clear hints and signs I could, and tried my best.

II. I met B. I was still travelling solo, but this time with a tour company who takes along people in groups. I met B there, in the group. She barely talked with me the whole trip, she even made fun of me once publicly when I made a mistake. I was mostly quiet on this whole tour, barely talking with anyone. She was always hanging out with the other people in our group. I was at peace being alone. But I had a few exchanges with her brother and somehow they pictured me as someone who is just not me. I moved on solo to my next point in the trip after I bade goodbye to this group and this girl B starts texting me whole day about my whereabouts and stuff, even calling me at times, which I found strange for someone I had so less interaction with. She keeps telling me how she has very less female friends, and she wants someone quiet who can listen to her problems all day, someone with whom she can sit silently with a coffee, someone who can "tolerate" her and won't have much demands or judgements. She said she loved how I had clicked her pics on the whole trip, and wanted us to be bffs. Idk how extroverts assume that I'm this gullible little girl who will agree to be their trauma dumping ground, coz hey I have enough trauma of my own to handle.

I am being an AH here again, but I'm totally not the poor lil introvert she or her brother assumed me to be. I cut off people, I ghost people (despite having zero friends), and I do all my stuff on my own. I hate how people kinda think introverts NEED more company or some extrovert to come along and "open them up to their true self". No we do not. Ig it's not their fault either but I'm also done being their backup friend till someone "cooler" comes along.

I am an introvert and I am in college right now and I have one good friend I suppose the problem is I feel she is taking advantage of me like for instance we had made a plan to go for a movie I had paid for the tickets and they were expensive I believed that she would pay me her share but she never did after the movie we went to eat and she quickly paid for the bill the amount that I spent was much more like we had an arrangement of any kind just pay me your share I did not wanted to make things awkward so I let it go I have observed that I am always the one doing favors she also has this weird habit of making me post about her on instagram and after posting she will be like why did you post that I was just kidding that just pisses me off .She is part of my project team she has done absolutely nothing always bossing around by sweetly talking around and then acting that she never got any chance to help out that just makes me so angry she always has an excuse in the previous year she was not with me as a team member I remember her constant excuses of doing no work and putting the blame on some other person . Is something wrong with me is this wrong just please help me out

If anyone here wants to talk about anything, just send me a chat coz I'm always down to listen. The world is already a cruel and dark place, let's try to be a light for each other. :)

So 2 days ago. I was in a suprise birthday party of my extroverted friend's sister. Later on I was at the corner scrolling through my phone because I couldn't talk to anyone and I only knew my friend and her sisters. But she noticed it and tried to make me socialize. I told her no and tried showing me how by entering a random conversation with other people. I told her it's because they know her more than me but she didn't care. She then got her cousin ( someone I don't like) and told her the entire thing. Him being a dumbass though I was just shy and grabbed me and introduced me to his twenty something year old friend( I am 17) it was soo awkward with him that I had to lie about getting a phone call just to leave this conversation. The next day I argued with my friend about it and the fact that she told my sister too ( she doesn't know I am an introvert) but I fucked up by using her insecurity against her ( I won't mention it out of respect) and suddenly I am the asshole. I know this isn't supposed to be in this sub but I really want to know from people like me if what I did was just pity or not and if so how can I at least had handle it

hi, it's my second time posting here. it's been a year already or more than a year when i'm suffering from this daydreaming. I mean it's normal but i think mine is getting worse cuz it hindered me to do things that i was supposed to do. the worst part is i think about my crush liking me also even though it was just all in my head. the small actions such as viewing my myday was just normal but it was a big deal for me and i would think about it all day. It's like i can't live in the present or focus because i would hope that all the dream i think every night will become real someday. it's hard to hope for something that is impossible to happen. i also became ackward in school or don't talk when my crush is around. i just want to move on but i can't since we're classmates and even though i think all the bad traits about her, i just can't. it's hard and it's been more than a year. also, when we have small interaction, i feel happy but when it's the opposite, i feel like something was missing and i felt sad. i don't want to be inlove like this. it'sharda fr. can u guys give me advice about this? not by confessing since i know there's no chance but just wanted to move on from this...

Hi everyone!
I'm a silent reader here but I've always wanted to interact with other redditors. Unfortunately, every time I posted or commented on posts, they always removed them. I don't know why. :( Can someone share how does this work? I want to engage in this app as well. This is the only social media app I have. Hihih

Guys do you ever Feel like you can't make deep bonds with people it's like you know them many months still don't know about them but suddenly two more people came and they know more about him/her and few days or weeks that i can't figure out in months or years. Frankly speaking i am not an introvert rather i don't have that social or a charisma. Now let's look at my story when i was in school it always happens to me that my friends can't or don't talk to me that frankly or openly that they talk to others but back then i was not a overthinker or smart enough to understands what's going on. Now that i remember..... and also i don't have single contact with school friends. But now i am in college i met a person and like we know each others for 6 month , one day i introduce that person to some of other people i know and that person told them about his/her partner and many more i didn't get to know. I know this is my problem of social skills but... it just don't feel right.

I am that kind of person who doesn’t even talk to their family much. Am I classified as introvert or is there another word for me?

I hate feeling this way and the isolation makes it bad. I live in NRH. I’ll help you with whatever

I've always been interested in philosophy, not trained or went to school for, just something i got into as a adult.

I was wondering if anyone has written books, essay's, articles, or youtube channels on loner philosophy.

If so, recomendations?

I’ve moved to New York recently. And you’d think that with the sheer amount of people in the city, it’d be pretty easy to find your community. It’s been quite the opposite and I figure it’s not even the city. If you’re an extrovert , you’ll find your community no matter what city. And if you’re an introvert , no matter how large of a city, you’re screwed.

What has helped you as an introvert to overcome barriers and meet people ? How do you build social skills?

Hello everyone

I am an introvert, always been and i didn’t think much of it. But now i feel that it has affected me tremendously in regards to finding a job and maintaining one as well. I discovered that it is very important to build connections and that it is even more important than ur knowledge or skills. I was always confident in myself bc i thought i was smart and i can do almost anything but i failed miserably in job interviews and getting hired after internships. I know that the problem isn’t my work but my social skills.

Is it possible to change? I want to be extrovert or at least improve my social skills but i have no idea how to do that

I’ve noticed that the only time i can talk to someone is when there’s an end goal for example,like working with others in a group to get a project done. i genuinely don’t think i’ve ever had a casual 1 on 1 conversation with someone in my entire life.

Does anyone find advertising doesn’t influence their shopping behaviour much? I think about the ad’s intention or what’s going on but really only as an intellectual exercise. Sometimes the stereotypes or ‘aspirational’ sltuations annoy me. I’m also amazed how my extrovert family and friends are so easily persuaded by ads. But then most extroverts are influenced by others, often copying them - even if those people are paid actors! I’m sure the expression FOMO was invented by extroverts. Occasionally ads do influence me but it’s usually because of a product’s features or because I need it.

I feel like just deleting my remaining social media. I have Discord, I'm in plenty of servers however I don't really talk in any except maybe 1 or 2. Instagram? I just check up on people I know irl but honestly I have this growing desire to just delete my account once and for all. I even want to unsubscribe from as many newsletters as possible lol. Anyone else on the same boat?

I’m an immigrant dating an American. I recently moved to his hometown, and I find it challenging in some social situations involving his friends and family—mostly because I don’t always catch everything they say. This makes me feel (and those who experience this will understand that, even though we know it’s not true in practice, it’s how we feel) excluded, embarrassed, dumb, and even a source of laughter or judgment.

I’ve had very uncomfortable experiences with his family and friends where I just stayed quiet, and once, I even pretended to be asleep (we were on a cozy outdoor sofa around a fire) because I didn’t have anything to say—or because everything I wanted to say sounded weird in my head, so I just didn’t say it. It was hard, but I put myself in those situations. After all, we were only visiting his hometown for ten days, so I followed him almost everywhere to get to know his family and friends.

Now, here we are again. I’m living in his hometown and still haven’t made any friends. Tomorrow, he has a birthday party to attend and will be going to a concert. Initially, he said, “I’ll be busy, think of something for you to do.” Later, he added, “You can come to the birthday if you want” (not the concert, which is fine since he had already bought tickets for himself and a friend). But again, my anxious mind tells me, “I don’t think he really wants me there. Since I can be awkward and shy, it would probably be easier for him to just enjoy himself with his friends.” I would have appreciated a more inviting and caring tone—something that made me feel welcome and like he genuinely wanted me there. But I also recognize that, even though he knows I struggle in these situations, it probably doesn’t even cross his mind that he could help by simply saying he would like me to be there too.

The event is tomorrow, and I’m already feeling anxious about it. But I want to free myself from this feeling. I tried looking for meetups, but nothing seemed interesting (maybe I should be more open-minded). It’s going to be a long day while he does his thing, and I’m worried I’ll feel lonely spending so many hours exploring by myself. I don’t know—I just want to be more easygoing, stop overthinking, and maybe make a list of places to visit or even take the risk of going to the birthday.

What are your thoughts on this? Thanks for reading! 💕

It’s something I struggle with, and not sure if it’s my personality, or highly introverted tendencies, but maintaining or holding eye contact during sex is hard work, and makes me feel a little bit uncomfortable. I love my partner immensely, but even in moments like this, prolonged eye contact is hard to maintain. Is this common with other introverts?

My friend who I think I'd say has been my "best friend" since 2021 has been treating me awfully for at least 2 years and I don't know how to combat it!!!

What is your age and how often do you go out for fun with other people? Whether that's a night out or a simple hang out.

I live with three roommates. One barely says a word to me these days. The other is introverted like me, so we can tell when the other wants to relax, or talk for an hour or so. We generally get along well. The third is extroverted and I sometimes enjoy talking to her, but sometimes don't.

Yesterday I felt bad because she came out of her room and started talking to me when I was trying to make my dinner before heading out somewhere. She did get the sense that I was trying to leave, though. Occasionally, I'll be studying and she'll just strike up a conversation and then it always ends with "well, I have to go now, I'm running late for X" and I'm like, well, no offense, but I'm kind of trying to focus anyways.

I feel like, though, if this were my friend, I'd try a little harder to listen to her. But maybe it's just that I'm not super close to this roommate. I've let a couple of insensitive comments slide, but we only really have one thing in common these days. I feel terrible. I don't know why she often gets on my nerves. But she held me up for class once telling me a story about how she got chased by a homeless man and I was like ok....

She actually does have a lot of friends though so that works in my favor because I feel like I say no to her occasionally. Idk if anyone has ever dealt with this.

She once complimented me saying I was really sweet but I feel like every time she's around I act like I'm in a rush (because sometimes I actually am). I just prefer being out of the room.

F19 I’m doing my second year in college and one thing I plan to do is to stay indoors more. Last year, during my first year, I tried to go out a couple of times and I didn’t enjoy most of these outings and I would have rather preferred to be at home.

But I will say, all the outings I didn’t enjoy were when I went out with my sister and her friends (which are all extrovert in some way) to loud and busy places. They weren’t clubs or bars or anything but just restaurants that are know to play loud party music and serve alcoholic drinks.

I don’t drink so I couldn’t even make use of that option. I’m just not a party person, I honestly don’t know why I went to begin with. I thought maybe I’d enjoy it. And with a group full of extroverts, I just felt so out of place, despite my sister being there.

I do have a couple of ‘friends’ at school but I feel acquainted to them. We mostly talk about school work and a little bit of our personal lives. I could make an effort to deepen these ‘friendships’ but i honestly do not care for that because I’m okay with having an acquainted relationship - which is why I didnt invite them to join me when I went out with my sister and her friends. I can engage in conversations and genuinely enjoy it but I’m also closed off. I’m pretty sure they can tell too because they leave me be, which I appreciate honestly.

But there are times where I YEARN for a best friend or friend group that I can talk about everything and hang out with all the time but I feel like I just haven’t met that person for me… yet.

This year I just plan to go to campus for classes and study and head back home to my hobbies, but is that bad?

Huhh!! Feb is here, 8.33% of 2025 is completed like yeah mann time is running fast af...after the covid era or we can say after 2019 or 2020 time just flew in the fraction of seconds...it feels like tommorow when I was in my 9th or 10th grade attending online zoom classes and enjoying and chilling and if I look back, 5 years are passed...doesn't feel like 5 years... Tomorrow we were enjoying with our friends in school....aur shaam ko "gedi" feels like home but now everyone escaped the pinjra of their hometown and flew here and there for persuing higher studies, I am also doing my B.tech. Idk why I just feel to talk to anyone about all this that how time is going and I personally am not happy or enjoying the things as I used too...I feel still. I haven't been in contact with my school and childhood friends since 1 year...cuz some misunderstandings happen and we are just seperated... It hurts me that in present I didnt even have a single friend to whom I can talk normally about my day and all... Phhhh!!! Yeah it hurts!! But trying to keep up with the flow of life Thanks for reading or listening to me.

I am very introverted and don’t have best social skills. I tend to admire certain people from social media that I see around but never talk too, certain friend groups or just the vibe of some people. I feel like I know them from social media as I constantly see updates about them but I have never actually had a conversation with them, they could be the worse person ever for all I know. I always do this, then if I do ever get a chance to communicate, sometimes they turn out to be utter idiots or rude and then I feel crushed as I been creating an image of someone who doesn’t exist. Why do I do this??

I need everyone’s tater tots and pears this weekend as I gear up for a huge convention. Two days of being staffed at a booth and talking/sales pitching/networking about my business for 8 hours and then I come home and take care of my two young kids. This time of year is always a struggle and sometimes it takes me longer then I think is needed to snap back. The older I get the more drained I feel. Pray for me y’all.

Sometimes public places freak me out, but other times it's cool if I'm around people I'm comfortable with. Honestly, though that's only like 10% of the time.

I'm actually pretty confident when talking to strangers, I can give a speech in front of a crowd without freaking out. But if I'm around the same people for more than a week, I start feeling weird and shy. I get super awkward.

For a long time, I thought for sure I was an introvert. I hate big groups of people, constant talking, and non-stop interaction. Minimal conversation is okay, but hours of talking? No thanks. It feels like it's sucking the life out of me if I'm forced to be in that situation.

For context: My Father is 60 years old and can walk fine and everything.

My Therapist says that I am very introverted, this is likely due to the fact that my Mother constantly babied me and my Father didn't care nearly as much, despite still taking care of me. I am pretty reserved on words and like to just do things.

I had a very tough week and had for three days straight in our home renovations, constantly letting somebody in and out when they forgot materials and the like. Then I also have to do chores, go shopping, take care of my cat and keep up with whatever my friends are doing. Plus a Job and School.

My Dad's SIM Cards destroyed and he wants to get it fixed tomorrow, problem is that I have to go because he doesn't want to. He complains all month about wanting to go to the gym, taking walks, but he never does, no matter how often I ask.

This might seem selfish and bratty for my age of 20, but I seriously don't feel like going either. It's Weekend tomorrow and he just told me about it, obviously expecting me to say yes, but I don't want to do much of anything besides a chore here or there and just meet up perhaps. It's only half and hour and I know it would perhaps take 5 minutes, but my Dad can do things on his own, he just refuses to do so and watches TV all day while complaining the whole time that he "doesn't do anything".

This would be a perfect opportunity for him to go take a walk and do something, but he either refuses to go if I won't come with him, or I myself have to go. He even told me "not to argue because it's not a big deal", it kind of is for me since I just want to relax on a Saturday in the last few weeks. I told him that I'd go with him but he seems to try and make me feel "guilty" by being pissed off, which in turn made me kind of frustrated and mad myself, and my excitement for my weekend is gone. Not to mention the fact that next week is more renovation when I come home still.

The reason why I am asking is because I feel bad, my dad has in the past described me as somewhat lazy and not very determined which I agree with, but I have been trying to change that lately, but it also feels like my Dad doesn't even try anymore to do anything much by himself. He makes me feel like a little Child whenever I disagree on something with him.

I feel like everytime I do something for myself or decline helping someone, I feel immediatly bad about it but I feel shitty for just being honest and saying "no" because my Dad especially treats me like a 10 years old. How the hell would I feel grown up when the only Parental Figure I have constantly makes me do everything, never explains how the world works to me and basically watches TV all day, but I am the lazy one. The one with School, a Job AND everything else. Am I in the wrong or just childish?