t3_1gpdu13

Do you reach out and try to connect with others? Also I read in another sub that intps bring down the mood when they are depressed, unaware of the emotional impact they have on others because of the underdeveloped Fe. Are you aware of such things? How do you develop Fe? By putting yourself in other people's shoe and trying to feel what they feel?

<div class="md"><p>Do you reach out and try to connect with others? Also I read in another sub that intps bring down the mood when they are depressed, unaware of the emotional impact they have on others because of the underdeveloped Fe. Are you aware of such things? How do you develop Fe? By putting yourself in other people&#39;s shoe and trying to feel what they feel?</p>
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What do you do when you are too sad?

t3_1gpdt9u

Let’s face it: “self-care” advice is all over the place, but half the time, it just doesn’t click. Here’s my realistic go-to list that keeps me (somewhat) sane:

1. **The 5-Minute Journal**
   * Writing three things I’m grateful for every morning sounds cheesy, but trust me, it works. Plus, it takes… five minutes. No huge commitment.
2. **“The Happiness Lab” Podcast**
   * Dr. Laurie Santos breaks down happiness in a way that actually makes sense and doesn’t feel like some wellness mumbo-jumbo. Bonus: It’s perfect background noise when I’m overthinking at night.
3. **Atomic Habits by James Clear**
   * The classic book on building habits and making tiny changes that add up. For all my procrastinators, this one's surprisingly motivating.
4. **Guided Gratitude Journaling & Bite-Sized Therapy with LePal**
   * Ever tried to journal but felt totally lost? LePal is a gamified AI mental health BFF app where you can do guided gratitude journaling and get bite-sized therapy sessions. The sessions are super useful since they fit my Gen Z attention span and tight schedule. I get quick, actionable insights that help me reflect, make decisions, and feel more in control of my life. Plus, I love watching my “mental pet” evolve as I take care of myself.
5. **Digital Detox**
   * At least one hour a day without screens—sounds impossible, but it’s shockingly refreshing. It’s where I get my best ideas (and sanity).

What’s your go-to self-care habit that actually works for you?



<div class="md"><p>Let’s face it: “self-care” advice is all over the place, but half the time, it just doesn’t click. Here’s my realistic go-to list that keeps me (somewhat) sane:</p>

<ol>
<li><strong>The 5-Minute Journal</strong>

<ul>
<li>Writing three things I’m grateful for every morning sounds cheesy, but trust me, it works. Plus, it takes… five minutes. No huge commitment.</li>
</ul></li>
<li><strong>“The Happiness Lab” Podcast</strong>

<ul>
<li>Dr. Laurie Santos breaks down happiness in a way that actually makes sense and doesn’t feel like some wellness mumbo-jumbo. Bonus: It’s perfect background noise when I’m overthinking at night.</li>
</ul></li>
<li><strong>Atomic Habits by James Clear</strong>

<ul>
<li>The classic book on building habits and making tiny changes that add up. For all my procrastinators, this one&#39;s surprisingly motivating.</li>
</ul></li>
<li><strong>Guided Gratitude Journaling &amp; Bite-Sized Therapy with LePal</strong>

<ul>
<li>Ever tried to journal but felt totally lost? LePal is a gamified AI mental health BFF app where you can do guided gratitude journaling and get bite-sized therapy sessions. The sessions are super useful since they fit my Gen Z attention span and tight schedule. I get quick, actionable insights that help me reflect, make decisions, and feel more in control of my life. Plus, I love watching my “mental pet” evolve as I take care of myself.</li>
</ul></li>
<li><strong>Digital Detox</strong>

<ul>
<li>At least one hour a day without screens—sounds impossible, but it’s shockingly refreshing. It’s where I get my best ideas (and sanity).</li>
</ul></li>
</ol>

<p>What’s your go-to self-care habit that actually works for you?</p>
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5 Self-Care Practices That Actually Keep Me (INTP) Motivated and Sane


t3_1gpcxrs

i am estp femae, i know its not about mbti but we have been together for 3 years LDR 7 hour differences, (6 months we break up but got back together) it was my fault i’ve kissed a guy and he accepted me after that, i think he didn’t forgive me even its almost 1.5 year later, past one month things weren’t good, dry texts, constant little arguments about he dont give me enough attention etc… i get impulsive when i am angry and said things that disrespectful a month before and yesterday he said he gave up, and didnt feel any joy with me only anxiety, but  didn’t mention breakup, i tried to apologise and what i think about him how important he is in my life, is it the end?

<div class="md"><p>i am estp femae, i know its not about mbti but we have been together for 3 years LDR 7 hour differences, (6 months we break up but got back together) it was my fault i’ve kissed a guy and he accepted me after that, i think he didn’t forgive me even its almost 1.5 year later, past one month things weren’t good, dry texts, constant little arguments about he dont give me enough attention etc… i get impulsive when i am angry and said things that disrespectful a month before and yesterday he said he gave up, and didnt feel any joy with me only anxiety, but  didn’t mention breakup, i tried to apologise and what i think about him how important he is in my life, is it the end?</p>
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intp bf said he don’t feel joy with me

t3_1gpadtu

INTPs, what is your greatest ambition? It could be weird or trivial. 

<div class="md"><p>INTPs, what is your greatest ambition? It could be weird or trivial. </p>
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Your greatest ambition

t3_1gpa4fi

So just to tell my story and maybe read someone's take on it, recently I've been coping with the fact that everyone is like an actual different person apart and completely independent to myself, just like I am to my own perception. I know it seems logic and I always knew, but recently I've just started to actually internalize it and understand the concept of it, see when I was a kid, for some reason when I was like 7 or 8, it actually seemed to me like just I was conscious and everyone else was like a meat robot or just not entirely real. I never dwelved too deep into that train of thought though and then just lived with other people being part of my life, not really grasping that everyone else ALSO had their own struggles and that 90% percent of the time when they did or said something that hurt me, it usually wasn't personal, but it almost always seemed personal to me so I would overthink it and it led to me having serious trust issues with the people who got close to me which got worse over the years.
Fast forward, I'm 26 now and over the last couple months it's when it has started to hit me that we're all really part of this whole thing we call life, we all play our own role in our own way, all completely different from each other and all we do is usually with the best intentions, regardless of wether other people will see it the same way or not, in our heads at the time it seemed like the right thing. I know it's kind of dumb but it helped me understand the position people who have hurt me were in.
It helped me understand a woman whose son was the only escape she had from her abusive husband, and that she was so attention deprived and was so eager to act first that she didn't realize her son had things to say too. She couldn't tell her son did love her but just couldn't talk to her and open up without being immediately shut down by a burst of her laughter. She couldn't tell that hurt, her mind was somewhere else and she didn't know how to look inward.
It helped me understand, after years of holding it against the old man, that her husband was just lost in this world and didn't know how to recognize the true love in his life. He kept seeing daggers in the shadows and drove everyone he loved away except for his daughter, who's just as (if not more) broken than him.
It's helped me understand that people don't really change who they are, just the way they choose to act towards things, but who they are inside doesn't really turn much.
I understand now that I'm not really alone and we all in fact DO make mistakes, but it just happens.
I'm not excusing anything for anybody, some things in the end ARE intentional after all, but it just hadn't hit me that we all are in the position of having to make a choice and the stories I hear aren't just stories they tell me that I don't see, they are things that actually are happening even if I can't witness it directly.
I don't know, just thought it was weird and wanted to share it, maybe you guys have felt something like that?

<div class="md"><p>So just to tell my story and maybe read someone&#39;s take on it, recently I&#39;ve been coping with the fact that everyone is like an actual different person apart and completely independent to myself, just like I am to my own perception. I know it seems logic and I always knew, but recently I&#39;ve just started to actually internalize it and understand the concept of it, see when I was a kid, for some reason when I was like 7 or 8, it actually seemed to me like just I was conscious and everyone else was like a meat robot or just not entirely real. I never dwelved too deep into that train of thought though and then just lived with other people being part of my life, not really grasping that everyone else ALSO had their own struggles and that 90% percent of the time when they did or said something that hurt me, it usually wasn&#39;t personal, but it almost always seemed personal to me so I would overthink it and it led to me having serious trust issues with the people who got close to me which got worse over the years.
Fast forward, I&#39;m 26 now and over the last couple months it&#39;s when it has started to hit me that we&#39;re all really part of this whole thing we call life, we all play our own role in our own way, all completely different from each other and all we do is usually with the best intentions, regardless of wether other people will see it the same way or not, in our heads at the time it seemed like the right thing. I know it&#39;s kind of dumb but it helped me understand the position people who have hurt me were in.
It helped me understand a woman whose son was the only escape she had from her abusive husband, and that she was so attention deprived and was so eager to act first that she didn&#39;t realize her son had things to say too. She couldn&#39;t tell her son did love her but just couldn&#39;t talk to her and open up without being immediately shut down by a burst of her laughter. She couldn&#39;t tell that hurt, her mind was somewhere else and she didn&#39;t know how to look inward.
It helped me understand, after years of holding it against the old man, that her husband was just lost in this world and didn&#39;t know how to recognize the true love in his life. He kept seeing daggers in the shadows and drove everyone he loved away except for his daughter, who&#39;s just as (if not more) broken than him.
It&#39;s helped me understand that people don&#39;t really change who they are, just the way they choose to act towards things, but who they are inside doesn&#39;t really turn much.
I understand now that I&#39;m not really alone and we all in fact DO make mistakes, but it just happens.
I&#39;m not excusing anything for anybody, some things in the end ARE intentional after all, but it just hadn&#39;t hit me that we all are in the position of having to make a choice and the stories I hear aren&#39;t just stories they tell me that I don&#39;t see, they are things that actually are happening even if I can&#39;t witness it directly.
I don&#39;t know, just thought it was weird and wanted to share it, maybe you guys have felt something like that?</p>
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Low key main character syndrome anyone?

t3_1gp9yb6

How would you react if someone came out and admitted they lied about something and apologized for it? Please consider the severity of the lie and the reason behind it. How forgiving are you? I messed up.  


<div class="md"><p>How would you react if someone came out and admitted they lied about something and apologized for it? Please consider the severity of the lie and the reason behind it. How forgiving are you? I messed up.  </p>
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Apologizing to an INTP 

t3_1gp9qy0

I find it really hard to get going on something... I get caught in my own head a lot of the time and I am the absolutely best at day dreaming.  I find I can sit and do nothing for hours.  Is this an INTP trait?

I have done various tests for personality types, many times, and always come up INTP.

<div class="md"><p>I find it really hard to get going on something... I get caught in my own head a lot of the time and I am the absolutely best at day dreaming.  I find I can sit and do nothing for hours.  Is this an INTP trait?</p>

<p>I have done various tests for personality types, many times, and always come up INTP.</p>
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Are INTPs lazy?

t3_1gp8v2a



This isn’t mbti related but it is psychology related. I wanted to ask you guys because I don’t know what other sub there is for loose discussions about ‘deep’ things. (Some big subs have so many rules and restrictions..) 

Anyway, let’s saying that a guy wants to be like the ‘action man’ on tv. The cool badass detective. Or the rockstar he sees on YouTube. He’s not even a teenager anymore. Sometimes he even can’t help but mimic their mannerism, even when he’s by himself. It just makes him feel better. Little kick of dopamine in a head without much of it. He’s attracted to strong men, macho characters who are dark and mysterious, deep but still traditionally masculine. He kind of wishes he was like them. Sometimes he imagines there’s a camera on him, and he’s being interviewed about his life, someone is asking him about his routines, and he’s casually disclosing all his philosophies to admiring viewers. Sometimes when he’s in the shower he sings, and he pretends that the whole world is watching him, every little facial movement being praised and loved. Yet when he sees people actually near to him like his family, he pushes them away and dislikes their presence. 

Perhaps there can be many causes for this behaviour, perhaps not. I don’t really know. What do you thinks behind this ? 

<div class="md"><p>This isn’t mbti related but it is psychology related. I wanted to ask you guys because I don’t know what other sub there is for loose discussions about ‘deep’ things. (Some big subs have so many rules and restrictions..) </p>

<p>Anyway, let’s saying that a guy wants to be like the ‘action man’ on tv. The cool badass detective. Or the rockstar he sees on YouTube. He’s not even a teenager anymore. Sometimes he even can’t help but mimic their mannerism, even when he’s by himself. It just makes him feel better. Little kick of dopamine in a head without much of it. He’s attracted to strong men, macho characters who are dark and mysterious, deep but still traditionally masculine. He kind of wishes he was like them. Sometimes he imagines there’s a camera on him, and he’s being interviewed about his life, someone is asking him about his routines, and he’s casually disclosing all his philosophies to admiring viewers. Sometimes when he’s in the shower he sings, and he pretends that the whole world is watching him, every little facial movement being praised and loved. Yet when he sees people actually near to him like his family, he pushes them away and dislikes their presence. </p>

<p>Perhaps there can be many causes for this behaviour, perhaps not. I don’t really know. What do you thinks behind this ? </p>
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What is the need behind this want? 

t3_1gp8432

Sports are here defined as physical activities. So chess, poker or video games etc don’t count. 
***I meant any physical activities not just competitive sports

Categories are:

a) Prefer no sports

b) Single-person sports (swimming, hiking, climbing, boxing, etc)

c) 2 or player competitive sports (racket sports for ex)

d) multiplayer competitive sports (soccer, basketball, volleyball, etc)

I’m curious on the types of sports INTPs prefer, if any. I also want to hear about the reasons behind liking certain categories or disliking certain categories. It might also be helpful if you can answer if you grew up being surrounded by people playing sports and how that affected you. TIA!


<div class="md"><p>Sports are here defined as physical activities. So chess, poker or video games etc don’t count. 
***I meant any physical activities not just competitive sports</p>

<p>Categories are:</p>

<p>a) Prefer no sports</p>

<p>b) Single-person sports (swimming, hiking, climbing, boxing, etc)</p>

<p>c) 2 or player competitive sports (racket sports for ex)</p>

<p>d) multiplayer competitive sports (soccer, basketball, volleyball, etc)</p>

<p>I’m curious on the types of sports INTPs prefer, if any. I also want to hear about the reasons behind liking certain categories or disliking certain categories. It might also be helpful if you can answer if you grew up being surrounded by people playing sports and how that affected you. TIA!</p>
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Preferred category of Sports? survey

t3_1gp7lkv

Does anybody else's brain do this weird thing where it imagines the most gruesome accidents in the most mundane of activities?

I'll give you examples:  

1) I was watching a winter camping video. Somebody suggested adding stones to the fire so as to preserve heat when the fire goes off. My brain imagined me placing the stones on the fire for warmth, then one accidentally exploding, sending shrapnel into my eyeball, leading to a nasty wound that blinds me on one eye.

2) I could just be walking and say I get the idea to jump across a calvert. My brain suddenly imagines me jumping, slipping, landing with my head, cracking my skull open, leading to death, or worse, pleading for help to random strangers.

3) I might see kids running and playing, and then my brain concocts a vivid sequence of accidents leading to catastrophic bodily injuries.

These fantasies always happen unconsciously and very frequently. As a result, I tend to feel very physically insecure. 

Every little step is taken with careful deliberation to avoid any accidents. I also fear pushing my body beyond its physical capabilities. Don't even get me started on how I absolutely avoid sports that require constant physical interaction or manual labor.

Even on a bus, I have to select the safest seat in case of my already envisioned final destination accident. Whenever I'm in public, I just find the safest spot where I won't be haunted by fantasies of the worst possible accidents.

I doubt this is a rare thing, so I'd like to know what causes this and how many people deal with such an issue.

<div class="md"><p>Does anybody else&#39;s brain do this weird thing where it imagines the most gruesome accidents in the most mundane of activities?</p>

<p>I&#39;ll give you examples:  </p>

<p>1) I was watching a winter camping video. Somebody suggested adding stones to the fire so as to preserve heat when the fire goes off. My brain imagined me placing the stones on the fire for warmth, then one accidentally exploding, sending shrapnel into my eyeball, leading to a nasty wound that blinds me on one eye.</p>

<p>2) I could just be walking and say I get the idea to jump across a calvert. My brain suddenly imagines me jumping, slipping, landing with my head, cracking my skull open, leading to death, or worse, pleading for help to random strangers.</p>

<p>3) I might see kids running and playing, and then my brain concocts a vivid sequence of accidents leading to catastrophic bodily injuries.</p>

<p>These fantasies always happen unconsciously and very frequently. As a result, I tend to feel very physically insecure. </p>

<p>Every little step is taken with careful deliberation to avoid any accidents. I also fear pushing my body beyond its physical capabilities. Don&#39;t even get me started on how I absolutely avoid sports that require constant physical interaction or manual labor.</p>

<p>Even on a bus, I have to select the safest seat in case of my already envisioned final destination accident. Whenever I&#39;m in public, I just find the safest spot where I won&#39;t be haunted by fantasies of the worst possible accidents.</p>

<p>I doubt this is a rare thing, so I&#39;d like to know what causes this and how many people deal with such an issue.</p>
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