I am seeing an ISTJ man (i'm a woman) for a couple of months now. Everything is going great. He has slowly opened up about his life and I am happy getting to know him. The way he is opening up is quite new to me. Everytime I dated someone in the past who was so into me, they talk about their lives so much that in a couple of dates, I already know so much about them. For this ISTJ man, everything is gradual but I don't mind. We are not in a hurry. I take it as a good sign that a form of trust is being built here.

So what I want to know, since we're on that comfortable level already, I want to be affectionate with him physically. I want to hug him, lean on his shoulders, play with his hair, cuddle etc. Stuff like that. I am not naturally affectionate to everyone, only to the people I like. I have observed that he is not like that, so I am wondering if I become affectionate, will he appreciate it? Or will he be annoyed?

So I've been trying to figure out if a person in a book is a ISTP or a Istj. So I thought I could figure it out easier by asking for the differences between you guys and ISTP I feel like you guys are both very similar except one is more careful about things.

What would you want to do (act, direct, costumes, script, edit, etc...)? Have you done anything like that in the past?

As an INFP I do fall into the somewhat stereotypical category of being really emotionally out of control and readily let my emotions take charge of my decisions thinking and communication.

I have to admit it all to often leads me into trouble. When reading about the type such as ISTJ as being super logistical, and being rational I almost struggle to comprehend that people in the world conduct themselves with a cool head and wish I could do it aswell.

For an example if I start my day ok and head out into the world and someone was rude to me it tends to send me into a flap and derails my emotions. If people are rude to me I get extremely agitated and struggle to be calm and not let it taint my day

I'm curious to know how exactly you process things in life when they go wrong, when tasks get difficult I'm curious to learn a new way of conducting myself

Thanks

sadly, the original post was removed from r/mbti. i'm trying to figure out whether there was a correlation between sexual compatibility and mbti and how exactly does it go?

you can help me out by telling me which mbti was your best sex and what made it stand out from the rest? thank you

What do you think makes for a bad date? Did you try to salvage it, or get out of there ASAP?

More extroverted or introverted people? Similar or different to you? What things are you looking for in a relationship?

Sorry if this has been asked many times.

I'm an INTP woman and have matched in a dating app with an ISTJ. He seems very intelligent, has similar interests as me and is stable in life.

We have been speaking for five days. Nothing flirty, just getting to know each other. He doesn't answer often at all, but he answers everyday.

He also seems serious and writes 100% perfectly, but yesterday I got a laugh emoji from him.

I really wonder what he thinks about me because no idea, but I'm don't want to ask that directly yet xd.

So with this info, do you have any thought or advice you can share? How can I know if he has any interest at all in me, or he's just answering to be polite or whatever?

P.S.: We are in different countries so can't meet in person, we matched because I'm going to his country this summer.

I saw this in a forum. It said that it make more sense according to cognitive function since we are the ones with an introverted sensing (perceiving) function next to a introverted feeling function ( if we say introverts are iiee). So isfj would be istp since they have si-ti.

What do you think about it?

Do you have more ideas then you can execute? What are your curiosities about? Are they typically environmental, conceptual, or other, and can you elaborate?

My istj bf has decreased his messaging for past weeks without proper explanation. We both don’t live together but live in the same city. We see eachother one’s or twice a week. We both care deeply for eachother but he can endure a certain period of not messaging me. I asked him if he was satisfied with our relationship and he said yes. However, I feel like our lives are growing apart.

everything time I talk to my friend she always seems to give me a short reply, but whenever she initiates the conversation it’s normal. why is that? she doesn’t do this over text though…

And with whom do you gossip (see poll)?

(Not referring to malicious rumor-spreading gossip, just gossip about stupid stuff people said or did, etc.)

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Why so rigid and always trying to be morally correct? And se how things won’t work than will ?

I have lists, Internet bookmarks, book passages and informative images, just so I can be credible. Many people around me are ESTPs who have a "just do it" or "just trust me" mentality, so that's why credible sources are important to me.

I think it's a waste of time to always have them around me in times of information overload and AI.

What are your thoughts on this and how do you organize studies and all other resources?

Like I mean when you analyse certain problem,spend your free time or something, how does Si work? Do you find joy in repetition of certain activities, do you seek knowledge or analyze patterns? When solving something new, how do you approach it? What do you fear in life?

1. Are you the main character or are they a POV of a character?

2. Are the environments based on reality or made up?

3. Are there made up fantasy characters like creatures?

4. Are the people made up or real?

I’m just interested to see if there’s any differences between the styles and structures of dreams based on MBTI. I’m asking this on other MBTI subreddits too.

I know this istj-girl from a dating app but only managed to ask her out for dinner 4 times in 3 months time because she is taking a part-time master now.

I feel all the dates went well each time we met we talked for hours, about work, family and upcoming travel plans. But she never not even once messaged me first. I'm always the one who texts her first and her response is always slow and short.

Recently she didn't reply to my last message. Maybe it was a wrong move from me but I decided to just wait and see if she would text me back if I stopped texting her. Today is the second week she didn't text me back.

Her in person : ☺️ When texting: 🗿

Me right now: 😵‍💫

A. Should I just take it as she is not interested and move on B. Message her again to ask how is she doing now

Do you all feel this way too?

I am always scared of my health failing at some point despite me striving to live a healthy lifestyle (eating right, exercising consistently etc). I am also scared of my loved ones suddenly passing away. I am terrified of sudden change.

I never talk about it, but it chills me to the bone just thinking. I make plans extensively and I tend to over-plan just to make sure. If I get trapped in these "anxiety circles", as what I like to call them, I just do more work but it never does leave my head.

It is unrequited and I can't possibly ask or force her to return these feelings of mine. I met her in 2nd year of college sneaking out of the college with her friends, breaking curfew.

As a member of the council, I obviously tried to get them to stop. She threw a bag of chips at me as a 'bribe' to let them go and not tell anyone. I told them no but she just shrugged. It felt incredulous and she was still grinning. They snuck out and I reported them next morning.

I thought that was it but as their punishment, she was assigned at mess committee and shelves to help. She did not help. She came over to my seat and started complaining about how harsh their punishment was and why someone should drop bokks about french revolution in north korea. It was overwhelming to have her full attention. Everything about her was bold, loud and confident. She was always laughing while finding new ways to distract me or the other people in the area. Doodling and sketching, jumping from doing one thing to another. No structure, no planning..just..

It was quite annoying at first and some of her opions irked me and so did her casual disregard for rules. If rules could be broken, she would do that otherwise she'll find loopholes to go around it. As a child , I was taught to obey the rules and she broke them like they meant nothing. It made me a little jealous.

Her punishment ended after a week and everything went back to how it was before, except it didn't. She would still drop by with weirdest food combination trying to get me to eat them. I cannot handle spicy. She loved it.

We had a moot court competition next. She was one of the participants. We were discussing something and her opinion was cruel and disinterested. It felt strange and wrong. It ended in a verbal argument and me storming off. Later I had found out she wasn't cruel, it was a well thoughtout idea albeit a little out of the box. And somehow her idea...was the best choice that would give the best results.

Next meeting, i apologized, she grinned and offered me noodles. They were the spiciest thing I ever ate, I couldn't take another bite. She threw a candy at me while laughing. She taught me that there are so many different paths one can follow and what really matters is a good heart not the strict following of rules.

Everything about her went against everything I had learnt. Good or evil, chaoticness , what is acceptable and what is not. She questioned everything I had followed and it was terrifying. She is something you would describe as a free spirit. She was charming when she wanted to be, striking conversations with random students, speaking her mind and ideas..so many ideas. And while coming off like that she was one of the top students of her class, she even got the debate trophy. She was altogether opposite of me.

One day she came in with 101° F fever and when asked she just shrugged with a I'm used to it and it's not a big deal then went off to make another joke. That felt distressing. She should not be used to it and perhaps that's when I fully realized that I liked her and also that I didn't even know enough of her.

Now here I am writing about it because I just cannot make it stop.

I could just be being a tad to stereotypical but I like order even if I don't like applying it and I'd imagine you guys would like more organization to?

Now you may be asking "Like what" so I have some suggestions

Family Personal Growth Collections Financial help Orginizations Traditions Stories and past times Questions Venting (Although I think many of you out of respect for those your around would probably rather not participate in this but I could be wrong)

These catagories are things I commonly associate with the only two ISTJs I know and aren't a full reflection of what I believe every ISTJ participates in and should be taken as such.

I'm asking because my grandfather in law? Who is an ISTJ, gets angry with his INFP child, his ISFJ wife and My INFP Wife quite often over what I find to be minor contrivance, I know however; that we see the world very differently. So I've come to learn for our families sake because even if the notion of family isn't important to me it's important to her and I'd like to help without pushing his boundaries if possible as an offering of respect I'm sure he'd appreciate.

What do your conversations naturally gravitate towards? People? Events? Objects? Tasks? Something else?

Do you feel like being observant and focused on gathering all the information from your surroundings makes people seem like you’re eavesdropping on them? I have friends who have said that they feel like I’m eavesdropping on their conversations even though I’m obviously not and just being my observant and information gathering self. I’ve had to tell them there’s a difference between eavesdropping and just being observant of what’s going on around me and listening to the information. I’ve had to explain to my friends that being an INTJ with the observant trait is kind of like being a detective in a way. Where if you don’t have all the information from everyone and everything around you, how are you supposed to learn?

I have stored receipts, old tickets and random mementos from the past. I also have a habit of making time capsules and diaries since 2013.

I figured since ISTJs love to honor tradition and take things from history to heart, some of you might do this too. Correct me if I am wrong.

Do you do these things too?

Just curious. I've come to learn that expressing both is hard for me. I get weirded out when I'm put into positions where I need to be that way and struggle to find the right things to say. I often feel like a bad guy because I'm unable to cope with them, however I do genuinely feel bad.

Have you found any benefits from that type of thing? Do you think there are other, better, options?

If you've found utility in them, what were the most valuable takeaways, and what would you recommend to other people?