Hello :)

I'm an ISFP female (34) and recently matched a guy (31) on Bumble. He was very easy to talk to right away and asked me quickly (after a day or two of texting constantly) if I'd like to meet for a coffee walk.

Since I am very interested in MBTI I always try to figure out new people's type and could need some help here

What I observed/noticed so far:

• he loves sports. He's been playing Tennis since childhood. He likes surfing and wants to improve his skills which is why he's currently in a surf camp. He goes to gym

• he likes hanging out in Bars/Pubs with his friends

• when I mentioned that I like spending time for myself, he said, its nice to have a day for yourself "from time to time" which is why I think he's an extrovert. Also appears more like one in general

• when we met we had sooo much to talk about but all topics were "superficial". We talked hours about traveling, since we both travel A LOT. I once met an ISFJ guy and our conversation dived on a deeper level very quickly. This is why I think he's possibly a T-type? But in the end it's hard to say after the first date?

• he's a foodie. He loves trying out new restaurants and also likes to cook from time to time

• he likes going on festivals and listens to electronic music but I found him interested in Gerry Cinnamon, an UK singer making acoustic music. I found this less common in ESTP or T-types in general. My ESTP friend would never listen to acoustic music where you usually feel something deeply. He would always prefer listening to music that stimulates his senses (like Electronic or Pop). And he likes Hans Zimmer and went to his concert. My ESTP friend would rather say (what? I'd fall asleep there)

• he seems grounded even though he's in Private Equity (he studied business administration). I mention this because I met a lot of people in my life working in this business who seem to be very fixated on their (social) status. But he didn't talk much about his job. When I told him that I'm in Compliance but that I'm not passionate about it and only studied business and laws because I wanted to earn money for traveling, he said, it was the same for him. He also finished his studies after only the Bachelors degree (like me; seems more typical for P types than J types in my experience)

• he's team leader in his job

• he loves having the possibility to work remotely from another country couple of days a year

• during the date he asked for a second date. We want to go out for darts (because while making some jokes I said I'm pretty good ind arts when I'm tipsy). One more hint that he might be a Sensor

• he doesn't seem to have "rigid" plans for his life. When he asked me if I want to stay in the city forever and I said, that I only know that I like it here for now but that my brain's not capable of thinking too far in the future, he said, its the same for him. But could also come from his upbringing since he grew up between UK and Oman and his parents are now living in Spain. So family environment seems to be "more flexible" in general

• he's talkative but often when I wanted to tell a story he was interrupting me. Which is pretty normal when you have a dialogue and plenty to talk abut but he never said something like "sorry for interrupting, what was the rest of your story?" so in the end I couldn't make my point. And he obviously didn't want to hear the rest, or was not attentive? My ESTP friend always does the same..

• we were sitting in the sun and suddenly he said he would like to change the seats (I was sitting in the shadow). Pretty fine for me, but someone with e.g. Fe dom or aux would (in my opinion) ask different. They would kindly ask if it might be okay if we change seats. An Fi dom or aux (like me too) would probably be more direct saying that THEY want to change the seat

• I mentioned that I have a dog but he didn't even ask what type of dog, his name or anything. Could be a hint that he's not so animal-loving like the most (empathetic) Fe types like ESFJ?

• after our date he messaged me that he really had a lot of fun today. I think this statement could also be a hint for someone more easy-going/fun-loving? The ISFJ I was dating would never use the word "fun" in context of our date. He would have always said he loved spending time with me or something similar

• my experience with FJ-types so far is, that after a date, they are even more communicative via text and keen to keep a convo going. He in turn seems to be more laid-back about it. Once he left my message on unread for a day and then didn't reply. When I sent him a random photo 2 days later, he apologised for not getting back to me, but he was so busy before his leave to the surfing trip. In my opinion this is either an excuse for not being very interested (but he didn't appear like that, but how knows) or being so live in the moment that you truly forget about it from time to time.

• he mentioned that he was in a 4 years relationship before he moved to my country and that they wanted to get married. But we switched the topic too fast to ask more (as said, was our first date). I'm surprises that an ESTP in the (back then) age of 27/28 wanted to get married? But of course nothing's impossible

• I've noticed that the day after out date he "snoozed" his bumble profile. I was wondering since we only had one date and he doesnt seem overly enthusiastic. Thought ESTP like to keep their options open, especially after only one date. But whatever reasons he had..

• When texting he's not using a lot of emojis. Maybe every 3rd message a "standard" smiley or he laughed about something funny I said. But I'm used to other ESTP using lot of emojis to convey their sense of humour. When texting he is more like "the nice guy" not the "funny guy"

• the ESTP that I know is very blunt and direct, even though he's a very kind and nice person. But I'd say that I can identify him as ESTP on his voice/pitch. You know what I mean? The voice is very blunt :D

After only that I am considering him being either ESTP, ESFJ or ESFP. But I think ESFP fits the least. I am almost 100% sure that he's a sensor and extroverted.

Soooo.. any suggestions from fellow ESTP here? :)

I have this idea that you all wouldn’t usually use dating apps 😁 Could be wrong

I was at a restaurant and this old lady was sitting in the back, it was near close and it was only us a few more people.

She looked a bit upset & asked the waitress "is it 3 yet?"

She was being passive aggressive. "This place isn't closed yet. You should be helping me."

The waitress seemed oblivious to it. Or maybe she didn't care.

Probably a shite example but it happened just now so its easy to use. But I pick up on things similar and more subtle all the time-in real time.

I can see whats behind something that happened but not what is to happen if there's a difference.

Me and this ESFP (or ISFP tbh) I work with says that me and her are "on the same page" when it comes to intuitive observations with things.

But, with what to expect? Very rarely will I be accurate trying to anticipate that. It goes the opposite all the time for me. I forget to consider xyz or something.

Mine are shit just checking if I'm not alone

I don't know, in my group of friends, I think I'm the most flirtatious person who can always find a word to give some kind of "sexual connotation"

Also tell me about your job if you're comfortable :3

Ayyo ESTPs. I want to survey something over here(if that's a correct choice of words for my case) getting bored & by that I mean super fucking bored. So I thought I should make some digital template or something of that sort that can be used as a baseline to further make it into an enhanced digital art, some kind of an organizer's template, a customisable print on demand kind of thingy, YOU NAME IT. Now the problem is that it's just a vague thing that popped up in my head during vacations just like that but a bug in me says it should spring to action or I might waste my time away in procrastination. So tell me ESTPs, what is the digital thingy that you preferably would have for yourself that'd serve you in some way or the other!

Lesbian ESTP here and I was curious if there were similarities in what flirting and romantic stuff ESTPs like.

Personally if you ask me to come with you or hang out just because (like if you ask if I wanna come with you to do your laundry or grocery shopping) I love that.

I also love physical affection like leaning against me to show me something on your phone or grabbing my arm or back to redirect me.

Basically anything to show you enjoy my company. Huge fan of these little things and was wondering if there’s any commonality within the community.

Any female ESTPs, can you give me a brief description of yourself? What are you guys like alone? What are you guys like with strangers? What about with family? Friends? Any stereotypes I should avoid? Thoughts on school? How do you guys think? Anything helps.

My character is a 15 year old. Her father is an ISTP, mother ENTJ, brother INTJ.

Some more specific questions, how would the ESTP get along with the other types above ^?

Feel free to ask for more information you like if it helps you determine something. Thanks!

Not sure MBTI can really play into this or not, but I was just curious. On a scale of 1 to 10, 10 being the highest tolerance, what is your pain tolerance?

so, not in a weird way but i’ve been studying my boyfriend of 5, almost 6 years for a while now. i came to a conclusion that he was intp, i asked him to do the michael caloz test and he did indeed get intp. we work well together so i don’t really have an issue with that just thinking of the future, do you guys have any experience with intp x estp relationships and how do they usually go?

She is the most mistyped celebrity. She is not ESTP. If not ESFP, the next most likely type would be ENTJ.

She is very individualistic. People with Fi will do outrageous things, without realizing or giving a crap about what others think. Jolie has displayed this. Kissing her brother, then being surprised by the public reaction. People with Fe would be much more aware of how they'll be perceived. This shows lack of Fe. She also openly talked about carrying her husbands blood around her neck, again, she didn't anticipate the public reaction (that again says no Fe). She didn't give a da#n what anyone thought of her. She was herself and often talked about loving to be "wild and free" and "to just be who you are". That is Fi, lack of Fe. It wasn't until she started getting older (around the time she got with Brad Pitt) did she begin changing her public image. She was a cutter, was suicidal and depressed, suffers from anorexia, diagnosed with borderline personality disorder, and is a hardcore heroin addict (or opioid she can get her hands on). Fe users don't tend to express negative emotions so openly, as that would disrupt socially and emotionally.

She is an ESFP 487 SX/SP. She is definitely not an ESTP. The PDB types any successful celebrity as E3, but that doesn't make sense. First, Se-Ti doesn't make sense for her. Angelina clearly is Se+Feeling, Se-Fi. Introverted feeling is the function of subjective judgment or evaluation. The fact that Angelina Jolie engages in humanitarian causes does not mean that she is a person with extroverted feeling. She engages in humanitarian causes because they are aligned with her internal personal values. A Fi user can also be empathetic and loving. She always felt different and never tried to fit in with external values. "When other girls wanted to be ballet dancers, I kind of wanted to be a vampire." - Angelina Jolie I also think she is a SX4, probably, and that is more evident in her youth. Angelina Jolie had a somewhat difficult childhood, where she felt lonely. She entered adolescence exhibiting a variety of self-destructive and masochistic behaviors as a way of coping with the lack that she felt, as if she were screaming to the world her pain of being deprived in an aggressive way. "For some reason, the ritual of having cut myself and having felt the pain, feeling some kind of release, was somehow therapeutic for me." - Angelina Jolie “She was transferred to Moreno High School, an alternative school, where she became a "strange punk". She dyed her hair purple, wore black clothes and participated in mosh pits with her then boyfriend, with whom she lived together and experimented with sadomasochism. In 2004, referring to that period, she noted: "I still am deep down - and always will be - just a punk girl with tattoos." Every E4, including the SX4, finds a sense of identity through the recognition and exploration of their emotional wounds, believing that their pain makes them special and unique. This masochistic process can be a way of coping with an internalized perception of inadequacy, as if suffering were a confirmation of their sense of "self". The SX4, when not healthy, also often transforms envy and sense of lack into hatred and intense emotionality, resulting in impulses and a hateful character. She has several controversies related to this, such as breaking up marriages and diagnosis of conduct disorder in adolescence. Nowadays, Angelina Jolie has matured, of course.

Her behavior during the divorce from Pitt shows a lack of Ti.

She has the look of the ENTJ-ESFP-INTJ-ISFP axis.

ESFP or ENTJ

In literature, I have seen that the Dynamic of estp + entp characters is just amazing(as friends). So like I was just wondering, while growing up did you have any person who you vibed the most with, and also did pranks or mischievous stuff together on other people, and let me know if it was an entp friend or maybe a different type, but you still had a great friendship with them growing up. 🥹🤝

if you chilling with your friends and someone you don't know appears to talk shit or just act like an asshole for no reason do you immediately react with the same energy or stand back a bit, listening and learning before saying/doing something?

what's more common for you? 1- straight up fight back (with words or hands) or 2- ponder if the situation is worth it/necessary to stand back or fight, and then act accordingly?

I'm an ESTP but I have low experience when dealing with a situation like this because it almost never happened to me due to how chill and easygoing I am so I'd like to hear how other ESTPs would think and react

So, after a couple hookups and some time spent with each other, me and this guy really click. Communication feels really smooth and easy, we enjoy each other's company. We currently have a fwb relationship, and after our most recent hook up, he tells me he does have a GF but they're in an open relationship.

It took me by surprise and honestly i was considering ignoring that if the GF is ok with that, but he also told me he doesn't want to leave his GF in her current mental state even though it sounds like to me (from her barely giving him a text in a while to let him know she's still alive) that it's not really that great of a relationship. He says he enjoys my company more, I give him more attention and intimacy than her but he doesn't want to break up until this GF is in a better place mentally.

So he asked if i wanted to keep things going and i said yes, but he also asked that if or when he breaks up with his GF if I would like to make things official. And I am on the fence towards, a few things are keeping me from saying yes:

• We've only met less than a month ago
• He's only in my state/country for a little while
• Idk if I'm ready for a long distance relationship yet (never had to do it before)
• He basically wants for us to be BF and GF for the forseeable future (kinda like "forever" and leading to marriage)
• I'm not a place in my life where I've had experience with a long-term relationship, esp one where we'd have to move in w each other soon
• He wants me to eventually move to his country, and move in with him

After all this talking i got him to postpone it until we spend more time with each other because while what we have feels amazing, and i want it to work, i can't lie that it seems like so much so soon.

The past relationships weren't great and i never felt like this with anyone before but idk if it's because i have commitment issues or, I need to just enjoy the company of a person before i decide if i want to be in a relationship. Idk, it's kinda scary thinking that even though i have feelings for this guy, that a relationship with him would already be about being together till an eventual marriage. And idk if I'm ready for something that might not even really work out like we want to, it's just kinda stressful to think about when we aren't even official. I told him that he'd have to break up with his GF first if we were to even be official, and he agreed but said he'd give us time to think things through for when he does break up with her.

It's a complicated situation because i genuinely enjoy him and wanna make things work but i was already happy with what we have and i just wanna take it day-by-day, but there's also the problem that this is the first relationship I've had where a spark has been there and idk if going all the way on the first one is even smart or will last. I'm not missing out on anything else, but there is a chance that this isn't the only guy I'll ever click with in my life. I guess this rush just has me anxious, because i already have to think about this serious stuff when i don't really have what it takes to be in a committed relationship.

Any advice? Am i overthinking this shit? What should i do?

Update: Became too emotionally draining, he changed up on his "feelings", didn't explain why the sudden change when asked... and then wanted to be just friends. I tried for a bit but it was clear that vibes were different...

I wasn't the one to make things intense, he asked all thise weird questions. Honestly got tired of havibg to reassure him i wouldn't leave but at the same time he is emotionally draining me. I took a small break but i came back bc i was gonna talk it out. He cut me off, and idk i just got too annoyed that i was like (this isn't even fun or enjoyable anymore, peace, have a nice life)

Now I'm emotionally recovering and realizing all these signs that i ignored were everywhere and next time i should be a little more rational when dealing with a relationship/casual relationship.

Replies here def made me come to my senses so thanks 👍

Im curious lol.

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FWIW-INTP here, exploring an observation that INTP’s’s are the only type obsessed with our inferior function and our difficulties with it (ie extroverted feeling.)

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Have you done a lie so big, it can, does, or will affect very important people in your life. Example: lying about getting a college degree.

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Recently had an INFJ get pissed at me for asking if they don’t celebrate their bday for religious reasons. Whattttt

I'm trying to figure out my uncle's type. He's SO playful and boyish (even though he's 37 years old).if he's bored,which he doesn't show,he just starts teasing the heck out of his next person in a physical/speed challenge.

He's VERY good in being warm and funny in chit chats in a welcoming way to MANY people,either in first time interactions OR for close ones,everyone very enjoy getting attention from him,being in his company. With all the "being teasing and playful and fun" he's also VERY logical,so honest and doesn't mind being harsh about it too.

He never gets angry,he has control over his feelings he just gets very serious (which I think it's SUCH an admirable trait in a man)

About relationship and dating department,I just know even though he sometimes go out a lot with many girls,he is picky.(he wants to choose a partner for getting married now) But another reason for him being picky and not having results till now is because He wanna immigrate,so his partner should also agree on this. So he's very determined to try hard for a good future.

Thank you for reading it till here💖❄ What do u think? Also,are you guys goal oriented?ambitious? Since Estps can get mistyped as entjs,I think it makes sense if you are.

Hey, so I was wondering what you thought of the other 3 types that are sensing dominant. Do you hate them? Like them? Could you work with them on projects? What would interactions with them look like and how could you work with them if you were put together for some project? Is there any advice you'd like to hear from them sometimes and what advice would you give them?

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I’m a 24 y/o female ESTP, the man I’m crushing on is a 31 y/o male INTJ. First off, the age gap is… big. Trying not to fixate too much on that tho, just factually identifying the gap as big.

About him- the way this man is so thoughtful and caring for his people, is really beyond me. I always, by default, envisioned that love is expressed by grand gestures or ‘lovey dovey mush mush.’ But his silent acts of sheer thoughtfulness and just how reliable he is, is crazy wholesome and I have so much respect for him because of all that he is.

All the times I approached him with trying to get practical help/ logistically plan things/ navigate through situations, his “We’ll figure it out” was just so attractive and so reliable- like I knew that once those words have been said by him, no matter what, it will indeed, be figured out.

I do not think he’s interested in me romantically. I haven’t told him that I like him. I don’t want to weird him out. Also, before that, I want to spend more time with him one-on-one and gauge where we stand. He doesn’t initiate communication (which is why I think he isn’t interested) but a part of me feels if I just let it out, I can finally move on with it, either way. otherwise I’m just wondering what could be. And probably feeding my delusions too.

I didn’t want to initiate conversation first/ try to make plans first because I felt if he wanted to he would, and he isn’t so maybe he doesn’t want to. But I feel I should get it out of my system. Or is that me trying to get him to engage with me, even a lil bit?

Would love to hear your take on this.

Asking because I do really bad, feeling like I will dropout anytime soon. Want to hear from you how did you do (or doing)

Is any body interest in being my online friends and talking to me on various topics and analysing me and then type me pls I am confused ,it would be very kind and helpful if U.

First time test I forgot what was my attitude Ti-64 Te-62 Se-57 Fe-54 Fi-52 Ne-45 Si-32 Ni-31 Now second time I gave test was I left some questions and didn't answered them Ti-57 Te-67 Se-60 Fe-49 Fi-42 Ne-55 Si-29 Ni-37 No I gave test third time was I gave test randomly and didn't gave much thought into questions answering Ti-54 Te-69 Se-57 Fe-57 Fi-50 Ne-37 Si-39 Ni-32 Now I gave fresh test today twice but I gave ten questions answers in doubt and doubt whether I wrote right or wrong Ti-54 Te-76 Se-69 Fe-59 Fi-35 Ne-35 Si-38 Ni-29 No I gave test again today with all the answers same except few and also wrote those ten questions answers today with full belief that they are right and. Ti-57 Te-77 Se-60 Fe-57 Fi-39 Ne-37 Si-40 Ni-30