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For those who score INTJ on the MBTI personality inventory.

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INTJ Links:

INTJ Personality Type - a well-written and consistent description of the INTJ type and its functions.

Rational Portrait of the Mastermind - an alternative description of INTJs in general.


MBTI Links:

Cognitive functions quiz - a questionnaire that calculates your most likely type based on function usage and developmental states.

Cognitive functions explained - a primer on Carl Jung’s theory of psychological types.

Function order - a helpful list of each type and their functional stack.

Type frequency - a graph showcasing the general rarity of each type.

Confirming your type - a useful article on pitfalls to avoid when typing yourself.


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Related Subs:

r/introvert - r/ENFPandINTJ - r/2X_INTJ


Subs For Other Types:

MBTI in general - MBTI

NT “Rationals” - ENTP | INTP | ENTJ | INTJ

NF “Idealists” - ENFP | INFP | ENFJ | INFJ

SP “Artisans” - ESFP | ISFP | ESTP | ISTP

SJ “Guardians” - ESFJ | ISFJ | ESTJ | ISTJ

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Can I get a smile?

People think INTJs are all gloom and doom. Some INTJs might think the same, but I know different. We may not be the most lively, but we can be good-natured folk. Let me know, what made you smile today? And if you didn't smile, why you could use a smile? And if it pleases you, put an emotional with a smile or a laugh to spread the positivity. Today, I shared some advice with my friend that I think will help him, and I feel good about it.

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2024/12/05
01:32 UTC

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Hidden information about intuition and exposing fake intuitives

There's some information about intuition that is not being told in mbti community. God gave everyone intuition for a reason. It's hidden knowledge and creativity that God gives us. Intuition is also given us aso a guide to our higher self's and spirituality. Our intuition is a guidance to what's right or what's wrong, to give us warning signals when something is off, to give us information from God, to guide us to higher levels of awareness, to help our spirit to become awaken, and to connect more into the spiritual realm than physical realm.

The mbti website makes being a sensor (not listening to your intuition) sound normal. It's not normal to be a sensor. Sensing forcus on physical realm with our five senses rather than going spiritual by listening to our intuition(our six sense) . The physical realm is really just a illusion we are really spirits in a school to learn life lessons and to become like God.

(Se) which is Sensing Extrovert being overly attached to physical realm and physical pleasures like sports, games, inappropriate behavior is the lower self. The Adventurers types ESFP, ESTP, ISFP, and ISTP are too attached to physical realm and physical pleasures with low (Ni) which is to help us go to our higher self's and spirituality.

(Si) which is Sensing Introvert with low (Ne) is being less acceptable to new ways of thinking , change for God's kingdom and new things. The Sentinels types ESFJ, ESTJ, ISFJ, and ISTJ are closed minded for newer ways of thinking and doing things with low (Ne) which is to help us be opened minded for new things and change God wants

(Ni) is intuition that is inside of us as a guidance to higher self, spiritual awakening and God.

(Ne) is open-mindeness so we'll be accepting to new ways of thinking and change so we'll be opened to God's new kingdom

The Adventurers with high (Se) and low (Ni) is the lower self. God didn't put us on this earth to be overly attached to physicality and play all day. This world and universe is a school for our spirits to learn and go higher levels of awakenings and consciousness. When we forcus to much on physical realm we are ignoring our real reason why we are here. We are here to become like our father (God) .

The Sentinels with high (Si) and low (Ne) is rejecting newer ways of thinking. When God brings in his kingdom we can't stay in our old ways. Our minds have to be renewed and opened to new things and new ways of thinking. When God brings in his kingdom he's going to make everything new and want people to be renewed in our thinking so we become new creatures.

One thing is wrong about mbti when it says our personality types cannot change. Listening to our Intuition is a option not permanent. God gave everyone intuition. Intuition is not only available for a few or some group people. Everyone has intuition. If a sensor finally decides to listen to their intuition then their intuition gets stronger the more they listen to it. When we ignore our intuition it gets weaker. Sensors can become intuitives the more they start listening to their intuition. Being a sensor(choosing not to listen to their intuition) is a option but can change anything if the person decides to listen to it.

Killing our intuition is a crime towards God and we can get into trouble. If we become darker and eventually end up killing our intuition we are setting up ourselves for death spirituality. Try keeping your intuition alive as it helps keeps you alive spirituality.

In the mbti community they took God out of the meaning of intuition and made it like a mysterious magical thing that pops out of nowhere. God gave everyone intuition as a guide to awaken the spirit. Introvert intuition(Ni) is the self-accusing spirit that is inside of all of us in hopes we listen to it to awaken the spirit. The more we listen to it the stronger the voice becomes and the more awakened we become spirituality.

The mbti community made it seem like it's normal for us to ignore our (Ni) so we can stay asleep and be dead spirituality. It's not normal for us to ignore our (Ni) it's the inner guidance for spiritual awakening, God, and higher self. (Ni) is not only just a gut feeling that warns us when to stay away from trouble it's also our self-accusing spirit that tells us what's right and what's wrong and gives us guilt when we do something bad.

When we do evil and feel guilty about it that's our (Ni) talking to us and it shows we are spiritually awake but when you can do evil and feel nothing that's a sign of lack of (Ni) and spiritual blindness/death.

I noticed there are a lot of fake intuitives in the mbti community. People think being a "intuitive" makes them special because they "choose" to listen to their intuition. Everyone has intuition. Intuition is not only for a few people or small group of people. Everyone has it. Intuition is listening to our nature we were created/self-accusing spirit in hopes we come back to our nature which is obedience to God. Our nature is to be righteous and submission to God. Listening to your intuition doesn't make you better than other people.

Some fake intuitives only want to listen to their intuition so they can feel special and smarter than others. That's not what intuition was made for. Intuition was made to awaken the spirit so we can become God and reach higher levels of awareness. It seems like most "intuitives" only wanted to listen to their intuition for negative purposes and to make themselves feel special. Being a "intuitive" doesn't mean being interested/studying in science, computer programming, abstract conversations, meaningful conversations and etc.

A real "intuitive" is someone who is in complete submission to God. When you submit yourself to God your self-accusing spirit/intuition becomes stronger and your spirit will be wide awake.

Intuitives can also lose their intuition and become sensors. When we become dark and evil our intuition gets weaker and we lose our creative powers. The darker we become our intuition gets weaker and if dark enough we could end up also killing our intuition. God doesn't give intuition to the wicked and the rebellious . Intuition is for the righteous and was made to keep us spiritually awake. When someone ignores their intuition or becomes dark they go into sensor mode which is spiritual blindness.

When we become evil and in rebellion towards God we lose

  1. (Ni) which is to help keep us spiritually awake. Losing (Ni) causes spiritual blindness and keeps our spirits asleep and dead
  2. (Ne) which is to help us be opened-minded to God's new ways of thinking. Losing (Ne) causes us to lose our creative powers and become rejectful of God's new thinking

There are a lot of fake INFJs, INTJs, ENTPs, ENFPs, etc. INFJs/INTJs with (Ni) as their dominate function means they should have a strong self-accusing spirit and should be spirituality awake. If you see a INFJ/ENFJ/ENTJ/INTJ that can do evil and feel nothing or in rebellion towards God that's a sign they completely lost their (Ni) and they are no longer an INFJ they are a sensor(spiritual blindness). When we disconnect ourselves from God or in rebellion we lose (Ni) or it gets weaken. Listening to (Ni) Is listening to the nature of ourselves (self-accusing spirit) which is obedience to God

Same thing that there are a lot of fake ENTPs, INTPs, INFPs and ENFPs claiming they have (Ne) as their dominate function. When we are in rebellion towards God we lose our creative powers.

There are a lot of fake intuitives that would act like the type, so called claim they are "trying" to listen to their intuition for negative purposes, and study abstract ideas just so they have feel special and have a title of being smart. The one's who think just because they "choose" to listen to their intuition that they are better than other people are really sensors and fake. God does not like proud and arrogant people. When we become arrogant we shut off knowledge and lose (Ne) and (Ni) . If we want a strong intuition we must be humble and submit to God . God doesn't give intuition to the proud, arrogant, and rebellious people

The N > S is better is really silly and foolish. Intuitives think just because they have more knowledge and so called "trying" to listen to their intituion are better. Sensors can gain strong intuition too and become intuitives too if they choose to submit to God and finally listen to their intuition. One thing is wrong about mbti when it says our personality types cannot change. Not listening to our Intuition is a option not permanent. God gave everyone intuition. Intuition is not only available for a few or some group people. Everyone has intuition. If a sensor finally decides to listen to their intuition then their intuition gets stronger the more they listen to it. When we ignore our intuition it gets weaker. Sensors can become intuitives the more they start listening to their intuition. Being a sensor(choosing not to listen to their intuition) is a option but can change anything if the person decides to listen to it.

Anyone can become great and smart when they choose to listen to their intuition. God wouldn't make only a few people "special" and leave the rest out. Then it would make God unfair and unjust. Anybody can become smart, great, have creative powers, and do great things because everyone has intuition. God gave everyone intuition not only a small group of people. Any sensor can become great and intuitive if they choose to listen to their intuition. God wants all of his children to become great and intuitive. He wouldn't favor only a few people and leave rest of his children out

We are not supposed to listen to our intuition just to get a special title type, to feel superior, to feel smater than others, to feel special, and for many other negative purposes. We listen to our intuition to become one with God, come back to him and become spirituality awaken. The Inuitives that are arrogant, proud, rebellious towards God, evil and dark are not inuitives they are fake. They just want a title(N type) to feel special and superior to others. Intuition comes from God. The creative ideas, the gut feeling, the hidden knowledge all comes from God. When we disconnect ourselves from God and in rebellion towards him we lose our powers/intuition. The "real" intuitives are the righteous and ones who are in submission to the will of God.

There are a lot of fake physics, fake coming up with ideas, and fake "i have a strong intuition" in the mbti community. People think being good at science, history, computer programming = having a strong intuition. That's not intuition it's just you being good at a topic or subject. And fake physics that are evil and in rebellion towards God are not physics they are just using witchcraft. Using witchcraft and casting spells is not intuition it's satantic. There's a lot of so-called "i found the hidden meanings" in the community. Their so called "getting hIdden information" are coming from fallen angels/demons they are not getting it from God nor their intuition. The so-called "I'm coming up with all these ideas " If they are evil and in rebellion towards God those "ideas" did not came from their intuition it was stolen. When we are evil and in rebellion towards God we lose our creative powers.

Using witchcraft and casting spells is not intuition. Studying science/abstract stuff and being good at a scientific subjects is not intuition. Stealing other people ideas and claiming it as yours is not intuition. Being spiritual, growing in stages of spiritual growth and being in submission to God is intuition.

It seems like everyone want a strong intuition but you can't have a strong intuition if you are evil or in rebellion towards God. To get a strong intuition we have to connect ourselves with God and go up levels of self spiritual development. The more we connect ourselves with God and develop our spirits the stronger our intuition becomes. The more we disconnect ourselves from God and not develop our spirits the weaker our intuition becomes.

Do not try to listen to your intuition for the purpose of wanting to feel superior to others or feel special. God wouldn't only make a few people special and leave the rest of his children out. God is just and treats all of his children equal. People in the mbti only want a strong intuition only so they can brag about it and feel special. God does not give people a strong intuition if they are proud, arrogant and only want to listen to it for selfish/negative intentions.

The definition of intuition had been oversimplified to just "gut feeling" and "coming up with idea's". Intuition is more than just " gut feeling " and "coming up with idea's" . Intuition is the self-accusing spirit that tells us what's right and what's wrong, it's our key to spiritual awakening, to help us see things clearer(coming out of spiritual blindness), and to help connect ourselves to God. God had been completely taken out of the definition of intuition and been limited to just listening to your gut and coming up with ideas. Listening to your gut and coming up with new ideas is just the basic levels of intuition. There are higher levels of intuition. The more our spirit is developed and more we connect ourselves to God our intuition gets stronger and we grow into higher levels of intuition. When we go into higher levels of intuition we start seeing things brigher, clearer and grow into more self-awarness. The more when we don't develop our spirit and disconnect from God the more our intuition gets weaker and we come into spiritual blindness and don't see things clearly.

There are a couple of agents and fake intuitives in the mbti community. The ones that would say "it's okay to be a sensor" , "being a sensor is fine" or "everyone is just different. When someone chooses to ignore their intuition" are agents and snakes that what you to stay into spiritual blindness. They don't want you to wake up to what's really going on and want to keep you in the dark.

The mbti community took God out of intuition and made it a "how we see the world" or intuition is a "cognitive function". I could tell the people who made the mbti website are atheism because they are deceiving a lot of people and don't want people to wake up on what's really going on. They hide the true meaning of intuition because they want everyone to stay asleep and be dead spirituality. The post is not a religion thing it's to get people to wake up spirituality. Submitting to God is not a religion it's a way of life and our nature

3 Comments
2024/12/05
01:25 UTC

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Does anyone else have difficulty in identifying their emotions?

I can't tell what emotions I am feeling. Lately, I just get a discomfort in my chest and I know its not physical. It feels heavy and I feel it with every breath I take. I don't what it is and I don't know how to make it stop.

7 Comments
2024/12/05
00:34 UTC

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Can INTJ and ENFP marriages last?

I'm married to an ENFP. And I hate her personality... We are 2 very stereotypical ENFPs and INTJs the problem is that I still don't accept her the way she is... We keep fighting about the core aspects of our personalities...stuff we actually cannot/do not want to change because it feels like it defines us...

I hate all the weaknesses of ENFPs and I perceive their strengths as other weaknesses... For exemple :

  • Ok she make friends easily but it is just because she is afraid to be alone and not autonomous.
  • Yes she is very adaptable, she is Ok with everything...so with her I can do everything I want without opposition...but it makes her just a uninteresting follower with no opinion...

redacted rant about the common ENFP downsides

We are both the Turbulent, meaning we share a lot of the same insecurities and anxiety and are terrible at helping eachothers overcome them...

So far I don't feel that she brings me much, I feel like she slows me down and is a burden to me...

I think I bring her a lot but probably not what she is looking for in a man , (anyway she acts like she would be happy with any random guy...that doesn't make me feel appreciated or special in her eyes...)

Now it pisses me that I feel have made a bad choice of life partner.

And I always wanted my partner to be my best friend and also someone that can help me grow... problem we have to few in common...yes we can be silly and gooffy together for 5 minutes laugh like children but that's it...for the rest I have to find someone else...we won't have big talks, she won't teach me anything, enlighten me, help me in the decision making....

In the everyday life it feels more like having a child and not a wife...I struggle to be proud of her and to me it's important in a couple...

redacted justifications on why I married her if I hate her so much

On her side she complains about all the classic INTJs stuff... but stays positive and never questions our relationship (unlike me ...) and even that I perceive it as negative because she doesn't do efforts to change something she complains about everyday...

Learning more about MBTI helped me to understand her more (now I know she is not just immature, ADHD, oversensitive, crazy...) but still cannot accept and I still try to change her...

22 Comments
2024/12/05
00:25 UTC

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What do u do with the things your ex gave you?

I had paintings she gave me, i really like how pretty theyy look, and some other random things, i still havent deleted the whatsapp text, i moved all the pictures to my hard drive but im unable to bring myself to delete them, i find it very haed to delete the moments where i felt happy with someone I loved, i dont know what im supposed to do.

21 Comments
2024/12/04
23:55 UTC

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Enough about relationships & how robotic & evil we are. Let’s talk about crypto…anyone?

Hello my fellow INTJ’s. The most analytical, competent, future focused, logical, situationally antisocial, “idgaf” bunch of robots! (Least they think we are) &&& anyone who are equally surrounded by NO ONE who gets us or have other INTJs to talk to.

Clearly, it’s been a hot topic…OR, finally a hot topic to some. I’ve had my dabs in it here and there. Stupidly, quit paying attention & opened my apps & wondered why my measly amount of money was actually now 4x my money about a little over a month ago.

Guess, I just fell asleep & now I’m WOKE! So, anyone else obsessing over this as much as I am? Especially, people at the bottom, novice, or starting up! I’m talking about nose deep into…like ACTUALLY looking at every angle of this to how it works, data, blah blah this is getting too long-not really caring about 99% of YouTubers???

Making me feel like I went back to school at 35. I guess, I’m trying to be smarter about it & not losing everything I put in & coming out on top?

Comments? Thoughts? Tips? Rants? What ya into? Say no ones cares?! Something…?

15 Comments
2024/12/04
23:09 UTC

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Are INTJs functionally unable to change our own subreddit, even or especially on a trial basis?

Not a critique:

Just had a friend here ask me about this, so I thought I'd put the question out there.

I was wondering:

  • What were the most recent non-moderation-related changes to the INTJ sub?
  • What is the most-requested change that has not been implemented?
  • What is an example of a change-related outcome that you fear the most? (Asking anyone / no one in particular)
  • What about changes on a trial basis, does that seem more OK, or on the other hand, too volatile? (Switching things on and then back off again)
  • There's the "if it ain't broke" perspective...but more objectively: Who gets to decide if it's broke or not? Is there any active decision-making process or "it's actually demonstrably broke in these ways" identification process?

It's one thing to dislike change, but quite another to not be able to change at all.

We've all had to go through various changes in life. Learning new things is one example of a self-change process.

Still, maybe it's a difficult issue to process in general, due to a personality perspective on the part of INTJs as a group. Ater all, a personality type isn't an individual, it's a group population.

Introverts in general are thought to be biased toward favoring their own past...unless / until they do something about that.

Thoughts?

15 Comments
2024/12/04
22:56 UTC

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What's your relationship with the past?

Do you have times where you dwell on mistakes in your past?

Do you use your past experiences as a way to learn and grow?

15 Comments
2024/12/04
19:37 UTC

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Ban ENFPs from INTJ subreddit

Partial satire

Edit: DISCUSS, intjs…

View Poll

32 Comments
2024/12/04
18:56 UTC

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INTJ's religious ideas

So I always lurk around MBTI subreddits but I'm very curious about this:

I think INTJs' heavy focus on 'bigger meaning' makes them very interested in metaphysics, albeit not necessarily affirming them. Nietzsche or Rust Cohle both denied a metaphysic reality, but they pondered incessantly about the 'deep nature' (rerum natura) of reality. I personally am very drawn to perennialism, and would call myself a mix of Christian (wherein I consider Christ the central "sacred" figure of History, and consider it the most reasonable worldview if an interventionist God does exist), Buddhist (whereas it's view of reality, emptiness and suffering really reasonates with me, and it's the best worldview if an interventionist God doesn't exist) and Pagan (in how I relate to nature and myth). Big into Guénon, Eliade, Calasso and such.

But I also think INTJ's are very weary of organized religion, whereas the see the existence of the sacred as something that should be kept farthest from the 'prostitution'that organization requires. I think for a INTJ to enter organized religion he has to arrive to it the same way Seraphim Rose arrived at Orthodoxy or Jünger at Catholicism.

So I'd like to know what your religious beliefs are and why, and how you relate that to being INTJ. Not just 'I'm an INTJ Muslim/Christian" (it's really curious how on other posts no INTJ seemed to be drawn to Eastern Religions) but why, also atheist, &c. Thanks in advance.

52 Comments
2024/12/04
16:30 UTC

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Coping mechanism or genuine personality trait?

How do you gauge whether something is part of who you are or whether it is a developed coping mechanism that is actually hindering you as a person? What are your examples? I sometimes struggle with understanding whether I truly just dislike being around people or whether it’s part of anxiety/insecurities. This sounds like something that is easy to figure but it’s actually not. Especially when my experiences with people fluctuate and I find it hard to seek patterns in my interactions. It’s even more difficult when societal norms contradict that “trait” or experience.

7 Comments
2024/12/04
16:21 UTC

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I hate chess. (No offense)

Maybe chess isn't the best And that i have other talents to be the best at Even when the most trusted become the most untrusted Its sometimes better to give up in one thing and try another Life is still long, explore it like you are exploring a library, a museum, a library to store your best memories and a museum to explore the world Chess is something Poetry makes great minds, proud minds And chess... It makes disappointed minds I just feel like chess has taken a portion of me, studying moves, or even positions that you might not even get a chance to meet them I mean everyone is different, but can't they see that chess is just taken their happiness, ive spent ours of joy on this game, hours of studying, its a game that never ends, checkmate might not be the end of the game, because all i know is, chess is a drug, you can get addicted, i am pretty sure a cocain user is disappointed in their live, yes it was nice when you were winning, but when you realize all the things you could have done instead of being addicted to a literal wooden game, trust me, you will be disappointed, i will go back to the thing that has ruined my life, maybe there's another outcome. We don't know, explore the museum.

33 Comments
2024/12/04
15:23 UTC

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How does an INTJ fall out of love?

How can you tell if you have already fallen out of love with your partner?

46 Comments
2024/12/04
10:58 UTC

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Anyone down for help?

The thing is... I always have been confused about my MBTI first thinking I am an INFP then ENFP then ENFJ then ENTP etc.

But now that I have been into this personality types, cognitive functions and other stuff for quite a bit of time and finally understanding shi* I realized that I may actually be an INTJ with everything that could go wrong... went wrong.

Unhealthy personality, Shadow functions, Ni-Fi loop, Si grip, and what not. (I somehow also have developed a great deal of Fe and I am really perceptive of people's feelings and facial expressions)

[I wouldn't like to blame my parents and environment for this but I guess it can't be helped....]

I need someone who can help me to get out of this position in life. I promise to not let you down.

P.S: DMs are open, if you want to talk personally.

6 Comments
2024/12/04
10:48 UTC

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If you could eliminate one trait…

A question for INTJs, if there is a trait or behavior that you could eliminate to improve the world, what would it be and why do you think it will improve the world?

41 Comments
2024/12/04
08:09 UTC

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I can’t relate with sum of y’all

I’ve taken the MBTI test for at least 10 times already (including an individual assessment from a company-sponsored psychologist) over the span of 10+ years and I still get INTJ. I just can’t relate with half of the people here cuz they seem a little - for lack of a better word - edgy? Lots of wannabe mysterious guys and edgelords lurking around here saying we’re suppossed to be cold, heartless and logic-driven sociopaths with no friends. And I’m the total opposite of that. I love being with friends and I can be social when need be albeit I still prefer being a homebody.

(Don’t attack me on this, it’s just an observation)

73 Comments
2024/12/04
07:02 UTC

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Thoughts on ESTJ’s?

I know a few in my experience they are incredibly good at focusing on something and always go all in, they can be very prideful but still eager to learn.

2 Comments
2024/12/04
05:55 UTC

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Confront my boss?

In the last year or so, my relationship with my boss has deteriorated. I’m not sure what happened, but she has a very negative bias toward me and I’d like to ask for a reset. Last week she answered a question incorrectly which caused a lot of confusion and as I was trying to figure it all out she sent me a message that was pretty passive aggressively suggesting that I don’t know what I’m doing. I understand that she didn’t realize she made a mistake but I don’t like that her assumption was that I’m a dummy vs. maybe asking about where the confusion was coming from.

We also had a meeting that she prefaced by indicating that she knew I’d feel anxious about what she was going to ask me to do, but she didn’t have a lot of time to spend talking about my feelings. I was super curious as to what this project could be and when she told me, it was such an easy ask that I felt like I was in some kind of practical joke. I told her that the project didn’t worry me at all but I was so confused by why she thought it would that I didn’t say anything more.

These are just two examples, there more. I feel like her behavior is escalating bc I haven’t said anything, so she feels emboldened and/or that her style is effective. Should I say something?

8 Comments
2024/12/04
05:47 UTC

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Are INTJs empathetic?

Personally, I'd say I can put myself in others' shoes but usually I don't care enough to help or comfort them so I appear as apathetic to others.

81 Comments
2024/12/04
05:07 UTC

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Told ChatGPT to roast our subreddit... 😅

I got this idea from a popular post trending on the ENFP subreddit.

Below is the response. It's a little more savage than the ENFP post. What do you think? 😆

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Ah, r/INTJ—the sacred temple of overthinking and armchair strategizing, where every post is a manifesto on how to "fix society," but the biggest battle is deciding whether to respond to that unread email from three weeks ago. It’s basically a chess game where everyone insists on being the queen, even though they’re playing against themselves.

“I just don’t understand why people find me intimidating!”—Maybe it’s because your entire vibe screams, “I’ve calculated 17 reasons why this conversation is a waste of my time.” The threads are a mix of existential essays about the meaning of life, painfully detailed career plans that sound like Bond villain origin stories, and complaints about how no one else is logical enough to appreciate their brilliance.

And let’s not forget the recurring post: “Why don’t people approach me?”—as if sitting in a corner glaring at humanity while radiating ‘Do Not Disturb’ energy isn’t working out for some reason. Honestly, the subreddit feels like a think tank run by robots trying to understand why humans insist on having feelings.

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EDIT: V2 in the comments.
EDIT: V3 in the comments.

41 Comments
2024/12/04
03:14 UTC

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A love letter to INTJs (m) from an ENFP (f)

Hi!

I don't know why or how but I always find myself gravitating towards you, lads.

You and your little annoying yet attractive minds!

There are so many extroverted guys out there who are kind, sweet and emotionally mature or aware/sensitive to our needs, but I keep finding my eyes directed towards the quiet ones. The ones who are so fixated in their own little minds, observing and analyzing everyone else in the room. It's crazy how I could see you doing it but I can't tell what are your exact thoughts. And as they say, curiosity kills the cat.

I slowly get closer to you and find myself falling in love faster than I thought I would.

How could a man so quiet and nonchalant make me nervous as hell? Sometimes you won't even budge and I still feel like I am sitting in the hot seat in front of you.

Not to mention when y'all do that thing where you would go on full "looking serious" mode but actually just being sarcastic, mid-conversation, and making me fall for it, then breaking into a laugh, smiling and teasing me. HOW DARE YOU DO IT LOOKING SO EFFORTLESSLY SEXY AND CUTE AT THE SAME TIME?! How. DARE. YOU?!?! The nerve to look so freakin attractive without even trying gdi

When y'all explain a topic or knowledge that you are advanced in. OH-.... ..don't even get me started on those. 🙈 I can't trust the words that may just come out of my mouth, so I am going to remind myself that I am a lady and I can still keep the little self respect left that I have, all to myself.

Basically y'all type charm the shit out of me and I hate that I don't hate it at all.

Sincerely A sexually and emotionally frustrated ENFP

188 Comments
2024/12/04
02:27 UTC

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Romantic feelings as an INTJ

This is more of a discussion but also a little bit of an ask for advice.

The only people that I (18F) have seen really relate to me in terms of my thought processes on relationships and attraction have been INTJ's. So, I figured this was the place to go to regarding it.

The way that I am attracted to people has always been fickle. Most of the time I feel like I have control over what I feel. If I start developing feelings for somebody, I can easily stop it. I think that that gives me the ability to rationalize and consider the different parts to this person before I continue allowing myself to like them. This way of attraction is questionable in my eyes though. Is it real attraction/feelings if I can control it? Is it a good trait to have; the ability to choose?

For me, it's like I want to be around them, I want to share the good parts of my life with them. I often imagine that they are there with me when doing my daily tasks because it makes me feel better. Part of me feels like this is more attachment than feelings though. Especially because I still think I can lose feelings if I decided to. But, on the rare occasion I like somebody, I try to hold on to it if I believe something good could come from it.

I have had multiple relationships in the past. None of which ended well. Two were on bad terms while one was on good terms but with bad feelings/memories. All had at least something to do with my fear of commitment. One of them was heavily due to me losing feelings not long after pursuing and I was completely honest with him but either way that was disrespectful from my part and I will always be shameful of the way that I handled it.

But, I am still young. I keep being told that I will find the right person and I hope that I do. Especially somebody who can understand me or compliment my traits. I am currently interested in somebody right now. But I am scared to make a move, not because I think I won't be successful, but, that I will be. We share the same friend group and I really wouldn't want to put that at risk but at the same time, if I can handle this right unlike my past relationships, could something great come out of it?

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2024/12/04
01:48 UTC

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INTJ top 10 tv shows?

I've rank ordered mine by memorability/bingeability as proxys for quality

1)Attack on titan 2)Naruto 3)Breaking bad 4)Dexter 5)Death Note 6)prison break 7)Spartacus blood & sand 8)peep show 9)Game of thrones 10)friends

EDIT: Seems like I'll checkout "mad men" next based on intj comments &cowboy bebop

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2024/12/03
23:09 UTC

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Cultivating an entertaining life at home

Hello my people,

I’m not much of a traveler these days and now that winter is here, I’m wondering how YOU are planning to cultivate an entertaining and enjoyable life at home to get through this winter.

Books? Movies? Yoga? Gaming?

What hobbies are you picking up (or have been doing) to cultivate a rich and healthy life at home?

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2024/12/03
22:43 UTC

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What is your fragrance ?

I bet we'll find lot's of Tom Ford in here lol Mine is SWY Intensely

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2024/12/03
22:19 UTC

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What is the difference between ENTP and INTJ in the real world?

After about 2 years of researching the MBTI, I gave up on trying to fit into a single type. I went through all the dominant intuitive types, trying to find myself, but I always ended up changing my mind when I discovered new information.

My Jungian type is ENTP (based on the last test I took and several others from different periods (on the MBTI tests some came up as INTP, ENTJ and INTJ too, but mostly it was ENTP on both methods)).

However, I do NOT consider myself to be such a disproportionately more logical than emotional person, so I have a lot of doubts about perhaps being an INTJ, which is the shadow of the ENTP. The functions are mirrored and work similarly, but the end results are different. I'm having a really hard time discerning, even though it seems obvious to me, that it's not, since I'm trying to identify myself.

How do you differentiate between a real ENTP and a real INTJ? Where is the key point that makes the obvious difference between the two? Both have their artistic sides, both are logical, curious, have problems with reality and the flawed system, hate taking orders from people they don't consider suitable for the position, it's very difficult for me to differentiate just by (Ne)+(Ti)+(Fe)+(Si)/Ne-Fe (Si Grip) or (Ni)+(Te)+(Fi)+(Se)/Ni-Fi (Se Grip).

Edit1 - I'm getting some great questions! Thank you so much, I'm feeling more comfortable with your answers 🥰

Edit2 - As incredible as it may seem, I'm getting opinions and guesses for both types, I was right to doubt this (I asked this same question in 3 subreddits to get different answers and I'm being instructed for both ENTP and INTJ, apparently I'm well balanced between the two, it's difficult but I'm trying to focus on the differences).

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2024/12/03
21:37 UTC

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Is there anyone who has P type partners, if so how is it ?

How do you deal with it, is it mostly positive, and what are the things that they contribute where you would lack.

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2024/12/03
20:04 UTC

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Do you have listening skills?

Can you explain to me how important this skill is?

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2024/12/03
16:57 UTC

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