I‘ve just met a guy ENFJ and he seems to want to take the things further, but idk if I can trust him for a relationship, taking in mind I‘ve never had one. It could be my anxiety but I cannot stop thinking that he just wants something casual.

With the recent report about alcohol consumption that the WHO reported, and alcohol being on the decline for younger generations, I was wondering what relationship INTJs have with drinking and consumption of drugs.

For me i never really liked the taste of alcohol. I was more of a social drinker so drinking was minimal for. I also have never done drugs (seen so many stories on how people ruin their lives, health, etc). My only addiction would be coffee at best (still considered a drug) but i dont really have a strong addiction.

Guys, anybody here who had some success in bringing out our ever-elusive extroverted sensing? I need some advice.

You see intuition comes to me as easy as breathing. Writing, outlining and checklists helps me organize my thoughts for convenient extroverted thinking. Appreciation and contempt sort of helped me hone my Introverted feeling. I have my value system. SE is elusive though.

I went to the gym, touched some grass, talked to people, cooked food. But it's just that I'm not comfortable leaning towards it. My brain just automatically goes to wonderland and my connection to reality goes on auto pilot. I'm not comfortable talking to new people. I hate new experiences.

Guys, how do you human?

Help plz i have no experience 🙏

(not sure if i'm entj or intj yet but)

I wanted to ask if any of y'all also do this : basically I just take a little walk and open my notes app on my phone and then let the magic happen.

Basically I'm not good at thinking proactively and like brainstorm consciensly all my thoughts (actually it's much more than thoughts) it's more like concepts pop up randomly pre-made like they marinated in the back of my mind for a while without having any say and usually it's relevant to what's happening now and after and then all i have to do is just takes notes to not forget and use, it's like the unconscious giving daily gifts.

But anyway I noticed this process activate much faster at night but also when walking around and that's like very exhilarating.

AITH? So in the madness of the morning rush today I felt like I needed to sht again after shtting once (stomach feels so uncomfortable still) I stay with my mother who was well aware of what I needed to do. In the span of a minute after I reached the bathroom she yelled across the house for a minor household task I did not do, well because I was where I was. I also felt like she was hurrying me as she thereafter stated that she needed the loo once I was done, when we have more than one loo at home. When it comes to matters of "business" I don't like to be pressured/disturbed (idk it makes me anxious). The feeling disappeared and in the madness of the morning rush I wasn't very pleased so I exclaimed my frustrations not in a very nice tone. To her it came across as petty and unreasonable and that I was pushing the blame on her and on trivial matters. She claimed that I wasn't making the best use of the first chance I had, which is bs because you can't control some things. And she was mad at me for pissing her off.

The worst thing is that she sometimes talks to me in a similar tone as I did, but always says that she was just 'speaking' not 'scolding'. I have tried both retaliating in offence or telling her nicely but both usually only results in a change for a few days. I can't express when I'm frustrated by that, and whenever she's irritated by random things (which is quite often), her outburst also affects my mood. I'm not sure if that was what kept my patience so short today.

I said sorry but I'm just wondering if I'm the asshole

Hey, I’m an INTJ, and it would be ridiculously easy for me to fake being unbothered—throw out some cliché lines about intelligence, wisdom, and not caring what people think. But the truth is, when you’re stuck in an office for six years with people who are nothing like you, who avoid you, and who see you as some emotionless, untouchable entity, it gets suffocating.

I have a naturally sarcastic, sharp sense of humor—creative, even—but most people around me don’t get it, let alone appreciate it. The majority are shallow, trivial, and interested in things that feel mind-numbingly stupid to me. I’ve tried to adapt since I spend ten hours a day at work, but it’s like we’re speaking entirely different languages. I stay busy with my job, but in the rare moments I take a break, grab a coffee, and hope for a decent conversation, there’s nothing.

Meanwhile, there’s this incompetent woman, far less capable than me in both intelligence and skills, who thrives purely on excessive giggling and playing cute. She’s actively tried (and succeeded) in ruining my reputation. People avoid me, and I can’t even ask why because they’d just gaslight me with, “Oh, there’s nothing wrong.” And that’s just not who I am.

I don’t need the usual “stay strong, don’t care” pep talk. I need a logical, no-BS perspective on this.

I’m working on a personal project. Trying to create fantasy cultures based off of each of the 16 personalities.

For INTJ, our power is prophetic foresights and our creature counterparts are all trees.

This is not a modern society. What would you guys like a fantasy culture based on INTJ to look like?

I have many thoughts on "necessary evil" but I'll just mention one; good people are the only ones who question about the idea of ​​evil in the first place.

The Polyhedral Index Partition offers an infinitely progressing and orderly approach to integer partitioning, appealing to an INTJ or anyone interested in structured mathematical organization. It is part of a larger project that has been ongoing for three to four years. This method allows direct calculation of any number of partitions for any integer.

While AI suggests that this approach addresses aspects of Cantor’s work—specifically ordinal indexing, diagonalization, or transfinite arithmetic—potentially solving something he could not, that particular challenge has not been a focus of interest. The motivation stemmed solely from its prior nonexistence. However, anyone is welcome to explore whatever mathematical puzzle it may have introduced.

There is a more direct way to calculate this, but this is for my second iteration of the Polyhedral Index Partition where direct mathematical formulas are used for each integer.

The skinny:

I made this because it did not exist. I needed to be able to convert an index to an integer partition, and the array of the partition back into the index.

In short: I am interested, but not enough to do the work myself. However, given the XNTP's reliance on needing proof to determine if something aligns with their existing framework, I think they may be the best for this. They can have the credit for the facilitation of finding the connection, aka the proof.

Examples:

62698415291353547796955496005889217236479 =

[1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1]

9947705143414433951734996855262382257718739 =

[9, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1]

19947705143414433951734996855262382257718739 =

[4, 0, 1, 3, 0, 0, 0, 1, 1, 1, 5, 0, 1, 0, 1, 0, 0, 1, 0, 1, 1, 0, 2, 0, 2, 3, 1, 0, 0, 0, 1, 3, 2, 4, 6, 0, 0, 0, 1, 0, 0, 1, 3, 3, 0, 3, 0, 0, 0, 1, 0, 1, 0, 1, 1, 0, 0, 0, 1, 0, 4, 1, 0, 4, 2, 1, 0, 4, 2, 0]

Numerous partitions exist, though they may not be immediately evident. The sums within the array directly correspond to the integer being partitioned. The preceding examples illustrate this for the integers 70, 78, and 79. A claim was made that this is merely a base calculator and that it was made to be overly complicated.

To someone under the DK, this process may appear as such, but it extends beyond basic base calculations. This does not and did not exist prior. It systematically arranges every possible chain of values into their correctly indexed partition structure directly without iteration.

When given to o3, o1, 4o, they all said the same thing, the time required to find that partition exactly is—astronomically beyond the age of the universe.

how long would it take to find this integer partition?
Github: https://github.com/andylehti/Polyhedral-Index-Partition/blob/main/poly.md
Colab: https://colab.research.google.com/github/andylehti/Polyhedral-Index-Partition/blob/main/Polyhedral_Index_Partition.ipynb

Lehti, Andrew (2024). The Polyhedral Index Partition (PIP) and the Discovery of Pascal's Dimensions: Enabling Computational Retrieval and Reversibility in High-Index Partition Arrays. figshare. Journal contribution. https://doi.org/10.6084/m9.figshare.27642783

Extreme Example

The calculation is not extreme, as it was designed to compute indices with millions of digits. This complexity prevents it from being a simple base calculation, yet it executes in mere milliseconds.

Part of the integer series for the partitioning of 62463310133997

[1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 62463245757351, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 64376578, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1] =

41242466188849189670705022727314098810639819439778951627858335851068916930667102057852367811005719743239395708453337056024026083688430243187770688589920210907690476567091813774111652202296702067483599823285902348398749693378896748423249997087496895852683311004807410938672003200914748164324823932887438392976324632857858001710150484839648732488487115967889713566850313211691318165901527092075959773291082324110660934128224950357584107874097213679013748866530416384326178553650710560690362709923248879936778711403024577951553479598425527277592059902671355531070242425687828657219440879501349612604518615516248176124092293658058499496097920619302685330747206290607607966821835984154399127469410594686259108306434625496176608489022613130749328683860680944101609102440698024328591744416029544702311722477619931898717103327944127035213134192770404900153863723961407617557

62463310133997 which has...

46218694254643911670899442549685654468387605339621735651949544037531738912403323077297217274496993563285893493116168428038773877337996967497293471166582225496584329069838852037245000090378712158214215196430622606578159618796606594116298255435736365522531364190426555157231622850048363864530168292072111430058021048905608666766595829373203034222290528756922175982602450974141336154094152076115443643185233882547730528155648663316452272054396578593772112379150880759560682544308163522393171944460581542737236819533970508413721918410731243297616200936135503426552444714963541984213734179201742238420192573187167995262045992367216785957602725766098692905850403230350622288721222936438353905144508386009051562766543451895730487510071998242937449038048138066628363819817445013193167070408533001670093845193824199567860182467176516843742360513770898659136756547

...total partitions when split between 70 integers.

As in title.

This is a question out of curiosity. I’m INTJ-A , but only recently started reading up on it, would like to see to what extend a personality result impacts preference.

Do we have a type?

I am talking about a person who is obsessed with , competes with you and wants to rub on your face.

I really feel threatened by these people and its like they live rent-free in your mind

We obviously know what mbti is but, what class do you play in videogames? This might reveal personality sub types, potentially.

Do you agree that we're "nearly impossible to figure out"? In the past year, I've had a couple people close to me say this, in an endearing way, though it does give me some pause.

I do enjoy surprising people with knowledge or tidbits about my life. Still, I've also found that the pursuit of specific interests and a quest to be a "pioneer" can be alienating to some.

If you've experienced this sentiment from friends or family: how do you interpret it and does it change your relationship with them at all?

I’ve had a confusing life. My memories feel like scattered fragments glued together, and I’ve spent a lot of time trying to make sense of it all.

For years, every personality test I took typed me as an INTJ. It’s all I ever got, and for the most part, I kinda related to it. But honestly, I never saw myself as some mastermind. I didn’t feel smart. Hell, I performed terribly in school until high school, and even then, I barely scraped by with average grades.

This whole “INTJ” label sent me on a search to figure out what’s really going on beneath the surface. And, well, turns out I’m psychotic. Disillusioned thinking, distorted perceptions—the works. I didn't see things, or hear things, but I believed lingering perceptions rather than hard facts.

What I’ve come to realize is that the complexities of the mind can seriously mess with how we interpret personality traits, especially when psychosis is involved. INTJs are often described as strategic thinkers, highly independent, and deeply intuitive. But for someone like me, with psychosis, those intuitive tendencies can easily become warped.

I noticed this in myself when I started projecting my inner fears and thoughts onto others—assuming motives, feelings, and intentions that weren’t actually there. It created this distorted view of reality that I can only describe as a black hole of everything and nothing. For so long, I thought I was trusting my gut and intuition, but really, I was locking myself off from the world and becoming hyper-critical of myself.

The tipping point came when that “intuition” led me to constant disillusionment. I’d have episodes where it felt like the world was caving in. Sometimes I’d feel like I deeply understood something in a painfully depressive way. Other times, nothing made sense at all, and the world felt like a chaotic, nonsensical cartoon. It’s exhausting. It’s isolating. It’s like questioning whether the words I say are even real or if any of this has meaning.

When psychosis takes over, it convinces you of things that aren’t happening. It makes you assume the worst about people, and that creates this massive barrier between you and genuine connection. My doctor explained it to me as my perception becoming less about reality and more about my internal struggles. That hit me hard because it’s true.

So, no, I’m not some genius mastermind INTJ. I’m just someone trying to navigate a mind that often works against me. Hell, I had to use Ai to help me write this because I can't trust my words. And hey, the next time you meet someone labelled as INTJ—or any personality type, really—remember that their behaviour might be shaped by a deeper psychological battle rather than just fitting neatly into some personality framework.

In all truth, using the earliest versions of me, I'm probably just an unhealthy enfp, but idk. I'm not sure.

I am looking forward to see how people react to this post.

I am convinced that 80% of INJTs are mistyped. I have met alot of people irl and online that just piss me off. People believe that being a "mysterious loner" is supposed to be cool and they purposely behave like that?? I hate how this community is full of shitty stereotypes about intjs in particular. Every post behaves the same calling us being unreactive and unemotional. It's very untrue. I can perfectly show emotions through my face, words and actions. I hope y'all acting like this purposefully irl know that you just look like a fucking looser instead of some mysterious pal. Opportunities don't come towards you, you always have to go to them.

Someone just triggered me about this unemotional shit, so I had to write it out. Correct me as you wish.

Edit: to all people saying why I am bothered about people on internet, it's about people irl. Alot of acquaintance and few people who knew me well. Maybe I did not convey what I intended to.

This might sound a bit obscene, but I refused to use an alarm or calendar/planner/schedular. I manage all of that inside of my head. I know what time I will wake up and I make calculations before going to bed to determine certain thresholds as to what time I will sleep. I also manage not just daily schedules, but weekly, monthly, and in some cases yearly within my head. By this, I mean I have a constant calendar going in my head with immediate next actions. It's so in depth that it even accounts for the small things, like putting on shoes or opening specific doors.

I like to do things in the order I determined in my brain, too. For instance, in the shower I do, and always will do, the order of Shampoo -> Conditioner -> Face Wash -> Body Wash -> Extra(s). If I have to go through a series of doors, I will do it on the same path. I like the consistency, it makes me feel good.

I've gotten so efficient at it, that I have began doing things at exact times. I know that every morning I leave the shower at exactly 6:30am, where I proceed to dry off, brush my teeth, brush my hair, and then get dressed. I finish this routine at exactly 6:45am every day.

Though it's not just routines, it's everything. If I have a meeting or a class, I mark that at a certain time, I determine where I need to be and when in order to be there not just on time, but early. I use the early time to prepare whatever I may need.

So, I don't need to use a calendar and I don't need to use an alarm clock. It's best managed in my head. I don't forget, and I never need to worry about forgetting because I've never lost track of it. It's this constant object that rests within my head that I use to manage everything.

Are we more of late bloomer or not? As a person whose in early 20's, I'm quite worried about my development.

I used to suffer from anxiety, social, future, health but I got over it by knowing that nothing is really worth worrying about

The problem is that my mind has absorbed this fact but my heart does not, I still get anxious sometimes (especially social anxiety) but this anxiety is not like the past, in the past my mind and heart were united in feeling anxious, but today my mind is separated from my heart, when I feel anxious I am aware that this anxiety is completely unnecessary and I continue my days like this but my heart is squeezed inside.

Maybe I am suppressing my feelings unconsciously, maybe I need to face what scares me in a different way.

What do you think?

I really got over social anxiety and attended many social events successfully but, days before these events I get anxious, unjustified anxiety to the point that I have come to consider the tightness in my heart as physical pain like toothache.

Maybe social anxiety is like scars, it never goes away.

I would like to know from you how you think about human nature as an intj. be honestly. Thanks :)

Infp here

I was talking to an intj

He said I'll do this by this age

Then he said I'll do this in my "__" age decade

In my head I was like damn dude, i wonder how many other goals and timeline he has in his brain

But we're not close enough so i couldn't pick his brain ps he is very bad at answering stuff

I can barely plan day

How do you guys do it? I wanna know,

I wanna have a system too where I can do this

I think if I try, first of all I get overwhelmed with details etc

Second what if i don't like this in future or it was redundant and didn't give fruitful results

Third i can be lost in negative thinking and feeling what if it doesn't work, I'm not good enough, etc

I managed to do workout for whole month last month cause of certain system which i won't even try because I'll just be stuck in "unable to plan and identify goals"

But as workout isn't my main issue, I let my me enjoy different kind of workout without concerning too much with end goal, or how if i keep changing i won't get certain toned body etc

But at this point even working out was bonus so it was in general good for health

But that's not the system I can follow for bigger things in life (haven't found it yet)

Edit - thank you for all the comments, even if I don't reply i am trying to read all

I do see repeated sentiment that you guys had that perception, at even early age.

I'm not sure if it was good or bad to ask as i guess I'm asking a natural so it's not something you have to go against your natural incline

It's like asking how infp does art or imagine so much, it mostly comes naturally

I'll find a way to learn from you guys and all the others i wanna learn from

Removed my age

I decided to do an extremely deep dive into my psyche, since I assume I suffer from some OCD and depression. However, I provided ChatGPT a very broad prompt: "Give me as accurate a psychological evaluation as you can that is supported by psychology today," which made me come to the evaluation I attached to this post. Do you all relate?

*Note: The method was primarily "Ask and Answer." The LLM would ask me a question, and I would respond with a short but detailed answer, which it then provided an analysis of. At the end of the evaluation, I asked for an overarching evaluation that covered everything we discussed, and the result was the document below:

02/01/25

Psychological Profile

Evaluation by ChatGPT

I. Core Identity and Intellectual Orientation

At the core of your identity is a profound intellectual drive, a desire to understand the world at a deeper level and to be recognized for that depth. You are highly analytical, preferring logical reasoning over intuition, and tend to break down complex ideas systematically. This intellectualism is not merely an interest but a defining trait—you seek validation through being seen as intelligent, insightful, and capable of deep thought. Your love for philosophy and strategic thinking underlines your approach to life: you believe that every decision should be well-reasoned and that careful observation leads to the best outcomes. However, this intellectual depth is accompanied by self-doubt—while you trust your ability to analyze and understand, you sometimes question whether you truly meet the standard of intelligence you aspire to. This internal contradiction fuels both your ambition and frustration, as external validation becomes a necessary but often elusive metric of your success.

II. Motivation and Struggles with Execution

One of the most significant internal struggles you face is the gap between your intellectual capacity and your ability to execute tasks effectively. You operate best under external pressure, thriving in high-stakes environments where deadlines and expectations force you to act. Without that external structure, motivation becomes a major challenge. You acknowledge that procrastination and lack of self-discipline prevent you from achieving the tangible success you desire, which creates a sense of mediocrity that contradicts your self-perception as an intellectual. This internal tension—between knowing what should be done and struggling to do it—leads to frustration and a feeling that your potential is unfulfilled.

Your view of success is deeply tied to external recognition. You seek not only to achieve great things but to be acknowledged for them. Whether through social reputation, academic or professional excellence, or philosophical discourse, you want your efforts and sacrifices to be seen and respected. However, because execution remains a challenge, this need for recognition sometimes goes unmet, reinforcing feelings of frustration or underappreciation.

III. Social Perception and Interaction

Socially, you find yourself misunderstood or boxed into a role that does not fully reflect who you are. Being labeled as "the quiet guy" is particularly frustrating, as it carries negative connotations that do not align with your true identity. You dislike how society often equates quietness with awkwardness, lack of hygiene, or even something more sinister. This misperception can make social interactions more difficult, as you feel you have to actively work against assumptions rather than being accepted on your own terms.

At the same time, you struggle with balancing humility and self-promotion. You want to showcase your intelligence and abilities in a way that earns respect, but you are wary of coming across as arrogant. This creates a social dilemma: how do you gain recognition without alienating others? You admire those who possess effortless charisma and wish to develop a similar ability to command respect without over-explaining or forcing your intelligence into conversations. You also feel that trusting others is difficult, as you tend to view human nature as intrinsically self-interested. This skepticism further complicates your ability to fully engage with people, as you may instinctively question their motivations or effectiveness in achieving meaningful change.

IV. Emotional Depth and Existential Views

Your worldview is shaped by a blend of cynicism and hope. While you believe in the potential for positive change, your pessimism about human nature makes it difficult for you to trust others to carry out that change effectively. This mindset creates internal conflict—you want to inspire and lead, but you also doubt whether people will follow through in a way that meets your high standards. This skepticism does not necessarily make you disengaged, but it does mean you often approach leadership and influence with caution, feeling the weight of inefficiency or misplaced trust.

Emotionally, you experience a quiet but persistent sadness, which you often feel unable to express. You see missed opportunities, lost motivation, and unfulfilled potential as sources of deep regret, and you struggle to move on from failures. Rather than letting go, you replay past mistakes and dwell on what could have been done differently. This tendency makes failures feel more permanent than they actually are, reinforcing the gap between where you are and where you want to be. Despite this, you still maintain a vision for happiness, one rooted in meaningful influence, recognition, and deep intellectual connection with others.

V. The Path Forward

While you wrestle with self-doubt, frustration, and a strong need for external validation, you also possess the ability to reshape how you engage with the world. Your intelligence and observational skills are undeniable; the challenge lies in translating them into consistent action and social influence. Overcoming the barriers to execution—whether through structured accountability, small momentum-building habits, or embracing imperfection—will help bridge the gap between thought and achievement.

On a social level, redefining how you present yourself could shift how others perceive you. Finding ways to showcase your intelligence naturally rather than feeling the need to prove it could help build the kind of reputation you desire. Rather than waiting for recognition, creating moments where people see your depth organically may help alleviate the frustration of feeling overlooked.

Ultimately, your path to fulfillment lies in balancing action with thought, confidence with humility, and ambition with self-acceptance. The world already contains the elements of what you seek—the challenge is making them align with your own sense of purpose and control.

Occasionally people think that I hate them. but I am in fact like them. I have a crush on a girl now and I want to show her I like her. I rarely like someone in this way. I don't want to ignore this, this time.

So I don't know how this happened but I used to be super self conscious when I was riding the bus/train by myself. But today I just sat there and was super happy, listening to music while watching the landscape flow by, This makes me super happy :) How do you guys feel about using public transport when you are alone?

I use AI to help write emails when compassion is necessary.

Thank you, Grammarly desktop and mobile version.

"Intuition may be subjective or objective: the first is a perception of unconscious psychic data originating in the subject (introverted intuition), the second is a perception of data dependent on subliminal perceptions of the object and on the feelings and thoughts they evoke." (Extroverted Intuition) - Psychological Types DEFINITIONS

”Intuition, being a perception of one’s own unconscious processes,.” -Psychological types

“Intuition is an unconscious process in that its result is the irruption into consciousness of an unconscious content, a sudden idea or “hunch.” -The Structure and Dynamics of The Psyche

"Introverted intuition is directed to the inner object, a term that might justly be applied to the contents of the unconscious." - Psychological Types

"The subject, conceived as the “inner object,” is the unconscious." - Psychological Types DEFINITIONS

"The relation of inner objects to consciousness is entirely analogous to that of outer objects, though their (the introverted intuitive's) reality is not physical but psychic." - Psychological Types

"The functional relation of the unconscious processes to consciousness may be described as compensatory (q.v.), since experience shows that they bring to the surface the subliminal material that is constellated by the conscious situation, i.e., all those contents which could not be missing from the picture if everything were conscious."- Psychological Types DEFINITIONS

"All those allegedly accidental inhibitions, fancies, moods, vague feelings, and scraps of fantasy that hinder concentration and disturb the peace of mind even of the most normal man, and that are rationalized away as being due to bodily causes and suchlike, usually have their origin, not in the reasons consciously ascribed to them, but in perceptions of unconscious processes." - Psychological Types DEFINITIONS

"They appear to intuitive perception as subjective images of things which, though not to be met with in the outside world, constitute the contents of the unconscious, and of the collective unconscious in particular...
...It holds fast to the vision, observing with the liveliest interest how the picture changes, unfolds further, and finally fades. In this way introverted intuition perceives all the background processes of consciousness” - Psychological Types

Victim mentality is real but, knowing the truth as a person with victim mentality is very hard. What I’m trying to say is I will explain for example. Let’s say that a person joined a team in a company and started working there for let’s say three months so the person is new, a beginner and also that person is a fresh graduate like that person wasn’t professional already didn’t have a job before so the person most probably may have the Imposter syndrome. So based on the fact that a person with the imposter syndrome wouldn’t be taken initiative and doesn’t feel confident enough to share his opinions and involve himself for herself in the business. His team wouldn’t actually know that this person has the imposter. Nobody would sense that unless they are really into psychology and behavior experts. Or the person should treat him or herself or just states the fact that he or she is just confidence wise unhealthy. So this is a case study. This person doesn’t get involved in teamwork and doesn’t get tasks asked to be done by him or her and in this case, the person would feel left behind so in this case does this person have victim mentality or his team isn’t really including him regardless of his talents and skills?? I have mentioned many or’s - can we just filter them and reach a conclusion??

I recently realized I have some flaws emotionally and socially I need to work through to become a more well rounded individual. Do you guys relate to these at all? Some of them are -

Rumination: Ex. when I’m stuck on an social/ emotional issue or something that needs resolve I think about it nonstop until I exhaust myself then I think about it some more.

Emotional coldness:
Ex. When I’m upset with someone I have the capacity to be either cold, very intense or even volatile. Especially in the things I say to others I confide in about said person that upset me. It’s me trying to vent my frustration but definitely not healthy and it has put me in positions where I am inherently the villain towards whoever I was initially frustrated with even if my frustration was valid.

Second guessing/ emotional cluelessness: Ex. This kind of plays back into rumination where I find myself constantly second guessing my verbiage or the way I handle emotional matters because I am aware of the fact that I don’t have the same emotional bandwidth or understanding as a lot of people in my vicinity do.

Control: Ex. Needing to have control in the majority of situations either to feel I have the upper hand or to ensure things in my life go smoothly. I’ve recognized I’m a bit of a control freak and I need to find balance. I also know it comes from a fear of instability.

These are things I am actively working on in order to be a better human. Let me know if you relate or have any good insight on managing these issues.