I’ve never really had the luxury to afford big things for my parents up until last year. I’m not rich by any means, but I’m super thankful for my dad and what he’s done in life to support us and i want to make sure he knows i am.

Budget : $0-1000. I know it may not seem like a lot but could anyone offer any tips/advice?

He did express how much he loved the Don Julio 1942 i bought him but never drank it because it was “too expensive”

Same thing with the bottle of class azul i bought him. They’re both on display in the house which i find amazing how he never wanted to drink it lmao.

I’m his only son out of 4 daughters and we only recently started doing dad-son stuff about three-ish years ago. (24M)

Most of our bonding was through landscaping, sports and car stuff like changing brakes, an alternator and the usual basic maintenance.

For some background info that can hopefully help in choosing a gift or gifts:

He’s not super super into cars but after i got my Mustang in 2022 he always told stories of the old Camaro he used to have in college. Though he was a big Camaro guy the fam is mostly a Ford family.

Loves Futbol, he has a big heart for the Mexican national team though we need massive improvements, hell even new players. Also roots for USMNT.

He is fairly handsy and most of the basic maintenance like brake changes, oil changes he does in the garage. I’ve helped him with TWO alternators on cars in the family and enjoyed every second of it lmao.

We replaced all four rotors on my Mustang as well, so he has plenty of tools, maybe new tools?

He has a grille that is taken out for the summer.

Big on planting and growing his own veggies and fruits.

He has a bike already, not too big on coffee.

Any help, tips or advice would really be appreciated. I still have two months!

Hi !
a little context; yesterday i had a talk about my opinions of myself with a friend, it went fine. the thing is, at many point in the conversation, he was looking at me with care in his eyes (and a bit of sadness cause i was not saying nice thing about myself lmao)
i did not say anything at the time, but i hated it. not because he is a man and i'm a woman or anything. i hate it when women look at me like that too. i just got reminded of that hate it yesterday.
it's visceral, like i can't control it. I hate being looked at like that and i feel like i don't deserve it. like i don't deserve care. like the idea that people care about me is weird and unnatural in a way ? i dunno
sorry it's a bit rambly but i would like to know if anyone else is like that ? and what you did about it haha

I earned my degree in video production in 2018. I am in the USA which means my major was video editing and my minor was business. Since then my employment prospects have been a nightmare. I have only been offered 1 full time job out of 5,000 applications throughout my 20s. And that paid 19.23 a hour and I was laid off from it in February after 2.5 years. This job had 1 major problem though and it was a training reimbursement requirement of 15k. Basically in short the contract stated for any training you received (even if its showing you the door code to open the front door) you would have to reimburse the company for training you for 15k if you leave before 3 years is up. This contract was shoved in front of me right offered I signed my offer letter and out of desperation I signed it. This was a mistake and I am not following for it again. This was most likely illegal do to my research but the company could try to sue me and it made the job very stressful. Sometimes I was screaming on the way to work so it's somewhat mutual to part ways.

I will be 30 in October and I don't know what to do with the job situation. It's been very upsetting. I have come to the belief that pursuing a video career is stupid. I have been trying to move into IT and got my Comptia A+, Network +, and Security +, currently studying for CCNA and after that I don't know what to do. But IT seems like a real tough industry to get into in 2024 especially without a stem degree or military experience. But I somewhat like doing the certifications a lot more than doing college. I am living with my parents who don't understand how my college degree has not benefited me and that's really upsetting.

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Anyways for men over 30 what happened with you if you got a video production degree? Are you rich or poor or somewhere in between?

I feel so much of my anxiety and depression is centered around social outings and spending time with other people. I know it's important to push yourself into social situations, but I feel like every time I do, I end up feeling so miserable about myself afterwards.

Admittedly, I'm quite far behind in my life compared to my peers and family so I guess that comparison is kicking in. But it's just such a shitty feeling to deal with afterwards so I'm wondering, why should I even bother?

If being on my own makes me feel better about myself, what's the point of putting myself into situations where I leave feeling miserable?

Hey all. So I'm having pains and sores that I should have taken care of. The reason I don't go is I have zero idea how much anything is going to cost! Will seeing a doctor cost me $100 or $800. How do I properly find out before hand?

For reference I went to an urgent care about a year ago and they had costs for each procedure printed out. After insurance ended up being more than what was printed!

I don't mind the costs, I just need to find a way to properly budget for these things instead of rolling the dice anytime something feels wrong.

I'm located in Florida if it helps at all.

As someone who's recently turned 30, I've been thinking a lot about how to maintain a healthy lifestyle while indulging my tech hobbies. I'm a bit of a tech geek—big into gadgets and gaming—but I've also realized the importance of staying fit and healthy, especially now that I’m in my thirties.

Recently, I’ve been using virtual reality to help meet my fitness goals. It's a fun way to blend my interest in technology with my need for physical activity. Plus, I’m trying to kick a smoking habit that’s been with me since my twenties.

I’m curious to hear from others here. How do you balance your tech hobbies or other interests with health and fitness goals?

A lot of times we make short term decisions that don't serve us. What are some long term decisions that you have made that have changed your life for the better, OR for the worse.

Please provide some context and your thought process when you made it and how you feel about it now.

I’m already noticing that I begin to forget more and more of my early childhood, and I wish I’d been keeping a better history of my life.

Have any of you kept journals from your youth, or picked up journaling later in life? Would it be something you’d recommend starting sooner rather than later?

As the title says.

An example would be time freedom. Freedom to do what you want , when you want to me is priceless.

So this specific event has happened maybe 2-3x in the last 3 weeks. When I urinate throughout the day it’s a completely normal stream and even at night before I go to bed. I tend to drink a lot of water even before bed so I usually wake up to piss once. However the few times recently the time I have awoken to urinate I notice it starts fine but then it stops and doesn’t empty fully, and I know this sounds weird, but then Ill turn the sink on and listen to the water running and then it’ll all come out. I don’t wake up frequently to urinate. And this problem doesn’t happen throughout the day at all ever. It only seems to happen when I wake up with a strong urge to pee in the early hours of the morning.

Hard to explain. It doesn’t happen all the time either. Could this be a pelvic floor issue or is this the beginning stages of BPH? I’m getting an appointment with a urologist this week but until then I figured I’d go ahead and ask.

Wondering if any guys here have noticed a change when they wear their wedding ring. Do people treat you differently? How? Or is it just all the same?

My post history will show you why I'm asking. I'm 31M, and basically I've only have one friend ever since I was a teenager. For various reasons I'm very sadly no longer as close with that friend (though I very much yearn to be again).

But after school and college/university, do you think it's really possible to form those deep male friendships that are formed in teenage/early-20s years? The type where you can be totally vulnerable with them and know they care about you and have your back?

i'm asking because i'm afraid of my future husband losing his sex drive at the age of 40-50😅

Okay so I honestly don't know what to do at this point.

My boyfriend and I have been together 18 months now. Our sex life was great for the first 2-3 months we were together. Then it started slowing down, which in and of itself not horrible (though i would love it to be more frequent).

My problem is that he REFUSES to let me initiate. Like it doesn't matter if I try to initiate sex or offer to give head, he turns me down. But, he has no problem initiating on his own.

I've tried saying stuff like "after this movie, do you wanna have sex" but he didn't wanna plan it, he said he wanted it more spontaneous.

So then I tried replicating the exact ways he would initiate with me like kissing in the shower, rubbing on him in bed at night, etc. No dice. He shuts me down EVERYTIME. I've asked him repeatedly WHY he wont let me initiate but he just keeps saying "I don't know".

This has REALLY started to hurt me. Its a big deal to me that he has some unknown problem that wont allow him to accept me when i initiate ANY kind of intimacy! Ive told him its potentially relationship ending. My self esteem already wasn't great, and this whole ordeal has just tanked it into the negatives.

Ive tried dressing sexy for him, I take care of EVERYTHING in the house so he doesn't have to lift a finger at home, I make him a home cooked meal EVERY night unless we go out. I legit dont know what to do!

For a little more info on him.

He's 29, blue collar man who is athletically built. He has ZERO problem performing in the bedroom and lasting. He has no health problems that either of us are aware of.

I just really need some insight on what it could be, or how I could help him to get over whatever IT is so we can get back on track!

Early 30s here. I’ve had many doubts about my happiness in my marriage (3yrs and 10 yrs together, no kids) and I recently started to really enjoy time for myself without my partner, working out alone, having some time with guy friends and being more selfish. I also started noticing women in the streets looking at me while Im alone boosting my confidence. I know that the single life/dating can be a wild world and exhausting however I’m curious if anyone here has been through this and preferred to prioritized themselves by breaking up their marriage. My marriage is good (not perfect) im just not truly happy atm. Or is this just a phase at this age?

Ive been trying to improve myself and my families life but no matter what I do I fail. I have a decent job that I'm bored and unchallenged at so I've been trying to do something more challenging, rewarding and develope better skills but it's been miserable.

• I went to a coding boot camp after speaking people who have done boot camps or engineers in big companies and as soon as I graduated the market tanked and none of my class mates could find any jobs and now I have to pay this huge tuition.

• I've applied to more challenging work with better pay and I'd get so close and the team would LOVE me but something would happen and they'd change on a dime . I tried investing in the stock market. I did my homework and studied and even when my analysis is right and the data is correct the stock moves against me.

• the real estate market has been a disaster and no investment opportunities that I can afford there.

If you ask where or what I want to do with my life? I enjoy investing and not just securities (I'm apparently bad at) but I'd love to do real estate or something like that.

I've been loosing money and the will to keep trying on every corner and forgot what wining feels like. I'm not sure what I'm doing wrong here. Any advice or wisdom?

I don't think I've gotten up on time and felt good since I was a kid. I'm turning 30 soon and on paper I'm doing well. Steady job, good money, I have my own flat. I live in northern Europe. But I just walk around with massive anxiety and stress and it haunts me when I go to bed at night.

Does anyone else do this? How do I prevent this from happening?

So I had what felt like a rib popped out and it was hurting for weeks. It was unbearable. I think it was some muscles locked up or something so I started going to a chiropractor. They gave me a trigger point injection and it helped me but then I blew my lower back out taking my shoes off and they have me doing dry needling and other stuff. Today I went for a run and hurt a different part of my back and I'm like wtf is going on... where should I be going to get this checked out because chiropractor isn't working and I've heard they can cause more issues than they fix.

Thanks

How do you cope with loneliness? Whether you are single, married or coupled; loneliness doesn’t discriminate so I’m just curious how grown men cope when you all feel lonely. I appreciate your honest response, thank you

I feel like I have a hypersexual libido and I'd like to get it more under control.

Hey everyone.

I smoked an enormous amount of weed in my 20's. There were stretches of several months without touching it, but it was a frequent part of my life for many years. I have nothing against cannabis. I think it's a unique and wonderful plant in many aspects. I just feel better overall when I don't consume it.

Here's my general understanding of how to get past the brain fog that comes with years of smoking:

• Healthy diet high in veggies, good fats, high Omegas, protein. • Daily exercise • Good sleep • Brain exercises (i.e. learning a new language)

Anyways, I'm just curious to hear any (happy) stories if you've been able to clear any of that fog. Thanks.

Edit: I don't have a problem with cannabis. I haven't smoked for a year. I don't plan on abstaining from it forever. I moved to Europe so access to and consumption of cannabis is far different from the states (sometimes I miss being able to buy great edibles from dispensaries) and I'm not sober. I just spent a huge chunk of my 20's constantly baked and it has had an impact on my brain.

Hi All,

Personally I helped a bit but my wife did all most all of the nights with our children. I’m wondering how it is for other people?

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I am 36, and I have been dating a woman for over 10 years since our mid-20s. We were living together for six, we dont have any kids, just a dog who is 3 that we raised from puppy hood.

I am also a relapsing alcoholic, as was my mother, and my grandmother. As it got worse I sought help for it at the end of 2019, treatment and AA. But then the pandemic happened and I failed to keep attending AA meetings, however I remained sober until I relapsed for the first time in 2021. I sought the program again, but quickly fell off by using the excuse of to busy due to work. From there I remained sober until the summer of 2023. I quickly sought help but didn't attend a meeting everyday and I dragged my feet getting a sponsor. I was never abusive, never yelled, but my girlfriend was getting more and more concerned, as she should and had every right to be. One time she found me in a stupor after a work trip, passes out and not having answer her calls and texts for many hours

Ever since my first relapse, she grew less trustful in my world, and started to get more suspicious of my behavior, as she had every right to be. I would always resume thee program then fall off. Finally, this past weekend where she was going on a trip, I told myself and her that Iwouldn't drink, I went into the weekend think I wouldn't drink. But I did, and when I didn't answer hertexts she asked a friend to check on me. On Sunday she packed her bags and left. We are no longer together

Her family is coming to the apartment this weekend to get her stuff, which she will the put into storage while she moves across the state to live with them for a couple of months, as she needs space from me and relationship. I had to beg her not to take the dog with her. She said she is planing on moving back to our part of the state because it's where her job is, and many friends. She mentioned checking in with how I am doing rexaming things then. Potentially sharing ownership of our dog, whom we both love.

How can I find hope? Not for us to get back together because I doubt that will happen, but hope at life? I've completely destroyed the 10 year relationship with the one I loved because I let my demons of OCD, Anxiety, and childhood trauma get me on the bottle, and how I failed to properly fix. Alcoholisim might be a disease, but I failed to agressivly treat it and thus I lost everything by my own hand, and the life I wanted to live for. I love this woman more than life itself and yet I chose the bottle because of my own failures.

I am going to meetings, and am working with a sponsor as I have been for the since this started. Now it's everyday, and I remain sober since that relapse. Still employed but to what end, I've lost my connection with the most important person in my world, and I did all by myself, slowly over time

TLDR - I at 36 destroyed my 10 year relationship with the woman I love because I did treat my alcoholism like the killer disease it is. What happens is my fault, how do I find hope in life now?

As the title says I'm 24 M with a Baby looking face and skinny body making me look like a teenager. I'm working of getting mascular but my face is still kinda young.

Big brother who had baby looking face how are you doing in terms of dating? Girls of my age usually see me as child only few teenage girls are attracted towards me.

Does it get better in 30s or 40s ?

35M - so my life completely hit the fan over the past year. I had to get a divorce because I was in a toxic relationship moved to Texas to try to work through my marriage and didn’t work out. Lost my home. Moved back to California because I didn’t have any family or friends in Texas. Now my job is at risk because they don’t want to let me work remotely out of CA because remote policies. Dumb. It’s taken a year to wrap up the divorce (final stages), about to be unemployed. Dating sucks. I realized that in relationships I basically allowed people to take control of the situation because it’s in my nature to look for the best in people but they either take advantage of it or I put my self in the situation in the first place.

Now for the good. Since then I have gotten increasingly fit. Lost 25 lbs, feel stronger than ever. Decided to stop dating in particular for now for obvious reasons. Still socialize but am learning to set healthy boundaries and keep things at friend level.

My concern is that with a crap employment market (over hiring). Moved in with family to save money for the inevitable job loss.

Seems like things should be better but they feel like it’s grinding to a halt.

I tell myself, that things will get better and I feel like I have to invest in myself to better understand my strengths and weaknesses and to define myself and build up my confidence again before I start chasing jobs and relationship.

Part of me wants to just take a break to develop and practice new skills and rebrand myself. I work in tech sales for the past 10 years AE/Account Management. Been thinking about getting into front end full stack development, starting a digital business, DJ and music production. It’s a bit daunting because it feels like I have to give up the confort of full employment vs taking a chance on myself.

Anyone have success stories about how they got out of the mud and what it took and for how long?

Just trying to mentally prepare myself. Thanks.

I'll be joining the 30 club later this year and feel like I have truly hit rock bottom. A month ago I was dumped by my girlfriend, and two weeks later I was let go from my job. I live with my parents (in our culture this is normal) and I have very strong supportive friendships. However, no matter how much I try to 'keep busy' with life be that interviewing or applying for new jobs, working out everyday consistently, or doing any and all activities I'm invited to by anyone this feeling of being an absolute loser doesn't go away. So I was curious to get perspective from anyone who may have gone through something similar.

I’m curious to know when men usually prefer. I’m tend to get more attention when I wear my hair a certain way. I’m going on a date soon, one during the day, and one at night.

Big goals like career prosperity or settled relationships, and not being really successful there.

Now being in early 30s, there is combination of self-disappointment, social pressure, family pressure, and so how to handle it correctly ? In 20s, I thought there is lots of time, but now time keeps changing…

Another aspect is as a guy, I can’t even share such feelings with my friends in real-life, and will always come-across as professional/cheerful to them, without ever sharing my life happenings in details.

I do have small goals , day to day goals and reach them well enough. Yet, on the big picture , some important goals are missing. So its normal happiness generally yet there is missing goals bothering me.

I've recently been wading through the online dating pool and recently matched with someone who had cheated on their spouse. She said they had a child together and she conceived another one in an affair and that the fellow involved was to leave his wife but did not.

on the one hand, I'm suspicious of anyone whose cheated on anyone else as i've seen the destruction it has on families first hand. On the other hand, one shouldn't want to hold the past against someone. The fact that she was open about it was something I respected. Thoughts?

Hi All,

The experiment has been quite successful and I can eat way more spicy foods than I used to be able to. I’m thinking of upping the spice again and going for some really nasty chillies, but I don’t want to destroy my insides and feel the burn the next morning.

I’m wondering though if that morning after burning sensation will ever go away or be something that the body becomes accustomed to?