Sometimes a day or two after sex I'm in pain. It almost feels like a UTI but it isn't. We always use lube. Anyone have any suggestions or are least understand what I'm going through?

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Has anyone noticed as they get older seems there erections are getting shorter in size?

M(53) married to F(42). Lately, I can’t reach climax. Might be a side effect of multiple things. I take anti anxiety medication that totally killed my libido. Then I started taking tadafil to help me be ready. However, while I was getting hard, mentally I wasn’t really into it. I read a bunch of reddits about taking edibles. I take Tillmans with 12 mg thc, I also tried experimenting with different dosages from different brands. Result, I do get in the mood. It was ok for a few weeks but now I can’t finish. I’ll go for 30 to 40 minutes and then give up exhausted. I even tried a stimulator called manta from fun factory. Tried all speed settings but no bueno. I need help. I love sex too much to give up now. Any suggestions?

My wife (51F) and I (52M) have been married >20 years and get along great outside the bedroom. We get along pretty well inside the bedroom when we actually make or let sex happen (1-2 times per month lately), but I feel like the initiating is too much of a hurdle. I am much more comfortable initiating—I think it’s that I am interested more (higher libido) and I can handle rejection better/I’m not as afraid of it/it doesn’t affect me as much. What are the “best” ways to initiate, in your experience? In terms of “best”, I mean the ways that make both people feel comfortable, are more likely to “work”, are not too aggressive or too passive, are unlikely to make things awkward, do not create unwanted pressure, create excitement. The other day (late afternoon), my wife and I were sitting in the living room and laughing about something, and my wife looked so gorgeous to me, I got up and walked across the room to her and kissed her and whispered in her ear “I’d love to have a date with you later”. (“Date” is basically a code word for sex for us.) She was caught off guard a little but said “OK” and wasn’t uncomfortable with it. I then eased away from her and left the room so she could watch her TV show. I thought that was a decent effort as it was semi-spontaneous and planted the idea in her mind so she could be ready later. I like that way…but I don’t want to do it the same way every time. Interested to hear what the community has to say.

Just the right height off the floor for pound town.

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We probably have sex once or twice a week, but just about always in the shower. Easy cleanup I guess because we use a lot of lube. What’s missing is oral. She hasn’t offered in probably a year and doesn’t like me doing it (won’t kiss me after, even if I wash).

What to do?

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We have been together over 30 years. We are very comfortable with each other and have a good sex life. We enjoy similar things sex wise. Except when it comes to talking about sex. Now my wife is the opposite of quiet and is very outgoing on any other topic. For myself I am much more quiet then she in social settings. But I like to talk about sex with her. I like to know what she is thinking, feeling and why. But whenever I ask I get very short answers and a change of subject without the opportunity for follow up. I have said to her many time sharing is caring. She will laugh it off and change the subject. Has anyone else had success in concurring type of dynamic?

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I (M56) have difficulties to cum during sex with my partner (F49). The issue started 2 years ago. No medics and no health issues. I do sport twice a week. I found her very attractive. Although she has always been a bit “lazy” in bed, our sex life has always been pretty ok (together for 13 years). I always make sure that she cums first. I understand this issue can be considered as very normal with ageing. But are there techniques, advices, to help me cuming? It is so frustrating. I feel it is damaging our relationship.

Edit: I don’t have any issue getting and staying hard, and having pleasure, the point is “climaxing”…

51m/49f, together 26 years.

Not sure how to chalk it up, but we go several days of very persistent and consistent intercourse and oral with each other and one of our swinger partners.

Lately, we have found that while we were not exhausted, we have a preference of literally just snuggling, and having no sexual contact.

Does anyone else feel so content and satisfied that just the basic act of physical contact is more satisfying than the pursuit of an orgasm?

Happy as fuck with our marriage!

I am a married man in my later fifties. My wife has gone through menopause and she is doing great. So are we. I have been following menopause on Reddit but have been told that men can only read not comment or question there.

I have a number of friends whose wives were not as fortunate as mine when they were going through menopause. Their libido crashed and the bedroom became dead. Each of my friends who opened up to me about it are now divorced. They just felt like they were roommates instead of husbands.

I know that menopause can do a lot to the libido and confidence of women. My question is even when there is no interest in PIV sex due to various reasons, how come other forms of sex disappear as well? All of my divorced friends said they would have stayed in their marriages if any sexual activity was on the table. It was clear to them that their wives preferred divorce to any sexual activity. Please enlighten me because I honestly don’t get it. I saw the pain that both partners had going through their divorces.

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In the process of growing mine out. My wife compliments me. No impact on our DB love life. What say the ladies on the sub? Thanks.

What are the best positions for a man who has knee pain and a bit of ED?

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Title is self-explanatory. My wife and I are middle-aged and getting a bit older. She's starting to have some pre-menopausal symptoms and I'm wondering if you - the male in the relationship - noticed any changes from before and after menopause?

An older friend of mine told me that their sex life got way better after menopause and things actually felt better/tighter with lube and foreplay, but I've heard the opposite as well.

I'm wondering what I should expect in the coming years.

Thanks in advance!

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My wife (51F), was sick of Vegas and had no interest in going back. Then, I got a 3 nights free comp at a luxury hotel/casino and she said “we should go”. She then said we should stay at another different hotel for 2 additional nights- I was thinking “who is this person”?!?

She went all out to look insane hot: fake tan (she knows I love her tan), fake lashes, gorgeous makeup and hot outfits! She was in a bikini a lot and I loved every second of it!

We flew first class and she kept telling me how wet she was getting in anticipation of getting to our room. She was squirming in her seat and I could tell she was in total “slut mode”. She likes it when I call her “my little slut” when we are having sex.

Over the 5 nights, we had sex at least 15 times. I was absolutely exhausted. We discovered something she loves: sucking my dick while I gently choke her and she touches herself and orgasms repeatedly. We tried gummies for the first time and they helped her cum with normal sex- something that has NEVER happened.

We talked about sex the entire trip. She said it turns her on to be dominated- never really knew that but I LOVED hearing it. I love hearing about her sexual past, she catered to it and would say slutty things like “fuck me like ##### did” which drove me nuts!

We are 54(M)/51(F) and have been married close to 30 years. We are having the best sex of our lives. The key for us was getting our hormones right. She wants it all the time and I am happy to give it to her.

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I have always been one and done. I mean, I can count on one the number of times I've been able to go a second round. Wife and I haven't had any sex in a few weeks (travel, sick, high energy vacation that zapped us in the evening, etc).

I want to go at least 2 rounds when we can. Any suggestions on getting hard a second time?

My wife turned 50(I’m 50 and in the best shape of my life) and instead of enjoying the empty house and fun times we have left, she turned into an old fashion old sister Mary. Doesn’t want to talk about sex, doesn’t want me to tell her what to wear, I told her we should go to a nude beach or topless and she was like why would I go to a beach and get naked. Me on the other hand sleep naked now, walk around naked a lot more, and just feel free. My fantasies keep racing through my mind but she doesn’t want to hear them. The sex is so boring and really non existent, I’m better off jo myself. I don’t know what to do. I told her we do love each other but we are not in love.

I'm a 53M married and we like to have sex 3 -4 times a week but having trouble finishing here recently. I'm in great shape 5 10 , 150lbs workout 3 times a week, haven’t masturbated for 3 years now , Don’t drink or smoke. I do take 50 mg of Viagra - Tried Cialis with no success. I'm considering adding Oxytocin or Apomorphine or something along those lines to help orgasm. Has anyone tried and had success with this?

Sex life is usually great, no complaints at all. Last few weeks we have been off. Just not connecting right. Between her HRT getting messed up and life stress, sex has been way under performing and it's starting to get to me. I was actually kind of a dick yesterday, quite grumpy and just didn't want to talk. I felt bad about it, but it was just one of those days that you cant fake it and just wear a smile.

This morning the mood was carrying over. I get up early for work, she usually just getting out of the shower when I'm ready to leave. I always give her a kiss and say goodbye. Gave her a peck this morning and she commented "I just brushed my teeth, was hoping for more than that peck" as she was standing there in only a t shirt. So I grabbed her ass, played with her cheeks and gave her a bigger kiss. She felt my bulge and asked if I wanted to take care of that real quick. Of course I said yea and she asked, what's the easiest position for you? (Quickest). So she got on her knees on the edge of the bed and let me just fuck her doggy until I came, she didn't expect an orgasm on her end, just pure giving.

I needed that, it totally lifted my spirits and put me in a much better mood to start the day. She's the best. I owe her some good attention soon.