As older people (67 f 68 m) we had always assumed sex would become less. But that has not been the case. For my wife, who has always been blessed with pretty reliable orgasms, the orgasms have become much more intense the last couple of years. Even squirting sometimes, which never happened (she tells me) until about a year ago. I swear sometimes I'm a little afraid she must be in pain from the intensity.

Is this true of anyone else? Really curious.

As older people (67 f 68 m) we had always assumed sex would become less. But that has not been the case. For my wife, who has always been blessed with pretty reliable orgasms, the orgasms have become much more intense the last couple of years. Even squirting sometimes, which never happened (she tells me) until about a year ago. I swear sometimes I'm a little afraid she must be in pain from the intensity.

Is this true of anyone else? Really curious.

Yes. It has been that long. Does anyone else have that feeling that if they don't have sex when they're still able and they know there are fewer days ahead than there are behind that they are seriously missing out on anything? This is not what I want but being a little shy and older, I just haven''t had to turn away hoardes of women wanting anything. I still have my body and a hell of a drive and I'm single. It freaks me out to think it might never happen again.

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We have been married 30ys, and sex is great. Sadly only once a week these days. I'm (M58) and she is (F57). That said, I'm always the initiator with an average 95% success rate (lol). She very rarely initiates. I wonder how long she would last if I stopped initiating. Ladies, how long can you last without Sex with your partner before you bust? Assuming your both sexually active and prefer cock over silicone.

We have scheduled sex time.

Background is that we used to struggle with our sex life in part because I never felt sure that my wife was interested, which are my own insecurities at work. This resulted in her feeling uncertain that she was doing the 'right' thing when I would try to initiate but, for perfectly good reason, she was not interested at that time. And then when we would have sex one of both of us would often feel uncertain that the other really wanted to do so. (Insecurity is a beast sometimes)

So, and it's been some years now, we set up a scheduled sex time every week. And it really changed our interaction. The idea that we knew it was going to happen at such and such a time on such and such a day was itself very exciting for us. Our sex life was transformed. I no longer was uncertain as she was always ready when the time came. And she became much more relaxed as she felt the pressure to acquiesce was no longer there. Now, and for the last few years, our sex life is great and getting greater. Conversations about "what are we going to do this time" and "wow I'm really looking forward to.." are our normal.

Now, of course, we don't always stick to the schedule for lots of reasons, but we do about 80-90% of the time. And we do have sex whenever we want otherwise. However, if you and your partner are struggling trying to really be relaxed about your sex life, I encourage you to try this approach.

Cheers

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I (60m) recently had my first problem with ED. My wife (64f) was nothing but patient and supportive about it but I could tell that she was starting to get frustrated. I researched generic Viagara and Cialis, chose one of those sites where you can get a prescription right there and ordered some. Not an hour after I did that she asked me if I had looked into it. I told her that I had just placed my order and she threw her arms around me and thanked me. Earlier this week, she couldn't wait for me to take one so we could try it out. She was more turned on than she's been in a while and we had incredible sex. I had no idea she would react this way but I have to say that I feel like the cock of the walk right now. It feels amazing to be so desired, especially at this stage of my life.

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M55. Started w/ some ED about a year ago. Been working on my health, the ED is a bit better. Cialis has made it even better. But with or without a Cialis, I can only come 1 time out of 5 times. We have tried more frequent sex, less frequent sex. Nothing seems to help. It is like I am at the point of no return and then, pause....dang instead of an orgasm it just seems to be back feeling good but no where near getting off. This can happen several times during some of our longer sex/play.

Has anyone else dealt with this? Did you find anything that helped?

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I (52F) am frustrated. Husband (52M) of 29 years prefers to self satisfy with porn vs intimacy with me. Admittedly we went through many years where I was not in the mood. We had a special needs child, I was responsible for everything and exhausted mentally/emotionally. The only time he touched me was when he wanted sex, and there was not much effort or concern for my orgasm, which made me feel used. So I went from being very sexual in my youth, to never wanting it. Now that kiddo is out of house, we have relocated from a very stressful home location to a better situation, and hubby works from home rather than only coming home on the weekends. I've been trying to get us back on track, but he just isn't really interested anymore. He just got used to taking care of his own needs, and it's so much easier and less complicated than including me and worrying about my needs. But this leave me crazy. Self care doesn't satisfy me the same. I've tried talking to him about it, I tried getting more sexually aggressive. But it boils down to he doesn't have a problem, so to him WE don't have a problem :(

Yes, I'm "overweight" but not obese. I think I look pretty damn good for 52. He says he is attracted to me. Hard to believe to though, as he really shows no passion, curiosity or enthusiasm for my body. But he never has. Is it possible that he just never really learned to fully enjoy the whole body experience of sex?? (He has always orgasmed so fast then we were done) Or is it that he uses so much corn that he has to passion for reality because he has had the visuals spoon fed to him so much? He says he isn't into freaky porn, just vanilla stuff. In the past I could look through his history and see. Yes it was pretty tame. But since he found out I could do that he hides everything now.

Not sure there is advice that will help. Just needed to vent I guess.

I (35F) have been seeing a man (49) for a bit and sex is imminent. He's made jokes about me being with "an old man" and has mentioned a few times about turning 50 soon. He jokes about it, but I can tell it is something he may be self conscious about. I find him so attractive and I tell him so, but I really want to make it clear how much I want want him once we get in bed.

So men - what do you love hearing a woman say or what can a woman do that blows your mind in bed? Please be specific!

And I'm posting here since he is almost 50. I hope that is OK.

I (35F) have been seeing a man (49) for a bit and sex is imminent. He's made jokes about me being with "an old man" and has mentioned a few times about turning 50 soon. He jokes about it, but I can tell it is something he may be self conscious about. I find him so attractive and I tell him so, but I really want to make it clear how much I want want him once we get in bed.

So men - what do you love hearing a woman say or what can a woman do that blows your mind in bed? Please be specific!

And I'm posting here since he is almost 50. I hope that is OK.

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My wife (60f) and I (65m) have discussed "boundaries" since she is more vanilla than I. One reason I wanted to understand her boundaries is about butt stuff. She said that she didn't want to set any boundaries up because something that doesn't appeal to her when she's a 2 on the horny scale might be hot when she's an 8.

Last night I was going down on her and got super excited, went from the front to the back door and was super into it. It was the first time of "rimming" her and I was in ecstasy. She seemed like she was really digging it so I started talking about how glorious her ass was and that's when we hit the wall... she froze up. Once that happened my erection disappeared and the sex stopped. Things got a little awkward and then she started crying saying she wasn't good enough and couldn't fulfill my fantasies.

This morning I went to her telling her I love her and wanted to talk. She said that she's considering giving me a "hall pass" for my freaky side which I really don't want. I know that communication is the key but after last night I feel like locking up m freaky side and never going there again... any suggestions are greatly appreciated.

My doctor won't prescribe me any T treatments because "I'm not quite low enough" but I'm literally within a couple points. I'd prefer to not have to get worse before I can get better. Are there any alternative legit sources?

last June I had some kidney issues so I had to go on metoporal and nifedipine for heart and bp. July I had major spine surgery ( 10hr surgery) my recovery has gone well and I am down to 1 pain pill a day. the problem is I don't think of sex at all anymore. my wife and I were always active up till this. I have tried everything. I am on testosterone I started taking d and b-12 injections cause they were low. I do also take buproprion for ptsd but have for over 20 years. the only other yest I had was for tsh wich showed low numbers so an over active thyroid? any men out there tackle this issue? are the meds gonna just wipe out my desire? are there other supplements or treatments that might help? I might also add I lost my mom this past September too. I know there is a lot on my plate, but I just want to make sure I am doing all I can to be the man I was. help please

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We are 51(M) and 53(F), married 24 years. Best friends. Love to spend time together and hate being apart. Empty nesters. Grown kids. Grandparents now.

After the change 2 years ago, we dropped from weekly sex, to every other week sex, to not maybe 1 time every 4-6 weeks.

She can’t to HRT because she has a sensitivity that causes her levels to go too high and also liver enzymes go to high on HRT.

She at one time was a “fountain” of wetness, and now can barely stay moist with direct oral stimulation and foreplay.

Since the change she has also pulled back on being open to “the fun extra stuff” like toys, erotica, porn, lingerie. Kinda gone vanilla.

She is still gorgeous and has an amazing body. Ona scale of 1-10, in my opinion she is a 15!! I am a very lucky hubby. and as smart as she is beautiful.

I feel like I have hit a brick wall. We have had a couple of talks but it doesn’t change anything and she eventually gets defensive so I shy away from trying to press her on communicating.

My fear is we are on the verge of sex just being gone forever.

People look at us and think we at wesley to mid 40’s. So we aren’t as old as our ages actually are.

We travel and have fun and we date every week going to romantic dinners, concerts, staycations at local hotels and weekend travel to see things and go places.

It just seems like sex has fallen way down the importance list for her.

Help! I don’t want to be sexless! I’m not ready for that!

53 years old and have ED off and on but morning wood usually is there but no matter the time of day or taking a pill to maintain erection when needed I’m unable to ejaculate. It feels great just like it always has but can never complete. Weight is fine and exercise daily also, just frustrating for me and the wife both. She has trouble because she thinks it’s her and absolutely isn’t. Is there anything that I can get to help with this? Anybody have similar problems or able to coach me? Thanks

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Cut to the chase: I’m a M55 and I can’t maintain my erection. I’m in a new relationship, about a month old, we stepped up to the intimacy level, and I’m frankly devastated to not been able to please her PIV. Of course she’s kind, beautiful, sweet, and we’re both really aroused by each other. She’s very turned on, I start out hard and erect, but it goes downhill from there. We are open and talk, which is important to us coming out of bad marriages.

I would love to hear any advice from anyone’s perspective who’s been in either side of the “male erectile issues” situation. I’ve never experienced thiss in previous relationships/encounters and am a bit devastated. Thanks in advance for any advice or comments.

I have been struggling for years with sleep, and things have gotten really bad over the last few months. Every week I have 1-2 nights where I get 3 hours or less (including 0), and I have had to take sick days twice this year because I couldn't think. Sexual function seemed unaffected, thankfully.

I reached out to my Dr and had a sleep study done. I have mild sleep apnea, and will probably try a CPAP, tho I don't really want to. I also talked to my therapist, who happens to be trained a Cognitive Behavioral Therapy approach to insomnia, and started on that program.

Anyway, for 2 weeks I have been improving my sleep hygiene and some lifestyle changes for apnea and am already seeing results. Things I've done include daily exercise (used to do 3 days/wk), not over eating, not eating 2 hours before bed, regular bedtime and ritual, using the bed for only sleep and sex (if you can't sleep, get out of bed), and cutting down on booze.

I have gotten more than 6 hours of sleep at night, and that is huge for me. My sexual function is through the roof. It wasn't bad before, and it's been incredible this week. I still took a moderate dose of Cialis, but I may not need it if I keep feeling like this. Last night after my first orgasm I just kept going - no recovery period or loss of erection - and had another. Then after the Mrs went to sleep, I had another on my own. Can't wait for our Friday play date.

Basic health stuff is important, I guess. Who knew. Also, since I mentioned therapy, you men out there, if you need help, ask for it. Our demographic (American men in our 50s) suffers from the diseases of despair like no other. White men especially, but all men in general. We eat bullets like candy. At the same time, we are also the last demographic to ask for help, sadly. So talk to your Dr, try therapy, join a men's group. It's your life, you deserve to live it fully.

Looking for advice - my bf 57m started on Trintellix (vortioxetine) about a year ago. Recently his dose was increased.

Since starting on this med, he noticed he sometimes couldn't finish but thought this was due to his age and a new relationship. Now since the increase in dose, he can almost never finish. Getting/keeping an erection is not a problem though.

Has anyone else experienced this and what helped (other than getting off this med)?

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Any tips on how to have my wife want more sex? I think I tried everything. Date nights, open dialogue, snuggle time, messages, weed. All with limited success. And now the constant rejection is starting to impact my mental health.

Any advice?