I know, the title is ridiculous but I honestly need help.

Very short backstory: I (M/34) was with my ex-wife since I was 20. She was the love of my life but our sex life became pretty bad when I was about 26 and slowly got worse and worse. She gaslight me to hide that problem and prevented us from trying to work on it together. It left a lost of mental scars and its taken me a while to get comfortable with my own sexuality again. Eventually I left the marriage and have periodically had a go at dating.

Here is where the problem comes in. I've been off-and-on seeing somebody for a few months. She is not the right life partner for me. My head knows that (at least one of the heads...) But in the year I've been dating around post-divorce we have the most romantic, mind-blowing sex of my life. It's like her brain and soul are hardwired into mine and vice versa.

Twice I have tried to break up with this woman. She will then show up at my door a few days afterwards and... well my friend likes to send me gifs from LoTR about how "I was there the day the strength of men failed".

It takes all my strength to do what I know is right and end a relationship without a serious future. I want to settle down with the right partner and start a family. I summon up the courage to tell myself that I have sufficiently made up for lost time. Sex is not the most important thing in a relationship. How do I stick to that thinking when she comes knocking on my door though....? Please. I need help.

I’m a 25M and my 28F fiancée walked out on me and my 3 kids the other day.

It’s been a downhill spiral for months. We were doing good financially and really starting live life a bit with our combined 5 kids - but I let my drinking and ultimately my actions after drinking get the best of me.

There were other issues - we were complete opposites in the communication department. I needed a plan and we needed to talk about things “right now”, whereas she…didn’t want to talk about anything, ever.

We both met after seriously shitty relationships with the parents of our respective children…(admittedly she was still in that relationship…)

I was young and dumb when I had kids and I can look back and say of the 4-5 years I was with the mother of my children - I don’t know I ever truly ‘loved’ her…not the way I loved my fiancée anyway.

She left about 10 days ago to bring the kids to their dads and…never came home. Her and her dad showed up a few days later and they packed her up and moved her out in an hour. She’s gone no contact since…

When she came to move she gave me a hug. She was bawling (which she never did when we were together.) She apologized, said “I tried. I loved you the best I could.”

When I tried to respond and talk she shook her head “I can’t. I have to go.” And walked out of my life…

I hope there’s a question in here somewhere. I just need some advice. I’m back to being a single father and focusing on my kids. I just can’t help but feeling I might’ve ruined the best thing I’ll ever have and she hasn’t reached out or responded since she left…

Hey everyone,

I got an email from Adam and Eve offering a 50% discount on sex toys with the code ASKME. I’m familiar with the store, but I've never actually bought from them before.

For those of you who have shopped there, how was your experience? Are there any other online stores you trust and recommend for quality sex toys?

I'd really appreciate any insights or recommendations you can share!

Thanks so much!

I’m a woman in my late 20s. I’m interested in hearing your perspective on what qualities do you- as a man, see as important in a man and whether you have become the man you wanted to be (could be in the scope of romantic relationships, but could also be more general). Thank you.

They are like those places like Memorial Hospital in Turkey that have you do a full comprehensive panel of tests for health screenings. This one in the city doesn’t accept insurance. I’m looking for one that does or a place to get all this testing done.

I am fortunate to have quite a few friends and support systems, whether it’s deep close friendships, family or therapy I can turn to. I live with a friend who is social. While my consistency is lacking, I’m trying to live a more active lifestyle with hobbies and expressing myself.

But there are some days where these things don’t change the feeling of loneliness, they only prolongs it or temporarily distracts.

It’s a struggle. It’s a dark cloud that hangs over me, with brain fog and it skews everything into being the worst thing ever. It’s a feeling of despair, hopelessness, isolation and feeling lonely. Sometimes existential loneliness, other times romantic (I’m single).

Despite knowing some tools and trying to shift my thoughts, it’s often just there to stay for some time. Is there anything you personally do that helps your struggle weeks?

Any advice would be helpful. I’m in my mid thirties looking to give it a go.

How did it change your body?

Hi. 34 now and single. Not optimistic on prospects either. Kind of planning to just focus on making as much money as possible over the next ten years and hopefully have enough to travel, own a boat and not have money be an issue. And if I can make enough money, then I’m ok with entertaining a sugar baby type of relationship. Wondering if this is something that’s dumb or if I’ll just feel hollow or to each his own and this is the path I have chosen for myself ?

I'm 30. I've been seeing a girl for maybe a month now. She's 20. Also, it's the first time I'm letting myself be 'in love', that is, in all my previous relationships I've always been indifferent so whenever we broke up, maybe i felt just a little bad.

I'm also not letting myself all-in in this relationship, so that when things go south, i leave unscathed. Now, things look like they are already going south. First, she fell too quickly in love with me after our first meeting, then started off with her insecurities. She says I'm too handsome for her and I might get snatched, which is kinda weird to me, because I'll have to be the one to let that happen. She's also insecure about her ass and 'jumps' when i try to touch it, she also doesn't want to kiss, and is not a decent kisser. She has a little acne, but she is beautiful, although she says she is not because of the acne. I had a friend in my early 20s who had acne so I'm dead sure that's a phase... She doubts that.

On the other hand, I do adore that she isn't materialistic... She was giving herself away to me when we made love for the first time and didn't care if I was going to impregnate her. I still reserved my caution and wrapped up. I'm now thinking i made a good decision. I also adore that she loves me more than I love her.

Now we came to a slight difference and she is now a bit stiff, some things she is saying are not adding up, especially when it seems like she's going to contradict herself, the tale starts lengthening. Too, is curling her mouth in a disgusting way when I ask something (after our difference) and catch her shifting her mouth once she sees me looking at her. Looks like she has a lot of personality issues hidden that should let reveal with time. Yet she had mentioned that she wants marriage off handedly earlier on.

I'm seeing people say "bitch wife", which is the last thing I'd want. Does that ring a bell from above? She wants to joke with me, ie i called sometime and she didn't pick since she was busy at work. When she called she joked that she was busy cheating... I playfully said that she was very stupid.

But when I joke with her she tries to take offence ie i joked that her acne felt like thorns on my skin... She didn't take it well even after me doubling down on the joke.

I know 20 y o are younger and growing, but this is the age some get married at around me, so no biggie. I can accommodate that. But I think that i might be making a mistake with her. I also don't think marriage to my agemates is wise with the lagguage most carry.

What do you guys Have to say about this?

So i matched with this woman(same age as me) over Facebook dating months ago. We started talking and I thought everything was fine until it came down to planning a date. I suggested a pretty nice upscale restaurant because at the time, I wanted to treat myself. But she insisted on instead going to the most expensive restaurant in the valley(I live in the Phoenix metro) and wouldn't accept anything else. So obviously I cancel and upon further looking at her profile, it's all about money, getting her flights, hotels, fine dining, etc. So i unmatch and block. But then now I somehow match with her again on bumble and the first message she asks is what she's getting for Christmas. Insane

This is really vague and I’m not sure I’ll get an answer here, but my (29F) boyfriend (30M) is always cracking jokes and rarely serious. We have been together for almost 10 years and we still haven’t seriously talked about marriage, kids, where we are going to live, etc. The extent of my knowledge is that he would like to get married and have kids.

Is it abnormal for me to want to talk about these things in depth (like when we are getting married, how we will raise our kids, what kind of rings I like, etc.), or should I quit pressuring him? Example: when I bring up marriage he will either say “I’m waiting for you to propose” (he’s not) or “I figure after you graduate”…but that’s all.

I guess my question is, how much pressure is too much pressure? And is there a better way to communicate to him when I would like to talk about serious things?

Man fuck it.

If you see this post, let it be a checkpoint for your mental health. Take a break from whatever you’re reading or scrolling through. Stop looking through comments for arguments. Stop engaging in these arguments online. I want you to take care of yourself first. The world wants you to take care of yourself first. It doesn’t matter who you are. This shit is so bad for the soul. Please take care of yourself, I love you and enjoy your day/night.

I (28f) and my boyfriend (33m) are in a long distance relationship. We have been long distance for 2.5 years. I moved to the same state as him last year, but we are still a 4-5 hour drive away. We have been serious for a year. We are both ambitious people. He owns multiple small businesses and im in law school. He's come to visit me three times over the past year, whereas, I have been to his city countless times, but sometimes for school stuff and then i would stay with him

He is so kind and caring, but he works a lot. I am also busy, but i feel like i actually make time for him and it was september the last time he did the same for me. I love how ambitious he is, because I am too. the difference is that at some point, when i am ready to start a family, i see myself slowing down. i don't see the same for him

lately i have been telling him that i am lacking quality time, and we rarely get to hang out and make memories together. i am also busy, but i make time for him, and i told him that i do not feel like a priority to him.

it is now finals season and i was really missing him, so i asked if we could see each other. i asked if he could make it out, he said that month end is always busy for him, so i then offered to come see him for 24 hours. I went, and we were having sex, and he was still answering his work phone. It felt humiliating to be honest. i already feel like we dont have enough time together, and this man cant spare 45 mins to have sex.

i mentioned to him after, id prefer for him not to do that, he didnt apologize, but agreed. I travelled all the way back home, and had the journey home to think about it, and im extremely hurt- to the point im thinking about breaking up with him. when he was doing this, I felt my life flashing before my eyes, where im never going to be a priority to this man.

i cant even put into words how much I love this man, but i love and respect myself more. i dream of him being the father of my children. when he is present, he is so loving, and everything I want, but im afraid this is what my life with him will be. i asked him if it will always be like this, he said no, it has been a tough year for him work wise, but knowing his personality, im not sure.

TLDR: I LOVE MY BF BUT HE WORKS A LOT. should i break up with him?

What are some of the nicknames your wife or girlfriend has given you?

Do you enjoy having a nickname with your partner?

As the title suggests, men tell us the first compliment you have received that you still remember to this day.

I spent a lot of time with her and her family to the point where I felt like I was family and now I'm alone again. This is first time it happened. Need advice on what to do so I can recover. Haven't slept for more than two hours the past few nights. In short we relied on each other. I was seeking emotional support and I was denied that. She sought help with a lot of things that we did an equal exchange of favors for each other. One thing she needed help with I was unable and unwilling to do with such short notice so she felt denied. We fought over who did more and who hurt who.

Do you think someone can love more than one person? Let's say for example Jessica and Fred are in a serious committed romantic relationship. Fred tells Jessica that he still loves his ex eventhough he has NOT reached out or had any communication with her. In your opinion is this acceptable? Me personally I think it is possible to care about more than one person but loving romantically not so much?

I’m 31, she is 28. I’ve worked there four years. I absolutely love my job and do not want to leave, really enjoy my bosses and coworkers after years of working at not so great places.

This girl at work was always friendly to me for years, and I would catch her looking at me every now and then. She is very attractive and fit and I’m ashamed to admit I looked back, I knew she was married, and has a 2 year old child with her husband. They hit a rough patch. She demanded a divorce from him. She kicked him out of her house. I only know all this because as it started to happen she became closer friends with me at work and started to tell me her marriage problems. She started to tell all the people at work she was going through a divorce, it was public knowledge. She stopped wearing her rings for months and even had HR at work change her last name back to her maiden name on emails and teams and what not.

She invited me to hang out after work one night and… well… you can guess what we did. I asked her about her personal life and marriage and how the divorce is going. She told me how her and the husband are high school sweethearts but she’s caught him trying to cheat many times over the years and he’s a bad drunk when he drinks. He’s also been a little violent and broken things before or hit walls during arguments. They are a toxic couple. She’s taken him back a bunch of times but this time was different she said because of their child. I felt bad for her and was like dang she needs a decent guy in her life. I started to think hey maybe I could be a step dad. Once her divorce is finalized maybe we could date for real and blah blah.

We kind of started a little thing. We hooked up outside of work for 3 months. I learned over those 3 months she wasn’t the healthiest partner either to her husband after she revealed some secrets to me and I started to question the shit out of her. Why isn’t she starting the divorce. Why all this secrecy. What are we doing here? I was starting to develop feelings and she even said she thinks she loves me one night and things start to get real emotional. I started to realize I was getting big emotions too and wasn’t cool with some of the secrets she revealed to me. We started to argue a lot, and bam, she called it quits one random day.

We stopped. But then…. She took him back. Blew my mind. Let him move back in and everything. I sort of freaked out on her and said hey I didn’t sign up to be a secret in an ongoing marriage I thought you were getting divorced. She told me don’t worry about it he was probably out hooking up with people too and she told me she’s gonna give him one more chance.

It actually kind of broke my heart. It’s been 6 months and only one or two people at work know what we did. Her husband comes to work events and everything and he has no idea what we did while they were “separated”.

I’m hurt, and confused, and uh… just don’t really know what to do or how to feel about myself. I love my job and I can come to work and operate just fine, I just try to avoid her, but gosh man seeing her husband is painful and I feel like a terrible man who slept with another man’s wife and I should’ve known better. If I was interested I should have made sure she was divorced first. Now I’m just a wife fucker. A coworker called me a home wrecker as a joke and he laughed it off but he’s not wrong. I don’t know. Thanks for reading. I’ve gained weight since this happened, had some sad drunk nights, and even broke my one year of no smoking. She didn’t skip a beat, went right back to being married like nothing ever happened. We’ve never spoken about it since. I have a hard time even looking at her, but thankfully we work separately so work is fine 99% of the time.

Thanks for reading.

Edit: thanks everyone for the responses, I’m trying to keep up but I’m getting way more replies than I expected thanks for all the input and I am reading every one of them.

30f. I was lonely for a while in the relationship. 12 years gone. 3 months later and I'm talking to a sweet guy that's 10 years older. We are going slow.

My ex broke up with me by changing the locks after a fight about friends coming over when I was house cleaning and the house a mess. He blamed me for everything saying its been like "death by paper cuts" because im mean and because of my health issues. Hindsight, he was mean to me. He didn't want to do couples therapy because he "didn't want to get convinced to stay with me". We rarely fought. Our last fight was about 6 mo prior. This year he said he wanted to propose. A month before breakup we agreed to trying for kids the next year. A day before the fight we installed a new stove and dryer.

So, im buying a house now (i love it) and I met someone sweet. I'm still grieving and he understands.

Am I wrong for doing this? He's replacing furniture in his house and happy to be single.

Hi,

I recently went through a breakup. I'm 27. I thought she was the one man. I did so much for her and I tried my best and wed promised we'd be in it. Forever but the. She..left?

And I'm just clueless now. I feel like I'll never find myself or someone as good as her and I've just been in bed for weeks now.

Anything you guys have to add to this? How do I stop with the 'what ifs' as in what I'd I'd done better or things differently.

I feel like, I know it in my bones she'll be fine but I won't be and I just don't know how to stop feeling so shit

I am 18 rn. I dont enjoy that much , but i imagine all sorts of risky things. Going out for iceskating. Secretly making out with my gf and what not. But i suppress my feelings thinking this much risk is not good and also i get a thought i will regret it later. So do you all regret not doing things which u wanted ? Also what are your regrets thats you would advice your 18 year old self

I had a short but intense relationship of distance for 6 months. It was the cleanest I had. It’s over now because “the feeling wasn’t strong enough in the end to overcome the obstacles”.

I am not the most mature or secure, so I really struggle with accepting or framing somehow in a non self harming way that I became the chore for somebody who used to really like me and whom I really like.

What can I do to not destroy myself over this? Why do people lose feelings? Is it just the way of life?

However I spin it, it ends up with me being worthless in my mind and obviously causing her to lose attraction somehow.

I’m seeing therapist after a badly broken heart and we got to talking about a recent date I had. I said I paid half on our first date. She asked why.

I said I always split. Once in an established relationship I take turns paying rather than formally splitting.

She still didn’t understand why. I said because it feels equal. Because I don’t want to feel like I owe anyone anything.

Her response was that even if I was dressed like a slut, I should get dinner paid for and not have to feel like I owe anything.

For me, it’s really about feeling equal, but I also don’t like feeling indebted to anyone. Friends of bfs.

Am I crazy? Or is she?

She also talks like the woman should be the queen in the relationship, but I don’t agree. Why not equal?

Should I stop seeing her? I think her advice is warped.

If you’d like, feel free to share your thoughts and stories.

My hobbies (and trust me I've searched) are meh. Was thinking of celebrating an accomplishment with travel but just thought to myself it'll be a huge hassle and I don't even enjoy museums as they are.

I'm 39 if that matters. Only thing that I seem to enjoy is seeing friends but I don't have many.

Through all my years working, I've never been able to make connections with my coworkers and looking around me I realize how this seems rather unusual...

I say this because my circle of friends is really small and most of my friends actually kept in touch with their ex or actual coworkers which is not my case.

I am always excluded from group activities like going out for drinks, play sports, chat, send memes to each other, etc.

I think there's always been something broken with me when it comes to the workplace and I've never been able to identify what it is. It's like I've never worked in the right place.

Was just looking into the statistics and according to the available data 20% of married men cheat and 15% of married women cheat. Now there may be some overlap there but this means there is cheating in 20% to 35% of marriages. And those are just the ones who would admit it in anonymous studies.

I'm curious to see what are the percentages of people who have suspected or confirmed cheating or who have cheated and how they compare to the percentages of people who actually are cheating or have cheated.

My girlfriend and I have been dating for almost nine months, and we’re starting to have discussions about our future together (36M/32W).

The distance between my hometown, Town A, and her hometown, Town B, is a six-hour drive. We met at a party in Town A, which was fortunate as there are very slim pickings there. Over the last nine months, I’ve been able to spend a lot of time in City C, where she lives, thanks to staying at a relative’s place while they were away. This time together has really solidified our relationship.

Living in City C permanently isn’t an option for me. I’m ready to settle down and start a family, ideally in Town A. It’s where I grew up, close to my parents, sibling, and extended family. I also own a fully paid-off house there and run a business that I took over from my father. While I’m not deeply attached to the business, it’s a bit of a golden handcuff—I currently earn about five times my partner’s income, and switching to a typical job elsewhere would likely reduce my earnings to about a third of what I make now.

For her, Town B holds a lot of significance—her parents live there and are about a decade older than mine, meaning they might need more support soon. Career-wise, she’s in a transitional phase and doesn’t have any deeply rooted commitments yet.

She’s not enthused on moving to Town A and being stuck there long term and would prefer living, if not in her hometown, in a city about three hours away from both Town A and Town B. The challenge is, that would mean neither of us would have family nearby.

I’m torn. On one hand, I know that forming our own family is important, and my parents built their life without a local support network. On the other hand, I feel like I’ve already set up a strong foundation in Town A, with what I see as what we’d need for a good start in life.

I’m struggling to figure out if staying in Town A is a non-negotiable for me or if there’s room for compromise. Has anyone faced a similar situation? How did you handle it?

Thanks.

Hey friends! So my boyfriend, who is 35, and absolutely usually up and ready to go all the time without question, and has been this way our entire 10 years together…. Suddenly isn’t anymore? As of 2 weeks ago, suddenly in the middle of us getting busy, he just goes soft. He doesn’t know why. I don’t know why. There hasn’t been any changes in our life or bad news or literally anything. It’s so weird and it’s making him understandably upset. What y’all think? I’ve told him to go to a doctor just in case it’s medically related but is this just a random thing that can happen?