I unfortunately live in the midwest and I truly hate it here with a passion, which is an understatement. I don't fit at all into the ideals, the political sides, the mentalities, how much most people value family tradition and breeding non stop unwanted kids, along with many other factors that I'm severely against. I'm venting about it here in hopes that there are men here who also hate where they live and want to/plan to move away as far as they can. I used to be able to tolerate living here when I compared it to living in arizona out in a small, isolated retirement community in the middle of the pandemic but that doesn't really work anywhere because a shit hole is still a shit hole. I know there's no such thing as a perfect location where everything fits into place, but I've known since day one that I don't belong in the midwest and that living here too long will slowly kill me. The thing is, I do have a plan to move away from here and I already know what state I want to move to. I'm wanting to become a veterinary assistant/technician since I love animals with a passion. I've already done my research on what the salary is and what I'd expect in working as a vet assistant. Here's the part where I'll probably get hit with criticism, but I don't mind that if its thrown at me cause I honestly can take it. I'm wanting to move out to Oregon because of the breath taking scenery, seeing less conservative religious nut heads, having open options in terms of indulging in nature(I love nature walks and being surrounded by lively green landscapes with mountains/rivers/oceans). I know such a big move could take alot of money and careful planning, but I'm definitely willing to do what it takes to get a better life cause I really do want to live the best life I can live while I'm still relatively young. We all need the right environment to live in in order to thrive and succeed and be happy. But this is what I want. Right now its just a cloud in the sky but one day I'll make it happen. I can only take so much intense suffocating. That's all I have to say. Any thoughts/advice is most welcome as long as its respectful.

[30 F] Seeking genuine friendships with men 28+ (Here I go again.. Long, serious post..

Before I type out why I'm on here, I want to first mention that I've been on reddit previously under an old account I deleted. I wanted to take a real long break from the vast worlds of reddit to focus on myself and my real life life outside of the internet.

Now, on to my post..

I know I'm not alone in wanting to establish more genuine friendships during the whole mess of the pandemic. In all honesty, I did quite well in handling the lack of a social life once I moved back to the midwest (unfortunately). But now, after taking a long breath, I want to put myself out there again and try to meet people. But not just any type of people. This is where I face harsh struggles in finding connections. I'm an INTJ, to those who are familiar with MBTI and I think its best to throw that out there to explain why I don't connect with other people easily. I always prefer male friendships over female ones due to a substantial amount of stressful, dramatic experiences from my childhood all the way to adulthood. Female friendships just don't work for me.

The next part is going to get more complicated, I apologize in advance. I simply need meaningful, authentic connections with men who are similar to me emotionally, mentally, and spiritual. I know that's alot to ask for, and I know there are tons and tons people out there waiting to be found by their right people as well. Thing is, I'm brutally honest with myself and my own needs, just as I'm being writing all of this out. I have very strong opinions on controversial topics such as religion, politics, drug use and over all how society is shaped as a whole in the states. I'm highly anti drug and anti religion, if you're the opposite then I won't condemn you and, as much as I don't want to, I'll accept that that's your life and you have the right to live it the way you choose. Also, I really don't fit in with the younger crowds here due to them mostly having interests that I'm not all into such as gaming and anime. Again, if you like that stuff, that's ok. But I can't form a friendship if there's not enough in common. Its as simple as that.

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I love discussing deep subjects such as philosophy, life experiences, religion, nature, astrology, psychology, funny, awkward stories, travel, art, just exchanging all of this profound information that can lead to discovery and possibly a connection. But that's usually very hard to find for me. Yet I keep trying and keeping that determination alive, despite how crippling it can be underneath.

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If you read every single word I typed, I appreciate that. I don't expect any one to read my whole post til the end. That's your choice and if I'm not what you're looking for, best of luck to any one who is looking for the same connections.

PS: If you're interested in messaging me, I'd appreciate it if you could send me a picture of yourself. It really puts my mind at ease to be able to put a face to a username. I'm not too comfortable with anonymity, thank you in advance.

~Kara

The time has come, from today I'll be one of the trentagenarians! Life is good :)

I'm looking for other working professionals looking to retire 10 years-ish from now that want to move away from the city... here's my idea: https://www.retireblue.com

Hi, I am a research student and this survey is used to gather data for my first research paper, concerning the perception of psychedelic and antidepressant drugs across generations X, Y and Z and its influence on the future of psychotherapy. I would greatly appreciate it if you took it because I am currently lacking Gen Y (born in 1977-1994) participants, and a balanced sample size is necessary for my analysis. Your responses will be completely anonymous, and will be used only for research purposes.

Here is the link if you are interested

Thank you if you do decide to participate.

32 year old college drop out. I have a good job, but it is not a career of any substance. Should I head back to school at 32? This would be a huge life change for me, and as with all change it is difficult (actually just scary).

If you have done something similar what was your experience? And we're the results worth the effort?

Thanks In Advance.

Technically, I'm still a couple months away from being 30, but in my head I've accepted another decade role over already. Turning 30 doesn't bother me or make me feel old, but there are lots of things that do make me feel old.

I've been to university, had a career in my field, lived in another country for a few years, and now I'm back in my home and native land. Right now I don't have a job in my field (chemistry) from uni, I'm just working a couple part time jobs, one of them at a cinema. There's at least 40-50 employees, only 5 of which are older than me, I think. Most everyone, including some of the management, are several years younger than me.

This doesn't bother me at all, I'm not one of those 'you can't tell me what to do because I'm X years older than you' types. I respect people based on their maturity level. I work with a lot of 17-20 year olds and none of them believe me, at least at first, when I tell them I'm almost 30. Many straight up laugh in my face and think it's hilarious because I seem to act more 22-23 in their eyes.

What does that even mean? What do you guys think 'acting 30' means? I've posted in this reddit before about being just on the cusp of Gen X, I think the term was 'Cold Gen-Y' because I feel more in tune with then Gen X generation.

I think a lot of the confusion might come from the fact that I don't own a home and only recently acquired a car. That is due to having lived overseas for 3 years. It's been a year since I moved back to Canada, and due to a tough job market and living in a city where there aren't a lot of jobs in chemistry (moved here to be close to family), I've got the part time at the cinema and a part time bartending job. I get along well with the younger crowd and I've made a few decent friends.

What makes me feel old? My little brother is graduating high school this year and that means it's been 12 years since I graduated. When I realize that some of the people from work that I get along with are my brother's age, I feel strange at being friends with them. I look at their immediate goals and what occupies them and I feel like an alien. They’re of the Pokemon generation and I’m from the Super NES gen. I’m planning on going back to uni and getting a Master’s, paying off student loans, buying a house eventually, and I want to have a long term, stable relationship. They all say I don’t act my age and I don’t even know what they mean when they say that because, to me, I do act my age. They just underestimate me, I think.

Sigh.

I'm coming up on the big 3-0 soon, and as an amateur cinephile, I'd love to know which films my age bracket appreciates most. They don't have to be from the decades when you were around (I love older stuff myself), there's no arbitrary number you need to provide, and they don't even necessarily have to be something you loved, so much as something that had a profound impact on you.

I'm not as versed in music, but if there are any particular songs, artists, or albums you feel particularly strongly about, please feel free to include them.

She heard about the Tupac hologram and was asking me who it was. I think I have failed her as a parent.

It seems like those of us in our dirty thirties straddle the line between being Gen X or Gen Y, depending on when we were born.

Which do YOU identify with?

I'm on the right place, now what? :S