/r/R4R30Plus
Come in & meet people over 30!
Whether you're looking for friends, a partner, buddies, pals or friends with benefits, this is the place. This is a space for Redditors 30 or older to make connections, and maybe meet in real life. This is a safe for work subreddit, so NO NSFW material. You don't have to be 30+ to engage with the community, but you MUST be 30 or older to post. Please check the tagging guide and rules for further information. Be excellent to each other.
r4r30plus - Redditors for Redditors over 30
Whether you're looking for friends, a partner, drinking buddies, or friends with benefits, this is the place on Reddit to find people over age 30 to meet in real life. You don't have to be 30 to be a member, but if you want to post you need to be 30+.
Submission Guidelines When creating a submission please include a TAG in your title AT THE BEGINNING. Examples: 36 [F4M], [M4F], [F4F], [M4M], [T4F], [T4M], [M4R], [F4R], [T4R], [TF4M], [TF4F], [TM4F], [NB4R].
Example Title: 36 [F4M] Kansas. Just feel like talking.
Tagging Legend:
M - Male
F - Female
T - Transgender
NB - Non Binary
R - Redditor/Anyone
While everyone is welcome, the sub is officially SFW and you need to be 30+ to post, it is not a kink sub and we do not want to be associated with infidelity of any kind so the following submissions are prohibited:
POSTERS VIOLATING THE PROHIBITED POST GUIDELINES WILL BE BANNED.
Other r4r subreddits of interest
/r/r4r - Activity Partners, Groups, Dating, Hanging Out, Soulmates, FWBs.
/r/floridar4r - Florida Redditor 4 Redditor!
/r/cf4cf - Child free redditors looking for child free company!
/r/R4OlderWomen - Younger guys (and gals) looking for older women.
/r/Christianr4r - A place for the faithful to find like minded friends and romantic partners.
/r/l4l - Lesbians for Lesbians
Other subreddits of general interest
/r/AskMenOver30/ Asking men for a "Mature" perspective
/r/AmISexy_Over30 - Post a picture and get honest feedback
/r/Trentagenarians - A place for 30 somethings.
/r/40something/ - Redditors in their 40s, 50s and above.
/r/r4r40Plus A place to meet those over 40
/r/R4R30Plus
Work is dragging and I'm done adulting for today. So I'd thought I'd turn to Reddit to help make day go faster.
I'm sure we can figure something to talk about. Let go in with no expectations. I won't lay out all of these requirements we need to talk or anything that's a deal breaker.
Let's just chat and see where it goes. If you have a good sense of humor we will get along great.
Hope to hear from you
Hi there! Happy almost-Friday! Maybe chit chatting with me can make the weekend get here a little bit faster. What would you like for Christmas? Have you been naughty or nice? Do you believe in bigfoot? All important questions to be answered.
I should be around most of the day to take your chats. Yes, I'm working, but you're worth the risk of being fired. Grab a cuppa joe and join me.
Have a wonderful day!
Looking for my forever person ❤️ Preferably 18-40 Job status isn’t important
Doesn’t matter to me if you are emotionally available Tattoos and piercings and colored hair are a major plus
Preferably in the Midwest I’m very okay if you have mostly male friends and are very close with them It’s important to have friends 👍
You don’t have to share my interests but maybe we could play a video game here and there sometime
I do have a kid but it doesn’t have to be your problem so you don’t have to worry about that ❤️
I hope to hear from you soon 🥰
I am a 36 year old male from Oregon who wants to start a conversation.
If you are not from my area that is OK.
I would like to have a romantic connection eventually, but I would rather talk to you & just become friends rather than not talk at all.
Talking about music is a great starting point. I'm very open & would love to try new genres.
I would love a conversation where there are no expectations, but we get to introduce ourselves to each other
Please message me if you are interested, I would love to hear from you!
Hey what's up? So I work from home most days and It can be pretty lonely. I'm looking for new buds to check in and chat on a daily. A little about me:
So yeah, if you feel like we have something in common, send me a message :)
Cheers
I've moved around a ton, my friends have moved around a ton. Looking to add some new people in my life for the new year!
I'd like friends to occasionally grab a coffee with, grab a meal with, go exploring a new city with, spending time outdoors, expressing myself creatively with, working out together, concerts, etc
I can be pretty reserved initially as it takes me a little while to warm up to others. I lean introverted and do better in one on one interactions / smaller groups.
Central Florida preferred! (Looking for people to actually meet up with)
I do have a kiddo (10yr), and happy to set up playdates as well :)
Hey names Nathan 33 from Australia. Thursday night just chilling been a rough few days Looking to chat and make friends. Chill guy easy to get along with. Genuine honest non judgemental and open minded down to chat about wateva really from the simple how was ur day to venting and deep talks and a place U can feel comfortable and trust U can vent without judgement. I'm a very curious person so love getting to know ppl and there interests etc. so I am also fine with answering questions. So if ur interested in a genuine friendship send a msg
Hey there, as my previous pen pals were either banned or simply took off I was on the look out for new friends from around the world. I'd say I'm pretty carefree so i don't really mind where the conversation is heading but would prefer more "private" topics only after we got to know each other a bit more. Ideally I'd be looking for long term friends but short term is fine as well. And before you try, single sentence messages or unsolicited pics are not a great starter and will be ignored. So if you managed to get through my rambling, feel free to reach out to me, I promise I don't bite:)
And as many people apparently absolutely need to know what I look like to form a coherrent sentence, you can get a good picture from my profile
But I'm sure hoping not.
I recently got dumped. It sucks. He was/is an ass. Whatever.
I also recently got a cat. She's amazing and I'm happy to share pictures of her.
Here's the thing - I've been kind of down because of this guy. Stupid, right? Well, I'm also on a new later shift and it keeps me up late when no one else is.
Surprise me pleasantly, please. I like frog memes.
No expectations. Bonus if you have a lovely accent.
Bonus bonus if we fall in love forever. No pressure.
Ask me about my crochet.
Hey there. I live and work in Europe and I am looking for some pakistani origin friends who also live in europe or atleast close to my timezone.
I am looking for pakistani origin people because I am pakistani origin myself and sometimes I want to speak to someone in my own native language. Sometimes I miss speaking to someone in my own lanugage. Someone who will understand our shared background. Someone to ask and give advice.
I am looking for someone in europe and because I live in europe too and prefer someone who lives in the same timezone. Otherwise you are at work when I am free and maybe its close to my sleeping time when you are free.
I like exercising and walking. I like watching movies. I like traveling too.
If you read my post and liked it feel free to dm me :). If you read my post completely I would like it if you mentioned your favorite city or place that you have been to ?
Serious Inquiries only please!!
Hey there! I’m Kazoo! I’ve been working extremely hard on my future, so meeting people has been extremely hard too, but I’m hoping I can find someone here! Currently working 2 jobs and attending college. I'll be getting my Part 107 Commercial License soon and be able to take to the skies both figurative and literally!
About Me:
-I’m a hopeless romantic and love to plan surprises big and small! Although I like all of them, My 2 biggest love languages I respond to the best are Quality Time and Acts of Service, with gift-giving/receiving being a close third. Since this will more than likely be long distance for the time being, anything we can do online together like gaming or watching shows/movies would be something I'm more than up for! I feel like romance has always been a huge part of who I am and it's partially why despite being in a position where I'm building myself up, I'm also looking for my one and only...
-I’m looking for someone who can hold a conversation. What are your hobbies and interests? What are you passionate about? Tell me all about what you do and what inspires you! I want you to do the same, ask me questions about what I do, take a genuine interest in me and my ambitions, and I’ll absolutely do the same for you! I’m looking for the effort that I only see once in a blue moon.
-I've always seen myself as a future family man and dad! Currently for my work I'm in education as a school aide for K-8, so I spend a lot of time working with kids and am excited to have my own someday! My other job right now is just a side job at a convenience store, and it's always funny when the kids I work with find me at my other job and get all excited seeing a teacher outside of school. Always brightens my day!
-I’m into gaming (Both on and offline). For Online I like MMOs like FFXIV, RPGs like Baldur's Gate 3 and Elden Ring/Souls Games, and Card-Based games like Balatro and Slay the Spire, and I'm always down for Jackbox! Offline I like card games and board games! I really like Betrayal for my favorite board game, with Coup and CaH being some of my favorite card games! I've always really liked the idea of a family game night and ordering a pizza every once in a while!
-Health, wellness, and self improvement are also big for me! I've lost about 40 pounds so far since I started my second round of weight loss, and I plan to get to a weight that I'm happy with! i plan to keep up staying fit and healthy and would love to have a partner that has those same goals too! I enjoy cooking and eating healthy, would love to cook for and/or with my partner! Not to mention the idea of going grocery shopping and being together out and about is something I'm always excited to do!
-Right now I'm in NJ, but after college I plan to move out of state, preferably down south (more than likely Florida), I'm not tied to any location after NJ, but all I know is that I don't want to live in New Jersey, New York, or California. I also can't stress enough that I am not a city person. I'll visit a city for a show or convention, but I absolutely do not want to live in a city. I have a nicer car and love driving it when I can, and I'm also wanting a partner who can drive too.
If all that sounds good and you’re interested in being my partner, I’m looking for woman who:
-Lives in the USA, preferably East Coast
-Doesn’t smoke Cigarettes or Vapes
-Doesn’t have face piercings
-Wants to have kids one day
-Is strictly Monogamous
-Wants Dogs and/or Cats
-Wants to voice call and spend time together while long distance
-Doesn’t want to live in a city and can drive
I tend to type long responses and put the effort into my messages, and I'd like to see that in return, so please say more than just "hi or hello". In fact, tell me your favorite movie when you message me so I know you read this far! Mine is 1980's Airplane! I'm also up to share photos if things go well! I hope to hear from you!
I’m a demisexual, passionate about traveling the world, experiencing new cultures, and savoring delicious foods wherever life takes me. As a chef and foodie, I find joy in exploring culinary adventures, whether at local coffee shops, cozy restaurants, or bustling markets. After enduring a tough nine-year marriage that left emotional scars, I’m on a journey of self-love, healing, and rediscovering happiness. I’m also focused on losing weight and reclaiming my confidence.
While I’m not looking for anything too serious right now, I value deep emotional connections and meaningful companionship to eventually become serious. Sex is important to me, as I believe it deepens intimacy and emotional bonding. I want someone to share unforgettable adventures, intimate moments, and genuine laughter. Life is too short not to explore, love, and savor every bite along the way.
I’m looking for a man who’s taller than 5’8” since I’m 5’8” myself. While I have love for short kings, my past experience with a shorter ex left me wanting something different. He needs to love kids because I’m a mom, though I’m perfectly happy not having more children. What matters most to me is genuine companionship—someone who values family and is ready to be part of my world.
I want someone emotionally mature, patient, and adventurous—a partner who’s excited about traveling, trying new foods, and creating unforgettable memories together. Sex is important to me because I believe it strengthens emotional intimacy and deepens our connection. I need someone who respects my past, supports my healing, and is ready to build something meaningful, filled with love, passion, and shared experiences.
What’s up everyone. As the title says. Kind of bored at home and just wanted to see if anyone wants to chat.
A bit about myself. I grew up most of my life in the Orange County, California, but moved out to Houston, Texas in 2015. Moved back to Orange County at the beginning of 2022. A lot has changed with my hometown and I’m still exploring new things. I enjoy playing video games on my computer, watching Netflix (currently watching the second season of Outlast), listening to music (send me song recommendations!), going to raves, playing with my cat, or taking night drives.
Hit me up if you’re down to just chat. I will even lend an ear if you just want to vent about something. I’m even down to game if you’re a gamer. Just hit me with your discord handle.
As the title suggests, I’m just going to jump right in because I seriously considered starting this off with, “hi, party people!”, despite having never at any point addressed anyone that way in my entire life. Small talk and introductions are the fucking worst. I absolutely love getting to know people but I never know what to say initially. I think if I did address anyone with, “hi, party people!”, it would probably be a group; I think I’d be really quiet and casual about it so it wouldn’t be too upbeat. How would you do it?
I like learning the little things about people. I file them away and use the info to find the absolute best gifts for birthdays, holidays or just becauses. I think people can create waves of positive impact and I like to start with little acts of love and kindness. I’m a boss girly by day and sleepy girl all the time. In my free time, I make jewelry and kind of weird art that I probably won’t show you.
I’m looking for rad people, who don’t mind a little whimsy. Maybe you’re having trouble sleeping too. :) What is a compliment you’d give yourself?
Friendly chats, please. All good connections take time to build.
So here it goes. I’m kinda country, kinda nerdy, kinda tall and kinda witty :). Just looking to see what’s out there. Love a country girl but options are open :). Corporate guy by day, foodie by night. I’m tall, stocky, love the smaller things and not really sure why I’m posting but it can’t be half as bad as the other apps and sites :). Message me if interested.
Looking for fellow night owls who cant sleep and are looking for some casual conversations and/or friendships.
I love to read, watch movies and shows, and play board games, and discuss literature, philosophy, science, etc. I have been on my fitness and meditation journey and love to talk about what worked for us! Open to chat about whatever you like. Please introduce yourself in the first message rather than just saying hi.
I am a 32-year-old man from the eastern side of Saudi Arabia, l attended university at Oregon, USA. Back working in Saudi now. I consider myself fun-loving and caring person who loves to chat and connect with others. I am Very sarcastic and goofy, I don't like to take my self too seriously. I am looking to connect with open-minded individuals from around the world. I thoroughly enjoy meeting new people and am eager to engage in casual conversations, simply lend an ear to whatever thoughts you want to share or having new friends. I am open to whom ever. It you're interested in having a laid-back conversation, shoot me a DM. Everybody is welcomed here.
Hey there! I’m an Armenian guy who loves great food, music, and good company. I’m into grilling, exploring my Armenian roots, and diving into Japanese culture. My free time often includes video games, board games, and classic TV shows. Favorites include Skyrim, Dr. Stone, Midnight Diner, Night Court, and MASH*.
I’m a fan of penguins (seriously, they’re the best) and have a soft spot for anime and retro music. If you’re someone who enjoys thoughtful conversations, laughing over a good board game, or sharing a delicious meal, we might just hit it off.
Bonus points if you’re adventurous, enjoy trying new foods, or want to geek out about similar interests. Let’s connect and see where this journey takes us—life’s too short not to share it with someone amazing!
35yo guy with a busy career. We are nearing end of the year and work is light right now. Not looking to start with the intent of anything serious and not committing to anything I can’t live upto. Let’s start slow and go with the flow. If it gets serious organically, I’m all in. Looking for a woman over 30 who knows what she’s doing because I’ve no idea what I’m doing atm lol. Let’s start as friends and see where it takes us. I’m honest and upfront, practical and adventurous.
About me: Big tall and healthy. Prefer beer over whiskey & Chai over coffee. Work full time and reasonably successful. Not into smoking and I’ve no issues if you do.
About you: 30+, smart and ambitious. Try to be yourself. I’ve no expectations and if you do, feel free to ask/talk about it..
If interested, let’s chat and see where it goes.
P.S - looking for local folks only.
Hey there!
I’m a 35-year-old divorced dad who’s tired of just swiping and texting—I’d really like to meet someone face-to-face. My career keeps me traveling a lot, which might sound hectic, but it also means I’m never short on new places to explore. If you’re up for the occasional weekend getaway or just grabbing a drink when I’m in town, let’s talk.
A bit about me: I’m 6’1” with a solid dad bod (think “comfy dad” rather than “gym rat”), and I’ve got a thing for good movies. I like to keep things light, laugh at myself, and not take life too seriously. My work is high-pressure but rewarding, and it’s taught me to appreciate my downtime—and the people I spend it with.
What I’m looking for: Someone cute, bubbly, and positive. Bonus points if you’ve got an adorable voice or a knack for rolling with the punches (“yes, and!” energy is a plus). I’d love to meet someone who’s generally laid-back but not afraid of a little playful drama now and then—because let’s face it, life’s not always perfect, and that’s okay.
If any of this strikes a chord, shoot me a message. Worst case, we have a good chat. Best case, we find out we actually click and make some new memories. Let’s see what happens!
I am a 32-year-old woman located in Central California. I am around 5 feet and 200 pounds with long brown hair and glasses. I have Cerebral Palsy, and I can not walk without assistance and use a walker and electric wheelchair. I am starting the process of pursuing part-time employment or volunteer opportunities.
I like to watch TV and movies, listen to music, read, spend time with family and friends, do word searches and puzzles, and go to the ballet and theater. I enjoy quiet days at home, but I do like to go out occasionally. I am a fairly clean and organized person. I can be both serious and funny, depending on the situation.
Ideally, I would like to have a serious, long-term relationship with a man that wants to have a child within the next three years between the ages of 30 and 40, but I open to someone younger or older. I would prefer someone that is able to drive, does not smoke any substances, and only drinks occasionally or not at all.
Hi there, my name's Brittany! I just turned 30 on 12/16, so I'm still mourning my lost youth and all. But one of the bonuses of another year under my belt, is that I can now post to this subreddit! So, a little about me! I work as a waitress and I have 2 cats of my own, plus I've done a good bit of TNR in my area, and have fostered 2 litters of kittens as well. Just be warned if you ask me about any of this, though, because I can talk about these cats for ever! So, what am I looking for? Well, I'm truly just looking for a sort of online connection of sorts. I have a big interest in realistic roleplaying, so if you do too, that'd be great! I have a bit more about that on my profile (as well as a few photos of myself), but another warning- the posts aren't SFW. I wholeheartedly believe that honesty is the best policy, and the quickest way to getting the things you're after. So, skip the small talk!
Hello!
I’m in search of someone who understands that meaningful relationships are founded on authentic connection and a bit of patience. I believe in taking the time to truly get to know each other before diving in. I’m open to chatting online and seeing where it leads us. While I’m open to chatting with new people, I’d ideally love to build something long-term if we find that our chemistry aligns. It’s important that you’re emotionally available, value honesty, committed to consistency, and able to reciprocate the same energy—this will help us both make the most of our time.
I’m an easygoing guy living in the east coast. I’m a career-driven professional working for a company that focuses on B2B, fully committed to my work while maintaining a balanced lifestyle.
In my downtime, you’ll find me diving into personal projects, experimenting in the kitchen with new recipes, I staying active and grounded or immersing myself in some nerdy hobbies. I definitely appreciate good humor and have a thick skin, so bring on your best jokes/memes! It's a fast way to get my attention honestly. I’m also passionate about lifelong learning, believing that expanding our minds is key to enriching our lives.
I tend to take the lead in situations—I’m decisive and proactive when something needs to be addressed. Yet, I balance that with a nurturing side, creating a supportive environment for the right person. Something about Sweet and spice and everything nice right?
One thing I should add: I really appreciate someone who can handle a bit of conversation without taking offense over small things. If you’re someone who is overly sensitive to minor missteps or words, it may not be the best fit for us. I believe that a little patience and understanding go a long way, especially considering the different walks of life everyone is on.
Anyways, if my post caught your attention, feel free to send me a chat message with your best icebreaker or just an introduction of yourself and what you're looking for. Thanks!
Hello :) 🌞
I’m Mel, 32, Korean-American, and born/raised in LA. I currently live in Alaska and am visiting till 1/8.
Some of my most noted traits are long hair, genuine personality, and western aesthetic. Think Korean cowboy 🐎
I’m looking to go out and enjoy the city while I’m in town. 🌃
I love checking out bars and restaurants, experiencing art/history, and dancing! 🕺
I’m attracted to artistic, educated, brown or tall women, but I’d say I’m pretty open. 🧑🎨 👨🔬
This is my first post, so I’m not too sure what I’m missing. But if you’re interested, hit me up and I’d love to meet up!
🌴 🌲
Want to feel loved, wanted, affection, sweet good morning and goodnight messages, to be excited when you get a message, to have deep conversations and be able to talk about anything without judgement and even encouraged to open up? I want to experience all of that too. Maybe we can experience it together. I know a relationship for a day isn’t realistic but it got you to read this far right? Maybe this is how we start talking and make something real
I am easy going and typically have a positive attitude. I like to joke around but I don’t want to take the jokes too far and be serious when it’s necessary. I am more of a homebody but I’m not opposed to going out and being adventurous. I’m a night owl. I also like organization and order so I’m not really the messy type.
I enjoy hanging out with family and friends, working out, watching stuff, video games, podcasts, being in the sun, etc.
If any of this sounds nice to you then shoot me a message! You never know until you try right? Either way, I appreciate you taking the time to read all this and hope you have a great day/life!
Hello!
I hope this message finds you well. As winter rolls in, I’ve been feeling the need for some company since socializing can be a bit challenging during this season. I'm truly passionate about astronomy; there’s something magical about the stars and the mysteries of the universe that captivates me. When it comes to music, I’m a rock enthusiast, and Tool holds a special place in my heart with their intricate rhythms and thought-provoking lyrics.
I’m also a proud dog parent to two delightful pups who keep me on my toes and fill my days with joy and laughter. In my spare time, I enjoy diving into the pages of sci-fi novels, getting lost in imaginative worlds. Woodworking is another hobby I cherish; there’s a certain satisfaction in creating something with my hands. And of course, I love stargazing, marveling at the night sky, and pondering the vastness of space.
I would love to connect and share interests! Wishing you a wonderful day ahead!
Hey, I am looking for a new friend or five. My Christmas break has started before any of my real life friends and I'm hoping to make some new friends to prevent me from joining the swarm of people at the shops.
I'm a simple Hoosier out here looking for love and honestly, my best friend. Is it you? Most important about me is I have a sense of humor that's all over the place, and I'm a fine mix between outdoorsy and dorky.
So if you think you're as weird as me, love to laugh, and get competitive over just about anything then maybe I'm your person!
If any of that resonates with you, feel free to reach out! .
Hello! I'm from Dallas, Texas and I'm hoping to find a long term relationship with an amazing woman who is like a best friend and soulmate with whom I can spend time with and enjoy life together with! Please be from Texas so we can actually meet, but for the right person I don't mind long distance as long as its within the United States and we intend on moving.
I'm on the introverted side and a homebody, so spending time indoors is what I prefer, but I'd also like someone who enjoys both and would like to get out more with to explore. I'm into pc gaming, reading, puzzles, movies/shows. Hopefully we share common interests but its fine if not, id also like to learn about your interests or we could pick up new ones together!
If this interests you at all please feel free to DM me and say hello! Look forward to getting to know you and hopefully we can find love! 😁 looking for someone in the age range of 24 - 32.
I'm posting on mobile, so I apologize in advance for the formatting.
Honestly, not looking for anything more than friends at the moment, but if something more happens organically, that's cool too.
Here's a bit about me: 6'2. Dadbod(working on it). Bearded like a Norse god. Childfree.
Loves: Music of all kinds (I tend to lean into heavier stuff, but I really do enjoy all kinds of music, especially live). Food (I throw down in the kitchen). Whiskey. Beer. Sports. Video Games.
I would say I'm mostly a homebody, but I do enjoy going out for dinner and drinks occasionally.
A bit about you: Single. Ideally located in North America for time reasons, bonus points for being in Texas. Interested in at least two of the things listed above. Willing to chat about everything and nothing. Occasional flirty comments welcomed.
Anywho, hopefully this will interest some of you. I'm more than happy to send a pic within the first few replies if you are. Looking forward to hearing from you all.