/r/R4R30Plus

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Come in & meet people over 30!

Whether you're looking for friends, a partner, buddies, pals or friends with benefits, this is the place. This is a space for Redditors 30 or older to make connections, and maybe meet in real life. This is a safe for work subreddit, so NO NSFW material. You don't have to be 30+ to engage with the community, but you MUST be 30 or older to post. Please check the tagging guide and rules for further information. Be excellent to each other.

r4r30plus - Redditors for Redditors over 30

Whether you're looking for friends, a partner, drinking buddies, or friends with benefits, this is the place on Reddit to find people over age 30 to meet in real life. You don't have to be 30 to be a member, but if you want to post you need to be 30+.


Submission Guidelines When creating a submission please include a TAG in your title AT THE BEGINNING. Examples: 36 [F4M], [M4F], [F4F], [M4M], [T4F], [T4M], [M4R], [F4R], [T4R], [TF4M], [TF4F], [TM4F], [NB4R].

Example Title: 36 [F4M] Kansas. Just feel like talking.

Tagging Legend:

M - Male

F - Female

T - Transgender

NB - Non Binary

R - Redditor/Anyone

While everyone is welcome, the sub is officially SFW and you need to be 30+ to post, it is not a kink sub and we do not want to be associated with infidelity of any kind so the following submissions are prohibited:

  1. Kink/Fetish/Sexually-explicit language or images
  2. Looking for affairs, Poly or 'ENM' situations that are looking for additional partners, etc
  3. Attached people looking for "flirty" or sex chats, etc.
  4. Ads/Solicitations to join other groups or servers (Kik, Snapchat, Discord, etc.)

POSTERS VIOLATING THE PROHIBITED POST GUIDELINES WILL BE BANNED.



Other r4r subreddits of interest

/r/r4r - Activity Partners, Groups, Dating, Hanging Out, Soulmates, FWBs.

/r/floridar4r - Florida Redditor 4 Redditor!

/r/cf4cf - Child free redditors looking for child free company!

/r/R4OlderWomen - Younger guys (and gals) looking for older women.

/r/Christianr4r - A place for the faithful to find like minded friends and romantic partners.

/r/l4l - Lesbians for Lesbians


Other subreddits of general interest

/r/AskMenOver30/ Asking men for a "Mature" perspective

/r/AmISexy_Over30 - Post a picture and get honest feedback

/r/Trentagenarians - A place for 30 somethings.

/r/40something/ - Redditors in their 40s, 50s and above.

/r/r4r40Plus A place to meet those over 40

/r/R4R30Plus

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40 [M4F] Connecticut - Outdoorsy sports fan looking for a match.

Hey there Reddit!

I'm a lover of the great outdoors and all things sports-related, especially hockey and football. Whether it's hitting the trails for a hike, spending the day hunting, or catching a game at the stadium, I'm always up for an adventure.

In my free time, you'll often find me enjoying live concerts, soaking in the energy of the crowd and the music. I'm passionate about exploring new places and music, trying new activities, and making the most out of life.

I'm looking for someone who shares those feelings and is up for some fun and wild adventures. Whether it's cheering on our favorite team or exploring the wilderness, I want to find someone who's just as enthusiastic about making memories as I am.

If you're into outdoor adventures, sports, and live music, then let's chat! Bonus points if you can recommend a killer trail or your favorite band's upcoming concert. Can't wait to connect!

I do have pictures on this profile and would be willing to share more if you’re interested.

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2024/04/28
13:59 UTC

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30 [F4R] ISO Central Floridians!

EDIT: God I hate how long this is. TLDR lookin for folks in or around central Florida.

Getting tired of some of this long-distance chatting. I've made some AMAZING friends here, but I'm also getting to a point where I'm tired of living my life online all of the time and am seeking some more in-person interactions. I realize that that's a little ironic, considering that I'm looking on Reddit... but, alas! I strongly abhor the friend/dating apps, as they concentrate on looks. Generally, I've found the folks on Reddit do try a little bit.

Anyways, basically I'm looking to chat with folks and find some level of comfort online. Then we meet up! Hang out! Go get a beer! Do you have a dog? I have a dog! My dog loves dogs!! I've got a year long pass to Leu Gardens and guest tickets! Let's live offline a bit. Maybe you don't fish, but you wanna come hang at the beach and chat while I do the fishing thing?

If Leu Gardens is familiar to you, then you might be in the right area. I'm about an hour north of Orlando.

Just a bit about me: I LOVE a bad joke. I'm a silly goose. I love to be outside, fishing, kayaking, hiking. I love to bring my pup with me. I love to cook. I haven't been to any plays or concerts, but I'm VERY open to going to them! I'm a little shy at first, but I open up with some time -- which is my main reason for seeking a connection online first. I'm demiromantic/demisexual, so I'm not looking for romance off the bat. If it happens, it happens, but it takes a lot of time and trust-building to get there for me. I'm more seeking some folks to just hang and have fun with :) But I am child-free and not seeking any romantic relationship with someone who has kids. Platonically, though? I'm great with kids! They love me! I teach kids at summer camp and do have moments where I really enjoy hangin' with them.

I call myself a feminine-leaning nonbinary person. I prefer they/them pronouns, but also I appear very feminine and don't really care when folks who don't know my preferred pronouns call me she/her because I'm not interested in explaining it to everyone. More that it just makes me happy when folks use they/them for me... I can explain more if you're interested!

Anyways, this is terribly long, so I guess reach out and let's chat!

Under 28 is too young for me. Please let me know your age and gender or pronouns when reaching out. Tell me a little about yourself! Toss me a bad joke... anything! Please just don't say "hey" or "hey how's it going" or "(age)m/f let's chat". If I ignore you, it's because I'm either inundated with chats (which I doubt will happen this time around bc I haven't met a TON of Floridian here), or I searched your history and saw something that I am uninterested in. If you've reached out before, feel free to reach out again. Life has been insanely hectic for me, but things are finally slowing down and I'm happy to re-open up our conversation if it fizzled out :) Re-introduce yourself if that's the case!

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2024/04/28
13:55 UTC

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34 [M4F] UK - anyone want to chat on this rubbish rainy day? 🌧️

Hey, thanks for taking a look. I’m looking for someone for a regular or one off chat with to pass the time. I work in a busy high pressure career so would love to have a distraction from the day to day. I’m 6ft tall, in decent shape with brown hair and dark brown eyes. If you want to know more then get in touch :)

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2024/04/28
13:45 UTC

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41[M4F] Sunny Sunday!

It’s beautiful here today. Will I get out and enjoy it? Maybe. Would I rather have someone to chat with and get to know? Absolutely! Looking to make some long term friends that want to chat regularly when life allows it.

I’m 41 and live on the east coast of Canada. I am in a relationship. You can be, don’t have to be, it doesn’t matter to me. I love to cook. I love sports, mainly baseball and hockey. Big LOTR fan and nerd in general. I love to laugh and make others laugh and have a fairly sarcastic and dark sense of humour. I’m an anxious overthinker and that coupled with too much coffee makes it worse, but hey at least I’m anxious and overthinking fast!

Anyways, if you’re interested in chatting and wanna see if we click then send me a message and I will get back to you!

Happy Sunday!

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2024/04/28
13:39 UTC

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32 [M4F] #Spain/online Looking to have a flirty, casual online friendship we could slowly turn into something more meaningful

Hello from this side of the world!

So, here's the thing. Even for the loneliest of people, inevitably, there comes a time when the craving for a new relationship, no matter of which category, starts creeping up. And, as someone who's got not only a bit of a lonely heart, but has been quite introverted all of his life, my lack of social energy and total awkwardness when exposed to those kind of situations ultimately lead to failure after failure in developing said relationships.

And so, I ended up here, believing that maybe an online friendship, with some right to be flirty and/or have fun with each other if the mood is set, is maybe what would suit my personality and current mood. And if that casual first stage results in us having chemistry, over time, slowly but surely...Maybe we can build a genuine connection of both attraction and trust that ends up in something less abstract :D

Anyway, here's a bit about myself if you're interested in trying:

-1,80m (5'11"), brown short hair, bearded fellow with eyes being mostly brown with a shade of olive green. Broad shoulders, not super fit but toned. Honestly, I just look like the average mediterranean guy lol

-Into music (mostly blues, folk, indie and rock), boxing, videogames (I've played more jrpgs that I'm willing to admit), literature (mostly scifi, with some non fiction every now and then). Not that much of a film/show dude nowadays, but overall I'd say I'm into every piece of media that can deliver a story that hits the spot.

If you feel like any of the things I've written on this post speaks to you, why don't you try sending a PM, and see where It leads us? Hopefully, it'll be the start of a great adventure :)

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2024/04/28
13:25 UTC

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34 [M4F] #NH or Online - If you're a sucker for a hot older guy with nerd charm and dad jokes, I'm your man.

Broadcasting yourself as someone interesting who stands apart from the crowd of neckbeards on Reddit while not coming off as an arrogant tool is a difficult task. I'm not sure if I'm particularly excelling at it with this post, but I'm going to give it a try.

I'm looking for new people to talk to, to have genuine interesting conversation with, to talk games and movies, to trade dog pictures, or just flirt the night away. If you can do all of these, I might just fall in love.

I'm nerdy, flirty, and more than a bit wordy. When I'm not out with my dog exploring nature, I'm probably going on long drives with good music to find a new spot or restaurant. Or maybe I'm at home with a book, a game, a movie marathon.

I work in an Alzheimer's ward so it's basically a rule that you have to be nice to me and keep me company on these long nights of dementia.

Message me. I'm reasonably sure you won't regret it.

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2024/04/28
13:06 UTC

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33/M NJ / Philly EST, looking for friends [M4R]

Hello, 33/M in New Jersey looking for long term friends. Preferably someone close that can become irl, but online is cool too.

Interested in long term, not a couple messages to kill time. Actually want to get to know and connect with people!

Interests include football, dogs, and video games. (Shocker with the username lol). I also enjoy walks, light hikes, the beach, cooking, and being a homebody music, tv and such are also good tos.

Feel free to send me a message and let’s chat! I have Discord too

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2024/04/28
13:01 UTC

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32 [M4F] #ireland#online. I have great questions game and an amazing party trick!

Also i will share face.

Im just chilling and would love to share my Sunday with some nice reddit strangers, you can be from anywhere not just ireland although that would be great.

I've got some questions that will hopefully break the ice and let us get to know eachother better, more interesting that the usual "hi" I hope.

My favourite show is GMM so if any other fans out there that would be amazing if you get in touch!.

I love dogs, who dosnt? Also some pics of my beaut dog I can share if you are lucky.

Sunday beers to cure a hangover are the best so if anyone wants to chill tonight and have a few beers with me then that would be great too, we can cheers across the Internet.

Not gonna say too much here as I want something to talk about when you message. See ya soon. X

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2024/04/28
12:59 UTC

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35 [M4F] EST/Anywhere- Come Chat with a Bearded Cat Dad

Hello there! My name is Brad and I am 35/m. I am looking for someone to talk with and get to know and see where things go. I work from home and live with two cats! While living with two cats and having them as coworkers is great, they don’t make the best conversationalist. I would love to find someone to chat with and get to know. I am big on talking and having deep conversations about whatever. I don’t mind small talk as I believe it is required but I also want to talk about things you are thinking about and topics that are important to you. I am very patient and will not judge you.

For fun I like to play video games, go to the gym, play guitar, listen to music, go fishing, read, watch tv and go to the beach!

If you’re interested please feel free to send me a chat request. I prefer chatting via discord or telegram once we get comfortable but I am opened to other platforms as well! I hope to hear from you soon!

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2024/04/28
12:51 UTC

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31 [M4R] Scotland - Trying this again on a lazy Sunday

Hi everyone. Made a few of these posts in the past but always end up deleting them. As the title says, I'm 31 from Scotland.

I'm into gaming, football and watching TV series & movies. I literally can hold down a conversation about anything and I'm one of they people that knows pointless things about everything.

I had a late night gaming sesh last night and a wee bit of alcohol so I'm having one of they lazy Sundays before going back to work tomorrow.

Appearance wise I am 6ft, fat/stocky whatever way you look at it but I do go to the gym and I am attempting to rid myself of the dad belly 😂

DMs are open, so hit me up if you want to chat. Hopefully hear from you soon.

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2024/04/28
12:32 UTC

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43 [M4F] NW Ohio/ SE MI

Good morning fellow Redditors and hope y’all are relaxing after an arduous week! I’m single, never married/no kids however would love them. I work wonky hours but will make time to hopefully enjoy each other’s companionship.

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2024/04/28
12:07 UTC

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35 [M4F] UK Nottingham - hello everyone, what’s everyone doing? Looking for a causal chit chat buddy, we can talk about anything and everything 😁😁😁 can’t see votes so just drop me a message

Can’t see votes so drop a message on chat. All ages welcome, long as it’s 18+ of course. What’s series you into or what’s a good movie you watched recently? Include age, location and brief description. Also a photo if you’re comfy enough to, just so I can put a face to the person I’m talking to 😁😁

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2024/04/28
11:09 UTC

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34m [M4F] spooky nerd looking for friends to chat about everything and anything

Hi yall title kinda says it all Into most nerd things, all horror things, and metal. So tell me your favorite horror movie? The last band you saw in concert? Or your favorite food? I cook often and always looking for ideas lol.I'm just board at work so feel free to shoot a dm. Oh I also have snap and discord if interested lol

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2024/04/28
11:07 UTC

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37 [M4F] germany/online - a real connection with fun and flirt

Hello,

it would be nice find someone again who Im excited to talk to. Were I cant wait for you to answer and see a notification from you. I want to feel my male inner urge to get to know you and to impress you. That means chemistry and looks have to match. I will be happy to share a picture.

Im tall, dark hair, medium beard. Both with some grey in it now. Greenish undefinable eyes. Im funny and can have a pretty dry sarcastic ironic humor from time to time. You should be able to get along with that. Sometimes I can be a hardhead and I want a woman who can talk back to me. I think Im quite good looking and sufficiantly smart. That said my school careere was never very ambitious. My favourite music is Hip Hop and some of the endless metal genres, but I hear a lot of other stuff too. Im a man with male interests. Football, woodworking, technic stuff. I try to get into male fashion more at the moment and Im always happy about a female opinion. Im working on my next tattoo even so I dont have a lot yet. Over the last years I became a bit more conservative and traditional. But my opinios are all over the place. Depends on the topic.

Fun fact about me. I dont like to sleep. Please dont hasitate to tell me how awful that is 😉

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2024/04/28
10:06 UTC

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33 [M4F] Colorado/Online - A nerd with a Jigsaw puzzle of a heart looking for a potential looking for a player two/Time Traveling companion

I SHOULD be sleeping, but, instead... here I am.

I'm 33, white, 5'11, with brown hair and eyes, glasses. I tend to main DPS characters in most games because pew pew pew.

Outside of work, I'm a huge nerd; If there is a Sci-Fi show, book, or film out there, I can guarantee that I've seen/read it, whether I liked it or not is a different matter. I love reading, the only downside is that I have a rather long list of books to read and no time to read them! (Thank the force for commutes to work and audiobooks, I'm a third of the way into "The Krytos Trap"; the third book in the Star Wars: X-Wing Series, ). I also enjoy writing (When I can get the chance to, it's mostly fanfiction, but I have been slowly working on a novel for a long while), Video Editing (I just made a twelfth-anniversary tribute trailer for The Old Republic, that also served as the final for an editing class I was retaking), and Video Games; Normally, my main game (And main MMO) is Star Wars - The Old Republic, but I have a pretty large Steam/GoG library, and some Blizzard games as well... ok, mainly Starcraft.

As for what I'm looking for, well... It's been so long since I've been in a relationship, And after what happened above, I'm not sure what I'm looking for in a relationship... Maybe conversation for starters and go from there. I'm not super picky about location, if you are also in Colorado, or nearby, perfect, if not... well, that's fine too! I did mark this as NSFW, which I would be interested in as well.

If this has piqued your interest, go ahead and send me a PM. Or a smoke signal, those work too, and Tell me a bit about you! Pics are not required, but I have them to share if you'd like to!

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2024/04/28
09:46 UTC

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42 [M4F] Herts/London - Silly crushes & uncomfortable introvert

I'm an awkward introvert. I'm usually quite adept at disguising it and flicking the extrovert switch for a while, but recently that button has been faulty.

I also have a ridiculous and quite frankly, inappropriate work crush - 12 years younger and technically my boss! Pretty sure she also finds me a creepy depressing weirdo (probably not entirely untrue).

So, enough with my hugely attractive selling points!

I'm just throwing the Reddit hook out there to see if anyone fancies a bit of a flirty mingle about anything or everything. Help me forget and cheer myself up. Local'ish would be nice, but I'm easy wherever you are :)

Other than the aforementioned quirks, I dig my video games, TV/film stuff, entertaining & cuddling my cat, animals in general and watching my footy team.

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2024/04/28
09:14 UTC

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30 [F4M] Dallas, TX Throwing a wish in the Reddit wishing well, looking for something real

30 [F4M] Dallas, TX Looking for something really real, throwing a wish into the Reddit well and putting it all out there

Hi there! First, I’d like to say thank you for opening this post. Second, I’d like to say that if you are someone who is looking for someone to chat with online but who has zero intention of meeting in person (should that be an appropriate next step down the road) then kindly please do not contact me. Also, please kindly refrain from contacting me if you are currently in a relationship or currently in a marriage. Kindly refrain from contacting me if you’re unsure that monogamy is for you. Last, please kindly refrain from contacting me if you are in the middle of a divorce that is not yet finalized. I appreciate your understanding on these matters, and your willingness to respectfully move along if you’re currently in any of the above situations.

I have recently been spending time reflecting on what I want my future love life to look like. I have also been spending time perusing Reddit and have been pleasantly surprised to see stories about couples meeting through Reddit. I decided that I had nothing to lose and potentially everything to gain by putting myself out there on this thread. So here we go!

I am a 30 year old lady based in Dallas, TX, and I’d ultimately love to find an amazing life partner to build and evolve with. Eventually, I’d like to have a husband and be someone’s wife. If you’re also looking to find an amazing life partner, then please read on. I’d love to hear from you if this resonates.

A bit about me:

  • I love communication. I love expression. I love getting to know about people’s stories. Hopes. Dreams. Fears and struggles and how they’re overcoming them. The random thoughts that pop into your mind. That article you read that was totally fascinating to you. I love a great conversation. I love learning about new things.
  • I love self-reflection and I love being an active part of my own evolution as a human being. I am someone who finds it to be very natural to nurture and nourish my own growth and betterment. I am not a perfectionist but at the same time, I do set standards for myself, and I delight when I meet those standards and can inch the bar a bit higher from there. I love to see what I am capable of achieving, and I love to grow. Self-discipline is not a chore for me; I enjoy challenges that are fruitful and I enjoy taking the steps to meet those challenges, even when it gets a little tough. I read a quote once that said, “To love someone is to attend a thousand births of the person they’re becoming.” This is totally how I feel about loving myself and others. I am not a person who is stagnant.
  • I don’t watch a lot of t.v. When I do, I gravitate towards documentaries. When I read, I gravitate towards non-fiction, how-to books, and poetry.
  • I cherish physical movement. I will park on the opposite side of the parking lot to enjoy walking a little bit extra. I will take the stairs instead of the elevator when I can. I am a longtime devotee of Lagree Pilates and have a Pilates machine at home that I workout on regularly. It is not a chore for me to care for myself in this way. It is something I regard as a privilege and a pleasure.
  • I love to explore and I love creative activities. For example, I am a hobbyist photographer. I love to be outdoors. I love connecting with the feeling that we are a part of something bigger. I find connecting with nature to be one of the easiest ways for me to tune into that feeling, but I also tune into that feeling when I’m in soulful conversations with others and oftentimes when I’m traveling or exploring, as well.
  • I have a strong connection to music. I love to sing and I love to strum on the guitar and I love to listen to music across a wide spectrum of genres.
  • I have strong faith in what I call ‘God.’ I was born and raised in the Christian church. Today my spirituality basically boils down to a belief that there is something out there bigger than me that loves me and that wants a relationship with me and that wants to guide me, protect me, see me thrive, and use me in service of others. I do dabble in religious texts, most commonly the bible. However, my spirituality is primarily something that I practice daily through prayer and meditation and conscious observation of God at work in my life and in other’s lives versus something that is done inside the walls of a religious institution. When I have a challenge or a stressor, I bring it straight to God. I regularly count my blessings, even when I don’t feel like it. I strive to have an attitude of gratitude, grace, dignity, and integrity.
  • I love to dress up and go out sometimes. I love expressing myself through fashion when I can. Some days I keep it casual, but I’m never frumpy, if that makes sense. I love skincare. I love to take care of my skin the best that I can. I am happy with no makeup. When I do wear makeup, the most I do is a little mascara, eyebrow pencil, blush and tinted chapstick.
  • I am 5’8” and Caucasian. I have a relatively lean build. I have solid strength from Pilates.
  • As much as I am an intellectual, deep thinker, and a conversationalist, I’m also someone with a sense of humor and sense of awe, curiosity, and wonder about the world.

A bit about what I ultimately want in a relationship and in a partner:

  • a sense of teamwork and a foundation comprised of values we both agree to, adhere to, and do our best to hold ourselves to, including respect, integrity, open and consistent communication, self-reflection, self-regulation, and a desire to grow individually and as a couple. I imagine my ideal relationship to be one where we are mutually interested in and excited about reflecting together, setting goals, and working together to support our individual growth and growth as a couple. I love respectful conflict resolution. I love a relationship where there is protected space for both parties to have and share wants, needs, hopes, and fears.
  • physical touch and physical intimacy are super important to me when I am in a relationship, as is quality time. I will be a good match for someone who desires regular physical closeness and intimacy in his relationships, and who enjoys prioritizing quality time with his partner.
  • my primary love language is words of affirmation, and I also am a natural communicator, so I feel I’d be a great match with someone else who desires and is willing to work (when necessary) towards good communication. I desire a partner who naturally is inclined to express himself with words
  • I want to build a life with someone who wants to build a life with me. I want my partner to be a man who values loyalty and commitment and who wants to address and overcome challenges with me— versus falling off the bandwagon at the first sign of trouble— because I am capable of loyalty and commitment and want a partnership that is based on mutual commitment, loyalty, trust, and strength. I am not afraid of respectful disagreement or conversation around harder topics. I am afraid of being with someone who isn’t willing to do the work that is required to build and sustain a beautiful, deep, life long marriage and love. I am not someone who chases the feeling of infatuation or being in love. While those can be great feelings, I understand that a long term relationship with someone is built on so much more than that. I agree with the statement, “a good marriage isn’t something you find, it’s something you make.” I understand it takes two people to make a good long term relationship, and I desire a partner who also wants and is capable of putting good energy into cultivating a good relationship. I desire a partner who is conscious of the fact that they share a part in creating and maintaining feelings of being “in love” in the relationship. I desire a partner who is interested in building a relationship with me, rather than being a passive part in it.
  • I desire a partner who is respectful, thoughtful, intentional, conscientious, self-reflective, communicative, curious, and a learner. I police myself and I desire a partner who polices himself. I do not want to police my partner. I do not want my partner to police me. I do not want to have to mother my partner. I want to continue growing and bettering myself alongside a man who is doing the same. I want to support each other and encourage each other in that while sharing a mutual understanding that we are both ultimately responsible for doing our own work on our own selves.
  • It’s also important to me from a longevity perspective that my partner has an established workout routine. I am not looking for a man with a six pack but I am looking for a man who puts in the effort to take care of himself, respect himself, and who prioritizes his health. I desire a partner who has been to therapy or who is open to going to therapy in the event of a difficult life season. I desire a partner who seeks wise counsel when faced with challenges or when in need of advice. Please note that I do not consider friends drinking together at a bar to be wise counsel. In my own life, I have a therapist, an older and wiser mentor, and one objectively wise friend who I consider to be my wise counsel and who I can trust to help me see situations with objective clarity and who can help me think through how to handle situations in a way that is reflective of how I want to be as a person. These are the people I go to when I hit a challenge that’s testing me. When I need extra support or specific counsel for a particular situation, I seek that out with discernment. I want a man who matches this.
  • It would truly warm my heart like nothing else to be with a man who will pray with me sometimes. It is increasingly important to me that my life partner has his own relationship with a higher power/God.
  • I would also love to be with a man who has clear hobbies and areas of passion or interest.

Other points of relevancy:

  • I am sober. I have done a lot of healing work and growth in my life. I am someone who gets knocked down and gets back up stronger. This is a part of who I am. Sobriety for me is super important for my wellbeing. I do not at all mind being around people who are drinking casually or even who are 4/20 friendly; however, it isn’t feasible for me to be with someone who gets drunk regularly (if ever) or someone who smokes in excess. I desire a partner who is present in his life and of sober mind and heart.
  • I come from a background that may be described as “fancy,” “privileged,” “superficial,” “snooty,” “exclusive,” that sort of thing. I also was in Boston during the marathon bombings in 2013. A few years later, I was with my mom at her house when it was hit by a tornado. It’s important for me to iterate that I understand that at the end of the day, stuff is just stuff. That there is so much more to life than superficialities. I’d so much rather someone write me a heartfelt note than gift me a Cartier bracelet. I know very well that money cannot buy nor guarantee happiness and that life throws curve balls no matter where you come from. At the same time, I am working on creating the foundations to build a legacy. I have my own business and ambitions. I desire a partner who can join me in building a legacy together. I know that it can take time to establish a solid career. I am understanding of this. But I will be a good match for someone who also has the desire to build a legacy and who is already doing his own work to be one half of that whole. Someone who has ambition, drive, and self discipline.
  • I have full custody of my daughter who is almost 4 years old. Her biological father had no interest in rising to the occasion of fatherhood and is completely out of the picture. When it comes to dating, it is very important to me that my romantic relationship begins with a foundation that is only about myself and my partner. I do not involve my daughter in my dating life. If and when it were clear that I was in a strong relationship with a man and we were mutually interested in progressing the relationship, then I would begin conversations with him about bringing my daughter in the fold. It would be a collaborative and intentional choice with both parties involved in taking that next step. I am not sold on having more kids; however, if it were important to my partner to have kids together, then I would certainly have an open mind and heart and engage in conversation about it.
  • Sometimes when I am out and about in the world, people check me out and turn their heads. Sometimes people of all walks of life and of all genders will approach me and strike up conversation with me. In my communities, I am known and an engaged member of society. I desire a partner who is a gentleman and a gentle man. I desire a partner who will delight in seeing me in moments where I am shining rather than a man who gets insecure about that and wishes to try to dim my light. I would just absolutely melt if my husband were a gentleman and a gentleman who admired me in moments where my light shines, who wants to protect my ability to do that. It would be something I’ve never had before and it’s something I desperately need. I seek to be a devoted, loving partner for this kind of man. Also, when I say I want a gentleman, I mean to say, we both know I can open a door by myself but I want to let you open the door for me and I want to appreciate that spirit in you. We both know I can buy myself dinner but I want to let you provide for me in the ways that you want to provide for your woman and I want to honor and appreciate that in you. In this way, I have an old school energy.

I have no idea what will come of this post, but like I said, I saw no harm in putting it all out there. And, as my username suggests, let the fates take it where they may. I am open hearted and I am ready. And if you feel inclined to reach out to me, I hope that you do.

To wrap this up, I did want to include these last thoughts. I mentioned in here that I am 5’8.” I do usually go for men that are taller than me. I like to wear heels sometimes. I am trying to be open minded and not get caught up on superficialities, but for me as a woman, there is something super beautiful about being wrapped in the arms of a man I trust who is bigger than me. Also, I love a beard or mustache. Haha!

TLDR: If this is too long for you to read, then you’re not my guy and I am not your gal and that’s okay! Best wishes!

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2024/04/28
09:07 UTC

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37 [F4M] #houston #online I just want someone who will lie in bed all weekend and read books with me

  • Age: 37
  • Gender: Female
  • Location: Texas, for now. One more miserable summer then I gotta get the hell out of here.
  • Values: Progressive, pro-choice, believes in climate change, round earth, moon landing enthusiast.
  • Traits: Educated, passionate, and irreverent. Plus size, homebody, heart-on-sleeve, introvert with occasional social flair (nap required afterwards). Avid reader, loves cozy nights in with my dog and a book
  • Looking For: Genuine connection, 30-47 age range, friendship or romance.

Photo: Hi!

I can also communicate in complete sentences as I hope you can too. 😉

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2024/04/28
08:55 UTC

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31 [M4F] UK/Anywhere - Looking for someone to be intimate and build a connection with!

Hey there! Hope you're all doing well and you're having a good weekend so far!

I'd love to talk with anyone and see what happens. No pressure on either side - Flirtationships, flirting, dating. I'm open to it all! I'd love to be each others mutual obsession and really get to know each other.

I'm more than happy to chat and swap pictures and then move to voice chat once we're comfortable with each other. I'm a firm believer that physical attraction is important in a relationship and so I'd like to swap pictures straight away to make sure the attraction is there.

I'm 6'1, with short brown hair, blue/greyish eyes with a broad physique and like to stay in shape.

I keep fit through running and going to the gym. I'm always listening to music and love watching Netflix.

I would describe myself as passionate, kind and very affectionate. For me, the most important things in a relationship are good communication, trust, effort, affection, good sexual chemistry and a good sense of humour!

I love making my partner feel loved and wanted and just making them feel amazing about themselves. I have a healthy sexual appetite and enjoy making my partner feel incredible inside and outside the bedroom.

If anything I've said has piqued your interest, feel free to message me or send a chat request!

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2024/04/28
08:43 UTC

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33 [M4F] UK - he’s just very very tired of having that same old boring conversation

Hello, good morning.

I should start this up with saying in reality I'm a pretty unremarkable, average person. My interests are classic guy on reddit interests: live music, reading, films, football [or soccer if you're not in the UK], I also like running but I assure you I'm not one of them runners that make it their whole personality, I just like being outdoors in all weather and running is a good reason to do that. I don't play video games though, which is where I fall down on one classic reddit trope, not that I have a problem with people who do!

After that glowing introduction, and if you've made it to the second paragraph before continuing to another post in search of someone more interesting and not like every other guy on here, then: What are you doing? Glad to have you still here! I'm 6'1 in height, I have brownish hair and blue eyes.

Just as unremarkable and average in personality I'd say I'm pretty much the same in looks. Quite the find, huh? You only have yourself to blame, you chose to read on! I used to be on reddit years ago but haven't been on here for ages, hence the new account, it became somewhat of an addiction before and I lost too y much time to deep dives on here. But I decided have another go and try not to get too addicted this time.

So, I'm hoping to find someone to chat with, which is why we're all here. Ideally find that we have some things in common, but even if we don't, that's fine too - so long as we both make the effort to actually spark up some conversation and see if we have any sort of connection going on. I'm pretty laid back in general, don't tend to take myself too seriously. I've also been super stressed with work lately which has led to me isolating myself a little as a way of dealing with it, not the healthiest and looking to snap out of that now. More so out of annoyance at myself as I hate taking work home with me and never normally do, so this has really been quite annoying. But I am really rambling now and this post is getting ever longer and more dull as I just blurt out drivel which I'm sure no one is interested in reading.

l'il sign off now, send me a message or chat request if you want to get to know me and aren't completely put off by all the above.

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2024/04/28
08:41 UTC

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35 [M4F] Toronto, Canada Looking for someone to voice with.

Just woke up and continue to feel sad and lonely. Looking for a sweet gentle voice to help distract me and possibly fall back to sleep. I'm not looking for someone to trauma dump or express myself necessarily, but to just take my mind off things and distract me. If I feel comfortable with you and I find that you're understanding, I could possibly share things with you if that's what you'd like.

A little about me...I'm vegan, I crochet(on hiatus), I exercise, I enjoy concerts and there's more we could find out. I've been described as gentle, kind, affectionate, caring, open and honest. Apparently I have a "nice" voice.

I'd rather not talk about politics and food(I'm vegan) as I would like to feel safe. You're free to talk about school/work, but I won't be talking about that related to me. Besides those things, you're free to literally talk to me about anything and everything. If you're struggling and want to talk about that, you're free to do so. If you just want to have a fun mutually enjoyable conversation, we can do that as well.

Thanks for your time and I look forward to meeting you!

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2024/04/28
07:44 UTC

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35 [M4R] Sweden/Europe/Online | A sleepy Sunday and I'm looking for people to talk to!

(Only looking for friends, I'm already in a relationship, so no such thing to be found here!!)

Yawn... what a sleepy morning this is. Luckily, I can stay indoors for the entirety of the day and not do much of anything. Would you like to keep me company at the same time?

We can talk about anything, or try to. Life? Hobbies and interests? Something interesting we've come across as of late? Pets? Memes? What-have-you. Wouldn't be opposed to possibly hopping over to Discord after a bit, but I don't go there straight away. Want to know there's some kind of connection first.

Be over the age of 20, live anywhere, but preferably in Europe or similar time zone. Otherwise, let me know what kind of person you are, tell me anything about yourself. Would like it if you'd give me more than a simple "Hello" and/or a "How are you doing?", give me something more.

For me, I'm from and in Sweden. Been told I'm quite easy and fun to talk to and hang out with. Like to joke about things, be odd, talk about things I enjoy (and in the right company, I can talk a lot), I'm loyal, an open book, and overly honest - while sometimes being too honest. Something I work on, as it's part of my autism.

Anything you'd like to know, just add a question or five in your message and I'll promise to answer them to the best of my ability. Regardless, I'm very much looking forward to be hearing from you!

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2024/04/28
07:40 UTC

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30 [F4M] maybe I’m looking for you?

Hi! I’m a 30f from the US. I’m still looking for my person. A slow burn. The kind of naturally flowing conversations we can’t pry ourselves away from. Let’s make each other check our phones constantly hoping to see the other’s name pop up. I’m open to someone from any location, I love learning about new people and places!

With that said, I’m white, a short bbw with long blonde hair. My eyes are blue/grey. I’m less into your looks than I am your personality. Your mind matters much more. I love podcasts, clay art, cozy gaming, books, anything spooky and so much more. I won’t share too much or we won’t have anything to learn about each other!

Fun idea: when you message me, tell me your best dark joke! I love dark humor.

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2024/04/28
07:37 UTC

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34 [M4F] interesting in London

34M in London

Looking to get to know a F who is interesting and has a personality.

I am interested in history, classical music, and travelling.

I live and work in London. But open to talking to any female.

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2024/04/28
06:45 UTC

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34 [M4F] to chat with on this rainy day 🌧️ UK here but happy to chat with anyone

Hey, thanks for taking a look. I’m looking for someone for a regular or one off chat with to pass the time. I work in a busy high pressure career so would love to have a distraction from the day to day. I’m 6ft tall, in decent shape with brown hair and dark brown eyes. If you want to know more then get in touch :)

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2024/04/28
06:42 UTC

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36 [M4F] Birmingham, AL - Adventure buddies!

Fluffy 36 SWM looking for someone to live life with and go on adventures with. I'd love to have my last first kiss. I'd also love to start a family soon

I have all kinds of hobbies so I'm sure we'll have something in common. Hit me up. I'm not picky bur I do prefer people within a few hours of me if possible (not a deal-breaker though)

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2024/04/28
06:20 UTC

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36 [M4F] UK/Anywhere - Looking for online casual company to interact with.

Hiyaa!! So the title says I am looking for some casual interaction to make our day ( or whatever zone your are) relaxing and chilled. Trust me, who doesn't want that dopamine ...

I do not have specific topics but it can be about ANYTHING - literally anything- even things which I might not be into or know about - will make this interaction interesting.

As a person I am an introvert, I don't judge, A good listener, emotional, caring, thoughtful, mature, relaxed , nature lover, techie, sci fi/adv superfan. I am also little bit into anime.

I am quite open to conversation getting naughtier as we feel comfortable and Interact more - hey, who doesn't want some spice in conversations...

Also, if we really hit it off I don't mind this conversation to go longterm, the thrill of waiting for a message is what I like.

Not looking for any relationship, meetups, hookups - just pure online fun. So if you have read till here and found any connection, please don't hesitate to drop a hii and may be a couple of lines about u...

I keep this post up till I find someone...

Any one 18+ is welcomed.

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2024/04/28
06:20 UTC

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36 [F4M] NoVA Single Seeks Same for Dating Adventure

It’s time to choose your own adventure, should you wish to do so!

If you are married or partnered, please go to 1)

If you are single, please go to 2)

  1. Home to your spouse or partner.

  2. If you live outside the DMV, please go to 3)

If you live inside the DMV, please go to 4)

Not sure what the DMV is? please go to 3)

  1. a partner near you (good luck!)

  2. Feel free to drop me a line telling me more about yourself and your ideal date, adventure, and/or dating adventure. Thanks!!

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2024/04/28
05:59 UTC

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40 [F4R] are you bored too?

Looking for conversation. Would be cool to find someone to consistently talk to but doesn't have to be that. It's 11 (cst) pm on a Saturday and I'm watching Friends. Super exciting stuff. I listen to a lot of music, know a lot about pop culture and enjoy some podcasts. I also like deep conversations too. If you feel like chatting send a message.

2 Comments
2024/04/28
04:00 UTC

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32[m4f] northeast,anywhere. Late night chats?

Almost midnight and I'm watching Karen's and drinks get arrested on YouTube. These bodycam channels are addicting. Send help.

Looking for night owls to chat with since I'm usually up at weird times and I wouldn't mind chatting aboutaming. Sending pet pics. Memes. How we will fight of the legion of people who sleep normally. Gross I know.

I like games and play on Xbox and PlayStation. Helldivers 2 is my go-to at the moment. I also been pretty deep in Ghost if Tsushima and I ended up downloading the Horizon games. I enjoy shooters and action games and the occasional city builder or rts on pc.

I like cooking and so far I haven't gotten sick or made someone else sick so you can say I'm like the Gordon Ramsay of cooking something edible. I do look at recipes in terror and sometimes actually cook them.

Was a huge reader until the fire nation blessed me with sudden ADD or HD or 8k or whatever. Still have the Dune sequels to read. Big warhammer 40k novel enjoyer too.

I like coffee too.

I also don't mind sharing selfies. Not a creep. I do say stupid things cause I have the humor of a 12 year old. Also dark humor. I'm what they call a goofy goober. So yeah. Hit me up. Ask questions if you want to know anything else.

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2024/04/28
04:00 UTC

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