I grew up washing dishes by hand in the sink, and using liquid detergent with a washing machine to wash clothes. Can anyone help me understand the appeal of pods? Is it literally just extra packaging and money so that the consumer doesn't have to pour their own liquid? Like an individually packaged product?

In regards to dating and life. Cause everything seems crap to me now.

I going to sound concieted but guess its jut what was reality and im nothing special many guys like me but just stating my story to set scene and help my case now.

When i was young i was atheletic, musical, top grades and good looking. I didnt care for dating or sex much at all despite this but was popular and out a lot having fun. To sound even more concieted not that it matters as has caused pain to some girls but im well equipped to (so something offer some girls lol).

Due to my situation i wasnt going about cocky or anything but I had high standards as i held myself in certain view. But also at same time wasnt really dating as more studying and hanging with friends etc. And funnily not ever really into dating or thought about it as I think im somewhat autsitic anyway and being to close to people or with them long time annoys me.

Fast forward to now, my looks and college lifestyle got me by. lots of social opportunities, lots of friends etc.

Now im some place else completely im starting to look old, thinning hair, balding. I cant just go out and be my dumb funny happy 19 year old self as it just not really realistic. I barely have friends and if I do at my age they are different to many have families, or issues etc. They are not fun young party people anymore.

I still wouldnt say I was interested in dating either I moreso just miss being young and not need to worry about dating because my social life was great.

SO end of day life sucks now, I look like crap and social life sucks. Even if I go out I still got high standards and se myslef as this attractive young college guy but reality is there 100s out there like I was and I am not one of them now. Its just confusing. I dont even know what im asking and its not even dating advice I guess. But people asking why im single etc and the social life at my age prevents the kind of life you have when younger partying and meeting lots of people.

IF i meet someone my age they probably have a 10 year old child lol

Random chat but just kinda lost and any thoughts or advice. Just losing my looks and youth is hitting me hard as mentally im still in the same place. I guess If i were like others my ager looking to settle or have or had children it would not matter so much but im getting older and uglier every year but still thinking im a college boy lol

I go to 24 hour fitness gym, went in to the men's locker room yesterday in the morning to change for my workout and there is a lady wiping down lockers, sweeping/mopping the floor in the middle of the locker room. No signs, nothing to indicate that she is there. Guys coming out of shower naked, others are changing while she is cleaning around them. Has this become a normal thing and I am officially old?

Hey y’all, 34F here. I’ve always wanted a nose ring but never got around to doing it. Life has been life-ing and I’ve been going thru a bit over the past few years. I just want it! A few of my close friends have laughed at the idea of getting my nose pierced ‘at this age’. I also work in corporate where I’m not to sure about the reaction I would get at work. That being said, I don’t plan to wear a nose ring at work, rather a small stud. I have a few colleagues who have them, even the rings. Just trying to share ideas and see if I should go ahead and make it happen.

I am a 90s kid so ive seen the rise of software from almost the beginning. I played atari (for a few minutes because that was all it was good for) i bought cassettes and loved CDs. Played age of empires. Bought a ps2 that I adored. Got an 125mb mp3 and later an Ipod. Had a nokia amd dropped it. Drove manual. Used Photoshop cs4 and kept living through the evolution of all these essential things that became the norm in the lives of most people I know. My job. My social circle and my interests.

Tech always had hoops to go through but problems used to be able to be solved by reaching out to others. First friends, then forums. Then it became clear that you had to buy new models. But now. New models come with usability problems right out the box. Reaching for help is a maze that rarely gives you an answer. My music app is less dependable than ever before as it crashes every 2 minutes and finding help seems impossible. My new PC wont turn on its screen after it sleeps because of some appready crap. Everything comes with a subscription but the assistance path is so difficult to navigate through that it becomes a lost day trying to fix something. Cars suck now. Google has become worse than ever to find what youre looking for. All software is hostile and trying to scam you out of more money and forcing you to keep trashing phones and buying new ones. I honestly feel software was easier on the user in 2010.

I just needed to vent. I hope my post is not removed due to some archaic rule I didnt read in a separate discord server post (see what I mean???)

I herniated a disc 2 years ago while doing CrossFit (first mistake) and it was AWFUL. I thought I just pulled a muscle and kept on working out (second mistake) wasn’t too long until I got to a point where I couldn’t sit, couldn’t lay down, couldn’t exercise… only thing that I could do was walk. This lasted about 5-6 solid months of extreme uncomfortableness. I did some PT and exercises to help and eventually it got to a place where it didn’t really bother me. That being said, it’s not fully gone. I was rowing today and had the pain shooting down one of my legs. It’s just so defeating….. I’m young (30 lol), healthy, active. I’m so afraid this is gonna be something I deal with for the rest of my life. Especially once I get older. Has anyone had any luck or advice?

Yes, I am posting this in more than one place since I have more than one "issue" going on, but honestly the fact that the only place where it seems possible to even attempt to discuss anything is Reddit pretty much just adds to the discouragement.

Can't tell you how many times I've started typing something only to just never finish it since I say to myself "there is no point". And honestly, that's so true as I've typed out aspects of my "life story" on other accounts and posted in multiple subs before and it has just been a waste of time.

I understand regular posters on Reddit may be of a particular type, but I am tired of seeing every post I look at devolve into "take pills and get therapy" and for people to suggest "divorce" without context all of the time. I mean, fuck, I may as well blow everything up if this is how married normies on Reddit think since why am I exposing myself to such a depressing hive mind both offline and off?

I don't want suggestions of touching grass, finding a hobby, volunteering, or whatever nonsense I see all the time on Reddit. If you are in a place mentally where just getting some sun, fly fishing, and volunteering at a soup kitchen is all you need to do to be "happy", then more power to you, but this isn't me.

I am genuinely unhappy as a married guy with kids in his 30s and I would like to talk to people, especially other men, who are in a similar mindset or were in a similar mindset and made a dramatic change that worked for them. And trying to pre-empt comments - no - this isn't just about sex or lack thereof, but if I'm going to blow everything up, you can be damn sure I'm going to be degenerate for a bit afterwards since I am not just going to swap out partners for some "new relationship energy" but stay in the same 3rd tier town I've been in for the past decade. And this last point, where I live, could be and to me is a major issue, but like I should still be able to get a semi-decent conversation online here and there, right? But I can't.

I mean do people even chat anywhere online anymore? I'm not even talking about voice chats, which I understand take more time and scheduling, but I can't tell you have many Discords/Telegrams/Reddits and so on I've looked at and like there is barely anyone online it seems. And I've even tried "hobby" topics that interest me, before anyone wants to jump down my throat on that. Like seriously, I have essentially the same conversations over and over with "parent aquaintances" IRL and then go online and have the same damn useless small talk sessions, that is, if I can even find them to begin with.

I'm dying inside and have been for a long time. I understand a lot of people have it far worse, but it doesn't change the way I feel. But like seriously I don't know how much longer I can handle doing this. I may have to take up smoking to just go get a pack of cigarettes one night and never come back.

And bringing it back to my original topic, since I know I've added a lot of extra stuff without enough context for anyone to really understand my mentality fully: where the fuck are the people online? Like I've been trying for years at this point. I was trying before covid and during covid and so on. The fact it seemed like there were even fewer people online during covid really blew my mind. I mean weren't people at home more since things shut down?

One thing I've started asking other parents in real life is what they do online. I can't remember the last person I've talked to who said they actually try to communicate online. They just watch some things, play a game maybe, and that's it. This is terrifying to me. I've ended up in a role - a father - and I am surrounded by people who are perfectly fine with a hamster wheel lifestyle and actually get off on having as little free time as possible and playing mule for their family doing shit like driving them around all day. Like seriously, what is everyone doing on their goddamn phones as we sit at this or that stupid extracurricular waiting for our kids knowing full well they more than likely are just going to be doing the exact same goddamn thing as us when they grow up, but hopefully they actually enjoy not being connected in any way to those around them, unless they want to compare who has it worst or how little sleep they get or whatever?

And that last bit was really extra, but I'm going to leave it in there for some flavor. But seriously, where are the people online? And why am I even doing this since I have the money to be able to divorce and get out of this situation, at least for my own sake. But then I don't even know what I will do cause I'm terrified at how "empty" the stage online seems to be from age 30 to like 50. So we all just vanish raising kids, not enjoying most of it legitimately since it is all "logistics" for the most part, and then regroup and...are just as lonely since everyone else spent their time doing the same things and oh, maybe we can all start volunteering or do whatever now since there's nothing else to do? Fuck this shit.

I turn 35 soon. Here's what I have to look forward to:

• Homelessness

• Continued unemployment

• Broken and unsalvageable relationships

I was doing amazing this time last year. Had a job, friends, and was looking at homeownership. After getting laid off, my life fell to pieces that seem to keep breaking into smaller and smaller shards. Now, I feel nothing but despair and depression for the future. As Bojack Horseman once said "Life is series of closing doors, isn't it?"

Just as stated. I’m doing great in life, have a great career, wonderful husband, have an 8 month old whom I absolutely adore, own a home, pets, ect. I’m very proud of all I accomplished. I have a good relationship with my parents and feel like I had a pretty decent childhood. Maybe between continuing to age into my 30’s and having a child now, I am getting into my feels about my parents aging along with myself. I also think about everyone’s mortality, like my parents, in-laws, ect. I try to truly care for my parents and spend time with them, but can’t help feeling sentimental and sad. Yesterday (bday) I took a hike by myself. I don’t really want to celebrate birthdays, I just sorta want them to be another day. I know I’m rambling a bit, but I guess I’m looking for others who can relate to these feelings. I understand the answer is to live in the moment. I’m just processing my feelings a bit I suppose. TYIA

I would assume vitamin D, iron, sugar, cholesterol levels are usually to be asked. But is there something more specific you ask your physician? And why?

Hi, I (33M) used to sleep on my sides in my 20s, but i've noticed when I sleep on my sides lately, my shoulders get a little sore the next morning. Am I risk of needing surgery in the long term?

I also lift weights 4 times a week and am generally in good shape

I started a new job in January, working with people in need. I'm two months in and absolutely exhausted. Currently the work demand is super high because there is so much to do. My job can be very rewarding, but at the moment it's extremely draining and I'm barely surviving. I travel a lot too. Probably 1 and a half to 2 hours a day, which is new for me. With travel, I have been working around 55 /60 hour weeks (I am only contracted 37). This is my first full time role in 5 years. I was part time for about a year previously, and didn't work when my son was very small.

My background is a bit hard to explain, but my husband and I have had a rough ride. We carry a lot of grief and trauma over the way our lives have gone. My husband is very skilled, with his own, relatively new, business. After 6 years of hard core study, as a mature adult (with a baby at the time), he's now only earning £24,000 a year, which is not what we signed up for after 6 years living like students. Admittedly he is only 20 hours a week, but we still expected more for his skill level. One of the problems were encountering could be that we live in the more rural part of Wales. His new business is also struggling (even though there is no competition in the area. One would have thought this would be a perfect place for the buisness). Prior to starting his business, he did a good chunk of market research and other private health care clinicians gave him estimated figures of people they could refer to my husbands business. The figures were really good and promising. However, it turns out they were mostly false promises, and only a handful of people actually followed through with their referrals. There's a saying in this area that people promise a lot, but never show up. If they do show up it's months later and too late. I can now see the meaning of that saying.

Our dream for the 6 years my husband was studying, ( that was getting us through the rough times) was for my husband to recieve a well paid salary, that we as a household could live off and to continue growing our family. It's been two years since he graduated and that's not what's happened. In fact, I've had to take on a full time job because we can't sustain ourselves on just his salary. As I say, the job in itself is rewarding and good for my CV, but the hours and work load are killing me. I long to me a mum again. I'm not a spring chick anymore and my little boy is now 5 years old. We are sad that there's going to be such a big age gap between our first and hopefully further kids. Money is preventing us from having more children as we can't live off £24,000 a year and my job does not contractually have long term security. My mother heart definitely grieves.

We are frustrated,upset, confused. We've/ he did tons of marketing etc and on paper and according to others, his business should work and is needed in this area. Our final plan, is to move the buisness to our next nearest town, which is closest to a big city in Wales, and hope that helps.

All this to say I am not enjoying my 30s. I miss the time and money (I probably had more then than now), that I had when I was a student and definitely feel I have no zest for life anymore. It feels like constant crawling through mud and surviving each day. Anyone else relate?

I always had that baby friendly type semi boy band face. So naturally people just assumed I was chatty fun friendly I guess. Approachable.

I made lots of friends at uni.

Now I'm in 30s and if I'm around college or placed young people early 20s even teens talk to me like I'm their age.

Older folk that are my age even say things like we shouldn't talk about that round the younger folk etc haha.

As I feel and wish I was still young I just talk like I'm still their age but I feel in my head like I don't belong its weird.

Watched a documentary on Netflix recently where they did a report on people all over the world turning over a 100 years old and why. What they all have in common is the ability to enjoy the moment in good company, which keeps their spirit sane. I've tried myself now to smoke a good cigar, listen to Nature Ambience (like this playlist: https://open.spotify.com/playlist/0MvXOKmo5I94EBekEu5X5Q?si=ef2f18f4738f4c85&nd=1&dlsi=e636181fbfcb4487), and just sit still for a minute. Can really recommend :)

You either die a youngin, or live long enough to see yourself become the old man. :P

However, to be fair, the kids rode their bikes through my backyard. The ground where they biked through is very soft right now and it's mostly muddy because I've been trying to re-grow grass/clover.

So while it's definitely not the end of the world by any means, I think what actually upsets me is the general disrespect and carelessness the kids displayed regarding other people's (mine) property.

But yeah, "get off my lawn ya whippersnappers!"

Hello,

I was wondering if there are still CS:GO players here, if you are still active or the fact that the game has become too lame has made you give up for good.

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After high school was uni another adventure, then there was lads holidays, etc all the typical landmarks, things like start a band, travelling etc lots of things to look forward to.

But since then as they've been done now what?

Plus it even feels weird or crap to go out no friends anymore to go out with.

If you were into having kids family etc then I guess that's what you do now.

But if that is not your thing then what?

So im 30f and my boyfriend 31m have been together for 6 years and omg we were so inlove and we moved in before 3 years ago and I started restraining him because of how broke he is..he has never paid for the rent or hasn't taken me out for dinner bday anniversary you name it and we wer just fighting for almost a year...I tried to end the relationship but I always go back because I honest to God love him and he is my best friend and he use to work wth the car I gave him doing Uber but now that I rented the car he has been jobless for a year and nwys we broke up 2days ago and I got drunk wth a friend and ended up kissing him...to be honest I wasn't that drunk and then after I woke up my anxiety was all over the place I called him up and chilled at my house and we kissed...now as I lie in my bed my anxiety is about to kill me because I feel so bad for what I have done...shd I confess and beg for forgiveness???

It’s my 36th birthday today. I feel old. I feel like I’m on the downward slope of life. I have a career, a house, a wife, kids….all the stuff I need in life. I just feel old and like I missed out on life and ungrateful for all the stuff I have in life. It makes me feel kind of shitty to be honest. I have nothing to be upset about…but I don’t feel great. Am I alone in feeling this way? Am I just an ungrateful prick?

I started my second degree with 30 which is just very time consuming on learning… I live alone currently in a purchased flat (I still pay off) and I feel that being on your own and studying is really depressing sometimes. I am thinking about going into a shared house to have people around me at some point. I found a really nice room in a wonderful big house with very nice people… They are all just looking for some community in the eveving after work…

I am not sure what to do..

Different thoughts cross my mind… Am I too old for this? Am I weak that I have difficulties with this situation?

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Firstly I'm so not into dating and kids etc so I live a single man's life whatever that may be which is boring and consists if work, video games, football.

This was same when I was young and until about 23 I was good looking and had many friends. Weekends always had options, even if not I was always out and about. I didn't even think about things, I'd just get dressed and go out. Go on day long benders, crash parties etc.

Then I got ugly and old. I ruined my skin years of bad sunbathing. My hairs falling out. I just look crap. But for my age I'm not terrible which Is fair.

But the issue is here comes another weekend. If I were younger I'd be out and about, up town, at a party etc etc.

But now I feel so hideous I don't wanna go out. Nevermind I have no friends anyway.

If I go out most people are much younger lots of college kids 18-22 etc. I guess therr are places for older folk dunno never looked or cared.

But it's so depressing gonna sit in my room until Monday alone.

I just go out and see all the young beautiful folk and get depressed. Feel like no-one wanna talk some random weird old loner. But I wanna go out like before. It sucks.

I used to go out and was happy and smiling now if I go out I'm just moping about anyway.

I’m 34 and I have been really responsible my entire life. I never got pregnant, tried drugs and drank but never to the point where I couldn’t control it, always had a steady job, went to college. I regret it all. I wish that I had been more impulsive in my 20s. I didn’t fall in love much or take risks. Everything I did was planned and calculated. It all came crashing down when my marriage ended I wish I had had more fun and gone for the things I wanted in my youth, like having a child and falling in love, but I tried to always put other peoples wants, needs and desires above my own. Now it feels too late to live that way because everyone else is in their responsible phase and it looks ridiculous to live that way. I am just feeling so lost and confused. Anyone else feel that way?

I have things I love. I don't want to give the impression that I never go out. Or never try anything new. I have hobbies. I have friends.

But at 37... life's gotten kinda repetitive. I guess I don't have anything I'm really looking forward to or working toward anymore besides little things. I'm very nihilistic, and while some people can look at the positives of that, I mostly just feel like everything's pointless. Means I have very little anxiety and am generally pretty chill, but I also don't have a lot of internal drive.

I've also always struggled with depression. It's been bad in the past, but these days it's mostly just that I don't have the stamina other people seem to. Keeping up, being consistent, etc is... really tiring for me. I can do it, but only for so long.

And work... is such an energy killer. People say "have something to look forward to at home." Some days, all I can look forward to is a nap. And again, I have hobbies and interests and friends, I'm just too tired to do any of that after slogging through a workday. And like... what is the point?

Anyway, what keeps you going day to day?

Hey Redditors over 60! I am currently conducting a research project where I would need to potentially recruit participants in the age group 60-80. Participation will be compensated financially and will be completely remote and would just require access to a computer with a webcam. Would any of you be potentially interested in participating in such a study, or how would you suggest I could go about getting people in the age group interested in the study. Just for more info, the study would be to develop techniques to get people to undergo bowel cancer screening since bowel cancer related deaths if diagnosed in early stages are a lot more preventable but sadly screening rates are not very good. Any information, or suggestion regarding this would really help the project out and eventually a great system that could potentially reduce cancer related mortality rate.

What are your goals for this decade?

I’m 32F, deciding to start a new career, and have a boyfriend, but other than that, I’m not very thrilled for this decade. I’m poor, and life is more stressful as I get older. I miss my family members and all the family get togethers from my youth.

Friends my age are hard to keep. They move a lot. I feel very lonely.