/r/R4R40Plus
A place where redditors 40 and over can get to know each other.
Platonic, looking for people with similar interests, single, married, swingers, open relationships, naughty from neglect, friendships, etc. All are welcome.
Perhaps you're younger than 40 but looking for the maturity and stability that can accompany being over 40. You are welcome as well! :)
Please mention your location in your post or flair.
Add flair to your username. Be creative :)
Please mention as specifically as possible what you are looking for in a friend, lover, D&D character, partner, hiking buddy, potential spouse, AP.
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Hello! How are you?
I’m looking for a lasting, engaging and fun conversation and some long nights smiling at my phone. Holidays are over now and everyone could use some conversation! The more interesting you are, the more I will like you and I’m sure the better the conversation will be.
A little about me! I enjoy horror movies quite a lot. I have horror tattoos and I watch them pretty much all year round and I hope you do too. I also really enjoy reading tons of books and occupying my mind with different topics. Ive been on a reading kick lately and trying to read 5 or more books a month.
I really like myself some true crime and making new friends who enjoy interesting and fun things. I also love anything haunted/spooky, I used to be a paranormal investigator when I was younger and have seen some weird things in my life. Have you ever had any paranormal experiences? Let’s talk about it.
If any of this interests you or you’re looking for someone to chat with, I’d love to. Let’s talk!
We were in the store we made eye contact. She came up to me and we had a casual conversation. We exchanged numbers and she asked me out. I am not a superficial guy, But she did not appeal to me physically. We went out and had a good time. She called me the next day, but I am not feeling it. Did I overreact because Valentine's Day is soon, and this would be my first one solo one? I think I need to tell her the just friends speech. Figuring how because I am out of practice
43 m here, based in Gloucestershire, looking for someone local(ish) for regular relaxed fun with room for things to grow into something more serious..
Physically, I'm 6ft tall, have short dark brown hair, dark brown beard (with a few errant greys sneaking in), dark brown eyes, and a dad bad physique.
I'm quite the creative type, and I'm more than happy curled up with a book. I'm equally happy outdoors and love a good walk in the countryside.
Looking for someone who is emotionally available, likes to cuddle up, and is happy to be open about the things they enjoy.
Happy to discuss things in detail and see if we hit it off. My other posts will give a sense of what I like.
Preferably 28+ and local.
Hey, Is anyone interested in seeing some concerts this summer? Mainly 70's and 80's rock music. It seems early but concerts have begun to be announced and tickets are on sale. More will be announced in the coming months.
I am single but not looking for a date or fwb. This will be strictly as friends. I will pay for any shows we go to.
So far I am seeing:
May 2nd: Ace Frehley (kiss) at Starland Ballroom in Sayreville, NJ
July 20th: Styx and Kevin Cronin( reo speedwagon) at PNC Arts Center in Holmdel, NJ
August 8th: Billy Joel and Stevie Nicks at Metlife Stadium in East Rutherford, NJ
August 20th: Billy Idol and Joan Jett at Madison Square Garden in NYC.
I've found the older I've got, the naughtier my sexual behaviour has become. Is this normal? I'm a 6ft tall, white, english male from the UK. 100% single, never married, 0 kids. Average build/stocky build (dad bod). Very pleasant to talk to and the last person you'd think would be as naughty behind closed doors as I am. My friends would be shocked if you told them I used to go to swinger clubs & events. I'm intelligent, well spoken and a gentleman outside and about. I work hard, have a good job, drive, and im a non-smoker.
I'm looking for a lady local to me, 18+, Ideally for a ethical non-monogamous relationship. I would like to explore swinging more seriously with a partner committed to each other. We would attend swinging clubs, parties and events together. So someone very open minded, adventurous and open to new ideas in the bedroom I.e. partner swapping, orgies, soft swap etc. Then in our normal lives we would just do the normal thing expected of us. Work during the day, evenings out, meals in/out. Days out together, cinema, bowling. Holidays/short breaks away together etc. Just like a normal couple.
Obviously there has to be a lot of trust involved, so at first it would just be getting to know each other and if we're compatible both sexually and relationship wise. Then assuming both parties are happy, we would branch out. Create a swinging profile together and look for new adventures.
Please check my profile for pictures of myself, and I also have a women's written success story from a few years ago of an encounter we had together. This is just to prove that I'm genuine, and reliable and 100% serious on this
In response. Please no timewasters or fantasists. This is something that you must really want to do and have maybe thought about doing it for a while but couldn't find a guy, or maybe couldn't approach a guy to talk about this.
Newly created accounts, as well as low karma ones will instantly be deleted and blocked. 99.9% of you are timewasters & fantasists. Initial messages of just 'Hi' or 'Hey' will also be deleted and not replied too. Please respond with your name, sex, age, and location. As well as which post you are replying too. I.e. "Hi, my name is Sophie, I'm a 27 year old female from Manchester, and I'm replying to your post on R4R40Plus"
Dear fellow Redditor,
I don't know where you are when you're reading this. Maybe you're bored at work, or commuting. Maybe you're at home, sitting at your table, browsing while you're eating, or in bed, trying to fall asleep, or about to get up and start your daily routine.
But what I do know is what you and I both have in common: We are missing something. That spice in our life, the thing that excites us and keeps us going. The person we are happy to receive a message from. Someone who is not there physically yet still with us, on our phone, by our side wherever we go. Someone who gives us the rush when that notification appears. Someone who is oddly disconnected from our life, yet so close, in an enticing way where anonymity creates familiarity and closeness.
I want to be that person for you. Would you like to join me in this endeavor?
A bit about myself: I am 32 years old, and from Germany. I have a normal build, with short dark hair, and a trimmed beard. Warm and soft looking eyes, yet equally driven. I love fixing things, and building things. My hobbies range from simple walks and cooking and baking, to DIY and electronics design and repair. I also have watched a lot of TV shows, some of which I would love to talk about if only to know I am not the only one still watching that bizarre show. I am very passionate about the things I do.
I also like to write. It used to be on a request basis for clients, now it is more of a musing for myself, and maybe a passion we can explore together? I posted a few of my stories on my profile.
I would love to take things further in that direction, but only after a while and if the chemistry between us is right.
If you're interested, please introduce yourself:
I don't have a preference for timezones, I am often up late, and I am working from home.
I am willing to switch platforms if we hit it off. I am willing to verify and share my face at some point, and I hope you will, too.
Thank you for taking your time to read this! I am looking forward to your message! 🙂
Are you stuck in an unhappy marriage but have your reasons for staying? Well then we have something in common. If you are looking for someone to help get through everyday life I may just be the one for you. I'm 47 and am looking for someone that's in a similar situation. Start off as online friends get to know each other see where it leads. We may just have a lifelong friendship or the greatest love affair of our lives. I am a very laid back person who wants to take his time and really get to know someone.
I'm in the Finger Lakes area of Upstate NY and I'm kinda just looking to see what all is out here?
Do you laugh and are you into music and do you wave herb sprigs around and call yourself a sensualist? Are you wondering where your mind has ended up and how we all got here and what it all means? Do you like to get increasingly confused out loud about basic astrophysical concepts or Marxist theory you thought you'd grasped when you were watching that youtube? And do you daydream (daymare?) like a stoic about everybody's demise and are you just constantly fuckin freakin out or what the fuck? Do you like coffee and hippie food and are you rad?
I like to laugh I like people who say funny stuff and feel good things and share good stuff and are you a perv and I am a little baked hiiii
Are you hydrating (water)? Did you remember to eat (more than a snack. Actual food)? I want to share what I know about you to be true. Read carefully please. You have a tendency to think and over think. It's ok, though. I have a plan. Wink-wink. You'd like a way to stop thinking and just feel. To shut off your mind. Unplug. An opportunity to not be strong, in charge, and make everything happen. It's so therapeutic, fun, freeing, and liberating to simply feel. Your happiness, wants, needs, and joy all matter. It's a huge challenge for you to say "no". You're a bit of a perfectionist and you get shit done even at the expense of your own happiness. Not, because you want to do it, but because it has to be done and done right. Your struggle is very real.
Self-love/care is my number one priority daily. I love farmers markets, plants, music, (send me the last song you listened to) yelling "UNO" and Vans (the shoes no the vehicle). Amazing dad joke teller, too.
I understand the importance of open/honest communication, trust, and chemistry. I understand and appreciate consent. I have a significant amount of experience in bdsm/kink (7 years). Creating a space for you to shut off your mind. No judgment, no fear. There's my sensual, nurturing, caring, kind, affectionate, forehead kisses and protective. Then, there's powerful, primal, dominant, rough, firm, and aggressive me. Balance is key. If you laughed, smiled, or smirked, you have to message me. The rules are the rules. Sorry, not sorry. Talk to you soon.
First off no guys. Also not looking to give you money for gas, a plane ticket, meds for your family, food for you mom dad brother sister son daughter cat or dog. I will give you a ride but it better be close lol.
Ok so I’m single. Live in wisconsin and have my whole life. Traveled some in the states and a few cruises. Like to fish, go on nature walks, cook, bake, grill and play board or card games.
Looking for someone who is relaxed and fun. Is good at small talk, I’m not. Isn’t super involved in politics or religion. Wants something long term and can stand not being the center of attention all the time.
Thanks and have a good weekend.
Tldr; Traveling long hours alone sucks, wanna find someone chill to chat with and see where the convo leads. I am roaming the US going to National Parks and interesting places out in nature. If you want Camping Cat pics and decent convo, hmu.
Just got back into the US from driving up to Alaska and figured I'd get back on here and see if I can find someone nice to chat with. Met some dope people in the past off here and decided to give it a try again. I'm open to chatting with anyone as long as you can hold a conversation however it would be super dope to meet other nomads on here.
Pics on profile
My current interest:
If anything here resonates with you I'd like to chat, hit me up and let me know your ASL. (We are already friends if you get that reference) And let me know what are your last 3 used emojis. Mine are (😬🐈⬛️🤌🏾)
Hi there! This week felt surprisingly long, so I’m having a quiet night at home watching the Columbus Blue Jackets game & thought it maybe would be nice to get to know someone to pass the evening with. Ideally it would turn into a friendship that lasts longer than just a day though.
I’m 34, living in Ohio, and work a data entry type job that’s fully remote & I love WFH but it definitely can be quiet. I’m a big reader so I spend most of my evenings with a book on my lap and a hockey game on tv for noise (the Ducks are my team, but they don’t play tonight).
Tell me about yourself :)
Hey there 👋
My name is Sean I am a chef 👨🍳 My hobbies include movies, fitness, video games, board games, cooking, and I'm a huge history buff. I enjoy playful fun banter as much as an indepth thought provoking conversation. If this resonates with you send me a message!
I am a single dad in Utah, originally from Seattle, I can carry all the groceries in one trip, and left handed. Looking for that special woman to add to my life.
I am 6’3”, not skinny, but active
I enjoy weightlifting, playing the piano, reading and movies.
What I am looking for:
I am looking for someone awesome that brings a spark with her. Having that connection is the most important to me. The emotional connection matters to me the most. Though dancing together in the kitchen makes it even better. If this sounds like something you want, I would love to hear from you
I've been going through a rough time the past several weeks and could use some companionship tonight. I feel as though the world has become a lot more distant and the loneliness I've been experiencing has intensified. In addition, I have been questioning whether there is anyone for me.
I have a number of past posts that will tell you all about me, if you're interested. I normally am looking for genuine connections, but tonight, I'd appreciate even one time chats.
I seem to be better with helping others with their problems than being emotionally able to deal with my own, so if anything is bothering you, feel free to reach out, it doesn't have to be all about me. But I admit I'm struggling at this moment. Looking forward to hearing from you.
BBW, widow, left-leaning, and not sure if I ever want to get married again—but I do know I want something real. I'm looking for someone over 30 who communicates well, is emotionally present, and doesn’t smoke. Bonus points if you have kind eyes, an easy smile, and a little mystery to you.
I’m a mix of whimsy and depth—I love deep conversations, nature walks, board games, photography, and getting lost in a good book. I appreciate someone who values autonomy but also wants a solid, meaningful connection. If you’re kind, thoughtful, and actually interested in meeting in person, let’s see where this goes.
Hiya Hiya kids! Hangin' at home without a gig to play tonight. Thought I'd see if anybody wants to enjoy some convo about music, life, or basically anything else.
Me: exceptionally tall, long-haired drummer, lover of jazz/classic rock/Grateful dead/classical piano/bluegrass. College degree, professional day job, politically liberal/progressive. Loves lots of music, coffee, cats, baseball, and a warm summer day.
You: able to have a real conversation about shared interests or teach me something new and cool, warm, friendly. Slender/average build. No MAGA, please.
Hope to hear from you tonight!
Hey my name is Alex I'm 33 and from New York I'm also paralyzed from a accident so that's slowed down life quite a bit I enjoy things like racing gaming spending time with family on holidays I watch lots of shows and movies from anything to like Yellowstone or Riverdale I play all different kinds of games all I'm looking for is someone to talk to throughout the day and if it turns into something then it does and if it doesn't it doesn't I'm definitely a go with the flow type just shoot me a chat on here and we can get to talking as you can tell I'm terrible with punctuation it never made sense to me lol and if you don't want to talk I hope you have a incredible day and find someone to talk to bc you're here looking just like me
I’m 5’6, plain, 135 lbs dark hair, dark eyes. Olive complexion. Live in my own apartment. If there is any woman in your life who is under the impression that she is married to you or in a relationship with you- I am not for you.
I miss hugging somebody. I want to share forehead kisses. I want to sit next to you quietly and intertwine our fingers and listen to you if you have something to say. I want to rest my head on your shoulder or have you rest yours on mine.
I don’t have any happening hobbies or happening interests and am not a fan of loud music. I enjoy solitude, reading, Audible, cleaning, trying out restaurants, and petting dogs. I am quiet. I have a job that I like. I cook. I walk when I can. I read a lot. I try to be and wish for someone who isn’t searching for sex, is non-judgmental, caring, affectionate, humble, kind, gentle, loyal, consistent, independent, respectful. Do I want all that ? No . I am only looking for a person who will hold my hand and hug me every day.
If you are older and bigger than me, you already are a good fit.
Send me an introduction please. I hope you are local. Thank you.
I'm interested in talking to someone more experienced and learn more about someone stable and knowledgeable about her own body. Guide me and teach me or let me show you how much I am capable of lusting over you.
My previous history on this account might deter you, not because its too much for you or whatever, but rather because I don't usually do sensual roleplay and whatnot. Hopefully it doesn't though and we get to know each other at a deeper level
Want to see what I look like?
Want to hear my voice?
A bit about me, and what I'm looking for:
Things I like/do:
Hint: a quick intro from you -- name, ASL, and a photo -- goes a long way in starting a great conversation!
Hey there! I’m Danny, a 30-year-old marketing professional with a creative streak and a knack for making people laugh. I use a wheelchair for longer distances, but don’t let that define me—I’m independent, driven, and always ready to seize life’s adventures. I’m here to find someone special to share meaningful moments filled with fun, laughter, and unforgettable memories.
What It’s Like Dating Me
• VIP Parking: Always get the best spots—no more circling endlessly.
• Skip the Line: Hate waiting? Me too. We often skip straight to the fun.
• Laughter Guaranteed: My injury stories are hilariously absurd—you’ll be laughing in no time.
• Unexpected Perks: From freebies to kind gestures, life’s full of surprises with me.
• Zombie Apocalypse Ready: I might not be the fastest, but I’m reliable—you’ll always know where I am!
A Bit About Me
I’m passionate about creativity, culture, and making the most of life. Whether it’s diving into a great book, watching an intriguing movie, or getting immersed in a video game, I love finding new ways to connect with the world.
I enjoy staying active, whether through home workouts or exploring nature (wheelchair included). Traveling is a big part of my life—I’ve explored Canada, the USA, Colombia, the Bahamas, and Mexico, and I’m always dreaming of my next destination. Bonus: I also speak Spanish!
Art, music, and storytelling are my favorite ways to connect with people. Whether it’s visiting an art gallery, sharing favorite playlists, or discussing life’s mysteries, I thrive on meaningful conversations.
What I’m Looking For
I’m open to connecting with women from all walks of life—whether you’re younger, older, nearby, or far away. What truly matters is that we click. Here’s what I value most: • Sense of Humor: Let’s laugh at life’s quirks together. • Open-Minded & Grounded: Drama-free, adventurous, and down-to-earth? Yes, please. • Ready for Connection: Whether it’s friendship or something more, I’m excited to explore. • Flirty & Fun: Playful energy keeps things exciting, and I’m all about that.
Why You Should Message Me
If you’re looking for someone who treasures meaningful conversations, loves sharing adventures, and brings positivity to every moment, I’m your guy. I believe the best relationships are built on trust, shared experiences, and plenty of laughter. Whether it’s discovering hidden gems, enjoying cozy movie nights, or swapping stories, I’ll bring warmth, wit, and a genuine desire to connect.
Oh, and just so you know, my wheelchair doesn’t limit me from fully enjoying life—including all aspects of a romantic relationship.
Let’s Make Memories
I’m all about embracing life, trying new things, and going with the flow. Whether it’s a spontaneous road trip, exploring a quirky art exhibit, or diving into an unexpected adventure, I want someone equally excited about making memories. It’s about cherishing the big adventures and the small joys alike.
Final Thoughts
Distance isn’t a deal-breaker if we click. Whether you’re nearby or across the world, I believe meaningful connections can thrive with the right energy. I value personal growth, effective communication, and a balance of empathy, generosity, and loyalty in every relationship.
If you’re in your twenties or beyond, love exploring new experiences, and enjoy deep conversations with a creative, grounded, and adventurous partner, let’s connect. Tell me your favorite story or adventure—I’d love to hear it. Let’s see where this journey takes us.
I am dipping my toes back in after a hiatus. I am looking for that ever-elusive spark, that one new human connection that we can embrace and enjoy and mold to our liking. Let’s carve out our own little corner of the world and decorate it however we want, with all the colors of Life’s palette.
I am 45, married, discreet, and genuinely happy with my reality but could use a little bit more excitement and exploration. I love to listen to music, play sports, write poetry, and laugh. I remain an optimist but also have rolled with enough punches to be pragmatic about it all.
Physically, I’m 5’11, white/pale, with strong legs, broad shoulders, and decent shape at 200 lbs. (active lifestyle). I am an experienced bedroom dominant and love a woman in sexy thongs, for starters. Nothing turns me on more as I loved being teased relentlessly with your thong sticking out ever so slightly before you slowly reveal the rest. If you really want to get my attention, tell me your age, favorite music genre, and favorite thong/gstring color when you respond to my post.
Ultimately, I’m looking for something that resonates in many ways. Let’s add to each other’s lives in a positive way and see where it leads. Lastly, if you have communication skills and an open mind, I’d especially love to hear from you.
Trying to find someone who's fun to talk to and wants a long-term relationship online. I say relationship because I don't want this to be something where we don't feel a connection but frankly what I am looking for is a sexual partner online, sorry if that sounds crude but it is what it is.
But, not just that, we should certainly feel something for each other so we look forward to our time together. The best-case scenario is that we risk falling in love, even if we don't want to. Someone to chat the week through and 'chill' out with on weekends.
We will eventually move onto another more reliable and real-time platform than Reddit. So be open to that.
Are you tired of fast dying chats and looking for a real friend at first and want to see where it gets us?
Looking for new friends from around the world. I like music, handcraft, videogames, beautiful landscapes and meeting new people for more or less deep talks.
Biker and car enthusiast (I like to believe not the annoying kind), lover of good food and drinks.🥳 Enjoyer of old books and stories, mostly classical horror and German folklore. Fan of everything that's heavy metal.
I am 6‘2“ and a bit chubby, if that matters to you. 27 years old and single
Historian of my friendsgroup, many interests and useless knowledge here, buuut..
..sometimes I am good for an advice in life. If you are feeling lonely or anything else, let me hear about it, my ears are wide open.
I am more of an old soul, I value traditions.
not looking for anything in particular, but I have made a lot of good friendships with more mature people.
Educated, funny and genuine. Maybe a catch? Who knows. I just try to be myself. I have a successful career and enjoy adulting most days. Looking for my match!
Interests:
-comedians
-gardening -home projects
Looking for: Long term connection with someone who keeps in touch regularly and can function successfully in a normal society.
PS: I do not like direct messages. Chat is preferred.
Hey, I’m a 27-year-old guy from Pune, and I’ve always been attracted to older women (30-50). Right now, I’m in the mood for some exciting, naughty conversations—sexting, teasing, and maybe more if we vibe well. I love a woman who’s confident, knows what she wants, and isn’t afraid to explore.
If you’re feeling a little neglected or just craving some fun, let’s talk. No drama, no pressure—just pure enjoyment. Message me if you’re in the mood.
If you also find Bumble, Hinge, and the rest of those apps more exasperating than a Rubik's cube in the hands of a toddler, then congratulations—you've just found a kindred spirit, haha. I figured I'd give Reddit a shot, since I think it's more conducive to quality conversation.
Anyways, here's a bit about me:
What I'm Looking For:
Finally, I gotta share some funny stories from the apps—
Anyways, if you're up for some great conversation on this Friday, feel free to reach out!
Hello☺️
I'm 33 years old, and an officer in the Air Force.
I like cooking, baking sourdough and pizzas 🍕 (you should check out my profile), gardening, and doing DIY projects. I'm trying to work on my garden, and these days, I'm growing some young fruit trees and winter vegetables.
My small chubby corgi provides me company when I'm home, my neighbors take care of her when I'm away.
I want to meet someone to discuss recent events and the last few months. Most nights, I feel a bit lonely and need to process things.
I'm willing to exchange pics (in my uniform👻) with the right person
Thanks, I am looking forward to messages :)
English guy living in london, always liked American girls, for lots of different reasons.
Would love to find someone and to settle down
Obviously would be perfect to find someone currently in London or the UK but equally open to someone who’s in the US.
Really easy going, preferably someone who’s into similar stuff as me. Can exchange pics
I’ve written down a list of things I’m into below so hopefully something will grab your attention, feel free to ask me anything
Things I like...
enjoying the summer, nose rings, reading, Sunday roasts, films, primrose hill, dusk, music, bed, tate modern, dylan, old streets in London, late night black and white films, rain, architecture, graffiti, trashy television, cooking, history, autumn, brutalism, romantic comedies, william s burroughs, cake, being alone, pretty feet, photography, BBC four, typography, wandering around new places, burgers, the barbican, skylines, cheese, late nights in soho, sunsets, back dimples, random old jazz, cult movies, bus rides in the rain, walking along the canal, drawing, november, late night phone calls, malbec, train journeys, accents, summer solstice, fineliner pens, drinking tea outside when it’s cold, sunrises, taxi driver, bed days, looking out the window when its raining, tracey emin, freckles, christmas, old cameras, walking down by the river at night, girls riding bikes with baskets on the front, lying and watching clouds, frosty leaves, hats, thunderstorms, long hair, stationary, tea, the lower east side, good shoes, frank lloyd wright, polaroids, the office, texting at random hours, my fountain pen, making things, chocolate, poetry, lazy sundays, the doors, kerouac, writing, jack daniels, sunsets, old book shops, late night talk radio, being by the sea on a cold day