Does anyone recommend 32 degrees brand? The prices seem too good to be true. Is it poor quality? How about the underwear?

I used to love to watch college and pro basketball in the 70's to see the short shorts players were wearing to gaze at the round asses and succulent bulges. Then came the 80's and 90's and the players were wearing baggier shorts. Is it me or are the short shorts making a come back? At least in College bbk?

So I have always been an avid crotch admirer. It only got me in trouble once. As I get older I don't do it as much. When I have been celibate for weeks or months I was doing is what seemed like 24/7. I even try to find tight pants and bottoms to show mine off. Do you guys still like to look at bulges and crotches, no matter how old you get?

Have been in Texas for a while and I feel like it's time to move. The political climate and the weather being the major factors. Oh and not forgetting the horrible drivers, little to no rights to tenants etc. I am considering either las vegas or Seattle. I like Seattle for the beaches and friendliness to LGBTQ people in the state of Washington. I don't know much about Las Vegas except for the casinos lol. I work in the service industry, Las Vegas is good for that. Help me decide. Opinions from anyone who has lived( or know anyone who has lived) in either city.

At 43 years old I never thought I’d be dumb enough to get into this situation. I met this guy about 3 months ago and we have hooked up semi-regularly and we talk/text almost every day. From the outset we agreed to be FWB. He’s not ready for something more serious at this point and I get it.

However, we had plans recently to hangout he changed plans at the last minute - all good, life happens. Later that night, I get a text from a mutual friend saying she is at a bar and the FWB is making out with another dude. He told me he had to go home for the night and couldn’t meet up.

From lurking here for awhile let me say that yes, I know we aren’t exclusive and can sleep with whomever we want. That isn’t what is eating at me - it’s the fact that he blatantly lied to me.

AITA for texting him that I need to end the entire relationship and to do it without saying why?

Hey, gay brothers!!!

Yesterday, my brother and I were talking about vocal/non-vocal sex.

We both agree that dirty talk, moaning, huffing and puffing, while having sex, make us see that the guy is really enjoying it. But, if there’s silence, we both think that the guy is just f*kking and feeling nothing, as if he were an android, a robot.

We may be wrong, but we both dislike silent sex.

What about you, guys? What are your thoughts about it?

Thanks in advance!

I've made a Spotify playlist of House (aka new disco) tracks. I'm looking for more. If you don't know, disco didn't die. It rebranded as House and lives on in Hip hop.

So here's my list.

Finally Ready - The Shapeshifters and Billy Porter

100 Degrees (Still Disco to Me) - Kylie Minogue and Dannii Minogue

When Someone Loves You - Emeli Sandé and Nile Rodgers

Honey Boy - Purple Disco Machine, Benjamin Ingrosso and Nile Rodgers

Magic (Purple Disco Machine Extended Mix) - Kylie Minogue and Purple Disco Machine

Kill The Lights - Alex Newell, DJ Cassidy and Nile Rodgers

Get Lucky - Daft Punk, Pharrell Williams and Nile Rodgers

Not This Time - The 2 Bears and Gary Go

Life is a Dancefloor - The Shapeshifters and Kimberly Davis

Bring On The Rain - The Shapeshifters and Joss Stone

Everything's Gonna Be Alright - Mark Knight, Beverley Knight and London Community Gospel Choir

Go All Night - Gorgon City and Jennifer Hudson

Late Nights and Pheromones - Terrence Wildë

'Til I'm Done - Paloma Faith

Sex, Love & Water - Armin Van Buuren and Conrad Sewell

Overnight - Parcels

Out of My Depth - CHANEY and Nu-La

Adventure of a Lifetime - Coldplay

Lose You - Sam Smith

Hot - La Felix

I Wanna Be Your Lover - Mark Knight, Beverley Knight and Sgt Slick

All of these are made in the 2010s until now. What makes these tracks new disco? Some obviously have collabs with Nile Rodgers. Some have female power vocals. Most just have that *sound*.

So let's have less discussion of what makes a track new disco and just add tracks you dance to into the list.

I'm a 35-year-old unmarried man, happily enjoying my life as a single guy. I admire bear-type alpha males, but I’m not interested in relationships or commitment. I tried dating a girl back in college, but it didn’t work out, so I gave up on that, and life just went on as usual.

Right now, I live alone and run my own business in car accessories, which I started in 2014—it's been 11 years now.

I've never seriously considered marriage (to a woman), but I do enjoy having close male friends—someone I can talk to, spend time with, and do almost everything together. Recently, I met a married man with two daughters. He has that bear-type build I admire, and he spends a lot of time with me. He invites me over for dinner at his house almost every day, makes a lot of jokes about straight sex, and I laugh along to keep the conversation flowing. He’s also the first to text me in the morning and before bed at night. He lives with his wife.

This has been happening daily, and I really enjoy the attention he gives me. I like him—I like spending time with him, hearing his jokes, and having him as company. I try to return the attention, but I don’t want him to realize I’m gay. I respect his wife and don’t want to ruin his life.

The problem is, I think I’ve gotten hooked on him, and I’m really afraid of losing a friend like this. Sometimes, I imagine being intimate with him, but the thought terrifies me—what if he’s not into that? It could ruin everything.

I’ve noticed the way he looks into my eyes, and it makes me wonder if he’s thinking the same thing. Is he interested in me in that way, or am I just filling a void in his life? I can’t control my feelings—I want more of him, but I’m scared of what might happen.

Should I just keep admiring him in secret, or should I confess?

Thanks for your comment😊

I discussed with my doctor checking my T levels, and he said I was too young to worry about that (I’m 33). Doctor said that even if my T levels were low, the negative long term effects of starting hormone treatment would outweigh the benefits. So he advised to wait a few more years.

Have you tried natural T boosters? Have those worked for you? I still need to get my T levels checked, but first I wanna get input from my gay bros to make an informed decision.

I’m highly considering moving to Philadelphia in the near future, as I’ve been considering it for a few years, but now I have a great opportunity to finally make the change. I’m currently living in Houston, and I’ve been to Philly many times (grew up in New Jersey). I have no family here anymore and I’m not a fan of Texas. What’s the gay vibe like in "The City of Brotherly Love"?

The husband and I have been talking about and educating ourselves on opening up our relationship for the past year or so.

My question for those who started in mono and moved to open/cnm/poly-esque ...

Did yall inform your friends about it? My husband suggested that we send a text to several of our friends letting them know. To me, that sounds weird as I think it's just something I would bring up were it necessary or if a conversation lead that way/provided appropriate opportunity.

He essentially wants to say something like:

"Hey starting tomorrow you might see me and Weldzy on the apps. We are starting to practice consensual non monogamy not sneaking around lol. Nothing is wrong just trying something new :)"

Really, I'm just curious what others have done and why.

TIA

Hey gaybros! How are you doing? I wanted to ask your opinion. I met a guy from Hinge last year on August and we connected really well. It happened to be we are studying in the same Uni. So, sometimes we meet each other in between classes. After three months of texting and talking, I finally decided to asked him to go on a date. But, unfortunately, he said that he liked me as a friend and told me that I am the only friend he got in Uni [insert your sad song here]. I was a bit disappointed about that but I like having him in my space and decided to say that it is okay if you just wanted to be my friend.

I try my best to leave my feeling at the moment he said that yet I couldn't lie to myself that I still have it until now. We are not meeting each other that often, but when we do, we are agree that we both had a great time. We are still texting even though he is not always responsive. He shared his stories about meeting people, go on dates, and he told me that he sometimes shared stories about us to the guys he met.

Something bothering my mind and heart recently. There is this urge within me wanting to tell him that I still have feeling for him. On the other hand, I am super afraid that I will lose everything we have and that statement will make us distant. We are both 30, in case you are wondering how mature we are haha. Do you think I should just tell him that I still have a romantic feeling for him or should I just try swallow it and keep telling myself that it'll pass? You can be brutally honest to me!

Thanks gaybros! Really appreciate your replies :)

When Trump got elected, we strongly considered our line in the sand being censorship of dissenting voices but with what's currently going on is unraveling much faster than we could have feared. I'm aware of this being a fear mongering tactic targeting our cognitive limits and I still like to be prepared for all sorts of scenarios. Right now, I'm not. For the time being, we are staying put.

Are you starting to seriously consider contingency plans? Do you already have them?

Just another hopeless romantic struggling to succeed after a break up. I hate who I’ve become as I try to regain composure of my life without him. Some days I have great clarity and feel normal, others I am in bed crying.

After dating for a two years and being together for about 2.5 “we drifted apart” and officially split about 6 months ago. He’s the only guy I’ve ever connected with.

I hate how I still think about him most days, I wonder if he ever thinks of me, knowing he probably doesn’t and hasn’t for months. Being from a small town we would run into each other now and then, so I left my hometown and moved to a bigger city.

I bury myself in work and i’ve gone on many dates, lots of hookups and gaycations in effort to fill my mind with more recent and pleasant memories. And some of its worked, I nearly cannot remember what he looked like, but I still think about him. The way he made me feel, the strength and confidence in being gay I gained being with him. It’s not even that he was that great of guy, as most of my friends didn’t care for him, but he was my ally and my confidante, and I struggle to believe I’ll ever have trust in a guy again.

I have to return back home next week and I am dreading it and the feelings it brings me when I go back. I’ve packed my schedule to hopefully keep my myself busy, but any thoughts on moving the needle a little further away from my depressing side and more towards the reality side is appreciated.

As the title says.

I've experienced this more than once. I knew I was gay since I was 7 so I've always been attracted to men and never had doubts of my sexuality. I did question my gender when I was a kid, on the basis that maybe because I liked men it would be easier if I was a woman, even trying on dresses for fun/exploration, but it didn't felt like it defined me. I've never been in a relationship, but have dated/hooked up a lot with cis men. Never slept with a trans man, but have faced internal conflicts I'd have should I ever meet one after knowing after a date. My gaydar is pretty good and I can tell when straight dudes are curious/closeted.

In my lifetime I have met a handful of women that just draws me in and later on I find out they've transitioned into hot dudes (who are either gay or straight). The initial draw isn't sexual attraction. I can't quite put my finger on it, but it's just something that makes me want to get to know them better.

That there's something special about them.

This actually throw me off a few times and made me question myself if I was truly gay, but I have zero interest sexually in women nor ever get that emotional investment. It has nothing to do with masculinity, because I have found myself attracted to all kinds of men across the fem/masc spectrum. A tomboy or butch lesbian doesn't give me that same draw.

I thought it was a chemical/pheromone thing, but this draw extends past screens even if I have never met them before - like actors. When I think about Elliot Page back when he was in "Juno", I had the exact same gut feeling. Same with Jack Haven in "Atypical".

Just to be clear, I'm not a trans chaser (don't understand that). And just because one has transitioned, doesn't mean I'm sexually attracted to him unless he looks like Ty Olsson/James Gandolfini. And he needs to be gay.

It's just a sort of vibe when I meet a girl - a lightbulb clicks in my head and i think "huh, you're one of us.".

I somehow managed to land a guy way out of my league, and everything is going great for 5 months we've been dating. However, I've become insecure in our relationship because I just feel like he's just eventually find someone better or I'll mess something up. I've never been the kind of person to need these types of reassurances in a relationship, and I really don't want to come across as needy talking to him about this.

Mainly just venting, but any advice?

So this just came to mind, People who like to give or recieve rough BJ's (mouthfucking, deepthroat etc) have you ever loosen a dental crown?

I've got one that even though it's not loose at all, it's gonna have to be swapped by an implant because the post that goes into my gum apparently isn't looking great. Have you ever heard of it happening?

For Context: https://www.reddit.com/r/AskGaybrosOver30/s/37GsSrvnqn

Thank you all for the advice and feedback! While some things can be difficult to hear, I do appreciate all the different perspectives, and as many have said, relationships are hard. Thought I’d share a few updates, as well as a bit more context regarding my situation. Strap in, this might be a lot and apologies in advance as this may be in multiple paragraphs LOL!

For the past month, I have deleted almost all dating apps from my phone, and the ones that have stayed (Facebook dating and Sniffies) have only been fleeting and logged onto in moments of extreme loneliness and/or horniness. No long term conversations have come out of this, nor have any dates or hookups. I am trying to do other things in my spare time outside of work and other activities.

This has admittedly been very hard for me to sit with as I am realizing how much I have relied upon external emotional and/or physical and sexual validation for so long now. My “body count” over the past decade is very high which is in no small part due to my one-track quest to find “the one,” plus my intense loneliness/depression, dopamine-seeking fueled “sex addiction” and tendency to over rely on physical contact to make up for my lack of social skills in most cases (I am also mostly a “side” but have topped a few times, and tend to finish first or climax fast, which leads to additional issues of long term sexual compatibility with most guys from my experience).

I have also tended to mix up emotional connection and romance with sex and physical intimacy, and it has been very difficult for me to compartmentalize these things in my brain. This has been a factor in many of the burned bridges I alluded to before, with people I really liked (one sided) or people who really liked me but I couldn’t quite reciprocate (also more one sided).

I have also tried more of the casual meetup places like bathhouses but cant tolerate it for long because I may get emotional, jealous, and reactive feeling “passed over” for someone else or because the types of connections made in those sorts of places aren’t meant to be anything deeper or genuine and I have admittedly had a few meltdowns in such establishments (mostly in the form of “calling out” mixed messages I feel I receive from others there, and/or storming out and leaving). Not to mention the STD risks taken there (I have gotten both genital herpes and syphilis in such establishments, both treated now).

The handful of men that I have really liked (the right combination of physical attraction, personality, interests, lifestyle) who also fully or somewhat reciprocated with their interest in me, were all mostly fast, hard and over in a flash on my end . Most lasted only a few weeks with me coming on very strong, getting overly emotional or anxiously attached, with the other party retreating or calling things off, and me typically not realizing all this until later, with hindsight and reflection.

The one exception to this was someone I had known intimately (originally a grindr hookup/fwb) for about 8 months, but we were “official” for 6 months. Sweet handsome fit and intelligent guy but with a lot of his own mental health issues (lots of early childhood trauma, probably some undiagnosed autism and bipolar disorder) who was a single dad and a sergeant in the Army living on a military base in my area. He was very tender and our physical attraction/sexual chemistry was strong, when he was in the mood (I had a more consistent libido). Plus we had deep intellectual conversations about our shared interests and he seemingly had the sensitivity and emotional availability I was craving. I got to know his young son as well and became a supportive figure for both of them especially after he started getting in trouble with the Army, including babysitting his kid and taking him on adventures while he was charged with extra duty with the Army. His kid eventually flew back to be with his mother as a part of their shared custody and I remained supportive of him even through a dishonorable discharge out of the Army due to various violations, helped him find a job and an apartment, partially supported him financially, and tried to keep him from falling into a further into depression and nihilism. He was very hot and cold with me and the relationship was increasingly more one sided. When he was “hot” and more loving it continued to provide me with the necessary validation to keep going despite living an hour’s drive away at this point (I went every weekend at the expense of my own life). I did one time notice grindr notifications on his phone when we were eating out, and when I asked about it, he explained it was more for solidarity, networking and friendships with older single dads and “ex straight” guys who could understand his struggles better. I forgave him instantly and even apologized for questioning, as I was so afraid of losing what I thought I had with him. A couple months after that, he said we should take a break so he could work on “spiritual healing” and that he needed to be with his mother and sisters across the country but not sure when this move would happen, and that I was “too good for him.” I had struggle reading the cues from this, and when I still insisted on being together before he moved, he “officially” broke up with me a few weeks later (on my birthday of all days). I was both relieved because of all the one sided effort I was putting into it, but also emotionally reeling and essentially begged for him back over the next couple days, with him coming up to see me in person for a final time and “treating me” to dinner with one final kiss before saying we should just be friends. Despite the finality and the message relayed across of needing to work on personal growth and healing, he was with another guy less than a month later who was very toxic and bringing out the worst in him, and he would vent to me about it via text, which I allowed over the next year. We met one more time when he convinced me into coming to see his kid who was visiting again. Eventually he was living in a trailer doing drugs with this guy and ultimately became homeless during one of their fights and ran away/was kicked out. That’s when I lost full contact with him. I tried to help but he refused a lot of it and was very up and down over text with a lot of suicidal ideation. The last message ended with him claiming he needs to go MIA to escape his ex and work on himself, but how he missed me. I still have some emotional connection to him despite it all. And this was my longest, most “real” and “healthiest”relationship, before or since. Mostly because I haven’t had the opportunity to be with anybody else for that long.

I do have childhood trauma, as mentioned before, but sometimes feel like it pales in comparison to others. I had a pretty comfortable upper middle class life in an idyllic mountain ski town. All my basic physical needs were met. However, things were very heteronormative and homophobic growing up, plus there was no real recognition nor supports for neurodiversity. I had a very loving but almost helicopter mother and a supportive loving father who was also very blunt and critical in many ways and still knows how to hit all my triggers and insecurities better than anyone else can (sometimes unintentionally). I was bullied and ostracized and/or disciplined by both non-family adults and peers from a young age including being locked in rooms by staff at a daycare when I was three years old due to “behavior issues and disrupting other kids” (something my memory partially blocked out but explains a lot of my social anxiety and core beliefs when it comes to being less important than others, a “problem,” not like “normal people.”) Kids ostracized and gossiped about me for a variety of reasons, usually gay related, but also my appearance or weight, my emotional volatility, the way I dressed, etc. The friends I did have in childhood never stuck, due to either my own tunnel vision style of emotional intensity and anxious attachment, and/or through peer pressure for them to not be my friend as I was often the pariah. Because of my issues with rejection sensitivity and emotional dysregulation due to my undiagnosed AuDHD, I occasionally had big reactions to the bullying which made things even worse and painted an even larger target on my back. I also began have massive meltdowns or tantrums at home with my family, partially due to various triggers at home but also all the micro-aggressions from school and peers adding up and me releasing these emotions in a safer space. It got to a point of near suicide in middle school at which point, as a means of survival in my adolescent mind, I sort of gave up and shut down to the possibility of connecting with peers and stayed that way throughout most of high school and part of college. I missed out on a lot but also leaned into a lot of my own unique tastes and interests being a loner and got super into working out and the outdoors and the access to all the natural beauty around me. I lost a lot of weight and got pretty fit particularly with cardio/running as my body and weight were a point of criticism and bullying for me (still struggle with body dysmorphia). I did do sports in high school but kept everyone at arms length. Eventually became depressed and feeling too cut off living like this after so long, and started counseling. At this point I was just working on accepting my sexuality and finally worked up the courage to have my first conscious orgasm at age 20. This soon morphed into a Grindr and sex addiction while looking for love in a hookup context with minimal social skills, with all the drama that entails. Silver lining was I did meet one of closest friends out all those experiences.

I have had several counselors over the past 10 years, but have been intentionally trying to address some of my more problematic thoughts and behaviors more directly as of late, versus venting or unpacking trauma or seeking comfort or validation as I did a lot of before. This includes behavior chain analyses and understanding my attachment type and traumas better. I have grown in many other ways and feel accomplished academically and professionally, I am relatively healthy and fit, enjoy nature and outdoors, and have a variety of unique interests and attributes I feel I bring to the table. I do have some friends but mostly from people I met at work and through LGBT type venues and dating apps. I have taken baby steps towards meeting more people outside of the exclusively gay and sex or dating based contexts, and trying to work on my life and focus on what fills my cup more. Its hard to qwith ADHD burnout from work and social anxiety/fear of rejection. The hardest part by far of all this is the fear of missing out on something good finally happening romantically speaking, and ending up growing old without experiencing the significant other in my life that I get to see so many others get to experience, regardless of the challenges and sacrifices this may come with. Especially considering all the good qualities I like to think I have, if more people would just give me a chance. I haven’t completely given up on dating either, just modified how I approach it. I have started attending more in person speed dating events. Previously the matches I made ghosted shortly after, and at the last event earlier this week, I had zero matches altogether, but this almost inspires me to want to keep trying especially since most apps are off my phone now.

My question now is am I doing all the right things currently? Or was there something else I should be doing or focusing my energies on, as far as my strong desire to find a romantic match and closer friends, as and/or the urge to move and change jobs again to reset and break the stagnancy. Apologies again for the massive info dump and going on the tangent that I did, just thought it’d be helpful to have some more context!

I wore a rainbow watch band to the gym today, after my workout I went to the sauna. I knew to avoid eye contact with strangers, but luckily I recognized the three guys already in there from the morning crowd who I see almost everyday. I sat adjacent to one of them and quickly noticed he was staring at me a bit too aggressively. I reached max. discomfort when I noticed his boner, so I decided to leave. As I stood up he told me to meet him in the handicap shower and he was rubbing his dick above his underwear!

Wearing a rainbow thing does not give him consent to rub his dick and assume that I will be down to fuck in the shower. And if rainbow accessories became the new cruising hanky code without my knowledge, it still doesn't give consent on behalf of the other men in there!

I would have liked to connect with him if he had approached me normally. I am dreading seeing any of the guys from the sauna if I go to the gym to tomorrow. I might not for that reason. And I am officially never wearing rainbow things again.

So I (30) met this guy (37) on Tinder and we were talking hot for a while. We planned to do some things today.

Basically he wanted to show up at the house today, not have any conversation and hookup.

I am not into that, so I asked him to meet me at a bar, where he mentioned he is sober so I respected that!

We had some discussions, I tried to be real with him and asked some of his experiences, how he dealt with being gay etc! Maybe he was not into that kind of talk so he tried to avoid that conversation outright. I told him about my situation, how I am a Bi and not out yet etc.

In my head, we had a decent conversation. I always have good, meaningful conversations with anyone I meet.

Cut to the house, I tried to initiate the sex and we made out which he was also into. But he was not getting hard at all. I tried few other things, but now he wanted to stall and talk?

He was giving me mixed signals, like at the bar he wanted to go home and have sex and at the home he wanted to talk.

I realized maybe he just isn’t in me and kept stalling going to the bed.

We had a moment were he kept looking in my eyes for a full minute in make out position, and me being me felt that it was weird. And that was it, I knew he was not feeling it as he was still not hard.

We had some chit-chat, he told me he needs some meaningful connection to have sex, but that is completely opposite of his approach to try to meet up my place directly and start doing the deed. Like how can we have meaningful connection without talking?

Anyways, when he was leaving he kept complementing me, even kissed me? I told him I won’t be seeing him again and that was it.

Now my head is totally screwed, like what did I do wrong in the whole thing? Is it wrong to open up to people before sex? Do I need to change my game? Or the guy had ED!

I do have stretch marks on my body, maybe that was a turn off? But he was still not hard before seeing them. I am very fit and athletic otherwise. He kept saying how cute I was and how nice my eyes were.

Also now I am conscious of these stretch marks which was not an issue for another guy I met. They are permanent, and I for sure can’t fix them.

I am so confused. He has deflated my motivation to now even meet another guy like this. If another guy refuses me like this again, I am TOTALLY swearing off dates. I feel like crap for the very first time. 😭

I'm trying not to get overwhelmed and to focus on a couple of areas, but my activism in the past wasn't productive. I'm thinking about wearing a t shirt with a big pink triangle to remind people where the road of "othering" leads to, but I'd like to plug in to a larger movement that gets results. Suggestions?

Let's hear some hot stories. I'm asking about partners and significant others instead of hookups because it's typically a given that sex is about to happen when you meet a hookup.

Hi all,

This weekend I was walking to the park with my boyfriend, who was wearing a shirt with a pride flag on it. We saw two teenagers (13 or 14 years old?) with bikes standing outside a house. As we are passing by, one of them starts riding at us, very exaggeratedly yelling "WOAAAAAAAH", acting as if his bike was out of control. I knew what he was doing and didn't even look over at him. As he rode right by us, he yells "GAYEEEE", then rides off ahead of us with his friend. I have CPTSD from my really shitty childhood, and this interaction thoroughly shut me down.

We walked to the park wordlessly. Once we got there, my boyfriend started remarking about some park amenity or something. I did not really respond, as I was stuck in a ruminative, shut down kind of state. He asked me if I was ok. I asked him "did you hear what that kid said?" He says "Yeah." I was like "but it did not register in the same way for you." He said "it did. I was thinking about what I would do if he attacked us." I told him "I'm still thinking about it." He tried to take my mind off of it, but I couldn't really ground myself.

We kept walking, did a couple of laps around the park, and then, behind us, the kid and his friend come up. They come very close to us, riding past us, the one kid yelling "GAAAAAAY, GAAAAAY, GAAAAAAY". Neither of us said anything, just stared. Thankfully, they rode off down the street. We decided it would probably be best to head back home.

I feel really resentful. Really ashamed. Even though I don't know that giving them any response would have helped in any way, I feel so bad for allowing a stupid kid to make me feel so helpless. I can't stop thinking about how dismissive so many people would be of this, too. I feel really alone.

Does it actually make any difference to mention a face pic requirement in my Scruff/Growlr/Grindr profile? Or do the faceless profiles just ignore it. (Which has largely been my experience.)

Has anyone ground a wording that been noticeably more effective?

(I almost feel like there’s room for a sociology study here.)

Hi I’m 31M going to bogota for 10 days and kinda worried about the safety of the place, I’m a white European. I’m gonna be staying in Chapinero by the park of the hippies, I know that’s the gay area with lots of bars and clubs. However I’m staying at an Airbnb so I’m not sure if I’ll be able to meet new people to go out with (I don’t mind going out myself but rather have a group of people or someone with me) I heard it’s not safe to have ur phone out and stuff like that. Also important to mention I do speak semi-fluent spanish. Anyone has been there and have any suggestions?

Just curious… Does anyone else wanna throw up when they see these “he gets us” advertising campaign spots?

The overwhelming support that Trump has gotten from the various Christian communities is all the evidence you need to see that the overwhelming majority of them don’t actually believe any of their supposed beliefs about loving your neighbor, meek inheriting the Earth, meeting people where they are rather than where you judge they should be, not to mention eternal bliss or damnnation…

I’m not saying every Christian is a Trump chump of course. I’m saying the large majority of people who participate in that fiction are hippocrates who are only doing it for appearances.

Serious question.

UPDATE: we're getting the license today and having the ceremony this Sunday. We will still have a big celebration luau on June 1. Thanks, everybody.

My fiance and I got engaged fairly soon after the November election. We talked about what kind of ceremony we wanted and set the date for June 1, 2025. It's not elaborate. No large reception. We're actually going to have a cookout.

We live in the bluest state, but the chaos of this administration is scaring me. Our state legalized same-sex marriage in 2013. I have great fear that the fucking Republicans will try to end it nationally.

What are others doing for your wedding plans? What are others who are engaged thinking and planning?

I am especially asking to hear from people who are engaged. Anyone can answer. This is a serious question. Please refrain from political rants. That doesn't help.

Is it unusual to hug a hookup after sex?

After a layoff and unemployment, looks like my options are getting a decent yet low paying job. I’ll somehow make it work. Anyone else in a similar situation?

We're in a LDR. My man usually leaves me for hours before getting himself to text me back. But, I've always seen him online on social apps in between those hours. When he does text me, it is usually just a one or two liners...sometimes does go on a bit. I dont want it to be a big fuss or sound desperate but a bit more effort and updates every hour and then would be nice rather than knowing him online on those apps but hardly replies me. Is this overreacting?