Ok so I have the chance to bottom for a 63 year old guy. I am 42 and look pretty young still. He is a bit wrinkled in the face, also his neck is kinda flappy and his hair is mostly grey.

I have never been with an older guy, so what can I expect when I take his pants off? Will his dick be pretty much like a younger guys or does it get wrinkly? Grey pubes? Do older guys take a long time to get hard and cum? Thanks!

Hello fellow homos. My hole has gone through a fair share of trauma (fissures, warts, GI infection, extreme constipation, etc). Now it's mostly fine. I feel mentally ready to get back to anal play, but my hole might have a different opinion. I'm struggling during solo anal play (haven't tried partner play since my last troubles). Any recommendations for getting back into it? Toys and lube recs encouraged. I've had trouble finding toys that work with silicone.

P.S. my last doctor visited noted anal Papilla. They recommended taking them out. Any experience with this? It might be what's causing me discomfort.

Hi friends,

Late last year I started seeing someone, and to both of our surprise, a hookup has turned into something seemingly very serious. I happened to be looking for that already, but he wasn’t. After a few months of dealing with him figuring out what he wanted (see post history for some fun chaos) we finally seem to be at the same place and want the same things.

Now, what used to be small fears about the moment have evolved into bigger, more existential fears such as “is this really the future I want?” Which are usually always followed by “yes, it is.” Am I alone thinking that?

Anyway, with that said: we have plans to move in together when our current leases are up early next year. We both think this is a reasonable timeline as that will put us at over a year of being together and working through any other issues we have (as of now things are extremely good). We also are in a top 15 major city but neither of us plan to remain here long term so this would be for a few years only.

My primary issue is this would be with his current roommates (2) including his closest friend, and they have not been asked yet since it’s months away. That friend has shown to be a bit upset with my boyfriend for kind of disappearing on him to be with me — so it’s a bit awkward for me. I suspect his answer (the roommate) will be “no” to this living situation even though it would be an improvement in location, space, and cost for everyone.

I would love to avoid a situation where my boyfriend is in a circumstance where he has to choose between his friend and me, and quite honestly I don’t even want to put him in that situation. However, I would like to start building a life together and don’t know that I would be willing to wait at least another year.

Thoughts?

38M here still coming to terms with expressing/acting on my bisexuality, but know I'd love to go with a guy, just working up the confidence to do so. I will be very nervous.

I find older guys (bears) hot as hell, watch gay bear porn and in my relationship with female have been pegged a fair few times and loved it. Believe I'm a bottom/diverse.

My question is have any of you been with inexperienced chaps for their first time - what was it like? Good/awkward? how did it go and how did you make them feel safe/relaxed enough to get into it? Any advice welcome!!

I met a guy from Grindr. On the first date, we met after work for a long face to face chat session. He was very much my type, and we had common interests and the conversation went well. We held hands in public during that exchange. After that, we separated and went home. That night, I confessed to him that I haven’t felt that good on a first date for a long time. We then exchanged some sexts and that was that. We then texted in the following days. I proposed to meet over the weekend. He said fine but we didn’t agree on a time. I followed up Saturday morning. It took him a while to respond, saying he might go explore the city a bit. I volunteered to be his company. He didn’t really acknowledge that. I overthink quite a lot in social interactions and felt that I was getting some signals and thought maybe I shouldn’t push for the meeting. However he eventually said he could meet soon and picked a spot. We met for a lunch and then for a short walk. He said, we could continue the walk or we could just go to his place and cuddle. Due to our previous good sexting exchanges, I thought it was a good idea to take it further. We then had sex at his place. During that, I said “you’re really my type and it’s like a dream come true” which I don’t ever do but I did feel pretty strongly about him. He didn’t say anything back right then. And I thought “shit, I screwed it”. But a while later, he told me some things like “it’s so easy to fall for you” and “you check all of the boxes”, and what we will be doing on a 3rd date. I was exhilarated to hear those words. However, when we were done and got dressed, I sort of felt that he was rushing me out. After I got home, I sent a message to check in and he responded. It’s still pretty encouraging. On Sunday, I messaged him in the morning. He didn’t respond during the day. I started to see a behavior change, because he would initiate contact in the morning before. I waited till late evening and sent another text out to see if things are ok. He did respond and made an excuse saying he was preparing for an interview the whole day. After that, I sent out a good morning text on Tuesday and got no response. Status of the text was “delivered”. On Saturday I tried again. It turns to “read” immediately, but he still sent nothing back. At this point I’m pretty sure I’m ghosted. Even if I wasn’t, I’ve concluded this is not gonna work for me-I need someone who would respond and check in in a reasonable timeframe. Even though I would like to clarify things, being ignored like this is painful and I don’t think I’ll try again. The thing is, he didn’t block me on the apps. I can still see him popping up. Should I block him to avoid triggers? tl;dr - probably ghosted after the 2nd date after sex but not blocked. His profile popping up on Grindr and it’s triggering. Should I block him and not look back

It's been a long time since I posted and I've had a couple people reach out to me directly, so I thought that others like me deserved to hear about life on the other side. For context, I was a gay man stuck in a straight relationship to a woman I loved deeply but had no sexual attraction to, and we had just had our first child. I went into a scary deep depression; I prepared for, determined how, when, and twice left the house with the intention of committing suicide because I had rationalized that everyone's (my wife's, child's, and my family's) lives would be better off if I had died in an accident than had come out as gay. It was a dark place that I would never wish on even my worst of enemy. However, I started therapy, accepted who I am, and slowly came out as gay over the last two years.

It was really fucking hard. I came out to my wife first. As I was doing it, I had a panic attack and couldn't breathe, she had to calm me down and was trying to get me into the car to go to the hospital until I got the words out, 'I'm gay.' She is, to this day, one of the most incredible humans I know. At first, she focused on helping me and understanding what this meant for both of us. As her pain started to sink in over the next several months, she was understandably angry, devastated, hurt, and depressed. There were days where it seemed that I made the wrong choice and her pain would never get better. She went to therapy, we went to couples therapy, and we promised to work through this so that we could always be the best possible parents for our child. We separated and are starting to find ourselves as new people through this process. We are now at a point where we both understand how it had to happen for our lives to be authentic, and our relationship as coparents is amazing. So much so that we decided to have a second child together via donation, growing our unconventional family on this basis of love and respect.

I came out to my friends and family. Growing up in the midwest with religious conditioning, every time I came out it was utterly unexpected and different. There were family members that I assumed would leave me that had the best responses, and other friends that I thought would be supportive and caring that are no longer friends. I made new friends, reconnected with old friends -- including one that is now a new, open gay man who found the courage to come out as I did the same. I threw myself into gay experiences, started dating, and most importantly, haven't had a suicidal thought in over 18 months.

I was hurt and damaged, and through that, I hurt other people, particularly my ex-wife. But coming out has allowed us both to live authentic lives and prevented further hurt by living that lie. Coming out is hard and weird and you never stop having to come out. But being gay is so much fun. And not hiding or trying to be someone I'm not has me in a mindset I never thought would be possible. I hope by sharing this, someone that's in that dark, lonely, scary place can see a glimmer of light. Life is complex but it's worth living, and we all could use some nonjudgmental love, as you never know what other people are going through!

I was talking to this guy who said he was the same age as me (30) - he looked a little older, but no biggie. after talking for awhile, he admitted that he was actually 45 and that he lied about his age. His reasoning was that he looked younger (debatable) so he would just say he was the age people thought he was, which i thought was a weird thing to lie about.

I’ve had this happen a few times with guys of a certain age and was wondering if anyone can enlighten me as to why someone would do this, or if you do it, why?

May 10 marked the four year anniversary since u/SilverlakeBob suddenly passed away of an apparent heart attack.

Most of you won't know who he is. Back then we were less than 20,000 members. He joined this community in the first year of its existence, and was an active member - most other regulars back then knew of him, and some even knew him personally. He was also one of our elders, there weren't many with the 60-64 age flair back then.

He was a survivor of the AIDS crisis, and he was generous with his exprience. His vulnerability inspired people to be vulnerable in kind. I don't think I'm exaggerating when I say that his posts and comments were a significant contributor to the mood in this community. Still today when I mod, I think about keeping this community one where people like u/SilverlakeBob will thrive.

If you want to know more about him, I recommend his first post ever in this community: Whatever Happened to Cruising and Socializing at the Gym?

Another favorite is What I'm thankful for every single thanksgiving

You can check his profile for more of his posts. If you would like to commemorate him, do a random act of kindness this week. I am sure he would have appreciated such a thing!

I am 38 and prefer guys aged 25 to 35 but find age 22 to 32 hottest but cant really date under 25 due to life differences etc.

Hard to find younger guys here in UK who like older guys who aint muscle or bears etc

Do you have any past hookups that just run through your mind and bring a smile to your face?

Mine is a little cliche but it’s my very first one. At 34, I finally got the courage to meetup with someone. I was out of town on business staying at a hotel and had made arrangements on Craigslist with a guy who responded to my ad. I’ll also mention that we did not exchange photos we just gave a brief description of ourselves and what we were looking for.

When he, an older gentleman, maybe 60’s, arrived to my hotel room, he could tell I was extremely nervous and I most certainly was. I remember my heart was pounding, I had never been with another man. He even said, “You look nervous.” The next thing he said however, was what I still carry with me.

In the most gentle but masculine tone he told me, “You don’t have anything to be nervous about, I’m here to make you feel good. So just lay back and let me take good care of you.” And that he did.

After we were done he asked, “Do you feel a little better now?” Verbally I said, “Oh yeah, you could say that!” (we both chuckled) Internally, I felt complete for the first time in my life. As he was leaving he told me how much he enjoyed himself and told me “safe travels”.

Just makes me smile.

So, here it goes… me (37M) and my husband (34M) have been together for ten years, married for six and in an open relationship for 2-4 it's murky.

Early on in the non-monogamy journey we established that we would tell each other everything (I think you know where this is going) and we did, we would share our conversations, show each other pictures of the guys we were talking to, share location when we hooked up and have a “debrief” after the fact, for information but also for sexy purpuses.

One day, I noticed a text that he got from an unknown guy and I casually asked if there was someone he was talking to. He didn’t own up to it, so when he went out I checked his conversation. I’m not proud of it, obviously. The text very vaguely alluded to a meeting that happened. I confronted my husband and we got into a huge fight, mostly about my breach of trust, I thought we were done for. But he assured me nothing happened with the guy and I apologized for looking at his phone. I hate fighting and confrontation, so gradually things went back to normal. I do have to point out that I came out of this fight as the “offensor”, as I was in the wrong for going through his conversation.

Three years later (I know) we’re in a very solid place regarding our open relationship. We’re meeting guys and telling each other about it. A big part of the reason we kept it open is because the sex between us just wasn’t there anymore. Same old story, I tried, he didn’t feel like it and eventually I stopped trying. I don’t blame him really, this happens to some relationships after years.

In those three years I never looked at his phone again. But the last couple of months I could tell there was some suspicious behavior, like clicking away really fast when I went into the room and always swiping away his WhatsApp if I got too close to his phone. So once again curiosity got the best of me, and one horrible night I went through his conversations.

I wasn’t prepared for what I found, there were so many conversations with guys I never even heard about. He had sex with guys he told me he only had drinks with, he hooked up more than once with other guys without telling me, he used Grindr to meet guys when we weren’t supposed to use that specific app, he had sexual encounters with guys before we opened up and he had flirty texts with guys going back for years. The part that hurts the most was seeing him talk to others in a way that I thought we only talked to each other. He also lied about his sexual history before we met, which I don't care about, but obviously there's a pattern of dishonesty.

This couldn’t have come at a worst time in my life, I was feeling insecure about my looks, my career took a turn for the worse and I was dealing with some issues with my parents. I confronted him and we cried and shouted for three days. He just apologizes and explains his actions as something being broken inside of him. I won’t go into details about his life, but he suffers a lot in his mental health, there’s been a couple of occasions where I’ve feared he might harm himself, there’s a history of that in his family.

This makes it very hard for me to hold him accountable, because everytime I want to talk about this issue, it just breaks him and I’m afraid that I’ll lose him. And that’s the biggest problem for me, because the truth is that I need him in my life. I moved across the world into an unknown city for him, I have no savings and my family is very far away. But none of that matters, really, I know that I could survive if we break up. The thing is that, when I imagine my life without him, I can’t stand it. I love him so much, he’s my everything and the bottom line is that I want to stay with him, I want to stay in the marriage.

Now we’re back to a sort of normality again, and that makes me a little uneasy. I’m still mad, I’m angry, not because of the sex, but the lying. I can understand the sex part, but it’s the hypocrisy for me. I felt that during the three years we were open, I was always on a short leash, he always suspected that I was keeping things from him. When I suggested we use Grindr, he made me feel bad, as if I was desperate for wanting to use that app. And that I was unreasonable for wanting to have more sex. He sustained that he just didn’t need or wanted sex that much, that it wasn’t that important for him.

I just don’t want to be angry anymore, but I feel like shit. I like our lives and I want it all to be normal. We promised each other to be open and honest about everything going forward, I don’t want to police him or his phone, I don’t want to be wondering what he's doing after work. I don’t have the energy. Also he can fuck around I don’t care, I’m going to keep doing it, I don’t think forced monogamy could work for us, at least not right now. But I feel like there was this whole side of him I didn’t know. I understand his mistakes, I’m just afraid he doesn’t love me enough to tell me about them. He’s scared and ashamed, but he needs to confront this thing.

This is just a vent, I’m not looking for any advice really. Reddit doesn’t fix problems like this (unless you’re a licensed therapist willing to work for free), I also know most people here will tell me to go to couples counseling but that’s just unaffordable for us now. I just want to feel seen, respected, understood and sexy… which I guess is what we all want. Sorry if I end up deleting this post after a while, I probably will, don’t take it personally. Anyway bros, hope you’re having a better time than I am.

I struggled a lot to come to terms with my sexuality. Just a couple of years ago, in my 30s I started to accept myself.

The truth is, I have never been in a relationship, and when I dream of one, I imagine a teenage kind of love, where we dont care about the "adult" parts of life and we just want to enjoy each other. You know, like when you were in high school and you think you are going to love only that person for eternity.

I haved tried dating and I always feel so childish in comparison to other people that have had relationships since they are teenagers, so they already went though that phase and they are looking for a person with X social status, with X job, that will bring them something to their life, etc, and I get it, but I never got to experience that teenage love where "nothing" matter.

Am I stupid for wanting that in my 30s? should I just accept that I never got that teenage love and just look for mature relationships?

I am a 33 year bottom from Delhi, India. I have had share of good tops and miserable ones. Recently I have found that my body get stiff when I am with a guy on bed. Means I can’t loosen, and my body doesn’t get relax.

In past have met people with I had good time on bed regularly but now it’s difficult.

What can I do? Please suggest.

I don't know why, but it has become very popular in recent years, especially since bareback porn is «the norm».

Instead of cum inside the ass, the top takes out his dick on the last second, and cum on the a-hole. Next, with the last drop of cum still coming out, push all his dick inside again, dragging sperm inside whit it.

Knowing that all sexual practices have a name, like felching, creampie, soaking, and so on, and so on... Why this practice don't have a fancy and (maybe) crazy name?

New found bottom here. Who knew I would discover the joy of bottoming at 30.

I am going thru a phase of trying to figure out lubes. Now that I’m on the receptive end I’m finding out different lubes does different things/feelings.

I’ve always done water based but now I’m leaning towards silicone based. Especially gun oil even tho it’s kinda expensive. And since I’m a new bottom I’m very tight and so far this lube has done the best job. Less irritation after and it does the job.

But I’m curious about something. I keep watching porn mostly of black gay men and I notice their lube is white and creamy, and they seem to be able to really glide. I’m curious what this lube is.

Also suggestions on any lubes that works well for you. And only reason I’m asking for opinions on lube is because I bottomed for a slightly girthier larger dude and his lube wasn’t doing anything and we basically resorted to using coconut cooking oil stuff (which tbh worked well) but I rather have some good stuff on hand in these scenarios.

I consider myself a fairly open guy. The myriad of experiences people have usually doesn’t bother me when they choose to divulge their little secrets to me. The one that took me by surprise was when I was talking to my sister in law one day about some relationship issues I was having and she told me her and my brother used porn to spice up their sex life. I was taken back by that one because they are both somewhat conservative people. I never expected them to be someone who uses porn.

I d like some opinions on how to deal with a very complicated relationship.

I met this guy on a dating app who was curios, 15 years younger, very hot. Straight after he sent me many hot messages about us, and how our time togeher was.

He thanked me confessed he had three kids, three ex girlfriends and he is now living at a female friend just a friend with one of his kids.

We were due to go on a hiking trip together , I booked everything and he texted me the day after he can’t make it because of his kid. I was understanding but he than ghosted me. I really suffered for 6 months and than bumped into him at some friend of mine where this guy does some building work.

And the hot messages started again. In one he said that our intimate times are well above any others he has (so my understanding is he is seeing other people) and than he does want to go on a trip to see how much he would enjoy his time with me. It was all we, us…

So we had fun again after the fun the messages started getting a bit more formal but than he is bussy and he can’t always talk freely.

I went abroad and he offers to pick me up from airport on my return. Two days before coming back he sends me a text message saying he ll pick me up but he can’t stop when he drops me because he is doing night fishing with friends he s not seen in years. I said don’t break off to pick me up I ll take an Uber . The group of friends turned out to be a very fit young stud they spent the night in a tent together. So red alerts…

When I was away for three weeks he messaged me several times a day but his messages were voice messages and did not say much just how much he is looking forward to go away with me when I m back and he is looking forward to some naughtiness ( but he did not end it with you just implied it).

We really did have a great day away. Long hike, dinner in a cute pub and I drove. In the car on way back he kept flashing me lol, and we had fun several times that night and the morning after.

After coming back he was making plans of teaching me how to climb and fish and than he wants to go on a longer trip with me but take his son too obviously fun would be a bit dificult but not impossible as we can always go for a walk whilst the kid (he s a teenager) plays Xbox or something… He also messaged me first after the trip thanking me for an amazing time and night but falling short of mentioning how hot the fun was.

Again it could be that he doesn’t want to risk it and put things like fun in his messages only when he is turned on

I also caught him by accident looking on the dating app and he didn’t bother to turned it off and it annoyed me he was doing that. I m looking for some feedback from other guys:

1. Does he like me or is it just sex to him
2. Is he not flirting on messages because he wants to keep me at arm length
3. All I can think of is him and I m becoming obsessed waiting for his messages
4. Do I have a heart to heart and ask to define our connection or leave it for longer and see where we end up
5. I m doing meditation and a lot of running but yet my head is spinning due to his hot cold messages and he never calls
6. Should u just dump him

I m 50 so scared I won’t meet anyone as hot and he is a really really sweet guy when we meet but we meet very rarely.

Thanks in advance

For YEARS I thought my high libido, constantly thinking about sex, watching porn multiple times a day, masturbateinf/edging regularly, fantasizing about random guys in my life, etc, I thought it was “normal”.

I thought it was just me being a horndog, especially when I was younger. Eventually, now in my 40s, I found out I’m just hypersexual.

Thankfully, my fear of STDs helps me control it, but oh my god. Sometimes it drives me crazy. I gets so frustrating.

Any of you relate? If so, how do you handle it?

Okay. Vulnerable question, but I feel like this is a somewhat safe space.

I was traveling through Spain and stayed with a couch surfer. His profile said that he was a nudist and liked to host guests and be naked. I thought, perfect! I'm on an adventure and get to have a little underlying erotic element.

I arrive. He's friendly and flirtatious. He was explaining how he was nervous and thought I was handsome etc. He took me to a nude beach. We hung out and chatted with his friends. I was really attracted to him.

We get back to his place. It's just us. We're both naked. I'm extremely horny. He tells me he doesn't want to have sex. I respected the boundary and didn't pursue it. However, I was so turned on I had to take care of myself in the bathroom.

We are sleeping naked together in the bed. We wake up the next morning. We are lying beside each other and he's got an erection. Without hesitation, I go down on him. We then proceed to have sex. ( Not penetrative. Just mutual oral ) We finish. We have lunch together and watch a movie. Everything seems fine.

That same night, I go out and explore the city and meet people. I call and text for him to give me instructions on how to get back to his place. He doesn't answer and ignores me all night. I end up having to sleep at the person's house that I just met, while all my stuff is at the other guys place.

My question: did I sexually assault this person?

It's been years since this happened. After my own reflections on consent and my own experiences with feeling violated, I question whether or not I violated him in anyway and if the reason he didn't reply to me that evening was because he felt as though I had pushed a boundary that he did not want to cross.

I'm open to being fully accountable. Please let me know if this was sexual assault.

My boyfriend of 3 years (33m) is a wonderful person who is constantly inspiring me to be more loving and honest, but his unstable financial prospects and mental health issues really takes the sexual passion out of my love for him, even though he's conventionally very attractive. It's hard to be sexually attracted to someone that I feel the need to sometimes parent (I'm only 3 years older).

On the other hand, one of my close friends and former fwb I still find myself lusting for 9 years after our first hookup. We've always been close and travelled many places together, but never dated because I had written him off as too slutty for relationship material back when I was a way more judgmental person, and we were both total tops. Since then we have both become more flexible in that regard, and I've become much more sexually liberated. That friend once tried to start a 3-way makeout with me and my bf at the club, and we resisted it, but it was clear all 3 of us are attracted to each other. My bf was always open to non-monogamy but we've been monogamous so far.

The other day my bf compared that friend and I to Elaine and Jerry from Seinfeld. I was again confronted with my lingering feelings for the guy, and the silly reasons for why I never took it further. On one hand, our values don't perfectly align like it does with my bf, but he is all the other earthly things I wanted in a person. My boyfriend seems to be the path for me of greatest spiritual growth, but I'm terrified by the prospect of having to carry him for all the day-to-day things, while he feels crushed by the weight of my expectations and judgment; whereas my friend is naturally much more empathic to his weaknesses than I am.

It feels wrong to give up my soulmate of a bf for someone who checks all the other boxes, but maybe a throuple situation might potentially fill in all the missing pieces for everyone: emotional support and high libido that I lack for my bf, sexual attraction for me and the security in having at least 2 high-earning adults in the room, and a varied sexual experience within a stable, deep relationship for the friend. The friend is in an open relationship of 8 months with a 24 year old (he's 39), but we don't expect it to last. This is all uncharted waters for any of us... how does one propose breaking up another relationship to form a throuple? It could really eff up our friend dynamic if it doesn't work out or if he's not interested?

2 problems: I've been having some problems during sex. I had some anal fissures and my doctor gave me some rectogesic and the next time I had sex, I couldn't get a hard on. I immediately stopped using it and figured I'd be ok in a few days once it was out of my system...a week later having sex, no hard on. Three more weeks? I got hard a bit before we started but as soon as I was naked it was as small as a worm. What's wrong with me? Did the medicine affect me permanently? Am I having mental problems? Why? It didn't happen before the medicine and I'm extremely attracted to the person I've been having sex with. Probably a bit too attracted to be honest.

Secondly, I have sex with a couple. Usually I bottom but occasionally I know one of them really likes me to top. The last few times when I haven't been able to get hard we just did other things and he did NOTHING to make me feel bad or bring attention to it but I know before he loved sucking me and getting fucked by me and he and I text about it sometimes. This last time I nearly started crying because I was hard and I could see he was excited and I undressed as quickly as I could but I sit down and he immediately goes to suck me and as I said before, worm size. He tried for a few minutes, but it was obvious I was done for. He stopped trying and we just did other stuff. The other guy fucked me but the other guy said he was too tired. I'm utterly terrified they're going to get bored of me if I can't get hard. They're the only people who I have any sort of friendship with whatsoever and so I really really really struggle to keep friends. I think the only thing valuable about me is that I am thin and have a big dick. I have not had a succesful connection with a single human being that hasn't begun with sex in over 5 years. Now even that has stopped working.

Which is less pathetic: talking openly about my issues of my ass being torn apart, my dick stopping working, and my fear of losing them or just keeping quiet and trying to deal with it myself? I often have had people tell me I'm like a little rain cloud of negativity and it can be hard to be around me as I'm either bursting with endless energy or falling apart and intensely negative. I spend almost every second of every day trying not to be myself whether happy or sad so I just can't make decisions anymore. Please do it for me. Which should I do, talk to them or just go back to my doctor and see if I can get some sort of Viagra?

How would you rank the following in importance, money, career, love life, family, sex, power & success?

Do you ever engage in a sexual activity out of boredom? For example do you watch porn, masturbate, or etc just because you feel bored?

Any pointers on where to look.

Id prefer adventure over laying at a resort all day...

But something for singles exclusivley

For me it has to be the home improvement stores, Lowe’s and Home Depot. I’m a homeowner, I garden and a DIY’r so I’m there almost weekly and there’s just something about the men there I find really appealing. I’m delightfully overwhelmed by masculinity.

I am eager to get imput from fellow gay bros in the Dallas-Ft Worth area, on how life is there, from a personal perspective and a gay perspective.

In 2 weeks, I will be in Ft Worth on the 1st of 3 scouting trips as I may want to possibly move there. I already have a job that allows me to work remotely so I will not be concerned with travel commutes.

I've already posted to r/fortworth previously and got some great feedback but in the absence of a non-hookup oriented lgbt specific sub for the dfw area, I wanted to get feedback.

There are a number of places I have lined up tentatively to check out there for the week I am there but I'd like to get an understanding of life there, including gay life. Beyond just bars. I drink but not to excess and I'm not a fan of loud, booming, crowded places, like a bar, where you have to shout to have a barely audible conversation.

I'm a fairly active guy - I enjoy walking, running, biking, and I'm about to learn kayaking, and I see that the area has plenty of spaces for all of it, but I'm also a science geek, and a nerd in general, so the museums call to me, and I'll be checking out places that cater to both.

But what I would like to know is, apart from bars and apps, how do gay men meet each other? I am aware of oak lawn in Dallas and I might check it out on a future trip but I want to know about social/community engagement. I have checked meetup.com, and while there are groups, not many of them have anything lined up yet during the week I am there, but I keep checking.

Lastly, and I don't mean to sound uncivil, because this is reddit, what I am not looking to hear are comments along the lines of it's too crowded here, don't move here. It's too expensive here. Don't move here. I hate it here. Don't move here. I find those comments cynical and unhelpful. The cost of living there is within my wheelhouse.

I look forward to hearing from local bros.

Any gaybros moved out of the US for the lower cost of living to a place that is welcoming to gay couples, and where you feel safe?

All the typical places that American expats flock to for a lower cost of living, such as Mexico, Costa Rica, Panama or Thailand, are not exactly the most gay-friendly of places.

Wondering if anyone has any creative ideas of places to consider. Thanks!

I’m going alone to PV this June and staying at a resort in the gay district. I’m curious if anyone has any experience going alone? I’ve traveled alone before and don’t really have issues with going to gay bars, clubs alone, but from pictures I’ve seen it seems a bit overwhelming if you don’t go with friends. I planned this trip alone on purpose to meet guys. Also any recommendations for bars, restaurants, and gay friendly events are welcome.

Rarely, but occasionally, I use Viagra – My comment/question is: even when I take a small sliver of Viagra, I experience a very reddened face, which causes low-level physical discomfort, but I also experience what I would best describe as psychiatric discomfort – like inside my head I feel weird and uncomfortable. Otherwise, I have no other mental health issues.

I assume other men experience this, but I’ve never delved into the question before now. So, is Cialis a different chemical formulation, so that one is less likely to experience those same symptoms? Or do both drugs basically create the same side effects. Thanks in advance.

My friend and I are throwing a pride party together. She thinks we should start it at 3p, have drinks, food, and then AS A PARTY hit the pride festival.

Personally, I think this is unrealistic, as we are inviting nearly 40 people and expecting around 15 of them to actually show up.

My suggestion is, start the party around 5/6/7p after folks have already hit the event downtown, have folks over for food and drinks, then hit the bars and clubs after.

We obviously want to throw a great party so general suggestions are welcome!