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I'm craving something sweet and started eating spoonfuls of Creamy Stripes (mixture of peanut butter + jelly). I don't want to make a sandwich.

Basically, I think Nj is blue, but my county is red. Just found out bout project 2025, what the HELL is happening? What do I do?

Also, while my parents conviently wanna move, I have plenty of indoor animals and a few horses, I'm not sure how easy it is to find a good home that also supports farm life.

Hi-- queer cis female here (aged 21)... In my experience in queer spaces, there has been no discussion of HIV/AIDS. I am wondering if this is intentional. I am so glad that the social stigmas against gay men (like them being 'contaminated') have gone away... but are we missing an essential part of our community's history and not honoring all of those impacted?

edit; I'm curious what people think and if others have had similar experiences not talking about it.

So to start off. I'm a FtX (female to nonbinary) person. I just had a friend come out to me as a girl. I need help to explain hrt and surgeries to her. I tried looking for some easy cute art to explain because that's how I process stuff the best..but I couldn't find any. Shes like..a freshly cracked egg. She thinks that she's gonna get surgery fresh out of highschool..how do I realistically explain to her that this is the beginning of her journey and I don't want to make her heart broken that it might take a long time..especially with both of us in the usa.

Can you guys send some resources how to explain to her the whole journey? I know its easier for some people than others..I'm just like..I don't wanna make her doomsday think because of the way the big orange is making it. This is literally the worst time to come out..I feel so sad for her.

The thing she is most looking forward to is the surgeries..I don't know the complete ins and outs because I'm not trans in that way. I'm literally like..she's only heard about me talking about top surgery.. so..yeah ..much help appreciated

Is there a way I can definitively figure this out? My friend asked me if I was gonna start dating this year and we started discussing my sexuality. She says she's noticed that I have an irrational fear of men. I have this ideal man in my head but when men approach me in real life I get afraid. I told her that women make me shy,but with men,I get anxiety as though I'm being hunted by a wild animal. She said she thinks I'm lesbian. I've questioned it sm that I've just decided to say I'm 'unlabelled' be I "battle" with it every couple of months and it drives me crazy.

When I first read the "lesbian/comphet master doc" everything in there was describing me😭,however I'm still sexually attracted to men,and also a little nervous about being with a woman in that way be what if I suck at it? I'm all over the place ik and I wish I'd just have a clear idea of what my sexuality is

Hey everyone,

I’m 18M and have been questioning my sexuality for a while now, and I’d really appreciate some advice or insight from people who’ve been through something similar.

I’ve had multiple girlfriends and enjoyed both romantic and sexual relationships with them. I definitely find women attractive in all contexts—both sexually and just in a general “I think she’s beautiful” kind of way.

For months, I had been fantasizing about being with a man, mostly in a submissive role, and earlier this year, I finally had a sexual encounter with one. In the moment, I really loved it. Since then, I’ve continued to fantasize about being with men sexually. But here’s where I get confused: I don’t really look at men in everyday life and feel attracted to them the way I do with women—it only seems to happen in a sexual context.

This has me wondering: Is it possible to be into men purely sexually but not romantically? Or is this something deeper that I haven’t fully figured out yet? If anyone has gone through a similar experience, I’d really appreciate hearing your thoughts.

Hello :) my name is James, I am a French 20 year old trans and gay boy and I have always wanted to participate in a group sex 😶

So far I've done two threesomes and I really liked it haha, but doing something with 4/5/10/20 people... That would be a big fantasy 🫠

But I've never had the opportunity until now... I have the impression that you either have to go to backrooms that are a bit hardcore / not always super safe, or already have a network of gay friends and put them in touch to be able to participate in something like this :/

And not having such a network of sex friends (since I don't live in a big city, Grindr is a little empty :( ) and being a little afraid of going to BDSM backrooms, would there be another way to participate in orgies or gang bang?

Do you know if there are places where orgy organizers call for participation? Like Reddit, Discord, Twitter or Snap?

Or do you know safe people who organize this kind of thing and with whom you can chat and make friends before meeting for the event?

Or are there bars/structures that organize orgies on a regular basis, like a monthly or annual event?

Thank you very much for taking the time to read my post! ☺️

I’ve never really fit in anywhere and never really had friends. But I found a few LGBT groups in my area that have Discord servers I was pondering joining, just cause they seem like nice enough people. But, even if we have shared interests and hobbies and such, I’m worried that I won’t really “be welcome” as it were if we meet up in person. That they’ll see me as an outsider and be like “You’re not REALLY one of us, and only let you come because we didn’t wanna seem mean”.

If this a discussion as it is pertaining too gender identity discussions then maybe who's ever in charge of this account here in Reddit, should change the title. AskLGBT as it is listed on the heading is misleading and LGBTQI+ is more the inclusive terminology that should be represented more anyway!

So, hi, I plan on being an author, and I want some help.

I am writing a dark fantasy/steampunk/dystopia novel. The protagonist is gay but I want to make sure I don't make it a stereotypical gay person. I am from a homophobic society and not a gay person myself, I fear despite my cautions I might end up doing that.

What I did was: -his sexual orientation doesn't define his character. (He is just a person who is attracted to males, just like he just happens to be a male with black hair) -his struggles are unrelated to his sexual orientation as again his attraction to males is just a trait and not his defining thing. -I simply try to imagine his relationship as I just make it to a normal heterosexual relationship but making the female, a male. (I am not sure if this is the right way to approach it or not. Whatever the case, please help me.)

This is my first novel. And there are only a few scenes where his sexual orientation is mentioned since the plot doesn't revolve much around romance. If you want to ask me anything, feel free to do so.

I recently met this girl at our university recollection (we’re in a Catholic university) and I noticed that she had a lesbian pride flag. We follow each other on instagram and we interact from time to time.

I do want to make a move for her but I don’t know if she feels the same or how to flirt with her (other than lowkey dropping hints that I’m also gay 😭)

im trans or at least i think i am. i have started calling myself by that term a few weeks ago but i have been questioning my gender identity for years.

is it normal if i feel weird calling myself by another name? it feels weird adjusting. sometimes, i still refer to myself as a girl or feminine terms, even if i don't fucking want to. am i still transgender if i look at myself and see a girl who's just confused?

I'm sorry if my question came off as queerphobic in anyways I'm just curious.

Like don't get me wrong I'll use whatever pronouns a person prefer but why neo pronouns? Ain't they / them enough?

Again I'm sooo sorry that this sounds bad I'm just curious that's all

I want to start this post by stating that, whatever your situation is, I respect who you are and how you identify and I would never do or say anything that goes against that. I believe that everyone deserves respect and love just for being human. I apologize if anything that I say comes out as offensive, that is not my intention at all. I'm willing to learn about different experiences and points of view. Having said that, I'll proceed with the context.

A while ago I was chatting with a friend and a certain topic came out. Why transgender and transexual people feel the way they do and what made them realize they did? I have the opinion that we would be better off without the concept of gender. I understand it as an identity trait that has stereotypical bases. What I mean by this is that the gender of "man" comes with certain expectations, the same way as the gender of "woman" does. The only thing that would be left is sex (male or female, as if we were little animals) without the social connotation of gender. I could be totally wrong about all this, even as I'm writing it something feels a bit off. Anyways, that idea made me think, if there were no social norms on how a male or female is expected to act or look like, would there still be a need to specify that one is transgender? I mean, we could all just see each other as people with a certain genitalia without minding about our gender. So, does the realization come from a stereotypical/societal aspect or a physical one or both?

I do gotta say I come from a huge place of ignorance regarding this topic and I'm absolutely willing to be corrected on all that's been said. I genuinely want to understand and learn about this, and hear your experiences and opinions. I again apologize if I offended anyone with the wording of my doubt.

Edit: Thank you all so much for your comments and feedback! I now have a better understanding as to why being transgender is not a choice (so sorry about that). I've learned that gender identity and gender roles are two different things and that probably what I meant we were better off with was the latter. I also learned that gender identity is something that one is born with that might take time to fully understand. I would love to keep reading your feedback, and if there's something I should consider about my new conclusion, please feel free to tell me about it!

I don't know anything anymore. am i a boy or am i a girl? i just feel not like myself right now. my long hair is killing me. the fact that ill never be a real boy is killing me. but i like being a girl. but I'd like it more if i was a boy???? but I'd like to be someone's girlfriend but i cried when my mother didn't let me cut my hair short. im wasting my childhood. i can't come out to anyone because my school sucks and everyone is fucking transphobic. as far as i know, i'll never get a partner because what straight girl would like a boy who isn't really a boy? i, in no way, look like a boy anyway. what if a boy i really like confesses to me and i suddenly become his "girlfriend". i wouldn't be able to fucking live with myself like that because i don't think I'm a girl. am i a girl? i don't feel dysphoric like most trans people do. but i'd feel so much better if i was just born a boy.

I want to ask another queer dude out for a coffee or something after seeing his play. I think we could be good friends. How do I ask him out without it being romantic?

I just wanna know.

I don't mean to sound aggressive/rude in the title but I don't really understand how that works. I understand being ONLY aromantic or ONLY asexual and dating someone but I don't really understand being both and still dating others and having partners

Quick backstory: me (17M) dated this guy i'll call S, back in primary school. It was really short but i genuinely liked him. We grew apart after i broke it off for some stupid reason but remained in the same circle of friends during middle school. I never dared make a move on him since he had a boyfriend but i heard from a friend that his boyfriend dumped him after middle school ended.

6 months ago at a friend's birthday we really hit it off, friendly banter while playing various games. It was so easy to talk with him and it was like we'd never stopped talking. But i chickened out, not messaging him again afterwards because i thought it was too awkward, since we hadn't properly spoke in over 5 years.

Today me and my friend (F) saw him and another friend in town and we said a quick hello and S commented that my hair suited me. (It is drastically different from school) Which was ironic since all i could think about is how i'd forgotten how good he looked. He looks hecka fine in a mullet and the way he talks is charming as, i can'tstop thinking about this 10 second encounter.

I'm wondering if i go for it and send him a friend request, or braver yet send him a message thanking him for the compliment. I'm worried he thought i was dating my friend, or that him and the other guy we knew were dating. I really want to give it a shot and try start up a friendship, but i'm not sure how to approach this.

I (32m) have just been dumped by my partner (38m) because he can't see a future where two men have a child so he wants to try and go straight (he has zero sexual interest in women). He came out to his Bulgarian parents in 2023 and they responded very negative. Neither he or his parents have any religious affiliation. I have tried to convince him that he will not be happy with a woman but he feels he needs to try and say he only wants the best for me and still loves me even though he is leaving me essentially homeless ( he owns the apartment).

What can I say/do?

I’m feeling really confused about my preferences and would love some advice. I’ve realized that I’m attracted to male genitalia, but I just can’t see myself in a romantic relationship with a man. While I could imagine a sexual or platonic connection with a man, the idea of anything romantic feels wrong and even gross to me. It also doesn’t feel right to jump straight into sex without that connection.

On the other hand, I’m really drawn to trans women—pre-op or post-op—and find the idea of a woman with male genitalia to be an ideal body type for me. I’m worried about coming across as a chaser because I genuinely want to respect people and their identities.

I also know that I could never be dominated by a man, which might play into all of this. Does anyone have insight into what this might mean or what I could call these feelings?

Edit: Thank you all for the help! I’ll go with lesbian with no genital preference when people ask from now on, though maybe if a sweet couple came along I wouldn’t mind ;]

So lesbians of reddit my question to you today is this;

POV; you’re scrolling on your favorite dating/hook up app and see a post by a new member. She looks cute and you click in only see that her intro says something like “Looking to experiment with a woman for the first time” or “always been attracted to women never tried being with one-would like to explore”.

What do you initially think? Is that someone whose profile you would dislike or is that someone that you would try to meet up with?

Genuinely curious because I am the one making that kind of post and I don’t want to come off as a user or something like that.

so i’m a gay guy and I often have straight men tell me “you’re so lucky you’re gay, women are so difficult” which I find really funny

So I’m curious to hear from you girls, do you get told the same?

i’m 18m and in college, im fit and have been told by MANY people that i’m very attractive (not to be arrogant, just conventionally i prolly am), but i haven’t even kissed anyone since september. i was in a very long talking stage with this one guy but he abruptly started being distant. no one approaches me or hmu, im on tinder and all, but nothing ever happens. i want to explore this world bc it’s my time and age, but wtf why can’t i??? everyone stops talking :(

It's been pretty obvious certain corporations arent with us unless there's money in it for them so I stopped using them as much as possible but I want to be able to continue to order online for what I can't get in person...sooo

I'm looking for recommendations for every type of queer owned online shop y'all can give me the link to.

Hello, I’ll keep this as brief as I can. I had planned on meeting someone for a first date yesterday and he suddenly got “car trouble” the day before and couldn’t make it. And I texted him today but he has basically ghosted me.

As I’m fairly unfamiliar with the dating scene, I’m wondering if this is just a common occurrence and I should move on.

I was gonna post this on r/askgaybros but there was a lot of ignorance and phobia running through there (ironically)

I am a trans woman, and have been going through her for almost a year, and I'm wondering if I'm on my period.

I'm autistic, so I can't tell what cramps would be.

I feel weird in my belly, and have been experiencing mood swings, as well as been more... Argumentative.

Pleas let me know, I don't know why. And thanks in advance!

I identify as multisexual myself, and use it as the umbrella term, but I see bisexual used instead fairly often! I just think it’ll be interesting to see which one is used more often.

Hopefully this goes without saying, but please be nice when discussing this! People are free to use different terms, and if you genuinely find someone‘s use of a word problematic, you’re not going to change their mind by yelling at them!

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I, 18F have a sibling, 17NB who has been out about their gender identity for a little over two years now. It only took me a month or so for me to adjust to the new pronouns and though our mother has difficulty remembering, she is genuinely accepting and makes and effort to get it right. The issue is our father.
Though he claims to be open about it and accepting, he tends to make jokes and comments that are generally considered disrespectful or insensitive to trans/nonbinary people. He will say things relating to "joke pronouns" or say things like "You will always be my daughter" and then get confused why we don't laugh. When told that what he says is offensive or disrespectful he says that it's just a joke and that comedians make jokes about that kind of stuff all the time.
Even if this is true, my sibling is highly affected by these kinds of jokes and comments and can even fall into a harmful panic attack if our father continues to double down.
He has been told repeatedly that it's not about what other people would be okay with or laugh about, it's about him not taking my siblings feelings about it into account.
He refuses to listen. So, are we in the wrong for yelling at him and being mad about his comments and jokes?

Im writing a story rn with these side characters, although their sexuality and gender identity don’t play a role in the story and barely gets mentioned, I’m just curious wether this would be considered a queer relationship my most