So, I 17m is wondering if I'm gay.

Like I know, I'm the only one who can like know for sure, but I still want to see what others think...

I have been in 3 relationship with girls before, the first one: I was 7 and so I didn't really have any attraction towards my first girlfriend, but it only lasted until May 2015; the second one: I was 8 and like my first one I didn't have any attraction towards my second girlfriend, but it only lasted for about and ended in July 2015; the third one: I was older, but I was 11 and unlike my first and second girlgirlfriend I had attractions towards my third girlfriend, but we broke up twice: the first break-up was my fault, but the second was her fault completely cause she had gotten with this one girl during our first break up and when I found out about it she said this "we can be in polyamorous relationship" and I told her this "No, thx. We're over, " and I broke up with her that time. But, in 2019. I started to wonder if I was dating the wrong gender and that led to me thinking I was gay, but after some time realizing it, I realized I wasn't gay. And, then, in 2020. I started to develop sexual and romantic attraction towards girls, but then in 2021 I started to develop attractions towards guys and I started to think I was bisexual, but that same year I started to noticed that my romantic attraction towards girls was starting to fade away, but it didn't fully fade away until 2022 and I thought maybe I was Homoromantic & Heterosexual, but in 2022 when I started the 9th grade I started to noticed that my sexual attractions towards girls was fading away, but my sexual attraction towards girls is kind of there, but I have been noticing that my sexual attraction towards girls is almost completely faded away. Like, when I see a girl, I don't get turned on by them like I used to, and when I see a girl, I don't imagine myself being with a girl like I used to. I do think I am gay, but it's really hard to be certain when my sexual attraction towards girls is kind of there still. What do you all think?

I've been out as trans at my school since last year, but next year I'm really thinking of going back into the closet. I'll be in the same school as my sister, and I know she'll accept me, and just make fun of me, but I don't know when I'm going to come out to her. I also want to join volleyball next year, but they only have a girl's team. It's also really hard to get into a relationship, especially since I'm also polyamorous. Idk, I know that the theatre kids will accept me, since there's a lot of trans / gay people in theatre, but I'm just scared. [sorry for being all over the place, I'm tired]

My bf and I have been dating for 2 years since middle school and he broke up with me for a girl. I don't know what to do

I've only had crushes on other boys, and I dated a girl but didn't really feel anything from the relationship

So i (13 m) have a (11 m) and my friend is friends with my ex (12m) and my ex keeps telling my friend that I did really bad things to them and my friend believes it and my ex and I live 3,000 miles apart probably more and I just want my friend back currently I'm pissed at my ex.

Yes me and my ex are where still friends until this yes it was online dating we met on a video game we play

Like why? Why am I scared? I'm 90% sure that they will be supportive, but that small bit of uncertainty is absolutely terrifying. I wish I was brave, I wish I was like all those other people I see on here. Everytime I have attempted to come out I just decide not to

I'm in an Inclusivity club at my school, and we're going to a diversity fair in December. I said I would crochet some small flags and other things to give away, but idk what flags I should make. I have a rainbow one, and I plan on making trans ones, but what else should I make?

So it's been more than three months since we broke up, and things were quite normal. We got into relationship when that girl was going through her tough times because she lost her father and also her boyfriend cheated on her ( she is a straight tho). She wasn't mentally stable at that time and I also helped her in her tough times, and somehow my hidden feelings were out for nothing and I asked her out. We spent 9 months together, we kissed, we shared everything. Afterall we are just teens freaking out.

I was in relationship to know more about myself because I was confused too... But that didn't mean I never love her. And we both decided to try something different like fr in my country it's not even allowed...some so called toxic haters just spread hate nd all. So after breaking up I tried not to focus on her but dang we both chose the same subjects and I was seeing her daily , so I decided to look for someone online with whom I can share same thoughts and hobbies. There I met a girl who was ready to accept me but then I slowly realised that it isn't the way it should be... We were perfect in relationship but my ex was becoming more close to me and some how I was getting attracted to her again...

I am confused by my this messed up feelings due to which I ended the online relationship to focus on myself..... I am scared to go back again and I don't know if this is a right decision or not ...?

is it h0m0ph0bic to not wanna date trans people?

hi there! im not sure if this is the right time to be asking such questions, considering whats happening in the world right now, so pardon me if its not the right time..

im a genderfluid person (afab) and im pretty sure im bisexual. in the past, i've dated boys and girls, experimented and tried and i became content with the fact that im bisexual. at first, i was so sure im pansexual but the problem is - i can't imagine dating a trans person. its just not for me..its more so sexual thing, where if i date a guy, i expect him to have specific things and the same thing with girls. i think trans people are beautiful and i love them (it would be hypocratical if i didnt) but i just can't imagine dating one and i feel horrible bcs of it. i feel like im the most h0m0ph0bic and tr4nsph0bic person ever, even tho im not! idk why i can't imagine dating a trans fella..

is it normal? is it a bad thing??

Why are trans people so pretty like- ma'am i wish i could look like you and sir you are an idol like 10000/10 to any trans person because yall are all amazing.

Why are Bi people so cool like- yall know what to say and when to say it and i wish lol

Why are gay people such a vibe? Like yall are like the tenors in a choir you just got the best beat and the most amazing drive to do good things (choir kids you understand)

Why are nonbinary people so (seemingly) effortlessly stylish? Like any NB person i see has the best style ever like i need tips : D

Why are lesbians so cute? Like single we eat because we know who we are, and literally any lesbian couple seems like such a power couple

(this is part 1 of the uplifting things im trying to say to make sure that everyone knows they are amazing- stuff is hard rn but we will pull through i promise <3

I'd like to let you guys know beforehand that english is not my mother language, so forgive me for any grammar mistakes that may occur.

I've been attracted to girls since I was like, 5 I believe. But for some time now I've been attracted to 'femboys' and consume pornographic content about it and in maybe some act of self-denial always thought that if they considered themselves women 'there is nothing gay about it'. But recently now I've been getting strangely attracted to one of my best 'pals' if I can say that, I always thought about it as a hypothetical scenario and that my mind rambling but recently it this thought started to occur more often and stronger. And the last straw was today, my coleague's brother came to see our project on the school fair (I'm 17 and currently on the 2nd grade in my country), the moment I set my eyes on him something snaped in the bottom of my mind and I thought 'DAAAAMN he's is cute'. This wasn't the usual acknowledgment toward a friend's looks but genuine attraction, like I would feel for girls who visually caught my attention. I'm really confused with these feelings, I don't know if I might be gay or just bi or even if I have fetish, if some of you guys can help me out, I would be grateful.

I'm not sure where to go so I have come here. And I hate to come across like I dislike gay relationships. As the saying goes "I'm not homophobic or anything. I'm an ally~~".

I'm 17 (f) and I have never had a lot of crushes. But lately, I have found myself "crushing" on this girl. Usually when I feel like this, I panic and the feeling eventually passes in a few days. But not this time- probabaly because I befriended her. The thing is I have never had a crush on a guy in real life. I mean I'm young but like I should have had one by now. I do like fictional men or celebrities and stuff. But never have I ever been attracted to a guy in real life. Is that just anxiety (I was raised in purity culture so that might have something to do with it??).

I feel like scarring ngl. I'm not even allowed to date before marraige. How tf am I supposed to live with myself if I'm only attarcted to girls 😭😭 my father had already talked me against same sex attraction and is openly homophobic. I have pretty much crafted my entire life around him- choosing the same career he did so I don't want to make him hate me.

I'm sorry for my rambling. My mind feels so cluttered from this.

Ive(M14) come to realise i am most likely gay. Atleast attracted to men. Does anybody know any ways i can meet a potential partner? A lot of people in my area are anti-lgbtq which makes me nervous to ask anyone. Theres this really cute guy in my class however im not sure he is gay.

So basically,I practically got forced out in primary when I told one of my mates I think about the same gender and I think I like them but I don't know. She went around telling everyone she could about it socby the end of primary,everyone in my year knew I was,even though I didn't know myself. So when I went into highschool I was hoping that nobody would know so that I could figure myself out and think about everything,but the people from my primary that are in the same hs as me told everyone. Now it's been 2 years and I've met a lot of people who are also gay and they've become some of my best mates,but they're all happy with who they are(besides one girls parents being homophobic but that's a different story) and ive even gone out with one of them multiple times.

With all of this being said,I don't like being gay and I don't like people knowing. People put a label on me for it and I don't like it. I go as unlabeled but everyone either says that I'm bi or pan(without even asking me) and whenever I meet one of my mates friends they say 'this is(my name) and she is bi/pan'. Every time. I've told them multiple times that I'm not bi and I'm not pan. But the thing is,even though they are gay they only know gay,lesbian,bi and pan. They don't know anything else. They don't agree with different pronoun use besides she/her and he/him. So I don't tell them that much because they either don't understand or they don't agree with it. This makes me feel really alone because I've tried talking to one of my other best mates about it(straight boy) and he just says 'hie do you not like being gay but yet you'd say you'd shag (random person,most likely a cartoon character) so that doesn't make sense'. Also none of my mates know that the term 'gay' can also be used as an umbrella term so whenever I say I'm gay,they say, 'no your not,your not a boy. Your lesbian/bi/pan.' They tell me what I am and they tell other people what I am even though it's not true

So I got forced to come out I don't want to be gay And nobody actually understands me. I hardly understand myself

This is a really quick overview of what happens but I just feel so alone even though I have loads of mates. None of them understand and even the gay ones are slightly homophobic. I js don't know what to do.

Edit:I'm unlabeled

I've had a small crush on that girl that I saw at my school. We've smiled at each other, and sometimes even a hi would appear. Today I went out and asked for her Instagram, she said "surely" and gave it to me. Well, what do I do now?

I don't want to make it awkward, should I chat her up when I see her at school, maybe text her sometime? Any advice?

I didn't even ask for her name oh my god

Long story short my partner is in some really hot water with their parents for being gay and writing about them in their college essay. They are really sick rn and the doctor says that they have pulmonary embolism and well the parents don't really care. That's how bad it is. They are turning 18 soon too and they need to get out if they are not kicked out. They have no where to stay during the summer.

Does anyone know of any places that provide resources? Thank you so much

So this is a pt. 2 of my “am i trans or not” post: so I figured out im not trans or a boy but rather nonbinary since I don’t see myself as a dude or girl yet, so i may need some time to think but until then im nonbinary

Tw: religious stuff I guess...?

Well hey, I don't even know if someone is going to read this but I just wanted to put my feelings out. I'm a poc high-school student in a majorly homophobic & conservative Asian country. I've been raised in a very religious Christian household. All my life, I've been taught how loving the same gender is a sin. But in my first year of hs, I fell in love with a Russian girl in my class. She was a foreigner and she felt out of place and so, I thought I'd talk to her a become friends with her. Before I knew it, I was very much in love. I've had crushes before but never on a girl. And at first the fact that we're both girls didn't even bother me and we started dating. I started feeling really happy but then after a few months, I heard my sister and father talk about homosexuality is a sin. And I started feeling like I was doing something wrong I loved God but I loved my gf too. We broke up after 5 or 6 months because of me being afraid of people making fun of us or because I 'belived' I was commiting a sin. I hurted her and myself in the process. I haven't been able to move on, I still love her. I don't know what to do at all, I've been raised a Christian all my life and belived whatever the priests have told me and now I fell in love with a girl which is 'wrong'. I know it isn't wrong, I know it's not wrong to love someone of the same gender and I want to get back to her and love her more and again but I can't bring myself to do it. I'm still afraid. I know I need comfort but I don't really have anyone to turn to as my 'best' friends, the person im closest to, my sister and my parents are all homophobic , conservative & religious Christians and I know they would never accept me.

she/her pronouns feel weird

Hello! In an agender( +nonbinary maybe? questioning) I feel my gender is somehwat netrual somewhat not there. I see it as i care about my gender being as netrual as not there, as posssible. Im closeted and not out to anyone, but im planning to come out ti a close friend soon. He is very supportive, i know he will accespt me. Hes accespted his other friends who have came out. I use she/they/ze/zem pronouns. I LOVE the pronouns they/them and ze/zem. They feel right, like trying to put a circle into an circle sized hole. It fits perfectly. I havent had anyone reffer to me as them tho, because im not out. Which makes me sad but ill eventually be referred to by them! :) While she/her feels just eh, its kot uncomfortable like he/him. But it doesnt fit right. If you put a circle into a square hole, itll fit technically but wont fit perfectly. Idk they just dont feel as comfortable as they/ze/zem. But they dont feel bad. Is this strange? what do i do about it?

Usually I don’t care about labels and default to saying I’m bi when asked cause idc about people’s gender, but recently I’ve realized that I’m not sexually attracted to women at all. I’ve had sex with them before and was never a fan of it and now that I have a boyfriend I’m realizing just how much I hate the idea of having sex with a woman. I would date them but that’s it. I prefer men by a lot dating wise too, I’ve dated women before and can still see myself dating one but I prefer men so much more. I could see myself dating other genders too, but still see my self only having sex with bio men. Am I just bi or Omni with a preference or is there something for this? Please help thank you 😭

First thank all of you who had commented on my original post and I just wanna answer your questions

my mom isn't homophobic I'm not sure it's she's transphobic. and my dad probably is witch I will talk about in a second

So let's get into more of the story.

I started questioning stuff like gender and sexuality when I was 11 witch I know that was young but it's not the point of this post and my parents when supportive of me being gay when I came out but when I turned 12 I started questioning my gender more and and I thought for awhile I either used he/they pronouns or they/them but the more I thought about it and I did research about it the more I realized I might be trans and they day after I started questioning my mom told me "she needs me to stay a guy" and I almost started crying right there but I held it in until at midnight when I almost had a panic attack because of it

Helloo, so recently I’ve been having another identity crisis (yay!) and I’ve been curious about if I’m trans-demigirl. I’m AMAB, currently identify as non-binary, and I have identified as a femboy in the past, but I later realized it was too feminine for me so I tried out demiboy, then nonbinary which brings us to the present. I don’t really feel masculine at all, now that I think about it, but I do feel very feminine. I prefer being small and soft than large and strong, I much rather be called cute than handsome, I…have recently really liked the idea of having breasts (but I’m going to be thinking over that idea for a long time before doing anything ofc), I like wearing feminine clothing and own a few skirts from when I identified as a femboy, I prefer having feminine PFPs online and using cutesy text characters like “~”, “^^”, etc., I very much prefer having a shaved body, and I like having long hair (but I’ve felt like this for a long time, like 2/3rds my life so I don’t think this means much). Id really like if someone can give me advice/their point of view, and do ask me more questions if you need more information to help guess if I truly identify this way. Thanks!!~

Fall in love with the most expected person in the world (a straight man)

I need some advice on how to handle this crush I have. It’s intense, and it’s actually my first real crush, so the feelings are a bit intense. I’ve had a crush on this guy for about a week. It may seem short, but the feelings are already pretty strong since I’ve never felt this way before.

I met him through a friend group that I recently joined, although I’m not yet deeply connected with everyone. He’s best friends with the “leader” of the group. His best friend casually mentioned that he had a girlfriend in the past. It lasted for 7-9 months. He shares little with his best friend about his gf though. No one in the group knows about my feelings for him, but this revelation broke my heart.

We gays all have this false hope which later turns into delusion that he’s somehow fluid, or even better - closeted.. I know it’s risky and wrong to speculate, but I want to be emotionally prepared and not set myself up for further heartbreaking.

Observations about him (with my Interpretations):

• He loves football and is interested FIFA, and his overall gestures don’t give me a stereotypically “feminine” vibe, like at all.

• He has a game like Episode on his Steam library. When I asked why, he said he finds it funny.

• When playing Tekken, he often chooses female characters. (Maybe it’s because he finds them hot.)

• He uses a third-party app on Instagram to hide his followers and who he follows. (This might just be because he values privacy, but it’s quite unusual).

• Once, in the middle of some conversation someone jokingly asked him if he likes men. (bro’s joke): He didn’t react or answer, and then the conversation topic swiftly changed. I’m not sure if he heard, ignored it, or simply didn’t understand (because we’re foreigners and speak English.

• He has a bit of a rock/emo aesthetic. Last year he posts several photos with eyeliner and black-painted nails (while still in the relationship).

• He likes rock, rap, and hip-hop.

• He has a cute cat sticker on his phone case (probably doesn’t mean much, but it’s something I noticed).

I’ve been obsessing over him for the past few days, and it’s starting to mess with my routine. I can’t eat or sleep properly, and it’s weighing heavily on my mental health. What am i supposed to do? It’s hurting like a son of a b. Is there any way to ask him about his orientation without being so obvious? I know there’s plenty of fish in the sea but when falling in love, what if this is the only fish i want to catch?

(He has a lesbian friend, so he might or might not be homophobic. But I’m in Russia, so I know this could be complicated.)

My parents are homophobic. Trump supporters and all. I cant come out to them (obviously) and i feel like i only have one option left. I dont want to, but i can't live like this. Ive been hiding this for years, and i cant leave their house for a few more years anyway.

If anyone has been in a trapped situation like this, do you know what to do?

Hey! I just started a new class, and there’s this guy who sits across the room from me. He’s really good-looking and seems super cool. I’d love to talk to him, but I’m not sure how to start a conversation without coming off as awkward, especially since we’ve never spoken before.

I was just looking for some advice on how to maybe strike up a conversation and maybe (possibly, hopefully) make a new friend, as mine and his interests seem to align.

Anything would be appreciated!

i became friends w/ this girl a lil over a year ago cs we bonded over shared interests (i’ve known her for 4-5 years se js never talked) and i think ive been crushing on her. i think she’s straight, however idk how to ask her and even then i don’t know if she likes me we have a mutual friend and i don’t wanna lose either friendship over this(neither of them are homophobic) so idk what to do

my friend likes me (shes a girl). she doesnt know that i know. the thing is, im confused. i dont know what gender i like and i also despise relationships (but i yearn for one). im really confused and too scared to tell my dad (might be too young for it) and mom (homophobic). i could tell my trans uncle but im too scared. i dont know what to do, so please help me.

So me and my friend have known eachother for ages, we met i beleive when we where 6 and i have always just seen him as a friend, until recently. We had a bit of a falling out but we started talking again recently and ever since ive developed a massive bloody crush on him.

What do I do? Do I just try to wait it out? Do I come out? I have been trying to come out for a bit now. I just feel so lost

Ok so we all know by now trump is president. Things are about to get really shitty. I myself am not from the US but I know how bad ist about to get. I am genuinely so sorry for you all ut is going to be hard but it is not worth dying over. There are many other options. If your around 17 or 18 Canada are opening their borders for political refugees. If your parents are supportive ask them about moving. If you have families or ancestorial connections in other countries see if you can move there. If your parents are not so supportive which ik happens dont give up you can make it to 18 and leave. Death is not for consideration.

This hurts me to say as it goes against everything this sub and us as a community stand for. Prioritise your safety if that means you need to go back in the closet for a bit it's awful but it may be necessary. If you need to detransition only temporarily it will hurt but keep yourselves safe.

I am genuinely so sorry and sending all my love from Europe 💙

Mods please don't remove this as it needs to be heard

Crying my eyes out, while scrolling the internet, seeing people my age doing their thing, being happy, It has just now hit me that, I wont get to experience that joy as a kid. My sexual orientation has ruined my life. I don’t get to experience teenage love, I don’t get to wear what I want, I don’t get to have friends, I don’t get to be myself. Why? Because ill get beat up for it. Now I personally don’t think I deserve this, but alot of people do, and that hurts alot more. Knowing people genuinely hate me for who I am is sickening, im gonna vomit from crying, I have a headache from crying, my face is soaked in tears, i just wanna be fucking happy bro, but nobody wants that for me.