/r/androgyny

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Androgyny is a non-binary gender identity in between male and female. Someone who identifies as androgynous might present with both masculine and feminine characteristics, or with no gender presentation at all. This subreddit is for those who identify or present as androgynous, or would like to.

Androgyny means presenting onesself with both masculine and feminine characteristics, or with no gender presentation at all. This subreddit is for those who present as androgynous, or would like to. All genders are welcome here, including non-binary and other trans identities.

/r/androgyny

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Afab person who doesn't want HRT but wants a more masculine body/face?

Title is pretty self-explanatory. I don't want to go through HRT mainly bc I already have some issues with my liver, with my overall health, and a hairy body/T dick is not what I'm looking for.

All I want is a more masculine body, face, and possibly a deeper voice, but I'm definitely not aiming for a Manly Man appearance. Just a bit in-between.

Any advice on this? Any tips, exercises, routines or any other ideas you can come up with would be vey helpful.

(Also, I heard I could microdose, but I have no idea how that works, if anyone can help me with that it'll be much appreciated).

13 Comments
2024/10/28
19:53 UTC

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Trying to find similar outfits

I really love this outfit. For me at least it really hits the nail on the head for gender fluidity.

https://www.candymanfashion.com/products/candyman-99575-bodysuit

I want to find similar pieces, specifically a romper with the shorts/cheeky cut.

Anyone seen anything like that? How should I search for it?

0 Comments
2024/10/27
18:16 UTC

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Does anyone have tips for facial androgyny?

So I'm Amab and I have not the most masculine face but like masculine enough that it could never be perceived as anything else and obviously I don't neeeed to be androgynous but I'm really dysphoric about it and I was wondering if anyone had any tips on what I could do to change my appearance? I know makeup is the most obvious but I don't have the time, money or effort to do a full face every day and I'm not sure how much it would even help

5 Comments
2024/10/24
09:50 UTC

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is there a specific word for...

androgyny but it's less "characteristics of both male and female" and more "an absence of gender"?

i'm a trans woman but doing some research for a poem

7 Comments
2024/10/23
20:25 UTC

0

زبي

زبي

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2024/10/21
12:06 UTC

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I don't know which path is the right one for me

I try to keep it short. I always wanted to be a woman, and if there were a magical button, I would press it immediately. But since this button doesn't exist, I have to consider which alternative is the best option for me. For years, I've been wondering whether I should take HRT and live my life openly as a trans woman. I've already started hormones twice (for 2 weeks each time) and stopped out of fear of the consequences (poor passing, reactions from friends and family, etc.). Now, I'm taking hormones for the third time and am on the verge of stopping again for the same reasons as before.

I wonder if maybe it's just not right for me, even though I know I'd rather live as a woman. I wonder if it might be better for me to live my life as a man but stop presenting myself as a 'classic' man—giving in to my needs, shaving my legs, wearing nail polish, and dressing more femininely. I wonder if that would be enough for me.

Has anyone else experienced something similar? Has anyone made a similar decision and is happy with it? Or does anyone have another alternative I could try? I just don't know if transitioning is the right path for me.

7 Comments
2024/10/21
07:49 UTC

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Looking for androgynous fashion tips

I'm a 22 amab who wants to start presenting more androgynous and have no idea where to look. Wanting to try and find crop tops and maybe some skirts. Any recommendations on brands?

2 Comments
2024/10/21
02:23 UTC

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Androgynous like the Angels

I'm on the cusp of my gender journey and I'm leaning towards androgyny, and genderless-gender fluid. I like presenting masculine but I'd like to appear softer like St. Michael the Archangel, that entity is just gender goals for me. my question being how do I start living " I can do both, I can do both" mentality?

3 Comments
2024/10/18
03:42 UTC

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My boi 🩷

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2024/10/16
02:28 UTC

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Balanced somewhere in the middle (*・ω・)

2 Comments
2024/10/16
02:15 UTC

44

New to this SR, hey

1 Comment
2024/10/15
14:52 UTC

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Boys’ outfit?

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2024/10/14
12:20 UTC

114

Back to blue 💙

4 Comments
2024/10/13
21:24 UTC

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patiently waiting for my hair to grow lol

10 Comments
2024/10/13
17:29 UTC

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do you like the color? 🍑

0 Comments
2024/10/13
15:42 UTC

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I would love to meet an androgynous gay guy

A long time ago I discovered that I like androgynous and effeminate boys and I would like to know where I could meet boys like that.

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2024/10/12
23:31 UTC

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What am I leaning towards?

3 Comments
2024/10/12
03:35 UTC

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Perched

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2024/10/11
20:29 UTC

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#FishnetFriday

2 Comments
2024/10/11
20:11 UTC

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suit game ❣️

4 Comments
2024/10/11
09:17 UTC

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Hey!! How did make my hair look more androgynous?

Im genderfluid and rn I feel rly femme and I was born male at birth and look completely male but I really wanna look more femme. The problem is my hair. My hair looks masculine and when I let it grow up it just looks like some stupid eraser head Afro. I don’t know whay to do anymore, I’m so tired of my masculine hair. There’s literally no way of making my hair look femme even if I tried.

1 Comment
2024/10/10
23:55 UTC

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Finally figured how to do my waterline 😅

2 Comments
2024/10/10
20:39 UTC

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Someone asked about this dress in comments; it's my fav! Got it from Old Navy, and feels flattering!

9 Comments
2024/10/10
16:29 UTC

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It's sweater weather!

0 Comments
2024/10/10
11:09 UTC

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Just a boi and their familiar 🖤

3 Comments
2024/10/09
00:35 UTC

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Exulting in my androgyny

3 Comments
2024/10/08
21:04 UTC

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Thank my parents for my looks

7 Comments
2024/10/08
12:25 UTC

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What do you think about the fit?

Sorry for the repost :(

4 Comments
2024/10/08
01:08 UTC

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Here's some socks I picked up in Boise a few months ago.

0 Comments
2024/10/07
07:24 UTC

27

I'm recent coming to terms with my androgyny

I always knew that I wasn't traditionally masculine. I had sensitive feelings as a kid. I had major anxiety and depression and would have crying spells at school. Kids would make fun of me and think that I was gay and call me the F word.

I was watching a game show with my family and the question had to do with how many hours a week a woman cries. After the answer was revealed, my mom made fun of me by saying I cried more than that.

When I was 8 years old or so I was on a bowling league. They had those coin machines with toys in them. One of them had some rings that were meant for girls but I didn't care. When we got home my dad screamed at me at told me that it was not okay to wear rings.

He had sensitive feelings himself which he was afraid to express because that was not how boomer men acted. They were supposed to shove everything down, never cry or admit when they're wrong, never do anything that would make them feel less masculine. He was toxic in many ways, including this. He died last year. He never went to therapy. He drank himself to death. As much as I lament the postive father figure I never had, my life has been okay since he's been gone. He can't criticize me anymore. He was a miserable person. He would hate me for what I've become.

Something changed in me this year. I read something a long time ago that said every cell in your body regenerates itself, and every seven years, you basically become a new person. I turned 35 and hit my 5th nexus. It was inevitable.

I bought some nail polish and an eyeliner pencil. I started painting the pointer fingers black, and then the rest. I noticed that it helped reduce the ccompulsion to pick at my nails and cuticles. I did a bad job on my eyeliner. I found a community where everyone is super happy for each other and got some help. They recommended cuticle oil, drawing on the waterline, getting some mascara, using brown for the lower lid, etc. I bought some masculine fidget rings that keep my hands occupied.

I've gotten better at it. If I take my time with my nails they don't smudge as much. They still look rough sometimes, I don't think I'll ever have perfect nails unless I pay for it. On my eyes I use brown on the bottom, a line of green the same color as my eyes on top, and then fill a little more with black. I got some clear diamond mascara. My lashes already make women jealous, throw that on and they pop even more.

The next thing I haven't done but want to try is wearing a dress. I ordered some Halloween dresses from Punkoutfit in a 2X. I'm really hoping they fit. I did my measurements and there should be just a little bit of room to them. I'm really excited for them to come in. I'll be posting pictures.

I am a complex person. According to the test, I have more masculinity than average, and an almost equal level of feminine traits, making me a true androgene. My outward energy is masculine. I carry myself like I man, I am logical, direct, aggressive, good at doing things. In the areas that I am feminine, I feel intensely, my heart is soft, my intuition is sharp as a knife, I am supportive of my friends, I feel the state of being as a woman would. I still identify as a heterosexual male but I identify more as being something greater. I'm not trying to pass as a woman. I would make a terrible woman. I'm tall, mesomorphic, I look like a viking. Tattoos on my arms and chest, neat beard, long hair with the sides shaved. The thought of shaving my face makes me sad inside. It's been 12 years since I last shaved completely. My brother told me I look like a kid.

I don't know when or how I'll come out to anyone that I actually know. I don't know where I'm going to wear my dresses in public. Honestly probably the LGBTQA bar that's 45 minutes away from me. Most of my friends aren't going to be able to wrap their heads around this. I'm at a point where I could use some support. I need to know that there are people like me who have experienced this kind of thing. I would really appreciate it.

17 Comments
2024/10/07
06:48 UTC

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