/r/agender

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A subreddit for agender, genderless and neutrois people.

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/r/agender

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5

Hello

Okay so I thought I was agender cause I felt like I had no gender , before that I felt masc and now I feel feminine? So guess I’m not agender but fluid

3 Comments
2024/12/03
18:07 UTC

13

I ordered a few buttons of a flower with a protanopia filter as a representation of my agenderness, inspired by my profile pic that I've kinda taken a shine to. Won't have any meaning to anyone but me really.

0 Comments
2024/12/03
16:06 UTC

4

I guess this trend will not end untill everyone would try it (so why not me as well)

3 Comments
2024/12/03
15:16 UTC

26

Do I count as agender?

  • My sex is male.
  • I don't care about gender norms.
  • I don't have any feelings whem it comes to my gender identity.
  • My pronouns are he/him, but I don't mind people using other pronouns.
  • I want to be born in a female body, but I am fine with my current sex.
  • Also, I'm not sure if this is important, but I have done some gender identity tests online and most of the results are agender.
14 Comments
2024/12/03
14:52 UTC

13

Looking for agender friends!

Hey guys, my name is Charlotte and I am 17 agender. I'm looking for other agender friends, there's been many situations when cis people were tranpshobic towards me or didn't understand me, which is why I'd love to make some agender friends! I'm interested in drawing, writing, playing games (mostly roblox) and watching cartoons! If anybody's interested please message me on private!

1 Comment
2024/12/03
04:19 UTC

5

Looking for friends!

Hi guys, I'm 17 and agender. I'd love to make some other agender friends as I never any other agender person!!! If you're interested in roblox, roleplaying or drawing please message me!!!

0 Comments
2024/12/03
04:15 UTC

1

How to pump my veins full of affirmation?

I've been feeling a lot of dysphoria with me accidentally calling myself a boy and telling myself "what if this is just a phase? You're just being overdramatic.". And I really hate that feeling. Do you guys have any tips for getting affirmation just pumped straight into my veins?

2 Comments
2024/12/03
00:17 UTC

154

Recently realized I'm agender. Here's an turtle.

10 Comments
2024/12/03
00:07 UTC

1

How to go on T without my parents knowing?

am 19 but have unsupportive parents, I want to know how to without them finding out. I live with them by the way. I know they’d eventually notices the changes but it’s at least buy me time and I could try to hide them until I move out.

1 Comment
2024/12/02
22:02 UTC

6

Whats the difference?

I feel like I am going crazy, what is the difference between non-binary and agender? I think I am agender but when i look up the difference I just get confused.

I still new to this stuff and am trying to understand myself cuz ik I am no man or woman.

9 Comments
2024/12/02
21:53 UTC

5

agender or just insecure?

i am afab, and generally, i feel pretty indifferent about my gender. i tend to have a more feminine gender expression but i don't feel all that connected to being a woman, nor am i opposed to being referred to as such. i'm neutral about it.

however, whenever i've had poor experiences with men where i feel objectified or oversexualized by them, my view of myself goes from indifference to immense discomfort. i begin to feel uncomfortable and disconnected from my body, and being referred to as a woman or female upsets me.

would this mean that i'm agender? or just insecure as a result of how i've been treated?

7 Comments
2024/12/02
20:02 UTC

8

A weirdo trying to get a name.

Yup, this is me, why do I have horns even I'm an absolutely chill person? Idk but I got horns.

6 Comments
2024/12/02
13:17 UTC

2

No name needed, just wanted to share.

0 Comments
2024/12/02
08:26 UTC

6

May I have a gender neutral name

5 Comments
2024/12/02
04:00 UTC

3

Gender question!

Hi! ive identified as agender for about a year now, and recently ive been thinking that i could be genderfluid. while i hate the idea of having a gender, i think i share traits with being genderfluid. i was wondering if anyone here is both genderfluid and agender, and if not, does the concept of being agender while still identifying under a certain pronoun pool every so often exist? (like if i enjoy having she/her prns one day and then he/him the next while not being a boy or a girl) any help would be great!!

8 Comments
2024/12/02
00:07 UTC

79

Wait… do people actually feel connected to their assigned gender???

I always assumed everyone was just being forced to act a certain way because of norms associated with their assigned genders- so as to not be ostracized or taken as "weird", not that they willingly try to/ enjoy it. Am I misinterpreting something here? Because that concept does not make sense to me

21 Comments
2024/12/01
23:47 UTC

5

After two hole monthes, i fanely did it!

I found a name (jay)

And i am in love with this name (its also the nickname of the creator of epic the misical which is a bounus)

1 Comment
2024/12/01
23:18 UTC

40

how did you find out you were agender?

I honestly don't understand the concept. I tried watching many vids but I just can't apply what I hear to what I feel. i just feel confusion, I guess?

32 Comments
2024/12/01
18:52 UTC

10

Do I fit into the gender community?

So since I was 14 I've had dysphoria from my chest, name, and feminine appearance. At 16 I started dressing masculine, at 21 I got my name changed to a unisex one, and at 22 I had top surgery. Now I'm almost 25 and I just don't know where I fit. I don't have dysphoria anymore because I fixed the things that made me dysphoric. I just don't think I belong in the ftm community because I have no desire to take testosterone and be dependent on it for the rest of my life. Also I don't care what pronouns people use for me. I prefer masculine ones just because of my appearance and because I feel like feminine ones would confuse people.

6 Comments
2024/12/01
16:38 UTC

0

I already have a name but I want to know what you all think.

I just wanted to hop on this trend before it died

2 Comments
2024/12/01
09:48 UTC

1

GIMME A NAME

Already have one, but I was curious!

2 Comments
2024/12/01
06:56 UTC

24

Hey guys!... Please name me 🥺

8 Comments
2024/12/01
04:04 UTC

4

Now i already have a really awesome super secret name but i'd still like to hear your ideas! (No i didn't post this as a link before what are you talking about? Also why is it so wide? Wow i'm really bad at this technology stuff lol)

2 Comments
2024/12/01
00:45 UTC

33

please help me find a name with o

i‘m looking for a gender neutral name starting with o since a while now, maybe you can help?

35 Comments
2024/11/30
23:47 UTC

0

I wanted to join this

1 Comment
2024/11/30
21:59 UTC

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