I feel like I have gender dysphoria, but I feel like I don’t get it the same as most people describe it. Like, I don’t feel like I want to tear my body apart when I think about the fact I have b00bs. But I also don’t feel… right. It doesn’t feel like distress or anything, just mild discomfort. Like I don’t feel factually correct in my body, and I was meant for a different body. I feel like dysphoria often gets described as not being born in the right body, but most people describe it as actual hatred of their body and extreme self esteem issues and body image issues. It doesn’t feel that intense to me, but it still feels wrong. I don’t recognize myself. I’ve transitioned a little bit, but my b00bs are the main source of discomfort I have, and I don’t have binders and can’t get surgery, and even when I can get surgery, it’ll probably take years of waitlists. I wish I didn’t have them, they don’t feel “right,” and I hate them in both gender related ways, and just generally hate them. Does this count as dysphoria? I feel like it’s not intense enough to be gender dysphoria, but I also get told that dysphoria is different for everyone, so it’s so hard to tell.

I’ve been thinking I’m agender for a couple months. I originally wasn’t going to come out. My parents are homophobic and transphobic, they aren’t extreme or unsafe, but they’d probably argue with me if I bring it up and then I’ll hurt myself and lose my streak which is at 166 days right now. They’ll probably also misgender me, whether it be on purpose or by accident. I know all this because I used to think I was a lesbian (and several other things, but lesbian was the only thing I came out as), and when I came out, me and my mom talked about it for probably 30-60 minutes. I don’t even remember what about, but likely just useless conversation about my mom not understanding what I feel or why. I have 6 siblings, and I know they’ll be very accepting. Half of them are queer themselves, and I know for a fact they’ll be fine with it. My main worry was that they might use my correct gender/pronouns/name in front of my parents and accidentally out me. I was fine with just not coming out until I move out, because I knew it would only cause problems. But I still wanted to talk about it. I think the part of me that wanted to talk about it is now becoming a bit stronger, and while I am a little scared about my parents possibly finding out, I think it’ll still be beneficial to socially transition, even if it’s only to my siblings. But now that I feel like I might actually come out, I feel less ready to do so, like I don’t know what to say. It feels stupid because I love talking about my opinions and giving advice, so I answer to questions like these on Reddit and Quora constantly, but when I’m in the same position, it feels a lot harder. When I came out as lesbian, it felt easy because I didn’t know that anyone would be discriminatory, but now I do know there’s risk of discrimination, and it feels a lot harder. Not to mention the severe anxiety and fear that I’m making up everything and my gender identity is fake and I’m the worst. But Y’know. Sucks to suck. Heh… Ugh.

I generally just want to know if I should come out to my siblings, and how. I’m 14, and all my siblings are older than me, so I don’t talk to all of them a lot, I mainly talk to my sisters, but I also don’t want to be misgendered by my other siblings, so I want to come out to all of them, so I guess I want to know how to come out to people who I talk to a lot as well as the siblings I don’t talk to as much.

I always think to myself that i actualy don't understand gender corectly and i am actualy not agender and its getting out of hand and i've got about 3 panic attaces from that only today

I'm sick of being a contentious political point.

I've stopped using mixed pronouns irl (my native language is very gendered and doesn't have a neutral) because I'm scared people will judge and start arguing. I know I should "do it scared" or whatever but I simply do not have the energy to be A Statement and I hate that it's like that. I'm sick of having to choose between feeling like I'm not fully myself or social repercussion, especially since I keep being too scared to try and insist on being fully myself.

I can't even bring up the discussion with people because "trans" has never stopped being a political talking point here and people see anything close to "nonbinary" as some woke shit from America.

This really sucks dude.

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I’m agender, and I have been for about 2 years now. I’m comfortable with my identity, and have been since I identified as agender.

Although, recently I’ve been starting to feel much more masculine. I am biologically a girl, but recently I’ve been feeling less androgynous and more masculine. I don’t want to be presented as masculine, I want to be presented as androgynous, but my mind is nagging at being a boy.

I don’t feel trans, I still feel very comfortable with the label of Agender, just confused at the moment.

Do other people feel this way? I know lgbtq is a spectrum, but agender is feeling no gender at all, am I no longer agender?

I just want to say how grateful I am to be able to be apart of this community, y’all are beautiful cool and kind people and I look forward to all the conversations to come in 2025.

Good luck for all your dreams and goals. Stay safe. stay strong. I believe in you.

Hey, I am struggling in figuring out my gender identity/deciding if I should take T or not. I am afab and still look like it. The thing is there are moments when I am experiening gender envy and dysphoria and am feeling very strong about being male and wanting to take T. (Shopping, seeing man with long Hair, getting the "beautiful young lady" Look,...) And then there are moments when I am on my own, looking in the mirror, waering sexy cloth and liking the way I look. Even finding my little boobs aesthetic. I never go outside in those outfits tho because I know the second people look at me I am back to feeling uncomftorble beeing read as female. So I wear my beggy, male shirts (which I do love), put on male perfume and am seeing myself as male, smiling to myself in the mirror again and feeling confodent to go outside.

So in short: there are not only those moments where I feel male and trapped in my Body. There are also those moments when I am fine with my body and that is what makes me so unsure.

I don't even know what answer I am hoping to find by posting this. Guess I am wondering if anyone else is like that and what your thoghts are reading this.

I'm very socially anxious in person, which makes it super difficult to make friends, and I can't really be myself where I live either. So really, I'm just looking for online friends like me. I'm Agender, autistic and shy, but I'm good at listening! So if anyone ever wants an online friend, feel free to send me a message.

I’ve already picked a name, I’m just curious what you guys think. Preferably names that lean more towards masc, but whatever is fine.

I was wondering if there any places or surgeons in Wisconsin or Minnesota that will perform a nullo

Hello, agender people. You can tell me good articles for understand what is agender? I am in a self-discovery process and need more information

Does anybody know a way to help w/ dysphoria?? I'm rlly struggling with body dysphoria atm.

Hi so I'm not agender but I thought this was a good place to ask. I'm looking for a gender neutral name that starts with E or I can try to go with an A. I did look at some websites but none of the names really call out to me. Please tell me if u have and ideas! <3

Just to clarify: i prefer fem language because i feel like a lot of fem language is “gayer” (as in “slay” and “gagged” and “clocked” because they started in gay culture anyway) if that makes sense, so to queer people I’d use more fem language, and to not queer people, I’d prefer masc! :)

Do people actually feel comfortable with their gender? I genuinely don't get how people feel comfortable using a certain set of pronouns like she/her, he/him, and they/them.

I feel really lonely in a country where people care about gender stereotypes a lot. As an afab person, I've often been judged and tried to mask, but I got more isolated in time. I really would like to have some friends with whom I can be totally myself.

I still don't know who I am. I don't care about having a woman's body. But I feel like my soul has no gender. I feel like an alien when people say things like "You are a woman, you should do this, you should wear this, you should have this, you should think like this."

Can I find some friends here? I'm also neurodivergent, so neurodivergent people are welcome! (I'm 36 years old.)

I didn’t know the beanies and hoodies thing was an agender thing. I literally wear them everyday. Lol

Hey all! I hate to be making another name related post here, as there's much more to the Agender experience than names, but I'm exploring my identity more recently and am trying to find something more fitting to my new understanding of myself.

I've found two names I really like the sound of (one more obviously 'queer' or unusual and a more 'regular' name). They are;

• Eira (pronounced eye-ra). This is my favourite but I'm concerned because although it's used both for masc and fem people, it's more common for girls and I wanted to lean away from that.
• Nox. This one sounds really cool to me but concerns me because it's so different. Using it in public (even as a secondary name, assuming I keep my current one) could be awkward.

I'm only looking to pick one and leaning more towards Eira but I'd like some reassurance because I'm much more comfortable with masculine terms and names. I do know of a male Eira, but baby name sites have me concerned.

Thanks :).

Pretty much the title. I am wondering if anyone else does it. A common example is "we need to go pee first". I am a demigirl/agender.

You appreciate the style? I need buy some clothes and one of my ideas is buy genderless fashion clothes. I love this style. And you, what you think about it?

Hi I'm 18 and I have had the thought in the back of my head conflicting with Demigirl for a while but kept dismissing it. Inside I don't really feel gender, like not a woman it feels weird to think of myself or be called a woman. I still view my sex as female but my gender as genderless. In all honesty I don't care what my body looks like in terms of sex, I wouldn't care if I had been AMAB or in between male and female. I feel like my sex is not connected to my gender. I feel connected to women because they look like me, I am female too. I'm interested in trying she/they pronouns. Maybe I'm a demigirl? I'm still okay with feminine titles (daughter, sister, etc) idk I don't feel like a woman, maybe because I was raised as a girl?

Hello! I am a demiboy currently questioning if I may be agender as well. One of my favorite characters is A from the game Xenoblade Chronicles 3: Future Redeemed. Throughout the entire story A is never referred by any pronouns. I always saw A as agender representation and I was curious if anyone else thought the same, or at least felt comforted seeing a character like A in one of your favorite games?

A from Xenoblade