Every guy that I find attractive that matches with me would start the conversation but then never respond once I do. It doesn’t make sense and Im on literally every dating and hookup app with no good replies. I’m 29 and never had a relationship and I don’t like any shows anymore because they want us to believe that we’ll fall in love or be in relationships in your 20s. Well they’re wrong. Anything in those stupid romance movies doesn’t happen in real life and all gay relationships are just sex fetishes. I haven’t seen gays actually like the person they’re with, they’re just using them for their own sexual desire. It’s not fair.

Been using hook ups apps for a while, but every time I mentioned my virginity guys immediately bail on me. I honestly don't know what to do, I'm worried that if I hide my virginity people will rialize I'm a virgin during sex. Can I hide it ? What can I do be a good lover ? What can I do ?

I’m a virgin bottom and aspiring drag queen, and for both activities I’d like to go in looking as effeminate as possible (for obvious reasons 😜). This includes a desire to be completely shaven like the really hot twinks on blue sky. I recently purchased hair removal cream to achieve this look but the packaging warns against using on your face, nipples, genitals and anus.

Obviously with drag this is technically still ideal as these are the parts of the body I won’t be putting on display, and I can just shave my face daily. However sexually I’d still like not to just have my but-cheek crevice be the only hairy thing about me. While I understand that tops don’t mind or even prefer this, I’d rather my entire body be hairless.

So if you have any tips on how to safely remove hair from that area, please share them with me <3

I dont know man. It feels like initiatives like this make things go backwards. Reading through the comments was really dejecting. Sexuality should not be such a political divisive topic yet here we are. Society sucks.

And an extra fuck you to Fabrizio to allowing comments on this post. I swear he enjoys posting stuff that riles people up.

I live in a conservative state but the city I live in is pretty open, I have considered leaving though. What are the differences? Do you feel more comfortable going places (doctor, shopping, big purchases)? Are your adoption laws different? What’s it like?

for context i’m 18, i lost 150lbs/70kg and as a result of that i have quite a lot of loose skin which doesn’t look good and makes me very self conscious. once i turned 18 i started dating and having hookups and it’s been quite an unpleasant experience. of course most guys don’t find my physique appealing which i understand but what makes it even worse is that i’m not exactly unattractive at first sight when clothed apparently as i actually get quite a lot of attention whether in person or on dating apps but once i show people my shirtless self or tell them about the loose skin they are usually turned off. i’ve had people say straight to my face that it looks weird or that i should surgery (which i don’t have the funds, time or pain tolerance for). it seems like the only people interested in me after letting them know of my physical flaws are older and/or not in shape which i’m not against but is not ideal for me in the long run. on the other hand there are some big guys who say it’s a pity i lost the weight and that i’m not fat enough for them. the fact that i live in a conservative homophobic country where homosexuality, although legal, is taboo and where the standard for gay men is being in perfect shape doesn’t help either. so yeah, being gay and not having an ideal physique is a stressful and upsetting experience, just wanted to let it out.

Nothing has changed

This purely based on looks alone, no personality included, but does anyone else feel this way?

Sometimes,for example, I don’t even bother messaging hot guys on Grindr or where ever cause I feel they’re ‘out of my league’.

Or other times it’s hard to even look at one in the eyes cause they’re so attractive where I don’t wanna feel like a creep (lol).

What is your perspective on open relationships and marriages? Are they becoming or have they already become the new standard? Do you believe those not in favor of them will eventually have to compromise so that they are not “cheated” on? This post is in no means intended to be judgmental. I’m genuinely interested in everyone’s perspective. As always everyone please be respectful of opinions and statements you may not agree with. We are all grown adults.

I'm a physician and I'm currently serving my military duty (it's obligatory, it lasts for 9 months). Each of us is placed in a specialty relevant to their degrees. I'm still in the lowest rank as every other soldier, it's just that I'm a doctor and oh well everybody needs a doctor and that makes us more important.

One of my main goals was to assess the health and the complains of soldiers. If necessary I could give them a day off-duty, or a day free of shaving or free of the army shoes (they would wear sneakers). I know that you can't give everybody a day-off, I was doing my best to evaluate those who really needed it.

I got to see so many chests, I examined so many lungs etc. It was huge experience for me. The feeling was also very different. They were not purely patients and I was not purely a doctor. We were brothers. It was the same person that in the night we would sleep in the same chamber along with other 40 soldiers. I would see them shiver in the night, I would shave with them together in the bathrooms. I remember one dude who showered but the water was ice cold and he was nearly blue and shaking. We gather around him and rubbed him and covered him with blankets until he got the color of the living again.

It's weird to describe if you haven't felt it. But this experience made me understand patients more holistically. It also made me understand that somethings (like put some ice on that hurting area) may be impossible (where the hell is he supposed to find ice?).

PS

One day I fainted (it was my time to need help). I was in a special forces exercise as a surveillance doctor. They carried me with in their arms back to safety. I felt a bit embarrassed. They told me that we're family, it's one for all and all for one. It was their time to care for me. The distance between patient and physician is different. I loved each and every of my brothers there and I hope I did the best for them.

PS2

As a gay person this was truly magnificent. Me being gay never got in the way. I felt like a brother to them all, perfectly equal and no different at all.

For me when it's a guy hold's a cocksucker's head and makes him gag.

2 minutes and I'm done, LOL

I was talking to a guy for weeks. We met once in person. I wanted to see him more and date. But he kept making excuses, like being sick, or not being able to afford to go out. Turns out he knew the entire time he didn’t want me.

Apparently when we met he thought I had done something innocent that reminded him of an ex that had treated him badly. I don’t even know what I did that was wrong.

But for weeks now he’s still led me on. Still said he was interested. Still flirted and sexted. Still begged me for sex almost every day and then changed his mind when I told him I could come over. I told him I had feelings for him, and he still chose to string me along knowing he didn’t want me. We would talk for hours into the night and early morning.

I’ve been searching for a decent guy to date for 10 years and this is only the second one I’ve been interested in.

I can’t understand why he would intentionally hurt me like this. And it hurts so much. Why does it hurt so much. How do I make it stop hurting?

Hi everyone, I'm 28 years old gay guy from Jamaica and even though I'm not fluent in Portuguese, I'm very excited to visit Brazil. I needed a change of scenery and since Brazil is one of the few places that don't require Jamaican citizens a Visa to visit, I figure I'd take the opportunity and spend a few weeks there. Now I'm on a tight budget so I'm hoping that some kindred spirit here will give me some recommendations on where I can go to get meals for dirt cheap and entertainment that's either free or extremely affordable. I will be staying at an Airbnb but I want to make the most of my time there so I'm open to any and all suggestions you have. I know that I shouldn't really expect to see many beaches in this part of town but that's fine, I'm still looking forward to seeing what the city has to offer. Primarily I'm looking for the the names of the following but if you have any other suggestions that you think I'd like, feel free to share.

Gay bars Gay clubs Gay saunas Art museums Bookstores/libraries Music stores Affordable restaurants/roadside meals What locations to avoid What apps to stay away from

Also I'm curious, what's the gay dating scene like? Would it be difficult to find a bf, especially since I'm not fluent in the language? (I have Duolingo downloaded though so I'm practicing). I don't mind hookup culture but it would be nice to find a potential partner to go on dates with, introduce me to his friends, show me around town, etc.

Thanks in advance 🩷

Let’s see everyone’s trees.🎄

As a boy from the Midwest that unfortunately understands what it’s like to fall in love with a boy you can’t have… That song is so emotional for me. There were a few boys that showed me what “could have been” and they chose the girl I could never be… Just a 34yo gaybro listening to the soundtrack from the new movie of a story I’ve loved and resonated with for 20yrs. ❤️

I'm 25 now. I know that's still young but I feel like I have no time left.

Since around the age of 16 I started having visual issues. Fast forward to when I was 19, I found out I have something that is causing retinal vision loss. The opthalmologist assured me that I would only lose my macular vision but that has since proven to be false. My family was supposed to make follow up appointments at other specialists but due to no funds, that hasn't happened.

I know blind people can live amazing lives but I can't imagine that for myself.

I've never been in a relationship before and I know that's entirely my fault. I'm too scared to drive and never go out, not that I'd know where to go to meet guys in the first place and I'm still in the closet.

I want to study too but now I'm worried I don't have time left for it and as it stands I'm struggling to find a job. Everyone else in my family got the opportunities handed to them and although I'm happy for them, I'm also jealous.

I'm feeling hopeless and like a complete burden to my family. I'm constantly reminded of how my dad could make money and find opportunities easily.

I don't know if this post is a rant or a question at this point. I guess any advice will be appreciated.

Do y’all like guys who are submissive in the bedroom? I mean I let him have his way with me and do pretty much whatever they want with me when it’s sexy time, provided they ask consent if it’s anything too much. I’ve been wondering if it’s a turn on or turn off for other guys because it just happens when I switch into sex mode. The last guy I was with liked that I “ let him do whatever he wanted”. For my part I like a man that will throw me around a bit and I’m fairly open if a bit vanilla sexually. What do y’all think?

Hey everyone,

I’ve been struggling a lot lately, and I don’t even know how to put it into words. There’s this overwhelming sense of emptiness inside me. I feel lonely in a way that’s hard to explain – like I’m here, but I’m not really living. Nothing feels fun anymore, nothing excites me, and I just feel… hollow.

In my sports team, all the guys ever talk about is girls, as if that’s the only thing that matters. But I don’t even know if I’m into girls. What I do know is that I’m into guys. And that feels like a part of myself I can’t share with anyone, which makes me feel even more isolated.

I long for real connection. A boyfriend, yes, but also a good friend. Someone I can trust, who actually gets me, and who I can be myself with without fear or judgment. Right now, it feels like I’m always on the outside looking in, like everyone else has found their people and I’m just… here.

I’m tired of pretending, tired of keeping everything inside. Have any of you ever felt like this? How did you find joy again? How did you build friendships and relationships where you could truly be yourself?

If you’re reading this, thank you for taking the time. It means so much just to be heard.

It’s almost 2025. I’m gonna need y’all to step up. These dating apps, man;

“⬇️ for compatibility” …like 🥴

why are we limiting ourselves?? /s

I guess this is more of a general discussion on “tribes”, but I have no idea what to think anymore. I have been seeing a lot of posts where guys who are 30 or in their early 30s calling or tagging themselves as a daddy.

I feel like it’s mostly just a frame of mind, but I am about to turn 30 and I don’t feel anything like a daddy. Anyone have any thoughts?

And by the way, my type is super fit attractive 6ft+ masculine straight dudes.

And I don’t ever actually leave my house except to work. I mostly scroll through 4 different dating apps in my free time. All I ever say in response to guys is nm hbu.

And I have been in contact with other gay dudes who are funny and really cool, but I would never date them to be honest; they’re not my type. I don’t think it’s ridiculous to say that I want my boyfriend to be hot.

I just don’t think I deserve to be single like this, when guys way uglier than me are out there dating.

It’s not my fault either. Those super tall fit masculine hung guys are just way too rare and I need to get lucky. If I worked hard in the gym then I deserve a partner who has done the same.
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Looking for a gym workout partner

I haven't really told many people close to me that I was using drugs but they probably knew anyways, away from that.

Today marks a full year since I got sober (albeit I drink socially) I don't smoke weed or ingest pills anymore and I wanted to say to anyone hanging out here, do it, try as hard as you can. The first few weeks are difficult I won't discount that but the end benefits, the improvement in mental health, the clarity and confidence has been well worth that temporary struggle.

I just wanted to let it out because I try not to burden people with this stuff and I'm quite proud of myself today.

Have a lovely Monday, wherever you are :)

I've started and stopped 3 different degrees. I've taken a gap year to work on myself. Nothing seems to help this underlying feeling of cluelessness and the lack of confidence I have that I could ever be an "expert" in any field.

It scares me because I'm about to be 24 with no solidified path, no education for more than a year in a specialty, and no sufficient finances. Meanwhile my friends all have their undergrads, some of them live alone, some have jobs already. I feel so behind in life :( I have no clue how to go forward anymore

Trying to understand my strange attraction to straight guys (which I know many other gay men share).

My attraction was particularly strong back in college, when I would visit the dorm room of a (mostly?) straight man who turned to Grindr to get bjs from gay men when he couldn’t get a woman to hook up with.

I was so aroused by the scenario that I would literally come to his dorm, give him head, jack off and then just leave when he finished. He was decently attractive, but if he were gay, I definitely would not let him just use me for bjs without any reciprocation.

It feels like that fact that he was not attracted to me that turned me on. Which feels counterintuitive since I feel like people are usually more turned on when they know their partner is aroused by them.

What are some of the psychological factors at play driving my (and similarly men’s) attraction to straight guys?

TLDR: I made my boyfriend cum twice inside me with a minute apart and he orgasmed both times. I felt so accomplished as his boyfriend.

I have to humble brag a bit. I made my boyfriend cum twice without allowing him to pull out of me. My boyfriend and I are both vers, and I was really in the mood to bottom this past weekend. Sex was incredible, long and very passionate. I remember it so vividly. So much eye contact, affectionate words, and really hitting our biggest turn ons for each other. I’m very dominant regardless if I’m topping or bottoming. Bf loves being told what to do, so I really get into my power role over him.

As we were nearing the end, I have him sitting upright in bed with my legs wrapped tightly around him, balls deep in me and I’m holding the side of his head gently with my hand and my other hand firmly on his neck making out with him, and saying how much I love him. With every thrust he does, I’m oozing so much precum, telling him how hot this is to me. I can tell when he’s starting to lose the battle and gets close to cumming. I tell him to “mark your territory, make me yours” which makes him wrap his arms tightly around me and pulls me closer to his body saying under his tired breath “oh fuck” I can feel his dick pulsating as he moans. It looked like to me it was a very satisfying climax for him.

Seeing him orgasm makes me completely feral. I wait until he calms down and finishes cumming. I told him he’s not allowed to pull out yet. So I unwrapped my legs around him, grab his neck and pushed him down onto his back while I pin both his arms against the side of his body, tightly between my knees. At this point his dick is still pretty sensitive, and I began riding him with those long strokes. I start making out with him and out of nowhere he opens his eyes really wide with the most shocked expression on his face. He goes “oh my god, babe, I’m cumming again!” I looked back with equal expression asking “are you being serious?” He nods, yes. I began clenching my hole during the insertion strokes and really milking this boy for all he’s got left. Since he’s pinned down pretty good, he was totally at my mercy. I’ve never seen my boyfriend moan like this before, completely shaking and smiling, giggling a bit from so much pleasure he was feeling.

This made me go over the edge and I came very shortly after. Y’all, this boy was SPENT! Couldn’t get out of the bed without resting for several minutes. It felt like such an accomplishment to me. I wrote another post here a while ago how I made my boyfriend cum hands free for the first time when I was topping him. This is me checking off yet another thing on the ongoing list of becoming an amazing boyfriend. :) I just had to share!