Does anyone else here find this statement a bit cringe, if not even slightly creepy? Sadly nowadays its way too common to place all your eggs in that one relationship basket and push friends away the moment anything slightly resembling a romantic relationship begins in your life. Less contact, less will to do things together, less interest. Just a obsession with the partner.

And then comes the break up, and the anger and confusion when you realize everyone moved on with their lives. And the lack of realization that its you who pushed everyone away. I'm not saying that always happens, right now i have some really great friends that never made it seem like our friendship doesnt matter cause they have a partner. But i definitely know that feeling from the past and i know from reading posts here a lot of you do too.

And i know quite a few people act like that, "only my partner matters, we do everything together, he or she is my everything, all the rest can disappear". Like, how is that healthy for you? What if things start to go south, who will you turn to then? With all this talk about "epidemic of loneliness" it sure is weird how people can act like that

It's just one of these things that make me happy to be aro despite everything. My friends, real friends that proved me time and time again they will stand with me even when things are dark are sooo important to me. I can't imagine disrespecting that bond we made, thar sense of trust and loyalty, those memories we made by diminishing them like that. My friends are and always will be extremely important to me, and when someone is truly that extremely focused on their partner that they start cutting other people away from their life - that to me is very shallow and a decision they will likely regret in the future.

Does anyone have that one person that even tho you’re aro, you just can’t stay away from them? Like you’re deeply in love and have never been in love with anyone else because basically to everyone else you’re aromantic? Well, that’s my situation. For context, I’ve known him since sophomore year of high school and now he’s a senior in college, and he and I were in band together. He’s the first trans person I ever met, and being a closeted trans woman in school, I found comfort in him. A comfort unlike anything I’ve ever felt before. I’m pretty sure I’ve fallen head over heels for this man, and I’ve expressed as much, but he just doesn’t feel the same way. As in, he’s aro towards everyone including me, but he’s always down sexually. Every time he talks to me, touches me, kisses me, and calls me beautiful, it just makes me fall even more for him even tho I can’t have him. I’ve tried dating other people, but they don’t give me the same feelings at all. Not even close. I know this is long so I’ll put a TLDR at the bottom but I just want some advice on how to deal with this. I don’t want to push him out of my life but at this point I’m just so tired of being in love with someone who doesn’t want me romantically but does sexually. He’s my best friend and I want to maintain a relationship with him even if it’s platonic but idk if I can. Any and all advice would help me. TL;DR: only person (who is my best friend) I’ve ever felt romantic feelings for isn’t attracted to me romantically but is attracted to me sexually. Any and all advice is appreciated.

I didn’t used to feel like this, but I guess it’s just the pressure from everyone else, I feel like I’m wasting potential.

So often people ask me if I’m in a relationship or have ever been in one and when I say no they always seem shocked and ask way.

I’ve just never felt the need or want to I guess. But I’m going through a time in my life where I’ve had lost of people try to be in a relationship ship with me and I feel like I’m letting everyone down including myself.

If I only could enjoy it I could have more happiness is my life, which is what others usually feel in a relationship.

A part of me hopes that I will change and find love eventually but I just haven’t. I’m 18 and if I feel like I haven’t found it now I never will.

Can you please give me advice in the comments? I just need help I’ve been feeling this for a very long time.

Like I'll try a dating app, or several, at once. And then immediately feel bored. I like the idea of being close to someone abd cuddling is nice. But also aestheticily wise I think I'm really picky. I find the idea of "trying" to "date" gross and revolting. Yet I absolutely want to be close to someone like that

But I swipe left on everyone becuase I'm immediately like "no". The only time I swipe right are when I'm like "maybe I should stop being 'too' picky type wise"

Like, I'm aro ace. I don't want sex or kissing. I want cuddles, and maybe cheek kisses. Also adventures

I just get so -bored- and -uninterested- when I open an app.

But I also want connection lol And meeting people is hard

I also do want to try "dating" I've never had a healthy non abusive relationship and part of me craves experiencing one

It doesn't help that ever since I found I enjoyed seeing myself presenting femme (wanting a more femme shape/body) that I think I found out I have a "type" aesthetic/looks wise anyways.

Unsure if that's what I'd describe as a type. Just, I find some types of girls as "really cool" I'm not really sure how I'd describe the type

Tomboy, tall, strong? Cool

Mmm idk But like, I still dont feel any "attraction" to anyone.

Also I happen to be sure I actually have to be friends or at least want to be friends to have any for of interest towards a person

So forcing myself to try too connect with another is hard

Honestly, dating apps probably just aren't for me lol I don't even know how to make friends

Also they give me an ick and sense of boredom lol

I cried whilst talking to my boyfriend, he held me and kissed my head and comforted me a few minutes ago. i’m aromantic but i’ve struggled to accept it. i also have autism, anhedonia and alexithymia. i can’t feel love. i can’t feel if I’m in love and i can’t tell if i like him, yet my actions says otherwise. i kiss, i cuddle, i hold and i like staying with him. but i never feel anything from those things, i just do it because i guess it sits right. we both have the same thing but on top he has ADHD and bad anxiety. i don’t know what to do. i got into a relationship because we both have similar shit going on, he’s treated me like a good friend when we was friends, he treats my like a really really good fucking boyfriend but i feel nothing when i receive love from him. it’s really really really fucking upsetting knowing that i’ll never feel love or be attracted to anyone ever in my life. i’ve never felt the infatuation and limerence, in my past relationships it was just obsession and i’ve confused it for love. i had bad emotional abuse in my past relationships, i always thought or missed them (i think, i don’t remember) i always overthinked about them, i harassed them and always horny as a kid. it started from 13 to 16 or 17 and then i completely went blank, that’s were i started applying for the military but got declined due to my autism, history of depression and history of asthma. i don’t know what to do. i can’t feel love, i never miss him, i don’t cry over him when he’s gone, i don’t crave him, i never feel butterflies, i don’t talk or brag about him to anyone either. i don’t know what to do. i want to be with him but i feel blank. i think im just expecting explosions but ill never get them. I need serious help. i dont know what to do.

It took me falling in love for the first time with my ex to realize every single time I thought I had a crush it was actually just wanting to be friends with someone, I still miss my ex and wish I could get back with him because we both have realized we broke up over a misunderstanding and not because we actually had a reason to (except the miscommunication that lead to the misunderstanding) I don’t know if I’ll ever gain feeling for anyone again, specially considering I’m gay and trans, I sometimes think that my chance to fall in love has gone, maybe it’s because I already experienced what loving someone was supposed to be like, but life is cruel for making me experience romance just to lose it and not feel it again :(

The relationship I seek is one in which people can have deep conversations and do fun things together. However, people seem to think this is a romance. I don't want the romance, I don't feel like having a romance. I just want close platonic friends. Is what I want not a friendship? What is friendship, then? Please help, I'm confused. I feel like everytime I think I made a friend, the person reveals other sort of feelings. They never stick around for something platonic. Why does it happens? Can someone relate?

Hi… I’m hoping all of you in this group can help me. I’ll start by saying.. I’ve been married almost 10 years, most of it very happily. My husband is a very good partner, good listener, good provider But…. He doesn’t experience romantic feelings.. he’s told me he isn’t really quite sure they exist.. its very hard for me to accept. Im so thankful for our together, but it's hard to accept that I will never be loved in that way. I feel like whats preventing him from just walking away at any time because he doesnt feel that romantic attachment? I cant imagine NOT having romantic feelings

can you guys help me understand?

This is gonna be a rant I literally can't make outside of this subreddit without being called "immature" or "jealous", but carries a sentiment I know is common in aro spaces. Apologies if it gets long; I'm very upset.

My younger sister and I used to be extremely close. We did everything together. We both grew up in the same not-great situation and have the same trauma and anxiety that comes from it. When I started working I would spend pretty much everything I made buying 2 tickets to wherever I went and whatever I did, to make sure she had the experiences I didn't in my teenage years and try to give her some happy memories while she couldn't afford to. I'd say no one really gets me like she does, except maybe my best friend, who I also grew up with. So I really fucking hate, okay, that I'm not supposed to be upset by this because allos have normalised romantic relationships taking precedent over literally every other kind.

I don't care if I sound entitled, I don't care if I sound immature - since she got a boyfriend, it's almost like I'm grieving. We never hang out anymore, when we do it's for a very short time and she's texting him the entire time. He's all she wants to talk about, her interests are suddenly all his, she's decided to go to the same college he went to to study music on the same program he did, it's like she doesn't exist without him anymore.

And I'm happy she's happy, that's literally all I wanted, as a big sister that is the main goal when you're that close. But when the happiness comes at the expense of your relationship, when I basically lose my closest friend to romance, I don't understand why I'm not allowed to hurt, because it does hurt being shoved aside like that. Allos act like romantic relationships are the only ones you're allowed to be upset over or hurt by, but fuck that. I want my sister the individual back, I don't see why she can't exist without the set. Her bf isn't abusive afaik, he's lovely, I have nothing against him. She's just kinda codependent and I hate to watch it.

I'm especially upset today because the band we went to see together like five years ago, her first ever concert, the concert that got her so into them in the first place, is touring again next year. I was super excited and messaged her about it, we've been talking about maybe seeing them again for ages, they've released great new material since that we haven't seen live. I can't afford tickets this time, she ended up spending all her savings on two. For her and her boyfriend. She didn't understand why I'd be upset by it because "we already saw them" even though I'd explicitly spoken about wanting to see them again, so I just awkwardly laughed it off and waited til I was home to cry about it. It feels pathetic, I don't even expect to be her main priority, and I'm not saying it's about the material aspect but it's a good visualiser for me when I consider how much money I've spent on shit for us to do together, the plans I've made in the past, and the one's she has. Which is almost none. We speak about doing shit and she does it with her bf instead. And I'm not supposed to be hurt by it because that's just how the world is, or whatever? I was a lot more understanding when the relationship was new, but it's been over 2 years now, I think I just have to accept that this is how it is now.

A coworker asked me to join his D&D campaign today and I was ecstatic because I've wanted to play for ages but was too anxious to join a random group of strangers and I don't have friends who are into it. My sister and I have spoken about playing for AGES, and I did invite her to come along and join too, but thinking about it more I am strongly reconsidering and just. Having this to myself. It feels kinda mean but I know her, she's flaky as shit and if her bf is available she will absolutely skip to hang with him. I am genuinely so sad about losing such a close friendship, which is what I considered the relationship between us, but I just don't have the energy to keep putting in when I get none of it back. She gets defensive if I even go near the concept, so I don't bother. But it's probably just best I nurture my other friendships, because every time I try with her, I come back a little more fractured every time. That her does not exist anymore, I'm trying to stay friends with a remnant of the past.

Thank fuck my best friend of 20 years is also aro. We've already been hanging out a lot more recently where our stupid adult schedules line up, but this is where it becomes even more I think. Sorry for the long rant, if anyone read it, thank you. TL;DR romance got my sister too, another one bites the dust, and I'm pissed I'm just supposed to take it because that's what amatonormative society dictates 🙃

Hi! I posted this before but I used the wrong tag, so here we are again. I'm doing an assignment in one of my classes about listening to queer voices of everyday people. I thought it'd be interesting to get perspectives from strangers

How old are you? What are your sexuality, romantic orientation, and gender identity? Feel free to explain a bit of what that identity means to you. When did you realize you were asexual/aromantic? Can you tell me a bit about how it happened and how it felt? Positive feelings, negative, anything. When did you learn about asexuality/aromanticism? Do you remember being confused about it? If so, what about it confused you? Have you ever been in a relationship? This can be romantic, sexual, or queer platonic. How did being aspec affect that experience? How do people react when learning about your identity? Common questions? Do you ever feel out of place in the wider queer community? What’s something you wish people understood?

So I saw an ad for a couple adventures calendar where they get separate ones and surprise each other or something, who cares, BUT I don't want to do the whole tree and spending thing this year and have felt the need to refresh my Xmas holiday feelings of joy and this gave me an idea:

Aro/single advent calendar (to me they are the same, ymmv). Things I want to do, alone or male plans with friends. I need 25 ideas. I have about 16 so far. I will post them in a comment but I want to not spoil the pot with what I am thinking, so to speak. Now my request:

What are things you like do to as an aro person, or as a single person that makes you love your life. They can be big traditions, or mundane things. Anything that gives you joy to add to the December month.

Hello :) I'm here to just ask! Do you, aromantic women (I guess I'm only asking cis-women; I don't know if transgender women apply because I'm not sure how their monthly cycle changes, but you guys can also answer!! Please don't take this as an insult, I am just being curious) feel any weird feelings/cravings of romantic/sexual intimacy with anyone? Because I feel like it could affect your mindset somehow, but I am just speculating on that... I am personally asexual, and sometimes during the ovulation period I start desiring more romantic closeness with someone, and it made me think if women who identify as aromantic also have that. Thank you!!! Looking forward to some replies :D (if you guys wanna answer such a personal question)

I was wobbling with being aromantic for a few years now. I like the idea of romance, but being in a relationship is not something I would like for myself. I love romance books, romantic movies, watching friends fall in love -- and parts of me wants that too -- but at the same time love can be really messy and fuck up your life too. So I'm partially glad I don't partake.

I didn't realize I was aromantic until my roommate came out to me and told me she was asexual/aromantic. Interesting how we both feel the same way about romantic and sexual attraction. I finally understood that I am aromantic. So now I'm here! Feels good to know this about myself. Excited to partake in discussions.

Hi guys I just need to get this off my mind/chest. So I’m around/ace and my roommate and best friend is a lesbian. Now she is starting to get into a relationship with one of our other friends (I’m not that close with this girl we’ll call Ann) I am so happy for my roommate C, she is a big sappy romantic and I’m happy she is getting to do the things she wants to do with Ann. But I’m still annoyed with them and how much time they spend together even tho it’s not as much as time as they could be spending together and they do try to make me feel loved and not tossed to the way side by making sure to spend at least half a day with me. But I’m still not happy I have feeling of jealousy for Ann because she is everything I have tried and failed to be, because she can fulfill something for C that I can’t and don’t want to. Because she seemed to come in when me and C were drifting apart more and more. Because when they come to hang out with me it takes so much energy from me because I dont know how to act, I don’t know how to be supportive without being the third wheel or feeling like I’m trying to get into their relationship. I just wanna hang out as friends but there are many things (all of them coming from me) that’s stopping me from relaxing and having fun with them. I want to tell them just to hang out together and stop inviting me and that it’s ok, but I feel like I will never see my best friend again because she will spend Wednesday to Monday at Ann’s place if she isn’t coming to make sure she spends time with me on the weekends. And I know that is a kind thing for C to do but it feels like coming home so your dog doesn’t get sad. Uuggghhhh I want to be the best friend I can be for C here and be there for her and this blossoming relationship but I keep on getting in my own way and don’t know how to deal with these emotions and don’t feel right putting my two cents in around Ann and the relationship when I have so many self serving thoughts and impulses. And like I said earlier I am happy C is getting a girlfriend she deserves one she really does, I just want to support her in this happiness but I’m finding it really hard to do.

i sort of jokingly said to my therapist the other day, "i feel like i'm being gaslit by alloromantic people. they CLAIM that romance exists, but when you ask them what romance is or what it feels like, none of them can give you a straight answer!! it's some kind of conspiracy!!"

now obviously i know that a lot of people feel romantic attraction in some capacity (allegedly), but it's such a vague abstract concept that i kinda have my doubts. all cultural signifiers of romance are things that can be done with platonic friends, family, etc. and maybe i'm just an aro magnet but a lot of my queer friends say that they have trouble distinguishing between romantic feelings versus strong platonic feelings. i feel the same way. i think that the cultural concept of romance has too much baggage for me to relate to it, and i guess in some instances it might describe my feelings, but IDK.

so, Aros of Reddit: does romance exist??

So, I feel this needs some background. I'm polyamorous and allosexual, and I used to have a romantic crush on a close friend and classmate in my major. We cuddled platonically often, and I felt genuinely safe with him, a feeling I'm not used to. I eventually confessed after a year, making him fully aware that I was actively working on getting over it since I knew he probably didn't feel the same way, and being rejected would help me fully accept that and move on. He came out to me then as acearo, and told me simply that nothing had to change as long as I continued to get over my romantic feelings. We agreed on some boundaries while I got over the romantic feelings, and now, months later, I have. The only "issue" is that I do love him deeply--just not romantically anymore (and honestly the thought of romantically dating feels gross).

I feel safe around him like I don't with anyone besides my romantic partner of 3.5 years. I grew up with a lot of trauma, which I will not go into because this isn't the space (and honestly this isn't a space for me either, but I genuinely don't think other allos and romantics (is that the term? I'm still learning) would give good advice on this), but the end result is I experience sexual and sensual repulsion by anyone except him and my partner. I don't know why, but I feel so genuinely safe around him that he could play with my hair or poke me and I'd be completely comfortable. In the same day, one of our mutual friends tapped me to get my attention and I felt viscerally ill, but he did the same thing that night after I cooked us dinner and I felt so...calm. Happier, even. I think maybe part of it is that he's acearo, but I have other acearo friends and I don't feel that level of safe with them, even though I do love them! I just love him so differently than them or my romantic partner. My acespec and arospec friends have suggested that this may be an indicator to look into QPRs, so I did!

I've since done a lot of digging and listening about different attraction styles, QPRs, what to and not do/say, and discovering for myself that I am (and if this is the wrong term, I am so, so sorry!) queerplatonically in love with him. I want to be a part of his life so badly. We're suitemates at college now, so we already sort of are, but I'm just terrified to ask in case it could make him uncomfortable. Him feeling safe around me is my highest priority in all of this, but I feel like I'm going to explode because I love him so much!! I just don't know if he feels close to me, even though we always sit right next to each other, and talk every day, and even play his favorite game on the couch while we watch his favorite movies, and he touches my arm to thank me when I cook for him. We're both autistic and thus he's hard to read so AAAA!! I've already tried asking our mutual friends about if he's done the same things with them, but besides occasional cuddling, they aren't as close to him as I am (and again, we do live together, so logically that makes sense, but I don't know if there's an emotional closeness difference?)

We agreed to tone down cuddle time when I confessed having romantic feelings in the past in order to help me fully get over him, but I don't know how or if I'm allowed to ask for it again now, months later. I asked for a hug yesterday and he was fine with it until he seemed overwhelmed with work, so I didn't try. I feel fully safe with him, I unmask all the time near him, and hell I even actively feel recharged by being near him, but I don't think he's at that point with me since I had asked him to reject me. What I've been perceiving as that may also just be him very kindly respecting the boundary we set months ago. It could also be that he doesn't feel as close to me because I've spent every day since meeting him just listening to him, not really talking about myself. I've made lists writing out what a QPR would mean to me, what I would and wouldn't be comfortable with, what communication works best for me, and of course would ask the same things of him as well if he was cool with it.

TLDR; I love my friend differently than my other friends or romantic partner, and I want a QPR sometime, but I genuinely don't know how to ask for one since me liking him romantically in the past may have caused a rift in his trust of me, and I care about him so much that I'm scared of making him feel uncomfortable.

How can I even begin to let him know I'd like to pursue a QPR in the future, or express these new nonromantic-but-also-not-just-an-everyday-friend way? Should I even do that in the first place, or just hide it to fully ensure his comfort over my own? Should I give myself another year to process all of this, or do I try to get over these feelings, too? I feel genuinely stuck and unsure about what may be best for his peace, so that's why I'm hoping all of you who are MUCH more experienced in nonromantic feelings might be okay with helping? Again, I am so sorry for invading your space to ask what might be super obvious to answer to y'all :(

Tw: mild aphobia

I am aro/ace. Have been all my life, I tried dating 1-2 times to experiment when I was a teen and it just didn't work.

I have been told I am very attractive, I typically respond "thanks" and try to keep the conversation moving.

Then people find out that I hold absolutely no interest in romance/sex and they begin talking about how "its such a waste" and "i wont look like this forever" and tbh its really been pissing me off thinking about it because what normal person says that?

You aren't my great aunt, try shutting up and stepping into the 21st century.

Like the title says I have a HUGE crush on a girl but I'm pretty sure she identifies as AroAce and I don't know what to do. Now here's the story:

A few weeks ago I went to a event/club( Role playing) at my university, it was my first time there and I was pretty nervous( I suck a social stuff, mostly when there is a big group of people.) When the event started I was just trying to socialise, then there was a presentation about the activities and that's when I saw her for the first time. I immediately thought that she was beautiful, like really pretty, she presented her campaign and it seemed fun, however another guy presented a Warhammer40K campaign and since we all know that the Emperor comes first I tried to join that one, sadly there were no more spots left. After this dreadful moment I got approached by a guy who said they needed a player, I said yes and it turned out to be that girl's campaign. I spent the evening playing with them and it was super fun( first Role playing experience), I also spent quite some time in disbelief at just how awesome this girl was, she invented the whole thing( it was super cool with multiple mythilogical references), put a lot of effort into it, she also acted very well, and overall you could see how dedicated and passionate she was( her voice is also beautiful btw). When we were done and going home I got to talke to her a bit she seemed nice, fun and she gave me a carrot. I didn't see her for a few weeks after that but I couldn't stop thinking about her, I had crushes before but none were this sudden nor intense. Meanwhile I got added to the club's discord and I found her profile( I didn't stalk( a lot) I just stumbled upon the post she made about the game we had). That's where I saw in her profile the AroAce thingy( which was unknown to me), then I looked it up and I was devastated. We had another event yesterday and I was still amazed by her. Sadly I didn't get to talk to her cause she left early.

That's pretty much it, I'm clueless and I still have feelings but I don't know what to do with them.

I don't know if it's important but; I just started university (M19), nerd, not the worst looking but quite shy and I suck at approaching people, but once in conversation I was told I'm funny and entertaining.

This is such a big step for aromantic awareness! I’m so happy to see the r/aromantic subreddit prominently linked in r/lgbt’s community sidebar ☺️

I also feel this short list of communities may have had a direct influence on Reddit’s decision for which queer avatar hearts to create for one’s Reddit avatar. Now that r/aromantic is up there, I feel like there is a chance Reddit might start Paying Attention to us/ create an aromantic heart for one’s Reddit avatar 🐸🥝🤍🩶🖤

Me and my friend(s) are one of those friends who make romantic and/or sexual jokes to eachother. I see this all as funny. Like one of my friends offered to "kiss me"(cheek) and I was down for it, but of course not in a romantic way. I've always felt disgusted about the topic of marriage, and a bit uncomfortable about just relationships which is why I think I'm aromantic.

So… I’m not 100% I’m aromantic because I still care for romance, I just don’t want to date, and I’ve never been genuinely attracted to someone before. But most aro people I’ve seen are averse or repulsed. So I just kinda feel out of place here…

back when i was figuring myself out i didn't pay much attention to the aroace part of sexual identity. i thought it didn't deserve any thinking through because "you just don't date lol"
now that i've tried dating and realised i might be aromantic... it makes me so anxious. i can't always be sure that i'm actually aromantic. everyone around me keeps saying that i just haven't found the right person yet. what if it's true? what if i have to keep looking?
then i get into another relationship, the feeling of novelty makes me feel like i actually love them and can spend my life with them, it lasts for a few happy days or weeks, and then i have to touch them and be touched, always write to them and be obsessed with them as much as they are obsessed with me, and it's so hard, because i can't find enough strength to even care. i have to break up and i break their heart and they cry and i hate to do it because i don't want to cause pain to others. but i'm a jerk and i keep making people believe they've found the right person.
is there any way to finally figure that out?

My friend recently got into a relationship, which I don't think is necessarily romantic but, they are very close and know each other deeply, my friend is happy and I am happy for them. But I guess I am a little jealous and a little disappointed? I mean, my friend said she likes intimacy and partnership and things like that and they have never had anything as deep as they are having with him, and I kind of want something like that, you know? But at the same time I feel betrayed, they are the person I open up to the most but I am not the person they open up to the most, and there is nothing wrong with that, I just feel kind of stupid about it.

All of this makes me want that too, that intimacy and things like that, I am not sure if I am aro or not, but I kind of don't care if I date one day and there are many things I don't like about the idea of ​​being a "boyfriend" and having a "partner" and have someone liking me, but I think I would be up for dating someone to have what others say they have. Sometimes I wish I could feel those butterflies in my stomach for someone, it seems so cool, you know? Being sure that I'm with someone who is committed seems so good. This second part can be done with friends but it's harder.

I'm jealous and I didn't want my position as "the person with more intimacy" taken away from me, but I think it's okay, life is just like that.

This has happened before, my childhood friend started dating and I felt a little like that too, nothing changed in our dynamic but I thought that "this is what happens when you date, one day I will have someone too so there is no reason for me to be sad about it."But I don't think I'll ever be able to date someone, not in a conventional way at least.

I don't know what to do about it, should I look for someone who wants a queerplatonic relationship? Should I try to date even though I'm not interested in anyone (or in the concept of dating)? Should I accept that I'll open up more to my friends than they'll open up to me, that I'll rely on them more than they rely on me, that I'll want their attention more than they want from me? I'm a little confused.

Hi there, i wanted to ask is there something like opposite of aegoromantic? (aka: dont like/being repulsed etc by romantic toughts/fantasies etc, but when would you actually experience/would do something romantic, you would like it?)

I've always known I was aromantic, but after delving into the world of fandom, I realised there's alot more to being aromantic than I originally thought. Even after a buttload of research, I still am kinda confused as to what is most applicable to me. Originally my idea was something between lithromantic and quoiromantic, but I genuinely can't say. So I would really appreciate it if your reddit hive-minds could deduce a sexuality for me so that my friends stop making assumptions that I'm a closet homosexual.

Anyways a few experiecenes i would like to share:

Had a friend who I really vibed with, they confessed, I dated them for a week but then broke up. The entire time I felt uncomfortable being around them, straight up miserable. I thought that that shouldn't happen so I ended the thing (but then I used to like hanging out with them before they confessed.)

After i broke off, I kinda stopped talking to them. Felt like a piece of shit for a while, but then it felt awkward to even think about them.

Besides that, there was is this other person whom I still have a crush on, but tbh it seems like it's only an intimate(looks bases) thing, cuz I remember talking to them alot one day and it left a really bad taste in my mouth. I couldn't talk to them for a week because I couldn't stop fixating on their flaws. Idw do that, especially not in a relationship so I didn't ever bother confessing.

Anyways, hope you guys can help!

Hello! I'm looking for participants po for my thesis entitled "A World Apart: An Exploration of Experiences of a Person within the A-Spec Community in an Amatonormative Society Through Comic Illustration". This study aims to have a visual representation of people in the A-Spec Community.

I am particularly looking for participants who are:

💜 Filipinos with interests with media, animation or comics 💚 Currently residing in Luzon, Philippines 🤍 Ages 18-45 years old

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omg the thought of being in a romantic relationship makes me fucking sick, but. i dont know maybe im just so deprived, i just want someone to care about me the way they do in the songs UGH! bro its so corny! im screaming at the void i just need to vent, i just want a friend whos close to me, accepts me, maybe flirts with me? AHHH i hate being masc cause ill prob never find a relationship like that. i'll prob always be that filler character for the besties, always the rusty vehicle never loved or appreciated or acknowledged. just there. i say the funny jokes but i can never be authentic cause then i disturb the balance. idk man im just whining.

That's it. I just think it's cute and fluffy and I like seeing my favorite characters be happy ^_^