Not much more to say than the title. Found the term a little while ago, only just thought to look for a subreddit. Explaining this to past partners has always gotten me weird looks or hurt feelings and I'm so glad that I'm not the only one who feels this.

Wore these badges I made to pride today :]

I’m not normally a micro label kind of person but I’m starting to think that’s just cuz I’ve never found a label that fits this well before.

Posted on the asexual subreddit and was told this might be a possibility and when I googled it I was just like. Floored.

Cuz this is literally what I’ve been feeling my whole life. So nice to see I’m not alone!!!

(Also this flag is sick as fuck middle school emo me is pleased)

Hello! It’s my first time posting in this subreddit.

I am M29 currently in a relationship with an M24, and we recently came across the term placiosexual. He resonates with the definition of the term very well, so it feels nice to know he can identify with it.

At first I was confused because I’ve only been with people who are horny like me 🙈 but I really like this guy and I am determined to know more about how I can reciprocate what he gives me, even when he perfectly says he doesn’t really enjoy sex but rather he enjoys seeing me enjoying when I have sex with him.

We’ve already established boundaries such as things I like and dislike, and on his part things his willing or unwilling to do. We also assure each other always that we can always say no, and that we don’t have to do it just because I want it. But to be honest I am still a bit confused and I really want to know more about being placio cuz I really like this boy and I wanna make the intimate things we do together great for him too.

Please educate me if there are things that I said here that might be conflicting. I’m really eager to learn more about it!!! Thank you ☺️

so ive been with my partner for about 6 months and i just talked to him about my feelings towards sex. i described how i like pleasing him and how that makes me feel good and how when im touched it doesn't really feel good. i talked about fantasizing myself in sexual situations but purely just the feeling of it happening not the with someone else part. i guess this is a retelling of my experience but also like does what i describe fit within placiosexual accurately? im thinking that im sex neutral not repulsed

It nice to finally have a name for it.I thought i was insane or maybe my people pleasing ways was effecting my sex life.I even play around with the idea i was asexual.But i was like that not possible i am horny lot and i masturbate a lot since i was a teenager.I finally lost my virginity a few months ago with a lovely enby. Afterward I felt i was missing something because i didn’t enjoy receiving.But i felt like a fucking sex god while giving to them.Like you guys don’t understand i was in a good mood for like 4 weeks.Been eager to go ever chance get due to my busy schedule.

Well sorry for the rant I just i am so fucking happy about this.

Hey everyone, I was just hoping to get some perspective on this. I feel very connected to the placiosexual label, but it doesn’t feel like I really fit into the ace community the same way. I’ve been confused for a while but I really do experience sexual attraction, I’m just placio so it’s always other oriented desire. I don’t really feel Allo because no other heterosexual guy I know sees sex like me or wants what I want out of it, and I’ve definitely been the weird one in groups before. That said, it feels weird to say I’m ace when I do experience sexual attraction.

Does anyone else have any insight? I know being ace is just a matter of feeling comfortable with the label to help communicate about yourself, but I don’t want to be inaccurate either. I just wish Placio was a more widely accepted term on its own!

So, I've identified as bisexual for a couple years but I stumbled across the asexual spectrum and just decided to study bc why not? And I am a virgin, but telling from my sexual fantasies, I do enjoy giving pleasure to my partner and I also see myself satisfied or having a gasm with pleasing them. However, I'm stuck between the possibility that I may actually be placiosexual or it's just a kink thing.

Me (F19) & my boyfriend (M20) have been dating for over 2 years. We’re both still virgins, and have talked about having sex before but haven’t yet. recently i’ve been trying to find some type of label for what i think i am? i love my boyfriend, and we do many other sexual things that aren’t sex i.e blowjob, handjob, & have tested a few other kinks we’re into. i always enjoy my time with him, but when it comes to me receiving i always want to say no. i’m not sure why, because i’m attracted to him but i just have no desire for having sex itself.

i enjoy giving him head, handys, hickeys etc; but when he asks to go down on me, or finger me, or anything involving getting me off instead i get nervous & don’t have much interest in the idea. it’s not that i don’t want HIM doing it, it’s just that i don’t want it done at all?

Up until i met said boyfriend, i had no interest in kissing either. It always felt wet or sloppy & my mind would always wander during the act with other guys. However, i love kissing my boyfriend & give him hundreds a day. I also love pleasuring him in many different ways so he hopefully doesn’t get bored with the lack of penis-vagina sex :’)

So 20 minutes ago i started researching all the types of sexualities that fall under the asexual umbrella, and i came across “Placiosexual”. I feel like this fits, as i love doing things for my boyfriend sexually, but never really have interest receiving back? Still fully 100% attracted to him, and when he had gone down on me he was amazing i just would prefer going down on him instead.

do y’all think any other term would be more fitting?? i’m still kinda lost/new :’)

Found out like 20 minutes ago how many different types of asexual there are, and wanted to figure out what category I exactly fell under and this is it! I am comfortable with giving my partner satisfaction, however, I want no satisfaction of my own in fact, it makes me extremely uncomfortable to be in the recieveing position.

I've never been really interested in sex, and always had assumed I was just dominant but then the more I had intimate moments the more I realized that it isn't actually fun for me to receive, it's just fun to see my partner enjoy themselves. When I have to recieve I disassociate, go numb and start losing my train of thought honestly. Like I tune in and out of what's happening. Not in the I have a ptsd response from sex kinda way, more like I'm not enjoying myself or feeling anything so my mind wanders until it's over.

When I told my current partner I didn't think I wanted to recieve anymore they were (and still are) completely fine with it! I help her and recieve nothing in return, this arrangement has worked for a couple months now :)

I suppose I just came on here to talk and meet people like me, thank you for reading if you made it all the way through lol

So like I'm a 22 yr old cis male in a gay relationship. I just found this label and I need to ask. Is it being a placiosexual if you do not enjoy sexual acts with your partner but are willing to do so for their satisfaction? I just need to know if this label works to describe my feelings or if this is just some havit I have.

I just stumbled across the term “placiosexual” this morning, and I found that it describes me to a T. I am a straight cisgender female who is sexually satisfied almost exclusively by pleasing my male partner. I brush off attempts at reciprocation, and I’m turned off when a guy tells me he just wants to please me, unless he says that with an understanding that the way to please me is to allow me to please him. My ideal partner is someone who just wants oral sex all the time with no reciprocation. I’m even a little bit turned off at comments about my physical attributes. Comments about my butt or boobs or whatever do nothing for me. It’s not that in unattractive, but I just want the guy to be fixated on his own pleasure. This leads me to a glory hole fetish. It’s hard to explain myself to potential partners. Guys rarely understand. I don’t know other girls who are like me, so I feel like a weirdo.

I did a Google search on placiosexuality, and it leads me to things like pride flags and asexuality micro-identity definitions. It’s all well and good, but none of that interests me. I am not obsessed with labels - I think people increasingly turn to obscure micro-descriptors to forge self-identity - but I do appreciate that this one exists. What interests me is knowing that I am not a weirdo and that there are indeed others who think like me.

Anyway, I found this small and rarely active Reddit group and wanted to make an introduction.

I have found dating to be very hard and I believe that it is because I am someone who identifies as placiosexual. Any other placiosexual’s out there with dating advice? Whats working for you? Whats not working?

I'm not placiosexual, but one of the characters I'm writing is. My question is:

How do you all feel about kissing?

I keep writing stuff on my phone, just for myself for fun, with characters that are different folklore monsters because I’m autistic and folklore monsters are a special interest of mine.

I had an incubus character and I wanted to invoke the way they’re sleep paralysis demons in the folklore, but not literally make him a sleep paralysis demon (or if it’s a kink of his he doesn’t actually act on it) because that’d be too creepy. I decided that only wanting to pleasure others but not receive it in return still gave the vibe of him being a wet dream, and was also an interesting and original twist on how people usually imagine incubi and succubi to be, so I wrote him like that, and decided that in my lore all incubi and succubi are like that. In my lore they’re all repulsed by the idea of being touched sexually by someone else, and want to be the ones exclusively giving the pleasure during sex, and that’s completely normal for them.

I didn’t know it was a real thing that real human people can be when I came up with it. Neat! I accidentally wrote representation for a group I didn’t know existed.

Iamvanosexual or accipiosexual is an orientation on the asexual spectrum defined as someone who enjoys having sexual acts performed on them but does not want to perform sexual acts on others. ... Someone who is iamvanosexual may be repulsed at the thought of performing sexual acts.

Just an informational post to the opposite side of the identity :)

This post is for anyone who identifies as Placiosexual or questions they are, share your stories and ask questions 🙃

Let's get one thing clear, the word "preference" meaning: a greater liking for one alternative over another or others. Example: I like both ice cream and cake but I prefer cake. Or bisexuals who has a preference towards a specific gender more than the other, or a switch who perfers topping/bottom, Placiosexual is NOT about preference. you cannot choose this, this is just how you are, on that note, I think this comment is written well ⇩

"because it's not about your role necessarily but more about the only thing your comfortable with? Like, having a preference for being a top might equal to being sex-positive, for example, while being placiosexual would be more like being ace or allo, meaning you don't choose it, it's just how you are. At least that's the way I understand it. It often gets confusing going into microlabels, probably because they can overlap and be misunderstood"

Top/bottom: is a role in the bedroom, this has more to do with specific identity for oneself who are ace that are okay with sexual intimacy but has strict boundary

Attraction: it does not necessarily mean you get sexual attraction while only touching a partner, some placio may or may not be sexually attracted to a partner but more about strictly only comfortable giving sexually but do not want to received/for it be reciprocated.

Reminder everyone is different so keep in mind the may or may not is very important.

Placio for me is an identification I use with a potential partner to understand my sexual boundaries

Any questions or if something needs corrected comment please :)

I made this subreddit because there was none and I saw many people who identified the same way as I do! This is a safe place for discussion/questions anything about Placiosexual.

There's sadly not much information on Placiosexual so I created this to spread education on this label :)

Definition: Placiosexual - is a label on the asexual spectrum defined as someone who enjoys performing sexual acts for other individuals but does not want them reciprocated. Placiosexual individuals may be sex neutral or sex repulsed when it comes to having sexual acts performed on them. Placiosexual is not the same thing as being dominant or having a sexual preference. Someone who is placiosexual may be repulsed at the thought of someone performing sexual acts on them. This may cause them to lose any sexual desire or attraction. This discomfort may be caused by dysphoria or similar discomfort with one's body, but it does not necessarily have to be.

Attraction: some may or may not feel sexual attraction.

A similar label is stone but is only used with lesbians. Unlike stone, This label can be used with any sexual/gender identity, it is gender neutral.

(The "u" at the end of Placiosexual is a misstype btw)