“Do you like cups?” You’re corny and that’s stupid.

“You just wanna feel special!” Did I fucking say anything about being special?! You’re the only one making a big deal out of it, not me.

“That doesn’t make sense,”. Any experience that isn’t your experience must not be possible, is what this gives off. People have different reasons for doing intimate acts. Try thinking outside the box for once.

“You’re just NSA!” (Yes, a idiot actually said that to me). Suddenly not experiencing sexual attraction means i can’t be committed?! As if that’s the most important thing in a relationship instead of idk, love!

Is there anyone who just really want to show someone of opposite sex affection romantically, but in reality there's nobody like that because you don't have those feelings? Or is it just me?

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I live in a very traditional society. In my school life all my friends would talk about girls in a sexual tone all the time. In order to not feel left out, I would pretend to be feeling the same thing. I would make similar comments with my friends so as to not feel left out.

I believe there are multiple reasons for me to crave sex.

First is the FOMO. The media and culture today revolves around sex. This has sort of made me believe that sex is this amazing thing that I am missing out on something big.

Second, I believe that’s it’s unlikely that my future partner would be satisfied with me without it.

Thirdly, I find sex as something intriguing, like skydiving.

And finally, I have a high libido and I just want to get off.

What reasons do you think you have for wanting sexual intercourse?

After watching a video of a youtuber about being an aroace, I found myself relating to some of the stuff.

Like I always thought romance is something same as affection towards your family and friends but with sex in equation. But it seems they are different.

After a bit of research i found out that I'm cupioromantic, one you desires romantic but can't feel any romantic attraction.

My sexuality seems to be in same situation. I enjoy mastrubation and I never done it but i think i will like sex as well. But when seeing beautiful girls, I feel nothing.. I have to force myself to even get an idea of sex with them. On the other hand, I normally get aroused when looking at acts of sex, like kissing and making out in movies and porn

Do you have any idea where i fall with this ? Can it be called cupiosexual as well ?

I only recently discovered cupiosexual as a microlabel, but I’ve felt this way for a long time. When I’m trying to explain it to other people I usually will say that I experience hunger and I enjoy the act of eating to satiate it, but thinking about specific food won’t make me feel hungry. I may even have foods I know I enjoy eating and I definitely have foods I know I do not like, but once again just thinking about or seeing a specific food is not enough to make me start feeling hungry.

This is something I am a little confused about. I personally find myself preferring a specific gender, for which I also feel a stronger aesthetic attraction.

Is anyone like that as well? I always feel like I'm a "false" ace because how can I have a preference if I feel neither romantic nor sexual attraction.

I recently got into my first physical and romantic relationship and I’ve been trying to figure things out. I’m definitely physically attracted to him, but I don’t have any desire to actually be physical sexually. I still want to be physical with him though, I enjoy it, and it makes me happy that he enjoys it to. There is just a difference in what my brain wants vs my body.

I’d be happy if we just had a romantic relationship and we were never physical with each other again, because while it’s nice it isn’t what’s important to me. I don’t see it as a required staple to be in a romantic relationship.

I definitely think I’m Cupiosexual.

I’ve wanted to have sex but whenever i seem to get the chance to I back down from it because i no longer want it. I’m pretty sure I am but want other peoples opinion

I identify strongly with the Cupiosexual definition but, as I read though others post I am not sure. I have been in relationships with people that are Ace having absolutely no sex and I did not feel it was missing from the relationship (multiple relationships totaling over 2 years). I don’t think I have ever had sexual attraction to anyone. I desire emotional, and intellectual intimacy as well as energy exchange and physical intimacy (cuddles).

I am also polyamorous (relationship anarchist?) and into BDSM. I have a high sex drive and think sex with other people is more fun than by myself. But I never think about wanting to have sex with a specific person, and if I have it has been because they are the only person I would have sex with (monogamous relationship or the only person I am comfortable with at the time). I view sex as a fun activity to do and something I want to share with some people I have intimate relationships with. Or meeting the biological need and enjoying the brain chemicals similar to going to dinner with someone I enjoy.

Currently there is someone that I want to build a deeper relationship with and I think that sex with them would be fun.

I have had partners in the past say there wasn’t emotional connection with sex or that it felt like I didn’t care that I was having sex with them specifically, and I think it is accurate.

I have wondered if I was gray/Demi in the past but with my high sex drive I didn’t really worry about it.

have found my way into cupiosexual now. I've been going through ace-spec identities for prob a decade now (with the occasional break of ''I'm just bi''). I have a desire to have labels, bc I like being able to perfectly convey my situation to others (especially when not conveying my relationship with sexual attraction to a partner and them getting angry for sex not happening). Tho as a rather sexually inexperienced individual (and not really having the desire to gather experience in that department) it's hard finding out how I really feel about all that stuff.

I like the talk, especially when it's over text (tho only with an actual partner, or close friends), but the moment I feel like it's -actually- going to happen I tab out, not interested. I consider myself a very sex positive person. I have friends who do the occasional sex work, bdsm friendly ppl all around, I do consider myself at least theoretically knowledgable in kink, not prude at all, just not down for the act
I do have alot of other factors that make me, incapable of being 'sex favourable' per se, but I think even if I strip those things away (as much as I can), I'd still not be down for it, idk

well that's my ramble

ps, I think it's very fitting that the biggest issue on this sub is the colors on the pride flag lmao

so i found this video
while i was on YouTube.
what do you think of this cupio flag?
where is it from?
let me know your thoughts :)

(My first language isn't english, sorry If there are any spelling mistakes I tryed my best)

I don't really feel sexual atraction very often but I want to have sex during relationships because of the feeling of closeness It provides. The thing is I (F) hate penetration, in the best case scenario I don't feel anything at all and at worst It hurts really really bad. All my sexual encounters have been with other female people but If I ever have a male partner I don't know If I would want to have sex (at least If penetration is involved but I don't know If there is a way of It not taking place).

I'm just realizing I fall on the asexual spectrum and I don't know much of the different lables but I feel this one resembles me the closest. I wanted to ask you beautiful people If you think my experiance falls under this category.

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Hi everyone. I’ve recently started questioning if I feel sexual attraction. I thought I was pansexual, but I’m not so sure anymore. The more I research, the more confused I get. I don’t know if what I am feeling for others is aesthetic or sexual attraction. How do you all distinguish between the two?

(I know I am cupioromantic, trying to figure out if I am also cupiosexual).

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Alright so doing some digging - the term cupiosexual was orginally called kalossexual in 2014. The common ‘go to’ origin story for this was that “It was changed to cupiosexual because people from the pokemon community were teasing people about it.”

The Kalos region was apart of X/Y pokemon games.They were released worldwide in 2013.

Following this logic, there was only 1 year in between the release of X/Y and the term Cupiosexual/Kalossexual.

I smell bullshit, I’m sorry. I’m an avid pokemon fan. Across all social media, I NEVER encountered a group of pokemon fans trying to bully the asexual community, solely for name choices or anything remotely like that.

My sneaking idea is that it was rebranded “kalosexual” to “cupiosexual” just because for whatever reason the internet collectively said “I don’t like this, let’s change it” and we ended up with cupiosexual.

Are there any queer historians who can actually look into this change that goes beyond internet myths?

Hi, I'm know I'm aegosexual and lithsexual (I guess), because I enjoy have sexual fantasies, and desire have sex but don't want to have one in real life. It's something like Sexual fantasies: i have the body i want. My couple don't made noises The genitals are unreal Sex real: I don't have the body I want My couple is unreal but do noises The genitals are real And that is so disgusting for me.

Hello! I’ve recently discovered I’m both cupiosexual and cupioromantic, I don’t know if this is the right place to ask but I’m curious as to whether there’s a term for when someone uses both labels? Like a mash-up term similar to Aroace?

I think I might be cupiosexual but I'm not sure because I feel like my experiences and feelings are still pretty different from what other people have described here.

I never questioned if I was anything other than completely allosexual until a little over 2 months ago when my (now) girlfriend asked if I'm asexual which made me start questioning because of how difficult physical affection was for me, even cuddling or kissing. I still kind of hate kissing, it's really overwhelming and strange to me but cuddling has definitely grown on me over time.

At first, I thought it was entirely because I'm mentally ill and have some sexual/intimate contact trauma that still affects me, which I still think is a factor in this. But then I started to question more- why does the idea of actually having sex terrify me? Why have I never experienced arousal, even after researching pretty extensively, exploring fetishes, and trying sex toys? It's about as erotic as touching my knee, it's just skin. And being touched by my girlfriend feels kind of silly and pointless. Why am I not as physically attracted to my girlfriend as she seems to be to me? Have I ever even been sexually attracted to anyone?

I think I've been confusing aesthetic and sexual attraction all this time. I find many people astoundingly beautiful, but kind of like a painting, I don't really want to touch them.

I asked a friend for advice on this and she said that I'd likely develop sexual attraction once my romantic/emotional attachment is more developed with my girlfriend. Now I definitely feel that strong emotional and romantic attachment, but my sexual attraction, or lack thereof is unchanged.

There are moments when I'm angry at myself and my body for not being able to do this seemingly simple thing, when I feel broken even though I know logically there's nothing wrong with me.

My girlfriend has been extremely kind and understanding through all of this, that I shouldn't try to change myself to suit her physical needs and that she loves me as I am. Yet I still feel guilty and scared. I want to be able to do sexual things at some point for the connection and act of intimacy, as well as to do something for her but it's difficult because of my physical & mental barriers. But then the question also arises, do I actually want to have sex or do I just want to because that's what I've been conditioned to believe is a fundamental part of any long-lasting romantic relationship? Am I just doing it for my girlfriend's sake?

Sorry, this is probably a lot but it's been weighing pretty heavily on my conscious these past few months and I don't really know what to make of all this.

That pansexual (cupio?) lingering anxiety of
Am I pansexual or just cupiosexual cause my traumatized ass goes into freak out mode when I try to figure out if I have sexual attraction or not, or just enjoy sex

Hi! I'm pretty sure I'm cupio- but I wanted to know if there were more exact labels. Like, if something along the lines of homocupiosexual or cupioheterosexual was a proper term. I'm mostly just wondering where to put another prefix if I could.