/r/reciprosexual
The subreddit for reciprosexuals, allies and those who are questioning. For the romantic orientation, please visit r/Recipromantic. Reciprosexual falls under the asexuality spectrum, or Acespec.
Reciprosexuals are people who generally don't feel sexual attraction to others unless someone expresses sexual interest in them first.
/r/reciprosexual
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Question above: can Reciprosexual be considered under the grey umbrella since it is conditional? (No sexual attraction until someone is attracted to you first?)
The only person I was sure I'd want to have sex with (no explicit romantic or sexual attraction) was someone I thought was attracted to me not just my body So I would imagine him overlooking my not-sexiness and just wanting to be intimate with me
So it's like reciprosexual except if they're emotionally maybe romanically into me? I dont know if I'd call what I felt attraction either but rather desire and i would chose them over anyone else (bc i knew him, kinda demi but not quite)?
Can anyone relate? Are there any terms to help describe this?
I mean to those of them who i like ..it does not mean that if someone who is not in my taste chase me i am gonna feel attraction for him.
But i only have sexual attraction for men that chase me and try to win my heart, not only for men that want sex. Or at least if i BELIEVE that they are in love with me and this is why they try hard to win me. It does not mean that they are in love but this is what I BELIEVE and makes me attracted to them. No matter how good looking is someone if he is not flirting me and try to approach me i would NEVER care or feel attraction for him.
I am not demi-sexual cause i don't need a lot of time to feel a connection with someone in order to feel attracted to him. But if i like someone i might have attraction ( i guess) even if they are not in mood at this specific time. I am not sure about it though. But even if i am not isn't this normal? Who can feel horny if she is next to a cold stone?
But mainly i want to make clear i am attracted only to men who are attracted to me sexually CAUSE i believe they are in love with me. So its not only about sexual attraction but romantic attraction too. Maybe their attraction might be sexual only though from their side but I BELIEVE they want me so much cause they are in love with me. So i am talking for strong sexual attraction always ! If someone has a not so strong attraction for me i might not care at all again.
Do you think i am reciprosexual?
So I'm demisexual and very into my fiance. I notice, though I can only get into the idea of having sex with him if he's teeming with that kimd of energy. Is this reciprosexuality? Or rather, a component of it? I'm not even sure if I feel sexual at all until he does in fact.
Hey peeps! I’ll keep it brief, and I really appreciate any opinions I can get! So I’m demisexual/demiromantic, meaning I’m only attracted to people I have a close emotional bond with. Something I’ve noticed is that out of all the people I’ve been attracted to, I’ve never discounted the chance that they could be attracted to me too. But when it turned out they weren’t, my attraction to them died within the next day or so.
I’m curious because the moment they say they aren’t attracted to me, I lose attraction to them. It isn’t the standard definition of reciprosexuality, I don’t think, but I can definitely justify it based on how my demisexuality works for me. What do you guys think?
I’ve been considering reciprosexuality a lot more seriously for myself recently and because of that I’ve been looking for people talking about how it works for them. However, so far the internet has seemed pretty barren of actual recipros talking about how it works. Does anyone have any anecdotes about how they figured out they were reciprosexual or just any general reciprosexual experiences?
Since nobody has posted anything, I'll get brave and tell my personal experience of being reciprosexual (a very specific subset of asexuality), and how that combines with my wife being asexual.
It is typically genetic, and it is never a "choice".
Basically, if somebody isn't showing obvious sexual attraction towards me first (or faking it super well), I literally am asexual at that moment. I enjoy sex, but if my partner isn't in the mood, then I'm "faking it" too. It doesn't work, and nothing can change it.
Context, from before I knew I am reciprosexual:
We recently figured out our situation, now that we are in our early 50s.
The effects:
My conditions are all genetic. They run in my family. Note that it is extremely common for the same person to have many or all of these conditions at once, because they are related.
It's important to understand that people with these conditions aren't "broken", they are just "different". You would be shocked to know how many key people have these conditions. Inventors, leaders, celebrities, singers, painters, dancers, writers, engineers, teachers, doctors, psychologists, etc. In many cases, the conditions actually provide advantages, and are the reason they got so far.
The conditions that run in my family, which I believe are all related:
While "reciprosexual" is largely unknown, I suspect it's more common than people realize. There are some who are considered "greysexual", where it isn't always a thing. That's what I thought I had. After digging deeper, I figured out that I am reciprosexual, and my guess is that there are many who likewise have this same situation without figuring it out.
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For those who are uneducated, a Reciprosexual is a person who normally doesn't experience sexual attraction, unless somebody shows sexual interest for them first. It has been around since 2005 and is recognized by Glaad and aromantism.org, a.k.a AUREA.
If you perhaps mistook this sub for the romantic attraction, Recipromantic, please visit the /r/Recipromantic subreddit instead. If not, welcome!
Welcome! I am still kinda new to managing subreddits but the rules should be getting posted soon!