I've always seen it as some weird power dynamic thing considering I am a huge fan of relationships that are equal, because aren't they supposed to be equal? It doesn't help that this type of thing often occurs in places (aka Fandoms) where underage folk dominate and that really rubs me the wrong way. I dunno, it's a bit difficult to articulate how I feel about it. All I know is that I feel uncomfortable and irritated by it.

Highly likely to be the last time I'm letting anonymous people say shit to me. This really really triggered me, even worse when it is my first ever time experiencing blatant acephobia personally... I am only 16 years old who has OCD, which makes this even worse, I am a teenager with barely any experience and have a compulsive disorder that is notorious for producing horrifying thoughts I don't want. I've panicked so badly and ended up deleting the source. I could really, really use some comfort right now. This sucks and I feel like I've completely failed myself by making the mistake of trusting people on the internet to have SOME basic decency. Geez, sorry for forgetting the fact on why I consider this community to be the only safe place out there. 💔😞

Hello, im Female and 33 years old..

I'm ace/anti/sexrepulsed and I never had sex and I'm against porn and specialisation.

I don't drink alcohol and I'm against drugs and smoking ECT.

I'm hypersensible and allergic to narcissists and egocentric people who will only take, but never give.

I'm fed up with low-level non aces who are toxic and who have a dirty soul.

I have a ton of hobbies. Making videos, playing music students (band)..drawing, writing Storys, doing a comic...I like birds, reptiles, aphibics and fish.i like to cosplay my own characters. Im a artist on my own kind.

I like to work and I like to build my futures. I'm very conscious about everything and I'm a overthinker. I do not believe words, I only believe facts. Things I see and I feel.

I'm searching for a soulmate Kind of man, who is also fed up by people and disappointed not getting any attention or love by others. Maybe we can help each other out..if not as a platonic relationship, then at least as friends only.. to share memory's and laugh again. To find a reason in this life, to make someone smile and happy..that's a thing I desire.

People who really like me and stay, also in my darkest times.

Thank you.

First up I'm now transgender, as in I realised this recently and feel a bit slow because looking back it was obvious.... However, I previously thought I was a lesbian and I had a couple of partners between 20 and 35, and with one, unwanted, exception I have only slept with those 2 people. At no point did I enjoy said experiences because of the sensory aspect, and because quite honestly, bodily fluids are disgusting. I used to dissociate in order to please my partners, I wasn't aware that was what I was doing either... didn't find out I was autistic until 44... now the sensory aversions make sense!

I occasionally like the idea of intimacy... right up to the part where any bodily fluids might be exchanged or touched... but as a general rule I don't think about relationships the way other people seem to. I'd like to hold hands, to be supported and supportive, to cuddle up by a fire... but that is the limit of my interest. I care if people are okay, but I'm not romantic. Hell, I can't even manage to make and keep a friend, so I don't really know what I'm worried about, but I suppose I can't help my curious mind.

Does it sound like I'm in the right place with apothisexual? Or is there some other term I simply haven't heard yet that would better fit?

Full disclosure I'm 26 so if you're under 18 there's probably very little you can do to help me. I'm sure you're great but you most likely do not have the necessary life experience to offer support. Also there is some very extreme self loathing here that I do not want to make a child's responsibility, having myself been parentified by very mentally ill older adults from the internet when I was young.

I have fluctuating levels of repulsion. I'm always at least sex averse, never get anywhere near neutral/favorable, but occasionally I get very very repulsed and welp... The past few days have really been one of those occasions 🫠 judging by the fact that an acquaintance of mine talking about how awesome their local queer kink community is in totally sfw, non explicit terms sent me careening into a self-hatred spiral.

I am deeply, deeply exhausted and resentful of the fact that I have to live in a society where compulsory sexuality exists. The default state of existence for human beings is sexual. To be nonsexual is to be cut off from the human experience. Especially as an adult.

The thing is, though, it's like that one "Am I out of touch?" Simpsons meme. The answer is never "the world is wrong", because even if the world is wrong, it can't be changed and it can't be controlled. So the personally responsible thing to do is say that I, myself, am the problem— I'm a prude, I'm a killjoy, I need to stop sucking all the oxygen out of the room because other people are having fun and unless I'm facilitating it I'm actually a huge waste of space. I should be handing out water bottles >!at the orgy!< or whatever that one stupid tweet said.

I hate being asexual and I hate being repulsed. All it's ever brought me is pain. There is no way forward.

I am so glad I've found this community, it is legitimately the only safe place for a sex-repulsed teenager like me. Sex jokes are EVERYWHERE and I am Sick of it. It breaks my heart into literal pieces that even teens around my age or even YOUNGER than me say shit like that all the time. People have to make things weird don't they?

I am sick of being sent to a panicy spiral everytime I see someone make such a joke like that, I hate the objectification nature of 99% of these fuckass JOKES, I HATE FEELING SO BETRAYED WHEN SOMEONE I CONSIDERED TO BE A FRIEND MAKES SUCH JOKES. It makes me want to avoid them everytime. I try to make me being sex-repulsed and underage very obvious but I guess fuckers are just so inconsiderate these days.

I just want to feel safe, I just want friends who wouldn't say things like that but it feels so impossible. I am a fandom kid and a massive shipper and wow, good grief. . .

This has been bugging me for a ehile now but I just had to talk about this after I was reading a book that is about, long story short, a girl killing her entire family on the dad's side. The book was going very well and I was enjoying the plot with some very casual sex references until the book just suddenly has a bunch of plot relevant sex scenes. I usually just skip these but as I said, these were plot relevant and from the bits and pieces on context I got, one of the murders might even happen during a sex scene. So I just dropped the book and I am probably not going to pick it up again, which is a shame because I was invested in the story

After this is just looked everywhere for a list of trigger warning I might have potentially missed and guess what, I found nothing. Which means that either there were no trigger warning, or if there are they aren't in a place you will easily see them in before buying and even reading the book. I just think this whole situation was so easily avoidable if there was a list of potential triggers visible in the back where the summary of the story usually is. Like, have the summary and under that have the trigger warning list. In a way that allows any potential buyers to see if they're going to throw up or have a panic attack before those things, you know, actually happen while they're reading the book.

Anyways this experience just kinda messed with me and this kind of thing has happened before and I just hate it so I wanna know about other people's thoughts about this

tw mention of trauma

I was reading a meme someone posted and it got nsfw and it wasnt flaired as nsfw -not hating them specifically- but im just so tired of allo people not censoring their shit but then i remember im a minority and that i just seem immature for literally crying about it- im the trauma alter and i cant control who fronts and i have SA trauma so im like double repulsed on top of being your standard apothi- whyyyyyyyyy?? CENSOR YOUR POSTS ITS EASY 😭/srs

Does anyone else have panic attacks due to fear of sex?

Everything about sex frightens me, especially the act. Just imagining even thinking about having sex makes me terrified.

The only possible way I could ever have sex under any capacity would be if I were anesthetized to the point of being torpid and comatose.

Am I the only one who feels like this?

For the longest time, I have been afraid of sex. No! I don't have any trauma or SA.

I just have always been so scared of sex. I have intrusive thoughts regarding sex, and they keep me up at night, to the point I have crying panic attacks.

I wish I could deal with these thoughts a bit easier, but I can't shake loose of my fear.

Does anyone else feel the same?

is anyone who is sex repulsed in a relationship or been in a relationship? i’ve always dreamed of getting a partner who doesn’t only care about sex and would rather just spend quality time together, go on dates, hugs, just more so wholesome romantic stuff. is that possible?

So I'm asexual, right? And stuff about sex DISGUSTS me. I was directed to this subreddit and I want to know if they were correct.

Television commercials, going on Google on my phone, Facebook, it's too much. I'm always seeing something that annoys me. I was scrolling on Facebook and there was a post from something with Sydney Sweeny posting a picture of her being topless and covering her breasts and I'm just sitting here thinking "Why is this relevant? Why is this even on my feed?" It reminds me of this one time I was on Google on my phone and some news story about some actor's sex life popped up as the first random recommended thing. The advertisements on television are also annoying because why do I need to see an ad for supplements to keep an erection when I'm just trying to watch sports or anime?

I made a reference sheet for myself for all the flags that describe me :D (the one in the center bottom is my own design)

Mentions of m----------n, but not in detail.

So I'm (18M) sx repulsed. I am disgusted by the idea of having sx. I'm not totally revolted by the idea of others having it, but I get a little uncomfortable.

But I occasionally have to take care of that sort of thing (m----------n). It's quite literally just a chore. To get it done I like full disassociate and pretend I'm not me if that makes sense. And then I feel gross afterwards for a bit and start getting imposter syndrome about not being apothisexual enough. I wish I just had no libido at all. I'm just tired of it.

I don't find the same enjoyment in it (or literally any enjoyment ugh) as allos do and I just wish I could give all my libido to others and do away with it.

I'm just tired. I know that logically this doesn't make me less apothisexual and stuff but I'd really like a bit of reassurance ig? Sometimes I get scared that I don't count as apothisexual because I occasionally have to do this and I'm just ugh.

Obviously I'm sex-repulsed (it's why I'm posting here, haha), though my reactions to sex-related stuff can vary between being completely indifferent, to feeling grossed out, to feeling nauseated (which is the most common reaction), and, on some occasions, to feeling lightheaded.

The lightheaded reaction is rare, but it does happen. I've never fainted before, but I thought I was going to, the first time it happened. It feels similar to the feeling I get when I accidentally look at my blood when it's getting drawn (whether in a vial or in a tube)--I feel suddenly lightheaded and like I'm going to keel over. It's not a pleasant feeling at all.

I know that's... probably not normal, though. I can at least explain the nausea--sex is HUGE squick for me (no judgment to people who like it), and when something grosses you out, nausea is a natural response. Feeling lightheaded is a much weirder one for me, though--I'm not sure how or why that happens instead of the nausea, or if it's something I should be worried about.

EDIT: OH NO! I didn't realize this would trigger Reddit's filter. This post isn't actually not safe for work though!!

So for context I told my parents a while back that I was aroace and they seemed pretty accepting UNTIL I realized they kept trying to make me watch movies with romance, which, by itself I'd be okay with IF it didn't inevitably lead to the nuh-uh-ew-yuck-why-myeyes scenes in it. Then they'll try to guilt me or shame me for looking away or seeming uncomfortable when these scenes happen

Has this/does this happen to anyone else? What should I do? Also sorry if the post is a pain to read, I suck at formatting this stuff lol

EDIT: Thx for the advice!! But now they're trying to justify it with "well you wanna watch rated R movies with us (horror movies mainly), how can you not expect a s3x scene" like?? tf????? I came here to watch someone's head get cut off why do we need the s3x scenes they don't do anything for the plot!

doesn't feel aesthetic attraction but also is extremely uncomfortable with it/dislikes it? tbh I feel like I'm a-aesthetic for more moral reasons because I truly hate viewing others as pleasure/distaste on a superficial level - so I just don't feel that type of attraction to them. it also makes me unbearably uncomfortable even thinking about someone feeling that way towards me. I'm super insecure about someone only liking me for my physical appearance or the way I look influencing them to feel for me at all, whether it's good or bad. Insecurity aside, it's also just makes me feel like an object. really hope no one ever feels that way for me.

ps I'm not apothisexual. just normal sex repulsed black stripe ace, but I had a feeling the main subs might not have taken kindly to apothiaesthetic. I thought this sub might be more understanding. also if someone could make a flag for it that would be nice lol

Recently my friend had sex with a guy that I used to like and went into great details about what they did and how long they had sex for. They know I'm apothisexual. It really grossed me out and I don't think I could see them in the same light anymore. Is it weird that I don't wanna be around them anymore?

Every day it's another crappy take from them and it usually gets a lot of upvotes. Ex. Post about being weirded put by mascot fucking? "But don't yuck other people's yums!!!!! Different strokes for different folks!!!!!! Furries are valid!!!!!!" Nobody said that furries aren't valid. An actual furry responded that it's disgusting and got downvoted. Sorry if this does not fit, i just wanted to rant

Hello! Since nobody has created antisexual discord server, I decided to create my own , you can choose roles , discuss about your feelings and other stuff around antisexuality. Server is 13+ so if anyone is interested, here is the link: https://discord.gg/j9GSNPkwCK

I want to know which filters or apps or even settings, some of you may use to filter sexual content or unwanted content in general in pages like Youtube, Twitter, Google, etc.

It will help me so much, Thanks!

I was hanging out with some friends after a recital that happened. One of the friends was making jokes. I raised my hand because I didn't get them. She and some others would try to explain to me. One of my friends would text me what the jokes meant and I sort of understood afterwards. I didn't hate it, but I didn't like feeling confused. I didn't feel stupid, but rather, I felt like I wasn't able to add to the conversation. Just like with some other friends, when they make sex jokes, I have nothing to say and I end up not saying anything. I was confused a lot and didn't even know what most of the jokes meant. I don't think they're insensitive at all. They're nice people. I just hate when it happens. I'm already feeling like shit because of the deaths I experienced this month and last, but it just felt very weird having to hear jokes that I didn't get until explained, which again didn't help.

I don't know if it's just me, but I never liked it. A lot of the people online who use it tend to be the "sex-favorables" who talk about how they're "so ace" and whatnot, yet have sex and try to redefine the word. They feel Tumblr-like.

But back to my main point, I know some people here use the phrase "ace" because it's easier; however, I hate how it sounds. And it's worse when people are using random symbols like the ace of spades, cupcakes, cake Denmark, garlic bread, dragons, etc.

I don't like trying to make asexual sound cool because it was, at once, deemed weird; but the real thing that bothers me is that the ones who do it the most aren't asexual. "Everyone wants to have sex." "There's someone for everyone." These are statements I've been told to before. Now these same people who appropriate the label are trying to sound cool with it. A lot of the time I have seen "ace" used is in the other subreddits. It's not like "bi" or "pan" at all. Ace is an attempt to make it sound cool, so people appropriate it. Aro sounds like "arrow" and it sounds cool to them and people appropriate it.

Maybe I'm just acting like a grumpy old 27-year-old man. But what does everyone else think?

Why sexual people find some tyoes of relationship and kinks repulsive, such as age gap but if we find all of them repulsive they hate?

I need some advice on this, because I'm really struggling a lot with this, and I don't know how to handle it.

My whole life I've been sex repulsed, to the point where I get physically sick if I see or hear it for too long. From a teenager, up until now at 31 years of age. This would result in my family being hostile towards me or telling me to grow up. I sincerely am not putting on an act but when I see or hear it, I get so sick to my stomach that I have to plug my ears or leave the room if someone happens to be watching a sex scene.

I don't tell whoever is watching to turn it off, I just leave the room, but my family keeps telling me to 'grow up', 'get over yourself', 'You're an adult, start acting like one'. And I hate it, because I'm genuinely not trying to be this way.

(It also makes me so angry with them, because they'll describe their bathroom routine in graphic detail whenever I'm eating)

I even tried watching this YouTube video called "Asexuals watch 40 year old virgin" and I almost threw up on myself, I got so sick from hearing the film constantly discuss sex (I haven't seen the movie before)

I don't know what to do. My family is extremely agphobic, I can't leave and I'm so sick of being harassed/hounded for it, because almost every single time I'm entering a room, whatever show my family is watching will coincidentally have a sex scene with people going at it and I have to leave or cover my ears, only to get yelled at.

I know some aces can watch sex scenes and not get so physically sick like I do, some can hear it and not have problems, but is it normal to have such a physical repulsion to sex like I do?

My body literally gets so nauseous as if it'd eaten some bad food, then gone on a wild rollercoaster in the middle of summer. I cannot even describe how physically sick I get from just hearing that horrible noise or seeing it.

I'm fine with other people watching or doing it, but I literally cannot interact or perceive it in any form, and I've been that way my whole life and I have no idea if anyone else is like me in that sense either. I just... I'm so sick and tired of my body doing this, because I could be enjoying a show, see a sex scene pop up, almost vomit all over myself and have to quickly fast forward through it. It's a nightmare if that happens in cinema, because I have to plug my ears and shut my eyes through it, then I get shamed by anyone who has gone to the film with me.

I've genuinely tried to make myself watch porn to get over it, but I get so sick that I literally cannot do it. I'm at such a loss that I don't know what to do about it.

Has anyone else experienced this? Is this normal?