I'm a physician and I'm currently serving my military duty (it's obligatory, it lasts for 9 months). Each of us is placed in a specialty relevant to their degrees. I'm a physician so I'm a physician in the army as well. I'm still in the lowest rank as every other soldier, it's just that I'm a doctor and oh well everybody needs a doctor and that makes us more important.

So anyway. One of my main goals was to assess the health and the complains of soldiers. If necessary I could give them a day off-duty, or a day free of exercise or free of standing or free of shaving or free of the army shoes (they would wear sneakers). I know that you can't give everybody a day-off, I was doing my best to evaluate those who really needed it.

I got to see so many chests, I examined so many lungs etc. It was huge experience for me. The feeling was also very different. They were not purely patients and I was not purely a doctor. We were brothers. It was the same person that in the night we would sleep in the same chamber along with other 40 soldiers. I would see them shiver in the night, I would shave with them together in the bathrooms. I remember one dude who showered but the water was ice cold and he was nearly blue and shaking. We gather around him and rubbed him and covered him with blankets until he got the color of the living again.

It's weird to describe if you haven't felt it. But this experience made me understand patients more holistically. It also made me understand that somethings (like put some ice on that hurting area) may be impossible (where the hell is he supposed to find ice?).

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One day I fainted (it was my time to need help). I was in a special forces exercise as a surveillance doctor. They carried me with in their arms back to safety. I felt a bit embarrassed. They told me that we're family, it's one for all and all for one. It was their time to care for me. I felt that this experience somehow curved and changed medicine. It's as if medicine had different rules. The distance between patient and physician is different. I loved each and every of my brothers there and I hope I did the best for them.

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As a gay person this was truly magnificent. Me being gay never got in the way. I felt like a brother to them all, perfectly equal and no different at all.

I am a gay man, and I'm monagmously married. I want to make more platonic friends with queer men, but I honestly haven't interacted with many other queer men in a non-hookup/dating context. I'm friends with lots of queer people but they're entirely women/non-binary people. I also feel like (and I'm guilty of this too sometimes) queer men are kind of always sizing each other up for potential attraction?? Idk, I feel like sometimes interacting with queer men has made me feel like we're all stray cats that just aggressively side eye each other and don't get along (I've also had some great but fleeting interactions). How do you even meet gay people as an adult (in the US in my case)??

I'm a plus size guy, not quite a bear since I'm only 22 and not that hairy. I find being a fat guy in the gay community to be a miserable experience. I honestly feel like some kind of second class citizen. I have confidence in how I look, but the constant rejection makes me feel awful. I know there's people who are into me but they basically only exist online. I'm getting frustrated with how much I want to have connections, but I'm unable to. It feels like I can't approach people because they'll always reject me, and I myself am not that approachable since I look intimidating. Gay men hate fat people so much to the point it makes me sometimes wish I was bisexual.

Hey Gays. My partner and I are traveling to Tulum this Dec for a week 12/16-12/24.

Any fun gay bar spots we should hit in town or at the beach?

Whats the best gay beach area?

Gay nude beach anywhere to be found?

I’m new to anal sex and need some advice. I suffer from vaginismus and can’t have normal penetrative sex yet unfortunately so my boyfriend wants to try anal sex with me instead. That makes me a bit nervous cause I have never tried it and I have heard it can be painful but I would like to try it at least to see if I can handle it. I want to experience penetrative sex and I also want to full fill my boyfriend’s wish but I don’t know how to start. I’m afraid it will hurt or cause tearing, my boyfriend said we need to use lots of lube otherwise it can be painful and quite dangerous, he also said he loves to fuck rough in doggy style but he will go slow for me at the beginning until I get used to it. I was wondering how long does it take to get used to anal and how much lube is needed? Does lube prevent tearings and bleeding? Cause I don’t want any injuries!! Also will I be able to do anal sex even though I suffer from vaginismus? I don’t know if just my vaginal muscles are tight or will my anal muscles also be tight from that condition? I heard some women like anal while other women don’t so it depends on the person. One woman I know told me it felt like a sword coming inside her while other woman told me that anal sex is her favorite sex and that she always cums that way. I really, really want to try it but i’m scared of pain and injuries, I was wondering does lube really help and what else do I have to do for painless anal? Breathing technics or different positions? Will I need a different condom for anal? For you who are experienced with anal can you give me some advice? Gay men are welcome too, I need advice only from all receivers, not givers. Thank you!

Awesome show ! I loved it so much and it was very intriguing and an awesome storyline

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Im not complaining but that caught me off guard honestly😃. now i have to watch it

I’m struggling with being gay, and it’s something that’s become really tricky for me. I don’t fit the stereotypical mold of what people think a gay man is. I didn’t grow up idolizing female artists or wearing my mom’s heels. I’m just an average Midwestern guy who likes hanging out with the boys, going to the gym, playing video games, and listening to rap. I try to be a gentleman at all times.

I know that online, people like to pretend that all gay men can be like me, but that’s not how it feels in my real life. My people-pleasing tendencies have taken over to the point where I feel almost asexual. Being around straight guys, I often deal with gay jokes (like people touching my arm saying I’m so hot) or even borderline sexual harassment , like coming close to kiss me or smacking my butt. I just go numb. It doesn’t make me feel anything, not even attraction.

It’s gotten so bad that I haven’t even had my first kiss or any kind of sexual relationship. I feel ashamed, and I refuse to go down the DL (down low) route because I don’t want to drag others into my mess or make my struggles theirs. I talked to my therapist, and he suggested finding other gay people like me—but that feels impossible. Where I live, there are no openly gay people, and if there are, they’re closeted like me. It feels like I’m one in a million.

I turned to the internet and ended up in communities where people act like a self-proclaimed “gate club,” projecting their issues while hating on trans and feminine gay people. They promote being a “regular gay” and bonding over rejecting others, but I don’t want to be part of that either. I can accept that I’m different, but I refuse to be the “token straight-passing gay guy” who looks down on the same people who fought for our rights. If it weren’t for trans people and feminine gays with their boldness and bravery, I wouldn’t even have the freedom to think about coming out or joining the military as a gay man.

It feels like what I want is too much to ask: I want to come out, but I don’t want my life to change completely. I know that once I come out, I’ll lose so much—friendships, respect, even parts of my identity—and it hurts. I’ve been a people pleaser for so long, and all it’s left me with is lost time and an empty love life, all because I’ve been too afraid to take the first step

When I’m alone, the sadness hits hard. I’ve hidden this part of myself for so long that I’ve become a shell of who I really am. I don’t know how to reconnect with myself, and it’s eating me up inside.

I’m even planning to join the Army to escape the fake persona I’ve built. I want to come out to everyone before I leave—or maybe even on the day I go—but honestly, I don’t feel connected to anyone in my life. I’ve heard their hateful comments about gay people, and even if they say they love and support me after I come out, it’s going to feel fake. That includes my parents.

Right now, I feel sick to my stomach. I’m so tired of living like this, but I don’t know how to move forward.

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So me and this guy are both 18 and we have been super on and off for almost a year now. We've dated, taken breaks, been friends and all the way back to dating again. But whenever we do get back together it always feels like I'm the only one thats genuinely into the other as I really like him but it seems more often than not that he's only kinda into me. Which sucks but every time I try and take a break and separate myself he'll write me these loving paragraphs that draw me right back in and I'll take him back. And it works he'll smoother me in affection and attention only for a week or so later for it go back to the samething of off and on texting and him telling me he's super busy and doesn't have time to spend time with me. The problem I have is that I'm genuinely into him but idk if he feels the same way or at least as much as I do. I kinda just want some advice from unbiased opinions.

This is just personal experience, but it seems like if sex is not on the table within the first week, a guy will lose interest. Call me old fashioned, but I ME personally, I will lose interest IF I decide to have sex that soon. There isn’t much to know about them yet, only thing was if the sex was good or bad. Hmm, thoughts? (I live in Cali for reference)

Anyone else find as a bottom that water based lube feels better than silicon based lube? Man it felt incredible for some reason tonight. When I usually get fucked most tops always using lube that was oil-based but somehow tonight my top had water based when I was getting fucked. The water based lube felt so good and he lasted about 4 mins too lol and when I was cumming ..when I was getting pounded I couldn’t even finish jerking off b/c when i was cumming it felt so powerful. Any thought’s?

Hey guys Sam here from Delhi. Married but looking for a guy to explore my bi side with. Looking for someone discreet and trustworthy. I will be telling my wife about this only once I'm more comfortable with my sexuality.

Please msg me on tele on onestar84 or whatsapp me on +918595317715

I'm 6'4 blonde hair 40 year old bottom that works out 4-6 days a week and has the muscle to show for it. I currently live in iowa and unfortunately the choices are pretty slim here. I was wanting to plan a long weekend get away for a weekend of debauchery. Anyone have any suggestions?

This may be a wildly ignorant question. I never went to drag shows (aside from watching them at pride festivals) until I started dating my bf, but now we're semi-regulars at a couple of drag bars in our city.

I've noticed at some point during every show, a security guard will walk on stage and usually talk to the DJ briefly. Then they just stand there. Last night the guy was doing regular things, like adjusting his gloves, or his hat. It was oddly sexy and honestly quite distracting from the drag queen who was performing. Sometimes they react to the queens but it looks like they're trying to stay stonefaced.

I know they're at least working because they do help with spotting dollars on the floor and stuff, but like, are they meant to just be visible or is there some larger part to it?

I have anxiety and I am really conscious of my looks . I am slim even have a little muscle but I just don't like myself . I don't even like my pics and whenever I take them they are very bad. But keeping this aside When I talk to someone on dating app especially if they are hot I get anxious and whenever they ask to meet I always decline. It's not like I have not gone ahead. Few times(or I can say many time) I would go to someone's place if they ask me on grindr but when I reach there I would be so awkward I immediately lose interest and have to come back embarrassed. Like how do people handle this ?

Has anyone used the Collective social app? It says it’s for friends and dates, but is it actually just for hooking up? I don’t want to download it if it’s just for hooking up.

For context, my husband and I have been together for 10 years and even have a son, but we don’t have a circle of gay friends anymore. All of our friends are straight people so at times, it’s hard to relate to them. Would I have better luck just joining a Facebook group to connect with others similar to us or the Collective worth downloading?

When I woke up I thought my partner was pregnant and I was about to text goodmorning you two But then I realized We are long distance And my partner is a boy

Today, on World AIDS Day, we honor those we’ve lost, celebrate the progress made, and recommit to the fight against HIV/AIDS. Liberace, a trailblazing entertainer, my forever icon, and the second celebrity to pass from AIDS related complications, (the first one was Rock Hudson.) reminds us of how far we’ve come and how much further we need to go.

If you have an active lifestyle, taking preventive steps like getting on PrEP can be life-changing. It’s powerful to protect yourself and reduce the spread of HIV. Let’s end the stigma, know your status by getting tested, stay informed, and continue striving for a world free of HIV/AIDS.

So, picture this: the current economy has been treating my finances like a punching bag. I'm talking 60% of my take-home pay being devoured by rent alone. Needless to say, I'm on a budget tighter than Spandex on a sumo wrestler. After a long day at work, I turned to my best friend and asked if I could grab a slice of pizza. Their genius response? "A real man earns his pizza; you should go sing for yours."

Armed with this nugget of wisdom, I decided to dive into Grindr. I got a message back, but in my cash-strapped stupor, I forgot to ask them to order the pizza before they arrived. When they did show up, they reminded me of what happens when you mix ruggedness with a buttermilk marinade—an oversize, scraggly concoction that could only be described as... unique.

In an act of blind dedication to my friend's advice, I proceeded to "sing for my supper," hoping to earn that elusive pizza. But after the performance of a lifetime, my guest simply zipped up and ghosted, leaving me with nothing but a haunting silence where my pizza should have been.

My friend found the whole situation absolutely hysterical, jokingly dubbing me "the world's most hardworking sucio whore." As for me, I was left to reflect on my life choices, doubting my skills in the fine art of pizza procurement.

Meanwhile, I'm adding “ask about the pizza beforehand” to my life lessons. In the end, I got a story that pairs well with a big ol' helping of irony and a dash of self-deprecating humor. And who knows? Perhaps one day I'll be able to laugh about it over an actual slice of pizza.