• We have hooked up before and he is all over me, but he kept telling me to keep it down because his flatmate dont know he is gay

— The second time, On that chat when he asked me if I used poppers, i asked him if he had an STD, to which he responded that he was clean. He then said I didn’t have to come over but I said I wanted to.

I asked if he could use his toilet. He locked his room until I came out.. I was worried what would happen if his flatmates saw me and he refused to open up

• He made comments about my ass being flat and being a beginner in the gym - despite going to four years. Bascailly, saying that he didn’t think I muscular enough. When I told him i wanted a six pack, he laughed saying good luck. I got the impression that he was a bit of a joker and that its a cultural thing as he is from Malaysia — and would explain why he is in the closet as this a strongly Muslim country. Also he was all over me and wanted to sit and cuddle and kiss me, which I found a bit strange.

He said his friend had HIV when I spoke about STDs; I had a little worry that he was referring to himself. We only did oral..

I got rejected by friend . We both had oral pleasure sometime. After some years we both didn't talk that much . A year before we just talk about our olden days when we're enjoying in bed after that conversation we had some good time . After few days I said that I have a crush on you but he rejected me. But why he rejected me still I don't know.

When I thought that I was a butch lesbian, certain things such as typically feminine terms and activities seemed like they were out of reach and that I had no freedom to really express myself. After figuring out that I'm actually a gay man, it's changed a lot for some reason?? For example I would never want to be called a girl or a woman, BUT I don't mind being called "girl" in a gay slang type of way. I wouldn't mind a man calling me his "malewife" (LOL) or doing/wearing typically feminine things after realizing that I'm a man who likes men and not women. I'm not as dysphoric about "girly" things now that I've realized who I am and I truly think that's beautiful. Do any other trans men/boys feel like this as well?

I am now calling members of our community from the Silent and Boomer Generations Stonewallers. They earned it.

June 28-July 3, 1969 THE FIRST PRIDE MARCH WAS A RIOT

Carry on

I know we love NAKED, and the old jock strap but in terms of out in public what is you favorite look on a man?

I love a tank top undershirt on pretty much any man. Especially when they wear it under another unbuttoned shirt or unzippered jacket. OMG under a flannel! Bonus if they’re hairy!

On the face, a thick 80’s cop mustache.

i want to put it out there that I'm a man who loves other men.

Personally, I’m a big fan. Been a fan of his since before his music career when he was just a YouTuber haha, but I never see or hear other LGBT people (especially gay men) talk about him, and they never play him in any clubs I frequent so I was just curious what the general opinion was on him and why ^^

Does anyone else take the generic PReP by teva called "Emtricitabine and Tenofovir Disoproxil Fumarate." I just got prescribed this and picked it up today and I'm confused because it's not truvada. I'm assuming it's the same thing. I would ask my doctor but she is out of town. Does anyone know if you can do the on demand dosing with this or is that only with truvada?

Ok so I was in English class drawing a SasuNaru animatic (not gonna elaborate) and out of the blue I heard someone saying ”KISS KISS” .

I turned around, it was the guy behind me.

Two minutes later, he whispered “kiss her” pointing at my bestie who was sitting next to me.
Disgusted, I just threw a pencil at him and said “why tf would I kiss her I’m gay”

WHAT HAVE I DONE

Mostly a vent post but maybe some advice wouldnt hurt... I'm a 40 yo gay man living in a decent size city in california, I went through a divorce during COVID and have been single since. I have done the work of going to therapy to better myself and understand why my marriage failed and deal with the traumas of the past. Reentering the dating world has me fucked up. I have been off the market for around a decade and holy shit its a different world... The apps are terrible for mental health, so I try going out to bars with friends which is terrible for physical health, I play in a gay sports league that tends to be clicky and the same people I meet at the bars. Everyone around me is in less than satisfying relationships but unwilling to leave because $ so they are all open or looking for 3rds which takes a chunk of singles off the market. I've done the work on myself, I own a home, I have a great job, I am in shape. The few people I've gone on dates with say they are looking to date but really just want to hookup which going to therapy ruined for me because I realized I was using sex as a substitute for meaningful connections which I have since made with my group of amazing friends. I'm fine alone, I keep busy with friends, work, and hobbies, but honestly I miss the feeling of being in love. My friends are all in amazing loving relationships and they never make me feel like "their single friend" but I am so jealous of what they all have. Obviously going to continue to work on myself and stay happy, just outside of moving to a whole new city I'm at a loss for what to do to find someone.

This isn’t really a question focused on gay men, but I already posted 2 times on here and got some good answers. So I don’t really see myself being an adult, working, having actual responsibilities…etc I haven’t graduated yet but I don’t even know what to do with my life, what to study for, what to work in, and the fact I also am not compatible with the school system makes it harder…. By that I mean that im just bored in school and nothing interest me. As I said i have no ideas about what i want to work in or even do when i grow up, i don’t want to go to university or college but i do at the same time because its kind of needed to get a confortable job.. If anyone has ever been through the same thing or just want to share their opinion, ill gladly read them

I am extremely masc & get misgendered 24/7 at my job there’s this boy I met & he’s extremely pretty & dresses super well & he looks super cool all the time

I always just saw him from afar.

till he randomly came up to me asking for help & i took the chance to talk to him & he’s really sweet. I am usually shy & never talk to anybody but I was super talkative around him. I am always typically attracted to girls but he’s very beautiful.

I gave him compliments, I just told them that he always dresses nice & also that his hair is pretty, (it’s curly) he kept saying same to me.

I didn’t wanna be weird by “flirting” with him I wasn’t meaning too. It just came off that way

& I am stilll kinda nervous around him. he says hi anytime he see’s me & smiles at me & I am very veryyy shy. I just wave back

i think I am afraid that if I was to interact with him I feel like I’d be really sweet or flirty again & I feel like I am afraid if that is weird to him? I guess also is there a chance the attraction is mutual?

I am a 42 year old male and I have found in the last 5 years that I’ve lost my orgasm. I still have a healthy labido, I have sex when I find anyone willing and my hand and toys when I don’t. I just find that my orgasm at (or just before) ejaculation is missing which is causing a little disappointment in my enjoyment of sexual activity, although it doesn’t seem to impair others enjoyment.

Is this a thing that happens as you get older? or has it happened to you? Or do you have another theory of what is happening?

Is it normal to be obsessed about having a boyfriend ?? Like I’m completely crazy about it but I feel like I will never get one.. (I’m still really young). I want to know how to get rid of the obsession even tho I got hurt several times in the past and it led me to major trust & abandonment issues (which impacted a lot any romantic relationship I had since I overthink everything if I don’t get a lot of reassurance which annoys me & the guy because it gives me a lot of anxiety and I completely understand that the guy doesn’t want to spend 24/7 of his time reassuring me) I really want to get rid of it so if anyone ever went through it or something alike, or just wants to give their opinion, I would gladly appreciate it.

Hey guys, I'm moving soon due to grad school and I wanted to get your advice on the gay scene in some cities. If you've lived in or visited any of these cities pls lmk (either comment or DM) how your experience was. Thank you so much

The list:

Gainesville Los Angeles Birmingham Ft Lauderdale Alton Louisville Lexington Farmington Aurora Baltimore Portland (Maine) Chapel hill North Carolina Newark Stony Brook Columbus Dallas Boston Salt lake City

For those of you who appreciate an athletic build, which athletic type is your favorite?

I am torn between rugby players and Olympic style wrestlers. Rugby guys have the proportions I like (big) especially those legs! Wrestlers just have such amazing muscularity. That competing to dominate in those singlets, those positions they get into? Lovely.

Close seconds are soccer/football ⚽️ players and fighters, especially MMA.

Ok, there’s a lot to unpack here and I’ll try as best as humanly possible to be succinct.

Where do you draw the line when it comes to an ostensible ally holding views that are or can be interpreted as awful, bigoted or just “un-nice”?

Quick example: there’s a (supposed) ally who is otherwise very accepting and even loving towards you regarding your gayness. They talk about your husband/boyfriend regularly, ask how he’s doing, enjoy having dinner with you guys, even voted many years ago in California against Prop 8.

However, they believe that it’s not right for gay people to adopt or otherwise have kids. Or they feel that a child should have a strong mother and father figure and that a gay couple can’t provide that. You get the picture.

In full transparency, this example isn’t so hypothetical for me, as you probably already guessed. It’s just that it’s too hurtful and also LONG for me to go on forever. Just this is already lengthy.

Anyways, you get the point. Can a person be an ally - or gay friendly - while failing a “purity test”, if you will? How pure do they have to be and how much wiggle room can you allow?

Keeping in mind that the strong majority of people will never be fully “pure” when it comes to this.

i’d really like to know who would date a short trans guy like 5’0-5’5. Or what’s the shortest you’d date or if you’d date a trans guy at all? i find dating to be hard already as a trans guy and being short makes it worse so id just like to know how many people would actually be open to dating someone like me.

I'm 27 and the guy I was seeing was 48. We were not boyfriends and never talked about being exclusive. We knew each other for like 1 year, but we only hang out for like 2 months. Of course we used to met just to talk, watch something, dinner, but most of the time and talks was about sex. Lately we were using apps like Grindr, and talking about the guys we think are hot and we could have a threesome.
But I don't get why once he got so jealousy about looking to the other guy when we were drinking at his friend's apartment. We were in 5 guys, and one of them take his shirt off and I looked at him a few times. But nothing else, just looking.
I don't get it. The guy I was seeing were looking and talking to other guys right next to me at Grindr. And for me was ok because it's something we used to do together. Why complain about me looking to other guy as well?

I'm a 29-year-old independent man who cares for respect and freedom. Talking about relationships.... How unhealthy is for someone who is openly gay date a man whose secret live is risky upon you a your relationship?

I'm dating a 38-year-old man in closet, and I don't know what to do; it's okay to have a private life and keep secrets for ourselves. But nowadays is it kinda awkward to make a living in just 4 walls without windows, don't you think so? Am I right?

Don't get me wrong, what I mean is that I'm not quite sure whether to be happy in the darkness with someone where nobody sees us or worried because his family and friends could see us.

I'm kinda happy for daring a nice man, but I can walk in the streets freely as a possible boyfriend or post a story of us eating ice cream in an Italian restaurant because his sexuality and personal life will be suspicious.

Non-reactive. Can I breath now?

So I recently discovered that us gay men have a term that is specific to us and is the male equivalent of lesbian. It’s achillean, I have personally always loved that lesbian women had their own specific term and I always wanted a term that specifically meant “men loving men” and I’m so excited it exists. Does anyone else know about this term? Does anyone here identify as an achillean?

Any other parent here been in the same situation? How do you educate your children? If you don't want to reply publicly I will be happy to chat more privately if you want. Thanks for the advice in advance.

Not humble bragging I swear.

Saw a long time regular for the first time in a while. 10 inches and thick. Deepthroated him on and off for like 6 hours.

He wants to come back tomorrow and my throat is sore 🤣 anyone have any tips or tricks on healing or resting my poor throat?

JW if anyone has done nude photography and how you started? I have a couple of friends who have posed for me, but I don’t want to keep asking my friends because tbh I don’t want to see my friends naked. I’d rather it be strangers, but idk how to make it happen without seeming creepy.

I know I’m preaching to the choir here but isn’t it wild just how sexy men are? I don’t know about you guys but men just are so hot and I wanted to chat with fellow gay guys about how lucky we are as gay men to be attracted to one another!