I (16m) am going to bottom for the first time with a friend (17m) and I'm a bit nervous about that ordeal. I trust he won't hurt me more than "normal" so that's not it. I'm more worried about how we should do it. What if we make a mess? What if I just can't get to feel anything? In what position should we do it? I'm really excited for it but I don't want to give him any trouble.

Me and my boyfriend have been having anal sex for about 2 months now (usually once every 2 weeks) because we are away for school. For some reason when either of us first bottom, when the tip goes in, there is a sharp pain. But then we take it out and wait a few seconds, try again and it feels better. Is this normal because it's been happening to both of us? We both make sure to use a ton of lube and we do foreplay beforehand (usually for 5-10 minutes). But even during bottoming it still feels a bit uncomfortable for me, l'm not sure if it's because l'm not relaxed fully or need more practice, but it does feel good.

As the title states, my boyfriend does not like having my cum in his mouth. I really would love to finish in his mouth but I don’t want to force anything. I personally don’t like the taste of cum either but I do it for the pleasure of the other guy. I’m not sure if it is my diet or not, I’m a college student so don’t eat the healthiest. But sometimes it makes me feel sad that he doesn’t like my cum. But he does love eating my ass and me cumming in him. Is this something I should try to talk to him about or next respect his boundaries?

I am now in my early 50’s. I remember things that happened to me since I was young(under5). My uncle molested and raped me for years. I tried to tell my family when I was young, but no one believed me. This happened until I was in my late teens. When I got older, he would always play drinking games and get my drunk. I honestly thought when I was over 10, that there wasn’t anything wrong with what was happening since I was accustomed to it. Many things happened in my life because of the hidden feelings I was holding deep down. I never felt like I was good enough, or that I mattered. I finally talked to a therapist when I was in my late 40’s. I was told by the therapist that I had no right to tell this to family, or to do anything to mess up my Uncle’s life. It is like this fire has grown inside me, and I am angry. Very angry that I want everyone to know who my uncle really is. I don’t have money to take him to court, but I want revenge on him. Please give me honest opinions.

I have this coworker, he’s straight presenting but he does these things that makes me think he’s not straight, and that he might actually reciprocate the feelings. How do I go about this?

I live in very homophobic place and have homophobic parents. I’m scared to date other men but since I don’t have any access to male body to explore it, I have to watch gay porn. I feel like I have an addiction. I started to chat with a guy who is DL. We can’t share face pics because of safety reasons but I feel like I want to have sex with him just because I want to try. I feel like I’m disrespecting my own body and acting like a slut or hole for someone. I want to find a man who will respect me, but mostly I want to respect myself. It is scary to meet him in person because he can be decoy and actually a homophobic police officer who can blackmail me and threaten me to send my nude pictures and videos to my parents. But I also really wanna try with a man. What should I do? I’m sorry if this post is not appropriate, I can delete it but I just need some advice. I’m 23 btw and live with parents

So I'm about to be a bottom . I've never had a homosexual experience before. I'm very excited and eager. However the person I've chosen for this is not telling me how to prep or what to expect. I have a few hours to figure this out and I'm really nervous and excited.

Hey everyone, I’ve been experimenting a little bit with my sexuality after my previous relationship ended (never hung out with anyone just talked to some guys), I ended up starting a new girl and really think it’s going to last. But a few weeks ago I was drinking with one of my close friends and I was talking about me questioning my sexuality, and it ended up with me sucking his dick and really enjoyed it, I’m just not sure what to do

Someone who have done anal sex or any sort of butt play on a regular basis and then got hemorhoids and got them healed, what is your sex life now? Have you come back to anal with extra precautions and new habits or did not at all? Note please if you had any type of surgery or treatment so everybody could make a decision in their cases, what they should do and what better not. And how long should you wait after to be safe to do anal without tearing or triggering the recurrence.

I'm worried it will destroy my sex life as one of those who enjoy anal sex, anybody who know anything related or useful are welcome! Thanks in advance!

Hello! I need help, i really like this guy in my class and band but... he doesnt like me back. We've been in a talking stage together and it worked so well! Until he basically dropped me and said that he was going 2 work on his mental health.. i waited for him but he told me not to, and told me to stop being obsessed. I still really like him. Ive been told that he has a gf but havent seen any or any sign of said gf. What should i do?! Edit: im not a stalker, i dont stalk him. Ive taken months not talking 2 him and ive suddenly liked him again the whole situation was like a month or 2 ago. I hav habits of being obessed with him and then suddenly hating his guts. Also when he means obsessed he means talking 2 him alot. But i have no one 2 talk 2. Please dont jump 2 conclusions n shit

I keep hearing horrible things on the news about Gay men getting killed and sick of it. We should pass a law were convicted homophobic killers be forced to watch gay porn on loop 5 hours every day until there sentances end. Great deterence

Anyone else upset about the fact that tall str8 masculine men with phat muscle hairy asses wont let you eat it?! Its so fuckin unfair! I see what str8 guys mean about women at the gym now because wtf man. This should be illegal!

My Prep Specialist suggested I switch from Truvada to injectable Prep. I had a gastric sleeve and lost 180lbs. With bariatric surgery you can have absorption issues. Has anyone here had bariatric surgery and take Prep? Which one do you do pills or injection? The injection sounds like more work because quarterly labs are now every 2 months. Any feedback would be great.

So I have been gay for a long time since I first realized my feelings towards men. But I am now feeling like I am not living to my full potential. Or that being gay is not for me. Because like I am not attractive and and I am not fit so trying to find a relationship with someone is near to impossible. And I am not a super fashionable person although I do try and look nice when I go out and stuff. I did try hooking up at one point in my life but that was not a good highlight in my life. Idk I just feel like I am not gay enough sometimes and then other times I feel super gay. I just can’t tell if this is who I’m meant to be or not. Because I do like men but if that is the biggest reason I am gay and I don’t fit in with the culture then am I really gay at all?

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So, I'm M20 and I have been sexualy with men a few times, like 5 or so (I'm kinda new in it). Most of them were fine but in one of them the thing was a little difficult for the other guy to keep it running but I didn't think about it to much until the latest one, there the thing just didn't work, like it was just "not-excited" most of the time and I was feeling embarrassed thinking there may be something I was doing wrong (and he probably thought the same for himself, idk). We had to stop right there (he told me later he has no idea what happened). I know things like being nervous can affect something in there but I'm not sure, I just want to know if there is any chance for me to be the problem and if so, how can I make it never happen again? Or if it's not something I can control, how can I make it less awkward for both? It was a confusing moment

Hi,

I bought some toys. I bought an enema bulb to clean myself and was wondering if they work well. I like being hygienic so I'm a bit paranoid as to if they work well. Any tips to clean myself properly?

Ok, idk if imchoosing the wrong people or in the wrong social environment, but is anyone else having or has had a feeling /experience of being trapped in this gay inception limbo?

Recently ive been getting rejected or ghosted in (lots of) certain situations because im either 1. Too masc or 2. Not masc enough or 3. Not femme enough or 4. (The classic) "im not gay but if i was youd def be my type" which can translate into i guess str8 men finding you attractive but are too str8 or "socially conscious" to act on it or aka not str8 enough. (Cause we all know str8 boys LOVE each other lol) Wtf is going on?!

Is it this new wave if gays? Are we evolving and i didnt get the email?! Especially god forbid if theyre bi (no offense guys but connects to the point above) i mean i do have a thing for bi guys but its not a primary factor i look for cause it doesnt matter, but i feel alot of these bi dudes are into extremely femme or CDs (no hate) or extremely masc (THAT THEY BOTTOM FOR I MIGHT ADD) and women (?) lol.

Then the gays think i have internalized homophobia cause i guess im not gay...enough?! (I assume based on the analysis from their end on how i dress and carry myself?) So as someone on the "neutral more/gay leaning " side fo the "spectrum" am i buggin? Or do i need to update/renew my gay card? Help brothers! (and sisters).

Im bi and im closeted but one of my friend has an idea that im not completely straight, were both masculine and ever since he found out i might not be straight we didnt talk as much but ive always had a crush on him., randomly after i moved schools he texted me at 2:00 am at night and said "yo" i said "whats up" he said "nvm nvm" eventually i got him to tell me and he said "Nun i was wondering if you would come slide for me " i asked him what do you mean by slide? "like hangout?" ever since then he left me on delivered.. then i texted him just saying his name hoping that hed respond and he just said "wsp bro" and i replied but hes had me on delivered for three days since then. im so confused.

Like it’ll be a random guy and the comment will be “I’m on prep”

But what is it?

I’ve been discreetly blowing hung guys since I was a freshman in college. I’m a fifth year senior… college athlete (soccer)

I’m obsessed with hung masculine college guys.

I literally feel like they deserve to be worshipped.

Big penises and big balls on a fit or skinny or muscular college guy is the most erotic thing to me …. Ever.

I just love pleasing so much. Making them feel good is more of a turn on to me than actually pleasing myself of that makes sense.

I literally would spend hours a day online looking for hung masculine college bros who were looking for DL cock worship. I go to school in Boston so there is a ton of horny college guys…. Just hard to find hung. Legit

I’ve blown athletes. Nerds, and frat boys…. Only into hung. Some virgins. Some have gfs… some became a regular DL thing.

Does anyone else just share an appreciation of EVERYTHING about big penises, big balls….

While not wanting anything beyond a physical relationship?

I mean I’ve def become fWBs with a few of them…. But only in a friend sense. Never wanted a boyfriend. Just want to be used to make them feel good and experience their pleasure with them.

Does that make sense? Or am I hypersexual? Weird? Or just obsessed?

Of course he’s ignoring me…did I do something wrong..did I say something IDK but it’s alway my fault I feel like. If I did something wrong just tell me so I can fix it instead of acting like a child. Just being left on read and it honestly hurts your my friend, if you were a true friend you would talk about what’s going on

(This is a throwaway account) To start, I'm a man and have been with my girlfriend for over a year now, but recently I've realized that I'm attracted to men and I'm unsure about what to do. It started with seeing men on Instagram and just thinking that they were attractive but I didn't think anything of it. But then soon I found myself liking and scrolling through pictures of large hairy men (i think what gay men call bears?) thinking about what it would be like to be with a man. Now it's to the point where I spend most of my time touching myself to pictures these of guys or to explicit art of men being intimate together. I feel as though it's gotten to the point of an addiction and I don't know how to stop myself, but I love my girlfriend and don't want this to harm our relationship in any way. Again I accept that I do find men s*xually attractive. Because a lot of them really are. But I just don't want it to harm my relationship. I also am concerned about something else. All the fantasies in my mind now are about men, like kissing them and giving bjs and or receiving a**l and I'm not sure how best to cope with not ever being able to experience something like that. Another point to mention. I definitely am more attracted to men than I am to women. Any advice? Sorry if that was all just a jumble of thoughts

Oke I had figure out like 2 month ago that I like men. Tbh, I really hate people before since secondary school as it is a taboo in our culture (plus Im a muslim). Add up to that, I once got sexually abused by my senior during my first year thus really affect the way I interact with a men. I will find it not too comfortable being touched and IIl avoid them.

But 2 month ago, a friend of mine (He's realy open regarding Igbt) convinced me and said that I might be because of the fact of my physical appearance (I have a fem look). At first I really dont get it until some thing occur which made me question "I might like men "

So rn, I really dive deeper into this stuff and find out "Im kinda gay". But the thing is, Im emotionally attracted to a men, but sexually to both lol. Is it normal? Is it oke?

I could say that all of this had root up from my trauma from being abused in secondary school. I hate it so much before but rn I crave for it. Crave for the touch, intimacy, everything. I just feel like it would be good to have a men to protect me from those tragedy happening again. Hmmmm

Im a t man and for the past little while l've been talking to a guy online and he says stuff about missing me and finding me attractive and things of that nature. I've hung out with him like three times in person and I "try" to initiate Flirting and giving him signs but he seems so much more shut down in person. I'm not sure if I just don't understand his signals or actions because he's bio male and l've only ever dated women before or something or if there is a way that I need to act for him to understand that I want that??? Any advice?

Hi, like the title implies - it has been an issue that for the longest time has kept me from dating because I’ve always been worried for any possible man thinking I am not interested.

While I have romantic feelings, my exhibiting of said feelings are lackluster.

That being said there have been a few guys that I’ve always thought of. One of which is/was seeing a guy and I am so happy for him. The other one I met in Hawaii over a Grindr hookup - and in the case they see this… just know I never forgot about you TL.

Story time I guess, lol.

When I was in Hawaii, I was enlisted in the Navy (shocker) and I had a little bit of a whore phase. One day I got with this guy, TL, and I remember just looking at him and his war scars and just thinking “He seems a lot sweeter than I’d imagine”, and he was. However, the thing that scared me was his coke can Johnson… even if I low key liked it that thing was a stretcher waiting to happen.

REGARDLESS.

We get together and usually people just forget and move on. TL didn’t, as a matter of fact I kind of found it funny when he messaged me one day to drive him to get his car from where he was drinking the night prior (we love a responsible drinker) and we were talking about various things… RPDR being one of them even though I have NEVER watched it prior. He’s partially the reason I started watching it years later. I kept blowing him off for a while because I was scared of getting connected emotionally, amongst other things - turns out I regret doing so now considering I think about him more than I would have ever imagined.

While I’m sure he found him a nice man (at least I hope so), sometimes I wonder if he ever thinks of me, you know? Hell I kind of hope he sees this and remembers it. I’d do a lot to be in contact with him just one more time.

I’ve been talking to a guy from another town for several months now. Throughout this time, he’s told me multiple times how special I am to him, that he has strong feelings for me, and that he feels a deep connection unlike any he’s ever had before. Despite all these heartfelt statements, I’m struggling to understand how that could be true when I know he’s still active on dating apps.

I actually confronted him about it, hoping for an honest explanation, but instead, he only reassured me that he really likes me—a lot, whether I believe it or not. However, he didn’t give me any reason as to why he feels the need to remain on the apps if what he’s said about his feelings for me is genuine.

We haven’t met in person yet, but we’re supposed to meet for the first time next week. Now I’m feeling unsure about whether I should go through with it. Part of me wonders if I’m being too hopeful or if there’s still something worth pursuing. Any advice on how to proceed would mean a lot.

I totally understand that we are not dating and haven't even met in person yet and he has the right to be on the apps.

What I find puzzling is why would he claim to like me, to feel a connection he never felt before? Being on the apps completely invalidate all of those claims. If you truly like someone, even if you don't have anything with them, you simply won't feel the need to seek other people or get validation from other people at all.

I'm a 19M Indian and I've been openly bi(I hope that's not an issue here) for the past 6 years and have always wanted to try out some makeup. Basic stuff really, have a simple skincare routine, get some kohl/liner for the eyes and something bold on the lips. Never really ever explored this side of me so don't know anything makeup related whatsoever. Could someone help. I've got sensitive acne prone skin that is a combination of oily and dry. Medium to medium dark drown skin(I don't really know what chart, if any to compare my skin to). I don't really wanna get into something that's very in your face with bronzers and rouge and eyeshadow, just something plain like a colour matched lipgloss, kohl/eyeliner to accentuate my eyes and a basic concealer or something. Please feel free to add anything that you may feel fit, I'm open to suggestions. Just want something relatively simple that I can integrate into my morning routine