Hello everybody! I'm new to being a bottom and I'd like to know if yall have any tips about or advice for giving/getting over giving head. I've given head twice now and I gotta say that it's not my favorite thing to do. Not sure if I just need to practice more or if i just genuinely don't enjoy giving it. Please let me know your thoughts! Nothing wrong with getting some new perspectives!

I really wanna know, find it very hot and I know that’s not gonna be easy since I’m single and don’t have any diodos to help

my boyfriend got outed last week and his mom is extremely christian and against it, therefore absolutely not accepting him. she's doing it in a way of "i will help you and fix you" "god will help you become straight" rather than disowning him or kicking him out? she phrases it like "i love you too much to let you go down that road" and he knows it's ofc wrong but it's still messing with his head and now he's hesitant to be intimate with me because he's just very in his head about it. it’s so depressing to see his spark go away now because of this situation, i’m so mad.

i'm not sure what i'm really asking for here but we're in college and have 1 more year left. she probably won't come around to the idea as she is very strict and foreign. any advice or input is appreciated

For me it's when a guy holds a cocksucker's head and makes him gag.
60 seconeds and I'm done, LOL

I'm hooking up with this guy, and like it's going to be my first time. I want to be completely safe cause I am so terrified of getting a disease. I've asked him if we could get tested before doing ANYTHING (even found a clinic that is supposed to be free) and told him we are going to use condoms for anal and oral (unless he's clean after we test). If he says no to either I wouldn't feel comfortable doing it so I wouldn't do it. What else could I do to make to be safe?

If a man you were doing anything sexual with a man but he either came too fast or couldn’t cum at all, which would you prefer?

I know everyone has their own preferences, so there isn’t a right or wrong answer. I’m curious to see what people have to share.

Just for curiosity. I know the vast majority of guys watch or engage with anything that revolves around it. So I'd like to know if — on the other side of the coin —, there are many guys that don't watch or engage with that content as a whole thing. And if so, what makes you avoid it?

Would you also be OK with your partner consuming it or liking nudes, engaging with some content creators on social media and everything in between? When would it start to become a problem in the relantionship for you?

As a closeted gay guy, I often watch straight porn alongside gay porn, as there are a lot of hot guys in straight porn who are often more attractive to me than a lot of guys I watch in gay porn. Some people in the gay community however seem to really not take kindly to gay guys that watch straight porn, and I don’t really understand why? To me it doesn’t matter if a guy is straight or gay, or if the porn he’s featured in is straight or gay, a guy is still a guy; if he has a penis and is really f***ing attractive, I won’t refuse to watch them just because they identify as straight or appear in straight porn. If someone’s gay then they’re gay; watching straight porn shouldn’t invalidate that or be an excuse to gatekeep their sexuality.

Who do you think is the most attractive man? and who do you think women would think is an attractive man?

My bf(19M) and I(19M) have recently started having sex. I have bottomed every time and have decided that I don’t want to douche. I try to eat as much fiber as I can in addition to fiber supplements about a week before I see him. Seeing as I don’t stick to this high fiber diet at all times, is 30g of daily fiber enough to bottom without cleaning? I’ve heard that I should be eating up to 50g daily but at that point I’m force feeding myself bread, bananas and apples and I don’t enjoy it. I also know that it has the potential to cause me stomach pains and more gas if I intake too much. We’ve had sex twice before and both times it was surprisingly clean but how often can I expect that? Should I be content with 30g of fiber on weeks that I see him? Should I try for more? Any advice on the subject at all will be very helpful :)

The meme of the two black dudes kissing. I found about this meme today and.... What exactly was the meme there? I found out about this meme today and it just seems like "two dudes kissing hahaha".

I want to know your guys's experiences with having sex with someone who did not get hard. Were you annoyed/frustrated or did you understand? I guess some people may take it personally but just want to know what your experiences have been.

Hey yall, need some simple advice.

I’ll keep the Background short. I asked a guy out, originally got a no. He asked for my instagram, where we texted for a bit before he got my number. He continued to initiate conversation and, surprisingly, asked if I wanted to go to workout and get dinner after. I agreed, we went, and it was lovely. I felt like we connected, we talked for a good 2-3 hours and it was just a nice time overall. A few days after, conversation basically stopped. He didn’t seem interested in talking or hanging out anymore.

I’m under a lot of stress because of other things in my life, and this was kinda a breakpoint for me. I wish I knew why I felt so upset despite only knowing him for a few weeks, but I’m pretty distraught over it all.

I think I know the answer, and maybe I just need someone to say it to me, but do I even bother trying to reach out? I’m not sure if closure would be the right thing I want or need, or if I’m just emotional because of this and other things but I’m just not feeling well about it and I want to be better.

Any pointers would be appreciated

So, last week I went to a gay bar in aus for the very first time and I was a bit shocked like there were so many fem type gays in the bar. I am a bit masc bot tho’ not that fem but can turn a bit fem if with a right hookup partner 😅😂😂. Plus i feel so awkward to assimilate with them cuz i am introvert at first and not as fem as they r. Lowkey i dont like gays who r too much fem. 😭😭 dont bash on me pls. But will that make me foe if i dont like fem gays ?

is something that i always wanted to experiment, however im very new to all this… any ideas or tips?

I'm taking a break from Grindr as my mental health has been very bad and Grindr has not been helping.

Grindr has made me feel undesirable and unwanted. I haven't hooked up in 5 months and only hooked up with 4 guys. The last time I was on it I tried messaging multiple people (up to 10-11 people), and a lot of them would look at my profile but would not respond. And all I wanted to do was give a blow job, and I can't even get a guy to do that with 😔.

I consider myself a top, but I feel like I need connection and intimacy to do that as the other times I've tried to top I couldn't stay hard and couldn't feel anything. I never actually had a guy make me cum, nor have I came with a guy.

But anyway, I feel like the major reason why I don't get a lot of attention on Grindr is because I'm black and chubby. I've gotten the message that being black and chubby is not a good mix in the gay community and it really hurts. I'm currently 5'10 at 222.4 Lbs. I wish I could be those slim gay guys with nice legs and a full ass, online and in real life the gay guys I see are really good-looking and I feel like don't measure up to that.

I'm supposed to be in my sexual prime and sexually exploring but I barely get any attention and it's frustrating. I just want to feel wanted and desired 😑.

Both on Grindr and my nsfw reddit account, I’ve occasionally gotten messages from guys who have previously messaged me and I’ve ignored for whatever reason . Stuff like “guess I’m not good enough huh” or a snarky “thanks for the response👍”. I’m not really sure what they want to get from me at that point. If I didn’t respond to their first message, it’s because I either didn’t see it (which in that case they’re not making a good first impression now), I wasn’t super interested in what they said, or I just didn’t find them attractive. Would they rather I respond just to say “hey, sorry I don’t think you’re attractive”? I felt like that’s typically implied if I’m choosing to not seek them out. I get it sucks to be ignored by someone you’re attracted to, but when it happens to me I don’t give it much of a second thought. There’s a thousand more fish in the sea🤷‍♂️ It’s just weird getting this petty shit from grown men in their 30’s, 40’s.

I have come across with coments on grindr about guys who prefer cut guys. I am from ecuador but moved to USA. In my country everybody is uncut, so it was normal. But now I am here in USA and considering circuncision. Can you give me an honest opinion about your preferences? I dont wanna that bullshit about "love yourself" or "dont change just to please others". I would honestly know if a cut pennis is more atractive than uncut. Thank you and have a nice day and sorry for me english. :)

What lube works best for using an anal toy? When I’m using mine(astroglide) I feel I always need to add more after a short time

Most humans in North America were conceived in November and December since the most common birth months are July and August. I am wondering if humans have a natural arousal cycle like other animals. Would this also apply to gay men? Has anyone had a similar experience recently? Maybe it’s just because people are more bored and spend more time indoors during the colder months.

I hate this so much and it has happened a lot. But for some reason I can’t even say anything about it even if I want to scream it out loud. It’s like a embarrassing thing to say

My partner is not so pleased about the taste of my cum 😬 I don't smoke, I rarely drink alcohol... what can I do to make it taste better ? Thanks for your help

I went to a bar I’m not sure if a guy was being friendly or was flirting. I was with 2 friends so it caught me by surprise he only made a conversation with me and I walked away when I thought we were done. It was my first time going to a bar also.

So I’m kinda new to being bi. But given the chance what kind of lingerie do you all like? Personally I love lace and frankly pieces that look more feminine. I’m a submissive bottom so that’s what I like on me. If you met someone at a bar and saw a lacy thong would it bother you or turn you on?

I’m curious to hear from partnered and married gay men in this community.

How did you meet your partner or husband? Was it through friends, dating apps, work, or something else?

What qualities or moments made you realize he was the one?

I think these stories could be really inspiring and insightful for those of us still searching or just beginning relationships. Thanks in advance for sharing your experiences!

Like it says, do you like the idea of giving a straight guy head because he is neglected at home?

Seriously, google "why are there so many tops" and it will still give you results of guys complaining about bottoms.

Are bottoms or guys who prefer to bottom just louder?

Edit. I'm just wondering why is it whenever there is a conversation about top "shortage", people come out of the woodwork and tell us that there really is an equal ratio of tops and bottoms. Are we being gaslit???

Heyyy everyone I’m a 23 year old man from Central Europe and I’m looking for a little advice. I used to think I was straight for most of my life (which I’m clearly not and never was) and only up until around the past 2 years I finally set my mind free and accepted who I am, what I’m into and what I like with no shame about my sexuality, which I’m unsure of and I can’t put a label/ name on my sexuality. Although I don’t care or worry to label/ name what my sexuality is because I just accept who I am, what I like and I just want to explore this none straight side of me without looking to label my sexuality. I don’t fully understand my sexuality but one thing I know for certain is that I definitely love men, cock and cum more than anything else.🍆💦

For me it feels very nice and peaceful to finally make my mind free and to accept myself for who I am and what I like with no shame. I’m sure many others reading this will have similar stories of the incredible freeing weight of your shoulders and the feeling of freedom of finally accepting who you are with no shame.

I have never had any gay experiences with another man before. I talk to lots of people on Reddit and Snapchat but most people just seem to only want online fun/ and for me to send them pics (which I don’t mind doing) or they live really far away from me. Like I said I’ve never had any gay experience with another man before but I’m super curious (and pretty desperate too) and I want to hook up with a guy to top me and to have some real life fun with. Where and how can I find a guy to hook up with to top me and to have my first time? I’m yet to find anyone so for now all I can do is watch gay porn on Reddit and look at pics of cock and cumshot videos and hope and wish I get to hook up with a guy to top me in real life and give me my first time 😩😞

How and where can I find a top guy to hook up with and have some hot and nasty real life first time fun and make my dirty dream come true?💦💦

So my (now ex)bf and I called it quits about 2-3 weeks ago but he still texts me to check up on me and calls me just before bed to see how my day went, every day. Does this mean that he still has feelings for me? Or that he just cares? He was the one who broke up with me if this helps

Heyyy everyone I’m a 23 year old man from Central Europe. I used to think I was straight for most of my life (which I’m clearly not and never was) and only up until around the past 2 years I finally set my mind free and accepted who I am, what I’m into and what I like with no shame about my sexuality, which I’m unsure of and I can’t put a label/ name on my sexuality. Although I don’t care or worry to label/ name what my sexuality is because I just accept who I am, what I like and I just want to explore this none straight side of me without looking to label my sexuality. One thing I know for certain is that I definitely love men and cock more than anything else.🍆💦

For me it feels very nice and peaceful to finally make my mind free and to accept myself for who I am and what I like with no shame. I’m sure many others reading this will have similar stories of the incredible freeing weight of your shoulders and the feeling of freedom of finally accepting who you are with no shame.

I have never had any gay experiences with another man before. I talk to lots of people on Reddit and Snapchat but most people just seem to only want online fun/ and for me to send them pics (which I don’t mind doing) or live really far away from me. Like I said I’ve never had any gay experience with another man before but I’m super curious (and pretty desperate too) and I want to hook up with a guy to top me and to have some real life fun with. Where and how can I find a guy to hook up with to top me and to have my first time? If you live anywhere in Europe then please message me. For now all I can do is watch gay porn on Reddit and look at pics of cock and cumshot videos and hope and wish I get to hook up with a guy to top me in real life and give me my first time 😩😞

How can I find a top guy to hook up with and have some hot and nasty real life first time fun and make my dream come true?