And what differentiates a good musky smell from BO?

Are there any guys into leather here, that ride a motorcycle? I have been thinking about getting a motorcycle but I’m not really into biker gear. Do you find that the typical leather fetish looks- bluf,casual leather, etc provide decent enough protection for casual riding?

It seems like it's pretty rare to find guys who will wanna rim me. I've gotten head a few times which I've also had difficulty, but I've only ever been with 1/7 who was willing to rim me and did so very enthusiastically. Not sure if being trans has anything to with it which sucks bc I meet guys who will eat me up from but not out back, even tho I don't like being eaten up front but would love to have my ass ate. Is this something cis guys experience to or is it just me having bad luck? I always shower a few hours before sex and wash my ass very thoroughly, however I'm a bit hairy back there bc I only trim and do not shave, but it's by no means a jungle or anything. And for reference I would also rim someone if they have a nice ass, in fact I offered to do it with someone bc their ass was so fine.

Earlier today I was in a bus and the guy next to me was decent looking and all but nothing much to make a huge impression but there was a slight breeze on the bus and when the air blew past this one guy i could smell him it didn’t quite smell like a cologne but it definitely was not bo and I felt kinda creepy but every time the Blew and i could smell him he smelled amazing and it was almost intoxicating and I was loving it. I’ve never been attracted to how someone smelled in the past. But now I’m confused is this normal I don’t want to sleep with this person or anything I was just loving how he smelled. It seems to odd and weird and a little creepy. am I right?

I (25M) want to be more desirable to bottoms as a top. What gets you hungry and in desire for a man?

I haven't been able to have sex for over a year due to chronic fissures, but now I have so much botox in my sphincter it could freeze my entire face and it's finally healed.

However, it's so tight now I can barely fit 2 fingers in. I don't want to get another fissure again, so how do I go from here? Any recommended toys, etc? I just want to be able to take dick again 😔

Do you have any past hookups that just run through your mind and bring a smile to your face?

Mine is a little cliche but it’s my very first one. At 34, I finally got the courage to meetup with someone. I was out of town on business staying at a hotel and had made arrangements on Craigslist with a guy who responded to my ad. I’ll also mention that we did not exchange photos we just gave a brief description of ourselves and what we were looking for.

When he, an older gentleman, maybe 60’s, arrived to my hotel room, he could tell I was extremely nervous and I most certainly was. I remember my heart was pounding, I had never been with another man. He even said, “You look nervous.” The next thing he said however, was what I still carry with me.

In the most gentle but masculine tone he told me, “You don’t have anything to be nervous about, I’m here to make you feel good. So just lay back and let me take good care of you.” And that he did.

After we were done he asked, “Do you feel a little better now?” Verbally I said, “Oh yeah, you could say that!” (we both chuckled) Internally, I felt complete for the first time in my life. As he was leaving he told me how much he enjoyed himself and told me “safe travels”.

Just makes me smile.

I rarely hook a good one, but did yesterday. Was laying on the bottom in 69 and tipped my head back...he started fucking my throat! I've never done that before. Hard to breathe, but very satisfying. He was a nice 7" and his sack was dragging across my nose. Other than being calm and possibly dristan nasal spray...any tricks to making this work?

I’ve never been fucked by a guy before. I’ve dry humped and given/received head, but always as the top. For the past year or so I’ve experimented a lot with myself (fingering, shoving various items in my ass, riding dildos, crossdressing) and have opened up to the idea of moving up to the real deal. However, I’m a pretty shy and a small guy so I don’t really feel comfortable doing it with strangers on apps, gay bars, etc.

I have a childhood friend who I’ve know since grade school. We’ve stayed pretty close after highschool, play games almost everyday with our friend group, and hang out occasionally. Never anything overtly sexual, apart from the occasional gay jokes, though some of it is definitely pushing it (He’s sent me and our other friends pictures of his bare ass and dick to fuck with us and once he even sent a video of him just straight up jerking off). We’ve shared secrets a couple times, and he admitted to sucking dick before a long time ago, and fingering himself once.

I’ve been openly bi/pan for a while, and he claims to be straight (he likes femboys, which he claims doesn’t make him gay). He’s a femboy himself (he says its all sfw, and just for the money/hobby), and even had a sugar daddy who’d buy him stuff. This is all known by our friend group, and ofc we give him shit for it, but it’s all in good fun. I know this doesn’t mean he’s necessarily gay, but he himself will own it and admit to being bi, but then doubles back or gets noticeably upset if we point it out.

Because of my figure and crossdressing myself, I’d make a pretty cute femboy, so I don’t doubt that if he didn’t know it was me, he’d definitely smash. But i’m scared to ask in case he reacts badly or things get awkward. Even if he says yes, idk how it would affect our friendship. He also has a really big dick so it’d be a challenge for sure. Considering how nonchalant he is with nudity and wanting to fuck femboys, would he be open to be secret fwb, no strings attached and strictly for sexual pleasure? If so, how should I approach the subject?

Edit: I’ve had casual sex/fwb before, but he’s still a virgin and seems somewhat internally conflicted with his sexuality, so I’m not sure if he’d view it the same as me due to the lack of experience.

I can not ever distinguish between someone flirting and someone just being nice lol

If you could just pick up, move, and not have any of the concerns that go with that, where would you go to live? I'll accept worldwide answers, too, but preferably, in the US.

I'm getting older - just entered my third year in my 40's - and I've been single most of my life. I've had one boyfriend, a few guys I've dated, and a couple hookups at best. I'm inexperienced, lonely, and stuck in a place that I do not want to live now. I'm 100% willing to just move somewhere. Most of the friendship connections I have are spread across the country, and the same is largely true of family. And while I'm sure my parents would be sad if I became less accessible to them, I'm not as attached as they are. I'm ready and willing to just cast off to somewhere new and try it out, but unfortunately, a lot of the places that I think, "That would be great," are all basically prohibitively expensive (New England, Seattle, New York, Chicago, etc.) for my income at the moment, so I'm looking to expand the list.

Kind of subtly came out as nonbinary on social media with a selfie that is far more feminine than my followers are used to.

I’m wondering what followers who know me and are used to me looking a certain way may be thinking..

Obvi I can’t and won’t know but I’m curious to see if you’ve ever known someone or followed who came out as non binary or even trans and what were your thoughts Initallly

I have a theory that many of us gay boys who grew up watching Nickelodeon (whether we were kids during the 80s, the 90s, or the aughts) eventually realized we were gay after regularly fantasizing about the prospect of getting drenched in green slime.

I realize it was a common childhood dream of straight boys, or for girls of any sexual orientation, as well -- but for gay and bisexual boys, I wonder if it could be sort of a playful metaphor for shooting cum / getting covered in cum?

Plus the fact that you'd obviously have to take a shower after getting slimed by Nickelodeon, and the idea of communally showering in front of other dudes (who are friendly and safe to be around) can be sort of hot.

Does anyone else relate to this? Or am I just a freak?

I've always wondered if bottoms can only get off by using their ass, or if you still masturbate the traditional jerking off way?

Genuine question, I'm not writing this while fuming or anything its just a pattern ive noticed. I'm in all kinds of groups that involve gay men as a target audience. And I see post after post of random stuff but every time I see someone try to talk about something good going on in their lives its always a 45 year old gay that comments some cynical shit. It'll be like "I just got engaged!" and ill see a bunch of "Congrats" comments from people 21 to 35 and 60+ ages, and then theres just one comment from a middle aged gay like "Translation: I didnt get enough attention for my engagement so I have to post it here" and the comment will be liked by a bunch of middle aged gays. Another one will be like "My outfit for pride 😁" and everyones like "It looks good!" and some middle aged gay goes "Looks like someone needed an ego boost today" A post that annoyed me today was this guy posted a before and after weight loss pictures, and of course I see a bunch of people my age "You look good, keep up the good work!" and I saw a bunch of 60 and up comments that were like "You look so sexy now" and then I see a bunch of middle aged gays commenting shit like "Wow fatty put down the fucking fork" and "So you still don't love yourself enough, that you need attention from us"
And it has me thinking, why do gen x gays get so fucking bitter when something good happens to someone else? Why cant they just enjoy someone actually being proud of themselves?

I've been told many gay people have a hard time choosing the date of their anniversary. I thought it would be good to ask here and discuss it.

So I'm 24, and lately I've been interested in more casual hookups. I usually don't like doing anything other than kissing or oral , but I'm curious about preventative steps I could take to minimize the risk of STDs. I currently use disinfecting alcohol wipes on my penis after receiving a blowjob, as well as washing with soap immediately after. Also, I usually swish around and swallow a shot of vodka after giving head. What more could I do? I know there are medications and vaccines but I'm not really interested in anal, so idk if that changes anything. Thanks!

Anecdotes welcome.

I’m trying to learn how to totally make a man’s eyes roll back into his head are there things that drive them crazy that i can do?

How to prepare anal?

So I’ve (M19) never had anal sex before and my boyfriend (M20) comes over tomorrow, and I’m a bottom, how should I prepare for it? I’m to embarrassed to ask my boyfriend and google says contradicting stuff.

Sorry for the provocative title but this isn't about sex. I (gay single male 59) live in the suburbs of a conservative area of a conservative city in a conservative state in the west. I grew up in the 80's in an even more conservative religion so I was very late coming out and accepting myself. The bright side of that is that I have 4 amazing children with whom I am very close, but am an empty nester.

Near my home there is a large well known charter high school populated by children of mostly conservative parents. My home is kind of tucked away near this school where I don't get school traffic but it's still very close.

A couple of times a week there is this gay teenage couple who hang out in the little grass common area directly in front of my house after school. They are very physically affectionate and if I'm being honest it's one of the most adorable things I've ever seen.... Something I didn't get to experience at that age and also likely something they don't get to express at home or at this school so they sneak off here.

When they see me they intentionally pull away and turn their faces. I've mostly left them alone but I want to show them support. I just realize how creepy it might be if some old dude walks up to them and gives them the thumbs up all excited. Lol. Or offering them snacks...LOL. But I do want to assure them they are safe and have an ally if they need anything. What's they best way to do this in the least weird way?

I can't find a single relevant Sex Toy in any commercial Website.

for reference of this story, i’m 20FtM, i pass as male. my partner is AMAB.

i had an awkward situation the other night lmao. i live somewhere that had the possibility of the northern lights being visible. so, i drove out to this park that i frequent at around 10PM. there were other people in cars up there and some standing outside of their cars, i thought they were also all up there to possibly get a glimpse of the northern lights. men started approaching me and talking to me, i figured everyone was just being friendly, but i did find it a bit unusual and some of the conversations felt a bit flirtatious. eventually, an older man struck up a conversation and i mentioned that i was trying to catch a glimpse of the northern lights and he said “oh, so you’re not up here cruising? this is a popular gay cruising spot” followed by some “i prefer younger guys” comments. i chatted with him for a bit because i love learning more about gay culture and scenes i haven’t experienced myself, but ultimately ended the conversation and left as i’m in a monogamous relationship. i searched up the park i went to and it’s historically a very popular cruising spot, with about 30 people “checked in” while i was there. anyway, it got me wondering— can FtM guys safely cruise? (pre-bottom surgery) my partner and i are into exhibitionism and i thought it could be fun to visit together, but i thought i’d check here if that would be safe or not.

This is really just going to be me venting because this all just happened to me last night and I don’t know how to deal with it. This has been my first relationship so I’m very new to these feelings. So I met this guy on Tinder a couple months ago and we got along really great. We met up and since then we’ve been hanging out multiple times a week since then. He’s amazing. He checks all of my boxes and I’m falling so hard for him. He’s three years older than me ( I am 20, he’s 23) and I’m going into my third year of college and he is currently applying to med schools. I already had an idea that this may not work out due to him going to med school and later residency in a different city, but I was hopeful that he would stay in the area. He’s from Texas, but went to college in the town I’m from and I also attend college here at a nearby school. He’s still in the area for his job, but he told me yesterday that his lease is up in August and that he is highly considering moving home before he goes to med school. That broke me. I’m also on vacation rn so I can’t see him in person for another week, and he feels awful. Idk how long he’s known or when he was planning on telling me, but when I get back we’re gonna sit down and talk about stuff, but I’m a mess rn. His reasons for leaving are all valid and understandable, but also very personal so I do t wanna share them. I saw a future with him and we were making all these plans and dates for the summer, and now he may leave soon. He told me he understood if I wanted to end things now so it isn’t hard later, but I just can’t. I’d feel worse knowing he’s in the city and not seeing him before he leaves. I care so much about him, and if he leaves I know we can still stay friends. But the idea of him leaving, us contacting each other but eventually fizzling out, and either of us moving on breaks me. He’s been my person for the past couple months and I met him when I was at an all time low. I want the best for him, but I’m selfish in that I want him to stay. I pray that he decides to stay, goes to med school here, and does his residency here, but he’s been very upfront that the chances of that happening are very low. I’m falling so hard for him, but I think we just met at the worst time. He said if he knew he didn’t have to leave, that we would be official and making plans for life rn, he’s so upset that he’s making me feel this way and he can’t do anything. I’m not really asking for anything with this post. I guess just any advice would be nice to hear. I plan to keep hanging out with him until he leaves. I know that’ll only make the goodbye harder, but I can’t just not see him. There’s a lot more details about both of us that I could share, but a lot of it is very personal. Idk, I’m writing this in a really emotional state so pls if anyone has input or advice, be nice about it. Thanks in advance :)

For me, I wish I knew that it's okay to not have everything figured out right away. I spent so much time worrying about what others would think, and trying to fit into certain stereotypes or expectations of what it means to be gay. 

Anyone else love the smell of there funky sweaty gym shorts. Like when I take em off I just have to faceplant in them for a good high 😆

I usually wear the same gym shorts for a few days until they are super rank, idk why because it's not like I don't have some clean ones but I just like my own funky smell.

"I need some advice, as the title suggests. But before I ask for it, I need to tell you my story. I am 22 years old, and while growing up, I always knew that I liked women/girls. Later on, I discovered that I was hetroromantic, which is something that I know for sure. However, while growing up, I also had wet dreams and fantasies about older men. This is weird for me, as I never had a desire to be with another guy. I never had a father figure in my life, although he was a part of my life, he was not there, if you know what I mean. I am thinking that because I was missing that male figure in my life, this kind of kink for older men has been awakened. So maybe I am bisexual, even though I have never had sex with women (they are scary) and guys. Is it normal for me in this situation to want sexual intimacy with older men? Also, I am really scared of hooking up in general because of my social anxiety. I have a fear of getting a disease like HIV. I know protected sex is a thing, but... I know it's for me to decide, but I have a feeling that if I start experimenting and have sex, I would regret it. I don't know why, but maybe that's my fear talking. I hope this mess of a text was good enough to tell you my side of the story. Any advice would be great."

Firstly, I do not know if that is the correct term but, bottoming, oral, those are the things I meant. I have been practicing with bottoming a bit but I'm still a beginner I suppose, even more when it comes to oral. So I wanted to ask if there was some sort of, technique or tips to make it more bearable? I have been practicing with some things but they don't seem to be working very well, outside of practice and getting used to it.

just crazy the prices, would love to get some but just way over priced, what do you think?

I'm a 40 year old guy from Germany and posting here because I don't have any gay friends or haven't found a similar thread in German. Please don't blame me for my age.

I'm living in the beautiful province of Marburg. Even though there are several smaller towns in the area, the region is still quite rural. There are a few men from this region registered on the popular gay dating apps here. So it wouldn't be totally impossible to hook up a guy here. But compared to the amount of men in a big city, the selection of guys here is quite negligible. Actually, I've known that I'm gay since I was a teenager. I have been registered on gay dating apps for about 20 years, but I have hardly ever met anyone or gotten to know anyone. I have a problem getting to know guys anyway, because I'm not everyone's type. And sometimes I just didn't have the courage to meet anyone. But now I feel some more courage to finally meet men. But I still feel too shy to go to a gay bar or a gay club all alone. That's why I prefer hooking up guys online.

I don't have a car, but there is a good train connection to the next big city. By train I can get to the city of Frankfurt in about an hour. I can get there for free with my ticket. Yesterday I did a little test run. I spontaneously took a little trip to Frankfurt and deliberately left the gay dating apps opened in the background on my phone. I was only in Frankfurt for about two hours, but the number of profile views was much higher than when I was at home. Finally, guys I find attractive have messaged me. Something that i don't know from my hometown. Two guys even wanted to meet me for sex. However, these messages did not arrive until I was already on my way to the train back home. I probably should have spent a few more hours in Frankfurt so that guys could find me online and arrange a meeting.

Since I only have weekends off due to my job, I'm considering spending more Saturdays or Sundays in Frankfurt in the hope that I'll be able to hook up a guy on the gay dating apps. There are also cruising areas, but these are either poorly located or there is no guarantee that you will find someone there that you like. My idea is to spend some time in a bar or cafe having some drinks while looking for guys on dating apps. Either I get messages from other guys or I get in touch with other guys online. So I would spend the entire time I spend in Frankfurt sitting in cafes or bars and looking for guys on apps. Doing some activities in Frankfurt and constantly looking at my phone at the same time would be too stressful.

Apart from an experience with a dildo, I have never had anal sex. But I really want to get fucked by one of these hot guys.

What would you do in my situation? Is it a good idea to sit in cafes or bars and hook up with guys from the app? What advice would you give me?