I'm in Taipei and HK over the next few weeks, yay, I myself am originally from there but am by now a 90% clueless, out-of-date foreigner now. I'm traveling with family but will have some time for myself to check out the cities too. I would like to know, for the purposes of casual hookups, what are the popular apps or websites I should use, is it Hornet and Grindr? And any good saunas or gay gyms (or parks or malls, haha) I could check out for a fun afternoon/evening? Thank for any tips :)

Hey guys,

I've lately been thinking if I should identify as pansexual rather than homosexual or bisexual because of my attraction of many types regardless of gender or sex.

I find that straight and gay guys to be equally attractive. Also women can be attractive. Trans people also could feel right too.

I'm not sure if this is a more liberating identity or if I leaves you more confused about who you like to date or be in a romantic relationship with.

I feel like I identified as homosexual male for most of my life and now I think this label limiting. I'm afraid of changing my label, but I feel restricted when I say that I'm mostly into other homosexual males.

But, I do find myself confused as to whether it would apply when I choose a romantic partner and whether I'm more pansexual. It might not be as pan. But I still feel like I'm more homosexual when it comes to dating.

Do you guys think pansexuality is a growing identity?

I think so called straight men should embrace more of a pansexual identity if they feel restricted. But I'm not sure how many straight guys would say that. ..

Any thoughts about pansexuality and whether you have considered changing your label to reflect your feelings?

Any recs for single travelers? Not sure how welcoming they are to foreigners?

Was wondering if anyone had any experience traveling as a gay Asian in Germany. Wanted to specifically go to Berlin and check out the underground dance music scene, such as Berghain, and meet other gay or queer men there to go out with. Haven't traveled to Europe much and heard racism is more prevalent there so hesitant. I'm currently in a very gay city in the US and am a fairly attractive Asian jock if that makes any difference.

I wanna stay in the subreddit but the selfie posts are a bit excessive on my feed. Does anyone know how to filter them out?

Curious where guys are most often attracted to Asian men! Of course Asian countries but looking to hear where outside of Asia has an appreciation for us!

I’ll be heading to Yogyakarta for a school exchange from August to December and I was wondering how is the gay scene there? I’m lowkey afraid due to the religious differences from where I am from.

Are there LGBTQ+ friendly bars? Clubs?

Anybody here from Yogyakarta or Java? I’ll be traveling hopefully🤞🏽

Hope to meet & make new friends too when I am there

Hi guys,

This is a NSFW / relationship question. If you were in a committee relationship with another person, would you allow them to play with other straight men?

I sometimes can see myself thinking that it would not affect a committed relationship, but thinking about it I sometimes wonder if that might not be the case.

I sometimes wonder if it would have a similar effect to if your partner chooses lgbtq queer men.

But I also feel like more or less straight men are most likely to not want to do this or it may not be something easily arranged. There could be challenges. But at the same time，I think it could have an effect on a normal relationship.

As someone who is attracted to straight guys, I feel conflicted about whether I would say no myself? Why not allow it? I'm more concerned if it changes my relationship to my partner, but otherwise no harm done?

Any thoughts? Is this a fear?

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Saw someone make this comment last week and now I’m shooketh. Is it me. Am I the problem. haha.

Hey guys,

Do you guys believe that gay culture in Asia still limited and despite opening up and reform, still feels like early days?.

Sometimes I wonder if the right word is uneven development due to different laws and rights depending on which part of Asia you are from and which country. Same sex marriage is allowed in Taiwan but Taiwan has many fewer gays than in China.

Sometimes I feel like maybe it's hard to equate gay cultjre in Asia vs the west due to different influences but still.

I still have this feeling that gay culture in Asia still has fetishization attached to it, like being associated with manga and anime and so forth. And maybe many in the west might still see gay Asians this way. Do you guys think this is the best representation of gay culture to the world? Like maybe gay men in Japan are cute manga and anime characters. Perpetual bottoms?

I think uneven is probably the best word to describe gay culture from Asia. Not every gay Asian feels the same level of representation. But it does feel like it is getting better.

The diversity of gay Asians is out there but certainly not represented well in media and in the west.

What do you guys think? Do you think the culture is unevenly developed at the moment?