I'm still in my late twenties, but already starting to feel alienated from everyone with all the marriages happening around me. Everyone seems to find their partners and what not. While with me, I find my friend circle shrinking as everyone moves on to marriage or serious relationship. I don't think I'll find a serious relationship anytime soon, as the dating apps are absolutely disappointing and I'm reaching a point of exhaustion.

So I just want to know, how did you all deal with this? How did you make a content life while living alone? Or how did you find a partner and make it work through the long distance? Because I don't know if I can make it work.

Maha Vikas Aghadi's election manifesto has an elaborate section for lgbtqia+ community. Here are some details, as shared by their National Spokesperson.

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anyone know how to properly style my hair? owo

And why do I feel this so called litter account (sorry not sorry Elon) is just another bummer bot.

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M 23 Vers here. I have a dominant personality myself (in both in and out of the bed) but here we are considering the "in the bed" dominant aspect. I have majorly seen tops being dominant and bottoms being subs, although I'm well aware of the fact that thats not the necessary. But it's very rare that I found a vers guy who is dominant.

Personally I have not seen one. So my questions are, are there/have you met someone who is a versatile and dom guy? And how many of you find the idea of "Dom versatile" guy appealing.... ?

Okay for context, i am 5 feet 9 inches, and 84kg, and i am always kind of suffer from self esteem issue. I hate getting naked because of the disgusting eyes people give because of being fat. Also I am hairy which people don't even like. Is there any way I can be confident in my own skin, being clothed as well as naked?

Any lgbt bar or events happening in Bangalore from nov 29 to mid December?

So I have been chatting with this guy for few months and things were very chill and casual initially but later as we chatted more and I got to know about him better I realised he is such a perfect fit for me in certain ways (like emotionally) something I havent ever found before. And he completes my emotional picture so well (and I feel it can't be one way street so it has to be at some level at his side as well). Now we both had some issues that we had been dealing with, him probably more so than me, but there came a point where I think I started coming off too strongly and he kinda backed off. And now I am not sure what to do. I do feel there is so much potential that you can't just let it go like this. And he is not realizing this. But idk what to do. Any advice would be much appreciated

I am thinking of building it slowly feature by feature starting with basics to begin with.

My questions are ( and kindly reply in the comments research is very crucial)

1. What kind of features do you want the website to have ?

2. Would you be able to pay / contribute a small amount to be part of this community say 29 ruppes? Or somewhere near that?

I fell quite hard for this guy, who, at the time was in his early 20s (and I was 16).

I'm from a small town.. I didn't really bother too much about having intellectual constructs and rules that defined who I am and made me objective and self aware.

But this guy had read a bunch of moral philosophy and gathered whatever he could through the cracks. But he was good at presenting it well (he's a lawyer. So I'd imagine he's well trained at storytelling).

I'm now aware that till a certain age is reached in life, we feel like we have to compartmentalize these things, be "cool", sexy, hot, approachable but unapproachable, etc. And then eventually these pieces of a perfect puzzle have their boundaries dissolved and those things stop mattering. There's a lightness that's achieved.

Anyway, I was very impressionable and sharp (back then). I absorbed all these qualities that made him shine within his intellectual construct. It had neat little compounds and narrow channels that allowed the flow of ideas in a uniform manner :P

Now, as I'm growing older and I'm way past my early twenties, I'm agitated and flummoxed. I'm angry that I let his meager understanding of concepts shape my personality. I try to be wellspoken and objective in situations that don't warrant objectivity at all.

What's worse is, he's found someone that brings out the softer parts of him! It's infuriating that -

1. I wasnt the conduit that allowed him to access his emotions and dilute those self-limiting intellectual constructs.

2. Subconsciously I'm trained to impress people like him. I appear cold with a dry humour, trying to prove to myself that I'm "extraordinary" and I don't need to share it with the world.

I don't know if I've conveyed what I wanted to, but I don't want to be too specific. I don't want to enrage them if they see this 😛

My point is, how do you deal with this homosexual rage and resentment you feel after someone impresses you in your babygay era, and becomes an entirely different person later?

Hi..I’m a 25-year-old man from a conservative small town in Jammu & Kashmir. I'm bisexual.. In our society, ideas about queer relationships are practically unheard of, and the environment here is very traditional. Despite this, I’ve found myself deeply in love with a man who’s about 28. He owns a restaurant in town, and our meeting happened completely by chance.

I don’t know much about him personally—whether he’s straight or queer, or what he thinks of people like me. All I know is that I love him deeply. It’s not just about attraction; I genuinely admire the kind of person he is. He’s humble, respectful, low-key, kind, and clearly well-raised. I often find myself passing by his restaurant just to see him, and on days when I can’t, I feel restless and anxious. But when I do see him, there’s a sense of peace and happiness that fills me. Sometimes i feel it's not just love, i worship him. His thoughts overrules my consciousness. Becz my love language is surrendering myself and everything i own to person i love and that's what i feel for him. I've started feeling that my soul and body belongs to him only..

There’s a part of me that wants to tell him how I feel, yet I hesitate because I’m not sure if it’s worth risking my privacy. I’m not financially independent, and I don’t want to be “outed” in a place where it could lead to consequences. Yet, my heart tells me he’s kind enough to keep things private, even if he doesn’t feel the same way. Still, I can’t shake the fear of what might happen if my feelings aren’t kept confidential.

From what I can tell, he probably knows that I pass by his restaurant often and might sense my interest, but he’s never given any hint of reciprocation. I’ve tried reaching out to him anonymously on Instagram, but he didn’t reply. I even added him on Snapchat with an anonymous male account, but he hasn’t added me back. Though I sent him snaps with romantic songs, he watched a few in the beginning, but now he ignores them altogether.

I keep wondering if I should approach him in person and confess my feelings or just keep it all to myself, even if that means regretting it one day. Whenever I think about confessing, so many questions come to mind: Would he keep things private? Is he even queer, or am I simply hoping for something that isn’t there?

Our first encounter wasn’t exactly ideal. It happened when my younger brother’s scooter collided with one of his delivery boy’s scooters. I was called to the scene, and he had arrived as well. Initially, I was defensive of my brother and felt irritated by him. I even assumed, based on his muscular build, dusky skin, and intense expression, that he was arrogant or a bully. Yet, throughout the argument, he never used harsh language. Later, when he met my parents, he was remarkably polite and respectful.

This contrast made me curious, so I asked a few people from his locality, who I know, about him. To my surprise, everyone described him as incredibly kind, humble, hardworking, disciplined, and private. They also said he’s ambitious, respectful, and mature. As I learned more about him, saw his values and morals, and witnessed his respectful behavior firsthand, I couldn’t help but fall in love with him.

Now, I’m left torn. Should I approach him and risk everything, or keep these feelings hidden and carry them with me, possibly with regret?

Plz guide me.... I need someone to help me with this.

Mostly those who just say hi and didn't know how to expand the conversation beyond "how are you"

As the title says I was watching porn today and mastrubating but I didn't realise that my door wasn't fully closed. I hate closed it gently maybe and it propped back open slightly. I checked by walking outside and checking if someone could look it and realised they very much could. I'm so scared and terrified that someone did, is this okay for someone to accidentally do? What do u do about it?

I tried dating sites... Very difficult to meet people in general from there.

I wanna meet queer people in Mumbai... How do I meet? I'm exploring my sexuality for the first time and searching for my identity. I don't know how to navigate it.

Hey y'all,

After countless swipes, endless chats, and 0 IRL dates, I am convinced dating apps are a conspiracy to keep us single and scrolling. Texting is no longer fun and I am craving genuine human interaction (signs of aging).

I yearn for a boyfriend who'll sweep me off my feet with adorable dates, hand-holding, hugs, and cuddles - total cringe fest.

So, wise internet folks: how do I meet guys organically in the NCR region?

Help a fella out!

PS: 21M this side

I was just overthinking and decided to ask here i do know 2 3 queer ppl who smoke so yaa!!

Is there any group where you can find lgbt travel buddies ?

I have always wanted to visit India. I studied world religion and have been a practicing Buddhist since I was a teenager. India in the home of all things spiritual, so many world religions have their genesis in India.

After years of dreaming, I have almost everything settled and should be heading to India in the coming weeks - only every person I speak with is telling me not to go.

Even Indian friends here in Canada are saying not to go, it's too dangerous, you're crazy to go alone.

My LGBTQ+ brothers and sisters of India, what's your opinion? What should I do?

I've been super horny the last 10-14 days (I'm also in my hometown and there's nothing to do here lol).

Almost invited a "straight" guy that just wants "a hole".

He was kinda hot. In general, I'm so irritated by queer folks that call themselves straight because allyship in the form of coming out is a farfetched expectation when you can't even stop lying to yourself, and it's just fully fucked up if you are actually str8 and are finding guys on Grindr because it's easy.

Anyway, I know it's commonplace to want str8 ppl to be attracted to us but it's so detrimental to the cause at large.

Sigh.

I was talking to this guy for almost a month now and we are supposed to meetup tomorrow, it was our first date. Yesterday all of a sudden he doesn’t text me back before going asleep. Usually he does it every day. The next morning after seeing so many msgs from me he finally replied giving me an excuse of headache. That was still super fine okay and accepted. Today he tells me that he is overwhelmed by my texts abt how much I actually like him. I do, as far as i know him, i like him very very much. His texts starts drying up, feels like he aint the same person as yesterday. Its hurting me so damn much i cant handle i am having all fever and nausea and stuff right now. He also says that i will regret dating him. Why is he doing this ? I am so disheartened rn. I was super excited for our first date and just a day before he is doing this.

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Hey everyone,

In a recent lecture on Jack Babuscio's essay, "Camp and the Gay Sensibility" (1977) , we were discussing the characteristics of CAMP in the Bollywood context. Our professor presented a surprising opinion that Shah Rukh Khan (SRK) is seen as a gay icon among the Indian queer community. This was quite surprising to me and a bit hard to digest.

SRK's personality—his charm, charisma, and inclusive views—certainly make him an admirable figure to many people. His ability to connect with audiences on an emotional level, combined with his advocacy for various social issues, could indeed resonate with the LGBT community.

I wanted to get your opinions on this view. Do you think SRK's on-screen persona and roles have contributed to this perception? Or is it more about his off-screen persona and actions?

Looking forward to hearing your thoughts!