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So after like 2 years I got back in the dating scene & we met on Sunday and it was amazing. Way better than I had anticipated and today evening we are meeting after our work wraps up for a dinner. I was thinking about giving her a gift. Is it okay or will it be too cheesy and if it's ok what should I gift her. I was thinking about a nice perfume.

I am 21 Bi M, Mumbai. Recently gone to date with a M of around my age. Our plan was to visit siddhivinayak temple and then to kala ghoda, we planned to hangout until 5. He has planned that but I got some work so I cut it to 3. We met at dadar station, I got late due to mega block. My first expression was so bad. Since I am a introvert, I wasn't able to give a good first expression. Anyways, we gone to siddhivinayak temple by walk, I talked a lil bit about him. But he seems so obssesed with himself (from work i get it). Although he was just chatting with someone on half the route. Somehow we reached the temple but it was so long queue. So I changed plan to Marine. When we are in train, he was so acting like he is my bf😭. I never had with anyone gay before..it was my first time...and i felt so shy that time...awkward at same time. I get silent after some time cz my inside introvert get in my head. I asked him that is he getting bored? Because he was yawning. So he said, yes. He said that I talk very less and if i talk, I don't talk intrestingly. Anyways when we reached Marine, i wanted to sit next to sea but he said we must sit in shade...and that day was so sunny. I hardly talk, and he was getting bored. So I asked him that lets eat. He agreed. We gone to burger king outside churchgate. But so awkward, i dont know why. I wasnt able to talk to him perfectly. And I thought. Abhi khisak lete hai. We ate burgers and I said, I have a lil work...and we returned. 🙂 But at the end I thought its good thou. Cz he doesnt seems to be with a introvert guy thou.

Actually, I started to develop a crush on a woman (A), who is already in a relationship with a man. She admires me, and we know each other just for few weeks. She knows that I am into women.

Inorder to stop myself from doing anything wierd towards her, I told her about some another girl who was looking at me, and I too had a little crush on that girl(B) who was admiring me from far.

One day what happened, me and this woman were out for a walk in the evening and she finds that girl, and now she(A)became so excited, along with one more friend, to encourage me to go and talk to that girl.(B)

So the mixed emotions, those overwhelming emotions or attraction that I felt was... I was curious to know that girl(B), but this woman(A)holds my hand in her palm and we walked like 2-3 minutes, she rushing me towards that girl(B) who was walking ahead of us.... And my heart was skipping a beat as this woman(A) holds my hand....

I don't know, what's happening with me.

I'm a textbook victim of social media and its mixed messaging.

When I was in college I was praised for my scheduling skills and just how well I pulled through with my projects and academics in such short time.

But now that I'm out of it, my mind cannot process the lack of structure and I end up spending a lot of time online. I'm also a fat boy so it automatically means 90% of profiles on dating apps won't like me back. I'm trying to lose weight but here's how I'm a quintessential victim -

If I let go of my woes and keep putting myself out there because social media encourages me to be body positive, I end up wasting my time. If I remove the apps and focus on my weight, I'm not body positive and I would also miss out on potential matches which gives me fomo lol.

While this post is a rant, it's also a public advisory from a data analyst. There's no winning whatsoever with the internet :P

I'll follow up in 6 months when I'm tiny again and tell you if it's the same for hot people xP

But until then, pray for a brother <3

Hey guys, I'm 20 and have been struggling with Gender Dysphoria since childhood and it's getting a lot worse as I grow older and I feel like some counseling/therapy could really help me to sort things out and decide on transitioning.

So, I started looking for them and found the Transgender Special Clinic at Rajiv Gandhi Government Hospital conducted by Tamilnadu Government every Friday. But, I couldn't find much information about it anywhere. So any info like the procedures, personal experiences, professionalism of the doctors, "hidden fees", open times, etc. would really be helpful. And if you know of other good options or have any advice/recommendations, please share.

Thanks in advance! ❤

Apparently, there's a reason why it is LGBT and not GLBT, which is commonly used.

More apparently, it was to honor the lesbians from the early days of AIDS, who supported the gay men.

There was a lot of stigma in those days about HIV and people who contracted HIV. Lesbians helped the gays against this stigma, at the risk of stigmatizing themselves (on top of the stigma about being queer). The disease was even termed 'Gay Related Immune Deficiency'.

The doctors, nurses etc were scared of even touching people with HIV, when groups of lesbians got together and got into hospitals to provide the necessary support, like donating blood, nursing etc.

So, there it is. If you don't already know, that is.

Hi, I'm 25M based in Bengaluru, I am gay and hence will not be able to have a child through normal marriage but I want to have a biological child of my own and focus my energy on raising it, giving it all the joys I didn't have in my childhood and turning it into a healthy, able and brilliant human being 20 years from now. Since relationships aren't easy for me and I'm an introvert, I would like to spend all my free time raising the child, fortunately I am happy with the current job in all aspects so no career uncertainty. Rather than learning a language alone, i would like to teach it to my child, rather than roaming in parks alone, I would like to roam with my child, rather than cook for myself, i would like to make delicacies for my child. My parents will retire soon and I think they will happily help me with raising the child in its younger years.

I'm looking for people who can help me with this, I have lots of questions regarding the ethical issues, Chances of my child inheriting my sexuality, effect on its development due to the awkward family structure (though I will not be the only single parent) or role models to look up to.

Thanks

https://reddit.com/link/1h4uhah/video/oygzw9deof4e1/player

Poem: Warm mouth

Ok damn here we go again
This shitty feeling,,let's go down the memorylane
Well this lesson I ought to retain

I was falling for this boi
Well I hoped he might too
What a big deluision ,should have picked up the clues
He wouldn't fall for me,he suggested I am the unloveable kind
He was tall,hansdsome,witty and sometimes kind
I was short and plain by design
I overthink, why didn't I think this through

Well when you are in love, I bet you loose some screws
Fool, you Should have picked up the sign
When he mocked; his words ;action didn't align,
He called me those name ,made me feel malign
But weren't we doing these acts together.
Mocked me with a smile, knew I was shattered
Why did I enable him to break what was already pieces
I'm tired,This is a cycle;that never ceases.
he was colorblind,
I was a colorfull being
Why did I agree that I didnt had colors in me

Guess who was desperate, you touched straved boi
He said you are nothing ,but a warm mouth boi
That night the broken heart wept and wailed
Oh that poor boi, covering his mouth
Trying his best not to let out any sound.

From that day on , he put up the walls,
plastered a smile
In his heart ,so no one can climb.
Sadly with tym that vacant heart got cold.
That boi who was meek , now he is bold.

He vowed to himself, he'll always love
The word "love" still makes him glee
But when those signs come ,he'll flee

we were hoping to put up a demonstration in south city mall and we’d ask for permission beforehand but is it lgbt friendly would it be safe for a bunch of teens to put up a demonstration and speak about the lgbt community

Hi I got my gid letter today and I wanna know good doctors in Delhi for starting hrt.

Any recommendations for any doctors or hospitals are appreciated.

Hello everyone! I am new here and i wanted to take this thing off my chest. I had a girlfriend back then a masc one of my senior in the college. She later then became friend of all of them in my circle. This is just a reference for what i am gonna ask you guys advice for
Okay here goes nothing:
We were always in a group where i was always with my girlfriend and my two other girl-friends. Now that we have broken up i think i been talking to other friends of mine more properly. But.. 1 week ago that one friend from the circle her grandfather had died and she was miserable so i thought is should stay with her in her tough times i stayed over
and when we fell asleep i kept her around my arms and i felt something different
we never had slept togther like this
something ignited that day
i stayed over the next day i liked how she smelled wanted to hold her again
and yesterday we two went for lunch
and i was horribly awkward that she could read my face
i havent told her how i am feeling but she is assuming we never came out for lunch we two only thats why i am awkward
please help me guys i cant tell her how i feel because i might lose her as my friend too :(

TW: SH

like you finally start to feel better then all the things that you think have stopped for the better start creeping back. it feels like this lingers for eternity. this feeling of abandonment and failure haunts me. cutting helped but when i felt better, the scars trigger and take me back to the shittiest time ever. i feel like there's this child inside me who craves affection. i had been feeling better since a few weeks, now even waking up feels like a chore. i hope this stops haunting me and i return back to sanity.

how do y'all cope?

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So basically I was travelling in train and it was crowded but then u managed to somehow occupya fourth seat even though it was uncomfortable.. So the guy next to me after sometime told me to get up.. I didn't.. So he pushed ne I started fighting for a while thentone of his friends started ganging up and other third guy started coming in between us because he was ine the same line of position as we were.. He started saying that's your problem.. And not our problem.. And I didn't stood up for myself so Igoty up... Irony hewaso letting his friend sit and not allowing me to sit

I feel guilty that I didn't stood up.. But i asked my dad he told me you did the right thing but something inside irks inside me... I don't know what.. But I just feel bad about it.. Cann anyone enlighten me

Although there are so many of us, but just finding someone is so difficult. As a queer woman, it almost seems impossible to meet someone! Any help or suggestions are welcomed!

He does keep this shit up, I do fall in love, I am in love but what does it matter? I don’t think it’s ever gonna end up in marrying. This song has never not seen me cry…

To the guy i broke up with about a month ago, we are fuckbuddies now. He was gentle, we used a condom and oil for lubrication. It was somewhat painful for the first few strokes but then i started getting used to it. However there was an overwhelming feeling that i'd shit on his dick, so I asked him to stop. He did. I gave him a bj and we cuddled afterwards. It was fun. I want to try it again, any suggestions on how to overcome that feeling?

We celebrate pride as if it's a birthday party not movement. Movements are continues not seasonal or annual this is high time it needs to change also I've noticed queers don't have much unity one of such ex is pride itself every city be having its pride on different days in a different way by different NGOs/groups.

And I think we are not clear about our goals too...it might be controversial/offensive sorry for that but I think we should fight "as queer and for queer", in community we be talking about caste based discrimination or racism but that's not our domain (queer for Palestine that was funny) we should surely include all sort of people there is no doubt about that but all these issues have their own people/leader,organization working against it. They don't need us nordo they ask for our help or for our rights.

Inshort we should focus on queer Issues and emphasise on queer Identity not every other social issues that pops up in our way.

If you disagree counter and if you agree and want to add something you are free.

Hi, Just starting a thread on book recommendations for understanding gender identity, and more generally about issues facing transgender folks.

I am close to finish reading "Free To Be - Understanding Kids and Gender Identity" by Dr. Jack Turban, a psychiatrist by profession specialising in counseling gender non conforming kids, and would highly recommend it!

The book combines science of gender identity with personal anecdotes of his clients, and maintains a very soothing and humane tone throughout. It's available on Amazon India.

Another book, which looks pretty interesting but haven't yet read is - "Different - Gender thru eyes of primatologist" by Frans de Waal, which from what I heard is a memoir about gender non conforming behaviour in primates and how animal experimentation with hormones results in behavioral changes.

Feel free to drop in more suggestions in the comments :)

20 M doing veterinary medicine from Jaipur !! I am really eager to go on a solo trip around Christmas one because my friends are not really ready to come two I really wanna explore on my own with my terms and no chic chic three I want to have that Christmas vibes really bad !! I was thinking about going to Shimla around Christmas but scared because it will be my first time traveling alone !! I wanted to experience that stranger ke saath ghumna for once u!! So do you guys recommend it and have any suggestions

It can be anyone Your classmate Friend Celebrity etc

I am 32 M bottom gay. I am well settled in government job and earning decently good. But I cannot have same marriage due to society fear. I am looking for lesbian or any girl with partner to have MOC( Marriage of Convenience). Any interested female kindly message.

This is my first post on Reddit. Honestly, I never thought I’d have to post something like this, but I have no other option right now.

I live in Mumbai and have been a victim of relentless bullying throughout my school years. The bullies never stopped at school—they spread rumors about me to everyone in my locality. Even people who don’t know me personally know about my identity, and I’ve faced constant judgment for simply being myself. Because I’m fair-skinned, they often mocked me with names like Champa and Chameli. The taunts, the whispers, the stares—they were endless.

But today, something broke inside me. I had a heated argument with my brother, and he said things I never imagined hearing from my own family. He called me "chakka, hijra". He told me I was a disgrace, a kalank on the vansh (a blot on the family name), and even asked me to leave the house, reminding me that it was his house.

I’ve always been strong when it came to the outside world. I learned to tolerate the nasty comments, the ridicule from strangers. But hearing such hateful words from my own brother, my own family—it shattered me. I feel so lost, so empty, so helpless.

I’ve recently graduated with a degree in engineering and have an offer letter from TCS. But I haven’t received my joining letter yet, and without it, I’m not financially stable enough to leave. If I were, I’d walk out today and never look back.

I’m reaching out here because I don’t know where else to turn. If anyone can refer me to IT roles, whether it’s software development, data science, or anything related, I’d be deeply grateful. I don’t have work experience yet, but I’ve completed an internship at a fintech company as an SDE, and I’m ready to work hard to prove myself.

Please, if anyone can help me, I’d be eternally grateful.

Thank you for reading.

When will it happen it will more people to come out of thier closet