I am 5'7 150, lean but not thin thin and somewhat muscular(still working on it) naturally almost completely hairless from the neck down EXCEPT for my legs especially the backs of my thighs, butt and my calves where a good majority of my body hair is concentrated. I am Canadian, Italian/greek I should be a fur ball! thank god I am not

This post is gonna be very long.

I'm a gay 23 year old guy. Pretty much since I have started developing feelings of love as a little child, I've only fallen for straight guys. I became fully aware of my homosexuality around 11 or 12 years old, but I never came out to anyone but my group of close friends and to some girls in high school, due to an absolutely insane amount of internalized homophobia and bullying. This, though, has allowed me to become friends with many boys while growing up, and my group currently consists only of a few straight guys and me.

I've had a lot of crushes to whom I've never said anything about my feelings, and that have disappeared from my life leaving a very cold feeling of emptiness behind; the few ones I told, either acted grossed out or simply started to avoid me. Only one guy in high school was pretty chill about it, but he had been aware of my crush for him for a long time due to a girl snitching on me.

It has happened once that I've had a crush on a guy of my group (Even though it was mostly sexual and much more immature than the one I want to talk about), but, when I made the mistake to tell him: he fell in the Andrew Tate pipeline, got super toxic to the point of not being able to argue with him at all and, in the span of like 6 terrible and stressful months, literally became muslim and no friend of mine has seen him in 2/3 years now. Needless to say this has had an awful impact on everyone, and left me with the impression of having killed someone, since the person I once knew changed drastically in a very short time and then left. After this, I've tried to move on and got engaged both with guys and girls. I consider myself to be a pretty good-looking guy, and I've had a couple of really, really beautiful boyfriends that ditched a LOT of guys they were getting hit on by just to stay with me, but... I just couldn't get to love them really, and I always felt a little empty inside.

As of right now, I am again in love with a close friend of mine in my group. Like, a HUGE, uncontrollable burst of tender love I have not felt in a very, VERY long time. The guy in question is a small autistic dude I have known for 10 years, but who I've only recently started to love after trying to stay close to him at a time where I felt he was feeling depressed. It's not like I've tried to stop the feelings from developing, but now it's totally out of control and it is entirely my fault. I find myself not being able to eat, I get very crazy mood shifts, sometimes get into selective mute mode, I can't study properly and I have horrible dreams where I am a wandering ghost. It's sick and unhealthy, but I just can't move on. I feel like I am addicted to my feelings.

I feel extremely lonely and I don't know what to do. He is a close friend, and the rest of the group is too, and I don't want to leave them just because I can't control myself, but it's painful to go on like this. He's virgin, sort of an incel as well, and he's pretty playful as he always teases gay stuff for fun (Which actually drives me crazy as it turns me on instantly), but I really don't think he's bi. Or, if he is, he surely won't admit it to himself for a veeeeery long time. I don't feel like telling anyone, but to be honest I think he knows it, or at least suspects it, because I couldn't even be too much nonchalant about it; we've gotten a bit closer, but he's seemed pretty on guard lately, like he thinks my actions have a second means to them. Maybe I'm just too used to being hated for my feelings, but he's just not straight up rejecting me and I don't know what to do. I'm too scared to tell him, because he's just too precious to me to risk another mess like the last one, I am confused, sad, angry, and lonely.

I just want to know if anyone has ever felt anything like this, because I am completely crushed under the weight of everything and the only future I can imagine looking forward is a grey mess of repressed emotions and hatred towards myself.

I have nails that grow very quickly. They always have. I don't bite my nails, and have dealt with the "omg your nails are so long" and "you should cut them" since I was little. Thing is, my nails aren't even that long, but unfortunately that doesn't matter simply because I'm a guy. I hadn't gotten any of these comments in awhile, and I would like to think im generally pretty good at dealing with and ignoring people's comments, slurs, and names. However, I've been visiting my grandmother, and during dinner she made a comment pseudo-sarcastically about how I need to cut my nails and equally sarcastically threatened to "make them pretty" if I don't, and laughed. I shrugged it off, finished my food, and left the table. I wish I knew why, maybe because it's been awhile, but her comment kind of messed with me, and I can't shake this feeling of disgust and irritation. Any tips for dealing with these kinds of comments? I don't even know if I need advice, or just need someone to understand or relate to this. Sorry for the long post.

TL:DR I'm a guy with nails and I guess shitty people don't like that. Help?

Average grindr interaction tbh.

A friend to all is a friend to none.

I have to say that I am looking at the following situation as a growth opportunity but I would like some advice and opinions.

I dated a man in 2019-2021 lets call him Tyke. It was a turbulent relationship where he attempted to exert control over my entire life, always accused me of cheating yet he himself was cheating. That is the way that it always is right? I ended things with him after a major life change in 2021 and at the time I had my life together and now even more so, I have a thriving business, I have a 9-5 that is ok, I have a part time passion job and above all I have my health and for all of that I am grateful, I have a nice body as well as a positive outlook on life and the world.

I have a friend named “Diana” in 2021 her home burned down, at the time I did not know her well, I took it upon myself to go buy what I could and offer anything that I could. I went that day as the ashes were still smoking. That is the right thing to do, that is how I was raised and I would not change anything. That is what we should all do.

“Diana” has a friend name “Greg”, he is gay and is very active in those circles. Back in 2022 Diana attempted to bridge a connection aka a relationship or situationship between Greg and I by bringing him to a function of mine. I vaguely knew of him but could not place why….more on that later. After I sorta dash his hopes in the following weeks of him getting anything from me in any capacity and I express to Diana that I wasn’t interested which I also told her before she brought him to my function, she then discloses that Greg has been in situation with a man that he has messed around with for years who is married. Wait what? So Diana was seeking to set me up with a man that is sleeping with a married man who’s husband does not know and would not approve of.

Now, fast forward to 2024, Tyke contacts me and we end up having dinner and expressing apologies and explaining what was going on in our lives at the time. He asked me did I want to get back with him yet without the label of boyfriend. I don’t have any feelings towards him and I do appreciate the gesture, but I don’t want to go back into a relationship that I ended. During our conversations he lets out that he was sleeping with Greg during the entirety of our two year relationship and that Greg knew who I was and knew of our relationship. Tyke had expressed what one of my body parts was like to Greg.

Greg knew who I was back in 2022 when he asked Diana for an introduction. Now remember that Diana knew that he was sleeping with a married man. So this is who you want to introduce to your friend?

Greg was seeking me out for obvious reasons that are physical.

I have shared this story with Diana and she said she was devastated and questions her friend ship with Greg, but yet still goes to drag shows, brunch, clubs with Greg after she said this.

I am 18 gay and from india..my society is very conservative..I used to feel like a woman trapped in a man's body and felt weird about it as I crushing on men and felt feminine...until I came to know gay people exist...it took me years of time to know the actual meaning of gay due to internalised homophobia and later realise I am one ..I can tell this only to myself and no one..I am in tears as I am writing this i am in college now i desperately want someone to love with to be nurtured with and talk all the time,I want my own flynn rider or my own Alex from red white royal blue on whom I can lay velcro onto .but I am in a dilemma if i should continue being on dating apps that i download it and delete it and repeat it again and again .i wanna complete my college and flee somewhere where i can breathe freely.i wanna express my identity in a land of welcoming people ...I am lonely,begging for true love and a shoulder to lay on and desperate for protective arms

I’m getting tired of close friends telling me Grindr is the place to go to find all: sex, love, friends but that it’d start as a hookup and then from there it moves up or down depending on the vibes but all I get is people blocking me after I send a face pic or they’d ask for more and more and endless pictures and won’t meet. Is this normal and expected?

Do you find the smell of another man’s sweat appealing, perhaps after a workout or when they’ve had a long day at work? I realize not all bisexual and gay men share this attraction, but is there atleast a small group that does? Or is it just my own unique thing? 😳

❤︎❤︎❤︎Hi everyone, I'm 21 years old male still on curiosity phase, I’m new to understanding my gender identity, and I’m reaching out for advice and guidance from those who have gone through their own journey. I’ve been doing a lot of self-reflection recently and am starting to explore my feelings about gender, but I’m feeling a bit overwhelmed and unsure about how to navigate this process in a healthy way. I heard that here there are many people who help and support each other.

For those of you who have been on this path, what were some of the most important things you learned when you first started? What are some of the things you wish you had known or understood better about gender identity, especially in the beginning stages?

I’m also curious about the emotional side of things—did you experience any challenges with doubts, confusion, or fear, and if so, how did you deal with those feelings? I’ve heard a lot about how it’s a very personal journey, but I’m still trying to figure out what steps are best for me and how to avoid feeling lost along the way.

Additionally, I’d love to hear about how you built a support system—whether through friends, family, online communities, or professional help. What kinds of resources, books, or practices helped you? And were there any red flags or things to avoid during the early stages of self-discovery?

I know every experience is different, but I’d be really grateful for any advice, stories, or tips that might help me better understand myself and the process of exploring my gender identity. Thanks so much for taking the time to share your wisdom—I really appreciate it! ❤︎❤︎❤︎

To give some background, I (20M) am from an Asian country. I find European men very attractive , both physical body and the personality overall. However, it’s very hard and rare for me to meet someone I actually like to connect and maybe date with.

I feel like living here, gives me a much less chance of meeting my ideal type of guy. We’re a very touristy country, but I find it very hard to start or talk to someone I like when I go to clubs or places. I never have enough confidence to talk to someone, even though I’m always told that I’m a very good looking guy. All the guy that I find attractive, I always let the chances slip. It’s so hard for me to go and talk to them, especially if I can’t figure out whether he’s straight or not.

I really need advice on how to start a conversation, and actually keep it going. Much appreciated!

Gonna be with someone who gets around and want to make sure I'm safe

I was very reluctant to work the truck after I moved out of the house I knew I had healing to do within myself before I could ever face you guys again…but moms love swayed me after some time…and I rejoined I worked with dad and he rubbed off on me I wanted to make dad proud of me I wanted to make the family proud of me…I thought maybe I can try for them.. imagine how proud they would be,how proud the family would be if I can just please them..so that’s what I did..you guys never asked me to do that;you never asked me to put on this mask to try and please anyone…but I did

I put on the mask and tried to be everything you wanted me to be..I denied those feelings pushing them deep and listening to subliminals while I slept telling myself that I could change myself because I control my reality..It worked for some time I felt like now I could be closer to you guys and it was amazing I’ve never felt so close to you guys like this..all I ever wanted to do was be as close as I was.. why did I never allow myself to be as close to you as I just was???? late night conversations..advice..even working side by side together it felt like a dream come true…but then I looked in the mirror one day and everything crumbled to pieces.. was I wearing this mask to please everyone??? Who am I really??? This illusion I created fell apart I just couldn’t bare it anymore..I felt like I created this false sense of self to make everyone except myself happy….i talked down on myself,let others talk down on me about my past and now karma came and made me realize i could never truly be happy if I become a shadow of what society wants from me….its all an illusion and a sick one at that…so I took off the mask,well I didint take it off it crumbled to pieces causing me to run away so I couldn’t be seen…

Why did I leave you wonder?? Truthfully because I can’t face you guys knowing the truth, you didint accept it the first time causing me to push that part of me away…”get right with god” “ you have to give me children” you have to do this you have to do that…”how could you do this to us…”those are your people” “we cried on the floor together holding each other” “they put stuff into the food to make you feel this way” all these words came back to the surface echoing in my head causing me to realize..will they every truly love me if I tell them the truth???

I have to stop giving a damn who loves or accepts me because I’m an adult now this is my life and I write the story and I’ll do that on my own…I’ll find myself all by myself and I’ll do it as an adult making his own money because I can no longer depend on anyone but myself to be there for me emotionally and financially…(financially at least now) I feel like neo when he had to either take the red pill or blue pill I can either push these feelings deep down inside myself and stay in line to make everyone else around me happy due to fear/self hate or I can allow myself to feel and live my life by my own accords take the wheel and steer the ship with freedom and self love .. I can’t be afraid any longer I can’t stand behind mom and dad and expect them to take care of me..I was barley taking care of myself..of my heart..maybe that why I had in diagnosable high blood pressure what if my mind and my heart have been battling this whole time…

So I want you to ask yourself these questions…. Why did Josh leave????

Why did Josh feel the need to put on a mask?

And how could he be so cold?? so emotionally unavailable…

Truth is this is hard for me too, I cried myself to sleep for days after sending that message I looked at all our pictures and videos from the truck and cried I lost that person I was..he’s gone…nothing is the same as it was…I cried I sobbed I’m so sorry!!!!! I’m sorry!!!!! Yelling at god! Why me!!!!!So now I have to face my shadows my demons realizing I went from the amazing star child to the black sheep..but truth is I would rather be true to myself than be fake so I could make you guys proud because at the end of the day the only person you owe anything to is you..eventually one day you guys will be gone and I’ll be left alone with this life that I created for society to accept me…so maybe me leaving was a lesson and growth opportunity for both of us…is having a son that goes against your beliefs and wants really worth being filled with hate??? The battle is between love and fear and I choose to love myself instead of fearing myself and fearing you guys because it’s true I feared you…but that’s only because I feared myself so by allowing myself the space to love myself I’m sure I can be more confident and open to loving you guys more too…but I need to be independent and in my own so I can allow myself to be guided by my own inner self not what you want or society wants…I know it might feel like I abandoned you both but truth is I abandoned myself long ago and I can never truly be with any of you until I find myself first..you both have true love and it’s beautiful but I’ll never find that if I’m not true to who I am first…whether I’m truly gay or not..but I’m gonna have to accept that and so will everyone else if WE don’t want to.. the truth hurts but denying it will hurt even more…if you made it to the end I want to ask you if I should send it or not??? I haven’t yet but I kind of want to….

My best friend is also gay. We met in a kickball league through one of my exes. He’s seen the good, the bad, and the ugly but hasn’t turned a blind eye despite the turbulence. We can agree to disagree. We hang out fairly often.

About a year and a half ago I got sober. He is also in recovery. Around Halloween of 2022 he started dating this guy. When I met his boyfriend was giving me the up and down. I could tell from his body language and passive aggressive comments that he did not like me. I feel like his man perceives me as a threat even though our friendship is strictly platonic.

My pal fell hard and fast. He let his partner move in almost instantaneously. He bought him a new car several months after they made it official. I couldn’t help but feel his mate had ulterior motives. He didn’t have a job so my bud was paying for everything.

Fast forward to now. He can’t go a day without talking about his spouse. They got engaged about 6 months ago. The wedding is in March. The honeymoon phase hasn’t fizzled out. He still wears rose colored glasses and his significant other still makes rude remarks and jokes at my expense.

I avoid going to his house. If his lover is going to an event with him I try not to go or cross paths. We still get our one on one time but not as often. He constantly has to check in. His whole world revolves around this dude. After receiving two invitations for the ceremony and an automated response to RVSP I declined.

The love bombing continues. The man of his dreams is always a topic of discussion every time we hang out. I’ve set a boundary to try and talk about other aspects of life but he continues to cross that. Anything we converse about reminds him of his boo and it’s nauseating. Sometimes I have the capacity to deal with it and other times I just give him the cold shoulder.

I’ve expressed my concerns once. He’s told me I’m not the only one of his acquaintances that had similar grievances so I tried not to press from then on out. One of our mutual friends asked if there was tension between the partner and I. I lied and said no because I didn’t want the drama. Another one of his friends feels the exact same way I do and I’m sure some of the others are keeping quietly to themselves.

My friend has shown some hesitation. He’s not ready for the wedding. They bicker about once a month over the most trivial things. He had a fear that his husband may use again. Yet I can’t be blatantly honest or provide any real input because he won’t listen and I’m afraid he’ll take offense. He’s like this oblivious, love sick puppy. Ever since that new guy came on the scene our dynamic hasn’t quite been the same. He’s lost almost all autonomy.

It’s tough because we flock with the same social circles. I’ve tried gray rocking. These people are a crucial part of my support network. I don’t want to break off the friendship but I don’t want to play pretend either. His partner doesn’t have to like me nor do we have to integrate but he should respect me and be a little less territorial/spiteful. I can’t even address this to his partner because confronting him in a group of people would make me look like the bad guy. What should I do?

So I am a gay guy, and I already have 2 LGBTQ+ siblings. My parents have talked to me about it already, saying how it’s a little bit uncomfortable and different for them, but in the end they always say that they would never disown a child or push them away, and that they want my siblings to be happy. I, who have known for a while that i’m not attracted to women and like guys, am not open about it at all. No one, and I mean no one knows i’m actually gay. I joke about it here and there, but at the end of the day, “it’s all jokes.” I am a christian man, born and raised into a christian family. I do really love my religion, and my faith in the lord grows everyday. Recently, my dad has talked to me about one of my siblings, (my gay sister) who is dating and living with her girlfriend. He says he’s not sure he’s comfortable with them going on with it but he loves his daughter and wants her to be happy. And now, i’ve been thinking about this for a while, and I think I will live a life of solitude, to honor the Lord, and my dad. And abstaining from being in a relationship/sexual relationship with a man. But it’s difficult, because honestly I don’t wanna die alone, but i’m very afraid of what my parents will think tbh, but really I just want to be in the closet for an indefinite amount of time. Idk. I’m just speaking my mind here.