So I wanna tell my father I like boys but I’m scared I know he will be supportive but I’m just scared to tell him do you know how it might be easier to tell him for me??

Does anyone else feel like meeting up in an airport is a trap?? I’ve had a few guys try and meet up for Grindr while waiting for my flights and it all seems like a set up to get arrested lol. Am I just being overly anxious or is my anxiety founded??

I didn't know where else to put this, so I'm just going to throw this out and hope that the right people see it.

I have a friend in her 20s & she is dating a girl who is in her 20s as well but still is at home with her Muslim family.

The parents came to the conclusion their daughter is gay and since then they have been threatening to behead her or marry her off to another Afghani. She is not allowed to have a job.

Are there organizations in socal that help women like this with $ or housing? I have never met the girl in trouble but my friend is seriously worried about her. Her parents also track her movements and phone calls.

Any advice is welcome.

I think 🤔 ... if it came to mouths 👄 my tongue is Definitely a Top 😁 💯

So I'm (19M) currently with a guy for the first time (22M), me and my gf of 2 years broke up, a few months later I'm dating and living with my best friend who's been openly gay for a long time. I love him, he's great, he gives me ton of attention, always very sweet, my problem is that I don't find men attractive in a sexual way. I don't get hard when we fuck, I'm the bottom so it doesn't really matter but still, the thing is that I don't mind it at all, it makes me happy to see him so eager to do me, and I give him a lot of sexual attention too, it just doesn't get me aroused. I don't have any problem with this and I have no desire to cheat or anything, but should I tell him? I'm worried about how he would feel, cause I know I would feel pretty upset if my partner didn't find me attractive in that way and I don't feel like I need to tell him for my sake because it doesn't effect the relationship in any bad way for me, but maybe he deserves to know. I know it sounds ridiculous but it is what it is.

I’m about a month into a relationship (both cis dudes mid twenties) and I like him, I keep coming across pickup artists who are telling me to “pull away” and “make them work for it”. I don’t know, I get the ick when I hear it but countless times men have said that I am too needy.

Really wondering if there’s any merit to these influencers giving this advice?

bro has so many

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We all suffered due to homophobia, especially when we were young, dependent on our parents and not yet equipped to deal with this kind of pain. I hope I don't have to explain that part.

So, my issue is with those, including some of my family members, who now try to ask for some sort of forgiveness, or more likely try to gaslight their way back into my life. I'm not buying it and it really feels like it hurts me more than the original homophobia and lack of acceptance did.

It seems like they feel entitled to forgiveness, being raised conservative Catholic and all that. I don't like how widespread this specific concept of forgiveness is. How about thinking twice before being a dick? How about doing anything significant enough instead of few empty words? They refuse to acknowledge that support that could have been priceless or lifesaving for a teen is pretty much worthless to an adult who hasn't spoken to them in years.
Also, I somehow no longer care who offers to go to a pride event with me. But those of you who were there, back when there were still slurs, bricks and other stuff thrown at us, have a special place in my heart. Thank you.

The same goes for many public figures or religious communities, but I'd rather keep this personal, not polithical

edit: language

So I don't know where to start, we met about 5 months ago, everything went really well and we dated for some time. He told me in advance he would probably have to move due to his job, if I was willing to try. Well that happened. Now we're 5h by car away, it's been 2 months, he came to visit me twice, I visited him once and going again next weekend.

We almost everyday text good morning / goodnight (if I don't he does and viceversa), most days talk a bit about the day and share some memes or funny videos, and sometimes more deep talks. I hope I was not being a bore with the good morning, etc... But he always replies or texts me if I don't do it so I guess it's fine. The thing is... We never talked about being boyfriends and I've never had a boyfriend so I don't know how that goes haha.

A couple weeks ago he said he was okay with meeting my family, but my dad still doesn't know I like guys and he's more conservative so I wanted to tell him first and make sure he's okay but... Well I don't know it's hard. Wanna do it but tbh don't know how.

I'm not really asking for advice or anything, I'm just literally writing things as they come to my mind so maybe it's a bit messy. I guess I just needed to let some things out, I'm not used to talk about my relationships cos I've never had one haha, and it's not like a "deep love feeling I cannot live without him" but instead a "he's nice, I have fun being with him" and he's the first guy I've kissed in public and i didn't mind it! But to tell my dad it's harder than random people 😅

That said thank you all for reading 😄

I was at camp, and i met a guy named Luke. Luke is 18 year old male and im 18 year old male(side note im bi so this is not self discovery about my indentity, i've known for 4 years) it was 3 day camp and i started developing slight crush on him. I was like whatevs hes just a straight guy it will pass in about an hour. We were in my room(we didnt share the bedroom) and he left his phone to charge. Later our group was sitting in front of the hotel chilling and he asked me to come to the room with him. I was like okay sure, hes just going to take his phone. We went in the room and he just sat on the bed and we started talking. We layed on the bed and faced eachother. We just talked about random stuff like school, laughed and i began feeling its not a slight crush anymore, its a big crush. But the thing i dont understand is why. My last crush (who i had crush on for a year) was dropping hints, being little fruity and all that but turned out he was straight. This guy im sure is straight but for some reason i madly fell in love. Hes tall and had deep voice. He has a kind face (tho my friend said i can do better and said how he looks like Ron Stoppable from Hero Allience😭) then we went outside and he said hes going somewhere and by the way he said it and the smirk i thought hes going to have sex with some girl from the camp.THANK GOD HE DIDNT but they talked almost whole night and there were like 7 of them in the room. Before i knew that i almost started crying and drank to stop feeling shit. He was also bit teasy with one girl and i still dont understand why i love him. Everytime something like this happened i always were like "shoot this isnt working out" and stopped feeling emotions but not now. Doesnt help that we listen to the same music producer and that on the bus ride home he said "HEY (my name)" and he started playing the song from him. I got home and on insta notes i put a song from that producer and he liked it and answered the message with "you are my man" and he also put a song from that producer. We are going on a camp that will last 5 days and im scared cause, sure i would like to be with him but i dont want to make him uncomfortable or smth. Hes also not homophobic and a feminist so ye.

Been trying to date since I was 20 (I'm 25 now) and all I come across is this:

Men who claim to be bi/straight, who want someone smooth, soft, hairless, cross-dresses in bed.

And since I'm not like that, they start asking for these things:

Rough domination/BDSM sex (the extremes). No kissing, nothing gentle, etc...

It's not like I'm ugly or anything 😂 gosh I'm luckier with girls because they make moves on me...but dudes..... it's impossible to go near them without having to drop my standards (which are reasonable: I only ask for normal stuff...)

Even the dude I dated for a while ended up leaving the country and breaking up with me because I couldn't leave with him 😂

The only relationship that worked was a long distance one with a French guy...and gosh...he really taught me what it means to have a loving partner.

This might just be me, but all the guys I’m interested in either end up being straight or get all weird when they find out I’m trans. I’m mostly stealth(not even on purpose, I just don’t talk about it much)so it’s always an awkward thing to bring up. I’m wondering how other men would react, and if there’s a “right” way to break the news. You don’t exactly get a how-to guide on this sort of thing. Unfortunately Theres also the fear that someone could have a violent reaction. It’s so frustrating

A month or so ago I was on a dating app swiping my life away when I fell on quite the peculiar profile. This profile was of a man who looked like he forgot what ot was like to feel joy. It wasn't the first time I'd seen it. It had come across me a few times in the months I'd been using the app, but that day, it stood out to me. No name, no description or identifying information—just the one pic of a guy barely motivated to take a picture of himself. I wasn't interested in him so I swiped left and didn't think about him again.

The next day, I play the swipy-swipe again and see is profile once more. That was odd. I usually didn't see a profile twice in 2 days after I swiped it left. I swipe left again. Later that day, before bed, I see his profile again. This time, I block. End of story. . . . . . . But it WASN'T the end of the story because the next day, his profile pops up again, but this time, it says, "recently joined." Now, I'm confused. Did the block button bug or something? Was the account always recent? I know I'd seen the account months prior, but sometimes people delete and remake accounts to refresh their chats or whatever. I block and put it in the back of my mind. . . . . . . . Except I CAN'T, because he's back the next day! The profile says "recently joined" again and this time, there's a new photo. One he probably took ten years prior because he looks lively and younger in that one. I block. The next day, another account of his pops up with more pictures, descriptive info and a name. WTF is going on?! I block and move on.

But of course, he's back at it again the next day, so now I'm pissed. This time I block and report. I leave a message to the app to explain that I think I'm being harassed. It's kinda crazy to say because this guy has not message me, nor liked, nor visited my profile. Yet, if my assumptions are correct, everytime I block, he makes a new account just for my sake. Anyway, I hope things will change from now on. . . . . . . . . . . NOPE! The mofo is back with another account two days later! I report it again. I play this game for 3 weeks. I reported him like 7 times. Blocked him twice as much. The last time I report him, I told the app that regardless of whether this was harassment or not—i know it doesnt exactly qualify—a block button should work when it's used, or else what's the purpose of it being there? After I said that, I didn't see the profile anymore.

Maybe it was my irrefutable closing argument that led the app to action, or maybe the guy just got tired to make new accounts, or maybe he just had a bunch of accounts made to boost his chances at love and I finally blocked them all. Maybe it's a combination of all three, but finally, it was over.

Haven't seen his account since. A part of me is wondering if he was shadow-visiting my account or something. It's the only explanation I can think of for all this. Whatever his reasons for this, he creeped me out.

Anyways, I just wanted to share. Anyone else went through something like this? Was I right to be worried or am I just crazy and dramatic?

Okay where do i start so we started as friends and we grew closer as we walked to class together and everything. but like some of the moments that rlly stick out to me is 

1. when she was drunk and i mean like very drunk and she saw me and she ran up to me and hugged me super tight from afar and she was like i love you and kept repeating it over and over and touching me and clinging onto me as the group just watched us and slurring her words and literally smiling and cuddling up on me. then the next day we met up in school and hung out one on one and i went back to her dorm and we talked and i told her she was pretty and she kinda made this shy face and was like "youre prettyyyyyyy.

and once she was up on the balcony and from the corner of my eye i saw her looking down on me from there and watching me and then i passed through a second time but that time i decided to look up at her cuz she was still looking and we waved at each other while smiling.

also she hugs me when she sees me everyday and she dosent do that with everyone, she does it with some of her friends but not everyone, also she likes every instagram story i post and post and comments on everything,

last weekend she texted me at 8pm, "hey u wanna go get a sweet treat?" out of the blue and i was like yes and she was like r u driving and i was like no but im dowwn and she was like oh nvm then i dont wanna trouble u , maybe we can go tmr then and i was like okayy and then i decided to be bold and i asked her "we should go watch the terrifier sometime" and she said ayyy im down and i was like ayy.  (we never got to hang out but still)

and then i realized this recently but shes been looking at me even though before when we first met she wouldnt. so like 2 days ago i was just standing opposite to her with my friend talking and laughing and shes with her group of friends and i meet her gaze and shes looking at me with a blank expression on her face just staring and then she looks away when we make eye contact as if she wasnt looking at me.

also once when i was with my friends, she came up to me from behind and patted my head and then said hi and we started talking, so i got up and she grabbed me by the waist when she went to go get something for a second and come back to me and we were super touchy and then i showed her my painting and she started laughing rlly hard and was like "TAYLORRRRRRR" and i started getting touchy too and grabbed her by her shoulder to get her attention when i was speaking to her and speaking slowly in a low tone voice to her.

and then there was this one time where she was sitting alone and i caught her eye again from across the room since shes the extroverted bubbly one usually and she was just sitting there quietly anyways we make eye contact and this girl POUTED at me and i pouted back and we held eye contact until i got up and went to her and started talking to her. and then while i was just standing there looking at the other girls talking to us she started playing with my hair, like stroking through it.

and then the next day i offered to walk her to her dorm kinda flirtatiously and she was like yess and then she asked me if i was going to this school event that a lot of her friends went to so she was lkeE okay since youre not going im not going and I was like but the others r going and she was like stilll you made me not wanna go. and when we were talking about this one long wknd she was like u should sleep at my dorm and i was like lowkey.. and she was like yess.

Also out of nowhere she snapped me today after the streak ended a week ago since ive been inactive and we used to snap everyday multiple times and she snaps back within minutes like sometimes immodestly. Idk if this is all friend things but..

BUT IDK MAYBE WERE JUST FRIENDS AND SHES STRAIGHT WERE BOTH GIRLS, BUT THEN AGAIN SHE USED THEY THEM WHEN SHE WAS TALKING ABOUT HER IDEAL TYPE.  pls tell me if im delusional

So, long story short. My boyfriend's got a weird rash all over his body. We thought it was an allergy but it happens that after a VDRL it was positive for syphilis, I tested negative. We are in a committed relation and he claims he hasn't been with anyone else in the last two years (our time together)

I read about a latent form, so... How does that work? Should I get treatments too even if I tested negative?

I'm a bisexual girl and I have a crush on this girl that I'm becoming friends with in my apartment building. I just feel so elated every time I see her and I'm kicking my feet like a little kid :). I've only hung out with her like 2 times and I barely know her to be honest. I just think she's beautiful and her personality is super cute.

Today she was telling me about how she broke up with her boyfriend of 3 years 4 months ago (same thing happened to me actually) and explained the whole story about how he cheated on her blah blah. I explained to her that yeah I also kind of recently went though a break up and how we broke up partially because I wanted to experience being with a girl. And anyway this situation happened when I was visiting my friend from college and I felt like I had a little crush on her and I told her and she was like sorry I don't swing that way (she always told me about how she was a little bisexual). She's definitely talked about being bisexual which was surprising, she could've just said I'm just not attracted to you but whatever. We're still friends and she ended up just being flattered but in hindsight I just wanted to experience being intimate with a girl and my mind was telling me I liked all my friends but that was really not the case.

Anyway I was telling her this story and then she was telling me about how she had a crush on a girl in high school but by the time she confessed to her it was too late and she already got into a relationship blah blah. She did say she was bisexual but she's never done anything and no has no experience.

Then she said how she went on HER and is talking to a girl but she's afraid to go on a date in person because she's older and likely more experienced and she's scared of biphobia. Also, she doesn't want anything serious right now because she just got out of the relationship (I can't do anything serious because this is taking place in France and my visa is only good for another 6 months so I cannot get into a serious relationship with someone if I'm leaving the country in 6 months). She did say that this person she's talking to is masculine and I'm not masculine at all I'm hyper feminine and she's pretty feminine. I think we really we're speaking as friends tho I mean she did say that I have amazing hair but I compliment my friends all the time so I don't know if that means anything.

I know she definitely likes me as a friend because she texts me a lot and seems to want to hang out. Shall I shoot my shot?? I am being stupid, is it an obvious sign that she doesn't feel that way for me if she's literally talking about potentially going on dates with other people? She's moving out of my building in a month to a different apartment I almost just wanna wait then to tell her I like her because then if she rejects me I don't have to see her every day. I just really don't want to lose her as a friend, she's the only friend I have in France. I just feel like its too good to be true that a femme would be attracted to me...

So me and my mom were talking about something and when she asked me a question I replied to it with "I'm bi so" we she cut me off there and asked me "well how do you know you like guys if you've never done anything with one?" And I immediately came back with "well how do you know your 100% straight?" And she replied with "well that's besides the point" sorry this is kinda of a vent post but what should I do if she does this again?

I think its because I'm scared people will react in an odd way towards it. My class is quite accepting but I thought they wouldn't be at first.

I hated going but I look back on it fondly now

What does it mean? Its somewhat uncomfortable and it has happened a few times to me