I’ve heard that in Ancient Greece men used to use their thighs as well as their ass hole for sex. Does that work? If so how? Has anyone tried it? Just because it could be a good alternative potentially to anal if douching is not an option that isn’t just mouth stuff.

I don’t know what to do. I’m still baffled. I live in a blue state so I’ll probably be fine, but I feel betrayed. My mind keeps ruminating over it. And what’s worse is the gaslighting from other subreddits and the victory lap the people on the side of hate are taking. I feel genuinely defeated and I still am extremely upset. It’s hard to get my 3 meals in, and fortunately I can still go to the gym, but that’s about all I can muster up. I don’t want to do anything or see anybody. I just want to stay in my room and fucking cry

I(m36) recently have accepted myself as gay but I been through a lot in life however I know my purpose is to be a monk and that for me involves being celibate for the rest of my life.

I still like intimacy and want a partner in life with whom shares similar values. Compatibility is a big factor.

I like passionate kissing my man mouth to mouth while holding hands, i like having our hard penises touching while we breathing into eachothers mouth.

When I was 19 I met a guy around my age who like myself also had a spiritual guru whom he was dedicated to. We only hung out twice but he was really into me but I wasn't accepting of the part of myself that was gay at that time. Looking back on it, I wish I had been ready because i assume it's rare to find someone so similar in spiritual goals.

Do you think I will ever meet someone again who would be compatible? I don't expect them to never ejaculate or to have a guru but I know that I don't want to ejaculate ever again.

Their only defence of Trump is that he held a same sex marriage once. If Trump was really as pro gay people as they say, he would have been the one to pass the Respect for Marriage Act, not Biden.

I just learned about this day as an endosex person, so I decided to celebrate by reading about Herculine Barbin since Intersex Day of Remembrance) was made to be on Barbin's birthday. If you're also endosex and out of the loop, give a read. (Don't worry it's not long.)

If you want to educate yourself on intersex people and some of the issues they face, check out interACT's FAQ page.

Finally, I recommend reading Ashenlynn addressing issues with how intersex is discussed in the trans community. Thanks to _sphynxmoth_ for recommending it to me. Let's educate ourselves for the intersex people in our community 💛💜

Edit: Intersex Day of Remberance (sorry I had a mild mental mix up since I saw it called "Intersex Solidarity Day" elsewhere so my brain dropped the "of")

Context : I sometimes hook up with this dude. He's a 100% top and I'm a 100% bottom. The dynamic is very "he gets his pleasure"-ish and he is very dominant but the sex has been fun, and I don't mind that. He is significantly older than me and has lots of experience compared to me.

At some point I was lying on belly, and he was on me, railing me, holding himself up with his arms on the sofa. I liked it, but craved more contact, I would have loved to have his hands on me, on my back/shoulders. Apart from his groin against my behind, there wasalmost nothing. I tried guiding his hands onto me more, but he resisted. How does one express the desire verbally, or get the courage to say it? He also likes rimming me and sucking me off a bit, but he's terrible at both. With rimming he just stays at the surface, not much stimulation. With blowing I feel his teeth, and unlike him I'm uncut so it's sensitive and uncomfortable when he pulls back the skin.

Another thing. He hasn't cum with me yet, though I have almost each time. He just gets soft after an hour or so. What can I do to help?

What would you do if you was 24 never had an relationship, live with your parents while they aren't aware I'm into guys at least physically mostly, all my hobbies are at home, uk

If they found out I don't think I would be welcomed not to go far as to say disowned but an %50/50 that I would have to move out

(Maybe give me an breakdown of what your currently up to that might help)

Some details about my hobbies-- Games, not near as much as I used to Programming, c,c++ amateur with big ideas Fish keeping, very basic set-up Am going to force myself to lose some weight next year about 2 stone

PSA: Not American, also not a Trump fan.

The blatant racism I’ve seen from democrats expressing their rage for Trump winning is unreal! He won because the MAJORITY of your fellow white Americans voted for him. Not because the minorities or Arabs and Latinos did. Even if they did, it doesn’t give anyone the right to bash them, call them names, wish them death or bad consequences. People show their true colures when they’re angry. The open and bitter racism towards minorities in the US I’ve seen all over social media is disgusting. If you participated in that, grow up and accept democracy for what it is! The finger pointing and minority targeting is a sad excuse for accepting reality.

I'm a 20yo aro gay boy and as such have never made moves on anyone. For whatever reason, I've felt hypersexual recently, so I downloaded Grindr and I'm hooking up with someone!

This is my first time and I'm going to be bottoming. I'm so excited but also a little nervous.. I'm going to try and prepare for him by cleaning myself out as much as possible in the shower but I'm nervous I'm going to be unclean and ruin it. Also he's coming to my place and I'm worried it's not going to be clean enough...

Oh well, though, I'm just excited that I've finally gotten this far! I'm going to get laid! I'm no longer be a virgin!

If anyone has suggestions for first timers, please let me know, he's coming in two hours. Ahhhh!!!

Edit 1: Guys, he is on the way! The excitement and nervousness are starting to meld and I honestly don't really know how I feel outside of sheer anticipation. I am well prepped and I am so ready to experiment!

Thank you for all of your advice, it has been really helpful in putting this experience into perspective before going in. I will absolute communicate my needs well and make sure to take it slowly. You can't really tell off text, but I do think he means well and is wanting to take care of my needs for my first time as well as his own pleasures.

Anyways, I am going to hop off Reddit now to prepare since he'll be here in under 30 minutes! I am trying to keep my expectations mid/low and not expect this to be a perfect magical night, but at the same time I can't help but get those gut flutters, you know?

I will be sure to update you afterwards either tonight or tomorrow on how it went. Love y'all!

Edit 2: I’m on mobile so this will be a short update but it was absolutely magical! He just left and I’m currently lying in my bed holding his cum in me ahhh!!! Also, no one told me cock tasted that good! I’ll give more details later if enough wish but overall it was great. Anyways it’s a lay in bed kinda moment so chao!

Edit 3: This will be the last update, just with a little more details. A lot of people were concerned with my safety and I appreciate it, but he was very gentle and sweet! We started just cuddling and he was rubbing up and down, eventually getting down to my ass after a while and fondling me. He then asked if I wanted to suck him and I agreed, though I need to work on that. My gag reflex was annoying as hell and my teeth kept getting in the way.

After that he asked if I wanted him to put it in, and I said yes. He went for a bit in a side position before having may lay flat down and poudning me harder. He was gentle and slow at first, made sure I was doing alright, then asked permission to go harder and finally if I wanted him to cum in me, and I said yes.

I know a lot of people recommended condoms and that no-condom sex is risky, but he was negative for STDs and this was my first time so we decided to take the risk and I am honestly glad because I woke up this morning with his cum still in me and that was insanely hot.

I am on my way to the store later today to pick up some fiber supplements, seeing about getting a showerhead that will make prep easier, seeing about starting prep, and to get condoms for any other future tops. As one commenter said, now that I've had a good dicking experience, I am craving more haha.

Anyways, thank you for all the positive comments, the advice, the concern, and everything else! You all make this experience less stressful, increased my confidence, and allowed me to have a great time. I was well prepped (which feels amazing by the way) and was able to combat my nerves and shaking due to the information shared here. Thank you soldiers, and happy gay to you all o7 my DMs are always open. Happy day!

Hey there! I’m a queer 27-year-old canadian (she/they) with a love for movies, video games, and gardening (yeah, the green kind). I’ve got that ADHD/autistic charm, so don’t be surprised if I jump from “How cool are octopuses?” to “Wait, what was I saying?”—it keeps things interesting. I’m also a mom of two, so free time is rare and precious. If you’re into late-night rants, random hyperfixations, and vibing online with zero pressure to leave the house, let’s chat. Who knows, I might be your new favorite distraction!

Labeling this as need advice, but also a vent post.

So I am a closeted bisexual, and I recently tried exploring that for the first time. I tried a few dating apps, but i ended up leaving them when my anxiety got the better of me. In the last week I have been dealing with constant anxiety and high stress. At first it was about the apps themselves and whether it was safe to use them. Then it was about the people i was talking too, and if my leaving somehow hurt them. Now my anxiety has convinced me that i somehow put myself in a dangerous situation, and i have been very stressed the last couple days about that. I cant go to my family for support either, because i dont know how they will react to me being bisexual. I am just feeling a sense of shame for trying to understand myself, embarrassment/shame for even using dating apps to begin with, and a weird sense of guilt for putting my own wellbeing first. The week has been a rollercoaster of weird emotions, stress, and fear. And i just dont know how to cope with it. And with college being difficult already I am even more stressed. Should I reach out to a therapist? I have that option available (talkspace). . Context: . So i made an account on a gay dating app (A4A). At some point i decided that i was not comfortable on the app and deleted it and the account. I guess between it being mainly around sex, and a general safety concern, i just didn’t want to continue. My main issue comes from the fact that I just left suddenly without saying anything to the people i was talking to. I feel bad about dropping good conversations. I just felt i had to leave for my own mental health. I did not agree to or schedule any meetings. I had no contact with anyone outside the app. I didnt talk to anyone for much more than 2-3 hours over the span of 3 days. And i didnt share any contact information or location.

So I bought some adult stuff from a popular Chinese ecom site.

Rings, insertable, lockable’s, Vibrate-ables, wearables… etc 😅

the prices were dirt cheap compared to local shops in the states. So I decided what the heck why not go all out.

Only now as I’m tracking the orders. Am I remembering that customs is a thing. A few items passed already no problem. I suspect the rest will as well. But I can’t help to think of the poor customs officials that have to review the package contents and be like “what is this?… oh I see… OH I seeeeee. uhhh 😳 okayyyy then” 😂😂😂

I am a nineteen year old guy living in the US. I’ve had a wonderful life until reality set in for a while and left me down. I kept going for my friends, family and so on. I don’t know what’s going to happen to the world. But how can one guy like me do anything to help better the situation? I am not even all that sure. I do know that I want to do something. Start a rally, fundraiser, podcast, anything to help keep the world a better place. If innocent people lose their God given rights then are we really still the”United” states? The land of the “free”? I just want everyone to know that no matter what happens, if no one will support you, I will.

Sorry if this offends, is against the rules, or anything else but I have a lot on my heart and wanted to get it off.

So I'm 18, and there is this boy in my college who is a Junior, but he is 24. He has been flirting with me and we got lunch together this afternoon. I feel like I should feel weird about the age difference, but I kind of don't. The only thing I feel weird about is the stigma. He has not been creepy at all, and I am starting to like him. I feel okay about it because we are in similar stages in life, but I'm just worried that others will think it's weird.

Okay. I will try not to make this text too long.

First, I just want to say that it's not my intention to offend anyone. So please if any phrasing I used here feels wrong, it was not intentional

I am a male, almost 30 years old. And I've always thought I was straight (I still do tbh).
But in the last 3 years, I've had moments where I questioned it.

For a little bit of context.

I was raised in South America where there is this strong "macho" culture.
If you do anything different from most men, then it's enough for you to be called gay.
Since I never really cared much about soccer like most guys here, and I always liked Rock n Roll and Heavy Metal (therefore having long hair), I've been called gay since I was a teenager. But I learnt to ignore that.

Another thing that makes people question my sexuality (or even gender) all the time, is the fact that I am half-Japanese. So I don't have much body hair, I was always skinny and according to many people I have feminine traits in appearance (I was even told a couple of times I have an androgynous look).

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Even though I've always been called gay, I always knew that I liked girls.

I've never felt attracted to guys throughout my life, neither at school, college, work or anywhere. And I have been hit on by men hundreds of times, so it's not like I didn't have the opportunity.

I've always just watched straight porn (or lesbian porn).

However, around 3 years ago I started seeing some things differently.

I always liked Drawing and Art in general, but I had to stop drawing to focus on my career.
But in 2020 I started taking painting classes, and in painting, there is a lot of anatomy study.

So I started studying female and male bodies very closely. I have thousands of pictures of female and male nude models on my computer (nothing erotic though).

Besides that, in 2021 I started following some bodybuilders on social media (just as inspiration since I work out); So finally, around 2022 I started having these moments where I started questioning if I might be Bi.

Since I was following these young bodybuilders, many pics of muscular guys started popping up on my Instagram feed all the time. And at some point I started admiring those bodies. Nothing sexual, it was just an admiration for the symmetry and discipline of the atheletes.

In addition to that, from time to time I had to look for reference pictures of male models for my paintings. So I had to spend a few hours looking at male naked bodies in many different positions.

Around this time in my life, I also found a category of porn that I didn't know before, CFNM. And I kinda got obsessed with it. I started watching lots of them, and I started to realize that the ones with muscular male actors turned me on way more than the ones with average-built guys.

I just loved to see women looking at those bodies until they got horny.

At this point, I started to accept that I found male bodies somehow attractive.

But at first it was just an idealization of beauty itself. Pretty much like looking at those Greek Gods statues.

I would look at those bodies and think "This is what the male body is supposed to look like if you explore its full potential. This is what men should aim for".

And it went on like this.

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But then, in a few moments, I started seeing those bodies in a more sexual way (maybe it's just the normal result of watching too much porn).
Sometimes, when I would see a male model with a beautiful body, I would immediately start imagining what he looked like banging his wife/girlfriend.

Those thoughts started getting more frequent with time (not too frequent though, I'd say once every 3/4 months).

But here is the thing.
I would never imagine the guy having sex with another guy. Just with women.

Then last year I started questioning whether or not I was into guys.

So I decided to do a test. I entered this gay website where there are lots of photos of naked male models/porn stars posing.

I went through most of the photos on the website. Some guys didn't make me feel anything. Lots of guys made me feel disgusted. Some guys just made me feel admiration for their muscles, and some others made me imagine them performing sexually (with women).

There was a part of this website with photos of guys actually engaging in gay sex. When I saw the first photos of a man blowing another man, I felt absolutely disgusted and closed the website immediately.

Time went by and I never thought about it again.

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Then one day, I was on Twitter when I saw this thread about a male Yoga group which ended up in an orgy.
And there was a video of a member of this group naked there.

Again those thoughts started popping up in my head and I felt curious and horny at the same time.

Then I decided to discover once and for all if I liked men.

I entered Pornhub and went to the gay part.

Just by looking at the animated thumbnails of the videos, I felt completely disgusted, my erection was gone right away. I wanted to close pornhub, but at the same time, I still wanted to find out what exactly turns me on.

So I opened a couple of videos and watched a few seconds of each one.
Whenever I saw a guy engaging with another one (penetration, blowjob, handjob...), I'd find it gross.
Whenever I saw a guy showing his ass or introducing anything in his ass I felt disgusted.

The only time I felt anything "enjoyable" was with this solo video of a guy showing his body. Then he poured some oil on his chest and spread it, eventually, he started masturbating.

The conclusion of this test was:

I do find it sexually arousing to see a guy with muscles naked. And even seeing his hard cock being stroked.

It does turn me on.

But it seems to be just with a few specific guys.

However, I also found out that I hate seeing guys having sex of any sort with each other, or guys playing with their asses. I never at any moment, fantasize about myself having any sexual interaction with a man, not even the desire to touch one.

Every time I imagine anything sexual is with a woman. And if I happen to imagine a hot guy having sex, it is with a woman too (and most of the time I don't even think about it).

So now the question.
Am I Bi?

I posted another tread talking about the people who mentioned they were leaving the US in Trump won. Now that's true. What would be your next steps?

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Hello dear US-Americans,

As a German, I love the USA above all else. We will never forget what you have done for us in history. You brought us freedom, democracy, and peace.

But yesterday was also a very sad day for me, because with the conquest of all three chambers, a despot and autocrat will now rule over you without restraint, while in 2016 at least one chamber could still be held democratically.

And let me say these three things for all Trump supporters and for us who read this from another country:

1. It says a lot that you choose Donald, the world’s biggest clown, to lead a country. We laugh and cry about this insanity. Kamala was the best thing that could happen to the USA; she made politics for the people, not against people.

2. Most of you chose a narcissistic, homophobic racist, and we Germans recognize such people very quickly due to our historical burden. I know you don’t want to hear this but your proud and old democracy is also very susceptible to dictatorships, similar to our first democratic attempt, the "Weimar Republic" between 1920-1933, that's just the way it is.

3. Germany has long been the link between East and West. We are mediators, and diplomacy is based on reciprocity, and a compromise only emerges when both sides are dissatisfied with the result. Tariffs are completely irrelevant to us. You buy our cars or you don’t. You are not the only market in the world.

Especially for LGBTQ+ people, independent women, and everyone who wants to live freely and does not fit into the Christian MAGA image, hard times are coming. For many, these times will be too hard, and many, especially transgender people, have already fled to Europe before the election.

Every American who shows initiative has a right to safety, freedom, and prosperity, and I can tell you all: You are all welcome with us if you no longer feel comfortable in your country.

It is our historical duty to take you in, and we will fulfill this duty with full pride. We have a liberal immigration policy, just come and register and look for an apartment and a job. The housing market can be difficult in Germany, but many Germans have a big heart for selfless solidarity.

No matter what happens now and how you deal with it, I wish you all good luck, strength, and hope.

Greetings from a gay german dude

Before you read this, let me preface by saying this was a response to a comment about taking the “high road” with regard to Trump voters. And now onto the message.

We are very clearly not better than this. Kamala ran a campaign of inclusion and togetherness, of trying to reach out to the disaffected white dudes in the rust belt and look where that landed us. It landed us here. Trump ran a campaign of hate. That’s all he’s ever been, from when he initially rose to prominence by questioning the Americanness of our first black president to his Mexican rapist shit when he kicked off in 2016, to today with mass deportations and anti-trans bigotry, he’s only ever been hate and that hate found fertile soil. On a personal level, my right to marry my partner may very well go away.

So no, I fucking hate people who voted for him, I fucking hate people who don’t care enough about their immigrant neighbors to protect them from deportation, I fucking hate the voters who are okay with women dying because they can’t get healthcare, and I fucking HATE the assholes who want fascism.

Playtime is over, so step one is cutting these shitheads out of my life and ensuring they live in the consequences of their actions. They want leopards to eat people’s faces? I’m gonna do my fucking best to make sure they are first in fucking line to the leopard cage.

PS. If this gets removed for the language and all that, sorry. Had to spill my guts somewhere. I found my motivation to keep going, I hope you all find yours and honestly I hope it’s healthier than this. I marked it NSFW just cause of the language I used.

I know we cant truly determine how we look when we're old but we can get a idea from our family members and what they look like when they get old

Well not for me

Half my family are irish immigrants who are either killed in bar fights, meth addicts who od, or are alcoholics, oh and my 1 gay great uncle my only known gay relative died in the aids epidemic

Basically everyone on my dad's side died young or has done things to their body that severally effected their appearance especially into old age

My mom's side I hardly know and half seem to age gracefully like elves and the other half age badly

I know whatever happens, happens but it's a bit stressful not knowing

Here’s what should happen next, to those like Minded folks who feel kinda lost rn.

1. With racism being outspoken and rights being put on the line, do NOT be complacent. Do NOT “gray man”. Do NOT hide yourself and your feelings about all of this. Continue making music and continue wearing your shit to make your views known. I say this bc if you choose to hide, it’s harder to come back from it.

2. Organize, organize, organize.

3. Prepare accordingly. I’m going to finish my wildlife medicine courses and get EMS certified soon as I can. Get a firearm and get training. I know firearms aren’t ideal to some folks and they shouldn’t be taken lightly, but everyone who’s against you and your rights? Has one. Get one, get good. As always with prep: Two is One, One is None.

4. If you’re in an area where you can garden and grow your own food, try to get something going next season. If you can have chickens, try to get chickens. Good for eggs, and of course meat. Two is One, One is None.

5. stock up on birth control and contraceptives. My wife is planning on getting a long term IUD, and I’m probably going to get snipped myself. If you’re gay and think: “I don’t need any of those though??” Better to have it for friends and family if necessary.

6. Learn to build and maintain “off the grid”. Get comfortable with tools and making your own things so you don’t have to purchase them. I’m getting some electrical certs soon and have experience building log cabins myself.

7. Fear is prevalent. In the face of fear and uncertainty, we must stand strong together, and we must fight together WHEN necessary. It won’t be pretty. It won’t be glorious. But when the machine grinds to a halt and the blood of our brothers and sisters has painted the truth that we will not back down, they will fear us.

We will not back down. We will not allow fear and anger and hate to rule us. We will prevail and the youth of our country will have better to grow into. I look forward to seeing all of you with me in the future, and I hope that when it hits, we can make it and stand strong together.

I have never hated the people of the US more than I do right now. I hate living here. I hate that my queerphobic grandfather supports the orange bitch and lives with us. I hate that so many people here voted for that fascist again. I want to get out. I want to move to Spain and join my best friend where its safer for me as a Gay and Trans person. I want to yell at the sky. I want to scream until my throat bleeds. I just want to scream. Please, if you want to discuss this in private to discuss this further id be more than happy too.