I don't know the definition of a service top, but my satisfaction comes from making my bottom cum at least once and giving them an intensely pleasurable experience. Am I a service top?

To begin with, I am not the most mentally stable person, I have been struggling w depression and anxiety brought on by ADHD, OCD and what else I have no idea. Not on amy medication though.

I fucking love sex. The only thing is when I was first starting to meet up men, I was having some trouble getting ‘excited’ because of anxiety. I tried bottoming, enjoyed it. I wasn’t very comfortable w my body, dick size etc, but I knew I had a good ass. So I made it my thing.

I love being submissive but recently I have been thinking of experimenting with topping also, because I always think about it. The last time I tried, i got so anxious, I couldn’t get it up, got embarrassed and left. Its been a year since I met any man after that. I think i lost confidence itself in my body image and self that day.

I just want to know how can I be better and how can I do better. I’d invite any comments on my body too if you have, I have pictures in profile.

Just be kind please, opening up after a long long time.

I can't enjoy regular sex anymore, and I only get pleasure out of domination/submission. Problem is, I enjoy doing both, and I really have no problem being in a (sexual/romantic) relationship where I dominate or submit 100% of the time, I don't feel the need to switch unless the other guy is also a vers.

But whenever I tell people I'm vers, they lose interest because subs think I'm not dominant enough, and doms think I'm too flaky.

I’ve had trouble finishing when hooking up. It’s been happening often enough that I started letting guys know before we meet. I recently started 20mg of an SSRI and my sex drive took a noticeable hit, so I’m sure it has something to do with my medication. Beyond that, it might help if I abstained from masturbation (possible case of death grip?) and watching porn for a bit, since lately I’ve only been able to finish when jerking off to porn, a habit which possibly developed after my sex drive took a hit.

I used to struggle with PE and finishing too quickly, but now I can’t finish. It’s fucking annoying, and I guess I’m just in my own head about it.

Would it bother you if a hookup couldn’t finish? Does anyone who has dealt with this have any advice?

I don't mind Sir or Daddy, but I would prefer "King"

"Lay down on the bed ass up, face down."

Tall bottom: "Yes, King 👑"

"Suck my dick"

Tall bottom: "Yes, King 👑"

What are some other alternatives for names for your tops?

Tops or bottoms ? Most bottoms I hooked up with shaved their bodies or at least ass and most of them looked pretty well groomed. Some of them shaved their face , some put body lotion all over their bodies. Majority of them were in very good shape and some had six pack abs. For tops I think if you have above average cock size , hygienic and confident , that's enough to get laid. What do you think ?

I know this is kinda silly. But I am doing NNN and I have started talking to this guy I rlly like. I have told him about NNN and ofcourse we would get spicy talking from time to time. I told him I would love to offer him my 30days worth of saved up cum and he got excited about that.

So I wanna have the opinion of other botttoms here, if it were you in his place, how do you want to receive it? I’m torn between unloading in his ass (breeding him) or on his face (where we both can see how much jizz there is).

I know very well that sex has to be done with condoms, but I have a question: if at some point you had unprotected anal sex, what was the first thing you did after finishing sex? Did you wash well? That's the question I have.

I have a fantasy of meeting a truck driver and getting fucked in the back of his cab. Is there an app or subreddit for that?

💋hi I’m an older sissy(novice) in the Vancouver area and definitely need to be used!

I’ve (28 M) become more and more of a total sub bottom throughout my life and for a few years now I almost always cum anally while getting fucked by a top or a toy. When I cum anally though, i just drip out the sides of my dick as im having my intense anal orgasm. Sometimes I feel a little self conscious that im not shooting big loads like other guys and I wonder if that’s a turn off for my tops. Do you care if your bottom shoots big loads while you fuck them or just drip out as they orgasm?

I'm curious

Do you feel chastised bottoms are better at something than regular bottoms not? The other way around? Just different? How?

What are the reasons you hear from bottoms to wear the cage? I feel it’s aesthetic, for a more neat presentation and to convey total bottomness

I'm not sure if this is the place to ask but this questions been bugging me for a bit now. I've noticed lately that cum dumps REFUSE to be blindfolded and some will even need to physically go down to the hotel lobby or similar to let you in.

I get it but also, for me, I want to walk inside his unlocked room where he's blindfolded with lights on, unload, walk out. I didn't think this was unusual but I've now had 3 cum dumps today refuse to use a blindfold which is just weird to me

What am I missing here? Am I the problem here?

Edit: a lot of snark here but I got my answer. I need to be upfront in my expectation of a blindfold and if they refuse, we're not a match. I assumed most guys leaned blindfold, it seems it's more murky than that

Appreciate the help but guys, please be a little kinder next time. Don't assume everyone's out to get you

I'm closeted Bi, and I'm just in a phase where I really wanna fuck guys, the only thing is that I literally cannot find guys that are my type + can host.

I've been on Grindr and have topped 2 guys, both of who were my types and could host since one went to the same uni as me and another guy was like 29 and had a free house lol.

But since I'm still inexperienced with guys I want somebody more consistent that I can try more with.

Anyway, how did you start, and how do you find guys that are your type?

When starting out did you find it harder accommodating a really thick cock or a long one that hits your second hole?

It seems most bottoms want for the top to take control, to be told what to do, and even be dominated in the bedroom (especially for hookups).

I tend to be a little more reserved as a top (maybe introverted). I want my bottoms to enjoy themselves, and kind of direct positions - especially for first entry and getting into things.

I can get wild but always a build up to that. I like signals that my bottom is enjoying things as we get into it - and wanting each next progression as we start. I like lots of body contact; and for my bottom to guide things. I also particularly like them to take my underwear off and take my dick out. Makes me turned on as they indicate they want it.

I kind of rely on them a lot to show (or tell) me they want more / deeper / harder etc. as we get into it.

Does this make me a “soft top”? Does this behaviour turn bottoms off? What could be improved in my approach (either physical or mental)? How do I communicate all this with people I want to hook up with?

I'm a 22 top and just curious on what your dream top would be like. I always like hearing feedback from bottoms to become a better top

With most of my hookups , the usual is kissing on mouth. I kiss them on the neck and nibble their ears and they reciprocate. Some hookups have really cute face and I kiss their face. Only 2 have reciprocated and kissed me back on my face (I find it very arousing to be kissed on face) . Never kissed forehead because I feel it will be too intimate or guys may feel grossed out. Do you kiss guys on face/forehead ? How do you feel about it ?

When do you prefer to have sex during the day the most?

I’m definitely a morning guy when it comes to sex. As nice as it is to fuck a dude and fall asleep deep inside him, nothing beats morning sex for me. Some of the best and most productive days for me came after I got to eat ass, mount, fuck and breed first thing in the morning.

Empty balls provide me clarity and knowing that you satisfied your man + your load is deep inside him sure helps with confidence throughout the work day.

Getting that 2:30 pm “your load is still in my ass” text sure is nice too.

When do you like to do the deed the most?

I know they teach us in 2nd grade to keep our hands to ourselves, but I’m pretty sure I missed that part all together. As a top, it’s pretty much impossible for me to keep my hands off any guy I’m with.

Not just during sex, but throughout the day and in almost any scenario too. I’m single now, but when I was dating, manhandling was just a good as sex at times.

Grabbing his ass cheeks in the locker room when no one is looking, smacking his ass in the elevator, my hand down his sweats playing with his cock while we drive, having him sit in my lap when I watch NBA and playing with his cock, wrapping him up to play with his tool or hole when he is cooking or something around the house, pulling his body into mine at night or in the morning to play with him in bed, fondling his cock and balls on a flight under my sweater with people around us or playing with his junk/ hole in the sauna/ steam room when no one is around etc. Even touching him or tugging at his ass or junk in random scenario’s to get him turned on or flustered.

I’m talking about random places and random times. Anyone else struggle to keep their hands to themselves as a top? Bottoms, do you like or hate it? Do you desire to be handsy with your top too?

Side note: it’s pretty hot when a bottom complains that “someone might see us/ catch us!” but makes zero effort to stop you from playing with him anyways.

Tops , do you feel aroused/intimidated/don't care when you and bottom are both hard and his cock is bigger than you ? Bottoms , how do you feel if a top has a smaller cock than you ?

I've heard arching your back helps but is that true? If it is, why?

Hi all! I tend to stay soft when i bottom wither with solo play or with others ~ usually a strap or a hand. I was wondering if if anyone has advice on how to learn to stay hard through a bottoming session? I don’t dislike being soft, i just think being hard and throbbing the whole time sounds really hot and i’d like to be ready to penetrate immediately during.

Second question! I’ve found as anal has become more normal in my life, i find getting erections a tiny bit harder or confusing? I’ve wondered for a while if there is a good way to keep a balance of both these behaviors being strong. I denied my cock a lot to focus on all the sensations i felt in my ass, and can now cum from my ass. Now i want to be able to cum from my ass without finding my cock distracting and/or vice versa!

Asking because I’m a bottom in dire need of something sexy but practical for daily wear.

I had one hookup who told me he was a coroner and I could hookup with him as it felt weird. I am turned on by guys in white collar jobs/nerds. For hookups who say they are not working or on government benefits is also a turnoff. What about you ?

Just curious, I'm a virgin getting ready to bottom at some point. And I'm looking to chat with someone that knows what a good bottom should do.

I’m on the masc side but I am a sub bottom and love dressing fem. I want more lingerie but don’t know where to get it. I want it to fit well I’m a slim build but don’t know where to get it. Any suggestions? How would it look if I shopped in person for panties and women’s lingerie, that’s what I want to do but I feel like it’s weird and I’m too embarrassed to shop there in person. Any suggestions of where I can go online or in person?