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Gay sex: what's hot, what's not, and how to do it better


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Big Boy Season

I'm a twink and it completely turns me on when a guy is physically bigger/stronger and can easily dominate me. Like even if I wanted to escape, all I can do is struggle futilely against him and feel his muscles bulging until he punishes me for teasing him by sliding his cock in my hole and dicks me tf down, leaving me cock drunk. But outside of the sex, I just want to care for him and cuddle/hug him and spoil him with goods. I want to support him both physically/mentally and that I can be his rock. It's ironic to me because on the outside, I'm masc presenting and I just started college studying to become a doctor. Yet on the inside, I can be a total slut. Its big boy season and I love myself a big boy. Anyone else feel the same way?

0 Comments
2024/10/16
21:13 UTC

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22 curious

22 curious have no idea what how to start help!!!!!!

1 Comment
2024/10/16
20:46 UTC

0

Any tops want to stretch a straight guys holes?

Dm me

0 Comments
2024/10/16
20:00 UTC

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Bottoms: is it a turn on when you can feel that your top is a lot stronger than you physically?

I’ve been with a few bottoms who expressed loving this. This even go as far as being a brat, mouthing off, and talking shit to me as to bait me into physically overpowering them. Some try to wrestle back and pretend they are trying to “escape”.

When they do successfully bait me into it, it’s a lot of fucking fun for both of us. Seeing a bottom fight back a little and make me “earn” his submission is a huge turn on, even more so when he finally gives in and acts/ says that I’m too strong for him to escape and he just gives up, lifting his legs up to expose his hole to me to be fucked or arching his ass up when he is on his stomach. Hearing his whimpers, moans, heavy breathing and submissive “take me” voice is fucking incredible and clearly a huge turn on for him.

The “I can’t escape him or get him off me/ out of me” surrender is what some bottoms told me they love. I love seeing that surrender too.

Do you like it when your top is much stronger than you? Can manhandle you anyway he wants, if he wanted to?

10 Comments
2024/10/16
19:53 UTC

5

Vertigo in the butt

Im from a Spanish speaking country; when someone is a total bottom, and you ask them how they “knew” they say they always felt a “vertigo in the butt” (vértigo en la cola)

You know the, vertigo feeling… I’ve always thought that it felt like something in between “ghost dick” and is like you wanna fall on a cock.

Anyway, is there any similar term in your country or that you know?

4 Comments
2024/10/16
16:24 UTC

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How do you feel about using chocolate or wine on partner's body during sex ?

In porn , I find it hot. Putting whipping cream in your partner's mouth and kissing , putting honey , liquid chocolate on his cock , nipples and sucking , pouring wine in his belly button and doing body shots , pouring wine on his ass and licking. Using fruits and juices on body look also very hot. Do people do that in real and how is the experience ?

6 Comments
2024/10/16
16:23 UTC

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Are older tops more gentle than younger tops?

8 Comments
2024/10/16
16:21 UTC

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“A load not in an ass is a load wasted”

Question for tops and bottoms alike, do you agree with this? Or do you prefer shooting/receiving a load elsewhere?

For me I’ve yet to receive a load but already think I subscribe to this 😅

55 Comments
2024/10/16
15:41 UTC

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Intensely curious str8 guy starting M-M play at age 40 - advice?

As a 40yo str8 guy who's suppressed M-M urges for 23 years, any advice for getting started without the desires overwhelming me? I want it to be about the other guy's pleasure 100% and am concerned that the fulfillment of these long-held cravings will cause too much joy/emotion/release that it gets in the way of their pleasure.

The desires I have are so intense and include everything from cock worshipping, sucking, swallowing, and bottoming for a couple men. I've taken toys and love the sensation. I've eaten my own cum. But how do I manage the intensity of these desires in the moment so the focus in on my partner? Thanks in advance.

0 Comments
2024/10/16
15:18 UTC

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I often have slight abdominal/stomach pain after playing w my d*ldo

What am I doing wrong or is it normal??

2 Comments
2024/10/16
14:50 UTC

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Is there a term for this?

Is there a term for when a guy slides his pants down and his cock is hard and it just bobs? I love seeing these small gifs and short stripping videos. Even with trans women who have a hard cock and the site of it just bouncing.

Is there are common term for this?

1 Comment
2024/10/16
13:10 UTC

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Do many tops like straight or less experienced bottoms? And why?

I’m very new to all this, I bottomed once, was super hot want to do it more.

But what I’ve noticed is when I mention this loads of guys find it incredibly hot that I’m not that experienced, is that the case and how come? I always thought a more experienced bottom would be better for you 😅

Edit: when I say straight I mean straight-curious of course lol

13 Comments
2024/10/16
11:44 UTC

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Bottoms deserve to be loved

Okay not exactly. They should be beaten, hurt, humiliated, bossed around, all the other kinky stuff.

But sometimes I see things from a different light. This one video I found recently has this absolutely cute bottom on his back looking beautiful. I don't know what made it different thoug since I frequent this type of thing in porn. He never breaks eye contact with the camera (Top's POV) and he listens to everything he says. He's begging to be dicked, but he's not commanding. He wants it but he's not rushing. And then when the top finally puts it in, he makes it known that he would not want to be anywhere else. Just pure sex appeal and docility. Obedient and respectful.

That shit made me cum so hard. I'd do a lot of things to sleep with a bottom like that. I wasn't in the attitude of wanting to "wreck" someone, so I guess I could see it so well in that moment how much of an absolute blessing bottoms are. I don't show it but they have a power over me too as I do to them. I don't even know what im saying I just feel really appreciative for some reason. Post-nut gratitude?

18 Comments
2024/10/16
11:31 UTC

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is sniffing smbd else’s underwear cheating?

for a little context it’s my flatmate, he’s very messy and let his stuff anywhere, so when i find his underwear i usually smell to know if i put it back in his closet, if they not clean i just sniff them a little.

he caught me doing it and it’s not weird or anything i told him it’s just to know if it was supposed to go to the washing machine.

but this tendency had me questioning if that’s ok from the partner’s POV, bc basically im not doing anything with my flatmate

4 Comments
2024/10/16
10:23 UTC

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Dom tops, what’s the meanest/roughest thing you’ve done to a sub bottom to show him who’s in charge?

Bonus point if it’s so rough you’ve never done it again?

20 Comments
2024/10/16
08:16 UTC

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Bottoms, what do you do to get rid of spots and pimples on your ass?

Hey, I‘ve been working hard on myself to make my ass look more appealing to tops and I‘ve made some good progress but there is one issue I just don‘t know how to deal with: I‘ve got acne on my butt cheeks and I don‘t know how to get rid of it.

What do other bottoms here do to get rid of spots and make their asses look so smooth and beautiful?

12 Comments
2024/10/16
06:24 UTC

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Bottom here

How do I appeal to tops more is there anything that you look for or something that I say??

9 Comments
2024/10/16
05:23 UTC

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Im inexperienced in gay sex, can i jump straight into sex from grindr? Or do i need to buy a dildo first?

17 Comments
2024/10/16
04:57 UTC

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Recommended douching kit?

Hey All,

Looking for advice on a shower kit for cleaning. I've tried to find a shower head with an additional hose connection on it but I can't finda any. Might just be butchering what the actual name is?

Thanks in advance!

2 Comments
2024/10/16
03:58 UTC

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Str8 ass

Im a top who loves eating ass honestly don’t even need to get pleasure out of it I love eating ass for fun. I find it so amusing to play with a hole however I see fit tease it, lick it, finger it whichever way I love watching a hole stretch and pulse by my doing. For that reason that’s why I love playing with str8 dudes asses they’re so sensitive and so turned on. They act so much more intense about getting their ass ate I love it.

7 Comments
2024/10/16
00:03 UTC

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Straight / bi curious

I am 23 yo from middle east , since moving to the usa I found I have some attractions to femininity even in some guys , I like smooth ass regardless if it’s man or women , how do I approach this and where can I find sissies/femboys ?

4 Comments
2024/10/15
23:37 UTC

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Bottoms, do you like to see your top vulnerable?

I think it is só cute when your top is all Alpha and strong and then he decides tô talk about his feelings with you. Or when he's serious and acts macho but when you are together he shows you a side that other people dont see.

6 Comments
2024/10/15
21:39 UTC

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Tops and bottoms : what about dirty talk ?

Does it turn you on ?

16 Comments
2024/10/15
20:50 UTC

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To bottoms: it was hard to me to accept that I'm bi, but now I have to deal with Top/Bottom Stuff.

It's fr hard for me to accept that I am actually not really a top which I really wanted to be. I mean it's difficult. LIKE FR. Even though I am still a virgin, I already know that I am more like a bottom. I become hard immediately while reading all that slutty stuff written here on this community, cause I want that too. I want to be a slutty bitch, but at the same time i don't lol. Someone can relate?

18 Comments
2024/10/15
19:57 UTC

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My first hung one 🥵🥵

In a few hours am about to take my first hung D!!! I’m nervous and excited !!! Heheh wish me luck !

5 Comments
2024/10/15
19:51 UTC

4

A straight guy

To anyone who was with a self identifying straight guy: are they more likely to be a top or bottom?

15 Comments
2024/10/15
19:24 UTC

0

About tops personal issues...

I remember reading or hearing this from a bottom, that tops (or more specific the hung ones) could be a little bit maniac, having certain quirks, and the hunger, the worse. I'm vers, so not that I believe it at the beginning. But cause I the kind of person who like "challenges" when bottoming, kinda like I experienced it first hand: some with emotional dependency or a bit possessive, other a bit extreme in political views, at some points they start to get tattoos everywhere (not exactly a turn off, but internally like "why? you looked perfect, like a greek god"), and list go on. Is it normal or I just kinda got the "unusual" option many times?

5 Comments
2024/10/15
17:14 UTC

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Why do older like young?

I am a young guy and only recently started looking for acquaintances, and I found that in most cases guys like me (young and thin) are liked by older men, why? I also noticed that mostly older men are on top, and young guys mostly take the bottom position. These are my observations from my short experience of dating. The question about virginity is also confusing.

26 Comments
2024/10/15
15:02 UTC

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I'm new to the old and young dating and it feels a little weird as a top

Hey guys, what's up

So, I'm 32yo who have been flirting with much younger bottoms. The youngest I've been talking is 21yo. And not gonna lie, it feels a little weird to me, mainly because at some level feels like I'm taking advantage from being in a position of being more mature which leaves the bottoms on a more vulnerable state.

All I think is how healthy can this be for the both of us. I am completely grossed out by when a top takes advantage from being in a position of power to push young bottoms to have sex with them, and even though I don't do that, the mindset of the young guys I meet really matters to me.

When you're young, it's very likely you're a little delusional about how older guys have their shit together and you're much more likely to fall in love out of vulnerability instead of actual companionship.

That kinda weights on me because I have to be fully aware how every single flirtatious word I say resonates with my bottoms. And it doesn't help I have a very strong sexual appetit and enjoy being dominant

Anyways, maybe I'm built to become a daddy, though I don't think I currently look like one, and maybe I'll just starting to get used to it, but I would really appreciate feedback from people who have struggled a little bit on this, as well as hearing what young bottoms think about it

9 Comments
2024/10/15
15:01 UTC

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Wish I was a top…

I know top or bottom isn’t a stagnant identity you hold forever but I just don’t like topping as much. I used to exclusively when I first came out but after trying bottoming in a previous relationship, it was so much better. After finally dealing with my internalized homophobia, I could embrace my actual preference.

However, the not great side is that embracing being a bottom has massive downgrade my love life. I’m just not what guys look for in a bottom. While I’m 5’6 which I guess might help, I’m also thicker due to bodybuilding. As a muscular black guy, people expect me to be a top. I also look pretty masc which isn’t entirely true. So when guys actually meet me, I’m just a disappointment.

I’m not willing to change who I am just to find a boyfriend but it hurts. I suppose I’m just annoyed by my most recent rejection but it feels like I’m just gonna end up alone.

25 Comments
2024/10/15
13:27 UTC

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