Im a cis male. And his a cis woman whose genderfluid, he allaways wants to be reffered as with he/him pronouns. Im ok with that. However he represents really femenine and all that. And ive asked him if hed be trans. And he saint maybe not. He dkesnt know. Idk how to support him or how to say it but i like female bodies not male bodies. So idk im just scared if he transitions.

Just to preface: I’m gender fluid and align more with being masc. i use he/him pronouns and try to dress according to my current gender expression. I tell people I’m a dude despite being afab.

but lately I’ve been feeling extremely distress about my gender. I was chatting with this girl I kinda liked (and I always tell people I’m interested in that I’m trans/gender fluid). After telling her she outright,y asked if I had a d*ck. I said no and felt very self conscious, then she said she can only deal with one vagina in a relationship and that was it. It’s not even that one occurrence, it’s just everything: the dog whistles, how people decided to address as “male and female” (literally why can’t people just say men/women???), and just hinting that you aren’t cis will get you a bunch of downvotes and disdain.

it’s really starting to affect me, and it’s worse when it’s from so-called lgbt+ ”safe” spaces. I feel like an imposter in my own body. I’m disgusting. It’s bad enough that I’m from a conservative family and I constantly get misgendered, but having other people treat me like this feels so fucking shitty.

I don’t even necessarily hate my body, I’m basically androgynous looking, it’s just me being female that gives me intense dysphoria…like I’ll just never be seen as a real guy

I’m 19 and I’ve known I’m some type of trans since I was probably 15, but I’ve struggled a lot figuring it out. There have been breaks in that where I thought I was just a cis gay guy, which I don’t think was just denial. There’s also been times where I thought I was a trans woman. I have pretty bad body image issues and struggle with food in general. Sometimes it’s general body dysmorphia about my size, but sometimes it feels like gender dysphoria. I’m at the point where I feel pretty comfortable with expressing femininity, I’ve been wearing feminine clothes, doing makeup for years, and most of my hobbies are feminine leaning. But I just feel like there’s something missing, I still really love MLM “culture” and at times I miss that idk. I feel embarrassed anytime I partake or present in more masculine things. I was considering going on Estrogen, but I just don’t know, it also doesn’t help that I feel objectively alot more attractive feminine than masculine. I don’t really know what I’m asking for, but if anyone has any advice that would be appreciated.

I have a text I want send my mom but I want your opinion "Mom I know this is out of nowhere but I kind of want to start estrogen, and I don't really want to talk about in person cause it feels like a awkward subject to me but I don't know mom and before you ask no I don't have different Pronouns or a different name but I feel like I'd feel better in my body If I started estrogen" So should I text her that, or what and should I take estrogen as a 13 year old in in the US, I man can I even take estrogen

So I am apart of a wide variety of subreddits. Some are normal, others are weird, and I've joined a few that are for hilarity only.

This one I'm not naming, had a comic by someone.

Jist of it was a couple of people in frame one are standing next to each other, with someone trying to behave ultra masc. Frame 2 the other person looks at them with a "no way you're behaving like that" face. And frame 3, the ultra masc person drops the facade and says, nah you're right this isn't me.

I was confused as to why someone thought it belonged in said subreddit.... And then I read some comments that struck a chord with me... Because I've always had these feelings even when I was a child who knew NOTHING about sexuality or gender identity.

One trait of an Egg is their subconscious dissatisfaction with being their gender (or preference for the other gender) making itself known without them consciously realising it. E.g.: Someone who says "Everyone has secretly wanted to be a [Boy/Girl] at some point." or in this case making a bunch of comics regarding identity and issues reconciling where you stand personally with masculinity vs femininity.

The one thing that stuck out to me about this comment (that's been edited for the important/relevant parts), is that fact that I've been thinking ever since I was little that I wished I was a boy.

I did boy things. I had more boy friends. I acted more like a boy than my female classmates (what kind of 12yr old girl gets completely covered in mud hunting frogs with a bunch of guys?... Or who would rather be elbow deep in a car engine covered in grease and oil?).

I mean, I grew up where gender roles were strictly defined.

You are a girl therefore you liked pink, makeup, shoes, going shopping, clothes, gossiping, going over for sleepovers and doing makeovers.

You are a boy, therefore you like cars, the color blue, getting dirty, going hunting and fishing, playing sports (mainly football), and working on your own car.

Reading things like what I quoted above... It brings tears to my eyes. I was trans when I was a kid. I did have gender identity issues. I was bullied because I didn't ""fit in"" with all the other girls because I wasn't like them.

Don't get me wrong, I'm proud to be a mom and a woman, but sometimes....

I'm so happy that my own children are growing up in a home where it doesn't matter what you are, that you are loved, protected and cherished beyond belief. I always tell them, you are my favorite, best and most amazing creation I've ever decided to do.

But I feel I have to mourn the person I might have been if I had grown up in a home or world where the things I'm teaching my own kids, even existed.

I have serious questions about the fact that I am gender fluid. Most of the testimonies I have seen are very similar to my feelings. So I would like to ask the question: what do you do when you change gender and/or how do you experience your gender when it's not the biological one or the one that was current? It's really blurry for me at the moment 😅 Thanks in advance

I am planning on coming out to my family next week and am writing a letter to organize my thoughts. I am a AMAB but go through the gender spectrum in its entirety. Not sure how or if they’ll understand but I am setting boundaries on appropriate questions and ones I’m not going to answer. Are there questions that any of y’all didn’t expect that I should maybe be aware of? Also how do I make sure they know this is for the family right now and I’m not fully out (for my job it would not be great and might cost me a side hustle that I’m more passionate about just bc of the climate rn) and to not go making a big deal about it? Any advice is good and thank you in advance besties ☺️

I have changed my name more times than i can count in the past 6 years. I don’t wanna use multiple names (as some people do), but every time my gender changes it always feels too masculine or too feminine even if i tried to pick a gender neutral name. When i was feeling feminine i went back to my legal name for a while, now i feel more masc/neutral and that feels too feminine for me but the name i picked for myself before just doesn’t feel right for me anymore- I feel like I’ll never know who I am. My bf reassures me I don’t have to have everything figured out but I’ve been trying to figure this out for over half a decade now… I’ve narrowed my list down a little bit but I’d like y’all to help.

• Alison/Sonny

• August/Aggie

• Jasper/Jas

• Rowen

• Taylor

• Alison Jasper/Aj

• August Jasper/Aj

• Jasper Taylor/JT

• Rowen Jasper/RJ

I always try to find androgynous names or names I can shorten to androgynous nicknames

Also please please feel free to add your own suggestions!

So I've come to the conclusion that I'm genderfaunet, and I'm mostly attracted to men, so does that mean I'm gay (mlm)? Straight since I feel fem genders (wlm)? I'm confused...

Say hello to Kateřina Žák or Katrina Zek in the English way.

I always liked K and J names with my passport last name so did some digging in my family history and found my ancestors last name and where they were from. Then I searched K names for popular names for girls born within 2 years of my birth year and found this absolutely beautiful name!

You can call me Kat, though :-)

Hello, I was wondering if I could be genderfluid despite using only he/they pronouns? For I dont mind expressing femme/looking female. However being called a girl, women, she/her, etc makes me dysphoric/skin crawl. Despite being comfy in that expression as well male and andro but happy/euphoric with those pronouns

Hi I’m a 16(f) and I’m genderfluid but I also love makeup but at the same time I feel less masc with makeup (eyeliner mostly with mascara) and idk how to look more masc without feeling like I can’t be a male with how I look yk? I was wondering if anyone had any tips I’ve tried beanies but I just don’t know I wear a lot of baggy t-shirts and baggy jeans which is basicly my style I hate wearing tank tops cuz I feel to fem with them. And I hate it

My moms homophobic and accidentally cut my hair a kinda gender neutral way. Thinking about the fluidity I have with this new haircut and changing from nonbinary to gender fluid. Im also thinking about changing my name too. I go by Nina with close friends and use they/them. But I am thinking about going by Julieo now.

I'm not sure what I'm hoping for in this post. Maybe just venting or seeing if anyone understands what I mean or if they have suggestions.

For context, I'm 30 and AMAB, but I've identified as non-binary for about 3 years and I've understood myself as genderfluid for about a year and a half. Exploring my gender identity has come a little late, after deciding to leave my old beliefs and start dating men.

When I thought I was agender, it felt easy. I could just say I didn't care, I didn't really experience dysmorphia or any of that. Then after I settled into accepting who I was attracted to I realized it wasn't so simple and I have fluctuations all across the board now it seems. Sometimes things will be stable and I'll feel more masculine or more feminine or more null for a while, then it's utter chaos again. I can never predict what is going to bother me or how I feel and it impacts my life with my boyfriend (who is totally aware and accepting, and does his best to meet me where I am any given day) ,and child and just how I am in the world.

I feel like I can't do any gender affirming care like surgeries or HRT because what I actually want for my body is so inconsistent, even if I had good access to the care I needed. In a perfect world I could just have a closet full of different bodies with different arrangements of anatomy to just place my consciousness into on any given day but that's not how any of this works.

Idk. There's not much more I can really say. It's just been weighing on me in this last cycle of feeling all over the place gender-wise.

Hello!

I'm new to this whole thing. Only a few months I started questioning my gender (AMAB).

For like a month or so, I actually thought I was a trans woman. I do have some sort of incongruence that has to do with the way that my body controls itself versus the way that the body looks.

But recently I discovered something. I can socialize properly only if I am attuned to my current gender identity and sexual attraction. And it changes unvoluntarily, once per hour or so. I find which gender I am in by looking up in mind the definition of a man and a woman, and then checking which one I am. Another way I find it is by thinking of a man and a woman, and seeing which gender is more familiar, and which feels like something different or otherworldly.

I want to see if anyone else has had a similar experience and what could all of that mean.

Hey all you GF readers out there. I'm looking for books or book series in either fiction or non-fiction where the author is either non-binary or genderfluid and the protagonist is also of the same identity. My preference is YA fiction in fantasy or sci-fi, but will read pretty much anything. Not considering romance novels at this time though but romance elements in a fantasy/sci-fi story is fine.

Thanks in advance!

Basically I rarely flow to my female aspect and I usually stay between male and no gender at all, should I change my "label" or should I just be myself without caring too much about it?

I still in shock from all of this, my wife and igot into an argument over something stupid, I forgot to take the kids blankets to there room, I had just gotten back from the laundry mat because we had a ton of blankets that needed done at the same time instead of doing it little at a time. Well I got home set the blankets down and needed to go to the bathroom and then I brought our blankets to our room and then I realized I was still wearing my work clothes so changed, I went to get a bra out of drawer and I didn't have a normal one so I grabbed one that I didn't normally wear and went back out to the living room where she was reading the kids a story, I sat down next to them and they finished up reading and headed to bed. Well then the kids came out looking for there blankets and she was upset that I didn't take them in as soon as I got home. She finished putting them to bed and then came out at was questioning me as to how I didn't take them to there room after I got home, so I said I'm sorry I forgot I got side tracked after I went to the bathrom.i though it was done after that but I was very wrong, she just keep going on about it and i asked can we be done with this shit I forgot to do something, then I was told I was gaslighting her that I had to have some reason why I didn't do it. I keep asking her if we can please drop it as there was no malicious intentions behind it, nope still going on about it, so I said fuck this and said I'm going to bed, then she made a comment about my previous marriage and that's why It didn't work was because of me saying fuck this. Leading up to point of this whole exchange I began to get heated and was rasing my voice but at that point of saying something very lowblow I got very upset and was yelling at her to just fucking drop it that this had turned into bullshit over nothing, well then she threw a pen at me and I stepped towards her and she got up in my face and she slapped me across the face I was shocked I resisted the urge to slap her back but Inturn I put my hands out and grabbed her by the neck and stepped forward casing her to lose her balance and she fell on her butt. Now I do want to say that I did not grab her by the throat and squeeze i was not trying to choke her out or hurt or kill heri just needed her away from me, as soon as she fell landing on her butt sitting up my hand was off of her. She was like you put your hands on me and I said yeah because you slapped me, I keep asking her why would you hit me? She said i thought it would make you stop yelling and I replied no that makes me more angry and she knows my past that I use to get into bar fights alot but that was 15 years ago and I have since been clean and sober for most of that time, i didn't like who I was then and I have tried to not be that person ever again but getting slapped bright that right back to the surface but I recognized it immediately and I took my hand away. I feel like fucking shit now. I knew what I did wasn't okay and that I should have just walked away but I didn't. Idk what the fuck to do right now. I'm sorry this is so long and probably almost impossible to read but I'm still just so upset.

I am a (33) married pansexual black woman and a mom one child and another child coming along . I did some thinking and I wanted to be more masculine in my appearance, and I also started to notice that I miss wearing boys clothes a lot more because somehow wearing girl clothes made me feel like I had to present myself in a certain way. maybe I’m not gender fluid. Maybe I just wanna be a tomboy and still wear dresses sometimes and wanted to change my physical appearance to be more athletic because I miss being athletic.

I came out to my friends as a trans girl last year and they didn't care, some even saying they wouldn't see me as a girl and didn't try to use my prefered name. I decided to just go back to being a boy because I was already seen as one anyway.

I started saying I'm gender fluid because I could still hold on to being cis. Im starting to think I'm a trans girl again. The only times I feel like a boy is when I'm with friends or listening to "tough" music like Facelift by Alice in Chains. In both of those cases I feel like a boy due to outside pressure.

I'm hav a hard time coming to terms with being a girl. I don't want to be trans. I want to be my mom's son. I want to be my brothers little brother. I want to be the boy God made me as.

I feel wrong for my clothing choices. I love wearing flannel and jeans and band t shirts. They make me feel cool, but I definitely don't look feminine in them.

I don't have really bad dysphoria. I see myself as a girl and I often feel embarrassed by being hairy or having a deep voice, but I don't really mind my body, beyond my weight and broad shoulders. Can I still be trans if I don't have a lot of dysphoria? I don't even get upset being called a boy, it's more like I get happy being called a girl, but not upset when I'm called a boy.

I'm lost. If someone could help please do. Am I a tomboy or just a boy? What am I?

so i just need advice like idk if im gender fluid or just doing my own thing but ive been out as trans (ftm) for a few years now but over the past year ive gotten closer with a few gender fluid ppl and when i see their day to day outfits constantly switching from guy to girl back to guy ect it makes me really jealous, idk if i just miss my teenage years i never got to experience as a girl cause i came out so young or if im gender fluid. i still prefer my masc name and pronouns even if i "feel girl" but like i wanna wear girly outfits sometimes but i also wanna be a boy sometimes 🧍‍♂️

If you are looking for binders, go to your local Walmart or online Walmart. They sell them in all sizes online from xs to 6x. Idk what to tell you 7xers except to exercise until you can fit a 6x. I'm in a 3x and a 4x is pretty comfy for me and I can wear them longer than a 3x. So if you plan on going out somewhere for a long time I suggest you wear a size or two up even if your manly chest is more noticeable. It's safer for your ribs and well being and not being unalived. Trust me, I felt so uncomfortable one day deciding to wear two binders at once plus a tight sports bra. I was going through it guys. I got rejected by this super hot gay guy because I "looked like a girl" bitch you look like Zach Efron ate too many McTriples! Bro was tripping I'm the best he could ever get. His current bf look like Bubble Bass and Skibidi toilet guy love child. And I had a glow up since then and now I bet he's mad. But that off topic. What I'm saying is do not go my route and try and break your precious ribs. They're tastier unbroken 👹🤤😋 jkjkjk I'm not Alastor. Be safe beautiful men and thembies and lezzies.

(Amab 22) just recently ran the possibility of being genderfluid through my head about a month or 2 ago, and it automatically made so much sense, it was legitimately an eye opening experience actually learning about what this is instead of just kind of blocking it out because Im so damn scared of change. I know this is what I am, it has literally been tearing away at me sense I did my research on what genderfluidity is, I just last night described how I feel to my fiancé and my brother and I can tell they don’t know how to feel. They are supportive no doubt.. but I feel like it’s wrong? Like I’m too late maybe? I’ve always been bi, I used to even dabble in cross every once in a while but I’ve never even thought about my gender changing. I just feel so dumb that I didn’t know about this earlier I am angry at myself for like lying to my fiancé. A bunch of shit.. today’s a new day.

(I'm literally crying right now)

I find this beautifully poetic and wanted to finally share it.

A few years ago I made friends with a coworker outside of work. I met her boyfriend, who this is about, (let's call them A) who liked to joke with me and give me compliments over how well I rock eyeliner. 😊

Conversations came up of my varsity wrestling back in highschool so we joked around the girlfriend challenged us to wrestle. Me being extremely shy about contact and knowing that the girlfriend, to some degree likes both of us. My mind wandered to the concept of "A" and I intimately interacting...

But at that time I was extremely fearful of men and I just couldn't get behind that idea. But what's important is I weighed that option.

A couple of years go by and there was an ugly falling out with the girlfriend for all parties. A came out as trans and began hrt. As A slowly transitioned I fell for her...

Then I met another trans woman I was respectfully attracted to and it began to add it.

It turned out my fear of masculine men was and is rooted in childhood trauma of sexual assault when I was too little to remember now.

It shook my world, I adore A. She cracked my egg. And it gets better!!!

She informed me that I cracked her egg earlier on and that helped her towards the road of transitioning. 🥺

(I am gender fluid and A is trans)

She adores me so much and vice versa, but doesn't seem to grasp how much I love her for it...

It's a classic, A: "I wish I could find someone like you."

Me: "But I am someone like me..."

But I won't hold it against her. Her impact on me has changed my entire world for the better. Even if our worlds will never touch.

Hello, I (24 AMAB) have been questioning my gender for the past 2-3 years. Looking back, I can see signs of it from long ago. I see myself switching between masc and fem regularly. Lately, I have noticed that whenever I am stressed over something, through its duration, I identify as fem. I’m curious if others experience similar feelings.

There's so many doctors I'd have to go through... I mostly switch between not caring what I'm percieved as and wishing I passed as a man, I always look like a tomboy or androgynous It being a problem only like half the time makes me want to do nothing

I'm also young and don't want people in my life to think I'm just "following a trend" and being trans

There are days I want to cut my hair short. One day, I failed to get hold of my self and cut my own. Now my family is calling my cut ugly and made me apologize for what I did. I realized the mistake I made. Is there any way to repress yourself at those particular days?

I was already worried when the first order came out, but it's only been 8 days since Trump took office and I'm so scared of what he could do in 4 whole years.

I very recently have been doing heavy research into HRT. For context, I am 16, genderfluid, and AMAB. I now am big into the idea of estrogen and anti-androgens, and am planning to start the therapy as soon as I turn 18 with informed consent (I want to wait this long as to not rush anything and make sure it's really the best decision for me). I am so happy that I can have a semi do-over with a "second puberty," as going through male puberty was distressing in some respects even before I knew my identity, and that I can gain certain sex charactaristics that I've wanted for a while. I am still worried my voice will drop more or I'll get taller, but I hope that I won't.

But, lo and behold, today he releases a new order, "PROTECTING CHILDREN FROM CHEMICAL AND SURGICAL MUTILATION," specifically mentioning hormone therapy for people under 19, and I am extremely worried. What, in effect, does this order do, and how worried should I be from it's effects or how far Trump could take stuff like this in the future? Could Trump outright ban HRT for everyone in all states? Aaaa I'm so nervous...

how do i start pushing my own boundaries? suppressing myself has been normal for so long that i dont know where to begin