I'm (25 afab transmasc enby) and I was letting my girlfriend (20 amab transfemme enby) suck my breasts and everything was really good. My girlfriend proceeds to tell me afterwards that she felt really lesbian for me which is great because I felt lesbian for her too, just not as much as she felt. Now she feels really bad about it and I don't feel that bad anymore. She went away to think about everything and because she felt really bad about her feelings. I'm very accepting of her lesbianism but she still struggles with her lesbianism. How do I help cheer her up and how do I deal with these emotions??? Who else has a partner whose gender not only changes but their sexuality changes too???

Recently I have started to notice that a decent amount of the time I am agender and they/them doesn't feel right so I've recently started going by xe/xem. And one question I have is how you figured out what neo pronouns you use

I'm genderfluid and I only recently came out. I'm AFAB and only sexually attracted to women so before that I was using the label homosexual. Now that I've come out, I don't know what to use. Homosexual is fine when I'm a woman, but I don't feel comfortable with it when I'm not a man or a woman (most of the time) or when I'm a man. Any advice?

I've recently been trying to think about how I would express myself as feminine when I come out (hopefully around Christmas or New year's). I'm not interested in dresses (at least for now). I am 173cm (5 foot 8 inches) and weigh 58kg (128lbs) and have a pretty slim body shape. Any tips and tricks are welcome too, not just clothes. Thanks :).

hi all, all new to questioning my gender here but i’ll try this. last few days i’ve been questioning my identity a bit and how he/him may not really work me anymore and leaning towards they/them. so my question is, can a cis guy be gay and use they/them and be gender fluid or nonbinary? sorry if this is confusing, i’m just a nervous wreck

Hey all!

After digging into my identity, being on this sub for a while, seeing other people from the community and their stories and such I never thought I'd be able to relate as much as I did. I feel like so much has clicked together about my life that makes sense and while I sort of knew about what it means to be genderfluid, seeing my experience validated with others just feels otherworldly. I just wanted to say thank you to everyone who has posted their stories and know that it even if you don't think it does, it really helps.

I think the only thing left to do is talk with my wife about this, and while I don't see it being a problem, I'm just nervous in general (I'm just a nervous person). I think she'll be supportive and such but idk the nerves are getting to me. Honestly the timing couldn't be more perfect but I think I just need to rip the bandaid off and do it. Does anyone have any ways I can slowly explain things in an easy to understand manner? Should I ease into it, or just get to it without beating around the bush? I've never had to do this before

Hey y’all! New account as I’m currently not out to anyone but my fiancé and a close trans friend.

Some background about me before I get to the details as I feel it’s helpful to know. I’m 21 AMAB, NB/Genderfluid, mostly femme presenting and just started on 2mg E monotherapy about a week ago. I’m going through Plume for my HRT (shout-out Dr. Osayi!). I like to think I had a decent base to work with, I’m fairly slender, short, long blond hair, and have a pretty feminine waist and lower body.

Anyway, I’ve been scouring the internet for any sort of information on anybody with a similar dosage or goals and haven’t found much. So, I figured I’d ask here! I’ve got a lot of questions that I totally forgot to ask my provider due to how excited I was to just have the appointment.

I’d love to hear from y’all on your experiences with a similar dosage. Low dose HRT info is so hard to find.

Is this dose enough to halt further masculinization? I’m seeking low dose to keep changes slow and steady but I’m not afraid to up my dose if neccessary. More than anything, I just want to prevent further masculinization. I’m hoping to have the softer skin, fat redistribution, and other changes on HRT. The only hesistancy I have is with breast growth, but my family has never been that well endowed.

Now I know YMMV, trust me, I’ve done the research, but what does the timeline for this sort of dosage look like? When can I expect to see some effects? I’m only a week in but was lowkey praying that I’d be lucky enough to see some changes early. I’d love to hear some info no matter how anecdotal it may be.

Thanks y’all!!

I know I'm not a man or a woman, but the rest just feels so confusing. I feel like sometimes I'm more masc leaning (like almost a man) and other times I feel like I'm between man and woman (maybe just slightly more on the masc side). I typically think of myself as nonbinary (like in the middle) but when I'm leaning more masc, I get a lot of euphoria/gender envy from men and I start worry like what if I'm just in denial of being transmasc. Then when I go back to the middle I'm like "nah, I don't really feel like a guy." In the middle, sometimes I do get imposter syndrome about being trans but that's not as bad now.

Every time I feel more male though I go straight into worry mode. "I was AFAB so what if I'm just in denial of being pretty much a man?" "What if I'm forcing myself to be in the middle sometimes so I don't have to think about it?" Etc, etc

I've been trying to think of myself more fluid but it's not really helping that "what if I'm in denial" feeling.

Hi there, I’m 18, AFAB, and I’ve been thinking on whether or not am I genderfluid or something else.

Ever since I was a child I had a few interests that were perceived as something a “tomboy” would do so when I grew up I focused on presenting more feminine because I hated when people called me a tomboy, but then, covid happened. I then realize that I liked being seen as agender and would present myself as masculine. Then things went back to normal and I never got those urges again. I had them then and there but I would always dismiss it as something that would pass if I just let it be.

When I reached 11th grade, I suddenly had the urge to cut my hair and dress masculine. I went to the salon, showed them a picture of a mullet and I have never felt better. It was like a breath of fresh air but I was so afraid of being stripped of my “pretty privileges” because when I was presenting myself as feminine I was treated better. People saw me as someone respectable and responsible, even strangers treated me nicely. Then I realized I hated being perceived as “masc” because people wouldn’t listen or talk to me, as a result I went back to presenting femme and never tried being masc ever again. But, I experienced that “masc” urge again and I cut my hair into a soft mullet and changed the way I dressed. I wasn’t the same person as I was before because now I dont care that people dont treat me as good as they did in the past just because I dress the way I want to dress.

I was just thinking about whether or not do I really like dressing feminine or do I perform “femininity” in order to be treated better in life? Am I genderfluid? Am I agender? Am I nonbinary? Or am I just confused and this is just a phase that will pass, I’m just really confused and would really appreciate some advice on this, especially at how there are some things that I like that are perceived as feminine, thank you! :)

I'm genderfluid AMAB, any most of the time I have an androgynous gender identity. However sometimes my gender identity shift from androgynous to female when I see some things (like trans-positive memes, women in cute clothing, etc) or when I'm treated as a girl by my boyfriend. In VERY rare occasions, when I try certain masculine clothes or imitate a male fictional character, my identity shifts from androgynous to male.

It is valid? If it is, then do you have any "triggers" that make you change your identity uncounciously?

I'm an AMAB genderfluid. At least, once on a month, my gender fluctuates with a strong force to female or feminine identities for a long time that it sometimes lasts for a week. It does so hard that I sometimes think that I'm a trans girl and I feel chest dysphoria.

But then, most of the other days of the month (or for a efimerous time in my "female" days), my identity goes to a more "androgynous" identity, being ok without having some feminine features and just struggling to have an androgynous or low masculine appearance.

Also, although is rare, I feel somewhat ok with my assigned male gender, but I think it so rare and sporadic that it only happens when an specific stimulous happens, like trying some masculine clothing or imitating a fictional male character.

That makes me feel confused and I keep remembering those words from an ex-friend who is trans, saying that I'm just a trans girl in denial.

I’ve just recently started dressing in feminine clothes at home and I’m 99% I’m genderfluid (still feel weird just owning it). I’m certain I’m not completely cis, wherever I land on that we’re yet to see. Anyway.

My wife has been nothing but absolutely and completely supportive and helpful. On the day she found out she asked me to go slow to not overwhelm and stated she still wanted a male me some of the time (it started out just cross dressing). But since then she’s not struggled or been upset or thought I’ve done too much too fast even once. In fact most of the time it’s her that suggests things, do you wanna put on your leggings, do you wanna paint your nails, should we dress up this weekend, etc.. I have checked in a few times with her out-right as well, asking are you okay with this? Is it too much? Would you be okay if I was fem more often? She’s said she doesn’t care whatsoever and is happy for me to be fem 90% of the time if I want, or whatever level. Basically she’s got absolutely no issue.

Yet I still feel a bit shy and awkward taking it to whatever the next level is. I don’t know why, probably because I’m an anxious and awkward person to begin with. But sometimes I get this intense desire to be 100% fem, but I still feel a bit shy or awkward just going for it. And I know there’s nothing holding me back, but I still feel like I’m slow to act.

Did anyone else struggle with feeling shy or nervous to keep going either more fem (or masc) or more often? I’m sure it’s just a case of “get over it and do it” but still, wanted to talk it out. :)

I’m not sure if yall understand what i mean but basically when I was doing my self discovery with my sister I was explaining how I feel like “If i was born a man i would like girls, but since im a girl now i only like boys” and she was like “maybe your just bisexual, gender identity isn’t the same as sexuality” but I don’t feel like a bisexual I feel straight. I also had a period of time where I thought I liked girls, but then later on i’d feel like no I didn’t like girls. This is very hard though for romantic partners because I dated a girl when I had a long period of feeling like a boy, but I had to break up with her when I started feeling like a girl, and vise versa like I date guys mostly (since i’m a bio female) but half way through I start feeling more like a boy and it wasn’t like i stopped liking them but, i would get almost envious of them instead? ughhh it’s so confusing also i’m sorry if im rambling. I just remember mostly with one of my ex’s, when i was going through my masculine side I would just randomly ask him what it was like to have a dick and like how it felt like to get hard and all that stuff and i’d just admire it when it was soft and honestly just give obvious hints that i wasn’t content with my gender identity at the time, but then also I would be very feminine and he broke up with me because he felt like he was dating a man most of the time and he didn’t really like it. (dw it wasn’t in a mean way, I let him in on my gender identity struggles and he was like ohhh that makes sense and we are still friends now!) He also told me it was hard for him because he still loves me he just felt uncomfortable by my masculinity all the time and it was very difficult because he was in love with me but the masculinity threw him off so he was only in love with me most of the time. i don’t know how to deal with this stuff. sorry if im rambling i just need some help!!

I am a 15 female but I have a close trans friends who I've talked with this about and I dotn feel comfortable in my own body? I have been cross dressing since a kid and some days I'm super fem and the others I want to chop my chest off since of how gender dismorphic I feel. It's so disgusting to me how I feel that I like being called they/them and I wouldn't mind any pronouns? Idk really my friend told me it comes with time but I haven't figured it out.

So I recently came out, and I wanna be able to start going out in public and being able to dress more fem or nb when I feel like it, be able to present myself how I’m feeling and just be myself. Does anyone have any suggestions for clothing styles, clothes, or just tips in general for passing as fem or nb as an amab cause I don’t know what I’m doing and i need some suggestions. :3

It seems like with my gender comes a fludity that seems to come every few days or so. Some days I truly want to be a trans man, and the next I wanna be a woman..Some days I feel a more xenogender feelings.

I would like my gender to be more consistent because I had an interest in taking testosterone, but maybe since my gender changes so much, that maybe I don't need it? I don't know.

I was born a female and think I’m genderfluid, but i don’t think im female/male genderfluid, i think I’m nonbinary/female genderfluid, is that possible, if so what so you call that?

Since I feel months ago became nonbinary and told my dad and he was totally chill with it but now I recently decided I feel more genderfluid on how I feel and idk how I should tell my dad as he doesn't hate gays and lesbians queers ppl but my aunt who's trans he doesn't really like so idk how he will react

I've always felt like a woman in the sense where I don't disagree with being called that. I don't mind being called she/her because that's what I've always been called. But tbh I don't necessarily feel like i'm JUST a woman if that makes sense? Like I feel like it is a spectrum and I am volatile within it. Idk how to explain. How does one ever know what their gender identity is? Would that qualify me as gender-fluid? I feel like i'm a mix with days between female & non-binary but i'm very female presenting (I think?) I am a lesbian and I am easily clocked as one but i'm more campy/fem. I'm so confused as to what my gender is to a point where I don't even select one anymore! Can I try out pronouns to see how it feels or should I be certain and not change them? I'm new at exploring gender identity. I hope my message isn't weirdly phrased or offensive. I'd love insight and experiences.

I'm AMAB and really insecure whether im eligible for using the term "genderfluid". I first noticed when i saw a female i found attractive, I started trying to copy their style, how they did their nails and hair and so on. I ask this because when it comes to feeling feminine a huge aspect for me is appearance. It's basically like if I could freely decide how I look, i'd chose to look and dress really feminine. But I also have the desire to feel femine and behave fem. every now and then. But I also like my guy features every now and then and also see how I'd like to be and look masculine every now and then and even really like having a beard very often. I'd say for me i really switch between male and female, multiple times a day mostly which I've read is also totally normal. It's a mix of both most of the time but the share changes if you know what i mean. And somehow I think id also really like to call myself genderfluid, otherwise i wouldn't ask this right?
Basically my concern is whether my take on genderfluidity is too superficial, only because If I could theoretically choose to look exactly how i want to, i would choose to look like a certain type of women mostly, and sometimes masculine.

I am basically just fishing for reassurance because im quite insecure

Huge thanks in advance :)

I've had this problem for about 7 months. I'm really confused about my gender, and I don't know if I'm trans or genderfluid. AFAB but I like to use use pronouns and I really feel like I fit into all genders, but at the same time, I don't feel like any other gender then a boy?? Send help!!!

Whenever I'm feeling sick (I have chronic stomach issues) or low energy for no particular reason I feel like it triggers dysphoria more often than not. Not sure if it's because I'm more negatively focused on my body at those times and feeling gross or just a fluke. Just curious if anybody else can relate!

I'm genderfluid, my immediate family knows including my spouse, but while she gives me tips on places to buy things and we go shopping together frequently, she is not interested in actually seeing me exhibit a femme presentation.

I have a workplace that tolerates it, but I've only so far dabbled in it there. I want to take a further step and be femme at work more often than not. I have support there, but I find myself in the uncomfortable situation of wanting to make sure my spouse is entirely on board with things. I wouldn't arrive and depart from home as Miranda-- i have a safe facility at work that I'll be able to use to change and keep my commute clothes. But, I'll need to be able to bring clothes to and from home and keep them maintained, as well as possibly obtain more careerwear items.

There was some darkness in the past over how I came out to her, and it's left a bit of a distaste in her, but that was years ago. She's mostly okay with things now but doesn't want to see me that way directly. I need to find a way to convince her that I'd be safe and protected at work.

Has anyone been in this situation? Any tips or advice? She comes from a very conservative background but is not herself, and she's terrified of my in-laws knowing-- no way they could from my employer, but it's a terror she has nonetheless.

I'm Ash, AFAB and genderfluid, So I've had a lot of girl days recently. I've considered bringing a dress to my trip to Florida for my recent vacation but I fear I will have a switch to masculine presents during my trip. I'm only bringing a carry-on cause I'm going to be there less than a week. I'm so stressed. Any advice is helpful please anyone. I tend to be in masc presenting but sometimes I'm a girl and woman clothes to give myself gender euphoria when I and a girl. I know I can't have many outfits maybe three or four outfits as that's about as much as my suitcase can hold. I can predict what gender I'll present as and want to be prepared while still being within baggage requirements. To anyone to travel let me know what you would do in this situation.

So a question, I am very new to identifying as gender fluid and it feels great to finally embrace how I feel and want to view myself, however one problem that’s always crossed my mind is what happens if I lose my hair, my style is very emo, punk, 70’s so long hair and makeup gives me a lot of confidence with expressing myself, but I’ve always worried if losing my hair and wearing makeup would make me look really old, does anyone have any advice on ways to combat these worries, sorry it’s a random message I’m just reaching out incase someone else is going through what I am.

I’ve mostly been using press on nails cuz it’s quick and easy. Clean up doesn’t take too long either.

However, most sets are too small for my giant hands 😵😵😵

Any one have recommendations/links? I used to get them done using the powder dip but it was it worth it since I usually stay in girl mode for a few days. But open to alternatives

NSFW warning: sexy times

So, small bit of context, usually I feel relatively gender neutral, with some more masc days and some more Fem days. It also still feels a bit weird for me to "feel Fem" given I've mostly lived as a guy (and still default to "guy" whatever that may mean in daily life as I don't mind and it's simple).

But yesterday I had a date with my girlfriend (she's also trans, doesn't really matter, but also kind of feels nice, dunno why xD), and I noticed that I was feeling more Fem leaning that day.

Welp, come the end of date, before bed time things get frisky, we've not been together for to long so are still slowly exploring and uhm... Well, one thing leads to another and her fingers find their way to my behind xD

It just felt so euphoric, idk, I don't often have those moments, but after a while I just had to stop cuddle and cry a bit (good tears, very good tears) cause it felt so validating, I mean, the whole day, but coming together in that moment..

Hope the post wasn't too tmi for some of you, but I just wanted to share this story, given hoe seen and accepted it made me feel in the moment 🥰

Also kind of felt "lesbian" whatever that means, which was a new experience as well, but certainly a welcome one

Lookin for more friends in the community I have snap and insta. I can be shy at first I do suffer from ADHD combined type, a intecual disability and other mental health issues. But I use they/he/she pronouns. And I'm engaged and have a kid. Hmu ☺️

So I feel fem today. I am afab and it makes me confused sometimes. I don't feel like woman but just feminine being.

I am very goth. I love wearing dresses, big sweaters and have hourglass shape. But I feel dysforic seeing myself as a woman because I am not. I am just me and I am in the between. When I start T I hope I can wear dresses and be feminine.

Kevin Schepis is my goal in live.