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Hey - I already searched this specific question here in this sub and every discord server link ended up being non-existent now. I want some fellow trans folk to both chat with and game with, as well as both simultaneously. I'm 30, not a super binary trans man but pronouns are strictly He/Him. Been medically transitioning for well over 5+ years if that matters (it shouldn't, of course). I am an adamant gamer who plays across the trio of PC, Xbox Series X, & PlayStation 5. I own likely nearly a thousand games or more across these three platforms. I play everything. I just really and desperately want/need some people to chat with on a somewhat regular basis. Please link your discord servers here, as well as your personal discord accounts (you can copy and paste an "add me!" link from your discord to make this easier) and I will quite literally add everybody and join everything. I think(?) this would be allowed here, yes? I'm lonely LOL. HMU & let's chill, get to know one another and talk + play stuff. I am SORRY TO SAY but PLEASE NO MINORS, as I am a whopping 30 years old. Thanks, y'all! Feel free to DM me here as well.

I’m at my limit. I know we all are right now, but I could really use some pointers. I live in Florida—blood red county, blood red family, working a blood red job with blood red coworkers. I’ve been closeted for years and I cannot take it anymore. I have nobody here. No friends. There is no one like me here, and if there is, then they’re in hiding like me. I have nothing. Zero support.

I’m sick of Florida. I’ve lived here all my life. It’s been super-fascist hell for some time, and with the election results, I only expect it to get worse. I certainly have the funds to move out of state, but I have no idea how. How do you uproot your entire life and go live somewhere you’ve never even been before? I mean it in a logistical way. Can you even sign a lease on a place you’ve never laid eyes on? How do you get to another state without already knowing somebody there or something? Can this be done? Genuinely?

I don’t even have anyone to go with. I am so alone that it’s not even funny. I wish so badly I had a friend or partner or something to help me here but I don’t. Please, if you have any guidance, I could use it.

Is anyone here from Quebec wiling to answer some of my question about transitioning here or just someone who’s willing to share their story with me ?

I've been on T for a year and some months but I got a nexplanon in 2022 and didn't have a cycle since it was first inserted so I have no idea if my cycle would be stopped with just T alone. My implant expires next year and I'd like to switch to a non-hormonal type of BC. I was thinking of getting a copper IUD due to how long it lasts but I really would not like to have a super heavy cycle after years of not having one at all. Before I got my implant I never usually had super heavy cycles and the cramps were mild to moderate, nothing horrible. Does anyone have any experience with a copper IUD? I don't care about insertion pain but I would like to hear if anyone had pain from it moving or being placed incorrectly. For what it's worth I do not have PiV sex and only want BC for the peace of mind if god forbid something did happen.

Hello! My name is Bugz/Nugget (I don't feel comfortable using my real name online)

Anyways, I am TransMasc. I'm planning on taking Testosterone really soon and I am nervous. This is something I've been wanting to do since last year. I would like to ask here in the comments or dms what your experiences with it were like. 🙏✨

Like how was it when you first started and how are you doing now? As far as I know in this moment in time, l do have trans male friends but none of them have taken testosterone before. I hope to find help or advice 🏳️‍⚧️

it is FUCKING INSANE that the mods of this godforsaken subreddit are deleting posts where people are having valuable live saving conversations, all for the sake of keeping, i guess, our impending fucking doom cleanly relegated to one thread. FUCKING RIDICULOUS.

Hello! I was wondering if anyone had any tips for not having to bring the big bottle of gel on short tips. I only use a pump a day but i figure bc it’s alcohol based i can’t just put the individual doses in airtight containers right? Any advice would be great!!

So I'm not proud of it but I have always really enjoyed peeing in the shower to the point that I tend to hold it for the shower when I gotta wiz right before and for a long time thought I might just be gross an didn't know why I couldn't stop doing it but I realize now it's cause I get to pee standing up hahaha anyone else do this for this reason or am the only one?

I'm 3 weeks and 3 days post op metoidioplasty, and 12 minutes in to the movie and I'm already sobbing at the realization my whole reflection finally shows who I am inside 🥹😭. Mulan came out in 1998, I was 5 years old. FIVE. Relating to this movie in a deep, emotional and gender sort of way. I remember clear thoughts and emotions as I watched, silently sobbing to myself. Thoughts must have started much earlier, as these feelings were already well established without questions and validated by media like this.

The Little Mermaid was actually the first movie I started making connections to in a transgender way. If you know you know, I guess. To me I'm living proof that with It with occurrences that early in development, there truly is biological factors to our transgender existence outside of our control.

It's been such a rollercoaster as my emotions have been increasing over the last couple weeks. I have a hard time crying even when I really need to, so that's when I break out childhood movies. Does the trick every time and I really need a good cry right now. I can hardly believe this is real. My inner child is all sorts of happy and proud!! I'm losing words as I cry writing this. As hard as it's all been, I'd endure it ALL again if it meant continuing to be true to who I am inside.

Feel free to hunker down with blankets, snacks, and your favorite comfort movie with me in spirit tonight. All of your love and support has meant so much to me. Thank you 🫶

Oh! And for all of you that still don't have a reflection that shows who you are inside quite yet.. here's a cricket, just for luck 🦗

Keep moving forward 🫶

i have been on T for the past 7 months and throughout this whole process i have been getting some mild period cramps but no spotting or anything just the pain and now suddenly i feel like this immense pain as if someone is stabbing my uterus but yet again no spotting . is this normal ? ( i suck at explaining stuff hope someone understands what i mean )

I marked this as nsfw just in case. I’ve been looking at different websites and none really have reviews I’ve heard that trans guy supply is good but nobody I know has ever bought from there and since it’s my first time buying one I just don’t want to be scammed or anything

Does anybody know any FTM biker boys tiktok accounts?

What it says on the tin, basically. I'm pre-everything, and my binder can only do so much since I'm kinda chubby. I'd appreciate any tips and ideas you have here.

Hey, I've been on T since end February/ early March of this year and I still struggle to remember taking the gel to the exact same time like my doctor told me to. I can remember doing the gel every day, no problem, but the problem lies with doing it every day to the exact time. It's either I take it to the exact time or up to four hours too late and rarely even six when its a bad day. In my defense, I have ADHD and don't take medication for it so remembering taking the meds is even harder. It's a miracle even that I haven't missed a day yet. Setting an alarm doesn't work, I tried that already.

Does anyone else struggle with this? And how could I fix this problem? I really feel guilty for not keeping to the plan and could either use a pick-me-up or a kick in the ass of sorts.

I've been on testosterone a litttllee over a year and MY LEVELS ARE AT 724 ng/dL !!! Is this celebratory worthy I think so. I also JUST sent out the papers to get my name legally changed. Is my life finally looking up??!4??

So I really love the name Jim, as I just adore basic names, problem is - I’m Icelandic, and I can’t for the love of me figure out what the Icelandic version of Jim is - and I don’t like the idea of having some very English name as I’ll probably never leave my home country, so it would just feel off. I only really love the name Jim cause I just love the nickname Jimmy, so if there are any other names that have the nickname Jimmy or something, I’d love to hear them, and I can’t go with James cause that’s my cousins name and it would be weird

I'm looking for recommendations for binders and tape that will work for my 36d chest. I want more breathable and comfortable recs, especially since I am walking around a lot all day. Also, thoughts on zip-up binders? I'm talking about the ones with zippers in the middle, not the side (since those are actually harmful to your chest). Thanks!

i’ve identified as trans for 9 years at this point (im 19) and i’ve lived my life in the closet around my family. i only ever binded with sports bras (and i fell victim to the ace bandage method when i was a kid)

i finally got the courage to order one today. im done spending life in a closet. i dont care about how my parents feel about it anymore. its coming in tomorrow and i couldn’t be more excited

while i expected my hairline to move (not a problem with that on its own) ive noticed its less moving back all together and instead its just the top left and right corners receiding. i still have baby hairs and its covered since i have shaggy hair/its super thick, but considering its making my hairline into a v i wanted to ask if it was normal. for those of you whose hairlines moved, what was it like?

I’m 17, and have been on testosterone for 14 months now. My voice has deepened, I’ve grown more hair, bottom growth, etc., all the things you’d expect. My t levels are that of a cis man and I’ve had no medical issues.

But I still feel like I barely pass, or only pass for the gayest twink ever (no offense). Me being skinny doesn’t help, but I try to gain weight but it’s just not possible for me. I have the most stereotypically dainty/small wrists/shoulders and I hate it. My voice sounds so high when I listen to it, but according to every vocal range test thing I’ve taken says it’s low and in the expected range of a male. I have some facial hair but I feel as if I look like a girl with some hair glued on. I’ve been told my face looks more masculine but I don’t think it does.

Is anyone else in the same boat? I just feel kind of lost. I want to be a man but I just look like a Trans Man no matter what I do.

Over the past 3 years, I have been so inconsistent with my shots due to the amount of anxiety I feel having to poke myself with that needle. I do it, but overwhelming slow (and probably more painful that way).

Finally, I broke down and asked my aunt who is an RN to train my wife in giving me the shots so I could be more consistent. She told me to ice the area for about 10 minutes before doing my shot, if that didn’t work she would train my wife.

AND BOYS. When I tell you I felt NOTHING giving myself that shot, I mean it! The needle was in, felt nothing. Pushed the plunger, felt nothing.

I don’t know why more doctors/nurses aren’t telling people this. So if no one told you, I’m here to say it works and it saved me today.

Hi y’all, my partner (ftm) is going to have top surgery soon and I was wondering if you guys have some advice for post surgery care? Any good recipe recommendations that might help with recovery or activities that could lessen pain/boredom/anxiety? For people who have had TS, what helped you the most during recovery?

Okay, so I’m a relatively short guy (5’4) and most of the time idc about being short, it’s whatever. But I love concerts. Unfortunately, any of you guys that are also short will understand this is actual hell, because if you don’t wanna dedicate an entire day to queuing, you can’t see shit. And even then there’s no guarantee. Plus cause I’m short I get totally pushed around by tall arseholes.

I wanna get a pair of shoes or something that I could wear at a high energy concert (jumping up and down etc) that give me just a bit of a height boost - the more the better but I’m not keen on platform/elevator shoes cause I’m worried they’d be too unstable for the movement I’d put them through. Any recommendations would be greatly appreciated. I’ve been thinking of something like air max shoes, how much height do those add typically?

So, I'm 15 years old, not quite trans male but transmasc and I wear binders, but my stepdad started noticing it, I told him it was a sports bra and he continued talking about it and told me that I look uncomfortable in it (I am NOT uncomfortable, my binders are my size) and they're too small for me and all that stuff and he forced me to buy a bra, but I dont really like it, what do I do? I'm still in the closet, but I'm uncomfortable with my stepdad talking about it and forcing me to wear bra, I love my binders and like.. I dont know what to do? I kept my binders a secret and thought they would be too ashamed to talk about my parts, but I was wrong, and I still want to wear binders

And I also think its kinda creepy, yeah.. And I have no idea what to do

Do male corsets actually work to give our bodies the shape we want? Or does it not really work with Everything Else we got?

A lot of the time when I ask them for things I need they tell me “oh well real boys don’t need that”. For example I asked my mom for more face wash and she said real boys just use body wash. This isn’t really an option for me because I have sensitive skin and would end up with a rash on my face.

Another time I asked if I could start using separate shampoo and conditioner instead of two-in-one since it gives me dandruff and I was told I’d never been taken seriously as a man if I used shampoo and conditioner seperate

Today she saw I put a proper cologne on my wishlist and said that if I was really a boy I’d just be okay with axe body spray— which I realize isn’t a need but it is part of a pattern I’m noticing?? What should I do about this?? Am I being dramatic?

Edit: thank you to everyone offering to buy me stuff! I really do appreciate it but I don’t think it would work for me, since my parents check all my mail and I’m a bit iffy about sending my address for shipping. I really do appreciate the thought though :)

I'm an austrian-american dual citizen, I live in the US right now but grew up in vienna and am considering going back because of the situation here in America. I've been on T for 2 years and had top surgery a year ago. Anyone know of any doctors in the general Vienna Metro area that are willing and able to continue prescribing me T? I speak German so I'm ok with a non English speaking doctor.

And absolutely floored! I went to the courthouse Thursday to file my name and sex change petition, and just two days later my signed order came in the mail today!! The judge's signature is timestamped a mere HOUR after I filed!

Didn't think I'd ever make a post like this, at least not this early into my transition. I just used the men's toilets for the first time. I wasn't even going to until I started T because I do not pass whatsoever. But I was out for dinner and went into the women's toilets, as I normally do for my own safety, but they were all full so I left the wait outside for someone to leave (the toilets are tiny so it's easier to wait outside) and I just saw the mens toilets right there and thought "fuck it I need to pee and i have every right to go in there". And it was perfect fine. I was the only one in there, nobody said anything to me I just went in, did what I needed, and left. I don't know when I'll next have the confidence to do something like that again but I'm damn proud I took that first step. I love trans joy

Like the title says, I live in a southern red state and am considering going to college here. The college I'm thinking of applying for is in a fairly tolerant city, but because of recent events I'm still concerned. I'm currently unable to move to a blue state for several years because of family reasons. And I'm also eligible for a generous scholarship here that pays for quite a bit of the cost of tuition.

I only started T a couple of weeks ago, but I do pass most of the time already anyway. I've changed gender marker on passport and SSA but not drivers license or birth certificate. I also haven't changed my name yet because I already have a "foreign" name nobody knows the gender of.

But I'm worried about the long term with this. I have to stay for another four years to go to college here or just wait to move to a blue state in several years but also lose out on deeply cheap (almost free) tuition. For HRT access, I already have state Medicaid that doesn't pay for it so I pay out of pocket. Any changes to that wouldn't impact me, short of an outright ban on adult HRT.

What are you guys' thoughts on this? Should I wait to go to college in a blue state or take advantage of the scholarship I am eligible for to go to college here? Does anybody have any experiences with going to college in a red state? Thanks.