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So this is a bit curious! My first gynecologist always told me I have a retroverted uterus. So far so good. I changed fun due to fertility issues and the new gym told me not only do I have a heart shaped uterus - but it’s also anteverted. None of this seems to have much of an impact so fine, at this point I get slightly annoyed with gyn nr 1 for being incompetent, but whatever. So, I go to a gyn on a longer trip to get a prescription for my letrozol and an ultrasound - guess what? Retroverted uterus. Next appointment at gyn 2 I bring it up and he’s like ‘oh - yeah, I observed this in you by now - your uterus is in a different position at every appointment’. Um, OK. I’ve never heard that before - and I can’t find any cases of traveling uteri (?) anywhere on the internet so I thought I’d ask you guys since - apparently - it can effect fertility and a potential pregnancy quite a bit?

I'm feeling so sad this cycle. I had a chemical last month, got so excited seeing those lines and then devastated when I started AF and watched the lines disappear. Idk why but I got my hopes up then that this month would actually be my month because I've heard so often that you're more likely to get pregnant following a chemical. Well I was supposed to ovulate CD 15 (April 10th) while my husband was home, but my lh never went up and he had to leave for a work trip April 12th-19th. I got a rise the night of CD 22 (April 17th) and a spike mid day CD 23 (April 18th). I've never felt ovulation before but I had some cramping feelings in the lower left side of my abdomen that night that I think might have been ovulation. But my husband didn't fly back until CD 24 (April 19th) in the evening so we weren't able to bd until late that night. Idk I just feel like that was too late if I spiked (and possibly ovulated) the day before, and that I'm out this month already even before af comes and I'm just so so sad about it. This makes month 6 now and I just feel like our chances are decreasing so so drastically now that we're passing the six month plan.

I (32F) came off HBC 2 years ago, after being on it for about 7 years. My partner (33M) and I are not trying to conceive at this point, but decided to come off of the pill anyways. We are getting married soon and want start trying soon after, but my absence of periods is an issue. Story time below...

I never had an issue with irregular cycles before going on the pill. I was waiting for my natural cycle to return, and after I had missed my third period, I spoke with my GP. He was not overly concerned at this point, and ordered me an ultrasound. Results were normal, but still no period. On around CD170, I follow up, and the GP prescribes the Provera test and some bloodwork. Provera only resulted in minimal spotting for about 2 days, bloodwork was unremarkable. GP refers me to a OBGYN.

I finally get my first period after 244 days (8 months). But it still does not return afterwards.

I see the OBGYN on day 145 of that cycle ( I live in Ontario, Canada, and wait times are crazy). She sends me for a sonohysterogram, which shows no cysts, scarring, or other anomalies, and tubes are open (So that rules out PCOS). She orders more Provera and bloodwork to get done on CD3-5 after the Provera. Provera once again only triggers some minimal spotting, but counting that as day one, I get the bloodwork. Estradiol is 48 pmol/L (low), FSH is 12.7 IU/L (slightly high). She refers me to a fertility specialist.

I get my second natural period after CD202 (not counting the provera).

I see the fertility specialist and he orders MORE bloodwork for both myself and my partner, as well as yet another ultrasound for me. I happened to be ovulating when the bloodwork was done, and my next period came soon after, after 52 days. He states that he doesn't see anything out of the ordinary on the bloodwork and does not foresee any issues with us conceiving naturally, when we decide to. The ultrasound was also unremarkable. He proscribes provera (Again!!) for 10 days out of the month, for 4 months in a row. So far, the same result- no result. Very scant amount of spotting.

We are waiting on some additional testing from my partner before he wants to follow up with us, even though so far I appear to be the one who has the issue....

I saw a naturopathic doctor who wants to test for some additional autoimmune things, as well as AMH. My GP and my fertility doc both said they didn't want to give a req for that bloodwork, although I am also waiting on a referral for an endocrinologist. Might have to pay out of pocket just to test for it myself.

Currently on CD90. Desperately wanting to figure out the source of why I am not getting a cycle. Why my estrogen is/might be low. How this may affect my fertility- I refuse to believe that chances are normal if I am not ovulating!? Really just wanting to rant and see if anyone here has any insights for me.

TL;DR: I have gone 5-6 months in between periods for the past 2 years, ever since being on the pill. No doc has given me an answer as to what is wrong. I am concerned, lost, and very frustrated.

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I’m 35 and have been actively TTC for a year and a half (tracking, timing sex in FW), off BC for just over 2 years. For the last couple months I’ve started to feel like I’ve hit my threshold and I’m nearing the end of my rope with it all. For the first year this was all I could think about and there were so many tears with every monthly period or new pregnancy announcement. All testing has come back normal aside from low morphology from my husband. We did one IUI last July which failed. At this point I feel like just letting it all go and it’s almost like I’ve come to terms with being OK being childless. I know we’ll have a great life with or without children as we love to travel and have a very strong relationship. I thought this before too, but so badly was trying to conceive because I really did want a little babe of my own. But now…I don’t know. Something in me has shifted and I didn’t track my ovulation at all the last couple months and honestly almost missed my FW because I didn’t look at my app or anything to even see what day I was on. I was terrified of taking breaks from TTC due to my age and the feeling of “running out of time” but my mindset has totally changed now. I feel so much lighter just thinking about not tracking or not worrying about the type of exercise I’m doing, what foods are going to case inflammation, if smoking weed sporadically is destroying my egg quality. There’s not a chance I would say this 6 months ago but I just wanted to share here in case anyone else feels this way. We will most likely try another IUI or 2 this summer but not sure where our road goes after that. So much love to you all and truly hoping all your wishes come true because this journey is fucking hard 💕✨

Any Hydrosalpinx or damaged tube girlies here? Looking for advice!

My left fallopian tube has Hydrosalpinx. It’s pretty obvious from its sausage appearance in the HSG. That one has to be removed because it is toxic and will most likely result in miscarriage or infertility. My OBGYN said the right tube looked normal though so that gave me hope. 

However, one fertility specialist said the right one is most likely damaged as well. He’ll try to save it while taking out my left one, but he recommends removing both, leaving me with IVF as the only option. He recommends IVF because if he sees a lot of damage and I still decide to keep the right tube, I’ll be at increased risk for an ectopic pregnancy…..

I’m getting a third opinion this week before the surgery. But I’m not sure what to do. My husband will have to know my decision to tell the doctor while I’m under anesthesia. 

So I’m looking for advice or any personal stories. Has anyone ever dealt with just one ole damaged tube? Or should I cut my losses and the risk and just get both removed and move on to IVF? 

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I'm at a crossroads and feeling weird about it. I've been trying for a second child for 14 months. Period due any second, and had a negative test yesterday (at 12 dpo, but I'm not hopeful it'll change). My 4yo is starting school in September, and I work quite far away from her school, and my plan was to be on maternity leave when she started. Now, I'm in the middle of applying for a new job nearer by instead, because I don't know what else to do. If I get it, I'm going to pause trying for 5 months, so that I won't have a new baby within my first year there. I don't want to pause. I'm already 40. Some friends were chatting the other day about how they were looking forward to the menopause, to get it over with and not worry about unwanted pregnancies. I get it, and didn't mind too much, but it did make me sink a bit further. I never wanted a 6 year age gap between children, but obviously at this point I just desperately want a baby, so it is what it is. Forever grateful for the one I have.

This may be TMI, but I’m wondering if any of you have shared this experience! I had a chemical pregnancy at the end of March. I’ve been using Inito to test for ovulation and confirmed ovulation on April 18th. I was getting TONS of discharge leading up to ovulation and EWCM, more than ever before. It was pretty exciting to be honest and I didn’t think much of it.

The discharge turned into creamy white and tacky after ovulation which is normal, but it was abundant. No smell or anything unusual other than the quantity.

Yesterday morning I wiped and it was tinted green. I have Flagyl handy. I got from my doctor this fall when I thought I was getting a yeast infection, but I waited to take it and it cleared itself up. So, I took my first Flagyl pill yesterday morning, along with some probiotics.

This morning I woke up and there was more green discharge when I wiped. I do have a slight burning sensation but that isn’t unusual. I’ve seen an OB several times about it and they don’t seem concerned. I don’t have a fever and there’s no odor. I’m thinking this is BV that went out of control due to the changes from my chem?

I am prone to getting BV, but it usually doesn’t turn green or yellow. Anyone have a similar experience following a chemical pregnancy?

After thinking that this cycle would be my cycle to concieve, I got my AF a few days ago and I think I am going through a bit of sadness and anxiety because of it. We (in our 20s) have been TTC for a little over a year by now with no luck, and I just feel so bad because I can’t conceive as easily as most of my friends, who are all pregnant. I know I shouldn’t judge a person’s journey and I’m super happy for them. But lately, I have been feeling extreme guilt (?) (I think that’s the best way to describe it) because my husband has expressed to me how much he wants another baby and announced to me that his best friend’s fiancee is expecting another kid, which I’m very happy to hear but so upset over here on my period. I feel ashamed of myself for not giving him another baby so easily like our last child. When I got upset when my last AF started and expressed my sadness to my husband he said that he gets upset too when I start my period. I know I shouldn’t look to deep into what he said but it really makes me think that TTC is stressful and super hard for us for some reason and I just feel bad that I’m not “extremely fertile”. I haven’t gone to the doctor or know where to start with that. My husband doesn’t think anything is wrong with me so he thinks seeing the doctor would be pointless and he says I just need to be patient and “give it time”. I’m at the point where I don’t even want to have sex anymore because it’s not going to work and planning the times to do it (which he prefers since he has a lower drive) is super draining and anxiety inducing.

Does anybody else feel this way sometimes? How do you all cope with these complicated feelings?

Hello, Looking for some advice or to see if anyone else has experienced this. I am a 27F, went off hbc last year to start ttc. I never got a period so went to my ob. Since then I’ve had a slew of ultrasounds,exams, and blood work. Everything came back fine, showing annovulation. I’ve been using Aygestin for a period and This cycle I started 100mg of Clomid cycle days 3-5. I’ve been using Mira and Lh strips but haven’t gotten any positives indicating ovulation. Had an ultrasound in CD15 which showed two mature follicles at 22mm and 24mm. The dr was thrilled and said I had a great response to Clomid, and said I would ovulate within a day or two and to keep at home testing. I’ll go back for progesterone bloodwork in cd21 to confirm ovulation. Well now it is cd18, still have not gotten a single positive opk or Lh surge. I’ve been having every other symptom of ovulation, yesterday and today feeling sore breasts, some mild pain in my lower abdomen, etc. and I’ve been driving myself crazy. He did mention we could try the trigger shot next month but I was really hoping to avoid that and just ovulate on my own.

Is there a chance I could still ovulate this cycle??

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I started my period for the first time when i was 14 and gor on birth conttrol when i was 15. I was on it for 12 years until just before my 28th birthday. I stopped birth control around new years and so far I have had a 55 day cycle and I am nearing ann 80 day cycle. For the first one I had an lh spike at the end of January and had a period from February 11th-15th I am not sure if that's a withdrawal bleed or a period but that was the first I had. There were no lh spikes in March and then I just had another one on April 14th and I'm pretty sure I ovulated but I won't know until the end of the month when I'm either pregnant or get AF. Should I see a doctor or wait it out a bit more since I recently stopped the pill?

I’m currently 33 and TTC. When I was younger and pre birth control and IUds, I had pretty heavy periods. Like 5 days of steady flow, the majorly being that deep red healthy period blood.

Since getting my IUD removed 7 months ago, I’ve had incredibly short and light periods. I know that alone isn’t cause for concern, but the consistency isn’t what I’m used to and feels off to me. The vast majority is stringy, sticky and dark brown. In reading online this type of tissue is generally associated with really heavy flow, but mines very light. I have maybe a half a teaspoon of what I’d consider to be “normal” period blood. I can get away with using one regular tampon for a whole day in on my heaviest day.

I recently got fertility tested and everything came back ok other than my endometrial lining was a tad on the thin side, but not so much so that he was worried. I told him about my periods and he didn’t really ask any questions about it or seem like he thought it mattered.

I’m wondering if anyone else has had experience with this type of period and knows if it could signal something bad for fertility or if anyone else’s doctors have looked into this with them. I also wonder if this may be more of an GYN question? I’d think periods would be a healthy indicator of fertility but maybe I’m over thinking it. Just weird to have my body operating so differently post birth control than before.

Asking here because truly no one understands how it feels to suffer pregnancy loss.

Background on TTC: Got pregnant on our first cycle trying and ended in a miscarriage around 4-6 weeks (wasn't tracking cause hello, first cycle). 6 months later got pregnant during medicated cycle, ended in MMC at 8 weeks. D&C 3/25.

Background on relationship & smoking: Smoker when we met but said he planned to quit. He quit for a majority of our dating (to my knowledge) but definitely was off and on. He told me he would fully quit when we got married. Didn't last. He told me he would stop smoking when we got pregnant. We've been together for 6 years, married for 2.5.

To the story: Last weekend (3 weeks post miscarriage), we had a stressful day and at the end of it my husband says "Don't be mad but I'm smoking a cigarette" and proceeds do such. Then he smoked the next day so I told him "I can see he's smoking again?". He admitted he started after the miscarriage. We had a talk about it and he's now saying he doesn't remember ever telling me he would quit when we dated, this is who I married and now he's not sure if he ever wants to quit.

I feel like I'm putting my body through so much in the hope of only having to put it through more and it's so frustrating that he's using our loss as his excuse to spark up his addiction. I don't want to try again while he's smoking. What would you do if you were in my shoes?

I just did the trigger shot this past Tuesday. My husband and I were able to seal the deal on Wednesday, but on Thursday I think the pressure of having to perform again/just the whole situation caused him a lot of anxiety and he had some issues and was unable to perform (this is NOT typically something he has any issues with). I know he couldn’t help it/it wasn’t on purpose, but I became very emotional because it’s just been a long process to even get to a point where we were at this step (been TTC with support of a reproductive endocrinologist for a little over a year). I was very frustrated and I think it made him feel much worse. I tried to reassure him and validate him once I had calmed down, but the vibes were thrown off into Friday and we didn’t have sex again until Saturday (today). Is it likely we totally missed the window? I would’ve been mentally preparing to have to do another cycle anyhow but can’t help but feel anxious about this being part of why it may not work this cycle. Any tips for helping to prevent this moving forward/making it easier? I talked to him about trying an insemination kit but he wasn’t too keen on the idea. I’m hoping maybe just having it on hand will ease the pressure because there’s a backup plan? Idk. When I’m anxious about something I can’t control (in the waiting stages now) I try to plan for things to compensate so here I am lol.

I have high prolactin levels every time they're checked. I take levothyroxine for "subclinical" hypothyroidism and my TSH is 1.46. I hoped the high prolactin was due to that so it could be reduced, but my prolactin was 43.7 today. In the past it has been up to 50. I have been checked for a prolactinoma and I do not have one. I do not have PCOS. I have regular periods and I think I ovulate because I checked last month and got a smile face on the clear blue ovulation test (although with a very short window) I also have incredibly painful ovulation due to endometriosis.

Does anyone know why prolactin would be high aside from these reasons above, and aside from stress? Could it be due to premenopausal changes? I have endometriosis and my egg count/amh is low. Also, my luteal phase is short due to ovulating on day 15/16 of a 24-25 day cycle. Thank you.

UK kidney transplant with 4 failed IVF

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Wife and I have been trying for a baby for the past 2 years. I have problems with being able to perform due to anxiety. Wife had kidney transplant 2.5 years ago and no issues there. We tried IVF 4 times with a private clinic, costing approx £20k.

We are trying for home insemination now.

A few questions:

Where would we buy sringes, as we are thinking about trying insemination every other day, 5 days after period ?

Is this a good strategy ?

We have tried ovulation strips but can never time it right, so how many days after end of period would ovulation occurr ?

Sorry for the basic questions but just trying to help our process along

How many days after the period finishes do we start ?

My husband and I tried at home insemination for the first time this cycle, only the timing wasn’t great.

A positive opk snuck up on me and we couldn’t do the insemination till next day around 24 hours later. This is predicted ovulation day.

I will say we really like the at home insemination route- it took a tremendous amount of pressure off. If this cycle is a bust we will definitely continue and be more prepared to do more inseminations around my predicted fertile time.

All in all do you guys think maybe I still have a chance this cycle or was 24 hours after a positive opk to late? Would love to hear your thoughts and if you have any experience with this way of trying to conceive? Thanks in advance.

Hi,

I (34) and husband (36) are trying for our first baby.

This cycle (5th cycle trying and finally getting the hang of it), I saw egg white mucus, open cervix, we tried multiple times, timed it well. Today was 16dpo (according to premom) and 4th day of my missed period and I got a BFN on both clearblue and the pregmom paper sticks. I have also been spotting and cramping for the past 3 days..it's not reddish but more brownish like my period but it's 1% of what my actual.period looks like.

What is confusing and frustrating is that I never used to have irregular cycles or missed periods but ever since I've started ttc, I've missed my cycle twice now.

I did not have my period last month too (my guess is I did not ovulate based on my cm) and I went to the doc who did an ultrasound. Everything came out fine in that (no pcos)

This month I saw all the signs of a healthy cycle (cm changes etc) and we had bd multiple times to make sure we are covered.

And now again no period, brown discharge, no positive test.

I'm so confused on what's going on. I could handle the negative test better if I atleast got my period. I am beginning to wonder if my prenatal are messing up my cycles.

Any advice on what's going on ? Thank you for reading and letting me share 😢 ❤️

5 cycles of clomid (last 2 cycles were with 100 mg), months of tests each months and then I still get AF.

currently waiting for AF now as i am 2 days late and no BFP yet. Dr said i ovulated beautifully this cycle so she was hopeful but im getting discouraged. if i get AF this month she wants me to get an HSG to check out my tubes as well as getting my partners swimmers checked. i was hoping by now i would have been pregnant already and it hurts having people always ask us “when are the kids coming” ☹️ TRUST ME IM TRYING. PCOS just makes it so much harder and scowling PCOS to someone that doesn’t have it is a mission in itself.

thankful for this platform and for everyone i’ve spoken to that has shared some words of encouragement ❤️

I guess I just thought it would happen by now. My fiancé and I are both 24. I haven’t spoken to a specialist because when I brought it up with my family doctor in December when we were 8 months TTC (I was having irregular periods and late ovulations) he said “no one would even look at you until you hit one year.” Well, it’s here. It’s so defeating, what is even the difference of a couple months? My luteral phases haven’t changed, they’re still 9-10 days consistently. My periods are still sometimes days early, sometimes up to a week late. My ovulation is still happening between CD 17-23. We’ve never used protection, we’ve been together for eight years but we’ve only been tracking and trying officially for one year. It’s always sort of concerned me we’ve never had a pregnancy scare in all that time.

I always had this dream/picture of how I thought my life would look; I’ve always wanted to be a young mom. I always said I’d be a mom before 25… I have the stability, a healthy relationship, the home, but it feels like the puzzle piece that is missing is not going to happen. I know there’s people in the same boat who have been sailing for even longer than I have and I feel for everyone. This is so lonely. Negatives month after month and the sadness when your period does come… the false hope of a late period that feels like it’s taunting you. It’s not like I can talk to anyone in my family or friends because we haven’t told anyone we are trying. Family and friends announcing their babies, giving birth to their babies and even onto their 2nd and 3rd children. I just feel like, all of this is happening with ease for them and I am still here, still negative. I’m doing things “right”, bettering my diet, exercising more, making an effort to make healthier choices.

I’m going to bring it up with my doctor but it will likely take some time as it can take weeks to get in and be seen. Can anyone give me a rundown of what to expect if we get seen by specialists?

I’m worried because if it’s comes down to it… we don’t have coverage for fertility treatments like IUI or IVF (the nearest clinic is 8 hours away)

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My partner and I have been ttc for 1,5 years now and starting IUI next week. My friends know, and now every time I see them they ask for updates (out of love, I know, and I’m thankful for having loving friends).

However, it’s becoming exhausting and I want to be able to see my friends during the next three months without feeling I need to give updates.

Yesterday, my best friend texted me and asked if we had gone to the clinic yet. With a lot of smilies and love hearts, I wrote her back that we hadn’t been yet, but also that I think I would like to keep a low profile with this. That there’s definitely going to be times where I want to talk about the treatment, but I will bring it up if I feel like it ❤️ I tried to explain that it was a bit tough with many asking for updates. Her response was very short and saying she had only asked because she wanted to be supportive.

I appreciate my friends’ concern but isn’t it fair enough that I want to be in control of when I have to talk about it and share? Do any of you have good experience with how to explain this to your friends in a way that don’t offend them? I sense that text message is definitely not the best way, even with smilies and love hearts 😅

How does anyone at this stage cope anymore? I woke up today, exactly 2 weeks post 5th IUI to take a test. BFN.

I just insisted my husband stay home while I go thrifting and now I’m in a thrift store parking lot having a total meltdown. I’ve been the go-to infertile friend for the past 3.5 years with people expressing they’re relieved that they have me to talk to about the struggles of conceiving, since I know terms without them having to explain, and being able to talk them thru what to expect with their upcoming HSG, methods to track ovulation, side effects with Letrozole vs Clomid, TI vs IUI, etc etc. Then they get pregnant naturally and stop talking to me - not with any malice but because they “feel bad” that I’m still not pregnant.

Cycles and cycles of tracking ovulation, a blocked fallopian tube, 2 false positives/chemical pregnancies (idfk), 5 IUIs, an endometriosis misdiagnosis, surgery (ovarian cystectomy), and 3 and a fuckin half total years of the mental fuckin toll this takes on a person - I am so fuckin tired. So sick of the meds. So sick of paying this close attention to my body. So sick of awkward smiling when people ask why we aren’t trying yet or joking that maybe we’re not doing it right. So sick of people telling us that we’d be great parents, with that look. So sick of trying to be positive. So sick of doing my absolute fuckin best to act like I’m ok about all of this. So sick of not having anybody in my life actually understand. So sick of acting like TTC hasn’t consumed me. So sick of daydreaming about how hard I’d love my kid. So sick of disappointing the love of my life. So sick of wondering when this will happen for us. So sick of trying to act it will.

I know nobody can answer this for me, I think I just want some different opinions. My husband (35m) and I (34f) have been trying to conceive for about 7 months. My husband lost his job 4 months ago and has had no luck finding a new position yet. I’m getting very worried that it will take a long time for him to find a job and that I’ll get pregnant/have a baby while he’s unemployed. We had always planned on me quitting my job when we started having kids because I make less than what daycare would cost. We do have a significant amount of savings (10 months worth of expenses) but I also worry about spending everything we have. If you were in this position would you put trying on pause until your husband finds a new job? I’m also worried because we’re not getting any younger!

The results found 1 genetic condition out of a 283 gene panel for me (36F) and 2 genetic conditions out of a 262 gene panel for my partner (37M). Thank goodness none of them overlap. Did the genetic carrier testing help anyone? Did anyone find a genetic counselor useful?

I am honestly surprised we didn't have more conditions, since we have had 2 MMC due to 2 different trisomies. My partner has type 1 diabetes and I have type 2 diabetes in remission. I am currently taking 25mcg of levothyroxine, fish oil, prenatal with iron, and metformin. My partner takes coq10, fish oil, multivitamin, an allergy med, and insulin. When I tried taking coq10, I threw up / vomited. We both eat healthy diets, exercise more than 3 times a week, no drugs alcohol smoking. I am questioning what else we should have done... Karyotyping, DNA frag, and blood clotting? Would these tests be helpful for stats regarding future trisomies?

At our initial consult, the RE said bad luck, which I fail to believe. I have my doubts since both MMC were due to trisomies. Like what are the odds?!?

The RE was dismissive when I requested additional testing. I want to try again but I want to make sure to waste more of my mental health if it's not feasible and then fast track IVF with embryo testing.

Me (29f) and my partner (35m) are planning for our first pregnancy, read some books and did our absolutely best in supplementing ourselves (in many other aspects as well).

I’ve been taking omega 3 and multivitamin and period was normal, until recently I changed multivitamin to prenatal, omega 3 remains the same, and added 100mg uniquinol every morning. My ovulation and period were very delayed. Usual menstrual cycle is 33-35 days, after adding ubiquinol it is stretched to 40 days!!

I’ve read up on other reddit threads and many stopped taking them because it interrupted their cycle, and some doctors just told them to not mind the delay.

I’m wondering if anyone has delayed period and decided to continue it regardless of the delay? Any more experience to share? My period eventually came but I don’t know if I should carry on. We plan to start the baby business in July, since its April now I would want a stable cycle before conceiving.

Some more background of why taking uniquinol at earlier age: I have low AMH (1.15) compared to my age group so I take a bit of uniquinol as improvement method. I haven’t consulted any doctor, only read the book “it starts with the egg”.