Preparing for your impending child following infertility can look a little different. Some won't feel comfortable preparing early and some will take their science-focused approach in to consideration as they prepare. When you are comfortable preparing, you can use this thread to discuss topics such as car seats, safe sleep, parenting books, nursery choices, etc. Please also consider our daily postpartum thread if you have questions or are looking for perspectives from those on the other side.

This thread is a place for parents of IFBabies past the postpartum phase to chat, share updates & commiserate on their toddler(s.) Members who aren’t to the toddler phase yet or are still pregnant are totally welcome to participate, but some may find this thread triggering and need to scroll past. If your post is more about pregnancy than toddlers, please move your post to our daily chat thread and please provide CW for discussions of current pregnancy.

Please use this space to discuss your journey to conceive (again) or thinking about trying again.

To protect those still in the thick of treatment, please post positive results in the Cautious Intros/First Trimester thread. Mentions of chemical pregnancies, loss, etc. are okay here. Also please refrain from discussions about testing/testing with cycle buddies unless you have a confirmed negative. We have a thread for positive test discussion (Cautious Intros). Mentions of egg retrieval results are ok to discuss in this thread however please include TW in post.

**If you are trying for a 3rd+ living child, please add a content warning to your discussion. Many here are trying for a second and also potentially dealing with the reality of being one living and done.

Wednesday Postpartum Thread

We understand that infertility and its effects don't go away once you have a child. This thread is a dedicated space for questions, comments, venting, and anything else related to postpartum matters following infertility. Postpartum talk is also allowed in the daily chat, but we recognize that the needs may be different during pregnancy vs postpartum.

Our postpartum members have been welcoming to questions from pregnant members that are preparing for postpartum, but please keep in mind that the space was not created with that sole intention.

Please keep in mind that r/IFParents also exists for those moving in to the season after their childbirth experience.

As a rule, please do not post pregnancy announcements in this thread as some members may be sensitive to these. Announcements should be made in the Cautious Intros/First Trimester thread. Thanks!

This thread is where the bulk of the daily conversation, updates, questions, and concerns regarding pregnancy and postpartum following infertility occurs.

If you are newly pregnant and still in the first trimester we encourage you to check out the daily "Cautious Intros & First Trimester Questions/Concerns". We also encourage you to take a look at our WIKI for answers to common questions and early concerns. Questions around early bleeding, HCG/beta values, early gestational measurements, or early pregnancy symptoms are most appropriate in the "Cautious Intros & First Trimester Questions/Concerns".

Postpartum discussion is allowed in the Chat thread, but we also have a dedicated daily Postpartum thread for those that feel more comfortable in a dedicated space.

Wednesday Cautious Intros & First Trimester Questions/Concerns Thread

If you have questions about early bleeding/SCH, HCG/beta values, early gestational measurements, or early pregnancy symptoms this thread is for you.

This thread serves as a transitional space for those newly or early confirmed pregnant following infertility. We understand that many folks feel cautious, uncertain, and even alarmed in this early phase when the process to conceiving has been complicated and/or there have been previous losses. If you have not experienced infertility we recommend r/CautiousBB as an alternative.

This thread is the place for early introductions, first trimester questions, and finding others in the same mind space. We encourage graduates and others further along to respond compassionately to your questions and concerns, but please also consider reviewing our WIKI for commonly asked questions or references.

This thread is a place for parents of IFBabies past the postpartum phase to chat, share updates & commiserate on their toddler(s.) Members who aren’t to the toddler phase yet or are still pregnant are totally welcome to participate, but some may find this thread triggering and need to scroll past. If your post is more about pregnancy than toddlers, please move your post to our daily chat thread and please provide CW for discussions of current pregnancy.

Tuesday Postpartum Thread

We understand that infertility and its effects don't go away once you have a child. This thread is a dedicated space for questions, comments, venting, and anything else related to postpartum matters following infertility. Postpartum talk is also allowed in the daily chat, but we recognize that the needs may be different during pregnancy vs postpartum.

Our postpartum members have been welcoming to questions from pregnant members that are preparing for postpartum, but please keep in mind that the space was not created with that sole intention.

Please keep in mind that r/IFParents also exists for those moving in to the season after their childbirth experience.

As a rule, please do not post pregnancy announcements in this thread as some members may be sensitive to these. Announcements should be made in the Cautious Intros/First Trimester thread. Thanks!

This thread is where the bulk of the daily conversation, updates, questions, and concerns regarding pregnancy and postpartum following infertility occurs.

If you are newly pregnant and still in the first trimester we encourage you to check out the daily "Cautious Intros & First Trimester Questions/Concerns". We also encourage you to take a look at our WIKI for answers to common questions and early concerns. Questions around early bleeding, HCG/beta values, early gestational measurements, or early pregnancy symptoms are most appropriate in the "Cautious Intros & First Trimester Questions/Concerns".

Postpartum discussion is allowed in the chat thread, but in the form of a mini birth announcement only. We ask that members post ongoing postpartum dialogue in our dedicated postpartum thread. All submitted standalone birth announcements are caught by our auto-filter then reviewed by our mod team.

Tuesday Cautious Intros & First Trimester Questions/Concerns Thread

This thread serves as a transitional space for those newly or early confirmed pregnant following infertility. We understand that many folks feel cautious, uncertain, and even alarmed in this early phase when the process to conceiving has been complicated and/or there have been previous losses.

This thread is the place for early introductions, first trimester questions, and finding others in the same mind space. We encourage graduates and others further along to respond compassionately to your questions and concerns, but please also consider reviewing our WIKI for commonly asked questions or references.

This thread is a place for parents of IFBabies past the postpartum phase to chat, share updates & commiserate on their toddler(s.) Members who aren’t to the toddler phase yet or are still pregnant are totally welcome to participate, but some may find this thread triggering and need to scroll past. If your post is more about pregnancy than toddlers, please move your post to our daily chat thread and please provide CW for discussions of current pregnancy.

Please use this space to discuss your journey to conceive (again) or thinking about trying again.

To protect those still in the thick of treatment, please post positive results in the Cautious Intros/First Trimester thread. Mentions of chemical pregnancies, loss, etc. are okay here. Also please refrain from discussions about testing/testing with cycle buddies unless you have a confirmed negative. We have a thread for positive test discussion (Cautious Intros). Mentions of egg retrieval results are ok to discuss in this thread however please include TW in post.

*If you are trying for a 3rd+ living child, please add a content warning to your discussion. Many here are trying for a second and also potentially dealing with the reality of being one living and done.

The thing about babies is that they grow FAST! They outgrow clothes, gear, and other supplies in the blink of an eye.

We've had some requests to have a weekly giveaway/gear thread to allow our members to share gear. This is a space to accommodate this sharing, but all sharing/swapping must be facilitated by members. Shipping, meetups, coordination should happen between interested parties. Just as a disclaimer, there is a risk to sharing personal information online so please be aware of these risks and make sure you are comfortable doing this. It helps if you've interacted with a sub member in the past and are familiar with the person but this is not a guarantee of safety.

We ask that money not be exchanged here as this is not an e-commerce platform. Please work out shipping costs (if applicable) between you and the other person. It's best to keep information in DMs once you've decided on a swap or give-away.

Monday Postpartum Thread

We understand that infertility and its effects don't go away once you have a child. This thread is a dedicated space for questions, comments, venting, and anything else related to postpartum matters following infertility. Postpartum talk is also allowed in the daily chat, but we recognize that the needs may be different during pregnancy vs postpartum.

Our postpartum members have been welcoming to questions from pregnant members that are preparing for postpartum, but please keep in mind that the space was not created with that sole intention.

Please keep in mind that r/IFParents also exists for those moving in to the season after their childbirth experience.

As a rule, please do not post pregnancy announcements in this thread as some members may be sensitive to these. Announcements should be made in the Cautious Intros/First Trimester thread. Thanks!

This thread is where the bulk of the daily conversation, updates, questions, and concerns regarding pregnancy and postpartum following infertility occurs.

If you are newly pregnant and still in the first trimester we encourage you to check out the daily "Cautious Intros & First Trimester Questions/Concerns". We also encourage you to take a look at our WIKI for answers to common questions and early concerns. Questions around early bleeding, HCG/beta values, early gestational measurements, or early pregnancy symptoms are most appropriate in the "Cautious Intros & First Trimester Questions/Concerns".

Postpartum discussion is allowed in the Chat thread, but we also have a dedicated daily Postpartum thread for those that feel more comfortable in a dedicated space.

Monday Cautious Intros & First Trimester Questions/Concerns Thread

If you have questions about early bleeding/SCH, HCG/beta values, early gestational measurements, or early pregnancy symptoms this thread is for you.

This thread serves as a transitional space for those newly or early confirmed pregnant following infertility. We understand that many folks feel cautious, uncertain, and even alarmed in this early phase when the process to conceiving has been complicated and/or there have been previous losses. If you have not experienced infertility we recommend r/CautiousBB as an alternative.

This thread is the place for early introductions, first trimester questions, and finding others in the same mind space. We encourage graduates and others further along to respond compassionately to your questions and concerns, but please also consider reviewing our WIKI for commonly asked questions or references.

Share your memes or other comedic relief regarding anything from infertility to peeing when you sneeze to daycare hell viruses.

This thread is a place for parents of IFBabies past the postpartum phase to chat, share updates & commiserate on their toddler(s.) Members who aren’t to the toddler phase yet or are still pregnant are totally welcome to participate, but some may find this thread triggering and need to scroll past. If your post is more about pregnancy than toddlers, please move your post to our daily chat thread and please provide CW for discussions of current pregnancy.

Sunday Postpartum Thread

We understand that infertility and its effects don't go away once you have a child. This thread is a dedicated space for questions, comments, venting, and anything else related to postpartum matters following infertility. Postpartum talk is also allowed in the daily chat, but we recognize that the needs may be different during pregnancy vs postpartum.

Our postpartum members have been welcoming to questions from pregnant members that are preparing for postpartum, but please keep in mind that the space was not created with that sole intention.

Please keep in mind that r/IFParents also exists for those moving in to the season after their childbirth experience.

As a rule, please do not post pregnancy announcements in this thread as some members may be sensitive to these. Announcements should be made in the Cautious Intros/First Trimester thread. Thanks!

This thread is where the bulk of the daily conversation, updates, questions, and concerns regarding pregnancy and postpartum following infertility occurs.

If you are newly pregnant and still in the first trimester we encourage you to check out the daily "Cautious Intros & First Trimester Questions/Concerns". We also encourage you to take a look at our WIKI for answers to common questions and early concerns. Questions around early bleeding, HCG/beta values, early gestational measurements, or early pregnancy symptoms are most appropriate in the "Cautious Intros & First Trimester Questions/Concerns".

Postpartum discussion is allowed in the Chat thread, but we also have a dedicated daily Postpartum thread for those that feel more comfortable in a dedicated space.

Sunday Cautious Intros & First Trimester Questions/Concerns Thread

If you have questions about early bleeding/SCH, HCG/beta values, early gestational measurements, or early pregnancy symptoms this thread is for you.

This thread serves as a transitional space for those newly or early confirmed pregnant following infertility. We understand that many folks feel cautious, uncertain, and even alarmed in this early phase when the process to conceiving has been complicated and/or there have been previous losses. If you have not experienced infertility we recommend r/CautiousBB as an alternative.

This thread is the place for early introductions, first trimester questions, and finding others in the same mind space. We encourage graduates and others further along to respond compassionately to your questions and concerns, but please also consider reviewing our WIKI for commonly asked questions or references.

This thread is a place for parents of IFBabies past the postpartum phase to chat, share updates & commiserate on their toddler(s.) Members who aren’t to the toddler phase yet or are still pregnant are totally welcome to participate, but some may find this thread triggering and need to scroll past. If your post is more about pregnancy than toddlers, please move your post to our daily chat thread and please provide CW for discussions of current pregnancy.

This weekly thread is meant to serve as a space for those who have experienced infertility and gone on to experience success to write about their experiences. Maybe you'd like to share your treatment protocol that resulted in success, or perhaps discuss a spontaneous pregnancy after failed treatments. We have many folks who come to our sub asking for success stories, and this may serve as an easily searchable post category to look for similar situations, etc.

Please be mindful of our rules when sharing your story, and above all please be compassionate. This is not meant to be a victory lap, but a way to share what has worked in your specific case.

Saturday Postpartum Thread

We understand that infertility and its effects don't go away once you have a child. This thread is a dedicated space for questions, comments, venting, and anything else related to postpartum matters following infertility. Postpartum talk is also allowed in the daily chat, but we recognize that the needs may be different during pregnancy vs postpartum.

Our postpartum members have been welcoming to questions from pregnant members that are preparing for postpartum, but please keep in mind that the space was not created with that sole intention.

Please keep in mind that r/IFParents also exists for those moving in to the season after their childbirth experience.

As a rule, please do not post pregnancy announcements in this thread as some members may be sensitive to these. Announcements should be made in the Cautious Intros/First Trimester thread. Thanks!

This thread is where the bulk of the daily conversation, updates, questions, and concerns regarding pregnancy and postpartum following infertility occurs.

If you are newly pregnant and still in the first trimester we encourage you to check out the daily "Cautious Intros & First Trimester Questions/Concerns". We also encourage you to take a look at our WIKI for answers to common questions and early concerns. Questions around early bleeding, HCG/beta values, early gestational measurements, or early pregnancy symptoms are most appropriate in the "Cautious Intros & First Trimester Questions/Concerns".

Postpartum discussion is allowed in the chat thread, but in the form of a brief birth announcement only. We ask that members post ongoing postpartum dialogue in our dedicated postpartum thread. All submitted standalone birth announcements are caught by our auto-filter first then reviewed by our mod team to deem if suitable.

Saturday Cautious Intros & First Trimester Questions/Concerns Thread

If you have questions about early bleeding/SCH, HCG/beta values, early gestational measurements, or early pregnancy symptoms this thread is for you.

This thread serves as a transitional space for those newly or early confirmed pregnant following infertility. We understand that many folks feel cautious, uncertain, and even alarmed in this early phase when the process to conceiving has been complicated and/or there have been previous losses. If you have not experienced infertility we recommend r/CautiousBB as an alternative.

This thread is the place for early introductions, first trimester questions, and finding others in the same mind space. We encourage graduates and others further along to respond compassionately to your questions and concerns, but please also consider reviewing our WIKI for commonly asked questions or references.

Hi everyone! I’m conducting research for my doctoral dissertation on postpartum mental health, specifically examining how a history of infertility impacts postpartum experiences. I’m looking for participants (18+) who’ve given birth in the past year and live in the US. If that’s you, I’d be so grateful if you could spare 5 to 8 minutes to take a completely anonymous survey.

Survey Link: http://redcap.link/afhcwv8f

We hope to better understand the unique challenges faced during the postpartum period, both in the general population and among those with an infertility history, to improve psychological treatment options. Your input can make a real difference in advancing mental health support for postpartum moms. Additionally, mental health resources are offered at the end of the survey, regardless of eligibility to participate. 

If you know someone who might be interested, please feel free to share this with them. Thank you so much for your time and support! 🙏

This study has been approved by the Institutional Review Board at the Philadelphia College of Osteopathic Medicine.

What are you up to this weekend? Any fun plans? Good books to read or movies to watch? Dinner plans? New wine to try? Come chat with your fellow r/InfertilityBabies friends about anything off-topic!

Got pictures to share? Could be an ultrasound, nursery setup, or picture of your new addition. Share them here!

Please be sure to mention what your photo is of, no links only.

Use TW as appropriate.

This thread is a place for parents of IFBabies past the postpartum phase to chat, share updates & commiserate on their toddler(s.) Members who aren’t to the toddler phase yet or are still pregnant are totally welcome to participate, but some may find this thread triggering and need to scroll past. If your post is more about pregnancy than toddlers, please move your post to our daily chat thread and please provide CW for discussions of current pregnancy.