/r/tryingforanother

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For mamas and parents trying to add to their families. Discussion about the unique challenges of TTC #2+, parenthood, and your LOs is not just allowed but encouraged!

This subreddit is for women / men who are trying to conceive while having children. Also for those who have conceived while having children. However, everyone is welcome.

This is a safe place for people to vent their frustrations and discuss our treatment options or our plans for conceiving while trying for more. Any negative and hurtful will be removed. We like when users add flair, and here is an how-to.


Subreddit Rules

Don't forget to check out the basics!

Are you newly TTC2+? We have a information series which talks about breastfeeding and TTC and return of fertility. Check out our information section. We also have a acronym wiki located here.

  1. No Line Porn

  2. No symptom spotting.

  3. No throwaways, spam or memes. AKA shit-posting.

  4. BFPs should be posted in the weekly BFP thread only.

  5. Remember the human. Be respectful.

  6. No posting about on-going pregnancy outside the bumpers/grad thread.

A more detailed rules list are located here.

We also have a discord, press here to come to it. :)


Related subreddits.

Before the bump subreddits, click here.

Beyond the bump subreddits, click here

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Toddler & Off-Topic Talk - Week of October 31, 2024

What else is going on in your life or is on your mind other than TTC? Do you have triumphs and tribulations of having a toddler or navigating being a (relatively) new parent to share? A question on what car seat or toy to get? A sleep training challenge? An awesome new recipe? This is a space for us to talk about things other than TTC with others in the same life stage!

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2024/10/31
07:00 UTC

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Daily Chat - October 31, 2024

What's going on in your life? With TTC? With parenthood/your LO(s)? Do you have a TTC question? Let's chat!

Read the rules of the subreddit before commenting. Setting your flair is highly encouraged!

No mentions of positive pregnancy tests or ongoing pregnancy allowed outside of the BFP thread. Please report any comments that break the rules.

0 Comments
2024/10/31
07:00 UTC

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Daily Chat - October 30, 2024

What's going on in your life? With TTC? With parenthood/your LO(s)? Do you have a TTC question? Let's chat!

Read the rules of the subreddit before commenting. Setting your flair is highly encouraged!

No mentions of positive pregnancy tests or ongoing pregnancy allowed outside of the BFP thread. Please report any comments that break the rules.

50 Comments
2024/10/30
07:00 UTC

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TFA Long Haulers (TTC 12+ Months) Chat - October 29, 2024

A weekly dedicated space for members who have been trying for another for 12 or more months, experiencing infertility. Talk of treatment, testing/diagnosis, or tough feelings are welcome here. While this is a safe space to vent, please consider how other long haulers in different circumstances may feel about your words.

This thread is a safe space for people who have been trying a while, but it's not meant to limit discussion only to this thread. Discussion of long haul issues are always welcome in the Daily Chat.

7 Comments
2024/10/29
07:01 UTC

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Daily Chat - October 29, 2024

What's going on in your life? With TTC? With parenthood/your LO(s)? Do you have a TTC question? Let's chat!

Read the rules of the subreddit before commenting. Setting your flair is highly encouraged!

No mentions of positive pregnancy tests or ongoing pregnancy allowed outside of the BFP thread. Please report any comments that break the rules.

76 Comments
2024/10/29
07:00 UTC

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Daily Chat - October 28, 2024

What's going on in your life? With TTC? With parenthood/your LO(s)? Do you have a TTC question? Let's chat!

Read the rules of the subreddit before commenting. Setting your flair is highly encouraged!

No mentions of positive pregnancy tests or ongoing pregnancy allowed outside of the BFP thread. Please report any comments that break the rules.

81 Comments
2024/10/28
07:01 UTC

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Daily Chat - October 27, 2024

What's going on in your life? With TTC? With parenthood/your LO(s)? Do you have a TTC question? Let's chat!

Read the rules of the subreddit before commenting. Setting your flair is highly encouraged!

No mentions of positive pregnancy tests or ongoing pregnancy allowed outside of the BFP thread. Please report any comments that break the rules.

29 Comments
2024/10/27
07:00 UTC

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Daily Chat - October 26, 2024

What's going on in your life? With TTC? With parenthood/your LO(s)? Do you have a TTC question? Let's chat!

Read the rules of the subreddit before commenting. Setting your flair is highly encouraged!

No mentions of positive pregnancy tests or ongoing pregnancy allowed outside of the BFP thread. Please report any comments that break the rules.

42 Comments
2024/10/26
07:00 UTC

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Bi-Weekly TFA Grad/Bumper Chat - October 25, 2024

Note: Discussion of BFPs / ongoing pregnancies is allowed and encouraged in this thread!

A dedicated space for TFA grads to check in and keep their TFA friends updated on their journey to #2+!

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2024/10/25
07:01 UTC

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Daily Chat - October 25, 2024

What's going on in your life? With TTC? With parenthood/your LO(s)? Do you have a TTC question? Let's chat!

Read the rules of the subreddit before commenting. Setting your flair is highly encouraged!

No mentions of positive pregnancy tests or ongoing pregnancy allowed outside of the BFP thread. Please report any comments that break the rules.

51 Comments
2024/10/25
07:01 UTC

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Feeling like I jinxed it.

TW: miscarriage A few weeks back I posted in the BFP thread how I’d found out I was pregnant with my second child shortly after having what I thought was a ‘period’, and how I was over the moon to be getting the 2.5 year age gap I’d been dreaming of. I had been feeling cautious about posting about because I’d already had 2 previous CPs, and part of me was thinking ‘don’t get too excited yet just in case’, but by this point my betas were looking great and everything else seemed to be okay. I even booked my ultrasounds and midwife appointments for the rest of the first trimester. But then the following week I started bleeding again while I was at work. Heavy bleeding, with clots the size of my palm, and awful cramping that radiated from the right side of my uterus through my hip and down my leg. I knew something was wrong but by the time I got to the hospital, the bleeding has stopped, my betas were still good and the bedside ultrasound still showed a gestational sac and a yolk sac. They couldn’t see a defined foetus or heart beat, but assured me it could still just be too early anyway, seeing as I was only 5+6 weeks. So they booked me for a formal scan 1 week later, where my worst fears were realised. My baby had stopped developing, there was no heart beat, and the sac was on its way down, out of my uterus. They spoke to me about my options, and because I already felt traumatised by the bleeding and the pain from the start of the MC a week prior, I opted for a suction D&C which they performed the following day. I haven’t stopped crying since.

It’s been a week since I lost the baby and I’m processing it all, but I do know I’m feeling so devastated and depressed. I know they say that MCs happen for a number of unavoidable reasons, but I can’t stop blaming myself and feeling like I jinxed it by getting excited before we knew for sure that everything was okay. Don’t count your chickens before they hatch, they say. And here I was, choosing names and planning announcements and figuring out maternity leave plans, for my baby I’ll never get to meet or hold 💔 After my D&C, the hospital gave me a little heart memento with a card that reads ‘I carried you for every second of your life, and now I’ll carry you in my heart for every second of mine’. It absolutely wrecks me.

19 Comments
2024/10/24
10:12 UTC

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Toddler & Off-Topic Talk - Week of October 24, 2024

What else is going on in your life or is on your mind other than TTC? Do you have triumphs and tribulations of having a toddler or navigating being a (relatively) new parent to share? A question on what car seat or toy to get? A sleep training challenge? An awesome new recipe? This is a space for us to talk about things other than TTC with others in the same life stage!

5 Comments
2024/10/24
07:00 UTC

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Daily Chat - October 24, 2024

What's going on in your life? With TTC? With parenthood/your LO(s)? Do you have a TTC question? Let's chat!

Read the rules of the subreddit before commenting. Setting your flair is highly encouraged!

No mentions of positive pregnancy tests or ongoing pregnancy allowed outside of the BFP thread. Please report any comments that break the rules.

68 Comments
2024/10/24
07:00 UTC

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Daily Chat - October 23, 2024

What's going on in your life? With TTC? With parenthood/your LO(s)? Do you have a TTC question? Let's chat!

Read the rules of the subreddit before commenting. Setting your flair is highly encouraged!

No mentions of positive pregnancy tests or ongoing pregnancy allowed outside of the BFP thread. Please report any comments that break the rules.

71 Comments
2024/10/23
07:00 UTC

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TFA Long Haulers (TTC 12+ Months) Chat - October 22, 2024

A weekly dedicated space for members who have been trying for another for 12 or more months, experiencing infertility. Talk of treatment, testing/diagnosis, or tough feelings are welcome here. While this is a safe space to vent, please consider how other long haulers in different circumstances may feel about your words.

This thread is a safe space for people who have been trying a while, but it's not meant to limit discussion only to this thread. Discussion of long haul issues are always welcome in the Daily Chat.

22 Comments
2024/10/22
07:01 UTC

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Daily Chat - October 22, 2024

What's going on in your life? With TTC? With parenthood/your LO(s)? Do you have a TTC question? Let's chat!

Read the rules of the subreddit before commenting. Setting your flair is highly encouraged!

No mentions of positive pregnancy tests or ongoing pregnancy allowed outside of the BFP thread. Please report any comments that break the rules.

83 Comments
2024/10/22
07:00 UTC

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Daily Chat - October 21, 2024

What's going on in your life? With TTC? With parenthood/your LO(s)? Do you have a TTC question? Let's chat!

Read the rules of the subreddit before commenting. Setting your flair is highly encouraged!

No mentions of positive pregnancy tests or ongoing pregnancy allowed outside of the BFP thread. Please report any comments that break the rules.

74 Comments
2024/10/21
07:01 UTC

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TFA's Bi-Weekly BFP Thread - October 20, 2024

Did you get your BFP? Tell us about it! Additional details like what number child you were trying for and your cycle information (including cycle information for previous children) would be much appreciated but are not required.

Congratulations!

56 Comments
2024/10/20
07:00 UTC

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Daily Chat - October 20, 2024

What's going on in your life? With TTC? With parenthood/your LO(s)? Do you have a TTC question? Let's chat!

Read the rules of the subreddit before commenting. Setting your flair is highly encouraged!

No mentions of positive pregnancy tests or ongoing pregnancy allowed outside of the BFP thread. Please report any comments that break the rules.

35 Comments
2024/10/20
07:00 UTC

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Responses to questions

Hi all, what’s your best response for when people ask, “when do you plan to have another?”

Context: about to go to a work event celebrating a colleague’s second child due soon. She and I were pregnant simultaneously for our first babies, so naturally, many coworkers ask me when I’ll have my second child next when the two of us are both present. I wince at the thought of it cause I’ve been trying a while and I know people don’t mean to be insensitive when they ask, but it hurts, so I’m trying to prepare myself with a few responses I can come back with.

13 Comments
2024/10/19
14:55 UTC

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Daily Chat - October 19, 2024

What's going on in your life? With TTC? With parenthood/your LO(s)? Do you have a TTC question? Let's chat!

Read the rules of the subreddit before commenting. Setting your flair is highly encouraged!

No mentions of positive pregnancy tests or ongoing pregnancy allowed outside of the BFP thread. Please report any comments that break the rules.

31 Comments
2024/10/19
07:00 UTC

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Daily Chat - October 18, 2024

What's going on in your life? With TTC? With parenthood/your LO(s)? Do you have a TTC question? Let's chat!

Read the rules of the subreddit before commenting. Setting your flair is highly encouraged!

No mentions of positive pregnancy tests or ongoing pregnancy allowed outside of the BFP thread. Please report any comments that break the rules.

62 Comments
2024/10/18
07:01 UTC

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Toddler & Off-Topic Talk - Week of October 17, 2024

What else is going on in your life or is on your mind other than TTC? Do you have triumphs and tribulations of having a toddler or navigating being a (relatively) new parent to share? A question on what car seat or toy to get? A sleep training challenge? An awesome new recipe? This is a space for us to talk about things other than TTC with others in the same life stage!

7 Comments
2024/10/17
07:01 UTC

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Daily Chat - October 17, 2024

What's going on in your life? With TTC? With parenthood/your LO(s)? Do you have a TTC question? Let's chat!

Read the rules of the subreddit before commenting. Setting your flair is highly encouraged!

No mentions of positive pregnancy tests or ongoing pregnancy allowed outside of the BFP thread. Please report any comments that break the rules.

44 Comments
2024/10/17
07:01 UTC

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Daily Chat - October 16, 2024

What's going on in your life? With TTC? With parenthood/your LO(s)? Do you have a TTC question? Let's chat!

Read the rules of the subreddit before commenting. Setting your flair is highly encouraged!

No mentions of positive pregnancy tests or ongoing pregnancy allowed outside of the BFP thread. Please report any comments that break the rules.

60 Comments
2024/10/16
07:01 UTC

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TFA Long Haulers (TTC 12+ Months) Chat - October 15, 2024

A weekly dedicated space for members who have been trying for another for 12 or more months, experiencing infertility. Talk of treatment, testing/diagnosis, or tough feelings are welcome here. While this is a safe space to vent, please consider how other long haulers in different circumstances may feel about your words.

This thread is a safe space for people who have been trying a while, but it's not meant to limit discussion only to this thread. Discussion of long haul issues are always welcome in the Daily Chat.

13 Comments
2024/10/15
07:01 UTC

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Daily Chat - October 15, 2024

What's going on in your life? With TTC? With parenthood/your LO(s)? Do you have a TTC question? Let's chat!

Read the rules of the subreddit before commenting. Setting your flair is highly encouraged!

No mentions of positive pregnancy tests or ongoing pregnancy allowed outside of the BFP thread. Please report any comments that break the rules.

42 Comments
2024/10/15
07:00 UTC

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Daily Chat - October 14, 2024

What's going on in your life? With TTC? With parenthood/your LO(s)? Do you have a TTC question? Let's chat!

Read the rules of the subreddit before commenting. Setting your flair is highly encouraged!

No mentions of positive pregnancy tests or ongoing pregnancy allowed outside of the BFP thread. Please report any comments that break the rules.

30 Comments
2024/10/14
07:01 UTC

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Daily Chat - October 13, 2024

What's going on in your life? With TTC? With parenthood/your LO(s)? Do you have a TTC question? Let's chat!

Read the rules of the subreddit before commenting. Setting your flair is highly encouraged!

No mentions of positive pregnancy tests or ongoing pregnancy allowed outside of the BFP thread. Please report any comments that break the rules.

59 Comments
2024/10/13
07:00 UTC

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Daily Chat - October 12, 2024

What's going on in your life? With TTC? With parenthood/your LO(s)? Do you have a TTC question? Let's chat!

Read the rules of the subreddit before commenting. Setting your flair is highly encouraged!

No mentions of positive pregnancy tests or ongoing pregnancy allowed outside of the BFP thread. Please report any comments that break the rules.

45 Comments
2024/10/12
07:00 UTC

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