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Hey ladies. Hope ur having a good day!

Recently turned 41 and have a 5 year old conceived easily.

Trying to have a baby now with my new partner (4th cycle of trying), but my numbers are not great, ie. AFC - 7; AMH - 0.48; FSH - 11

Would love to hear from anyone able to get pregnant with numbers like this.

It was 0.015, does this mean I’m in menopause?

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Long story short, we met each other when we were both around 30 years old (she is an year younger). About an year after marriage, we went through a stressful period where I had to change jobs and cities just trying to survive in a foreign country - complicated by immigration problems. In the midst of all that, we did have a 4-year "stable job" period where we conceived our now 7 yr old son, at about age 35. An year after that, we moved places again to a different city. Even though immigration woes were behind us now, we were still struggling and arguing on parenting styles and lack of family support made it really hard on us taking care of our toddler son. And then Covid hit, and both of our fathers passed away. We were finally able to get over so many problems and decided trying for another when we were 39F/40M. However, after a few MC/chemicals we haven't been successful.

I get a lot of questions on why we have only one child. And I almost feel angry that fate threw so many curve balls at us and made life so hard. I honestly want a sibling for my child but so many events have happened that were outside our control. And I find it really hard to explain to others how much we have gone through - especially those who never experienced living in a foreign country and managing everything by themselves.

Any suggestions on how best I can answer this question without having to go through the whole saga?

I'm 43.5. Curious how many folks ttc spontaneously (without the help of your clinic, with your partner etc at home) while you're also doing IVF or similar. While I know its not impossible to get pregnant at this age, since the risk of mc is so high, I'm just not sure if having to spend a few months recovering from one is better than just letting IVF rule my future to maximize time. We don't have any embryos right now, so I feel like I'm just letting precious cycles go "untried" as we prep for another FET. I don't mean for this to sound like a business transaction or something, but I guess this is reality when your fertility feels so finite.

Anyone else have this situation? Drs want to eventually do hysterectomy. I went to a fertility dr but it was always on zoom. I’m not keen on these zoom calls. I want to talk in person. That Dr said we could get maybe 2 more like one egg. Anyhow seeking second opinion , from a Dr in person. I turn 44 June 23. I cried myself to sleep yesterday after my appointment going over the ultrasound. There’s no rush she says for hysterectomy but myectomy probably not a good candidate. Can I even get pregnant with fibroids? If I did IVF would my bipolar depression get out of control? What about if I actually got pregnant what even medicine could I take, and then there’s postpartum. Should I just give up here? My grief is overwhelming about never having my own baby. I feel hopeless. Is there anyone out there who succeeded with these things on their plate? Should I just give up and have a hysterectomy and always have this part of my heart broken? 💔

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Just got told that our only option going forward is to use donor eggs and go through ivf and while that isn’t unexpected as we are 4 years into this journey, I’m really struggling with the potential baby not having a genetic connection to myself or half their sibling. Not to mention how we would pay for it. Can anyone share how they worked through feelings around donor eggs? I was surprised by my reaction because I have always felt so supportive of my friends and the large variety of ways they have brought their families together. I do believe that family can be who you choose to include so I’m kind of spinning right now.

I am trying to come to grips with the fact that I may never have children. I am especially afraid of the loss of my parents and the birth of a new life would give me perspective and a sense of purpose when dealing with such loss. How do I keep a positive outlook for the future? For those of you who are unsuccessful in getting pregnant, what aspirations for the future keep you going? How do you find meaning in life and be happy in the present?

Is the TTC struggle taking a toll on anyone else's relationships? If not, how do you maintain a healthy relationship under the stress?

My last period came at day 43 and at day 14 of my next cycle it feels like I’m having a super light period. Would you TTC during this time or restart the clock as though you’re at day 1? It’s confusing. And so emotional!!

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It's not really our first appointment, just our first appointment where I feel like I'm ready to go down this road, sigh. We had an appointment last August where they basically told us our only hope was donor eggs. I found out I was pregnant a week later, ha. But then the baby had trisomy 18, so I guess there wasn't anything funny about that.

I HIGHLY doubt I would be a candidate for any kind of IVF with my own eggs. My FSH last summer was ~20 and AMH was an abysmal 0.048. I do seem to ovulate every month, though (based on OPK tests, and other stuff - changes in CM, migraines only at mid-month, etc). Husband's analysis was off-the-charts good; he's not the problem. I've been taking a bunch of supplements since my loss in November: prenatal, fish oil, vitamin D, vitamin C, CoQ10, DHEA.

FWIW, we got pregnant the second month trying last summer; we've since tried 3 months with no success. I've only taken the supplements for a little over 3 months. So, maybe we just need to try longer? Maybe medicated cycles to see if we can push my body to release to release more than 1 egg per month?

Any ideas or advice as to what we should ask about? I'm guessing they'll push us to donor eggs again, and I just don't think I'm ready for that. I want to make sure we've exhausted all options to use my eggs first.

Tried for over a year naturally at ages 43 and 44. I’m so tired of the two week wait. Honestly it’s more like those last 4 days. My last period was 6 days late and I had so much hope. Any fun ways to increase egg quality? I’m all about it. I currently take supplements with Co-Q and fish oil. Also! Has anyone tried that app that provides fertility coaching? It seemed like a gimmick to me so I didn’t get past the free trial. One thing I noticed it said in October that I would be pregnant by April if I used the app. At the time that seemed so long ago! But now it is April and I’m still not pregnant.

My husband and I are trying to conceive our first. I’m having major trouble relaxing and de stressing… I am mired in my regrets of not trying earlier and am feeling anxious and depressed. Any tips for relaxing during this journey? What mental state has been best for you (no expectations, positive expectations, etc.)? Thank you!

Hello everyone. I am 40 and husband 43. We never really ttc before due to financial instability and not being sure we actually wanted to become parents. We are now desperate for a baby and feel like we might have missed our chance... I had a hormone check up which came back normal, and in my ultrasound my OBGYN said that i have a low ovarian reserve (my AMH is 1,14). We also checked husband's sperm which is fine. We were referred to a fertility clinic due to our age and the doc there said our chances for natural conception are very low, and even if it did happen it would most likely be a conception with chromosomal abnormality. He prescribed hormones for ovarian stimulation which I am too scared to take due to possible side effects, and he said that basically IVF is our only option.

We decided to ttc naturally and see what happens (only thing we didnt do is a salpingography which will do as well to check there isn't a problem there). I am worried though that ttc naturally will not work and that by further delaying IVF for down the road things will be more difficult for us.

Do you think we are right for trying naturally first? At this point i feel like we dont stand a chance... And obsessing constantly about it.

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Anyone have success with clomid over 40? My progesterone level was 8 on day 21 which meant I ovulated but my OBGYN said the numbers were kinda low and prescribed be clomid. I can’t find much online regarding success rates or if it helps or hurts woman over 40 who already ovulate. Thanks in advance! ❤️

Curious if anyone’s had success with DOR and medicated IUI’s at 40? If so, how many cycles did it take you?

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Hi everyone! Had my first at 36 (total surprise after being told aMH is super low) and been trying for a second since just before I turned 39. My period is super irregular and wondering if I’ve been in peri or not but don’t feel the other symptoms. Taking a slewwwwwww of supplements 🤣 I think I’m 6 days dpi but hard to tell in the last few months if I’m even ovulating!! Anyway, hi and nice to find a community of other women going through the similar struggle!

What is everyone using to track ovulation? What do you like about it? What do you not like about it?

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My periods are typically 3-4 days of what I would consider normal flow. I have some cramps & back pain, but it's usually not too bad.

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This cycle, flow was light on CD1 but I had bad cramps & back pain. Overnight I tried castor oil in my belly button & rubbed on my lower abdomen (wrapped in a towel). Today, on CD2, my cramps & back pain are mostly gone, but I've experienced heavy bleeding and am passing clots every time I go to pee. Some of these look to be 2-3 inches long.

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Has anyone here experienced this?

I've been reading today that those with heavy periods shouldn't use castor oil during their period, but using it during the follicular phase is beneficial for blood circulation & fertility. Has anyone here found castor oil helpful for fertility?

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I’m ovulating today and decided not to have sex with my husband because I just can’t decide if I want another baby or not. My son is 9. I was so sure last month, or at least more sure than I am today, that I wanted a baby. I can’t quit thinking about all of the unknowns and the fact that I’d be 50 when the child is 8. I’m usually so decisive.

How did you decide that you wanted a baby after 40?

I just received news after getting a Colposcopy that I have CIN2/CIN3 so will need to get the LEEP procedure. 😟 I turned 40 in September and started seen a fertility Dr. in Oct. I ended up having Polypectomy in December. My fertility Dr mentioned I was overdue for a Pap smear (since my last one came back abnormal LSIL). Anyways, just wondering if anyone has gone through LEEP and was successful with pregnancy to full term after 40. It’s kind of scary as I was already pretty concerned about getting pregnant and not having a miscarriage before LEEP. Now I’m reading that you shouldn’t try to conceive for six months which just keeps lowering the chances of having a baby. 🥺

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I just turned 40 this week and am recovering from a D&C 2 weeks ago after 8 week loss. I have a healthy 4, soon to be 5, year old who was a surprise.

We started trying after 37 for sibling and at 38 conceived but had a 11 week loss due to partial molar pregnancy. I had to be monitored due to cancer risk until 39. Tried again and conceived but lost just before 40. They tested this baby due to my partial molar loss and she was ok but they only tested 4 chromosomes so provider feels something else likely was wrong chromosomally that wasn’t tested. First miscarriage was a fluke unrelated to age. Second one likely related to age.

When we conceived our most recent pregnancy we met with repro endo and found out I have severely diminished ovarian reserve. They told me it won’t impact my ability to conceive naturally (I ovulate monthly and have regular cycles) but it will limit fertility treatment options (they’ll do IUI if we want but IVF is likely off the table unless I respond to meds but unlikely). It took us 6-7 months to conceive the babies we lost.

How many cycles did it take you guys to conceive and have a successful pregnancy to birth at 40? Looking for hope!