Hi everyone!

I am 41 and we have been trying for three months so far. I know it's not much, but at this age it's important to not waste time. My gynecologist told me to do my FSH and AMH exams after three months without BC pill, and these months have passed. I have to say that we don't want to use IVF or other PMA methods to help the pregnancy process (in other posts I said why) and, also, if it doesn't happen we will be fine. So, knowing my hormones levels would maybe bring me to despair and leave me without any hope. In your opinion, could I avoid these tests? I think that knowing my levels won't be helpful, since I don't want to take hormones and so on. Thank you ❤️

I had my 1st aged 38, then lost my 2nd at 42. I was scared after that and stopped trying. Now I'm regretting it 🙈

Hi, Is it pushy?

I’m at low risk of ohss due to age 40 and didn’t happen the two previous cycles.

Travelling out of state Friday morning to Monday night. I’d be away for day4 of stims to day7 of stims.

Clinic was informed of my travel.

Next appt is scheduled for Tuesday - after 7 days of stimming

My past cycles, my first follow ups was after 5 and 4 days respectively.

I’m feeling an odd pressure on my right ovary/pelvis side. If I were not travelling, it wouldn’t worry me.

I called clinic and explained and they said a nurse would call back later today.

I feeling bad about calling and being pushy.

The clinic didn’t do anything to make me feel bad. It’s my own hang up.

Am I being pushy or exaggerating?

How are things going for you this week?

We didn’t quality for govt funding round due to my not so great numbers (I do have regular periods) and if we do IVF it’s out of pocket. At my age of 41 I know most of my eggs have issues so IVF is probably the only way. But not even sure I’d respond to it with 0.50 Amh….

I had my first and only son at age 35 with my ex. We coparent 50/50.

I’m now 41 in a wonderful relationship and after ttc for 8-months, we had our first miscarriage at 8 weeks. It was pretty rough to have our dreams shattered just like that, though I knew given how long it took to get pregnant it might not stick.

I’m not sure to what extent we will keep trying now, as my partner is 46 with a 16 year old and as I get older and older, I ask myself why do I still want this so badly?

Why can’t I just make the most out of my life with my partner and son (when I do have him), and try to live life to the fullest. Sadly something is blocking me from doing this as I’m just fixated on getting that second child. Even though I know we are getting older and the ship is slowly sailing away.

I’m wondering how others in similar situations feel? Do you find it hard to determine if you truly want to raise a newborn at this stage of your life or if it’s become more about chasing after something you wanted for so long, and only wanting it now because it’s unattainable?

Okay so we were all geared up to do Clomid + trigger + IUI this cycle. So I start taking Clomid (for the first time ever) and by day 6 I go in to have my ultrasound. They then look very confused and say oh ummm it looks like you’ve already ovulated? I was like wait wtf? I was still bleeding yesterday from my period I’m only CD6!? They said yep sorry that’s where you ovulated from. I then went to get a blood test and sure enough confirmed I ovulated and given the number they guessed it was actually a day earlier or even 2 days earlier (CD 4 or CD5) So the cycle is cancelled and I’m deflated. They said they’ve never seen someone ovulate so early before. Mind you DH and I randomly DTD on CD3 after a romantic night out haha so at least there was a smaaaall chance, my lining day 6 was only 4mm though so I’ve counted myself out.

I typically ovulate day 10/11 anyway so I’m on the earlier side. I NEVER expected to ovulate day 4 - 6 with Clomid but that’s just what my body did? Anyway I go about my life and we DTD CD 9 and CD10 and CD19 just because. I knew given my early ovulation I should have received my period by CD 19-21 but here I am at CD 24 and NOTHING!! no period or anything, for the last week I’ve sporadically tested for pregnancy, I had a weird evap thing on pregmate once and then about 7 BFN’s after and a ?? On a digital FRER that I tore apart and there was a vvvvfl but only Pregmate BFNS since. Could my luteal phase be messed up from Clomid? I thought that LP is always consistent and it’s just O that can get wonky. Ooof any similar experiences would really help! I just want my next cycle to start so I can try again (without Clomid but now with Gonal F + trigger + IUI)

So my last period was on September 28 start date, lasted 5 days. So what has me so confused is, I have been using EVE for tracking my period for ever. I recently started using Glow bc I’m trying to get pregnant. (Sister apps). So glow is going by my period craziness from me getting off my Nuvaring in April I started my period a week early on September. I want to say I experienced a failed implantation. But this month per glow my period should have started on October 20th but Eve says it should start on October 28th. Regardless NO PERIOD! Per both apps I’m on CD 34 today. My uterus feels tender. Not a slight sign at all of my period. I did notice last weekend Saturday 10/25 I spotted very very light after a week of twinges from the 21st-25th. But nothing else. My breasts feel a little full not thing crazy. I’m having mild symptoms. This has been going on for the last 2 weeks. Mild cramps, fullness in breasts and missing period. All tests I’ve taken say negative. Also my S/O’s mom is a twin. I’m waiting on my doctor to call me back. My periods are usually regular. Idk.

How are things going for you this week?

I just had my HCG drawn and I’m BFN. I stopped taking progesterone yesterday. It feels like AF is coming, however, I’ve had no bleeding or signs of it coming. Being older and now acutely aware of my cycles — not having AF is making me super uneasy. How long did you have to wait before AF arrived?

Hubby and I had been passively ttc for years, but legit trying for the last year. We’ve finally hit on the meds that work for me to ovulate: CoQ10, femara 5mg, & metformin. My first cycle on 5mg femara resulted in a pregnancy but heart stopped at 8ish weeks (found out at 9 week US). Did a couple beta-hcgs over the month of August to verify it went back to base level and it did.

We tried again this last month, same meds and I’m pregnant again but it seems worse than last time. It’s possibly ectopic.

I tested Very Very VERY faint positive on 13/14dpo (Friday oct 18th). I got a beta that same day and it was an 8! Honestly surprised the urine test was that sensitive. Obviously not a great number. I figured for sure it was a chemical pregnancy. This seemed confirmed on Monday with my next beta coming back at 11. Then Wednesday it rose to a whole 14.

Around Wednesday I started brown spotting with a lot of cramps. Felt so similar to period cramps I was like “ok, cool. My period will start, things will reset and we can try again.” Though I want to be pregnant, all signs have been pointing to this not being a viable pregnancy. So it resolving itself and trying again seems ideal. Especially if it’s ectopic (too soon to tell).

Well that got thrown out the window on Friday (oct 25th) when my beta shot up to a 37! Almost tripling in 48hrs. 🤦🏻‍♀️ it seems evident from my perspective (though I’m not an expert), that the process of implantation took longer than it normally would. The embryo was obviously in there producing hcg, but of course hcg doesn’t start to significantly rise until implantation is complete.

I’m worried about a tubal pregnancy, but even if it’s not, I dread going through 2 months of being pregnant just to end in miscarriage again. Delayed implantation times have a low chance of success.

I hope some people can shed some light on this if they’ve had a similar experience.

I have another beta scheduled for Monday. We’ll see if it keeps rising like it did from Wednesday-Friday, then probably do an ultrasound a week or so afterwards to verify placement. As of oct 26th I’m 5+2 from LMP.

Update (Oct 28th): hcg came back 76 today. Slightly more than double since Friday (70-ish hours). Ultrasound most likely next week. Within normal doubling limits but still low for how far along I’m supposed to be. Hopes still not high.

Hi ladies!

So, I’ve had low progesterone and have been using a topical cream that has had mixed results. I went to see my gyn because my antidepressant’s dosage increase caused crazy bleeding and she did an ultrasound and bloodwork on day 14 of my cycle, 1 day before I ovulated.

My progesterone was .9ng/ml with a range of <1 in the follicular phase and my estrogen was around 300 pg (also in range). I sent the labs to my “hormone specialist” np and she said that my estrogen was way too high and progesterone too low and that this was part of perimenopause (I just turned 40).

Could someone please help me? I feel so confused and frustrated with the medical system. I thought progesterone only rises after you ovulate bc of the corpus luteum that’s formed, and mine was in range.

I’m a little anxious, so please be gentle. I feel like I'm not crazy and my labs were normal, but she freaked me out. ❤️

I've had 2 MCs and one chemical this past year and was referred to IVF. I need to wait until my period starts to do the full gambit of bloodwork/tests and now my LH strips show ovulation and...I don't know. I had the MC tissue tested last time and it came back with non-viable trisomy. Based on the timing of the 2 MCs it's likely the PGTA testing is going to be the most important part of IVF for us. Trying now and getting pregnant for free would be ideal but I know statistically I'm setting myself up for a third MC at 8 weeks. Has anyone had success without IVF post chromosomal abnormality? Logically I know I should hype myself up to do as many egg retrieval cycles as it takes to find a viable embryo but the romantic in me is ovulating and just wants to "hope for the best"...which would really delay tests and a future egg retrieval. Just feeling...I don't have a word for it. Someone hype me up for a good decision?!

Good evening! As the title says, I'm looking for recommendations for fertility clinics in New York City where I can receive a second opinion. Does anyone have any that are good for 40+?

I'm TTC solo using a friend's banked sperm, and there is no more being produced. The semen parameters are low enough that I went straight to IVF-ICSI. I've done two rounds and gotten one blast each time that tested whole chromosome aneuploid.

The problem seems to be just my age (41 in a few weeks) and there doesn't seem to be much more to do than to roll the dice, but this is my last round covered by insurance and most likely the last one ever, and I want to make sure I'm covering all my bases. My clinic does not use Omnitrope. I was told they follow all FDA regulations and no one there will prescribe it.

TIA for any recommendations on clinics or anything I can throw at this!

We did an IUI 4 days ago and they've had me on progesterone starting the day after. I've become so bloated and tired and having terrible hot flashes and night sweats. Is this normal? I feel like they've just given me every drug possible throughout this process when it's not really necessary as I ovulate very regularly (our issue is low sperm count). I finally asked for all of my test results so they should be coming in the mail soon, but until then I don't know what I need and what I don't need. I'm so uncomfortable.

Hi everyone :) this is my first month trying for a first and I am really struggling with the OPK tests! (As well as all the lingo).

The pre-mom app lets you take a photo of the test to tell you if you’re ovulating. Well, being the way I am, I decided to take lots of photos of the same test and guess what? The results ranged from 0.04 all the way to 2.26!!

Same test and the photos were taken within seconds of each other and the results did not steadily increase.

I took it at 11am, didn’t drink much before and it wasn’t the first urine of the day.

I am meant/usually ovulate around this time so I’m having sex anyway but I’m feeling frustrated.

Any advice please?x

This was going to be my last IVF cycle but I have one large follicle at 19mm and the next 2 biggest are 8 and 5, sadly. I had hoped to maybe just stim longer and sort of give up the big one in hopes of getting more of the smaller ones to grow, but the doctor doesn’t think that will happen. As such, I’m converting to IUI. I know the success rate of IUI over 40 is so super low, so I’m just feeling pretty bummed. If anyone has any success stories they’d like to share, I’d love to hear 😌 I’m also curious what others have been told about abstinence period for your partner for IVF or IUI. I’ve read that too short a time period and the sperm is immature and too long is also not good. Has anyone figured out the ideal time?

How are things going for you this week?

I'm trying to use fertility friend mainly for bbt but would be nice if there was some analysis, which seems only available if you pay.. I'm really looking for free haha any free apps you guys are using & recommend?

I’m feeling so discouraged. I found out I have scar tissue or lesions in my uterus. It can be fixed but I have to wait a cycle due to needing surgery. I already have very low amh and ovarian reserve so waiting feels like such a waste of time. I feel like I just keep getting more and more bad news.

Anyone do this and have an experience to share?

It sounds intense. This is the cycle I will be doing. I did IVF once before, there embryos, two just did nothing and one early miscarriage. This was about 6 years ago in my 30s and everything was considered very average for me.

I have zero faith that this will be any different but at my age I want to try what I can and I don’t want to look back with regret for not trying IVF at least for one cycle. I don’t think we have the cash for more than one, this is already our entire savings and we are maxed out otherwise.

So just wondering if anyone had luck, a hard time or otherwise.

Hoping it is because I am hyper aware of cycles now, but has anyone experienced this?

TTC for five months. Ovarian reserve is good, everything looks good, but my period has come 8 days early last cycle and then I think it is here now at 6 days early, as I have some light pink spotting and cramping.

I am newly 40 and TTC. Anyone else experience this?

Thanks for any insights!

Hi! I just turned 42 and my husband and I want to start trying for the but I have so many questions...

Since he already sees an Endocrinologist for low testosterone & takes Clomid...should we just book an appointment with a Reproductive Endocrinologist to make sure everything is good to go or is that overkill and should he just see his regular Endo first?

We both have very low libido thanks to hormonal issues (him) and medication side effects (both). So is immediately starting with insemination or IUI crazy? I've seen ads for the Frida Fertility At-Home Insemination Set but not sure if we should just start there or what.

Lastly my husband is the most depressed I've ever seen him because we never tried for kids earlier in life and he thinks his life will be meaningless without them. I know that's not my fault but it feels like it is because I wasn't pushing to try earlier in our marriage. I know therapy is the ultimate answer for him but now his attitude/depression is also affecting me. Did any of you also deal with this and how did you navigate it? Any help and advice would be appreciated! Thanks!

Managed to have sex twice during my fertile days, which is better than last month. Here's to two weeks of crazy, peeing on a stick/symptom spotting/what if-ing madness.

I am using Mira while TTC and noticed by PdG drop to 5 about 2 days before my period was due, i was thinking this cycle must be a BFN. But the next day I tested again and PdG was >30! And >30 again next day which was the day my period was due. I took a First Response that day and got a faint BFP!!!!

Just a vent. This sucks. I’ve never been in this bad of shape with my back but I’m howling in pain and I’m just MAD. Not a snowball’s chance in hell I’m ready for or even capable of sex feeling like this, and it makes me angry because every month I lose is precious time. Dammit! Being older sucks sometimes!

Been trying with my spouse for years and it hasn't happened (MFI). Instead of coming to terms with a DINK life, I find myself wondering what is even the point of being married if we aren't going to have kids? I could be living my best single life - sex, drugs and rock n roll and all that. I know I'm on hormones and have been riding an emotional rollercoaster but I feel like a horrible person for even having these fleeting thoughts. Am I a horrible person?

So I’m 7 dpo and all day I have been feeling like something has been moving around in my uterus. It’s so freaking weird. I don’t know if this is gas but it’s freaking me out. I have 5 boys so I know the feeling. Anyone ever experienced this?? I don’t think it’s implantation tingling or twitching like the internet is saying. 🤷‍♀️ maybe someone experienced this too….