Just stumbled in here looking for a male equivalent sub for those going through infertility. Hope everyone here has had more fortune in the last year it seems since anyone has posted anything here.

Hi everyone.

We've been trying for a while now, and - after 2 months of her taking some meds - the OBGYN suggested i get tested. The results were not great - 50% immotile and 35% forward progressive.

The OBGYN suggested i get it looked at. I wanted to ask if you can share any ideas, tips or advice on what i should do?

Thank you!

Sorry for the long post - kinda a couple shit days and my therapist had to reschedule so I’m venting and seeking support.

Background: wife and I are 33. She has chronic health issue for which the medicine took forever to taper off. Now we’ve been trying for 10 months. She’s had to take clomid which so far has been unsuccessful- basically, her cycle is super irregular and she doesn’t always ovulate. The ob yesterday upped the clomid dose but he didn’t think it would work. He referred us to a fertility center which to me seems like the logical next step. I mean yes I am frustrated (made worse by the fact that my brother and sister in law are due any day now) but this is life and we are taking the appropriate steps. And life isn’t fair which sucks but yeah.

My wife on the other hand is seemingly pretty down about the whole thing and is now on “we’ll never have a baby” thread and then every time she starts to think about it or bring it up, she either cries or gets depressed. Am I upset that it’s this way? Yeah, I am but why can’t she see that we’re following the right steps and take a step back. Like I remind her that we’re doing the right thing but it doesn’t last. I get that she’s angry at her body, but what am I supposed to really do about it? And how do I not be frustrated that this is happening?

And how do we hang out with friends/siblings when they all have kids and seeing them with kids makes my wife more depressed? Like I am not writing off any friends or family, but how do I help? You can’t tell people not to talk about their kids.

My wife and I have been trying for a few years now with no luck. Between all the medicine she’s been prescribed and the timing, it’s been rough but manageable. It hit her hard after some close friends of ours got pregnant while we were trying but we got past that. We just found out recently that another set of close friends are also pregnant. Both sets weren’t even actively trying but they weren’t preventing either. It’s happening all around us and there’s nothing I can do. The last time bothered me but this time has even hit me rough. I feel helpless. Sorry for the vent but idk where else dump frustration too. I don’t want to put anymore on her.

Just wanted to say hi and check up on everyone. I hope things have been well and everyone got positives!

For us we are still in the waiting game. The wife and I did our 1 year of trying tests and no issues were found. Which is painful to say the least.

But yeah hope all is well!

Hi guys, my wife and I have been together for 10 years and have now decided to start trying. All the time we've been together we've used condoms and the pill. I've found now with unprotected sex it feels so much better but had made me ultra sensitive and I'm not able to last like I used to! Any tips or am I just going to get used to it the more sex we have?

Hi all My wife and I are tfab for over a year with no success. We found out she had endometriosis and she went to surgery past October. We are now back in the game since she has recovered from the procedure. There is excitement but also some fear that it may not happen again. Nevertheless, we are trying to stay hopeful. In writing here more to have a place to share and learn with folks that might be going through the same stuff we are. Thanks!

You've been there. Trying for a baby ain't easy and when the uterus isn't even yours, it's hard.

Hopefully this subreddit will give all TFAB Partners a place to discuss the doubts, questions, experiences from, erm, this side of the cervix.