/r/ttcafterloss
This sub is for people who are trying to conceive, waiting to try, or just dealing with life after any type of pregnancy or baby loss. This includes chemical, molar, and ectopic pregnancies, blighted ovum, miscarriage, stillbirth, termination, or infant death. If you are currently pregnant after a loss, and are looking for support, please visit r/PregnancyAfterLoss.
Trying to Conceive After a Loss
This sub is for people who are trying to conceive, waiting to try, or just dealing with life after any type of pregnancy or baby loss. This includes chemical, molar, and ectopic pregnancies, blighted ovum, miscarriage, stillbirth, termination, or infant death.
Who We Are - Member Bios
Remembrance Wall
Due Date List
Wiki/Frequently Asked Questions
Common Acronyms List
TTC After Loss Chatroom
*(freenode IRC channel: #ttcafterloss
New members:
Please review the rules before posting.
While not mandatory, introductions are encouraged in order for us to get to know you and your story.
We also encourage you to read the FAQs and search our sub before asking a question. Many of our members have weighed in on heavy topics before and searching those threads can be helpful.
What are the daily/weekly threads?
These are for discussion related to TTC, your loss, how you're doing today, what's new in your life.. anything that you don't think warrants its own post. Off-topic discussion is allowed!
The "TTC" thread is for members who are currently TTC or waiting to try. Posts about positive pregnancy tests and pregnancy are not allowed in this thread.
The "Weekly Results and Limbo Thread" thread is for members to announce their results of TTC for the week (including negative and positive results). Users in early pregnancy or in pregnancy limbo may post about those things here, too.
The Victories and Lifehacks thread is a weekly thread on Mondays to share our successes from the previous week and to cheer each other on.
The Repeat Pregnancy Loss thread is a weekly thread on Tuesdays for members dealing with RPL to gather for support, and to share discussion of diagnosis and treatment.
The Waiting To Try thread is a weekly thread on Wednesdays for members who are specifically WTT (or waiting to decide if they are ever trying again).
The Grief and Memorial thread is a weekly support thread on Thursdays for everyone who has ever had a pregnancy or infant loss, regardless of whether they are ever going to TTC again.
The Ask an Alumni thread is a weekly thread on Fridays for WTT and TTC members to ask Alumni members questions about pregnancy after loss and beyond.
The Alumni Check In thread is a weekly thread on Fridays for our Alumni (either pregnant or those with rainbow babies) to give an update without TTCALers having to venture elsewhere. You may also read up on them in r/PregnancyAfterLoss or r/Rainbow_Babies.
Rules:
BE NICE. Trolling, name-calling, disrespect, and judgement will not be tolerated and you will be banned. If you see something inappropriate, PLEASE click "report"! Your report is anonymous and alerts the mods to look into it.
Trigger warnings are optional but if your post contains specific details of your loss or other content that may be especially upsetting, we recommend that you put the type of loss or other content in your title. An example would be [Stillbirth] typed at the end of your title, or [Trigger Warning - Sister's Baby Shower].
NO direct links to images or videos, especially BFPs (positive pregnancy tests) - they must be contained within a text post/comment. Our settings also consider links to Vlogs/etc as Spam. Please interact with the community more and share these links only within other posts, as part of conversation.
Please keep discussion of current pregnancies in the Weekly Results and Limbo Thread. This sub's main purpose is for discussion of TTC and pregnancy loss so self posts about subsequent ("rainbow") pregnancies can be upsetting to members who are still trying. If you are currently pregnant but worried, or going through a questionable loss, the Results thread is still the place for you.
User Flair rules: Use this space to share context regarding your TTC journey - how long you've been trying, if you're trying for #1/#2/etc, and what losses/when you experienced them. Please do not include mention of a current pregnancy. You may mention your living children, but please do so in a sensitive manner (examples: "2LCs" or "LC 3/2015").
Use of the phrases "baby dust" and "sticky" (i.e. "sticky baby dust") is strongly discouraged on this sub.
Success stories are allowed ONLY when requested by non-pregnant members. But r/Pregnancyafterloss is a much better place to solicit success stories. Generally, only share success stories if the OP specifically asks for them, or in the Ask an Alumni or RPL threads when relevant. Please do not solicit success stories in the daily discussion threads or in someone else's thread. Spoiler tags and specific trigger flair are always appreciated.
Standalone posts must be Mod-approved
A note about termination: please avoid using the "A" word on this sub when referring to terminating a pregnancy. Unfortunately there are trolls on Reddit who search for that term and harass people talking about it. You may use abort!on, termination, etc.
Resources:
TFAB Wiki - info on tracking your cycle, acronyms, etc.
Fertility Friend - charting app and FAQs
BabyLoss Grief/Support Resources List - additional places for help
Still Standing Magazine - articles and support on child loss and infertility
Pregnancy After Loss Support - articles and support for pregnancy after loss
Related subs:
/r/wrongfuldeath (NOTE: Private sub; admission contingent on verification of your circumstances)
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Tomorrow is our first FET after a TFMR loss @ 15 weeks, and recent death of my mother
08:09 UTC
Daily Discussion Thread - December 01, 2024
How are you doing today? What's new?
We want to foster a sense of community, which is why we have a centralized place for most daily conversation. This allows users to post and get replies, but also encourages them to reply to others in the same thread. We want you to receive help and be there for others at the same time, if possible. Most questions should go here, along with regular updates. Thanks for helping us create a great community!
Off-topic discussion is allowed :)
Note: Please refrain from discussing positive tests (and beyond) in this thread - those topics are better suited for the Weekly Results thread or the new sub for Alumni. Thank you!
08:00 UTC
Daily Discussion Thread - November 30, 2024
How are you doing today? What's new?
We want to foster a sense of community, which is why we have a centralized place for most daily conversation. This allows users to post and get replies, but also encourages them to reply to others in the same thread. We want you to receive help and be there for others at the same time, if possible. Most questions should go here, along with regular updates. Thanks for helping us create a great community!
Off-topic discussion is allowed :)
Note: Please refrain from discussing positive tests (and beyond) in this thread - those topics are better suited for the Weekly Results thread or the new sub for Alumni. Thank you!
08:00 UTC
Preparing for miscarriage
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Looking Trurthworthy OBGYN near Prosper TX
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/ttcafterloss Ask an Alumni - November 29, 2024
This weekly Friday thread is for members to ask questions of Alumni (members who are currently pregnant after loss or who have had a pregnancy after loss that resulted in a living child), without having to venture into the PregnanyAfterLoss sub.
Mention of current pregnancies is allowed, but please keep your references simple and clinical. "I had success after trying X." "This resulted in a live birth." "My doctor recommended I do Y during my pregnancy."
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/ttcafterloss Weekly Alumni Check-in! - November 29, 2024
This thread is for members who are currently pregnant, or who have had their babies. Even though we have r/PregnancyAfterLoss and r/Rainbow_Babies now, r/ttcafterloss users still want to know how you're doing! What's new this week?
Off-topic discussion is allowed :)
08:00 UTC
Daily Discussion Thread - November 29, 2024
How are you doing today? What's new?
We want to foster a sense of community, which is why we have a centralized place for most daily conversation. This allows users to post and get replies, but also encourages them to reply to others in the same thread. We want you to receive help and be there for others at the same time, if possible. Most questions should go here, along with regular updates. Thanks for helping us create a great community!
Off-topic discussion is allowed :)
Note: Please refrain from discussing positive tests (and beyond) in this thread - those topics are better suited for the Weekly Results thread or the new sub for Alumni. Thank you!
08:00 UTC
/ttcafterloss Grief and Memorial - November 28, 2024
This weekly Thursday thread is for all members to talk about their grief. Looking for support? Just need to share some memories? This is the place for you!
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Daily Discussion Thread - November 28, 2024
How are you doing today? What's new?
We want to foster a sense of community, which is why we have a centralized place for most daily conversation. This allows users to post and get replies, but also encourages them to reply to others in the same thread. We want you to receive help and be there for others at the same time, if possible. Most questions should go here, along with regular updates. Thanks for helping us create a great community!
Off-topic discussion is allowed :)
Note: Please refrain from discussing positive tests (and beyond) in this thread - those topics are better suited for the Weekly Results thread or the new sub for Alumni. Thank you!
08:00 UTC
/ttcafterloss WTT Wednesday Thread - November 27, 2024
This weekly Wednesday thread is for members who are specifically WTT (or waiting to decide if they are ever trying again). How are you doing today? What's new?
Off-topic discussion is allowed. :)
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Daily Discussion Thread - November 27, 2024
How are you doing today? What's new?
We want to foster a sense of community, which is why we have a centralized place for most daily conversation. This allows users to post and get replies, but also encourages them to reply to others in the same thread. We want you to receive help and be there for others at the same time, if possible. Most questions should go here, along with regular updates. Thanks for helping us create a great community!
Off-topic discussion is allowed :)
Note: Please refrain from discussing positive tests (and beyond) in this thread - those topics are better suited for the Weekly Results thread or the new sub for Alumni. Thank you!
08:00 UTC
/ttcafterloss Repeat Pregnancy Loss - November 26, 2024
This weekly Tuesday thread is for members who have had more than one loss, of any type. How are you feeling? Are you pursuing any testing? Discuss general issues related to repeat loss.
Relevant mention of current pregnancies is allowed, but please keep your references simple and clinical. "I had success after trying X." "This resulted in a live birth."
08:00 UTC
Daily Discussion Thread - November 26, 2024
How are you doing today? What's new?
We want to foster a sense of community, which is why we have a centralized place for most daily conversation. This allows users to post and get replies, but also encourages them to reply to others in the same thread. We want you to receive help and be there for others at the same time, if possible. Most questions should go here, along with regular updates. Thanks for helping us create a great community!
Off-topic discussion is allowed :)
Note: Please refrain from discussing positive tests (and beyond) in this thread - those topics are better suited for the Weekly Results thread or the new sub for Alumni. Thank you!
08:00 UTC
Welcome! Weekly Introduction Thread
Welcome to r/ttcafterloss. We're so sorry you have a need for this community, but glad you found us. We hope you find this sub helpful in your journey.
Please familiarize yourself with our subreddit [Rules](https://www.reddit.com/r/ttcafterloss/about/) and our [FAQs](https://www.reddit.com/r/ttcafterloss/wiki/index) to learn more about how to participate here. We also encourage you to add a user flair as it helps members remember who you are and your history.
We want to foster a sense of community, which is why we have a centralized place (the Daily Threads) for most of our conversations. This allows users to post and get replies, but also encourages them to reply to others in the same thread. We want you to receive help and be there for others at the same time, if possible. Most questions should go there, along with regular updates. Thanks for helping us create a great community!
Examples of questions that belong in the Daily Threads are questions about changes in your cycle after your loss, and questions about figuring out whether you have ovulated or when you might ovulate.
08:00 UTC
/ttcafterloss Self Care Weekly Thread - November 25, 2024
This thread is for members to share what they've been doing to care for themselves. How are you getting through your grief? Or just regular life self care. Are you generally trying to be healthier? Eat better? Be more active? Have more alone time? Share here!
08:00 UTC
Daily Discussion Thread - November 25, 2024
How are you doing today? What's new?
We want to foster a sense of community, which is why we have a centralized place for most daily conversation. This allows users to post and get replies, but also encourages them to reply to others in the same thread. We want you to receive help and be there for others at the same time, if possible. Most questions should go here, along with regular updates. Thanks for helping us create a great community!
Off-topic discussion is allowed :)
Note: Please refrain from discussing positive tests (and beyond) in this thread - those topics are better suited for the Weekly Results thread or the new sub for Alumni. Thank you!
08:00 UTC
/ttcafterloss Weekly Results and Limbo Thread
This thread is for users to announce their results (positive or negative) of TTC this week. It is also an area for those in early pregnancy or pregnancy limbo to post (prior to/instead of moving to r/PregnancyAfterLoss). Please try to use spoiler tags (spoiler tags: > ! text goes here ! < without the spaces) when discussing pregnancy beyond positive test results.
This thread will be posted every Monday and remain stickied for the week, so you can post any day of the week.
Please share positive pregnancy tests (BFPs) ONLY in this thread. Do not make a separate self-post about a BFP/subsequent pregnancy or post about it in the TTC daily thread.
The purpose of this weekly post is so users can easily get an update on others' results. Also, as our Alumni move on to r/PregnancyAfterLoss, you can know who may be moving and keep track of them if you wish.
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Daily Discussion Thread - November 24, 2024
How are you doing today? What's new?
We want to foster a sense of community, which is why we have a centralized place for most daily conversation. This allows users to post and get replies, but also encourages them to reply to others in the same thread. We want you to receive help and be there for others at the same time, if possible. Most questions should go here, along with regular updates. Thanks for helping us create a great community!
Off-topic discussion is allowed :)
Note: Please refrain from discussing positive tests (and beyond) in this thread - those topics are better suited for the Weekly Results thread or the new sub for Alumni. Thank you!
08:00 UTC
Ovulation after a D&C?
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Daily Discussion Thread - November 23, 2024
How are you doing today? What's new?
We want to foster a sense of community, which is why we have a centralized place for most daily conversation. This allows users to post and get replies, but also encourages them to reply to others in the same thread. We want you to receive help and be there for others at the same time, if possible. Most questions should go here, along with regular updates. Thanks for helping us create a great community!
Off-topic discussion is allowed :)
Note: Please refrain from discussing positive tests (and beyond) in this thread - those topics are better suited for the Weekly Results thread or the new sub for Alumni. Thank you!
08:00 UTC
/ttcafterloss Ask an Alumni - November 22, 2024
This weekly Friday thread is for members to ask questions of Alumni (members who are currently pregnant after loss or who have had a pregnancy after loss that resulted in a living child), without having to venture into the PregnanyAfterLoss sub.
Mention of current pregnancies is allowed, but please keep your references simple and clinical. "I had success after trying X." "This resulted in a live birth." "My doctor recommended I do Y during my pregnancy."
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/ttcafterloss Weekly Alumni Check-in! - November 22, 2024
This thread is for members who are currently pregnant, or who have had their babies. Even though we have r/PregnancyAfterLoss and r/Rainbow_Babies now, r/ttcafterloss users still want to know how you're doing! What's new this week?
Off-topic discussion is allowed :)
08:00 UTC
Daily Discussion Thread - November 22, 2024
How are you doing today? What's new?
We want to foster a sense of community, which is why we have a centralized place for most daily conversation. This allows users to post and get replies, but also encourages them to reply to others in the same thread. We want you to receive help and be there for others at the same time, if possible. Most questions should go here, along with regular updates. Thanks for helping us create a great community!
Off-topic discussion is allowed :)
Note: Please refrain from discussing positive tests (and beyond) in this thread - those topics are better suited for the Weekly Results thread or the new sub for Alumni. Thank you!
08:00 UTC
/ttcafterloss Grief and Memorial - November 21, 2024
This weekly Thursday thread is for all members to talk about their grief. Looking for support? Just need to share some memories? This is the place for you!
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Daily Discussion Thread - November 21, 2024
How are you doing today? What's new?
We want to foster a sense of community, which is why we have a centralized place for most daily conversation. This allows users to post and get replies, but also encourages them to reply to others in the same thread. We want you to receive help and be there for others at the same time, if possible. Most questions should go here, along with regular updates. Thanks for helping us create a great community!
Off-topic discussion is allowed :)
Note: Please refrain from discussing positive tests (and beyond) in this thread - those topics are better suited for the Weekly Results thread or the new sub for Alumni. Thank you!
08:00 UTC
/ttcafterloss WTT Wednesday Thread - November 20, 2024
This weekly Wednesday thread is for members who are specifically WTT (or waiting to decide if they are ever trying again). How are you doing today? What's new?
Off-topic discussion is allowed. :)
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Daily Discussion Thread - November 20, 2024
How are you doing today? What's new?
We want to foster a sense of community, which is why we have a centralized place for most daily conversation. This allows users to post and get replies, but also encourages them to reply to others in the same thread. We want you to receive help and be there for others at the same time, if possible. Most questions should go here, along with regular updates. Thanks for helping us create a great community!
Off-topic discussion is allowed :)
Note: Please refrain from discussing positive tests (and beyond) in this thread - those topics are better suited for the Weekly Results thread or the new sub for Alumni. Thank you!
08:00 UTC
/ttcafterloss Repeat Pregnancy Loss - November 19, 2024
This weekly Tuesday thread is for members who have had more than one loss, of any type. How are you feeling? Are you pursuing any testing? Discuss general issues related to repeat loss.
Relevant mention of current pregnancies is allowed, but please keep your references simple and clinical. "I had success after trying X." "This resulted in a live birth."
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Daily Discussion Thread - November 19, 2024
How are you doing today? What's new?
We want to foster a sense of community, which is why we have a centralized place for most daily conversation. This allows users to post and get replies, but also encourages them to reply to others in the same thread. We want you to receive help and be there for others at the same time, if possible. Most questions should go here, along with regular updates. Thanks for helping us create a great community!
Off-topic discussion is allowed :)
Note: Please refrain from discussing positive tests (and beyond) in this thread - those topics are better suited for the Weekly Results thread or the new sub for Alumni. Thank you!
08:00 UTC